5 Qualities to Look for in a Husband with Ken and Tabatha Claytor

In this episode, we define the five non-negotiable traits to keep an eye out for in a husband, a conversation not just for the ladies but for the gentlemen too, to foster these virtues within themselves. From spiritual maturity to unwavering integrity, join us as we weave personal experiences with solid advice, helping you build a relationship that's not just for the 'gram, but for a lifetime.
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[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What works for Adam may not necessarily work for Peter. Nonetheless, I've learned that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce due to challenges in our marriage, but we managed to reconcile. It was a tough time, but we persevered.

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

The significance of your words is not lost on me, and I genuinely hope my feelings resonate with yours. Despite our current physical distance, I cannot conceive of my life without her; my love for her is deep-rooted. I yearn for her return, and I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to make it happen. We've explored different paths, including therapy, in our journey toward reconciliation

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

Letting someone you deeply care for go is always difficult, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual mentor who preserved the unity of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

Thank you for this direction. I'll swiftly seek her out online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will yield results for me as well; her absence weighs heavily on my heart.

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

You definitely should

[@Nyansapa]

Five qualities you need to look for: 1. Submitted to Holiness - A man led by the Holy spirit, a real relationship with God over several years (Spiritual Maturity) 2. Character and Personality (integrity, job, relationship with family, how do they talk or treat friends and others, are they part of a church, what do they believe, etc.) 3. Genuinely be your bestie and friend. (Can y’all carry an intelligent conversation, do you share simple pleasures of life, is there physical attraction, do you actually like each other?) 4. Someone who knows how to handle pain, problems, loss, persecution. (Does these things lead them to God or to the world?). 5. Submission to Godly Authority and Authority

[@toungetwister2023]

Thanks for this summary!! Appreciate it

[@virginiechristinemangaonan3012]

Thanks alot

[@sylviaserrano3315]

❤❤ thank you!!🎉🎉

[@susandodson1234]

One and five the same?

[@lifewithsuzzyq2039]

Thank you so much for writing this down.🙏

[@brishelton7107]

Ken, I love that you touched on singleness not being a disease. And that you can fulfill the calling of your life being single. I agree marriage has been put on a pedestal. We need to hear this message more often.

[@littlebee41]

Right

[@KillaTommyT]

Getting married tomorrow. I’m having a full circle moment how far I’ve come… this video made me realize I’ve done the work. I’m so thankful.

[@destinylyn.]

As a single woman in her early 30s this was great

[@supermodeljaz6829]

Same❤

[@sriveral2973]

I wish I had premarital counseling like this prior to making the marriage commitment I’m in. This was great!

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

We are glad it can be a blessing. Stay tuned every Thursday!

[@andrewims1321]

A man will definitely let a woman know that he’s into her, never settle. Us as men need to know this as well. Never settle for the bare minimum

[@sheeba3812]

I’m glad the Holy Spirit keeps sending me here to experience words of wisdom

[@neicyh1181]

Omg Pastor Ken, number 3 was big for me, how a man handles pain, and problems are huge. So many men check out mentally, and it is not a good look. Thank you so much. I'm 58 yrs old, and I have never been married, but the desire is still there. I refuse to give up because love is beautiful, and I still believe God will have me in the right place at the right time. God bless you both.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

We are glad this episode was a blessing to you! We appreciate your support. Keep tuning in every Thursday!

[@stephaniegaines2693]

I pick the 1st husband. God is going to Next Husband

[@tamaralandreneau8005]

IT ALL STARTS AT BIRTH, THE WAY THEY'RE NURTURED OR THE WAY THEY'RE NEGLECTED.

[@mariamjibrin7260]

1. Do i like his personality. Doni enjoy being with him. Are you friends 2. Is he committed to Holiness. Does he have Godly convictions and is he faithful to them. does he feel strongly towards them 3. How does he handle pain and problems. does it send you back to alcohol or vices or God 4. How does he submit to Godly authority. All men need other men. How does he respond to the authority in your life. 5. Does he have a real love for God. A worship life and a prayer life without you. He loves God more than he love you.

[@kimichele1908]

Please do an episode on whether or not marriage is meant for you. Are there Christians not meant to be in a marriage?

[@dyanimoriah]

+1 on this! I will say not everyone is called to be married. Ken gave a perfect example of single people: Paul, and Jesus himself. Marriage is a beautiful thing and is a blessing. I’d suggest taking a look at 1 Corinthians 7.

[@kimichele1908]

@dyanimoriah I'd love to hear this as a message from them. I'm familiar with several scriptures. So hearing a word from them about understanding if you are purposed for marriage would bring so much more understanding. There's something to hearing this God-led, God-centered married couple of 20+ years with children, speak on marriage. Ken & Tabatha don't seem to hold back. They just let the Lord use them. Amen!! I didn't realize how musguided some of my understanding was until I started listening to their podcast. I was leaning away a bit, but I continued listening because the spirit led me to & thank you, God, I listened!!! I just yearn for more wisdom & understanding.

[@victoriasmith2610]

This really hit on a different level. In my 20s, single and dating - pursuing someone - this just really made me feel like I’m not alone in finding the right godly man and how hard that can be. Thank you both and God bless 🙏🏾

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thank you for your support! Don't forget to share this with family and friends :)

[@carolwalker1707]

Thank you both ❤ single , saved, satisfied & sexy ! Loving my singleness and content in the Lord. I’m letting his will be done . Been married 2 times early 20s and early thirties. Gods will, will have to be done.

[@Zelt842]

It’s been 9 years of singleness for me (I a a woman). Part of the signlenes season was because I didn’t trust anymore I would find a good guy (honest on what he wants, loyal, wants to be engaged etc). Another part of it was depression season because of Covid. And I am a single mother to I dedicated my time to my son. He is 15 now. Important to say that I went to God only 5 months ago so during all this time I was not guided by God. So during those 9 years, I fell info flesh sin 4 times. Now that I chose God, I commited to God that this will not happen again with his support and that it’s even I will stay single or he will bless me with the husband he’s made for me. I totally agree that being single is not a disease but staying single a huge amount of years is very difficult. Even if we put God first, he also said that it is not good for the man to be alone. And God also made us with this desire to be hugged, to be supported, to have a life partner, to share physical touch and more. Being alone is sometimes very hard, not a shame but just hard if it lasts to much. (Sorry for my English because I am French)

[@torip9444]

Wow this hit on many levels esp when Ken asked how is he with his mom, dad, sister, and if he says he doesn't follow an organized religion. Well I am dealing with exactly that. His is severely strained (beefed out) with his family and has literally told me he doesn't follow an organized religion. We are not married but have over 14 yrs of history. I am currently in the process of separating from him after a talk I had with him that God told me I was not supposed to be doing this with him. It took him a while to just slightly understand and now he is. We're cordial but that's it. I need/deserve a Kingdom man of God.

[@Chosen302]

Thank you. I’m 40 and I finally feel like I have direction. Thank you so much.

[@Loveprevails1111]

I like how the wife kept it simple and made it plain.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

😁

[@HannaHTHEHurricane]

This show is very UNDERRATED!!!!…. That’s all I have to say! 🙌🏾

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thank you! Share it with family and friends. We appreciate your support :)

[@donnabrown8187]

I love you guys. I wish this was available 28 years ago. Somebody would had a podcast like you two. This is so eye opening and holy Ghost information. I'm divorce now because I made him a idol. But Jesus who is rich in love. Forgiving me for my stupid and flesh decision. I'm blessed and not single like you both said. I got Jesus. Glory to God. I'm still believing God for the Real King for me. No more Fake king Jesus. You guys rock. Jesus

[@lanaib_]

Whew this is so good dude. Especially how someone processes pain and stuff that life throws at them fr. Do you go back to your old ways or do you go to God? WHEW!!!

[@michelleharper7020]

Thank you so much for this wisdom. Yes, I've experienced being isolated from my church folk and the individual criticizing everything about my church at that time. The marriage didn't work. Well that was about a decade ago. Now I know better.

[@IamReggieM]

This is the 3rd episode Ive listened to today (while taking notes). You both are a blessing to the kingdom. Praying that you reach the masses. ❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thank you Reggie!! Glory to God.

[@adafihkeith868]

Tabatha is too cute🎉🎉

[@salimaellis3980]

I didn’t know what to look for

[@marycannon6046]

I did . . . I got TRULY blessed by this HOLY SPIRIT Led podcast!!!

[@yackeishaburnett6333]

Love the podcast, may God continue to bless you guys ❤🎉

[@iamtonyacarter]

Timestamp 30:48 - 32:00 is an ENTIRE WORD! This mentality that "being single is less than" is causing many to make relational decisions that result in regret later. As a person who helps people navigate divorce, you see many similarities on why it gets to that point and one of those are ignoring those red flags. I wish there was more talk about embracing singleness and less talk about it only being tolerable. This was great!

[@brownsuga985]

Love This

[@laritatornes734]

This is so good

[@frondalasherlone1962]

Woooow, Thank you so much!

[@dominickatravels]

Thanks for giving this wisdom!

[@LadybuggRules]

This episode has blessed me.

[@Abbas_Daughters]

You both are such blessings ❤❤Thank you!

[@happinessmhlongo152]

I needed this so much❤

[@christie7613]

THIS was amazing!

[@tmj2016]

This is excellent information!!!!

[@rhondapope3811]

Both of your voices are so soothing 😊

[@tislouise]

So many facts and wisdom here 🙌🏾

[@cortneejones1189]

Thank you for this podcast❤

[@rudobushiri5982]

Thank you ❤

[@dakotaharness5536]

Definitely a blessing love them ❤

[@imuniquedevoin]

This was so good and insightful!

[@rockymountainprincess9078]

Im single. This was a great message. I needed to hear. Thank you so much and God bless 🙏 ❤!

[@Elizacolvin-dl7xb]

Aghhhhhh so so blessed!! Thank you for this word of wisdom 🩵

[@MichelleBaptiste-tf9dz]

This is amazing! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

[@parrissneed6562]

Quality! Thank you

[@lindajohnson2816]

This is one of your best podcast powerful and informative

[@monique_weaktopeak]

I will use your relationship as an example when I pray for a partner 🥹🙌

[@tonyamartin2799]

This blessed me and resonated with me! Thank you Pastor Ken and Tabitha!

[@rachaeleena]

I got blessed ❤

[@NiqsOboOgie]

Good stuff Pastors ❤👏🏾

[@merleterry7775]

Wow! I like this podcast.

[@tnicemhf2504]

Alot of wisdom and jewels provided.

[@Namsdelias]

i luv how u are preparing me

[@HannahHeavens-pe5xt]

Thank you for sharing this

[@marthasanyu729]

I loved every single bit of wisdom that was shared here. Bless you Ken and Tabitha!!!

[@MzKeiKei68]

This was very good. A lot of good takeaways from this 🙏🏾 Thank You!

[@andreahousen207]

Amazed as always and well timed. God continue to bless you both on this purposeful journey. Thank you 🙏🏿

[@AmazingNyree]

Thank you for this message It was much needed for me Thank you

[@Heartnladder]

Thank you for your support, So l appreciate mutual safety and mutual respect within our circle, my focus is sustaining the ability to nurture and sustain a grown man, health, mindfulness and ethical sanety...

[@jemmy924]

So good Ken & Tabatha 💯 🔥 I listened attentively and gained so many insights and tips. I was like 'Yaassss" This is gold, bless God! I thank God for His heart towards His people equipping us with the knowledge and information that we need as single people. We need to learn from those who have gone before us, good and bad, so that we could be better. I pray that that high divorce rate would drastically decrease and that Christ would be glorified in our marriages and relationships in Jesus' name. Lord, do it for us and may you receive the honor and glory. In Jesús' name.Amen

[@napturalee_8815]

We were in a club but God was there😂 I love thissss

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

😂

[@tammycovington3288]

Good Content Brother and Sister 👏👏👏💯🫡❤️🫶

[@thyramccray724]

I’m loving your content so much you Wonderful Man and Woman of God ❤🙏

[@MimiEvolve]

Blessings from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@angelalovedefined]

Greetings from Peoples Church, Edmond OK! This was rich in wise guidance and very needed and appreciated. Thank you Claytor Team!

[@samanthaperez1050]

First video I've watched from you guys, thank you for the information! Stay blessed 🙏🧡

[@thandekayako6060]

Out here crying my eyes out. Thank you Pastors❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

❤

[@randolphellis2372]

I love ya!!!

[@nyawirak6827]

Thank you... ive been asking myself this question.. and y'all just answered me... Truly God hears and answers... Thank You Lord🙌🏽❤️

[@toungetwister2023]

Thank you so much im learning alot!! Im single and praying for a godly husband Im following all your videos and it blesses me❤

[@tbajomo]

I love you both❤❤❤❤. I just found your channel and watching this was refreshing and encouraging. God bless you both🙏🙏🙏.

[@mancinniodiakuhanga1033]

Thank you so much. Your videos are so enlightening. I am praying for a godly man🙏🏽 Watching all the way from Namibia 🇳🇦

[@khensanimnisi1276]

Love you guys,such an inspiration there’s hope for me indeed❤.

[@aliciabuford7708]

Great answer Tab!!😂

[@Healinginpeacepodcast]

Wow this is so amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you guys for this I am single but I know that God is working and just needed to be encouraged!

[@joanajayi-majebi638]

Ken and Tabitha.....please keep this good teaching coming 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. God bless you both ❤

[@brendabenavidez1910]

(integrity, job, relationship with family, how do they talk or treat friends and others, are they part of a church, what do they believe, etc.) 3. Genuinely be your bestie and friend. (Can y’all carry an intelligent conversation, do you share simple pleasures of life, is there physical attraction, do you actually like each other?) 4. Someone who knows how to handle pain, problems, loss, persecution. (Does these things lead them to God or to the world?). 5. Submission to Godly Authority and Authority

[@Megan_Alexis]

I am loving this POD ! Sending to my husband now . Thank you Pastors Ken and Tabitha 🥰🥰🥰

[@jacqualenelemens8260]

I'm all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦 and i love this advice. I'm a huge fan too 🙌🔥.

[@salimaellis3980]

That’s good going back to liking each other hmmmm

[@JC-nb2fx]

Is there an episode speaking to the ones who did get married and want to get out?

[@Coolct]

Side note.. Loving Tabatha’s hair growth …💕💕

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thank you! ❤

[@NakishaRHicks]

Thank you, Pastor Ken and Pastor Tabatha. I appreciate what you both shared. I would like to add one and not take away from what you've shared. I have heard this before from the elderly women in my life. To look for how a man treats and respects his mother.

[@SheWalksByFaith]

Yesss 🙌🏽

[@salimaellis3980]

This was good and I’m married

[@estherndungu590]

As single woman at 29, am trusting God that i get a man who is His friend 😊

[@AngieeShipps]

Love this! I truly enjoyed this video! So much wisdom! I appreciate what you said about the man having character and integrity! That's number one for me! Far as attraction, the enemy can use it as a distraction to blind you from viewing what is most important. I think is attraction is important but you have to submit to the Lord.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Submission to the Lord is very important 👏🏽

[@RobetteRodgers-dq2vl]

God BLESS U BOTH!!! POWER KINGDOM COUPLE❤. Thank u for the reinforcements and reminders what to look out for and keep it pushing when it's NOT. I dont have to investigate when thw fruit is not on the tree. I dont need to waste time on pseudo so called men of God. Thank u for the list. What a Blessing 🎉🎉🎉

[@Abbas_Daughters]

I’m soo grateful for this video 💖 Being in my preparation season this video truly blessed me 🙏🏾

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

We are glad it can be a blessing :)

[@Abbas_Daughters]

@@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾☺️☺️☺️ Yesss! God is soo good!

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

@@Abbas_Daughters Amen!! :)

[@Abbas_Daughters]

@@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Abbas_Daughters]

@@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha 🙏🏾😊😊 I also want to say thank you both soo much for pouring into me honestly! God has me in my preparation season for marriage and your advice has been sooo helpful to me 🙏🏾 Thank you both for all you have done for me and others 🫶🏾

[@jenniegauthier4344]

Hi guys. Can you make a video about how to change or become the man or woman that someone would want to marry? When you talked about praying for your future husband and liking the person, how can I remember to pray for them (like how to care enough to pray for him) and what should I work on in myself (cooking, manners, etc)? And holiness?

[@Lifeafteryes]

Is it Thursday yet?😅

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Almost! Lol

[@freevibe4146]

Blessed me

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

We are glad our podcast can be a blessing to you! Stay tuned for a new episode today :)

[@adoyicecilia7105]

How about a check in belief compatibility?

[@faithwilson6967]

May God bless you both I am so glad to my soul that I was walked into this conversation I would love a God bless marriage with a wonderful soul who already loves the lord that I can have fellowship with for a lifetime of marital bliss 🎉 Please pray for me I am believing God for this you are needed in the body of Christ I know that you know it but I had to say it AGAIN I LOVE YOU BOTH and I am praying for you please also pray for a steadfast woman like me The most high knows who I am Amen 🔥👏🏽🌹

[@brendabenavidez1910]

Yes i want my best friend in my husband .

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Good!!

[@gaillastof8851]

what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will dwell in them, and will walk among them; and I will be their God, and they will be My people."2 Corinthians 6:16

[@gaillastof8851]

I don't think He's in the club. But He is indide of us...

[@loisadeleke885]

Not me just staring at dem beardssssssssss.