5 Reasons A Narcissist Will Come Back Like Nothing Happened

[@CommonEgo]

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[@damianooi8261]

1) You are their backup plan 2) They want to maintain control 3) Their Current Situation Isnt Working 4) They Havent Found A Replacement 5) They want to test your boundaries

[@joeyfigueroa4748]

Let me just let everyone who is also going through it as well know: They haven’t found a suitable replacement, (as stated in the video) and they never will. The people who have come to discover that their significant other or even ex, was a narcissist, discovered this because you are a genuine person. The narcissist, will never find someone like you again. You were the beginning of their downfall, from you, they can only spiral down. You may be hurt, but if you are recovering, still have your humanity, and still love, YOU won. Stay strong folks.

[@Darkveil-nc6uk]

Thanks i needed to read that right now

[@reaktor777]

If they found me what is stopping her to find somone similar. I now that she is even smarter and more skilled as a result of our relationship.. At the wen she kittereky told me.. Ans now I know what to do

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

It takes a kot of entitlement, arogancje and audacity to come back into someone’s life after a lot of abuse and act as if nothing has happened. It’s the ultimate gaslighting.

[@tungstenanderson5991]

It's beyond reason, you're correct. The selfishness is beyond disgusting, delusional and can only be described as moribund and that doesn't even equate it in English.

[@Vixinaful]

Its easy for them because they lack a consciousness and actually enjoy hurting others. Sadism comes with narcissism due to the damages of the brain where one feels empathy. So they're the opposite of us who feel bad when we hurt someone, they feel good about it.

[@anamarie1532]

Yeah, talk about adding insult to injury!...Of course, I wouldn't want their insincere acknowledgement of wrongdoing or fake apology either. They can just stay gone.

[@ralphmouth8054]

I had one try to come bach 5 years after a bad break,and then again 30 years later.Both times acted like no time had passed and everything was just fine.Never fall for the BS.

[@observingsystem]

Baffling, isn't it? I had one try it recently almost 20 years later and the fact they think we have nothing better going on in our lives now...just wow. But something I saw: he is the same as he was back then, the lies, the childish attitutes, etc., you get the picture. And I bet, when you look at yourself you can tell you've made progress, you learned things, you evolved. I personally feel like I'm not even the same person as I was 20 years ago, in some ways. They don't evolve and when they do it's evolving backwards. Indeed: never fall for the BS. ✋

[@icy_red2170]

@@observingsystem Ha so true! Had an Ex who came back after 15+ years. I didn`t knew about narcissism back then and thought ok give her a chance, we could be friends again. She seemed to be emotional mature compared to the past. But that was nothing but the mask, that`s the only thing that "develops" in those creatures. She immediately started to trigger me with old "stuff" and i felt like shes testing me and that was right. Soon i realized that absolutely nothing ever had changed inside her, the same toxic behaviours like ever. They only try to polish their appearance, under the mask nothing ever changes^^ But this helps me to abandon those people without remorse now, because nobody can help them and they drain me, so any contact is a waste of life and time...

[@observingsystem]

@@icy_red2170 So relatable! Yes, you think "ok, we can try to be friends again", but it seems to just make them think "ok, now I can mess with you again!". They should be glad to get another chance, but they're never grateful for anything anyway, they just feel entitled to treat others however they want to. And yes, they seem to come back to try and see if they can "win" this time. Like everything is a game to them. It's exhausting and futile. Yes, every contact is a waste of time. You can only spend your time in life once, you never get it back, don't throw it to the narcs, keep it for yourself and people who do deserve it!

[@icy_red2170]

@@observingsystem yes thats the quintessence, live your life. Thanks for sharing your experience i have endured the same torture and it`s great to see that others came tgo the same conclusions .. much appreciated!

[@icy_red2170]

@@observingsystem much Love to you !

[@johncummings5755]

They're betting on your lack of knowledge of narcissism

[@ShadowKing1993]

Block them if they try to come back. They are low on supply at that moment and will only use, abuse and discard you again when they find a new supply.

[@happycare6999]

I was hovered 3 times!!! but the 3 time I was so healed and knew exactly what they were. I flipped the script and dumped them silently. Never mess with a healed Empath.

[@lilag.4162]

I want to get to this healed point. It’s been 50 days since the discard. The anxiety is off the charts.

[@TraehderettahS]

I swear, everytime I start to think Im the jerk, you post such words of wisdom and I no longer doubt my decisions, thank you so much for being the rock I need so often lady!

[@Vixinaful]

Yeah, it's the brainwash they do to us. I've been in these relationships for 31 years and despite some of them actually having the diagnose of antisocial or narcissistic personality disorder and that I have been evaluated four times and found sane, I too doubt if it wasnt bc I was so ugly or did something wrong. So it comes with it and is normal. But I tell you, trying to get to a psychologist who knows how these relationships work, is impossible. The help I haave gotten through youtube for free has been super next to the nothing I have gotten from psychologists.

[@observingsystem]

"It takes a lot of entitlement to try to come back after what they did". That's a truth I'll think of next time one of them tries to hoover me. Hadn't thought of that, but yeah, wow, that entitlement. There are people I want to get back in touch with whom the contact just faded, without conflicts or whatever, just life happened (and the narcs isolating me, I guess). And I'm here thinking "can I contact this person from my past? I don't know their situation or if they want to see me" and I end up not contacting them, because I don't want to bother them. I often think lately:"would I do this? would I put someone through this? would I expect to just get away with stuff like this?" If the answer is no, I don't need to put up with it from someone else either.

[@maaikekamstra7353]

What you describe is exactly how my ex-boyfriend reacted. In 1991 I still believed in New-Age romance, freedom, happiness and giving each other space. So after a stormy-completely Narcissistic Abusive relationship, I called our trauma bond “friendship” or even “Soulmate.” This lasted until 2020. Until I learned about Narcissistic Abuse and recognized everything. The circle of abuse, silence treatment, love bombing phase ect. It was like he was some kind of cartoon character from a textbook on Narsism. They all appear to be made in the same factory. A kind of wind-up doll. Unbelievable how exactly this video describes the behavior of my ex-soulmate and so-called best friend ever. This cannot be filmed. Shocking.

[@northernsegageorge6510]

She can’t come back now. Had to change phone number and delete entire email account and no social media. I’m never letting that poison into my life again. I go to therapy now and rebuilding my life.

[@justinamontgomery2618]

I'm going through this with a past friendship... I haven't responded..... 3 times now in 2 years!

[@notjustaprettyface]

This is so spot on that it's making me feel sick to my stomach 🤦🏾‍♀️ its like you know him personally 😩

[@abbasjoy4785]

It's a spirit. Every single one of them is the same. Because you're occupied by the same spirit

[@KM-jp6hm]

I’m 9 months no contact, he comes back each year and does all you said. I’m never allowing it again. I’m also 9 months celibate and I want to be with someone who makes me feel special and is special to me. There were so many women around, he didn’t care, it’s just him casually sleeping around. It got so bad that it seems everywhere we went, there was someone there he had slept with. Seems to think this makes him manly, as someone said in a comment I saw, he’s the community bicycle.

[@AndreFlavell]

I’ve learnt the hard way we are options not a choice . They are not honest regardless of a Male or Female. Only 2 sex’s sorry. These people often have addictions alcoholics and sex addicts. They are delusional of reality. They will never love you because they don’t love themselves. When they enter a new source/ relationships they fast forward everything. They don’t date as a normal person they force a future without and history. They are reckless with everything. They only know one speed it’s called fast . They normally have sex straight away and trap you into their nonsense

[@kaiserchief9319]

These types of men don't understand that there's nothing attractive about a man who makes himself available to every woman who throws herself at him. It shows a lack of boundaries and self control, both of which are vital in a well balanced man.

[@AndreFlavell]

@ I had this with a woman. Heartbreaking stuff

[@kaiserchief9319]

@@AndreFlavell Even worse. She's self destructive. You dodged a bullet.

[@AndreFlavell]

@@kaiserchief9319 if I told you the story is disgusting behaviour. She is a alcoholic 48 west to rehab hooked up with a 35 year old meth user . So many hook ups I lost count

[@anthonydileonardo8156]

I've known plenty of these, and they never failed to exasperate me

[@greendragon8452]

This was helpful to shed some light on a question I've wondered about in the past! My late (narcissistic, alcoholic) father used to complain after I had moved away that I didn't keep in touch enough, didn't come back to visit him and my mom, etc. One time I got sick of it and came clean and told him it was b/c of the abusive ways he and my mom treated me. He appeared truly remorseful, admitted that he had been a jerk and was so sorry for his behavior, took responsibility for his behavior and gave me some context for it, thanked me for being so wise in bringing this to his attention, blah, blah, blah. I thought he'd got it through his head that he and I just weren't going to have a close relationship and that he understood the reasons why. But, not more than a few days later, LOL, he was nagging me again about the same old stuff..."Hey, how come you don't you visit me? How come you don't call me?" At the time I was so confused--was I not speaking English? How could he seem so deeply sincere, and just a few days later it's as though that whole conversation never happened? These narcissists truly are amazing creatures. Well, that day with my dad was a good learning experience! Afterward, I was able to emotionally write him off. I could have short and civil conversations with him if family dynamics required it, but only about mundane things, and I refused to let him drag me into any deeper territory.

[@KentPatriot]

You know, sometimes you say things in such a way, that it gets me rethinking stuff that's come up in the past and looking at it differently. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing - actually, scratch that - I just realised I shouldn't even be going over things I cannot get answers to! Great content, thank you 🔥

[@mvbigmagic4048]

My malignant narcissistic mother was Facebook messaging her ex-boyfriend, while sitting next to me in my dad's hospital room, where he'd just been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer. Yeah. They're ALWAYS "monkey-branching." Disgusting.

[@lena-Ramone]

😢

[@edithlong1260]

They try to never leave you alone so they can torment you and their children.

[@michellawarren1715]

My house mate is a Narc: she put me in the discard stage six months ago. I applied the rule: stick to essential talk only concerning the house. She's now onto the hovering stage. I can't leave this rented house live-in arrangement right now,. I'm assuming I should still just stick to essential talk about the house only.

[@jessparsons8515]

My narc was in the shop I did not speak to him he had a snotty smirk on him he wanted me to speak to him I didn’t

[@miram550]

Omg, literally while watching this video my toxic ex started calling me . Thank you am for your advice, so helpful during the very difficult healing process.

[@echol8087]

Just got hoovered for the second time in a year since I went no contact. This time, it was really bizarre. At this point, I think I have to actually move to finalize the blocking. She's just showing up at my house, not even knocking, and just leaving gifts.

[@dinab7852]

I love your sweater! Beautiful design and my favorite colour! Your voice helps SO much to sooth my anxiety. I watch your videos every night to help me calm down with your extremely soothing voice as my anxiety is worse at night and makes it very hard for me to fall asleep before 3am 😢.

[@jasongrice5465]

Thank you for everything Christina ❤ Have a wonderful Christmas and a happy new year 🎉

[@BoostedPastime]

Thank you very much I have seen many of these things firsthand and you are absolutely correct.

[@jamesmcginn8874]

Got away back in 2017--staying NC

[@tc2333]

I got away in 2016 and stayed no contact but recently thought may be I should unblock my number, but after your comment and this video, I think i'm gonna stay NC well.

[@FoxSleeping]

13:01 Your ADVICE is the best part of this video. I hope you will transform your channel from knowledge base to support base, like this advice. It was so good.

[@michaelc.1588]

I made it clear no call no text no email no talk in public, 7 days later they went and stalked my best friend at his gym to talk about me? 🙄

[@arenee118]

Damage control. They probably were painting you as crazy and they are the victim.

[@keyjones1638]

I had a narcissist show up at my door 25 years after I left him.

[@bad.chickie66]

Then he wasn’t a narcissist

[@livelife5890]

Did they show up at a different home 25 years later or the same home?

[@abbasjoy4785]

Dang.... the demonic physic pull is insane. Thanks for sharing.

[@keyjones1638]

@livelife5890 a different home.

[@bentlyjaye6440]

Dam!!!

[@tc2333]

I've been no contact with this X friend for about almost 8 years. And I feel like I should continue to stay no contact. Based on these comments , they can come back after years of no contact.

[@Angrymobs62]

Yes. A guy I was only talking to reappeared one year to the day and I also acted like nothing was odd 😂 and introduced him to my next crush

[@RobertRedman007]

GREAT VIDEO! Keep em coming.❤

[@lindahersco7638]

This is the best insight and explanation I have ever heard and totally accurate

[@ricberkley9242]

All this is information is a useable guide for leaving a narcissist relationship and avoid that persons return. What victims must also recognize is their personal vulnerabilities to prevent a new narcissist from entering you life. Repeat victimization is a very real problem. So identity early in a new relationship.

[@DanHoulihan-kx9qb]

She physically assaulted me before the end. Will she STILL try and come back eventually? Even after that?

[@clintlandrum9498]

Such a good video. Practical examples observations and solutions. Ive been through this several times, unfortunately.

[@debbiegalica2992]

It's never going to happen. I've been done for over a yr and on no contact for a yr.

[@barbaragonzales5944]

Mine will never come back. The narcissistic injury of having me support him forced him to attack me (3 times), at which point I left the premises. I told him I wanted to stay with my brother and think about what we should do. In the meantime, he filed for divorce. I haven't been back to my home of 18 years ever since. That narcissistic injury, which he ultimately inflicted upon himself, will never allow him to even attempt to come back -- at least not to me.

[@SF2MJ]

My partner of 3 years broke up with me. She was talking to an ex that she hadn't seen in 16 years, behind my back on Facebook. She told me she wanted to catch up with him. And they were just friends. I didn't want her to go and see him. But she reassured me that it was only a friendship thing. He lived 2 hours away. So she left midday. And didn't return until around 5pm. When she came back she was all over me. Kissing me. Saying she missed me. When I asked her if seeing him brought up old feelings. She said no. Insisted they were only friends. That same night she broke up with me. She has 4 kids from 4 different men. None of the kids are mine. But I loved them like my own. They loved me too. After breaking up with me that night. She said she just wanted to concentrate on herself and the kids. She didn't want a relationship with anybody. Within a week she is back to her ex's place sleeping with him. And then moving him in with her and the kids. I did everything for her for 3 years. Looked after the kids Changed nappies. School runs. Cooking. Cleaning. Laundry. Brought her and the kids gifts. Paid bills. Brought groceries. Brought her a new fridge. Dishwasher. Jewellery. New TV amongst many other things. Spent thousands on her and the kids. She would be on her phone or napping every day. I did everything. She didn't want to bathe the young ones. She would get me to make her something to eat and bring it to her all hours. Fetch her something to drink. Nomatter what she wanted I did it for her. She said all her previous relationships her partners cheated on her. Physically and mentally abused her. I never did any of that. I never even swore at her. Then she does this to me. The kids love me and call me daddy. But since the split. She had told me that I can see them but they don't have to call me daddy anymore. Broke my heart. She then continued to ask me for money for the kids after she left me. Saying it was for food. Even though she was sleeping with her ex and he was living with her. I asked her why can't she ask him for money. She said because they were all broke. I then said why did you get involved with a man who can't support you and the kids? She said she doesn't date somebody for financial gain. She used to isolate me from friends and family. Wanted all the attention on her. She would swear at me. Throw things at me. If I ever confronted her about her laziness or anything that was bothering me. She would shut down the conversation and not want to talk about it. There was a period where she claimed she had tourettes. She would swear and hit me in public claiming it was a tick. Obviously all to humiliate me. She never had tourettes. Towards the last few months before leaving me. She was making me sleep on the sofa. Kicking me out for "space" that she needed once or twice every 2 weeks. Now all of a sudden she has blocked me completely and won't let me even see the kids. I can't call her. Message her. Nothing. I'm completely devastated. I miss the kids so much. Her last message to me before blocking me. Was that her and the kids have moved on. And that she needs me to move on. That she is the happiest she has been in a long time. And that she doesn't want me back at all. Two days ago she emailed me asking me if I could buy her a new washing machine. Because she needs to wash the kids clothes. She said her current washing machine is broken. I mean what? Then proceeds to tell me if I get her one, I can't come to the house with it. It will upset her partner. That I need to get it delivered. I mean what?! She isn't the same loving woman I met. She is the complete polar opposite of the woman I knew. When I confronted her recently about everything she did to me. She sent me a message saying she has had it with everyone and everything. And said good bye. Sent me a pic of herself holding a knife to her throat. Two days later she is absolutely fine. Getting drunk every night with her new partner. And is now engaged to him. 2 months after leaving me. I don't want to know her but I miss the kids like crazy. I blocked her on everything now. I doubt she'll come to hoover me. But then again she might use my love of the kids to hook me.

[@dianagula8101]

Horribly evil woman. I'm sorry that happened to you, and sorry for the kids. 😢

[@theoneandonlyjonas]

Bro...that was hard to read 😮 But theres one thing - you never knew the personality of her, THIS right now is her true personality. This is how she always was as a person I know this is hard to realize, but once you accept that, it will get better Stay strong bro ❤

[@SF2MJ]

@theoneandonlyjonas Before I completely blocked her. I asked her if I could take the kids Christmas shopping. She said and I quote "I don't want to upset my partner by having you see me or the kids. We are not doing Christmas this year" Can you believe it?! Doing the kids out of getting presents from me because it will upset the guy she cheated on me with. I never even got to say goodbye to the kids. It's killing me.

[@billf3052]

Sorry you're going through this. I would advise you to record any future contact with her to protect yourself (and maybe also the children), because her behavior is escalating into dangerous territory. And it will only get worse when she realizes she has no control over you. All of these interactions with her are pure manipulations and gaslighting. Asking you for money, claiming her BF will get upset if you go there, "canceling" Christmas. It's all to get a reaction out of you. She feeds off of that, and it's working because you're a good person and she is playing on your empathy and affection. Truly shameful on her part. What about this person was ever so "Loving?" Answer: Absolutely nothing. You were duped. This version of her is the real person she is. This may be difficult to hear right now, but you dodged a bullet. Imagine how she would have behaved if you eventually had had enough and you broke it off with her instead? There's a saying: "The trash takes itself out." Do not give one more cent to this person, no matter the circumstances. She will find a way to use it against you. Change all of your passwords. Sign up for credit monitoring. Protect yourself in every way possible. Assume the worst, because anyone who can treat her kids that way is capable of doing far worse to you and to others, with no remorse.

[@SF2MJ]

It's been 3 months since the discard. I was just starting to feel good about myself. Then my ex who discarded me starts trying to call me. So many missed calls. The one she cheated with left her after 3 months. So she started reaching out to me on an app I forgot I had. I blocked her on everything else. Begging me to talk to her. She has 4 kids that she knows I love. Because I raised them for 3 years with her. Anyway she has used my love for the kids to reach out to me. Saying she messed up. She is sorry for everything. That she had it good with me and screwed up. And that I could start seeing the kids. She said the guy left her. She said she wants nothing but for us to be friends. And to let me see the kids. She also said she only had $13 in the bank. And asked if I could get groceries so she can feed the kids. I stupidly paid for her groceries online. $184. All she had to do was go there and pick them up. Which she did. She kept saying thank you. I was happy to get a chance to see the kids. Her partner left her 2 days ago. Since then she was messaging me pics of the kids. Knowing I missed them so much. I hadn't seen them since she left me 3 months ago. She wouldn't let me because her partner didn't want me there. She told me it was all over with her and the partner. That she wasn't happy with him. That he never like cuddling her. Didn't want to hold her hand let alone kiss her. That he was controlling. Not letting her talk to family or friends. Let alone an ex. I was planning on see the kids on Christmas day. I had money for the kids so they could buy what ever they want. So I messaged her asking her can I come see them on Christmas day. All of a sudden I get a message saying I can't see them. That her partner has come back. She again blocked me on the app she contacted me on. And everything else. It's broken me all over again. Just as I was starting to feel like myself. I miss the kids so much. This is my first Christmas in 3 years without the kids. It's unbearable.

[@writer1986]

I co-parent with my ex-husband. He's tried the "remember that song we use to listen to?" and "I was reminded of us the other day" tactics. Now it's the "I'm online dating", to which I just told him "I don't care".... I was told this could go on for years, until he dates/remarries someone else.

[@Mesekiu671]

I wish I heard this 20 years ago

[@sugar1973us]

Thanks!

[@CommonEgo]

Thank you 🙏❤️

[@avramiancau7]

Everyone is like that, only the world doesn't see and you can't see the degrees except when two of them, visible, meet.

[@norseironworks]

i´ve got a strange txt on my cell with just "hi". i cheeked the number but it was secret and my best guess is my ex. we broke up 3 yeras ago.

[@cattheman6491]

A particularly timely video, given my current situation. A very insightful and helpful deep dive into the hoover.

[@slav7319]

My older sister is an ULTRA Narcissist and I hate her. She is the worst personin the world. Terrorised my mother, father and me all her life. She only did sht and my parents had to take her out of the sht. So much dept which my parents had to pay. No appreciation. No thank you. She says that's how it has to be. She is sick and I cut the contact since a few months.

[@montoya1310]

So My girlfriend and I been together for almost 3 years she has this habit that we can be good and happy and out of nowhere, she starts acting different. I asked her what’s going on. She tells me everything is fine. I feel like she pushes me away and gives me the silent treatment. Then comes back like nothing happened. I asked her why she acts like this way with me. If I haven’t done nothing wrong to her, she can never give me an answer. Can someone please explain why she does this is she a narcissist?

[@hasanhussein1011]

She could be a narcissist which I recommend you to be careful, and detach yourself from her. If you feel like she is doing it without malicious intentions then she might have an avoidant attachment style. Either way protect yourself at all costs.

[@CookieMonster-hm8hx]

Interesting insights that I can identify with, as if you know me more than I even realize…It’s good to know how much you understand…

[@EdelweisSusie]

Funnily enough were my ex to turn up after 25 years the first words out of my mouth woul be: “so your other options didn’t work out then?”

[@HELLo_tHERE_plAyLists]

Best video you’ve ever made. Thank you!!!

[@rob-robi]

Sure but it's also good to Not over think things too often.

[@Smirt12]

Always love your videos!

[@bereal6590]

Yup, I had the break ups the hoovering and then I finally said enough! 2 years no contact and they're still texting calling sending cards. They tried to get someone else to fall for their rubbish and let me know they were doing that by 'accidentally" sending me the text meant for the other person. I'm never going back. It was w0 years of crazy. They just won't give up the ghost! I never respond to any of their tactics.

[@Gangst3r4ever]

Well it's good to know at least one girl with stick with me. Even if she is batshit crazy

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

I love your sweater!

[@catherineditto750]

Yes, you are correct. The same person is spreading mess, almost 3 years later 😂😂😂 I have better things to do.

[@jennifersmallwood]

I love your videos and I have to laugh about your moon-picture in the background because most of the time in your videos, it hangs askew 😄 must be moon influence.

[@CommonEgo]

It only looks straight when the camera is askew 🤣

[@davidsisson2026]

Im in a situationship right now. My person of deep interest ill admit that i love. We've dated casually now she has been pulling away because she says i like her too much. Its become for me state of comfusion. She says she doesn't want a relationship, but emphasizes that she won't say never. I told her I'm just not the one. I do think she is searching for Mr.right. I know i need to be strong and move on. Too many signs its over. Shes says we'll always be friends. Its not healthy for me.

[@observingsystem]

She keeps a space in your life that could be filled by someone who you could have the loving relationship with that you'd like to have. Being alone for a while isn't the worst thing in the world, it can be very liberating. Right now you're in the constant state of stress of wondering what will happen next and hoping for things you know won't happen anyway. That's exhausting and it wears a person down. It's better to walk away, peacefully, giving yourself time and space to heal. Being alone for a while is important, because you can get to know yourself better and establish what you do want and what you don't want, what you'd like from a relationship. If you know in advance what red flags are for you, it helps to not be sucked in by the wrong people again. But give yourself time for that, like recovering from an illness. Peace 🌟

[@traceybiles2061]

​@@observingsystemblock her she is using you til she finds perfect supply to fix her..narcs can not be filled..being alone is better..

[@observingsystem]

@@traceybiles2061 Oh yeah, preaching to the choir, totally agree!

[@Enochrry6024]

The men she truly wants, do not want her so she's keeping you around for validation ego.

[@jamesmurray7352]

Dude run and thank me later

[@grahamabarnes]

They are trying to breadcrumb me via social media 😂 I never respond, I learned a lot, watched lots of videos like this, called her out on her entitlement and gaslighting when it ended. No means yes or try harder with these guys, silence or words which show no emotion is the answer here :)

[@divyas8416]

Thank you! Great info..

[@juliesanders1460]

My (adopted) son sent me a 10 page text with his perceived scenerio of things that never happened or were never said in the manner he claims. He made claims about me, my husband and my other children(his step siblings who never even knew they were steps until high school!) who love him greatly(as do I and my entire family!) but now we are all wondering why he would state such hurtful untrue things- at the end of his tirade he then stated that he wants to be left alone. I answered each of his accusations but he never acknowledged it nor has he acknowledged our birthdays, thanksgiving, texts and phone calls and puts very directed and hurtful statements on FB - after his hurtful and untrue accusations, I realized that what he did and (hindsight) has been doing just not so blatantly is very narcissistic in nature- as a little child his father mistreated him and he does have emotional trauma but not bc of my doings- I left his dad after 8 years of abuse to me - I only loved my husbands son and eventually adopted him as he became an adult. I’m so sad that he would view things so scewed and so are all family members - what do we do??

[@boxelder9147]

Of course they see you as the backup plan. They dont remember shit. Gaslight if confronted. Totally entitled and full of crap. I read them like books and it makes me physically sick

[@Ashley-ig7vk]

Well he came back and iam seeing that I don't think I really want home anymore once he told me he was still in contact with his ex while with me just found this out. Yeah he came back because she called his ass out yep iam the back up. He thinks he gods gift so controlling and definitely a narcissist spent a year and half with this person. Iv been out with him and iam just disgusted with his behavior got no apology just hear let's meet for a drink I did. However going into the new year looking for that man that values me thank glad I found this video 😊

[@noellealissa2206]

He knows my cell number which I never gave to him. I get comments back I had written, that were positive. He uses his brother to "help" me to come back. He blocks notifications and or "pushes" a video of "love" thru my Notifications. Total breadcrumbing...he is a crown prince. Is he a Narcasit??? Thanks!

[@chabella123]

What if you have a kid with them... How do I keep my distance but at the same time my sanity?

[@johnfowke1366]

Exactly my situation. With financial stuff involved. Wish I had wisdom.

[@heddaszczepanski9210]

Know deep down you are stronger than them snd don’t talk bad about them to your child. Keep your distance whenever possible!

[@reaktor777]

She texted something shallow, like our inside joke nostalgic , no apologie nothing. She kept conversations for about 10 days and now completely disappeared. Never stated her intentions. Hooked me and left.. Not sure what to think of that

[@nicholecornes1915]

No feelings here for my husband omg its dangerous to care

[@jojoberrypie6580]

It is.

[@leanoraspadaro9491]

Thank you!

[@BigPete44]

Hey Christina!! 🙏♥️😉

[@CommonEgo]

Hi Pete! 👋🙏❤️

[@marcevans6771]

I agree with thi6. It happened to me with my former workplace

[@aknightofcamelot]

Block them

[@josephaddition]

Amen. Thank you.

[@Skoopyghost]

Amongsts addicts/alcoholics I can usually pick out a lot of narcissts. I myself I behave like narcisstic arsehat when I am not in recovery. Only god can make me not be a self centered addict. I don't know if I am narc, or a just normal alcoholic.

[@colemant6845]

What about a Narc Son or Daughter? A Parent cannot so easily cut loose a offspring without regret and Family issues.

[@lindahersco7638]

I did the reverse discard how does that affect the narcissist?

[@ukaszwojtalik8198]

they are to stupid to reson, just prisioners of their boxed loop😅

[@davidcoupal8083]

good vid

[@bentlyjaye6440]

My narc said i was replacable how wrong was she.

[@pragmaticpoet]

The deeper the feelings or emotions the greater the need for Trust ❤😇🙏 safeguard your hearts brothers abs sister s not by icing your heart but by honoring when tmmmmus affection it myst be held sacred with Trust and if any other cannot earn or maintain Trust, have that affection from a far far far far far distance... like another planet, galaxy, 😜👌

[@rickykeller7069]

She will not, she gave her 28 year disabled daughter to Social Services in Texas and fled to Oklahoma. To many lies and burned bridges , no way she has it in her to face me after that along with all the other people. Even though she is 60 with Severe Mental and Health issues. She will not try anything far as coming back or reaching out PERIOD.

[@JohnSzwed327]

She ain’t ever coming back. Destroyed her ego. See her weekly at gym. She knows she ain’t never getting back with me. Door slammed

[@buildfireforchrist]

3 weeks ago toxic ex from 10 yrs ago text me...🤦🏼

[@RickCobra710]

Oh crap. I'm a narcissist

[@rmcgarra7]

Attempted murder is more than abuse....family court is a predator like the narcissist.

[@YinYang791]

You seem to talk about psychopathic narcissists, you may differentiate between those and the other types of narcissists. To my knowledge most narcissists are not goal oriented thus aware of what they are really doing, it’s more reflexive, but still they know it’s not ok what they do. It is a complex topic.

[@lena-Ramone]

They know what they are doing 😂 all self aware narcs expose this too.

[@YinYang791]

@ exactly the „self aware ones“

[@rozdevin2468]

The covert narc ex came back after 25 years

[@avramiancau7]

inquiring, sincere, children, parents, colleagues, lovers, neighbors  

[@cmullenmusic]

Yes 👍

[@stronger3381]

Once there was fake shit, it will repeat itself. If my covert ex ever reached out (5 months NC) all i can offer is my middle finger. Too many girls in this huge world to roll with fake ones. # Praise the real!

[@tomso6922]

Subtitle please

[@linechaay6430]

This reminds me A LOT Of my dad.. the returning like nothing ever happened, never apologizing, always up to this crap Heres what he did in response to the silent treatment.. he waited for me to talk to my dog.. then for lack of a better word started targeting my dog!

[@cocoaocean]

💐💐

[@derfab.]

1:28 monkey wrenching I'd say

[@Joe-hf3cn]

You’re talking out of your … yes, that. They do not always “boomerang”(oh really)back to you. I am so tired of so many of these self-professed experts on Utube who know nothing. Just stop with your pseudo professional knowledge of narcissism & avoidants. Ridiculous

[@tinkingtinking2134]

They will if you break contact and ring them.

[@KRT-e8v]

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[@cogermaureen1957]

I agree a neighbor thought he could come to my block and joke with me like I was not disrespected at his house, but THE DEVIL IS A LIAR I AM SO DONE WITH HIM.

[@anthonyskube]

Leaving a person with no warning is abuse, and likely that of a narcissist. If they are trying to reach out a after a year it's more than likely because that man was devastated by a female narcissist. Shame on you for condoning that kind of abuse and giving this abuser publicity and encouragement!

[@superbri007]

Monkey branching 😮 I warned her "new" supply (which was her ex) that he's on deck and to tread carefully... he took none of my words as wisdom, and actually took them personally. He tried to take his life July 2023, and I was informed (by her) that at some point after that, he told her that next time he was going to fully commit to it... despite her claiming to be highly empathetic, his mental health became her sob story...making it all about her. She showed no accountability in the year she and I dated. In terms of emotional intelligence, she has the self-awareness of a teenager, yet she's 34 and a mother of two. She presented so well up front, but I witnessed a slow decay, loved harder, and got less as I "gave" more. I learned a lot about myself in that year, and she will never have my trust again. I went FULLY no contact; I am cognizant of my empathy and that being empathic is a double-edged sword, so should I bump into her it's going to be a 1,000 yard stare from me...looking at my future self thanking me for letting go. I do wish her the best in life and I hope she figures all her "stuff" out. Christina (hopefully spelled that correctly), thank you for your content! Your channel, Lise LeBlanc, The School of Life, and Teal Swan have been instrumental in my making sense of whatever that year of my life was ❤😅.

[@superbri007]

Related to my comment, she's polyamorous, so, she has an acceptable "excuse" for all the supply she'll ever need. She never has to fully appreciate the lows of grieving the loss of a relationship as someone who's single. There are forever shoulders to cry on and little to no chance to have to go internal and reflect. I assume I'm the super-villain now, which does have me slightly more vigilant...hyper-vigilant if you will, to any potential conflict with those she's triangulated against me. Luckily, no contact means everyone (that I could envision being a potential threat) got blocked. But I digress... my letting go and moving on will not happen until some time passes and these perceived threats, well, just fade away. Lastly, the entire relationship felt like an emotional roller coaster and when I pointed this out to her she seemed a bit offended. Well...I'm off that ride but some days thoughts pop back in and I feel like I'm back on it, like," hey, this doesn't feel safe!" I have to remind myself I'm off that ride, not in the Six Red Flags 🚩 theme park, and that I'm safe now. 😅😅😅 Six Red Flags, if I can laugh at my own jokes, I'm doing just fine.