5 Signs God is Warning You That Your Mother Can't Be Trusted

It’s hard enough dealing with unsafe people in friendships and romantic partners
but what do you do when it’s your own mother. In this video, I talk about the 5 Signs God is warning you that your mother can't be trusted.
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[@Kris_Reece]

@@kyndallsloan8455 I'm so sorry to hear this Kyndall. I pray your desire to do the Godly and honorable thing overrides your fear. I would be more afraid of God than any mother. We'll be praying for you.

[@lindabaer6603]

@@kyndallsloan8455 Please pray before you take any action. Keep asking God, through faith in Jesus Christ, what does He want you to do and ask him for his help!

[@bellinasew...welcome4358]

She hates any gift , food, from me

[@doorpakor5813]

My mother treats me like I am 7 years old. I am 54 years old. I experienced severe emotional neglect as a child.

[@cc967]

My mother is 92 and still at it. As her appointed scapegoat child, she’s ruined any relationship I could have had with my other family members. For a lifetime, I have dreamed of a loving mother who will never be.

[@lanarussell9245]

Do we have the same mother??. This could be my story.

[@baptizedbychrist9976]

How disheartening … mine is in her sixties and actually getting more cruel and more selfish with old age.

[@hillbillyshack]

My mom is 82 and an evil old bag and getting worse, I feel better just reading these posts. God give us all grace

[@lisaa8437]

Mine is 81 and she is beyond the pale, an evil witch!!! She will probably live until 100 just to try and torment me! I always say to people I trust, ‘demons don’t die’…it’s sad and I need to ask god for forgiveness, that I wish she would go sooner than later.

[@thebluerulez]

😢

[@melindamcclain835]

I don't have to worry about my toxic mother anymore. She passed away a few months ago and now iam free.

[@keithstewart7514]

Oh how I envy your timely blessing... My MOMster is too healthy @ 86.

[@PaddyK-lx6ud]

it's a distinct Healing process, unlike anything I've ever known.

[@dity9442]

Same. Lung cancer took my toxic mother almost 4 years ago. I couldn't function the first 6 months, but then I found out that she had lied about some family members and that she had deliberately kept me from them. The grief left in that moment and today I can say I honestly don't miss her. I alternate hating her for ruining the early years of my life and loving her because she was my mother.

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

1: Defensive 2: Divisive 3: Deflector 4: Demanding 5: Demeaning I used to be the "yeah but..." but unhealthy is unhealthy. I never got the nurture + support and I always felt unsafe, which is probably why I asked to go to the her sisters house every weekend, until I got violated. Im so grateful for God and the many angels he's placed around me to help me. protect me and helping me heal.

[@Kris_Reece]

Thanks for sharing Sunshine

[@angelaporto5753]

So glad God is healing you!!

[@sandraturner7770]

SAME😢😢😢😢

[@millicentsinkala8150]

Same. Thank God he protect me and recusing me.

[@barbaraedwards5675]

I remember apologizing to my mother for being born. And, I was truly sorry.

[@cherieadams77]

God bless you Barbara! Jesus loves you!! You aren't an accident

[@bellbranda]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@haPPySundAy970]

Thank you

[@dewannalaning2829]

As a daughter of a mother that exhibits all of these characteristics, I have come to realize I’m only in control of my response to her and how I mother my own children. I didn’t realize until I was 50yrs old, how her tactics of mothering have been toxic and have steered a little too close to the line of emotional and mental abuse. Since my dad’s passing, her behavior and her meanness has gotten worse. I see now how much he buffered. Thank you for this information. I will continue to watch your channel. The struggle is real in trying to honor her as a believer in Christ, and set clear and healthy boundaries for this toxic relationship.

[@DogMomCMF]

Amen!

[@user-cr9uw2tq5b]

Here a 53 yrs old woman with the same experience with my father. Adding the witchcraft to the equation...

[@meghannjones5636]

Oh boy, this is my mother to a T. I moved all the way from California to South Carolina to escape from her clutches. My tipping point was when she started to affect my children with her covert narcissistic ways. My three teenagers and I are so much more emotionally healthy now that we have put distance between us. I am going into my masters program in clinical psychology, and I have learned so much about why space and boundaries are so healthy. I truly appreciate your videos, and feel a deep association with many of your topics. I am so grateful for you! God is so good, and he always gives us what we need.❤️

[@lauraheppner8420]

Same! Only I moved from California to Tennessee.

[@tamarah2274]

Wow. You guys give me so much hope! God bless you both

[@Wandertheworldwithme]

Same here, I moved to Wisconsin and left California. Cross country.

[@rt2244]

Same here

[@bar9666]

Please don't screw up these wonderful states as you have screwed up California. You people are like locusts spreading destruction across the country.

[@zzzo4509]

If your mom is toxic and don't change don't waste your life like me Run and I mean run

[@preyonce]

No seriously, RUN! Don’t spend your life thinking that she’ll changed. She is who she is. Live your life and leave vengeance to the Lord!

[@PaddyK-lx6ud]

and don't Look Back Or Answer the Phone lol

[@erincalvert5241]

This is BOTH my parents. I had to go the "no contact" route. I love them and pray for them every night though. They have my brother under their manipulative tactics and it breaks my heart.

[@DJH97]

My mother is 91 and has totally isolated me from the family. I was supposed to be a boy after they had 2 daughters. I was their huge disappointment. She acts like I don’t even exist. Never hear from them. I don’t even bother trying anymore. After the way they acted when my oldest son died I have just moved to another county and stay to myself.

[@A.M.6795]

May the Lord comfort you. May you heal and have a full life.

[@4gma59]

Nailed it. All five. I grew up thinking I was crazy. It took me over 38 years to really understand what was going on. For those who share this toxicity, GO TO CHRISTIAN COUNSELING. MOVE AWAY FROM HER AND DON'T COMMUNICATE!! It's the only way to heal and deal. #beenthere #livedit

[@sonhandocomdeus-daniellyca1484]

I was praying because I was worried about not honoring my mother. She is christian but she is 100% like you describe. Even now that I am living far away from her, she is still doing the same things. I was struggling with this because she is my mother and how to honor a person like that?? Please speak more about that!

[@SparkingLife111]

Watch the video by her saying that you don't need to be a doormat

[@barbaraedwards5675]

Honor her by living a life that does just that.

[@avanz2885]

Same 🙏

[@ella2240]

That is my mother. I struggled so much over the years even after moving out, with guilt and shame for keeping my own mother out of my life. I have been so abused. The worst part is that she is very religious and in spite of my natural strong spiritual inclination, her behaviour led me to stay away from God for years. After years, God found me and I have had experienced so much love and grace, so much different from what she described God to be. Now every time I tried to rekindle our relationship, what keeps me away from her is that not only she doesn't love or know God, but she speaks lies about Him to manipulate people around her who don't know Him personally. This time for good I was led to sever ties with her and my father. Thank you 💝

[@barbaraedwards5675]

Same here. I feared God because my parents were “religious” and I didn’t want anything to do with a God who made these types of people!

[@MrsNeri-mt8sc]

OH MY GOODNESS!!! THIS IS EXACTLY MY MOTHER!! 😱😭💔 The video that I've been looking for, for three years!!!! 😭😭😭 my questions are finally answered... Thank You Lord...

[@MsDjADD]

MY MOTHER SUCCESSFULLY DESTROYED MY NUCLEAR FAMILY AND THUS, MY LIFE.

[@df27d]

For everybody with toxic mothers, you will get through it! Do not become like your mothers or fathers. Be strong! I want to black my mothers eye everyday, but G-O-D is with me!

[@chygfhh]

This is not good to say but I do understand every relationship is different. So I can't judge you I'm just saying it's best to leave and never turn back till it's better ❤

[@preyonce]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@sushi603]

My mom checks all the boxes u described.... i feel suffocated with her...

[@gavroche8620]

Same, like her whole persona is overwhelming, like her misery must be constantly noticeable by everyone, everywhere. My ( ex) so called family was ( is) full blown toxic, so toxic… full of lies, secrets and constant BS, drama, confusion. “ Families” like that are like vampires

[@poncho1710]

I feel the same like all the joy is sucked out of me when I’m around her. Feel sick !

[@bongjamesbong00420]

Because of this I had zero peace and stability in my life and every single day is a life and death struggle fighting with the demons she created

[@Mr_Justy]

My mother’s go to is to call me dramatic if I bring anything from the past up.

[@LovingTeddy01]

Grew up with a toxic mother and I realised this since my teen years (around age 17) but it still hurts every time…

[@f1y_str8]

Sad because they murder their own family. May they rest in peace. 🪦

[@curtistinemiller4646]

My mother has all five signs,You can choose not to react and to not engage in the drama,,Life is too short to be in constant turmoil, I am free to choose Me!.....

[@jenaya_laila2442]

Both of my parents are like that. It's hard not to feel like a bad child that deserves punishment and should actually not be living. I'm completely stumped on how to deal with them without hating myself..and how on earth can I honour them?

[@kittylemew]

Reframe "honoring" as being "respectful". Meaning, not defensive or reactive in your interactions. Spend time in scripture until you're confident in your position in Christ. Study the proverbs daily. This will help you recognize the lies and not take them to heart. It will help you learn God's formula for dealing with difficult people. Their emotions are NOT your responsibility. You are only responsible to God for your own behavior. Set boundaries and don't argue about them. You aren't even obligated to explain your choices. Just restate your answer. In fact, it's better not to give them any details, because it will only fuel them. This is referred to as "going gray rock". Practice some pre-planned responses OUT LOUD with a safe person, or by yourself if you must. Example: We won't be able to attend your event. I hope it goes well and you have a nice time. (Their reaction) We've decided to sit this one out. (Their reaction) We'll be doing something different that day. (Their reaction) We've made our decision. Please don't ask again. (Their response) I'm going now. Good bye *** I hope you find some of this helpful. Your Heavenly Father will be with you as you navigate this situation. Just ask. 💕

[@gregoryritchey2457]

Your videos are a blessing to me. Even though, I am male, I can relate as I have a toxic mother as well.

[@Kris_Reece]

I'm so glad you're finding them helpful

[@Selfemployedmildautisticperfor]

@@Kris_Reece same ,ps i cant recall but i think i eamiled u a couple weeks ago kris, and ya my distance with mom is pretty raw n fresh , ps greg any relatoin to nicolle??

[@jalindaowens7589]

How can anyone else love me when my own mother doesn't love me.

[@Garden366]

Jalinda, your mother is sick, she’s unable to live and love as Christ has demanded and that is not a reflection on you. Just because she’s that way does not in any way diminish you and who you actually are. It’s hard to parse the difference between a hateful mother and being hated by everyone and this can lead to rejection and hatred and anger towards people who don’t deserve being in the wake of our bad feelings. Please see yourself as Christ sees you. Give your entire life to Him and He’ll protect you in ways that when you look back on your life, you’ll be amazed by. It is SO hard to have an evil mother, I know, mine was horrible and she raised two narcissistic daughters to mimic her. I left my family behind. What our Lord calls on you to do will be known to you but just realize, you ARE loved, perfectly and completely in Jesus Christ. And His love transcends all evil satan can throw at you. Trust Him to guide you, ask for His guidance and will to be done in your life. He is not punitive to His children and He’ll give you what you need (maybe not want at the moment) and His gifts will be exactly what you needed. My mother hated me, hated the ground I walked on and I survived and thrived, and so can you. Hang onto Christ, find a confidant and pray, pray, pray. I don’t know you but you’re now on my prayer list. Much love and healing in Christ, Sheryl ❤️✝️

[@kaseycorliss7282]

You're not the problem in this sentence. Just because someone doesn't have to compasity to love doesn't mean you are not worthy of love and know above all else that Jesus truly loves you so much.

[@michaelk6908]

It’s not about you. It’s about a toxic mother projecting all her own bad stuff onto you. You’re not the unlovable one. God bless you.

[@Selfemployedmildautisticperfor]

ive thugoh that n the video is finsihign soon so typing fast, thought that is however some well def do so more then some moms ,unfortunatly

[@df27d]

I love you!!!

[@GloryToGodAlmighty]

God showed me this last night and today this is confirmation. Thank you. God bless.

[@GHO5tMod3]

You know it’s bad when one of your mothers friends say it was finally nice for once that your mom hasn’t said anything bad about you over the phone and then you hear her gossiping about you on the phone since her friend puts it on speaker

[@jenaya_laila2442]

Both of my parents are like that. I grew up in a cult. I ran away and am a Christian now. My parents are my biggest stumbling block in my life. I've been suicidal because of them my entire life. I don't know if I'll ever make it in life with their constant putting down comments, accusations and manipulation...😪

[@faithl4105]

I'm so sorry to hear what you've been experiencing. I'll keep you in my prayers. I hope it comforts you to remember that God is your Hrsv, Father; & He loves you very muc

[@pendokilimba1364]

Take the word of God in you and not their words and you will make it to life as it is the will of God not theirs.God bless you

[@marie22213]

So glad I found your channel. You have a nice relaxing voice and you get straight to the point. I'm almost 30 and just now learning about toxicity

[@alerdman2002]

I was raised in a don't talk don't talk at the table don't talk with your mouth full don't talk at all children meant to be seen not heard I Was An Invisible Child I don't remember any conversations with my parents, as I got older 70 now looking back and I can't remember any of our conversations either she is totally blocked out of my mind she's been past 3 years now definitely separated all 3 kids with comments against each other pitting us apart and then blaming us for not having a relationship and making us feel guilty because we didn't wacko

[@user-gj9bm4cu7q]

My momma is 34. And she has done so many things, attacks me, she she threatens me and my sisters saying she’s gonna kill us, says that it’s our she’s depressed, she choked me out when I was 7 because I lost her phone, and so much more, and yess she always says that I don’t care about her

[@gailrobinson3853]

So sorry you are going through this. Please draw near to Jesus. Take some time to read through the Bible by committing to read a few chapters a night. I listen on an app. This is the best way to get the scriptures in context as this lady is not very good with context. It's very important at this time in history. God bless you!!

[@charleentheron4767]

My narcissistic mother stole all my money 20 yrs ago i have had lifelong abuse from her and now she is 95 and abusing me financially and just wont die and i cant get away from her

[@Kris_Reece]

I'm so sorry Charleen

[@couleuredgirl6314]

Yes you can! Just leave!

[@booboothebear6558]

This is 100% my mother. She has made it her quest to be divisive and rupture any hope to have a relationship with any of my siblings. I decided to cut ties and alienate my own children because I did not want my children to grow up in the toxicity of my family. It is very sad and I pray to god that he brings me healing. My mother has spew so much hate and refuses to seek god. I moved far and did not let no one in my family know where I moved because I found out that I needed to get away.

[@PistolAndPluck]

Acceptance is such a tough concept inside this relationship! Thank you Kris for sound teaching, encouragement and UNDERSTANDING to be a lamp along this path.

[@Kris_Reece]

Thanks for watching Cindy. Always great to see you here.

[@HeatherNickell]

I have too!! Say!! This area is complex and this simple pullet cookie cutter fix is saddens me. For the real healing by God.. working in a loving Jesus , healing ,Godly , Holy Spirit Souls… healing Love of God!! Forgiveness …..

[@needsmorecowbell1758]

Jaw drop...............eerily accurate.......like do you know my mom?!?

[@babydii3487]

I've been a motherless child for too long. I'm better off without her. At this point she will be put on a time out for a few months and then strictly text only communication or 2-3 calls a year. If she was not my mother she would have been gone 💯💯

[@jenn_jean_kent_artist]

Would you please do a video concerning toxic mothers and speaking curses. What is the difference in speaking the truth of their behaviors to others, venting to other safe people and being cursing so to speak about them? Venting could be seen as such? Some relationships are very evil treatment and gaslighting to the children, especially the covert. Thank you!

[@sunflowers6172]

My mom is in the hospital and I have the power of attorney. She still calls me my by my sisters name!! She says that I never apologize to her or other family. She has always tried to put the other sibling on a pedestal and bragged on them. So frustrating. Demeaning, yes. She Thought it funny that I was possibly going through menopause. It is summer and I was not sweating.

[@xo7454]

Wow. This is exactly my mother.

[@whitenoise910]

Controlling is deadly. They think they cannot find a way to be better person..relative cant seem to solve, find ways, always one answer to every questions. This is related to relative. I usually avoid

[@cherylross393]

My mother was a Christian ✝️ toxic mother while I loved her so much we did way better once I moved put at age 24. I never moved back home and we became like best friends after she knew I was my own person and I was no longer tolerating her manipulative ways.I believe Christian people suffer from this too and might not even realize they do act toxic. It's most likely the way they were raised. I still suffer from being too emotional and sensitive and I'm a senior now.

[@Is43109]

Thankyou for this comment, you have some grace for your mum. I made some bad mistakes with my eldest daughter and she cut me out of her life which was devastating. I realise that I engaged in lots of toxic behaviour towards her and I have apologised but she still doesn't want anything to do with me.

[@cherieadams77]

@@Is43109 I'm sorry, Penny

[@Is43109]

@@cherieadams77 thankyou, I appreciate your comment and your prayers.

[@eatpraylovetube2146]

💯 so powerful!!! Thank you!!!

[@simplyxtreme126]

Thank you Mrs. Reece

[@DJWakening]

Thank you, this has helped open my eyes to what so many people have been warning me about. It's now got to the point where is can't be unseen!

[@1RUTHGroup]

..."no regard for correction"

[@GloryToGodAlmighty]

Thanks! This is 100% what I've been dealing with. God is helping me figure out what relationships are healthy and which are toxic. My friends are my family. God bless you.

[@lynnlogan7315]

Mine is exactly the opposite. I want to love my daughter and like her. But she has bipolar disorder and refuses to get help for it. Everything is everyone else’s fault. I am tired of saying I’m sorry to her or things that I haven’t even done other than argue with her. I had a fabulous relationship with my mom and I wanted that for my daughter and I. Unfortunately she has more of her daddy in her than me. Her life is always chaos. She and her husband are staying with us temporarily and it has been a nightmare. She says that she doesn’t like to take medication because of the side effects and because they have to draw her blood every month and they can never find her veins. All I know is I am tired and I need to be away from her. And it breaks my heart

[@Kris_Reece]

That sounds terrible Lynn. I'm so sorry.

[@sherripratt4422]

That was me!

[@PistolAndPluck]

I love that you said "was". It is a powerful, God created bond, the parent child relationship. It was designed to be Beauty and Love, Life sustaining. But, for us that draw feels like a chain (because it is). Way to cast them off! 🌿 I am so grateful for Kris and her teachings to help along this journey.

[@angelsunlight]

Thank you for this video ❤ God lead me to this channel

[@ExquisiteKinkyCoils]

❤❤❤Thank you, Kris.

[@pippilongstocking.]

Military brat and my mom kept my sisters and brother and me all apart growing up..New she was toxic didn't realize how bad (toxic).tell after my sister in law passed..and stuff came crashing in.

[@mariannekoroleva6495]

I imagine my mother were NOT narc...I do not know what I have got this for...I do not see anything good in it, but in this world can be only bad with good options, bare bad is not allowed here by the Force of God. This "mother" is all fake only the guilt she dirts your Life with is real... Thank You for the great Content!!:))!!

[@sophiasamlal7233]

Thank you so much for this video ❤

[@esthers333]

Thank you this is beautiful

[@jackgoodings]

I was with Faithful Counselling after my last relationship 5 years ago. She was good, but didnt know about narcissistic abuse and neither did I at the time. It was a good step for my recovery journey though.

[@therealpatch4704]

My mom lied on a proof of service to go ex parte and file a lie soaked declaration so she could take my son. I went to pick him up at school and he was gone. Its been nine months because i couldnt get a lawyer until now. Please pray that i do not lose my home because of the wait for disability ( i was crushed in car accident last summer. That is when she first had him. I became well enough to take him back and that is when she made her move).

[@corinneblair8795]

Thank You!!!!

[@Conscious58]

it's a hateful experience - life w this kind of Mother - the worse luck of the draw in this game of life. Thank you for your video.

[@gavroche8620]

My mother made me her psychoanalyst since I was a teenager, before I was an invisible kid that she never noticed, she acted like she was a victim of a Soviet Union gulag and made me feel so sorry for her since I was as a child to the point that I was guilty when I felt any joy or happiness. I was paralyzed by her drama, sorrow and misery often, I was sitting in the corner of my room ( when I was a teenager) couldn’t move, I was overwhelmed, crashed and felt that there can’t be future for me as life is all about misery. Also because there was a lot of screaming so I was than ashamed of myself and I couldn’t leave the house… She bragged constantly about the same people and situations that happened 20 + years earlier, when she was young, she was extremely miserable and always impatient so my problems were always pushed aside, never ever she gave me any advice or never even she said “ I love you“ or something like that - NEVER. Than when I moved to another country, I could not go no contact as I felt obligated for making her happy she called me daily and if I didn’t call her she could leave 3000 missed calls, texts or mails telling me that “ I am never contacting her” She controlled my life, and many times actually she was saying something like that “ I am often allowing to make your own decisions” 🤯 It’s just a fraction of what happened, she sabotaged my life, she often was saying especially when I was facing some serious challenges and problems“ you are doing too well “ and this statement which was repeated many times made me so confused and so guilty at the same time so I became numb to my problems and eventually I sabotaged many wonderful opportunities, as I was feeling worthless. This toxic dynamic is very serious, I think she might be a “ vulnerable narc” But the worse thing is that I struggle with anger and fury when I am around her, or when she is contacting me .

[@happyandblessed5640]

Hi 👋 I hear you. Been there. Forgive yourself, say to yourself you have a right to be angry and a right to look after yourself and the little child inside of you that wasn't nutured. Nature yourself, be a Mum to your little self even hug a Teddy 🧸 🤗 ❤. Now set boundaries, be your own parent protecting the inner you that she's hurt. Tell her you have a life and will ring or text at times which suit you. Pray for her, forgive her, she has no empathy for you because she has a mental block, in the words of Jesus she knows not what she does, even though she may think she does, she's hurting you. Find an online support group, there are plenty out there. Forgive to live and love ❤ Jesus will help you, 🙏

[@gavroche8620]

@@happyandblessed5640 Thank you for taking time writing this comment, I brag online lol, about my experience as I don’t share it with anyone… at times I feel defeated, cornered, so I watch videos and read peoples comments as well, as so many people experienced the same, and yes - forging yourself is very important, it’s a key thing plus, confidence, self esteem and self compassion otherwise one might go crazy or do something worse. In fact, my mother wanted me to check in the mental institution she even said “ I will help you to fill out an application form” lol, not funny actually, not at all, so yes we must have understanding and compassion for ourselves. Thank you again!

[@surfandlearn]

​@@gavroche8620 Hello, I sooo much relate to your story. Thank you for the humorous hints you give (I love the "Victim of Soviet Union Gulag" bit lol) to the terrible childhood you expose. I was so convinced that growing adult would change things for the better... Mine managed to force me into mental hospital... She convinced the doctor with a video she made the same day when she intruded my house and I screamed her to get out and started crying, she took her phone and started filming me, saying " Now I got you". The doctor on call signed the discharge saying I shouldn't talk to my mother like that !!! It was like having shifted directly to hell and non-sense !! I was 44, in my own appartement she'd broken into, yet I was forcefully taken to hospital, stripped naked and heavily medicated against my will. It completely broke me and the life I had built (professional and social, since I've never managed to find the right companion for myself). I started having compulsive suicidal thoughts, God I fought them so hard.... Shortly after, she was diagnosed with brain tumors. Though I managed to move 120 km from her, she's involved me in every details of her sickness and I feel I cannot abandon her (I'm an only child), so I listen and accept to give help while feeling suffocated with it. But going no-contact and letting her walk alone to her death is beyond my capacities. Of course she has "forgotten" what she's done to me, and she cries when she's not satisfied with my tone (which is rarely to her convenience, since it should either be the obedient one of a 12 year old or the one of her best friend ever), she so good with the guilt... Because she's destroyed my financial means and I now have barely enough to pay bills and eat through the month, she knows how to use leverage for the financial help I may need sometimes. 7 years later, I'm stuck in the fear of failing my destiny, failing myself, waste my precious life, aware there's only one for me on this beautiful earth. I'd always admired Jesus but never knew I could receive Him and ask Him. Prayer is very new to me, I still feel clumsy with it, but my heart is sincere. I knew He stands by me always when not that long ago I told Him to f,,, off (I was so angry with life) I instantly repented and burst into tears while I heard/felt "don't do this to yourself, I love you" as he held me tight and strong while I sobbed so profoundly, being in His arms the child I could never be. Thank you for opening the door to liberating those words.

[@gavroche8620]

@@surfandlearn I am so sorry about your experience, going to hospital, I am very sorry. So sorry she framed you like that, this is wicked. Wow, of course, mine tried to put me in to mental hospital as well, she tried to convince me that I “must go NOW”, and she will help me with paperwork. I know that’s what folks like that want- locked their victims in instructions …somewhere. When I was facing difficulties, she always heavily pushed some diseases on me, instead of solving the issue, but no, nothing is resolved around them - never It’s such a messed up dynamic. When you dealing with a covert, vulnerable, codependent narc it takes years to fugue out what is happening. I just want to add that I didn’t mean to be humorous about gulags survivors, I know you aren’t too, but I just want to say it. I understand perfectly how you feel about having one precious life on this beautiful earth, I have precisely the same thoughts. There is so much beauty around, its so simple to be joyful….but here comes a narc …. dragging dark clouds along, storms, tornadoes, trying to suck you into the vortex of negativity, destroying all joy. Narc parents destroy relationship with God, they create an orphan mindset, so for a child, and then later an adult, its very difficult to feel loved by God, it creates frustration, anger… For me the greatest challenge is to forgive myself for snapping, bursting in anger, fury. There is so much more to add… The only solution is to never give up, and that’s what is the most difficult thing because all you want to do sometimes is precisely- give up. But that’s a false, enemy talk that i refuse to come to agreement with FEAR, false evidence appearing real, get behind me satan. Best wishes to you, fight for your LIFE! Blessings

[@marylaguta6162]

So true 🥲

[@branickol1]

I have been manipulated into thinking my “friend” was being abused by her husband however she was the one who was volitile and narcissistic. Her kids are being poisoned against their father. I’ve walked away from her but what she is doing to her children is horrible. She has all of our friends conned and she has slandered me to them. I led her to the Lord but she has turned on me. The spirit in her is divisive, manipulative, volatile, slanderous, demeaning. I am Narc aware now. Thank you for all your help and guidance ❤

[@maribellemorales7470]

I know someone exactly like this. My mother.

[@lanarussell9245]

Thank you for this Kris! Sadly, my mother displays all of these traits and is an expert at guilt trips and manipulation. She is 93 years old and now lives in a care facility. Family and friends have turned away from her and I'm the only daughter, therefore the responsibility for her lies on me. There are days I want to walk away too. I am now on TWO blood pressure and one anxiety meds from the stress of it. How do I honor her from a distance while taking care of myself without feeling the guilt of knowing she is in the care facility alone now? I know it's not my responsibility to fill the void she has caused, but it bothers me.

[@nicole8511]

Hi Lana, A warm hello to you and a gentle suggestion, Lindsay C Gibson has two really wonderful books on healing from the pain caused by emotionally immature parents. I really gained a lot from them. I send best wishes to you

[@SparkingLife111]

Gurrrrrl!!! Set yourself freeeeeee! Go live life. Get off those meds look for holistic alternatives I believe for blood pressure you can take beetroot powder and some other things but it's time to put yourself first you are so lucky so blessed that your mother is now in a care facility where she belongs so you don't feel guilty about her being there because she belongs there that's where she needs to be to be taken care of properly and most people end up there at the end of their lives it's just part of life she's lucky she got there so late in life instead of earlier like in her 70s which if you don't take care of yourself that could be you now go enjoy the sunshine take a cruise or a vacation if you can if not do a staycation take a deep breath know you did your best to gave your best you sacrificed enough of your time energy heart mind and body

[@By_God_You_Were_Saved]

You need to let her go. It’s like having pebbles, you pick up that where pretty putting them in your pocket and going on a swim. They do weight down, yet. But over time if you add more they will cause you drown. Though the love these about her. You can pick and choose what too see about her but doesn’t matter what you say. Because she’s the rocks in your pocket weighting you down, the more you let her in the deep, you go into the water and drown. So let go today, whatever is meant happen. Will because we can stop the Will of God, all we can do is slow it down from getting to us. Trust your Gut, it’s God and if you have to watch videos like this well it’s time to let go.

[@vailhalla6572]

You are honoring her by making sure she has shelter, food and clothing. Youre right, you arent responsible for someone elses feelings. And heres an insiders tip...I worked in assisted living and saw how residents played the guilt card while their families were there or after they dropped them off after taking them out. As soon as they left, there wasnt sadness, often times they expressed relief, laughed and joked with other residents, wanted to get right in their pajamas and relax but never miserable. 👀Was an eye opener for me. Hope it brings you some peace.

[@lanarussell9245]

@@vailhalla6572 Thank you so much for this! I appreciate your comment. Just recently I had the opportunity to sit down with 2 of her nurses and what they told me shocked me. Mother isn't miserable in the least and is actually the life of the party. She likes to play the guilt card on me apparently. Your comment just confirmed what I had suspicioned all along. Thank you . This is a huge relief to me.

[@francisfischer7620]

Imagine?! It never ends. It won't till I die. She will out live me.

[@senoritat8804]

Hi Kris! I think there would be really great value in creating a course or video for women with widowed mothers who become obsessed and micromanagy of their lives. This is a trend I'm seeing with my friends who have lost a dad. Their mothers no longer have their husbands to focus on, and so they're being super over-obsessive with every little detail of their daughters lives, and calling all the time, wondering when they're getting home from work and where they're going that night, and telling them how to run their lives. Mothers who put all of their focus on their husbands, but after losing them. haven't found a healthy, normal, and positive way to refocus their time and energy. Good, loving, and well intentioned mothers, but who are becoming VERY toxic to their daughters and are full of guilt trips (due to their own loneliness etc.). I don't know how to help my friends who are going absolutely insane due to their widowed-mother issues. One of them is actually moving across the country to get away from her mom, as much as she loves her. She just can't have a normal and healthy life living in the same town. :(

[@SparkingLife111]

I think send the friemds videos on boundaries and kris has one about being a dormat that jas helped me tremendously to not feel so much guilt they need to make a stand for themselves bc the mothers r manipulative. Tell them they can hang up when mom crosses a boundary. Just hang it up say i told u not to talk to me like that or say that to me whatever the boundary is and end it with saying u r being toxic mother goodbye. Also can say i did not ask for your opinion nor do o care to hear it regarding this that the other thing. Dont pick up the phone she will call with all sorts of needs like can u go on the internet for me or my phone ia broken i need u to fix it. I started saying go to t-mobile have them look at it and she nevee did. So farm out the resourcea foe whatever she needs like oh well call the plumber. Lol. Sorry your toilet exploded but call the plumber. Also tell them to be straight forward say mom u need to get a life so i can live mine go join a yoga class or book club take a vooking class etx find a senior acticity group and go to therapy bc u need it. They will ne er go to therapy tho bc dont want to be told what to do or there is anything wrong w them. Another phrase to try is thank u mother but moving forward if u bring this up again i will hang up and not speak to u for 1 week. They need to know consequences but some dont care they block out your demands boundaries and have no respect. Also have your friends watxh or listen to videos about narcissist moms on youtube. Ive done that for yrs but it wasnt until i found kris recently that i am learning that i dont need to put up with the abuse. Im in a tough spot bc now ahe has dimentia symptoms and expects me ro sacrifice my life and move in and care for her. Shea not even bad stages yet but acta like an invalid tho refuses to give up driving or go to a doctor etc so my point there is tell your friends their moms need to plan for old age get all documents in order now- wills medical directives etc. estate plans etc bc these mother will expect u to drop everything. And tell them to plan on an assisted living when the time comes bx being a caretaker is the worst position to be in as u have ptsd from childhood and its constantly triggered no matter how much healing u did. Hope that helps a bit. Im no expert but hope that helps somewhat.

[@deebullock9284]

You've just told my story....

[@DailyBibleReadingbyMichelle]

THIS WAS TOTALLY MY MOTHER!!!😢

[@Ivannator]

I know that I am man and this is catered to women or girls but I just wanted to say that this video confirmed alot of what I went through.

[@marymcphersonwilkins2897]

Is therr any way for them to change? Any way to talk to them where they actually drop their defensiveness for even a few minutes?

[@flowerbomb188]

How about that kind of Mother followed by bully brothers. Talk about living in fear.

[@BookishNaturopath]

What about lying behind your back in an attempt to destroy your reputation?

[@avoiceinthewilderness9864]

So my mom, sadly!

[@reflax6009]

I tried to respond to mother through messenger and told I told feel safe taking to them as they will just blame me - same with my sister I been scapegoat - my deceased father was too Mother blamed her husband sending hate message to her children because she was raised with no father I hated that and saw fathers suffering and thereafter having stroke I better live separately and knowing that’s what I did and not because toxic exposure

[@anneofhearts]

hi there! ive signed up for the free 14 page book twice and yet to get a download for it!!!!

[@Kris_Reece]

please be sure to confirm your subscription and check your spam folder

[@maggiesalle2256]

You described my mother and several church ladies to a T!

[@jenaya_laila2442]

What about toxic fathers?

[@mammabear4334]

Same characteristic's , unfortunately 🤦

[@avaholly28]

Silliness

[@jimaccosted9328]

This is my wife! My Son won't come home anymore and my daughter is on the path of leaving us behind just like her brother. But my wife won't see it

[@nonawolf7495]

Reach out to your children - you can still call them and talk to them, even if they won't come home. 40 years ago I moved far away to escape my mother, but I loved my Dad. It was always wonderful to get a call from him. Now that he is old and dying, my mother is the gate keeper... she won't let me talk to him. At least I know he loved me, and I have sweet memories of all the times we laughed together on the phone.

[@sunnybrookfarm762]

What about toxic children who have been brainwashed by a narc and been turned against their parents?

[@jhughes974]

Collection bucket 🪣 you’re preaching 😩👏🏾

[@ALC77787]

I left my Mother to go to Galway in July 2020 because I felt like she was treating me and but I can back to her December 2020 because I was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and couldn't do much by myself. Mum has reported to my psychiatrists more than once that I am very religious because I read the bible and have devotional and study books related to the bible and she complained that I was ordering a lot of stuff online. I work but live with Mum and she brings me into work during the mornings. Mum sees me as unwell and going through rehabilitation. Has she the right to do and say all of this. I am 35 years old.

[@rachaeldalterio7602]

What if the toxic person is not the mother, but the daughter? This video describes my 45 year old sister exactly! She is slowing destroying my mother, and it breaks mine and the family's hearts. I pray daily with my mother for my sister's healing of her mind and soul, and I know the Lord hears our prayers. I just don't know what to do. The rest of the family (other sister, nieces, nephews, grand-nephews, and myself) have chosen walk away and block her out of our lives, because the stress is too much (let me also note that the whole family understands forgiveness and would take her back in a heartbeat if she would open her eyes and change her ways). My mother, however, can't bring herself to let me sister go, so she keeps trying to help my sister, but just winds up getting verbally abused. Any advice/ prayers would be appreciated! PS, you did a wonderful job with this video.

[@alb9549]

I hope I’m not toxic.

[@kaseycorliss7282]

The fact that you don't want to be like that and care about the effects it will have on others seems to be a clear Indication that you are not to me anyways.

[@HeatherNickell]

Nothing. But gossip in sheep’s clothing…. The thief come to steel, kill and destroy !!! God is Love Look it up

[@leoburgunder9201]

Any thoughts on a video concerning Borderline Entrapment babies? Couldn't believe my toxic mom got knocked up on purpose to trap my (already engaged to someelse) dad. You would have to be seriously damaged by her parents to do something like that . Generational sin just rolling thru lifetimes!

[@LALady1]

Are we to continue to love them though because doesn’t God want us to love difficult people? I get so confused because we are to love enemies and love those that don’t love us? I just let go of this person that I felt used me and bad mouths me and then I turned in Daystar and they had this message on that we are supposed to love difficult people and love those that don’t love us.

[@wachiraofficial7619]

Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. You can love them from a distance.

[@deniseirish8913]

What if it is your daughter??

[@TacTar]

While were watching this, the same "mom" simultaneously is looking up youtube vids on toxic children while getting gassed up. Whose at fault here?

[@user-gj9bm4cu7q]

Seems 100% like her

[@wandataylor6266]

Boy that is my mother to a T.

[@mariep4018]

My toxic person is my daughter. She’s just like her father a narcissist, control, freak. Daddy’s girl all the way at least she thought she was until he neglected her also. Not to change the subject, but did you know birds or I’m gonna say animals and birds in the wild a better parents than human beings? They actually take responsibility and very good care of their young. I witnessed it every spring every spring I get.p blue birds, cardinals, and blue jays that nest in my trees and in my garden. I don’t know if it’s the same birds OK have the same habits. They guard the nest the mother sits on the eggs while the father hangs around a few feet away from wherever they’re nesters while mom is sitting on the eggs. Then once they are hatched, they both the male and female feed their young and you could hear them chirping and chirping until mom and dad show up and feed them. Until they’re ready to fly out of the nest. I’m in my house 11 years and 11 years every spring I get the birds in my backyard and in my garden and they do the same thing. Much better parents than most of the humans that I know. They’re actually more mature, especially more mature than narcissistic parents. I appreciate them. I enjoy them, and they truly are a miracle of Gods work.

[@babydii3487]

TOO MUCH DRAMA 💯

[@HeatherNickell]

Stop mom blaming..

[@robinrogers8917]

My mother stole 100k from me then started saying evil stuff about me to my entire family im done

[@TurnAwayNow]

🙃

[@megandisselkoen]

What about toxic daughters? This describes her to a T..

[@christinagarcia8166]

When are you gonna make videos on toxic adult children and not just mothers??

[@Kris_Reece]

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[@df27d]

Im a man and i want to black my mothers eye everyday.

[@thedramainew]

She's trying to turn you into someone you're not....so she can play the victim.Karma may run late but she NEVER misses a stop.I know it's difficult to deal with but trust that rising above her chaos will set you free from her evil intent 🙏🏾 keeping you in thoughts and prayers

[@df27d]

@@thedramainew thank you!! she knows exactly what to say to either manipulate or push me over the edge.

[@sharewithmetv8810]

My mother wish me and my wife death advice