5 Signs He's Lying to You (or Hiding Something)

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

its a great time!

[@joansheekey9874]

9 years with a man that hasn't seen yu in 3 months and rings yu but that's it

[@crissydalphone3870]

Thank you

[@kristiboyce9035]

Gaslighting causes brain damage. the biggest technique of any sociopath to get you under control. "Don't go believing your Lyin Eyes girl ..don't you trust me?" "We never stood a chance because you didn't trust me!" And my personal favorite, " "no wonder your ex left you is this what you did to him?". When all you did is asked a simple question of why they are coming home at 3 a.m.. I'm single forever now and that was a good video

[@kristiboyce9035]

if you feel constantly confused and you're questioning your own reality it is time to go and you don't need to know about them anymore you get that feeling you just go

[@doragracias8519]

"If you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship." Rightly said.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing.🙏🙏

[@questiona7]

Yeah so true , 😂 cheaters always said so , don’t trust their words

[@Trancymind]

If an individual doesn't trust himself/herself, you'll never trust anybody. You'll be living alone and rotting yourself slowly. If you have kids, none or your kids will come by to visit you once you are retired.

[@sandramullen7804]

Always listen to your gut instinct, it's there for a reason.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So true!

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[@Mrsblue1]

I am in love with this guy.

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[@alluretaylour]

1. Too many details: tells an entire story and gives out alibis. Trying too hard to sell you a story. 2. Not willing to make eye contact: breaks eye contact and is trying create details or can’t lie in your eyes. 3. Gets defensive: attacking you. Gets combative with you. Derailing. Gaslighting. 4. You find yourself rationalizing and/or making excuses for his behavior. 5. If it doesn’t feel right to you.

[@incognekto3]

Well Said Sis❤️

[@samanthamansi1184]

Yes mine did 3 to me when I pulled them up on it

[@kimclark8591]

Making too much eye contact and never breaking eye contact are big ones too. The reason is they are watching you closely to see how well you're receiving their lie(s).

[@samanthamansi1184]

@@kimclark8591 yes agreed

[@urbexlens8635]

You copied the video as a comment 😅

[@stacyfletcher7961]

Every time they swear on their mama, their grandma, or their kids. It's a lie.

[@olympiabaker4117]

Stacy Fletcher 👍🏼

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Exactly you got it Stacy Fletcher!

[@MrsEmoneyProductionStudio850]

Yeah, mine just swore to God and on his deceased dad's grave 🙄

[@tabatatee]

🤣😂🤣😂🤣truth!

[@GoRose]

Mine swears on his kids. How effed up is that???

[@soyamor24k]

“If you don’t have trust you don’t have a relationship”

[@Mat_Shaffer]

SO true!!

[@susansnowthacker7296]

Exactly

[@andreamcgehee5072]

Men always want us women to truat them

[@joannpizzo6939]

They want us to be stupid n the only relationship we have sometimes when your single is n your head abssessive compulsive lol a man with boxers lol n bop magazines the lies the lies the lies !!!! I'd rather look like a bit of kinda sluty n needy than be a lier

[@joannpizzo6939]

The lion king When you wore the dessert table !!! ....

[@leeanne0716]

When catching narcasist in a lie... He freaks out and it's my fault

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YEP thats their defense mechanism!

[@salinanichole8728]

Its always my fault everything he making up in his head I wonder if he really belives it and since he thinks it than that's whats happening and thats how he justify what he doing

[@GoRose]

Exactly.

[@jennyevans3312]

Omg yes

[@GoRose]

@@salinanichole8728 they actually truly believe it.

[@skyfall1481]

Let them lie. You can’t control their shady behaviour. Walk when it happens, no discussion, no closure. Leave.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great point!

[@bostonb1636]

"Stand in your power and walk away from this relationship". That's a great line, Mat. Thank you ♥️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're so welcome!

[@pagep9876]

Always go with your gut...it’s always right

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YEP exactly! It always is a good guide as long as it's listened to with discernment! :)

[@pagep9876]

You’re right in about everything especially gaslighting and when someone makes you feel like you shouldn’t even be questioning what you’re concerned about and makes you doubt your intuition. Dealt with all 5 of these.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

@@pagep9876 YEP thats a classic tactic :) glad you escaped from those antics!

[@janefriel6895]

Second brain.

[@rosieramos3760]

That is absolutely true

[@joliebulifant4995]

My husband is defensive all the time. We’re at the point where I cannot even ask as a conversation started “what time did you get off work last night?” It’s all so exhausting!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

sorry to hear that! have you tried being really vulnerable with him?

[@asnation3173]

jolie bulifant same here :/

[@joliebulifant4995]

Mat Shaffer yes, until I’m blue in the face. It goes in one ear out the other.

[@praisewithmusic]

He’s very defensive at even a stupid thing. Not good. He’s always doing 3&4.

[@marianarobledo6294]

Omg me too!! Sometimes i even get scared to ask him a question because hes already getting defensive even before asking him a question and always says that because hes tired and he doenst want to fight or he doenst wnat to talk about it because he knows its gonna end up on an argument ( very calm, respectful tone when asking him) suddenly he gets so tired that he doesn't want to talk about it and "respect him"for that as he says every time but its every single time he comes out with anything to avoid it !its always something also he always changes hes stories and tries to make me believe that je didn't say this and that but every single time when it's beneficial for him.

[@justlimalimaa5135]

Or that “believe what you want”

[@Mat_Shaffer]

OH YEAH that's a great one!!

[@katiehunt3083]

YES!

[@campahl17]

I get that a lot

[@hazzaplayz808]

Hahahaha yes!!!!

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[@lisaverbosky4967]

Yes, trust your intuition. Learned that the hard way myself

[@Mat_Shaffer]

[@mariestevenson9459]

Me too

[@MS-ns4ki]

Thanks fellas ❤

[@rosechapman949]

A few other ways to tell he is lying is 1/ he swallows hard after talking - 2/ his eyes start to water - 3/ he will laugh if you stare at him. 4/ One has to have a GOOD memory to be a liar.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Exactly you got it Rose Chapman!

[@hazzaplayz808]

Good points,I've also noticed my former partner would also raise his eyebrows and ALWAYS looked to the left,each time he would lie

[@Emily-us4gq]

OMFG my ex was impossible to talk to about anything I was concerned about and he used to say literally. Nothing it was like talking to a brick wall then when I would wait and stare at him for an answer he would laugh like a child! Omg lol I knew he was a bullshitter but apparently I had the problem the entire time and I was "crazy "

[@Emily-us4gq]

Oh yeah and he started putting his phone face down everytime I was around! Omg haha this was like 5 Years ago but when I see videos like this my mind goes right back there and I'm like yep yep yep tick tick tick haha so sad

[@dianabaez7064]

He gets very defensive every time I ask questions. Thank you.

[@headmarsha1218]

I know the feeling I ask questions to. An mine gets mad to. So I take it a day at a time

[@mercyoge5303]

Why do they get angry when you ask simple questions?? Why will they make us ladies feel bad

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@dixiechampagne2892]

If his lips are moving, he's lying, hee hee

[@jenniferosgood8983]

Right?

[@Audrey_luv365]

Lol

[@KattMurr]

I just typed the same thing...lol....

[@candican9853]

There are honest men.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@pjmrees]

This advice is spot on. I lived with a chronic lying narcissist. It sucks.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@mallorygilliam5473]

I am with a narcissistic sociopath. He's a cheater, liar and their. For a 5 yrs. You hit the nail on the head sociopath. He accuses me of cheating. Its a nightmare I want this over.

[@pjmrees]

@mallorygilliam5473 please get out. I stayed for 24 years waiting for his "potential". After all the abuse i took trying to get him to see the light and get professional help he divorced me for a new supply. He thought his girlfriend would be everything i wasn't. Turned out in 6 months, he came back saying he was wrong blah, blah, blah. I said you made your decision now live with it.

[@personthatisfangirling5589]

I asked to look through his phone after some issues we had in our relationship. He didn't want to, I said things like if you give me your phone and i don't see anything weird i can trust you again.., you can redeem yourself. He didn't want to than he gave his phone. couldn't even check clearly before he took his phone out my hand and said he didn't wanted to go trough with this anymore. The way he was acting was so defensive. I said that if he wouldn't give his phone i wouldn't be able to trust him anymore and that i dont see a point in the relationship anymore. He chose to not give his phone. I'm single now.

[@lillianpitts9853]

Mines did that and I caught him cheating that's what it is the faster you accept the faster you get better I didnt cause I tried to work it out and he still continued to cheat after agreeing to work on things RUN!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Not all men are like that person that is fangirling - I promise!

[@norasharp2272]

Good for you 👍

[@fatoumatad1356]

He was not sincere

[@KimMala-xk4ll]

At least he didn't try to disappear with his phone briefly and reappear with a sudden change of heart on letting you look at it! 🤣 Mine attempted that even after I told him not to even consider handing it over at any other point in time. Unfortunately I've discovered if you seek, you shall find!

[@sarahsantiago3960]

I have no proof, just my gut. I feel like he's seeing someone else so I just need to end it.

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Get a proof Sarah.

[@sarahsantiago3960]

@@naomifuentes3517 we haven't been dating that long, it's not really worth spending money on. if I feel like someone's lying, just gotta wait and see and follow my intuition

[@cara473]

If I were you, I would just walk. If he really wants you, he won’t want to let you go. Let that man miss you. It’s bad for our mental health to have to go thru this crap.

[@violetsni]

I hope you walked. I had the same damn issue... but I ignored it and now I am more heart broken then I have ever been

[@vickygrey2517]

These are the reasons why I choose to be single! Ugh

[@Mat_Shaffer]

haha I can understand that

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[@davinityt.741]

Almost 11 months out of a narcissistic contact, and ALL of these tactics happened. He once called me "typical!!" He was always trying to cover up what I knew was untrue. I admit, I ignored the red flags and stayed too long. ALWAYS trust your instincts.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESS your intuition that always one of your most powerful assets!!

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[@cara473]

My ex talks to all kinds of other women. Always told me they were just ‘friends’. He never would show me one message. Never. Always turn it around on me and tell me I’m stuck in my past cause my ex cheated. Bye boy

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Cara Manuel, you deserve better dear🙏🙏🙏

[@cara473]

@@oscarwilliamson1264 thank you. I appreciate you.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

@@cara473 which country are you from?

[@cara473]

@@oscarwilliamson1264 US. Michigan.

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[@oceanzennfamxo833]

1. Yes, Yes he does He's giving me more information then he's needed too, .. 2. He gives eye contact looks away for a second but scratch him self on the face. 3. Yes he's defensive and he turns it around on to me Gaslighting he is gaslighting. He says your the one who's insecure and look what I did for you ,I have done all this for you be grateful and respect me... It makes me feel guilty . 4.no 5. It doesn't feel right....... He gets angry when I ask he gets angry and he doesn't respect me when I ask him.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@LaykaAbalon]

same

[@chelsearedd4682]

I caught my ex cheating through our phone bill. When I finally confronted him he became so enraged yelling “you cxnt how dare you accuse me of this bs I swear I want to punch you in the head” and he came at me and acted like he was gonna punch me, laughed when I flinched and started crying, then threw me against the wall. Run and run fast once you see any of these red flags!!!!

[@teddybedlam2022]

what is happening to me

[@ariesenergy6761]

You are a strong woman. What he did was a controlling action. I dealt with this with an ex. That smug look from him says it all. 😳 I will never allow that fear ever again.

[@AM-eu7tp]

I am so sorry that happened to you.

[@zmaf1543]

Guys are actually dusgusting

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@carolinechase614]

mine was a narcissist and he was lying to me....found out when I mentioned to another guy where my guy was living...he told me that place didnt exist...I started watching for other signs, eventually so many red flags I got bored and withdrew and quit answering his calls and texts....we just quit connecting....thank God he never physically hurt me...just my pride

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for the beautiful share Caroline Chase 🙏

[@SylentArtist]

Hmm... The second one can also be the opposite. Like they will try and maintain eye contact in order to convince you to believe the lie. That's happened to me a few times in the past.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

ohh GREAT POINT!!! that's a total move as well!

[@Fingerscrossedout]

I also feel like the tmi is also the opposite like; "oh just that"... and end of conversation .

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[@nanbenton9850]

Even on his deathbed. The mfer cheated and lied and tried to gaslight me. I hated him when he was dying. Hated him when he died. Hate him still.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Not all men are like that Nan Benton - I promise!

[@MamaTwoYou]

Gaslight is reverse psychology

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Rissa Jenelle totally!!!

[@mariestevenson9459]

And mine had it down pat

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[@caffinatedirl8466]

TMI when he’s had time to concoct a story...defensiveness and anger when he’s put on the spot...yep! That resonated with me in a BIG way! Thank you for this video! It helped clear up some doubt in my mind about my recent ex-partner! Very concise and easy-to-grasp information in this video! Much appreciated! 🙏🏼

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!!

[@kennethhall9202]

When you leave them you will realize how much they were really lied.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Exactly you got it Kenneth Hall!

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[@ctokyox977]

Wym?

[@karienslaven4273]

Once a cheater always a cheater

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Not all men are like that Karien Slaven - I promise!

[@naomiwest9622]

@@Mat_Shaffer nice to know.

[@joss7028]

How do you know how to trust your intuition or “gut feeling” if you know you have anxiety in the first place?

[@snowwpea]

You’ll know

[@MiaCarter7]

@@snowwpeaSo if youre still not sure, does that mean you dont know? Do we know either way?

[@peaceminusone2150]

I agree what if you're wrong?...

[@janine1111]

Yes same here. But I thought if there’s no trust there’s no basis for a relationship for me

[@alexislee6830]

I'm the same

[@lillianpitts9853]

Sometimes they stare you in the eye and repeat same thing even though you found evidence of cheating

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Not all men are like that Lillian Pitts - I promise!

[@lillianpitts9853]

@@Mat_Shaffer hope to meet one like that one day but I'm not looking for anything anyone

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[@kimberlyedgett3592]

Yep. Happened to me. I found evidence of him on Tinder asked him about it and lied to my face

[@DiaN-do3jm]

if it feels off then it might be. and if there is evidence to that off feeling then it's dead on.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Mmhm where there’s smoke there is likely FIRE!

[@AFilipinaLovestoTravel]

That's life, this is the reason why I need to trust myself and be matured enough to understand the feelings of others.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

🤗

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[@tayoriginal4067]

That gut feeling is there for a reason sis!

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[phone]......

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I think so too!

[@Rod81111]

That's right as I'm getting older , my intuition has gotten so so much stronger and it's on point I know when things aren't right I know I get the sickness that I get and it's just like wow, my tuition is really really strong right now. Thanks for an awesome message and just for the clarifications on his dishonesty with me

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m happy this resonated with you

[@MS-ns4ki]

My inTuition is telling me that there have been lies on lies - go to hell

[@sarahesings]

Just saw this video and wanted to add another possible sign my narcissistic ex used to pull and that was being overly sweet. Unfortunately, it worked on me at first. Cards or flowers for no reason, overly complimentary. All of these things can be wonderful, but it turned out he was trying to mask his guilt. Thankfully, once I started recognizing the patterns, I was able to spot it right away. Thank you for this video. Your tips are awesome and you are helping many women! 🙏😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

great addition thank you!

[@wardakhan3513]

Damn... I never felt more targetted, because I could relate to ALL of these things. 😂 It's like this video was made for me. I'm shocked at the obvious things, it was already there, but this video gave me a nudge to see what's right. Thanks Mat for this video!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@DanandDonna1]

@3:30 Oh yes. Husbands do the same damn thing. I left mine because, later that year, he learned that my aunt gave me 20 bucks. He demanded that I give him that 20. I did but didn't speak to him the whole way home that night. (50 miles). The next morning I began looking for a better job and made plans in my head to move the heck out and away from that man. Whew! Saved my life.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing share! good for you!

[@ANGELSVEN]

Everything you said was spot on.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@suzannewilliams759]

Thank you so much for sharing this video. W/B sharing this with my deceitful spouse of 36 1/2 yrs. He's been cheating since 1990, & making up one lie to cover another, with the most recent done in writing New Years day 2024. I asked, he lied, I trusted him (against my intuition), & its the biggest mistake I've ever made. He admitted to manipulation & still at it, threatening suicide if I leave. He's doin everything he can to make me look like the bad guy, but says he wants forgiveness. I've heard it said: FORGIVENESS given by the person betrayed, with NO ACCOUNTABILITY accepted by the betrayor, is merely PERMISSION to continue the behavior.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@lovely1080]

He's weird about calling you but only wants to text 😒

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@hazzaplayz808]

Thank you sooo much Mat,you've help to uncloud my rose coloured glasses.Time to trust my gut, believe in myself and let go..and most importantly STAY AWAY. There's too much deflection,lying and anger on his behalf unfortunately. And tbh,having adult daughters I need to lead by example about self love and worthiness

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You got this!!

[@loreej2479]

Sarah, I hope you have left him. The FUTURE heartache and pain IS NOT WORTH IT! I’m 60 and the PAIN of being betrayed by him down the road will be TREMENDOUS!

[@ashleyevans438]

This can go both ways. Women do the same thing when lying. And half of the women who watched this video will stay with their partner even if he shows all these signs. Bc in reality we want the truth but we are in denial when we get it. And if you are in love then you are more likely to allow it. I love you all and hope that you find piece within yourselves and love bigger than you have ever known. ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

[@victoriahsieh3896]

A guy could be lying if he is denying something too vehemently. Who is he trying to convince? I saw a guy deny something to my face weeks ago. He seemed very nervous and his facial expression was one of anxiety. Usually this guy is calm and relaxed. I try to pay attention to vibes that people give off.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES that's a great point too... you are dead on!

[@kahdiaklvr]

4 and 5 wow just wow. I just cant, you’re so right. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend now ex for 7 yrs and I’ve had these feelings for damn well 2 yrs. and it was driving me mad. He just so happens to go away on a supposedly business trip and voila I find out this man is married and has been with his wife for 11 yrs. what a fool I’ve been. He has been living a double life and I’m just beside myself

[@Mat_Shaffer]

release that beat up my dear all that matters is that you know now and you can shift AWAY from him! what a blessing you found out

[@Bowfriend]

I went threw the same thing, only I was the wife. He had a girlfriend for years, always changing jobs, moving around (I really think there are women all over the US). My daughter was a straight A student and athlete, so I stayed put and was going to join him when she left for college. When I would question he would do all of these things. I STARTED THINK I WAS CRAZY. Honestly, I think it I was done before we ever annulled it, I was so depressed and anxious all the time. I would scratch my skin until I bleed. I was a just a shell of a person at the end. I felt like a huge weight was lifted when I finally confronted him and the woman (he always told me I was crazy when I confronted him alone, because she was just a colleaguehe worked with... LoL). Sadly, I dont trust my instinct anymore, because of all this. I am in a new relationship and because of everything I have been through I over analyze and over think everything. I actually meet with a counselor every week, and discuss my relationship and insecurities for 10-15 minutes each session. My counselor really feels the man I am with is sincere, honest and loving, so she helps me analyze everything from a rational perspective. It has really helped me work through things that I question, and she has helped me stop my obsessive thought processes. Oddly tonight I am spiraling, and am watching this video. I see only one point. My BAE works in I.T. and is the only one in his global company who can do what he does. The other 2 on his team quit last month (I was laying next to him at home when they made the announcement on the conference call they were leaving) So I know for a fact he is working 80-90 hours weekly, because he has had to build and to support all the systems for people to work from home for his company during COVID-19. However, because of my past I watch all these videos looking for signs that I am missing something or being lied too. Luckily he has been extremely understanding, and says I can come to work anytime I want or if I am in doubt. He never calls me crazy, but he lets me know where he is and what he is doing. He knows what I have been through, so he reassures anytime I tell him I am insecure, and ask me what HE can do to help me feel more at ease. If I ask questions he answers them with understanding and compassion, without getting angry or judgemental. I am not used to this, and at first I thought he playing games with me, but as time has moved forward he has remained consistent and steadfast. I am now typing all this and feel crazy for being online searching for signs. I guess all I am trying to say is I know the pain you are feeling Smiley. If you ever need to talk, feel free to reach out. I have found it is hard for people to relate if they have never lived through this. Be kind and loving too yourself, and know sometimes you will overthink, over analyze but you will overcome. There are men out there who are good, and now you have freed yourself to find them. I wish you the best, and will pray for your healing. I hope you find peace in knowing that letting this toxic man go, has freed to find someone who will respect you and love you fiercely. You deserve the best love has to offer.

[@ljackson2684]

Everything he’s saying is spot on! This guy is awesome! 💯 listen to your gut! It’s always right it’s not just your imagination it’s your inner intuition listen to it!

[@chrisrock1021]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

[@A83-A83]

or if you bring up some thing that concerns you and he tries to dismiss it and say your nagging he's pulling some bs.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YEP you got it!!

[@relayne6609]

Why most of the guy lying to a women with sincere intentions and not realizing they can hurt them why it easy for them to hurt and ignored women with good intentions to love them?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

its your job to walk away from those sort of men!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

not to understand why they are the way they are

[@shelbyisrael6643]

Ok but that's the only kind of man I've ever known. They have all been the same. I've been in 3 long term relationships with the same type problems. You think i would learn by now.

[@bryanowen3105]

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[@claireclairmallari9789]

Yes always listen to your instinct

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yesss you gotta!

[@bryanowen3105]

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[@simmysguidancemedley7049]

listen just get a private detective

[@Mat_Shaffer]

lol theyre expensive!

[@charisseburns951]

That's what I need

[@charlenemoody4496]

I WOULDN'T WASTE A NICKEL ON A SORRY ASS MAN..THAT'S CHEATING. AT THAT.

[@patrinacopeland265]

That's spending good hard earned money on someone who isn't worth it!

[@esmiemiller8388]

He came home with hickeys and scratches all over and still denies it...can you tell me how I go about hiring someone to spy on him?

[@alexthebullo]

It's true.All these attitudes I noticed in him.And he doesn't want to take a time to discuss about the relationship.Thank you Matt.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@lorahollifield6495]

So I have found my boyfriend on dating sites, and sex sites chatting with other women, and when i ask him about it he blames me for his actions,

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Not all men are like that Lora Hollifield - I promise! sounds like he might not be the one for you

[@annacarter4879]

Leave

[@loreej2479]

I hope you have left him ,Lora.

[@chrisrock1021]

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[@meghantheiler6735]

GET RID OF HIM BOY BYEEE 👋🏼

[@svitlanai8719]

Very true: no trust - no relationship! Very sad, but is true. Men do not lyi your women, who love you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great point!

[@Gold-sf1kq]

Always believe in yourself over your bf/gf always! ✊Love isn't blind, u know whats going on but your trying to make yourself believe hes good

[@sonlee1210]

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[@Gold-sf1kq]

@@sonlee1210 thank you and its very true I personally suggest tictok start watching relationship related stuff and ur fyp will recommend u videos lile signs u should leave someone when the person is the one and it moght motivate u to haave a glow up after a break up?? This will also get u ready for when u get into a relationship, because of tictok i now believe in myself over anybody and if i think my partner is bad for me then i will leave them i will never i try not to waste more time

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@brigittecuthbertson7197]

Now I know he’s lied to me, thanks so much! My gut was telling me he was but now I know for sure. ❤

[@Lana-gp5fj]

Are there really any men that can be trusted?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES I promise there are!

[@Lana-gp5fj]

@@Mat_Shaffer Okay, I'll hang in there.

[@nicolaparkes3431]

No.

[@pangvang6207]

no!

[@marshajohn9753]

Haven’t been with one yet.

[@sofiaapplegate5909]

THANK YOU...Nothing I didn't know. But hearing through someone else especially a Man...brings things back into prospective & reality

[@clarahammar9307]

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[@clarahammar9307]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're welcome! ❤❤

[@crissyvilla3964]

Sign #5 got me here. Trusting my intuition. So, now I'm all hmmmm. 🤔 I hope I'm not overthinking again.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM its all about discernment there! its a fine line!

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[@ateachableheart2649]

My gut has been screaming at me about my husband of almost 20 years. Then earlier this week, he left a washcloth in the bathroom on the sink vanity and it had lipstick and foundation on it. There are so many other things leading up to this "evidence" that have fallen into my lap, I did not go seeking for them, or looking for something that wasn't there. He can lie on a dime without flinching, I've watched him in action. I used to feel very safe and secure in our relationship, our love, his love for me. I used to be so loved , respected by him and he used to bare his soul to me. For years now he is shut up and directs anger at me, criticizing me all the time, making me feel like it's my fault. I'm so heartbroken.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

[@summertime2993]

"He always got them Fucking excuses, I pray the Lord he reveals what he's truth is" #Sotrue in Beyonce's words

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amen sister! love it! 🙏

[@summertime2993]

@@Mat_Shaffer Yeah and I love you're ocean eyes, is it fair?🤘🏻

[@cheleamerica1st87]

#1 is absolutely true and I’ve always known that! #2 is false a man will dead eye you and lie!!! #3 everybody deflects and gets angry when caught lying! #4 facts! LoL #5 trust your gut! #6 those that accuse are the guilty party!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESS you got it!!! :)

[@gritsonamission]

The statement, "whatever... You tell a good story,". Mmm-hmmm. That just means I got every detail right. Time to calmly excuse myself from his life. Ain't nobody got time for drama and gaslighting.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amen sister!

[@happymv5350]

So true. Wish I would have been more honest with my self, followed my gut throughout my whole marriage that my ex had multiple affairs and it took his last girlfriend trying to poison me to finally get me out of denial. 13 years toxic relationship free (YAY!) and though still struggling with trust issues, I'm stronger, wiser, healthier and so much happier.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

[@alicialily8316]

My man does most of these... I always call him out and he always does most of these

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Not all men are like that Alicia Lily - I promise!

[@karolinah12]

Where there is real love, there's no need for questions

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your honest feedback. It’s important to hear different perspectives, and I appreciate you sharing yours.

[@negin4963]

This was really helpful. Thank you so much!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Neg in so welcome!!

[@gypsymorrison5308]

That’s the key!! Doesn’t feel right my intuition always right anyway

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Many thanks!

[@erinv7684]

Wow! This is the first of Matt’s videos I’ve watched and I can’t say enough how helpful and validating he was for me. Unfortunately, I can absolutely see every single one of these signs in my husband’s regular on-going behavior. This is devastating! However, knowing there is something very wrong in your relationship ship and not being able to identify it or have anyone else validate it for you, **that** is FAR WORSE! It’s strangely comforting to feel validated by a man who seems to be, not only, emotionally healthy and highly educated but also quite sensitive and insightful. It really does take a man to teach women how *other men* often deceive their partners. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve learned so much from women as well, but, there is something very powerful about a man sharing with me just how other males (some, not all) behave. In this instance, were talking about men who lie. Who better to teach you what to watch for than another man who’s trying to help you, who’s got your back? Looking back to when I met my husband (18+ years ago), I knew there was something off, even before we began dating! Why oh why didn’t I PAY ATTENTION to all of those red flags, I’ll never fully know. I tried to end it many times over the course of the four years we dated but he was my first serious everything and I did fall in love with him. I then married him and, as a deeply faithful person, took my vows very seriously. Two kids, and 18 years of intertwining our lives, I now feel like a hopeless shell of my former radiant self. I’ve isolated from almost everyone I knew and loved as I’m so ashamed of who I’ve become. How could I ever explain what has happened to me. I don’t even understand it. I will say this, the more I watch videos like this one and listen to *smart* podcasts and read and learn about covert narcissism and sociopathy, the two personality disorders I believe my husband is on the spectrum of, the more strangely hopeful I feel. Knowledge is power. I’ve always believed that. When I feel validated and better understand *why* he is behaving the way he is, the less personal I take the behavior and the more energy I have to put into both my children and helping myself get stronger so that I can actually *do* something to change my circumstances. I don’t blame myself for marrying someone who lied over and over and projected an image of someone he thought I would love and want to be with. I’m an honest person. For the most part, what you see it what you get. When I was young, I thought other people were, for the most part, the same way. I’ll never fully understand just what it is in *ME* that allowed/accepted this behavior for so long but, somehow, o er the course of our 18 years together, I have allowed this man, who I do truly love and want the best for, to take my own power from me. If I could have looked into the future, I would have *never believed what I saw. I NEVER imagined I would be a woman who would allow a man to turn me into an almost unrecognizable shell of myself. I was raised by a strong single mother. I am, by nature, a very honest, sincere, generous, passionate, loving and highly-educated woman, not to mention, not hard on the eyes (especially back in my prime). I apologize for rambling on. Clearly, this video hit home for me. There’s an infinite amount I could say but I’ll leave my review/story at this... Matt, you nailed this subject on the head! I’ve just subscribed to your channel and will check out your website. If you’re still offering any classes, I may sign up for one. Clearly, you have a great deal Of insight and you are not only a great communicator, your pleasant to watch and listen. I like your demeanor. Thank you very much for what you do. And good for you for leaving law to do something you felt more passionate about. I don’t know much about your store. Again, this is the first and only one of your videos I’ve seen. But I believe you mentioned in the intro that you were/are a lawyer. I’m a veterinarian. I love my profession and don’t want to leave it but am nervous a out getting back into the field having been through so much with my husband and haven taken so much time off to raise my two young daughters. This fall was suppose to be my youngest’s first year of preschool and I had planned to return to work now. However, with COVID, I now have both girls at home and will have to postpone returning to work yet again. I wish you lived near me so I could hire you to help me figure out just what happened to me and how I can begin fixing it. I believe the first step is education and working to become stronger, both physically and mentally (education, meditation, getting sufficient sleep, exercise and nutrition, etc) as I prepare to make a plan for change. Thank you for what you do 🙏 -Erin

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[@mz.cbreezy5640]

Hi Matt, thank you so much for this information, tips, and video, well said♥️ Going through it right now. Mines told me I was being insecure earlier. Said that I am the only woman he wants. Said I don't have to text this and that without not knowing what went on. How it can make a good man do this and that. That he's going to call back as soon as he finds out what happened to the uncle. And yes one time yesterday I heard a female voice in the background. But from a different number. I was like wtheck. Then didn't hear it no more. I think he knows he messed up. We were good I thought. But if he been lying like that. We haven't been. When I called him out with his lies. Said that he is trying to figure out what happened to his uncle. Then he said that he's stress and all, because of his uncle being laid out on the ground after having a ministroke & in the hospital and he trying to figure out what is going on. He never called but I guess he wasn't or he was lying over whole little 4min dialogue. Definitely red flags all over the place. Also he answers calls he don't know but whenever he sees my mines; knowingly and rudely don't answer. But will call them numbers right back and leave voicemails saying, hey "hit me back". Smdh 😔 Not settling for no man's disrespect like that. I know I deserve the best‼️Nobody deserves to be ignored like that ever. Especially, after you've invested time and energy in a relationship with your man/woman. My ex eye's and certain cheating habits when their woman not around. Took a step back, reminded myself who I am. Realized he just wasn't man enough to speakup & I'm done, was heartbreaking💔 at first, now I am recovering and I am courageously and surprisedly doing well. Despite the hurt he had put on me. His lose

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Exactly you got it Mz. CBreezy!

[@Arana100posto]

I just want to tank you Mat, I keep watching your podcasts as I found myself single after 25 years... it’s a jungle out here... with dating sites and Tinder, it feels like we are all saturated with options. I think I will take your advice and just go traveling for a bit and meet people face to face, bit old fashioned but I hope it will work. Thank you and will keep in touch. Let you know when I found “the one”

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING thank you for this share!! please keep us posted on how your adventure goes, I bet you will get some amazing results from it

[@TEXTRYANSROOMONINSTA]

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[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Ranka Komlenac, you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

[@Arana100posto]

Thank you so much everyone, I have found him, actually he found me, we become friends and now we can’t imagine not having each other in our lives..... we are living apart due pandemics, he is in a different country but despite all of the distance we FT 5-6 times a day ever day text in between, we tell each other everything and being honest, it took me a while to build the trust but it’s there now and we seams very comfortable with each other. I’m fully aware that being face to face things might be bit different, but having understanding of that and loving person for who they are and values they hold is so much more important, I’m sure lucky 🍀 that he found me. I do feel as we are meant to be and soulmate feeling. I truly wish everyone best of luck and love yourself and be kind to yourself first then others 💕🥰🌸💕😌, thank you Mat once again 💕

[@Arana100posto]

PS, he proposed too, I meet his parents and sisters over FT too 🥰😌

[@sassygirl5422]

Yea every time they open there mouths... when his lips are moving he is lying.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

LOL some of em! :)

[@TEXTRYANSROOMONINSTA]

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[@hannastenros6009]

I think there are so many people now that colive with their phone, surfing etc so normal relationships including affection, eyecontact etc. have become a luxuary.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Exactly you got it Hanna Stenros!

[@tanhue1265]

helpful, i mean its easy to say just listen to your gut, but the reality is when you are into someone, its so easy to be in denial. I would say listen to your friends cause they can probably see that before you can.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this! Thanks much

[@queensally9794]

What if he’s never! given me a reason to doubt him and recently I’ve got it in my head that he’s cheating. Like I have a feeling

[@chrisrock1021]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality.

[@domt4588]

My gut is definitely telling me something more is going on with ex wife. Thank you for this!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It’s good to pay attention to your intuition-it often knows more than we realize. 😊 I’m glad this video resonated with you. If you’re interested in diving deeper into relationship insights and dealing with situations like this, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨

[@metal.queen88]

The man I’m seeing has severe PTSD, past trauma and bad past relationship experiences; and I’ve taken the time to research and learn more about PTSD like he suggested to me to understand him. I can normally tell and feel when people are feeling off or something in their life is off, so when I feel that off feeling with this man, I give him space by indulging in my own hobbies such as drawing, and in a couple of days send a text to check in with him; then I go do my own thing while I wait for a response from.💁🏻‍♀️🥰💛🕊️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@morningsong8077]

The gaslighting! Yes! This happened EVERY time I wanted to discuss things in our marriage. My husband quit going to church during the pandemic. He worked from home. He was scared to death about catching Coronavirus or bringing it home to our children. All of a sudden, he started making frequent trips to Walmart. He would be gone for hours and come home with only a couple of items. If his mother or I asked him to do something during work hours, it was always unacceptable. He would always say no, get upset, snd say he had to be working. Bit he was ok to run out any time it suited him otherwise. He also kept both his work phone and personal cell phone with him nearly all the time. And while he was having more and more freedoms, he kept denying the kids and me ours.

[@fredrickbenedict6869]

𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎..

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love sister!

[@judysapp4534]

How can you keep going when you really care about someone but they act like they just don't care...

[@Mat_Shaffer]

walk away my dear!

[@bryanowen3105]

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[@susans660]

All true....but #3! Nailed it!! Thank you Mat for the validation. I needed this.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Perfect!

[@laurieclarkson9180]

One thing I loathe is when I confront a man about lying to me, and then he proceeds to call me crazy. When I was in my 20's, this bs man tactic used to work. After our fight, I'd sit alone and think "Maybe he's right. I have too much time on my hands and I'm overthinking things. Maybe I AM being a little crazy" LMAO I'm in my 40's now and when I know a man is lying, I do not back down and when one calls me crazy, I say "Don't you dare call me crazy! If you want to call me crazy, I WILL SHOW YOU CRAZY so you know the difference and never forget it" LOL Getting older is a beautiful thing.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@natasha-thesingingflower2362]

I didn't know that his gaslighting was happening. Very eye opening. Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy I could be of help.

[@joynkindness]

Details aren't always lying. A person with a good memory will give details without even trying to. Docs have thought I was lying when my son and I give details about medical histories. We weren't lying. We were trying to give as much info as possible to help them take care of us. MM all rights reserved

[@Mat_Shaffer]

love the rights reserved haha :) it isnt always the case but it can absolutely be a "tell"

[@joynkindness]

@@Mat_Shaffer I am a writer and I write about what my family and I have been through. why I put that. MM

[@My1985Toyhouse]

Oh yes! You hit the nail on the head man.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much Sharron Ginn! 🙏❤️

[@cathybond7843]

What do you do when the guy you’re with lied from the jump and 15 years later you HATE the person you’re with?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

sounds like it's time to move on and embrace happiness!

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😂 not laughing at you, this was my life move on

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BETTER LATE THAN NEVER..LEAVE.

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He always asks me if I'm a police officer for asking questions.

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Holy shyt. He gaslit me. He exactly did what you said when I asked him a few questions. Not rude not accusatory just seeking clarity. I left the conversation feeling bad for even asking when they were VALID questions and the reason I even have them is bc he has BOLDFACE LIED to me before tears and all! He is lying this vid confers it!

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

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Mat, thank you. Red flags here!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM good to recognize them!!

[@lakeemelbey2582]

I'm being accused of something I didn't do. The gut feeling she had was wrong, and it's draining my energy. She came up with a female issue and falsely accused me of being unfaithful. I know I never even thought about leaving her. But now she wants me to confess to something that I didn't do. I know justice will prevail.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Stand in your truth and it will all work out :)

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YOU NEVER ADMIT TO SOMETHING YOU DIDN'T DO AND I WOULD WARN HER THAT IF SHE KEEPS IT UP..SHE'LL MOST DEFINITELY PUSH YOU AWAY. IT GETS TIRING. AND MOTHER ALWAYS TOLD ME THAT A PERSON WHO ALWAYS ACCUSES AND YOU KNOW YOUR NOT DOING ANYTHING..PROBABLY HAS A LOT TO HIDE THEMSELVES.

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

haha glad we connected!! :)

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Hahaha..hysterical My Ex did all that stuff....A professional liar, cheater, & fornicator of MANY women. Adios Loser!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM congrats on kicking him to teh curb :)

[@tabatatee]

My husband did that too many details thing and for a long time I never thought he’s lying 🤣 Now that he got caught he’s back to his short sentences - wow 🤣

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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Yess. Even when he tells you why are you making problem

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I hate when people constantly lie. You can never trust them.

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love sister!

[@gaia1577]

I can't agree wholeheartedly with number 1 because I feel I have to be detailed do my partner doesn't think I'm lying even when I'm telling the truth. Yes, it's unhealthy and and he should have no issue believing me has I have never done anything bad, but he is insecure. Yes, I know I shouldn't enable his behavior.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for the beautiful share Gaia 🙏

[@mariahsmith5380]

Honestly you just never know. Sometimes a lot of info could just mean they’re trying to prove to you, you’re being honest.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

communication is key!!!

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True

[@geanieollman2320]

Oh, definitely! My ex blinked super fast when he lied. Such a give away…

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback! :)