5 Signs He's Not Going To Marry You

[@bossbabe7725]

If he doesn't want to marry you, you owe him nothing... Honesty, commitment, sex, respect, children, support, loyalty, cooking, cleaning, nothing.

[@CodyCole80]

I wish all ladies thought like you.

[@gazellecountryside9269]

Boss Babe amennnnnnnnnn.....I always tell women to date with their eyes open and legs close.

[@bella28498]

So true.

[@atlasshrugged2u]

Well, by rights if he's getting all of that anyway *Boss Babe* why should he marry you?...No offense to you personally. You've given him all the benefits of having a wife and mother for his kids without him taking responsibility to make it official or legal. If I were a guy and was given all of that I wouldn't marry either...Men have much more to loose than women if it doesn't work out. I don't blame them for stalling it out as much as possible

[@Sheya404]

Exactly!!

[@iluvmyboba]

Marry yourself. Prioritize your life. Put things in order. Make The LORD your top priority. And watch how things fall into place. I'm a living witness.

[@terrybardy2923]

God hates my guts!

[@margerywright3599]

@@terrybardy2923 OH REALLY: SO W H Y DID HE SACRIFICE HIMSELF AND DIE T H E MOST TORTUROUS AND HORRENDOUS DEATH ON THE CROSS TO SAVE US FROM AN ETERNITY IN HELL THEN????????? YEAH: OF COURSE: WITH ALL THAT HORRIFIC AND SICKENING AGONY HE WENT THROUGH FOR Y O U: HE ABSOLUTELY HATES Y O U??? WHY??? YOU WERE ON HIS MIND WHEN HE WAS HANGING IN SCREAMING PAIN AND UNBEARABLE AGONY WHICH WE CANNOT EVEN BEGIN TO IMAGINE!!!¡¡¡ HE SUFFERED AND DIED FOR EVERY SINGLE PERSON: INCLUDING MURDERERS, TORTURORS, THE VIOLENT AND DANGEROUS,, RAPISTS, CHILD ABUSERS, ANIMAL ABUSERS, LIARS, THIEVES, TRAFFICKERS AND ALL THOSE WHO HATED HIM AND CRUCIFIED HIM: THE MOST PAINFUL, SLOW AND AGONISING DEATH THAT SATAN COULD THINK OF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! STOP SELF PITYING YOURSELF AND THANK HIM FOR ALL HE HAS DONE FOR Y O U ON YOUR KNEES!!! REPENT AND COMMIT YOUR LIFE TO HIM: ACCEPT JESUS INTO YOUR HEART AND YOU WILL BE A BRAND NEW PERSON, READ THE BIBLE AND ASK GOD TO SEND YOU TRUE CHRISTIANS TO PRAY WITH YOU AND FELLOWSHIP WITH AND TO LEAD YOU TO THE RIGHT CHURCH!! THANK GOD THAT YOU ARE STILL ALIVE AND NOT IN HELL FOR ALL ETERNITY AND MAY GOD RICHLY BLESS Y O U ALWAYS, AMEN!!! I AM SURE THERE ARE NOW MANY PEOPLE PRAYING FOR YOU TO SEE AND KNOW THE T R U T H!!! ❤🤗😇🙇🙏👼👆☝🖒👍👌👏👏👏❤ 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

[@catricem458]

I agree with making the LORD your top priority

[@catricem458]

THE LORD

[@terrybardy2923]

@Asa Olsen Worse he told me to my face!!!!

[@Shay4YourMind81]

Personally, if I have to "put my foot down" and give a guy an ultimatum to get him to marry me, then he is not worth my time. I'd rather be with a man who's as sure about me as I am about him. Not a guy that I have to push, pull, and drag down the aisle. I'm just saying...

[@comelearnsomali4511]

Shay4YourMind81 True! Though I think she more so just means giving the man the wake up call. Sometimes a man might just get "too comfortable" or still staying even though he sees no future of marriage with the women, he might be staying because why not? "It's just a relationship". Though letting him know if in like 5 years he still doesn't see a future with you, there's obviously a reason(s) for it. And he can dig it within himself to figure that out and see whatever conclusion he comes to. Because as the woman many women would like to be set free and find a man who actually would love to marry them and if he can't be the one, he'll have her know or he'll step up to the plate. Though either decision would be his and his alone.

[@mikayacox3035]

Shay4YourMind81 I kind of thought the same thing

[@realfireman9835]

Shay4YourMind81 great video and ur right. There are exceptions me personally, I got married at 32 but I put it off because of school. I wasn’t gonna marry my lady while I was finishing up school...again.I honestly didn’t have the time and I felt like i really didn’t wanna start my new life off while I was paying off loans and didn’t have enough time to give my all. I had already put it off twice to go back to school. We survived, and when I got that job my first check went towards buying that ring.

[@corsicanlulu]

ur totally right and it doesnt take long for a man to want to marry u, months to a year maybe , not long-ass 5-10 yr. engagements? thats B.S. and thats why u see long relationships and the next one a guy is on he marries the next woman in less than a year and why? because u were just a placeholder for him

[@atlasshrugged2u]

That sounds good and all but sometimes you do have to give a guy an ultimatum. He has to have a push and sometimes even realize that he will loose you if that's not what he wants to do and knows that you do. Just have to have an honest talk about it...

[@brendanydiawalters3676]

Ladies please, if he wants the benefits of a wife without getting married, let him go! Don't let these men take advantage of you.

[@luyandagirl]

1. He tells you he doesn’t want to get married or believe in marriage. 2. He talks about marriage only in a future based way. 3. He uses ‘but’ when he talks about marriage. Eg “I want to marry you but I have to save up for a while before we marry” 4. You guys have been together for a number of years but instead of a proposal he gets you luxurious gifts. 5. When you finally put your foot down he gets very defensive or he guilt trips you so you won’t leave.

[@alphakennedy8012]

And u still loving with him

[@chillnergy]

My ex told me that he would never get married again because he has already done that...I moved out,got a job as a model that was very successful. He saw my pics in magazines then flew out to ask me to marry him...HELL NAWWW!!!! Too late!!!

[@awinojuju8522]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ntuchumelvis9297]

Girlllllllllllll you the baddest

[@jozuavieira46]

Yesss girl!

[@coolieward3255]

Stop lying u ain't no dang model it's a reason dude didn't want to marry u

[@Michellemybell739]

Wow!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@naijawife12]

I learned my lesson years ago with my now ex. I was with him for several years. He wanted all the benefits of a wife such as a clean house, home cooked meals exactly like the way he was used to growing up with his mother who cooked three meals a day, and unlimited sex. He was even trying to have a baby with me and make me a mother. He wanted the benefits but yet when I brought up marriage he got defensive. He claimed he was not ready for marriage yet and made all kinds of excuses why. He said that one day he would marry me and he also claimed that I was putting pressure on him. One clear sign that I should have taken that he was not going to commit was when he mentioned how he had been with exes before me for up to 5 to 10 years and more without getting married and how I was lucky that he did not leave me because when his exes would bring up marriage and would give ultimatums that he would end the relationship. I woke up one day and just looked back at all the time I had wasted with this man who was doing nothing but stringing me along. I felt I deserved so much better than having a man who I was basically shacking up with and who I was wasting years with that I could never get back. As in the words of Erica Campbell, "No pressure but I'm not a permanent girlfriend." So I told him one day that I was not pressuring him in no kind of way but that just because I was not putting any pressure on him does not mean I would continue to keep sitting around waiting for him to make up his mind and I walked away after that from the relationship. This man was already a narcissist and I already needed to get away from him anyway aside from him wasting years of my life with him. Of course he was not happy when I ended the relationship and he claimed that I was not patient enough with him, I gave up on him, and that I was a weak woman for doing that. I said you can call me whatever you want because I could careless but I will not keep wasting my time with you. Him being the narcissist he was after that he kept trying to come back in my life and I was done with him and walked away with no regrets. Fast forward today I am married to a man who loves me unconditionally, respects me, and he wasted no time with me and he put a ring on it.

[@vbrad6226]

Wow amazing 👏🏾

[@joyfulreflections]

I am glad you were able to find the love of your life.

[@babyangy7026]

🙌🙏

[@helendiamond5574]

I am glad you took the courage to walk away from the unhealthy relationship

[@vjl2232]

What a beautiful outcome, God bless you!

[@kimcham9949]

#4: I just told my husband and son this. "A man doesn't get married because he's in love. He gets married to stop access to you from other men." He can love you and shack up with you, knock-you-up, the whole nine, but not marry you. When he realizes that somebody else can have you, he decides to make a decision. When he thinks you might go to someone else, he's not too worried. When he thinks someone else might ACCEPT you, he's scared.

[@MsRae-ev9hs]

What you said makes sense...Men seem to have this need to have some kind of control. I have this theory...I don't think men can love I think men only do control. They have to have control over you in some way in order to want to stay. If I end up alone still when I am 50 at least I will know why I ended up alone. Its because me and men are opposites who don't attract. Men love through the ability to control and I tend to hate based on someone attempting to have control over me.

[@joniheisenberg6691]

So true !

[@geraldos9094]

Kim Cham Still not a good reason for him to marry. Why would I want someone basically because they fear losing me? It’s not about love....it’s only fear driven. I guess for a lot of you, it’s the best you can do....

[@snap2114]

@@MsRae-ev9hs VERY WELL SAID. I've never thought of it that way but it makes perfect sense. The only time my ex wanted to marry me was when he found out I was going to marry someone else!

[@snap2114]

@Titu Miah That is SO NOT True! In this day & age women & young girls are choosing to marry much later than 25! I know plenty girls who've married much later than 25.

[@bas9871]

It is sad when I watch this video and some of the actual words you say are the very words I have heard before. Gladly, I do not stay in relationships too long if they are not progressing towards marriage. Thanks for the video.

[@bas9871]

Thanks..hugs

[@foxxyldyfrca]

You are not alone honey! I think we all have heard these lines at one time or another!

[@CurtisReese-tl7ip]

A man could care less how long you stay as long you're fucking while you are there.

[@tanyatmr]

I am aware that feelings are involved. However, if a man does not want to marry you, move out of his way so the person he wants can find him. He should also move out of your way, so you can find the person that wants you. Too many women waste time with men who don't want them. Walk away without being nasty or mean and cut off all communication. Cry in privacy and let it go. It will hurt like hell, but in the long run you'll be glad you made that decision.

[@belindacrutchfield9259]

True..never let know one waste your time ..and get out his way for the one that's best for him...

[@Star-vg7ix]

Women need to set a time limit. Give him about 2 chances where he might get scared but if it's too far away (PLEASE LOVE YOURSELF WHEN YOU DO THIS) then just leave; no contact whatsoever. RUN.

[@janellentim]

Why do black women have to fight so hard to be loved? Constantly getting fed love advice 24/7.

[@AE-vu9rz]

Consider the KZbin algorithm and the kinds of videos you watch. Also I don’t think this video has anything to do with being black. This woman in particular, just happens to be black. What she is saying is entirely general.

[@AE-vu9rz]

You should never be “fighting to be loved” by anyone. You love yourself first and then everything follows.

[@acajudi100]

Not all of us...

[@ladennayoung2939]

I get what you are saying. I feel that society put out there that we are not consider to be trophy wives or what have you. A lot of times men are conditioned to fantasize about black women in a sexual manner, but nothing more. It's sad that our race have been torn apart, and that we are so divided.

[@f.-j.j.5738]

Because the only advice we really need is to love ourselves. Black women in particular are a group that struggle to love themselves, because they have been put down so often and by so many. When you love yourself, it's easy to be loved, to be sought after, you'd have to fight guys away from you.

[@LibertarianGal]

How can men have a child or several children with a woman and still be on the fence about marrying her? That seems so backwards to me.

[@winning3329]

Because Society let's men get away with such behavior. Back in the old days men were shamed if they left a pregnant woman but now they are almost congratulated.

[@wanZ...]

It's done more than you know...

[@Aritul]

I have wondered the same thing.

[@wanZ...]

@@Aritul It's done because of little training as to what making a baby and parenting entails. We have failed to teach our children the basic fundamentals of R-E-S-P-O-N-S-I-B-I-L-I-T-Y!!! It's easy to make a baby. To raise a child and/or children is a task. A task of beauty and fulfillment if you allow it to be. I've struggled with parenting alone...but, I worked hard at instilling strong morals and value in my children. It can DEFINITELY be done.

[@christina2311]

Because the woman allows it 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@BeachComber1977]

This girl knows what she's talking about.

[@charlottesmith7279]

My aunt lived with a man for 20 yrs.now during that time he would promise to marry her as soon as he finished building the house.each year he would go to visit his parents and they told him to marry her because previously he would take a new woman to meet them..long story short.she became ill with kidney failure.the doctor gave her 3 months to live.that was when he went to buy a ring and say he would marry her when she got well.she lived for 6mths then died.he never marry her.and now another woman is living in the house they built together..i told my aunt many times to leave him because he didn't value her..but in the end it was her decision..

[@jagwheelproductions8802]

There is three reasons why guys dont get married either you like it or not 1. Hes broke 2. Your not fully wife material/ realtionship isnt healthy 3. Hes just with you for what you give him but he doesnt wanna commit to you. Instead of getting upset on why he dosnt listen and understand why he doesnt and look at his actions to see if its contradicting hes words.

[@freeandblessed8500]

He won't ever marry a woman who sexes him up alllll the time. He won't marry one whose jaw his man part has full access to, although he's not her husband. Ladies stop giving a man whose not your husband all that loving. Don't do that don't do that. Save that type of stuff for your husband. Tire out your jaw on your husband not a boyfriend.

[@lauvonfr9222]

Most definitely, why do women act like a wife when they're a girlfriend?

[@ilikeanimalsoverhumanspier5215]

Lol

[@CurtisReese-tl7ip]

If you're not tiring out your jaw, why should he marry you. The only reason a nigga gets married is because of the sex anyways.

[@snap2114]

@@lauvonfr9222 Cuz she WANNA BE a Wife!

[@nicole5495]

Curtis Reese 2969 😂😂

[@roshonschannel2836]

I was with my ex 15 years he always ignored me when I talked about marriage so as I left him he begged to marry him. It was far to late for that

[@suenetteedwards5965]

Good for you Hon!! I KNOW that was hard!! God Bless!!

[@roshonschannel2836]

Suenette Edwards It was actually easier. I’m living my best life without him.

[@mariambey6072]

R Norwood Gurrrl 15 years is waaay to long to be with someone without marriage if that’s what you want. For me 3 years is all I’m giving maybe not that long. People know what they want after a year.. I’m to old to be waiting around.

[@wshelby83]

@@roshonschannel2836 I hope you’ve found someone else!

[@Michellemybell739]

I only gave 1 year and my ex wanted to marry me-he talked about marriage and setting a date so much that I questioned the validity of it! After we didn’t spend our birthdays together YET he’d spent other holidays and special occasions with me and gave me money, paid for various things for me, took me on a 3 day vacation with him and his family, took my dad to a doctors visit, gave my son birthday money-when he didn’t reach out to me on my damn birthday NOR plan to be with me for his I knew I was done. Look bruh if you gonna do me this way before marriage what makes me think you gonna be any different on my birthday during marriage? Nope! Peace out ✌🏽

[@quettalogan3295]

A Man Knows Within 6 Months If You're The One!

[@asill.6668]

Yep!

[@Luxlat]

Ur right about putting your foot down and the light bulb comes on But by then the woman already has both feet out the door

[@Chandra5]

For a SECURE relationship. You have way more to lose than a boyfriend/girlfriend. Some people hold themselves to high value and wants to make sure the person they are with does the same and vise versa. I personally am not comfortable giving a boyfriend my all. I also would prefer a family structure.

[@jaimetorres4348]

lol is simple. if you want to marry find the person that wants to marry. if you want to live with the door opened find the person that likes that. there are people out there for all that.

[@lolguy-x9n]

tell them. you know a long time ago I even tried dating a nun!

[@irinaivanovic9792]

Not that simple when you have guys out here lying about wanting to get married and 10 years later they still don't propose...but they still say "Sure, we will get married one day." smh LIBRA MEN.

[@Capricorn0084]

The truth hurts, but it's needed 👌🏽❤

[@tuneaparks9529]

My advice KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED until you are MARRIED. The old way didn't work let's do it GOD way

[@lolguy-x9n]

those legs are a trap. bad sex hovering around.

[@concealdontfeel0]

GIRL YOU ARE THE BEST PUBLIC SPEAKER I HEARD ON THIS SUBJECT!

[@paulettelittle7500]

this is the right video! my 1st husband was a dirty dog I begged him 2 marry me he finally gave in then he cheated constantly! I divorced him after 3 years my 2bd husband married me right away I didn't even ask him he asked me we r still 2gether and very very happy we love each other 😍😍😍😍

[@Havaseet2]

Sign number one: He's gone, changed his name, all his phone numbers, moved to a new state, and you never hear from him again.

[@melonie_peppers]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@shendrika7]

😂😂😂😂 😂😂😂😂

[@sophiasmith5949]

Lol.

[@bellajones4968]

Dang lol😂

[@peartreat]

Lmaooooo

[@morganlefay999]

I decided last mouth after five years of dating if he doesn't pop the question within a year then its over.

[@chloevalcy3939]

morganlefay999 so you are going to give a whole year more of your life? Cut your lost and move on

[@laj4186]

Did he pop the question?

[@h.e.r9368]

Sometimes we need to take a leap of faith ....

[@irinaivanovic9792]

I'd be very reluctant to commit myself and my whole life to someone I've only known ONE year. That is the honeymoon phase. There is no way in hell that you can get to know someone well enough in one year. I'd say 3 years minimum and if there is no proposal with a ring, then get out.

[@judithboltz7318]

I was with a guy for 6 years. In the beginning we talked marriage but we gave ourselves 3 years. 3 years came and went. Finally i asked him if he has intentions of marriage. He said yes but not now. Finally i found out he was stabbing me in the back with a friend of his. I finally decided this was a dead end so i left. 6 months later he decided he wants to marry me. I said no way. He stabbed me in the back but was very kind to me to my face. He still to this day tries to get me back into his life but i will not allow it. He is dead to me now.

[@nbagoats4819]

I agree, the divorce rate is high. But people fail to realize that once you get married, thats only the beginning. Theres work in maintaining a marriage. Women want love and commitment. Men want respect and commitment. This is the definition of marriage. Commitment and respect/love.Without these elements then figuritively speaking, there is no marriage. Papers or not. This country, marriage is paper/business. Not love and respect which is what marriage is suppose to be based on.

[@Calicapenergy88]

I can relate to this. I have been in a 6 year relationship and it has not gone anywhere. We have a child together and I'm foregoing my happiness to make sure she has a father figure in her life,but it is really a bad situation and I take full responsibility. His excuse is he will do it on his time..I'm 26 and I'm scared of what lies after I call it quits. This is confirmation for me that something needs to be done.

[@KillSocialism]

Marriage is sacred institution ordained by God, not man. There is no scripture stating you need to sign a document between you and a government to make it a marriage. If that man is supporting you and doing the duties of a husband then he is your husband. So long as he said he'll take you as his wife then you're his wife. You will only drive the two of you apart by arguing with them in getting a piece of paper.

[@nicolettecollins2732]

John Dohe Its more than a piece of paper. If a man really loves you, he wont waste anytime to take you off the market immediately like she said!

[@susannguyen1754]

John Dohe Stop saying that marriage license is just a paper. Men value paper don't they? Paper money paper mortgage paper house title paper everything are created to serve men... so they should serve women too.

[@nicolettecollins2732]

***** exactly! He said "if he does the duties of a husband, he's your husband" so what's wrong with getting it on paper?? Some one can act all they want but the fact remains they are not your husband/wife so anything goes. They can leave at the drop of a dime... With no ties. Its not stable John.

[@KillSocialism]

Nicolette Collins Marriage and the bond between the couple is as only stable as those two people make it. If you haven't noticed we live in a divorce culture, so that piece of paper is proven to be useless. Especially with "no fault" divorce anyone can walk away from marriage. Government has corrupted marriage and has turned it into a money making scheme with divorce. This is why they always award one party with child custody and or alimony cause the state gets a cut of the money. Men make up the majority of victims of this scheme. Women also make up the majority of initiating divorce. No one should be rewarded for not wanting to stay married, accept women are. Men have caught on to this and this is why they don't want that legal document with the state, cause the state is corrupt. You may want to look up the documentary Divorce Corp and learn about this. Men are also doing MGTOW(men going their own way) where they won't participate with marriage or even relationships with women depending on the individual.

[@feliciaallen6228]

Good points, and true 95% of the time. Sometimes it's a timing issue and sometimes people do need time to get themselves together first and has nothing to do with their feelings for their mate. I had to put my foot down with my ex husband and he had gotten me a ring. Fast forward 2 years he made mistakes and was forgiven but thought he was going to drag his feet with the wedding date.. 20 years later I realized that I made a BIG mistake. Giving an ultimatum in hind sight was the worst thing I could have done because he wasn't ready. My advice is to just make them aware of your feelings and then just leave the relationship because you cant get back wasted time.

[@CodyCole80]

You shouldn’t be upset that you gave him that ultimatum; you should be upset that you stayed over 20 years. It seems you’re a little disgusted at yourself because you now have to see/realize that he never intended to marry. It was better to have let him go. Why allow him to be happy and satisfied with the relationship if you weren’t. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@ldaisysharvest8658]

Men don't need to be manipulated and pinned down to realize he wants to marry you. he knows if your the one between the first day to one year. women might pick who to date but the man chooses who to marry.

[@jocekhiy626]

Right!! And I used to think pretty,skinny women had no issues with this but I know multiple (a few of my Asian freinds and other races. Just saying this because it's not only black women dealing with this as many believe) that have been with men one even almost 20 years and nothing. He won't marry her. The other it's going on 8 years and they live together and he hasn't eveb made her a fiance. He still just says his gf and she wants marriage. He's also near 40 and she's late 20s. Reading some of these comments they say they never met the parents of the guy or other 🚩but this case she's met his family over the years and even goes out of state with him visit them. I just don't get what it is. I mean place holder maybe or he just doesn't want it with her .

[@VeryBonita1]

This video really hit home with me.....I'm very emotional now because I so want to be married I'm 42yrs old & I gave my boyfriend of 4yrs that same speech. He who s 29yrs old chose to let me go to find someone who will marry me. It's still pretty recent we are still close and talk to each other almost daily no intimacy at all but I love and miss him so much but I'm willing to let him go to find my own true love that's meant for me.

[@CodyCole80]

Exactly! All that means is he enjoys spending time with you but doesn’t see you as his wife.

[@roxyweka]

Talking to him daily, is that your way of getting him out of your system?

[@CodyCole80]

bibi nyota 🤦🏽‍♀️ That’s what I was thinking but didn’t want to say it. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@lisalisatoejam2751]

He's to young anyway. Find an older man.

[@peridozq9390]

VeryBonita1 Wow

[@rizeuse]

Good for you !! I'm in the same situation and i decided to move out. I deserve someone who wants to be with me forever

[@brendag8802]

Lol I been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I have a son with him and I don't see any hope any more My younger brother is getting married this summer And his younger sister just got married It's hard being in this situation

[@zak1992j]

I wold confront him about it..

[@QUEENOFPENTACLESTAROT333]

Brenda G did you leave yet?

[@melthomas6519]

Brenda G That would be YOUR fault!

[@roshonschannel2836]

time to leave

[@CurtisReese-tl7ip]

And when they are divorced and damn near killed each other, you and your boyfriend will still be together.

[@roxanneeverett]

My boyfriend and I were together 11 years and we raised 5 kids together ( he had 2 and I had 3). I was there for him through everything. I paid for vacations, his kids Xmas presents, etc... He seems like he just enjoys hanging around with his guy friends. He makes no effort to do anything with me unless I make all the plans. When marriage is discussed...immediately I am. "crazy"...even though he lives here for free. He used to help me fix up the house but now he just goes and helps everyone else instead of helping me. Somehow I am just crazy when I get mad and stick up for myself. He needs to go.

[@blackirishrose4040]

With everything this man has done to you why is he still reading the same air in the same room with you?

[@im26c4u5]

@@blackirishrose4040 she probably doesn't value herself.

[@evelgreytarot8401]

I'm always the girl they date right before they marry someone else

[@CephlonMayngrum]

Pandora's Box ur a testher

[@edennis8578]

Read the book "How to Marry the Man of Your Choice." It's a book from the 1980s, but human nature doesn't change. She talks about how to find out if the man is really interested in you or just passing time, and how not to sabotage a blossoming relationship.

[@alexanderson1193]

Her husband didn't want to marry her but he did as that was the less worse option then being alone.

[@Aniysah]

Y buy a cow if u can milk it for free?

[@lavafriction]

Because when you buy it, you own it! LOL

[@coveredbynobantu6082]

Which is why I encourage celibacy

[@videogirlzzzzzz]

Yep, still true

[@KickinItWithTea1111]

My grandma used to always tell me that!! Rest her soul!!

[@sophiasmith5949]

Lactose

[@rahmelpervez697]

Ladies guy's know from the first moment we look into your eye's if we want to marry you... And from that moment til the time it happens that's all we're focusing on,... And a real man will let you know that on the first or second date.. So that you won't have to wonder!!!

[@freeandblessed8500]

When He tries repeating Method Man and say " You don't need a ring to be my wife, just be there for me and I am gonna make sure we be living in......" Just know a man like that will never marry ya. Nope he's a wanna be rapper. Method Man is a happily married man and has bern for over twenty years. That line in the song was just to sell records.

[@snap2114]

Maybe Method Man said that just to sell records but their are plenty young one's out there who think that way! Smh

[@fosela7659]

You made my day 😂😂😉

[@phyllisjohnson8456]

When these men say " I don't want to marry" he may probably means I don't want to marry you. I have seen a couple of friends who's man left them and quickly married someone else. Anyway these women mess up when they start having babies thinking that will change his mind-it won't! You see how Lamar Odom married Khloe after one month and had a baby mama who had 3 of his children.How dumb did she feel?

[@jaimetorres4348]

if you cant marry someone is because you don't really love that person. come on. stop all the BS. is simple. when I or you hear that one person want to marry but the other one don't feel like it, you immediately think that that person don't really want that other one. is simple. lets stop all the BS. this don't need so much explanation. Like: Honey should we marry? she says. He says: why marry? etc......... why not? whats the problem? is all BS. you don't marry someone you don't trust or you don't see spending the rest of your life with. you don't dream about that person. is not your dream. that's all. is a hang on person for whatever time it last. that's all. don't be saying you love a person and you don't think about giving her the surprise of a ring or propose to marry, like she is not worth of that. stop fooling anybody with that BS. the only one you fool is yourself and your poor mate who never see you approaching her with the real deal. is just an indirect way to say you don't trust her. she is just dumb enough not to get the point. that's all. many women what they call love is nothing but an infatuation, love of what they get being with that other person that don't trust her.

[@concealdontfeel0]

There's some guys out there that are just not at the maturity level for marriage. a lot of immature guys don't want to miss out on the "young,wild and free stage" of their young adult lives. I guess immature guys enjoy catching std's from loose girls that just want to trap them and put them on child support and make fun of them.

[@lealeandre1063]

+Conceal Don't Feel Who would want to marry an immature guy? What kind of father could he possibly become? She was right in telling her boyfriend if you don't want to get married I'm leaving. That's how mature women get rid of immature guys. The word marriage always makes them run away anyway. Peace and love!

[@CodyCole80]

So true. The Bible says that when you love a person, you trust them. That’s why I don’t believe in that “cold feet” phrase. Why would you be nervous about permanently connecting with the person you claim to love.

[@shuralbaskerville9754]

I'M GLAD IT'S NOT EVERY MAN SHE'S TALKING ABOUT.

[@opus0872]

most

[@QueenOfWands1111]

It's Everyman trust me they always want what they want not what y'all want. They r kinda selfish if u ask me

[@TahTwinkletoes]

@@QueenOfWands1111 Nah its every man YOU know...my husband was never like that ✋🏾

[@imustacheyouaquestion8868]

Sorry to hear of your situation. I hate to say this, but he's actually doing you a favor. He's letting you know that it's time for you to move on, to someone who is worthy of your time. A lot of guys don't know what they want in their 20's, but there are plenty of guys who want the same thing as you.

[@nataliegilbert7412]

You're right about modern day men, but back in the 1960's and previously, people knew what they wanted; married as teens and young adults; and kept their commitments. Something's drastically changed over the years.

[@theeartofseduction]

I personally wouldn't want to marry someone after being with them for over 3 years. What is there to look forward to? By that time your sex life has diminished, nasty habits have been revealed, and you guys have gotten too comfy. Now, some would say that the longer you're together, the better, But it's the unknown, the freshness, the newness, that makes it exciting. If after 3 years, and he hasn't mentioned anything about marriage means he's getting his free milk. Moooo!

[@CephlonMayngrum]

Lemon Fresh thats stupid as fuck

[@marybowers6090]

My boyfriend has till tomorrow then I’m cutting my losses, 5 years invested and no return

[@aydagirgis]

Thanks for that video. It makes things so much more clear now. It's sad, but true.

[@Gardeniax31710]

I was with a man for 6 half years. Had 2 kids lived together and the whole 9 yards. He knew i wanted to get married. And there were always excuses . i left him cause i was tired of him not changing and other reasons. He goes and less then a year later goes to his country and proposes to some girl he barely knows. What a life he wouldnt do that for me even tho he CLAIMED to love me and stuff im not mad because of feelings for him BUT im mad i put so much effort into the relationship for nothing.

[@happyjack625]

this video hit me hard 😢i was talking about marriage last week and he said all i want is the title of marriage 😭we have been together for 7years can you imagine...all he wants is a baby not marriage

[@alphakennedy8012]

Am very sorry

[@alphakennedy8012]

Am frome Nigeria can we know each other

[@sexyladyakb]

He says he had a plan but he wants to get these things taken care of first.. and wants to have a nicer job.. the ring thing you said too

[@kaymcgarden]

The extent to which some people see marriage as an achievement is the reason why men are given ultimatums, we put each other under pressure and find ourselves marrying for the wrong reasons. If it's meant to be, trust me it will happen.

[@nataliegilbert7412]

You're right Kay. That's why I'll NEVER give a man an ultimatum to marry me. I accept his choices, as is, and make my choices from there.

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

`Marriage is a big deal, it is the ultimate commitment where the two of you love each other and ready to commit to what ever happens in the future. Although when you feel that he's not going to marry you trust your gut. It's better to open up also with your partner about these things or you might just be wasting your time if he has no plan to marry you.

[@geraldos9094]

A True Love Official 60% of marriages end in divorce, 20% stay together for the bills and kids in a loveless marriage. Let’s stop the fairytales and get real with each other.

[@Patricia25H]

me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 YEARS and we are both turning 27 this year. right now i am living alone and him too and he doesnt even want us to live together or come stay with me. i am sick and tired of waiting, i want to have kids and it is so depressing to see everyone areound me getting married and having babys any our relationship is NOT MOVING FORWARD. i love him but i feel that i am the one posponing my dreams of becoming a mom because he says HE IS NOT READY after 7 years.

[@snap2114]

Let him go! 7 years is TOO long to waste on anyone! He is wasting your time cuz your biological clock keeps ticking! It don't matter to him cuz he can always find himself a younger gal. You should RUN! It's his loss & DON'T let him talk you into staying!

[@conceptamutauta8827]

True girl don't waste your time,men always See's something new in a different women, the same happened to me ,7 years re/ship,loved each other but at last he married different woman whom they never dated for a long time. Here i am still single at 30 year.just move on and look for happiness from within yourself ,a man who Love's you will come and marry you without wasting your time

[@Erinsullivan314]

She say “statistics says” no honey what does the LORD say. Stop watching videos like this ladies focus on the lord trust in him and he will provide. I know this, My life is changing because of Jesus Christ. My standards or high now. I love me now, in Christ I found my worth and my identity.

[@trinbr]

i have my own job as a clinical pharmacist . believe me it pays sooo good i don't need a man's money, in a matter of fact it is the ultimate recognition for me to let anyone to take care of me or pay for me .

[@glasscitadel12]

Sometimes marriage is a big mistake.

[@lumynntheawesomemom3014]

This video is great. Really got me thinking.

[@Butterflywings011]

In this day and age... Buy yourself a Damm ring or band. And be alone. All over a fucking ring? Shit. I don't take dating seriously anymore. Most people I dated NEVER talked about marriage, or if they did it was "later" which means never.

[@darlae88]

This hit my soul... 😔

[@alphakennedy8012]

Hello beautiful one

[@susannguyen1754]

Thanks. You make all the sense with these 5. Like the way you talk.

[@ladyfree3492]

I'm out after 6months to a year if he doesn't propose

[@musicmaker1311]

lizzy anim 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@TahTwinkletoes]

Good luck with that...it takes a year for ppl to really start showing their true colors smh 6 months is still honeymoon phase. Y'all gonna be marrying a stranger. I think 2-4 years is ideal. You see how he is when he is angry, you see how he treats family, you see if he is goal oriented or driven, you see if he is financially literate, so many things take time to reveal themselves. My husband and I started TALKING about marriage in the first year both of us wanted to marry one another. I wanted to wait because I felt I was to young to get married (23, he is older than me) I also wanted to finish school and be in my career. We didn't marry until year 8. The point is there is a difference between a man who wants to marry and have a future with you but has to get things in order first and a man that doesn't want marriage period.

[@kevinnyguyen3310]

fortunately i am always honest, forthcoming and truthful with every single woman i pretty much meet that i will never be a father and will never be married. i have never lied about that and never would.

[@nataliegilbert7412]

Kudos to you, Kevin, for not leading women on. Just remember that if you're doing things to produce children, then you could very well end up being a father.

[@JeffersonDinedAlone]

I would think that the first sign of him not going to marry you is his not asking you. Call me quirky, but I don't think that you have to be Columbo to figure that out.

[@IamJontelNicol]

I really appreciate your tone of voice so one can absorb the info

[@shaynamonroe9459]

I love my boyfriend so much. He's the best. We have been together 1 and a half years. I want marriage, he always replies "One day, or name a date" jokingly. How much longer should I wait? The 3 year rule is scary, and painfully truthful.

[@michaelnaisbitt1639]

This is for the women watching---I lived with my wife for three years before marriage. Then one afternoon I was laying on the bed watching TV and she was laying next to me reading the Sunday paper. Then all of a sudden she rolls over towards me and says WELL WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO MARRY ME. Caught me completely by surprised 😮I stammered Arhhh whenever . We were married 3 months later and it was the best decision of my life. She was the greatest woman to ever draw breath I just needed that extra poke I guess When she died I cried for two whole days. I was heartbroken. So maybe your man just needs a little poke to get him moving. 👍👍🙂

[@geminilove7830]

It's a shame we have to figure it out...if men were honest and didnt play games...we wouldn't have to check for signs!

[@carlottar8894]

Wow..just came across your video and subscribed! I am in this situation currently and have been in turmoil about where do I go from here..thank you for giving me clarity. I deserve better

[@kimcham9949]

Carlotta R: How'd it go?

[@godivaone3891]

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS LISTEN CAREFUL.

[@marycatherineryan1290]

My ex, who I was with for 8 years, gave me every excuse in the book on why he couldn't me, and some were so ridiculous that I had to laugh, but I found out that he was cheating on me with other women and 2 were his ex girlfriend and ex wife!! He's now in my review mirror and I'm not looking back.

[@alphakennedy8012]

Hello

[@alphakennedy8012]

Are u single 0?

[@SweetCicely]

thank you for posting this video. "every word" you stated is thoughts in my subconscious. thank you for the affirmations & sharing.

[@lealeandre1063]

+Lady Entrepreneur She did nail the excuses. 'I don't have enough money to marry you' , 'I can't believe you want to reduce everything we have worked for in this relationship to a piece of paper and a ring' LOL.

[@HAGGYY100]

This willbe the trend. He will comtinue to try to keep you around for as long as your are convient to him. Men have no concern for any body but themselves

[@sallyadlawaniloveyoutoo1615]

No problem i knew already everything i knew it and i can feel him that he wont marry me👌

[@FLYDIEHARD]

This was great. My ex said the I need a better job let’s move to another apartment let me save money but had all the yeezys i put my foot down... and left abruptly and and he came back we tried to work things out but he it didn’t feel or his actions didn’t show he was serious and things ended. We see each other ever couple of months but he never doesn’t to me. It’s odd bc I took care of him like I was his nurse with his stomach diseases.

[@nisey7653]

We're both not ready. I'm not concern about the time unless it's been past 3 years or more. I want to be confident that this is the person for me. Need to get to know people as much as possible these days. Also, I'm an average person that has to get my ducks in a row ( Financially, spiritually, etc) . So there's no rush to commit my entire life . Just enjoy life.

[@christinenewhouse1264]

My situation is rare..Met this guy on a blind date from my friends boyfriends friend..We met and talked alot at Dennys till 4am 2 1/2 months later he ask me to marry him..We got married Sept 22 1990..We have 2 kids and been married now for 28 years..I believe it was God who brought us together and also my friend (Cyndie)..Very grateful for both of them to make this happen..God bless♡

[@comelearnsomali4511]

I loved your advice and wisdom on the subject! Thank you so much, I think 3-6 years is a really decent time to see if this is who you can see yourself marrying. Anything more and it just starts to become a time waste for the both involved. Thanks again! :)

[@erikas9945]

I was married for 11 years n divorced for 5yrs. Marriage is overrated.

[@moniwalkie7370]

U were w/wrong person. Fix u first and u will marry right w/ God.

[@AuntiePea]

Ive been married 40 years and counting. Marriage is rated just fine when u hve the right person

[@missuniverse7991]

I got married too young when I didn’t know what the hell was going on. I was married for 20 years and it was the worst. Except for my kids. They were the blessings. He ended up getting remarried and is cheating on his current wife. He’s been to court over some other woman stalking them. His current wife now knows what I fear with but she thought she had a prize. He still portrays that his marriage is perfect on social media but it is terrible.

[@moniwalkie7370]

@@missuniverse7991 he was the wrong person & u probably wanted it, but God wasn't in it, being hard-headed, ppl do them and end up paying for it. U learned your lesson & now u happy. Go to GOD only.

[@christinenewhouse1264]

There is always 2 sides to the story..not one side.God bless♡

[@lorettayoung3088]

You cried and begged for a man to marry you.

[@debratownsend5495]

IT PROBABLY TOOK ME 3 YEARS TO VIEW THIS VIDEO, SO I KNOW I WOULD N-E-V-E-R GIVE ANYONE 3 YEARS OF MY PRECIOUS LIFE!!!!! YOU WILL NEVER WASTE MY PRECIOUS TIME LIKE THAT!!!! AINT GONNA HAPPEN!!!! SO TAKE THAT CRAP ELSEWHERE.... TIME AINT FOREVER, AND LIFE IS PRECIOUS!!!! AND SO SHOULD YOU BE..... SO TREAT YOUR SELF LIKE A QUEEN AND BE HAPPY WITH LIFE, AND LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND FOREMOST FIRST...... 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@johnfinnerty4243]

Make it appealing for him too. Some of the women don't create the conditions for those proposals to foster.

[@zmibenyamin1578]

love your advice. everything you said is spot on. i really appreciate your words, thnx.

[@alphakennedy8012]

Hello beautiful

[@jocelynwilson6702]

This is so sad. I have a couple of friends who dated men for more than 8 to 10 years knowing they wanted to get married and have children. The men never married them. They wasted all of their young productive years because they didn’t want to be alone. I was married for 20 years, divorced and the man found me. Their comment was I knew you would find someone before we did. I have now been married for 5+ years and they are still single. Still fooling around with men who have no intentions of marrying them. Break up and go back.uggh. 2 to 3 years and that’s it. Great info and so true.

[@letitiahumphrey3792]

Everything you said is spot on.

[@rhondas3017]

My guy said the exact thing....I can’t see myself getting married, but was fine with living together and I know he’s committed to me, but to me that is settling. When asked if his position on marriage would ever change if we dated for another year, because our relationship still seems new even tho it’s been a year, he said it’s not a hard fast rule. I’m wondering if this is his way of stringing me along because he’s not ready to lose me or hopes I will change my position on marriage. His reason for not wanting marriage is that he decided that he isn’t cut out for it after his marriage failed and that he is on a “glide path” not a targeted goal path.

[@akiiparks]

Truth!!! So wise! Everything you said was right.

[@andreawashington1199]

Great information!! Thank you for Sharing this... I'm in a long distance relationship. 2nd time same guy. 3 years ago. Of course now when we are together we Enjoy each other's company. Once we separate. It's not a big deal if we dont talk . My reasoning is we've been down this road before and I told him. He is on probation.

[@evalinda5246]

What about if we refuse to become intimate until after we've exchanged marriage vows in the first place?

[@evalinda5246]

***** Yes, I totally agree with this. It's refreshing to hear it from others as well.

[@tabitaeguangs]

I was looking for a question like this which is already an answer

[@kimberlyturner820]

I like that idea

[@candacejones1439]

I actually did this and regretted it everyday... it was awful but i married him so I'm stuck with bad sex...smh

[@lisalisatoejam2751]

@@candacejones1439 teach him, girl! Show him how to pleasure you.

[@ronniehicks3258]

Ladies, stop being patient with these selfish, manipulative liars. Why do you have to wait for them to grow up? This is nothing but a game weak selfish men like to play Don't waste your time. The good caring man you could have married, by passed you because to stayed with him. Take off the blinders, ladies! You don't owe these men Anything!

[@jaimetorres4348]

she is so right. love it. when I see a woman that is worth it. it don't take that long to know that's the one you want to marry. it doesn't take a lifetime to get to know someone is worth it. just a year or two. men are not stupid at all. if he doesn't marry you, you are not all that to him. sorry but there are women worth it out there. we most of the time after the trash ones just because they look so good, and dont commit to that person because is stupid or selfish, but dont want to leave it neither because we like that person physically. Ive learn there are so many players out there, including women, that i dont blame men so much if they dont want to marry them. but what the lady says here is true. if he or her doesnt marry you, is because there is something he/her dont like about you, dont trust you or maybe he/her want to keep doors open to see if it finds something better. if he/her doesnt find something better then it will stick to your ass because what else could it do? most humans are oportunistic. this is a matter of personal choice. if you want to wait decades after someone and then decide to marry her, is your problem. and if some people dont want others that cant make a comitment after some reasonable amount of years, then be it. me myself if a woman dont want to make a comitment with me after a reasonable time, then i send her to h.... to find someone she can make a comitment with. i respect myself and dont humiliate myself waiting a lifetime for a mere human to make up her mind. i dont eat crap. But i respect if whatever woman or man wants to wait an eternity for her man to make up his mind.

[@evanEE182]

I don't agree with that. I love my girlfriend, however we're not planning on getting married. I love her, and my love should be enough. If a woman will leave me because I won't sign a legal document, I'm curious if she really loved me to begin with. Lucky for me, my girlfriend isn't insecure, she doesn't need me to sign a legal document in order to trust me. That's why I love her. :) Point is, if he won't marry you, that doesn't mean he isn't in love. I'm concerned about the advice in this video. If he doesn't do what you want, threaten to leave him in order to get your way? That is manipulation. What if he's a great guy. These types of videos make marriage seem even less appealing.

[@jaimetorres4348]

there are women out there that not so stupid and when they see the man don't want commitment they just fing one who want it. most people I know that live toguether for the longest have many problems and don't get along so well. they just unsure about their relationships so they never make that step. real people that truly love each other they marry. if you don't mary is because you want to leave the door open to run. there is no excuse, unless she is on welfare or you are a rotten millionaire and don't trust her. lol. or most likely you really love each other and don't marry because you have goals you want to fulfill first like college people, or any real reason. that's understandable. but im sure she talking about grown ups that have no excuse to avoid marriage. men full of sh..., full of excuses, cheaters, hypocrates, etc. just to name a few. I know way too many of them, and too many stories, im sure you too. come on man. evil selfish men. this world is full to the bone with them. I wont take that thing of her love should be enough. I would send that woman to hell. I respect myself a lot and wont take too much crap from any human been. mere mortals

[@evanEE182]

Jaime Torres You can love and commit to someone without needing to sign a financial contract.

[@jaimetorres4348]

you are right man. but some people want the commitment and take it bad if the other person is not willing to commit: like why not? anyway. is a matter of choice. there are so many out there that live all their life together without getting married. in part you are right they do love each other. but why they don't get married? that's the mystery. they know why. but the funniest is whe they are young together and wait until they old to then get married, then is funny having pictures of two old people married when they've been together since they where young. lol life. and the other thing is the law. and how about kids coming into an unmarried relationship. anyway. each individual do whatever they want. I just comment on this but I really don't care at all whay people do out there. lol. choice

[@evanEE182]

Jaime Torres I think part of the problem is that divorce is so common, that if you marry or not, most likely the children will grow up without their father. My biggest concern is being divorced, and only seeing my son or daughter every 2nd weekend. Unfortunately there is a very high probability of that happening. And I know people say well if you're truly in love, then you don't have to worry about it. Problem is, the 40% chance of marriage working is so daunting. Maybe part of the problem is people decide to get married after only knowing each other for 2 or 3 years. I don't have the answers on how to make it work.

[@susan5048]

He should be begging me to marry him! Why would I have to lower myself to ask to marry him?

[@patriciamay2690]

Coach Crystal, very true. Wish I had known this years ago. Thank you.

[@nataliegilbert7412]

Hey, "SoulmateCoachChrystal," I haven't seen you in years. I used to watch your videos when I first got on social media. You've taught me a lot.

[@famelitech]

Don't push us to get married; We will marry when we are ready to do so. Get that. When you keep insisting men to marry you; we feel pushed and wonder why the rush. Patience is virtue let the man take time and be of good character and he will marry you. We put women pending to see if we can live with them forever.

[@abrahamlight1184]

AND NEVER ARRANGE A WICKET MARRIAGE WITH AN MAN OR A WOMEN THAT IS NOT GODLY WORK THAT'S AN TERRIBLE THING AN PERSON CAN DO TO SOMEONE WHO IS NOT MARRIED MARTERAL ARE JUST TO GAIN THIER WEALTH MONEY HOUSE TO LAY IT TO SOMEONE ELSE FEET MY GOD IS WATCHING I ONCE WAS IN SUCH AND THING BUT MY GOD BROUGHT ME OUT THANK GOD 12 YEARS AGO I STILL THANK GOD

[@nataliegilbert7412]

@Famelite Tech, you are so very right. That's why women should just move on and stop begging for someone to honor us. Men follow their truths and we need to do the same.

[@jharris7838]

This woman is correct with most of this. IMO marriage is overrated and only benefits the woman in the end. If you are happy and in love marriage should not be a thing pressed or needed

[@sallyadlawaniloveyoutoo1615]

Correct because im in LDR for four years im not expecting he will marry me no not any more because if he really loves me from the beginning he will show up himself for me here in kuwait but not showing up just only texing everyday this is hopeless relationship. I thought his just using me only because of his problem and for his businesses.✌

[@francieodendahl9351]

Texting everyday. That's not a relationship.

[@SashaDarkCloud]

Actually, it is an excuse. I know that money is tight, but I love how men think that women want thousand dollar rings. We love you, even a $100 ring if it is an engagement ring is the most valuable thing in the world to us. So yes, money is a bs excuse, especially if you live together and both help with the bills without the benefit of marriage.

[@JadeCarter66]

love, love, LOVE your video!! Thanks for the advice!

[@elevatedspirit8]

Love your spirit! Thank you for keeping it real and for inspiring people to seek their best life/relationship.