5 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Happy Without You

[@ClayAndrews]

Thanks for watching this video. Hope you're staying safe and healthy during these challenging times. If you want to learn more about Connect and Commit, you can check this out: modernlove.life/connect-and-commit

[@joyceannmilante6696]

Clay Andrews Thank you so much for putting effort in helping vulnerable persons, like me being educated in some break up ways it helps avoid more damaging the person boyfriend or me .

[@ClayAndrews]

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[@OceanicPearlz1]

He’s hard to read but I can some how feel when he is in pain and is faking being happy. He just seems upset when I try to help him and care about him.

[@tebogopilane1070]

Whn my ex left he made it a point of showing me that he had found someone better. Now I hear that he found glass instead of a diamond. He gets a angry whenever he talks to me. I told him to find out why he is angry and at whom exactly. He is refusing with my stuff and it seems he wants me to follow him around.. Bt I am keeping my distance and watching as he is suffering.. 😊😊😊😊

[@rogerseow3878]

They never be happy because they are in a big mess now!😥😭😱

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

My ex blocked me multiple times. I started hating the word block. Until I heard you say it. Then it became funny 😆

[@Qwistie_]

My first ex did this behavior. He essentially got with a girl that was similar in features as me. He tried reaching out to me a couple times to reconnect. He even proposed to the girl. They eventually broke up. He partied a lot and slept with girls. I realize now that he had emotional issues from trauma.

[@ClayAndrews]

I'm sorry to hear about what happened. How about you, how are you doing nowadays, @Itscristae ?

[@valentinanocross8677]

This is the most accurate information about eyes on this channel. Mine is doing all 5 of these. I did the grieving the work and have manifested someone who has done their work. I am having so much fun, but must continue to do the work from the addiction that I created. I told him I forgive him and he can be my friend again if he wants to start the conversation " how can we meet each other's needs for trust and respect" . I wait for nothing, I hope it lessens his pain and he begins to heal himself with that thought.

[@cycolburn99]

What did he say?

[@cindygodoy519]

My ex is doing every single one of these

[@Rizzy_K]

@king raiders what ended up happening in the last 8 months ?

[@nathanknowles7014]

So is mine

[@OceanicPearlz1]

He’s changed for the worst. He tries to ignore anything to do with me but I see his pain and can see that he may be bottling up his true emotions for me. He blocked me on the video game platform but even has been quite distant and busy with school and band. He seems more quiet and distant than he was still making effort to talk to me or me in his life that he cares about. He reaches out to his crush in a group chat with my best friend her sister is his crush. Though she likes him as a friend only. Both of them said I shouldn’t give up on him. He is acting more of a bad boy now and I really noticed it. But he being friends with a manipulator.

[@rislani3]

Your the best Clay! Thanks for your inspirational videos.

[@tailored-made9540]

Yeah my ex got in another relationship a week after the break up. We were together for 3 years and even got a house together. She's been posting how happy she is on social media and even said "don't go back to things that didn't help you grow" on social media. Since the break up she's been drinking with her friend every weekend and she's been spending the night with this new guy every weekend so I don't see her on the weekends at all. She even said she's doing what's best for her and her life and she's not going to apologize for that. I haven't posted shit on social media. She keeps throwing the word friends around when I try to flirt. Does anyone have any thoughts?

[@ClayAndrews]

Repression and projection are two common defense mechanisms. It sounds to me like she is trying to repress what she truly feels while projecting that she is doing okay.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

If I were you I'd go cold. If she has even 2 items at your house get rid of em. Then disappear

[@tailored-made9540]

@@SAMEntalhealth yeah that's basically what I did lol

[@SAMEntalhealth]

@@tailored-made9540 mine texted me today she wants to come home..... I had a whole strategy I followed that I made lol and it can work. You need some help??

[@SAMEntalhealth]

@@tailored-made9540 bro mine said the EXACT SAME THING!!!! didn't answer after 5, or weekends thought she was with another man.... nope...

[@Iwant2BHipster]

All signs are there. But why doesn’t he reach out or leave the rebound if he really is pretending

[@topcat2033]

Because they like "new" cookies

[@chantehowe7798]

My thoughts exactly my ex is definitely h appy

[@muh4225]

I don't understand why?

[@megkeo]

Is moving on 2 months later considered suspiciously fast Clay? He’s already found a new woman. Today after he was disrespectful to me I spoke up and he said “IVE MOVED ON AND FEEL GREAT. Get over it. I’m gone. I’m not coming back”. I’ve showed him nothing but kindness. How can he be so mean? Does he really mean this? At this point I don’t want him back but those words hurt!

[@V74Santi]

I’m on the same situation :( treats me like he doesn’t even know me after 5 years in a relationship

[@andrewcruz7595]

Sorry to say this .but he's a pure assshat .. he has changed his mindset to be purely running on Ego ..

[@Jeanninecomeau]

I'm so sorry. I hope you have found a nice peaceful life without that bastard.

[@hadafoxer9563]

Somehow this video is funny ...thanks for sharing btw.....

[@ClayAndrews]

Thanks for watching

[@abbybella2884]

My ex restricted me on Facebook because after 5 days of breakup he found new gf. And I unfriended him.

[@ste2577]

Could be either a rebound, or you dodged a bullet there hun, concentrate on yourself 😁

[@abbybella2884]

Ste I’m still on the process of healing. I didn’t find anyone. I want to heal on my own without using other people to escape from pain.

[@ste2577]

That's definitely the right attitude, and good luck with it! Dont be afraid to reach out to loved ones, that helped me alot, and just be reassured that everything will be okay 👍

[@abbybella2884]

Ste thank you!

[@ClayAndrews]

Hi Abby. I'm sorry to hear about what happened. Was there solid evidence that he has a new gf? If there, we can say that it could be a rebound. We are aware that you felt frustrated about this but you are doing the right things in healing. Sending more positive energies on your end.

[@bristyshurtradharpuja3531]

My ex forced me to block him.. ☺💔

[@francispellerin5093]

She blocked me right after i refused her friendzone. is this a good sign, out of anger because it didn't go her way?

[@savage7714]

Idk why my ex ALWAYS bad mouths about me even when its not true making me look stupid n horrible. Always tryna argue with me and recently he told his was a friend thats now my friend to back off from me , but she said ik how she is not what you told me how she is. So is he still have feeling for me? Idk he hasn’t tried contacting like before and when he did i jus acted like idgaf cuz im not sure about him tbh im confused idk 😐. but yeah hes always bitching and bad mouthing about me and this has been goin on for nearly a year!!

[@ricksadventure8177]

What if ur blocked for five months does it still mean they care ?

[@SAMEntalhealth]

Cigarettes definitely show stress. Or if they lose weight like bad weight

[@sanchitabose7290]

Clay..my ex still loves me and thinks about me..but he doesn't open up..and he is clearly saying again and again that he will not come to me..and nothing will ever chnge...how can I manage him...I know there is still feelings left in him for me..I know it for very sure...but the problem is he has already decided that he is not going to come back.. whatever may happen but he will stuck into his words..he is being very stubborn..and he is trying to hide his feelings ..started smoking.. he says that I will never accuse u for our breakup ..please help clay..i think he is still thinking if he get back then it will be the same relationship he walked away in his first place ..but i can't make him understand that things are going to be different this time..how can I make him understand that it will be a new starting?..I know I hurt him...I lied him...but I m really sorry for that..I am still regretting and having so pain ...asking for forgiveness for the last time

[@VinayKumar-xd6wv]

Hey Sanchita Bose. Its exactly the same story with me. Wanna talk?

[@cycolburn99]

To be a new starting you must do personal growth.

[@octoberdg7573]

😒 he was bad mouthing me while we were still together. Smh. Twisted the truth alot

[@asami680]

Fantastic... can you do one video about NC with ex.Narc

[@ClayAndrews]

Hi Nasin, being narcissistic is a mental health concern. So we have to separate that as it may need more professional attention. But if your goal is about doing Active No Contact, we have video regarding that matter. ;-)

[@couldstrife1]

I don’t think my ex is happy, she went into a rebound and that didn’t work out but she keeps telling me that she misses him etc, we was talking throughout Christmas Day and I thought we was getting somewhere. But she said she wanted to come home as she’s at her sister but I wasn’t going to like the reason. I said I’m not going to like it and don’t really want to hear about the rebound as he left her and I’ve been feeling like shit all day because I miss her and he doesn’t want to be with her just like she doesn’t with me (assuming) I lost control which is a mistake but now I’m blocked as she said we have nothing to talk about. Have I messed up?

[@chantehowe7798]

My ex is happy he don't post his new relationship on social media so he's not trying to make me jealous and he doesn't talk about her to me un fact he don't reach out at all unless he's picking up or dropping off the kids I actually see him he always looks happy my opinion

[@003sim]

Alcohol is my friend, stop blaming alcohol.

[@OceanicPearlz1]

My ex is showing these signs. He starts accusing me of never caring. Going off on me and literally thinks I only cause trouble. He is trying to get into a relationship with my best friend’s younger sister but I see it more as a desperate approach and more sexual than actual love. He compared her boobs to a poster of Hearley Quinn--

[@kylieburton8023]

What about gaming my ex is a huge gamer he is a streamer he's been sharing happy funny photos of him when letting other streamers know he is streams

[@ClayAndrews]

There are two things that we have to consider. Since he is playing, maybe he is authentically happy, but then again, the only person that holds the truth is still himself.

[@kylieburton8023]

@@ClayAndrews ok thankyou, he's confusing me he started liking photos of me,reached out to collect he's thing's i wasn't home he could have got he's stuff other people were home,he said I'll come by another time was really nice about it,i asked how he was he told me well said he was financially struggling i was nice & said he will get through it everyone is struggling at this point & time he replied with a smile but didn't ask about me though what is you opinion on the matter like where do you think he's head is at?

[@beautyperformance3536]

He denied this girl but she is around to much. She is completely the opposite fiscally. She is like this muscle sort of woman. Im curvy skinny. She is brunette im blonde. She use braces. They meet at the gym. She has a daughter. I have none. We lived together for 7 years. This person is completely different but she kind of speak the same way I do. I mean, the way she communicates. It is so weir.

[@jessicaroybal9625]

Beauty Performance It feels like the guy I was seeing is in a rebound or he hide his gf really well. I found out in May that he got engaged with a 6 month pregnant fiancé January 1st. We were together Dec 25,2019... all of a sudden he shows up at my apt because he said he wanted to wish me condolences about my uncle who passed away. It was awful

[@mikehindrix7968]

my ex does all this !!!

[@MIMIDSH]

What if they're so "practical" they just figure, welp, over is over, and don't dwell on any emotions, or completely compartmentalize and don't feel it? Our breakup was so devastating for me, I moved 2400 miles away in a state of grief. We started talking again about a month after I moved, and he's always extremely nice, loving, almost like we never broke up. .. but he admitted he has a "friends with benefits" with someone awful, and he freely admits it's just convenient, easy sex with someone he doesn't especially like/enjoy being with much, nevermind love. I feel like my heart was shattered and it still hurts a year later, and yet, he's fine just getting laid. Like the depth of what we shared wasn't even necessary for him, if that makes sense. I had not considered a long distance thing with him until we recently (he could literally be here in r hours), yet knowing he's sleeping with the overweight alcoholic makes it out of the question for me now.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

See for a female or even emotional Male, it's very hard to picture because you were the one he had sex with. Can't imagine our partners with someone else. My method is, "if you cheated just gtfo of my life. I don't want to know or hear any details, just get your stuff and leave. If rebounded you just disappear. They may beg and plead or not give af either way you shouldn't either as hard as it is :-/

[@tiktokersbeauty3044]

I talk to her last night shenis bad mouthing at me. She blocked me. And now she even mention shed has new Suitors. And even she us entertaining it.

[@DooZah_TCG]

I need some help trying to understand what me and my separated wife are going trough and what it all means.

[@sebascifu99]

Hi clay, love your content, you're a great support, I was wondering if maybe you could help me with this. I broke with me gf in January - february after a 3 year relationship, I did active no contact and worked everything, we started to get back together she eve told me she loved me and wanted to be with me for the rest of her life. Then around a month into the whole process I think she was in the crisis point and I lost my cool and pretty much we started to fight twice a week. Las night I lost my cool again and she broke up with me saying she loved me and that I'm the one she wants but we're not compatible anymore. Is there anything I can do, can it work again? How can I control myself better? Love your channel you're the best. Thanks, you're the only one I trust.

[@peachblossom.phlox3403]

How long were you guys apart when you first broke up?

[@innox9142]

Yesterday a friend of mine who had visited me was visiting one of my best friends (without me). This one best friend's sister is my ex's best friend. And quite coincidentally, my ex was there that day too. When my friend came back to me later, he told me about it. He said my ex said "I don't care about him" and "For me this relationship wasn't even a relationship" and THAT'S what she said even though we were actually both very happy and (we both) were having our first time and stuff like that. I don't really know what to say. It's very weird... You can't by any chance tell me what could be causing this, can you? I'm kinda desperate and don't know what to think.

[@jasiahrose-xy6uz]

Truthfully, it could be a reason for a reaction because she knows you’re friend would go back and tell you which would give you a reason to reach out. Very immature and lack of growth from the break up, but know she still thinks about you in an emotional way. Being over you would sound more like “yeah we dated but I hope he’s doing good now” or “we had our time im fine now”

[@TheDac12046]

My ex made a post on her Facebook wall saying moving on to bigger and better things a couple days ago now she deleted it. We've been broken up for almost 2 months now. She's been doing this alot lately

[@ClayAndrews]

Social media posts can be cryptic. Maybe it is not just about your past or your relationship, it could be something else that is happening in her life.

[@TheDac12046]

@@ClayAndrews your probably right. When we were in a relationship she never blasted her business on Facebook. She also didn't have alot of friends either. The last time we broke up which was like a year ago. She was doing the same things after we broke up she would add alot of people and put post up then take them down. Once we started talking again and hanging znd eventually back in a relationship all those people she added she deleted and she kept her personal stuff of social media. This break up i deleted a ton of people off Facebook and being really quiet. For personal growth for myself and to help myself become a better person. So im trying not to over think anything and let ger go do her thing give her time and space and see if she will come back in the future

[@003sim]

How did I get here?

[@VinayKumar-xd6wv]

My ex put this false image of me to help themselves get over me. Like really bad image of me, and telling themselves lies about me everyday to move on while justifying their break up. But does it really work this way? I don't think so. She still hasn't been able to forget me. I rather feel like, the more she tries to do this false hatred thing. More she gonna remember me. Yet this doesn't lead us anywhere. I wanna know how to remove the false image of hatred they created in their head. Any ideas coach?

[@cycolburn99]

Vinay Kumar yes they do that because it’s easier for them. Too much guilt in giving up someone nice.

[@VinayKumar-xd6wv]

@@cycolburn99 Yeah she's extremely guilty

[@maddena977]

He got into a relationship with another girl after our 1 year relationship 1 month and 3 days. Is that a rebound??.

[@ClayAndrews]

It really depends. If your ex still has feelings for you despite the length of time of being separated and is emotionally unavailable, it could still fir the description of getting into a rebound.

[@maddena977]

@@ClayAndrews you see, I don't know if he still likes me or not... 💔💔💔😓😓😓

[@maddena977]

@@ClayAndrews he hasn't really shown me any signs that he still likes me.

[@VinayKumar-xd6wv]

If my isn't over me, even after a number of months, then any relationship she gets into while she isn't over me, will be considered as rebound? In my case ex isn't over me even after 4 months. But she is dating few men/ probably in a relationship too. Are these all rebounds?

[@leont4062]

Vinay Kumar yep. If she switching them like socks than my guy she’s miserable and misses you and think the grass is greener , and soon she’ll be facing reality like the rest of us guys that put hard work into the relationship they rub away from and will have to deal with it.

[@troyesivan7069]

Leon T this is so true. one way or another, they will have to face their reality

[@roycesharp8314]

12 yr marriage. With someone after 2 months. Made it Facebook official 6 months.

[@chantehowe7798]

My update my ex has got married

[@chadr7522]

How quick is suspiciously quickly?

[@ClayAndrews]

It may not be quantifiable exactly as it depends on the pace and healing process of the person.

[@LanaClarkLC]

My ex gained a ton of weight after we broke up and was getting drunk pretty i often and posting it on Facebook. His reactance lasted months like 3+ months.....we only dated for 5 weeks. Is that normal?

[@mikefletcher3247]

My ex wife Dixie divorced me in September and moved back home in November but moved out again in February but says she loves me and doesn't want to lose me but she bought her own house and said she doesn't want to get remarried and move back home again How can I convince her to come back home and get remarried. But we spend time together and hug and kiss and she seems genuinely sincere