5 Stoic Ways of Dealing With Difficult People - Marcus Aurelius (Stoicism)

[@PhilosophiesforLife]

Marcus Aurelius says “When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly” We hope that you enjoyed this video and for more videos to help you find success and happiness using ancient philosophical wisdom, don’t forget to subscribe. Thanks so much for watching.

[@susantang287]

When I wake I'm always grateful and offer up a thank you. I see my day as getting tasks accomplished and if I don't, so what. The above people rarely cross my path and if they do, I observe them and their actions as having nothing to do with me. It's like observing a child having a meltdown. It's interesting to observe and not react. I learn something new each time. Telling yourself when you wake up you'll meet the above people is setting yourself up for a very stressful existence. Not productive.

[@elainebines6803]

Too much advertising, it takes away from your message

[@janemkade3488]

Deep wisdom... more love 😘😍😍😍😍😍

[@gustaf3811]

Then to what purpose does a person deal with these ungrateful beings? I'm not convinced, one does not simply deal with things by not dealing with them at all unless the outcome matters not to thy neither does it affect the outcome to anyone.

[@ChrrolloDI]

@@gustaf3811 Have you not watched the other videos? Followers of stoicism usually create negative scenarios in their head in order to properly tackle them in case they turn out to be true.

[@ICEcoldJT]

“Before you argue with someone, think to yourself is that person even mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of different perspectives. Because if not, there’s absolutely no point.” 🙏🏽

[@scottcarboni1053]

100%

[@murtadah6327]

That's a million dollar quote; or perhaps, far more than that. Thanks a lot for listing it here.

[@LangugesLearning]

That kind of throws arguing with strangers online out the window then. For the most part at least.

[@jomo4435]

Discussing with sharing information is not the assumption we are fully correct...arguing is more the condemnation of others ideas and information...

[@lawrenceespinoza113]

Awesome advice Amigo!❤👍

[@Charlie-ii5rr]

"Don't compare yourself to others. Instead, compare yourself with the person you were yesterday." That's the thought for the day.

[@NA-gd3sd]

Sounds like you'll always be a day late.

[@Charlie-ii5rr]

@@NA-gd3sd I think your name is well chosen.

[@NA-gd3sd]

@@Charlie-ii5rr all I'm saying is, live today like it's tomorrow, then yesterday has today secured.✌

[@Charlie-ii5rr]

@@NA-gd3sd Sorry, but that makes absolutely no sense.

[@NA-gd3sd]

@@Charlie-ii5rr do you play chess, in chess the move you make now, puts you in position for a payoff later. In simpler term, you go to school, make good grades to get a good job. Make a better tomorrow, today.

[@smartymcfly3957]

The older I get, the more stoicism makes perfect sense as a lifestyle to avoid pain and suffering. Thank you for the invaluable videos.

[@Josh-ck9bv]

It’s not about avoiding pain and suffering it’s about being strong enough to bare it. Keep your head up

[@Nemesistyx]

Imagine humanity not including core things such as stoicism as old as it is and proven to work... Humanity is de evolving. Art is art because of subjectivity rather than skill. its sad really.

[@Link-fw9mo]

@@Nemesistyx in order for it to get better, it must get worse

[@aarone.1981]

With age comes wisdom

[@lawrenceespinoza113]

Very True!👍❤

[@Apple_Teck]

“DO NOT CORRECT A FOOL, OR HE WILL HATE YOU; CORRECT A WISE MAN, AND HE WILL APPRECIATE YOU.”

[@deeorr6403]

Truest statement I've read/heard in a long time.

[@mindtwister1984]

Just hit them harder than they hit you, and they will get the message.

[@THE-WAY_THE-TRUTH_THE-LIFE.]

@@mindtwister1984 This reminds me of "if everyone jumped off a bridge would you do it too?" Please tell me that you can see the flawed logic in your statement of not only stating how we should act just as bad as other people, but also encouraging people to act even worse than other people. This is not very logical to me, nor is lt very mature. If anything, you would only be making yourself a difficult person as well in the process... Maybe even more difficult.

[@mindtwister1984]

@@THE-WAY_THE-TRUTH_THE-LIFE. You haven't really met some very selfish and manipulative people yet who only respond well with pain and punishment.

[@THE-WAY_THE-TRUTH_THE-LIFE.]

@@mindtwister1984 I think at the point in our lives where we reach an age where we can access KZbin freely on our owns is when we would've met some selfish and manipulative people by now. Besides, these kind of people are all over the internet. But the answer is not to stoop to their level, or to become like them. You have to remain calm, cool, and collected. Be the change you want to see in the world. Act the same as them and you are just making humanity a worse place to be in. (Not telling you what to do, but this is how I see it.) And if anything, then you can just ignore these people because their ego's aren't worth your time.

[@klloh5012]

Here are the actionable points summarise from the video: 1. Recognize that people have different perspectives and opinions, and it's natural to encounter difficult people in life. 2. Practice empathy by putting yourself in the other person's shoes to understand their motivations and intentions. 3. Focus on what you can control in the situation, such as your own reactions and emotions, and don't waste energy on things outside of your control. 4, Respond with kindness and respect, even if the other person is behaving badly, as this can defuse the situation and set a positive tone for future interactions. 5, Avoid reacting impulsively or emotionally, and take time to reflect on your thoughts and feelings before responding. 6. Recognize that negative people or situations can be opportunities for personal growth and learning, and use them as a chance to practice patience, resilience, and self-control. 7. Practice gratitude and mindfulness to cultivate a positive mindset and reduce stress. 8. Stay true to your own values and principles, even when dealing with difficult people, and don't compromise your integrity or moral compass. 9. Use setbacks or failures as opportunities to learn and improve, rather than as reasons to give up or become discouraged. I hope this helps!

[@Hummingbirds2023]

Bravo!

[@oneuniverese]

Thanks dear

[@katarratube]

I understand this, but as someone who grew up constantly bullied and tormented, I did all of these things (stayed quiet, ignored them) and was bullied even more and/worse than before. I am a strong advocate of choosing your battles, but there are times when you MUST state your boundaries and SPEAK UP for yourself. Not stoop to their level or engage in their energy, but standing up for yourself. Some people see "kindness" and "being the bigger person" as an invitation to continue their abuse. Stoicism in this sense isn't realistic, because abuse is mentally and physically deteriorating, and can become life threatening. Alot of victim blaming too.

[@theVirsa]

You are right! I think those reading Aurelius have the wrong end of the stick. Consider this - instead of thinking that he was discussing "self-discipline", consider that he was listing "traits of an ideal populace" over which he wished to rule. Then these musings take on a sinister colour, don't they?!

[@Reddy26]

All his advice is meant for emperors, kings, princes, politicians; people who are at the centre of attention. Opening their mouth invites more noise and distraction from their goals. The context is different compared to the situation you describe.

[@gadgalleto5906]

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[@kathymcbride955]

I agree. You MUST stand up for yourself. These people who insult you are worthless idiots!! Tell them so. And with passion. And embarrass them if you see them doing it to others too.

[@AzraelPercussionNEO]

Fight Fire with Fire baby ahah 🔥🔥🔥

[@sunlion8866]

“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” -Marcus Aurelius

[@therealjones59]

So true *****

[@j0nnyism]

The Buddha said something almost identical. I wonder if that influenced Aurelius maybe indirectly

[@billpholde4816]

Then I am so weak.

[@bastian3595]

@@billpholde4816 But at least you know it, and you could do something about it :)

[@mondee5758]

@@billpholde4816 I am weak but thou art strong

[@somethingyousaid5059]

Theoretically I will have been the most difficult person that I will have had to deal with.

[@RE-xv9fp]

Lol same! :p

[@ThizOne]

And the problem is that you can’t get away from them, until you leave as well

[@foodcrash9450]

Honesty is key to solution 👍🏾

[@ianbauer4703]

I like you

[@BigShean]

24/7/365

[@romeodenis4968]

A great reminder to be relaxed and calmed. When i'm angry my reasoning is compromised; it even affects my health. So, i learned to become more sociable and believe He's always there for us. Have a fruitful day ahead

[@deeorr6403]

That's my life long journey;. To stay calm and controlled when outraged.

[@joannaedwards6325]

Balance is The Key.

[@elmalanmalan2175]

You can't control others But we can control how we react

[@Diana-gt1rv]

I like this philosophy very much and actually I am intuitively living according to these very simple principles. It makes life so easy.

[@aleenayoung7856]

I live by you can not change the world or other people actions but you can change the way you respond and who you are as a person.

[@tdhawk167]

These are great in general... With basic run if the mill difficult people... But totally does not apply when dealing with narcissists. Learned the hard way. Very different techniques are needed

[@josuealvarado213]

Stoicism: - Careful Action - Self Restrain - Respect 5 ways to deal with difficult people: 1. Set your expectations 2. Let it go (you can't control it) 3. Remember our common humanity (we could also be difficult people, be graceful) 4. Take Action (confront wirh humility and confidence) 5. Overcome Envy (distress, fear, lust, delight) - Don't put your happiness in the hands of others. *I think these things reflect Christian principles, even though the Bible is not their source. But this would be some of the things you would find in the Bible. Just add the salvation of your soul in the eternity, through the merit of somebody else - the Grace of God by faith.

[@aliciaquintero5195]

Very true!

[@sunitafisher4758]

🌸 I agree

[@danielholman7225]

I’am amazed that the Stoics put this much time and energy into dealing with people with ill will. I mean, they really thought about it and came up with good answers.

[@MsFunology]

Once I had a session with a psychologist. I asked her opinion about whether I should discuss my situation with the guy that left me hanging with my feeling. She said that it could be a solution for my peace, but I need to rethink first if this guy is a person I can have a discussion with. If he's not the mature one or someone you can have a mature conversation with, then I should just let it go and may be consider another man who is more deserving. I was like, "this is so true!" After a lot of thinking, I decided to not talk to the guy. Best decision! Don't waste your energy for people who will not match your effort or not as mature.

[@margaretnewton6409]

Thank you . The reader is so clear . All of Marcus Aurelius concepts are scriptural in the Gospels. And,, is therefore, infallible truth.

[@Dacademeca]

"Hard Times Create Strong Men, Strong Men Create Good Times, Good Times Create Weak Men, And Weak Men Create Hard Times."

[@kepspark3362]

Agreed

[@gilbond6443]

A quote I won't be forgetting. Thanks.

[@MrNardusdutoit]

A popular quote foten used by the leaders of Dubai ..

[@Dacademeca]

@@MrNardusdutoit it's TRUE though

[@ice1032]

Or absent/distant fathers

[@FindingHome2024]

I have been a stoic since 2015 and did not know it. I thought I was just following the tenants of emotional intelligence. When you love yourself enough, No bully can provoke you to fight in public. Your abuser at home cannot upset you because you left them when they showed they wouldn't stop. Keeping your life peaceful is something you must build and maintain.

[@vivienwilliams1538]

Marcus Aurelius asks a lot. The desire for revenge is innate in everyone. Denying it is indeed desirable. However, absorbing every jibe, insult and unfairness is surely giving licence to those handing out the medicine! If we were all 'Too Sweet To Be Wholesome', i.e. never losing our temper, never questioning the behaviour of others, I doubt if there would be any progress, good or bad, in the human race.

[@barbeeska]

Really good point. I think the key is assertiveness. You can stand up for yourself without undue emotional investment

[@joannaedwards6325]

Bumper sticker - LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE

[@jinrusso7993]

"How to deal with negative people " Don't deal with negative people.. Or at least reduce the time you spend with them drastically or if you know you can, help them

[@qwanathomas735]

Negative people are usually fearful of life, you can't help anyone who is not willing to overcome fear. They would rather avoid the reality of life and allow others to carry them right to the point of death. You were right with the first statement, have nothing to do with them, they are no friend to you, but will act as such.

[@chicoassmaster4293]

help them? 0 payoff with immense problems

[@wjvlodek8769]

Good comment! I thought this video would have addressed (at least mentioned) "avoidance"...and (how) to best/successfully avoid difficult people.

[@mattwright9765]

@@wjvlodek8769 the video does address how to deal with issues like negative people, especially with those you may not be able to merely avoid, like a boss or family. The first two methods are great for this.

[@wjvlodek8769]

@@mattwright9765 OH....I agree 100%!! I though this was a terrific video. However, I just thought that "avoidance" would have been discussed/mentioned as a tactic (mitigation strategy). I have recently used it on lifelong "naysayers"...and it is working out well. THANKS for the response!!!

[@JaneAyre143]

As human our emotion reacts differently to a certain situation, because we are born with unique personality. As for me, and as born with Scorpio sign, when hurt by some mean people, I have the need to get even in a positive way. At first, I was shocked and can't answer back. But as I grow older, I've learned to stand-up and speak my points clearly and not in angry voice tone. By that, my offender clearly got my points and in turn makes him feels wrong. I believe that wrong accusations must be answered with truth just like in court.

[@524mykel]

Knowledge is just that, till it becomes Wisdom. I love Philosophy, Psychology, and all types of Human Behavior. I love Life, Ups and Downs. Experience is the best Teacher, till Time and Ads get in the Way, lol. :)

[@sam-my7bp]

I've delt with a VERY difficult person for 16 years now and to me kindness and compassion should be given to people who actually deserves it. I don't think their problems with themselves are enough to justify their immoral behavior.

[@AlaGamesMobile]

Simple words, remind yourself to be positive, be the opposite of the negative outcome. Do something that is not expected from you or many.

[@ergker2243]

Freedom From the Known Drawn from a number of Krishnamurti’s talks and dialogues, Freedom From the Known explores many of the central themes of his teaching. The chapters include: Learning About Ourselves, The Pursuit of Pleasure, Justification and Condemnation, and the Dissipation of Energy. The vital need for change and the possibility of it are the essence of what Krishnamurti has to communicate in this book. Krishnamurti says, ‘To understand and to be free of any problem we need a great deal of passionate and sustained energy, not only physical and intellectual energy but an energy that is not dependent on any motive or psychological stimulus or drug.’

[@unclefoiley819]

Marcus Aurelius is my new hero. I do have a little expertise in difficult people. I use to sing in punk rock bands for 35 years.

[@alysononoahu8702]

😁😆that'll do it

[@michaelpulley1415]

Loved the video. I just began to get more into Stoicism about a month ago. Lessons like these especially the knowing there is difficult people out there have shaped my mindset for the better. I hope Stoicism helps others for the better as well.

[@florencefrere7213]

There ARE difficult people out there, not there IS. Did you not learn anything in your English class? Seriously, 🙄.

[@michaelpulley1415]

@@florencefrere7213 thanks grammar nazi

[@gentillygirl545]

@@florencefrere7213 You're not a Stoic, obviously.

[@sarfrazmh31]

@@florencefrere7213 Flo you are not Free. Either change your Prison Warden Supremacy Attitude, or Change your Surname!

[@florencefrere7213]

My name is Frere, not Free 🙄

[@teastation9396]

I want this video summarized in poster format. .Take my money. I want to see this every morning and every evening.

[@deliaocampo4340]

Really happens at work when popular and likable they are envious so better ignore them or adapt just focuse on the job and be strong and tough 🇸🇽🇺🇸

[@henryluyombya]

Wealth of information from 2000years ago, and still relevant today. I have used some strategies in ignoring negative people. I consider them my 'spiritual friends' as Robin Sharma says. Thanks to Stoicism that I have continued to evolve for the last 12 months.

[@crisalidathomassie1811]

This is so true but at times we don’t see the real truth. I want to live in peace, help others, have my space and respect other’s as well. What I don’t tolerate is being taken for granted, so be it! Great video! Blessings to all and take care.

[@kevinhalasz-kovacs1285]

His words give me hope in life. So much knowledge.

[@estudioeficaz3763]

¡Gracias por los consejos! Tus filosofías traspasan barreras.

[@connorlee7882]

Thank you for this! This is a reminder of the thought process I had when I was better man. Now I can work on being that person again.

[@carlozalex]

I’m with you in what you’ve said.

[@hansalv]

No matter how hard I try to control myself, seems like my emotions are just so strong I can’t contain them.

[@IndifferentGem]

Journal about how could improve your response, daily.

[@Siggy-tz7eq]

This is so weird but I literally been this way my whole life. It’s just real exciting to see that other people think the way I do. When I was 9 I told myself what’s the whole point of feeling some type of way when you will get over it later? I knew something was off about thinking like that. I’m learning I could be a philosophizer

[@Siggy-tz7eq]

I believe that no one is born bad they just build bad habits. I just feel like a modern day philosopher

[@lexiemaep7930]

I was like that too until I was 30. Then for some reason I decided to let people affect me...big mistake, now it's harder to turn it off😂😂

[@Siggy-tz7eq]

@@lexiemaep7930 from this now on I just distance myself from people now. I changed a lot after I posted this and I can say I learned to stay to myself

[@weignerleigner3037]

Same I discovered stoicism because someone called me that lol. I just accept reality for what it is and try to navigate through it the best I can. And I accept I will constantly make mistakes.

[@sherriesteele-petty2998]

Thank you for sharing! I needed this reinforcement TODAY!!! 💖

[@vextract4662]

This does not work on narcissists they will always gun for you I just keep doing my thing it's great advice and it burns them up that their manipulation fails on you.

[@badian37]

Just curious, then what does work with a narcissists stranger in public trying to abuse you in passing?

[@genepitts4665]

If stoic thought was started in Jr. Highschool school shootings and cliques would be ended. Young adults would make their families and communities proud. Future civilization could get along and live and let live. I am bringing my schooling now at 52 years of age.

[@craigmerkey8518]

Wow so powerful.... As a behavior specialist I have two rules for myself, they are, unless you are signing a check with my name on it or I am consistently kissing you on the lips you are irrelevant, and the first two are conditional! I only work in a team, will be my authentic self despite other peoples feelings, positioning or orchestrations... Due to this I have a very solo life and I am ok with it... validation seeking is the worst possible most harmful thing you can do!

[@j0nnyism]

Gosh I’m irrelevant !! Oh well I’ve always secretly known that!

[@mshill2406]

Im gonna steal some of this logic

[@katarratube]

Alllll of this! I learned this finally after 30 years of living.

[@joannaedwards6325]

@@katarratube Yeah it took me until my mid thirties to learn it was ok to be myself and not to care what ppl thought of me. I'm 75 now and pretty happy with myself most of the time.

[@freddyogle9241]

Matt 5:44, Romans 12:17-21 & 1Thess.5:15-22, but 1st u have to read Col.2:8-11, this is the best guidelines for all of humanity and more so for the real man 🙏🙌💪

[@RE-xv9fp]

I have used this "negative visualization" my whole life in very long periods without realizing it. And it has been aweful actually. It just made me feel down and negative all the time. Sure you will get "positively surpriced" when you encounter good people etc because you expect the worse, but on the meantime you will feel sad, depressed and just joyless all the time. No thank you. Having high expectation also kills ones vibe and joy so, there you go.

[@wjvlodek8769]

I think he said "be prepared" to encounter negative people. I think that is good advice. On the other hand...an attractive lady will strike up a conversation with me and I am too focused on picking up some groceries to realize she was coming on. Being prepared, for good and bad, I think is something to consider. Have a good day!!

[@geletmote]

@@wjvlodek8769 you wish an attractive ladt would strike up a conversation with you and so do I lol

[@THE-WAY_THE-TRUTH_THE-LIFE.]

Don't have any expectations then. Expectations are only selfish human created ideas to see things the way that We want them. (Talk about self-centered.) Instead go with the flow and meet people as they come. If you meet a good person, then great. But if you meet a not so good person, then just as well. It's all the same.

[@hardcrowley1549]

@@THE-WAY_THE-TRUTH_THE-LIFE. I agree with what you said about going with the flow and the rest, but to not have any expectations? That is self neglectful at times. For example, you need to have expectations that function as standards for how people should act towards you so you do not allow them to take advantage of you and/or bully you on a stretch period of time. And you need to uphold expectations for yourself too. But that doesn't mean eliminating compassion, empathy and logical thinking aswell. As per many things, expectations (and maybe even selfishness) are not inherently positive nor negative, it is the way in which they are treated that determines so. Wish u all the best

[@EricaShady10171972]

11:21 Marcus Aurelius also said *The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way, becomes the way*

[@feathetstone7290]

You know what's really fun to do. When somebody wants to use you to feel better about themselves Just before they start their mental warfare look at them in a really concerned way and ask them if they are all right and why they look like they are about to cry and if there's anything you can do to make them feel better and watch them disintegrate like they don't know where they are or what to do next and that's because they're utterly convinced that they're mean mugging will get a fear response from you but instead you will have given them a complex causing them to go back to spending many hours in front of the mirror before they try and pull their shit again.

[@nilzabento1143]

I could not agree more with the previous comments, and I seemed to be having these unpleasant encounters with fools, so I have to remind myself that there is no point in arguing with a severely disturbed minded person. It is really a waste of my precious time! Thank you for sharing these videos. Amazing!

[@Joaquinonbasstheelectriklovein]

These are great goals to shoot for. The best I can do is forgive but not to suffer fools either. I cannot fix what is broken with a broken mind. The best I can hope for is healing thus I pray to forgive but do not forget the lesson with the person who triggers negativity within my mind for I don't want to repeat it again with them . I only have myself to blame if it reoccurs with the same person.

[@jaysomewhereinflyoverterri735]

At 7:55, the question is asked, "Is a world without shamelessness possible?". IMHO, perhaps not during the days that Marcus Aurelius lived in, but in our present world, especially when it comes to a great many of the people who are in power today, I'm not so sure. I believe that our world is becoming an evil place because of the actions of a small number of people at the very top who have no morality at all. They are drunk on power and all that they desire is more power and control over us. If their actions and agenda are not put into check soon, destruction will follow. Anyway, this is a video that all who are trying to work on the side of goodness, should watch. There is a treasure trove of wisdom within this video. Thank you for posting this, Philosophies for Life.

[@lacidar3752]

It’s been said in this comment section but bears repeating. This is for dealing with abrasive disagreeable people, not malicious abusers.

[@rabilrzayev2132]

The simple and happy rule of life is expect nothing and accept everything.Thank you for very good vedeo.GOD bless you!!!

[@teddyraffudeen7056]

Excellent philosophy up to a point. As an emperor he had the prerogative to exercise many of these teachings. But as I said, up to a point. This very remarkable man also went to war, which demonstrates it’s impractical to put into practice at all times some of what he taught. There is that time to “turn the other cheek.” However there is a time to draw the line or be taken for a fool and be abused because others think you are soft. For this very reason nations are vigorously competing to create the best weapons. Philosophy is all well and good. But practicality is altogether a different matter. Much to be admired about stoicism anyway.

[@christopherbriseno7475]

I'm having trouble with my mom she is bi polar and difficult , this video helps alot thank you!

[@JoeMama-vj8es]

I feel ya brother. I'm going through the same thing.

[@Tom_daBomb23]

Broooo mine is the worst. She's been like that my entire life up to now

[@cynthiacole6140]

Funny, I have a daughter (who is a P.A.) who tells me and everyone else that I am bi polar. I have been repeatedly tested by MY doctors and they find no evidence that I am. So I guess it can work both ways...

[@teastation9396]

Feel ya dude. Fiance of nine years has bipolar and went balistic on me. Thats what brought me here. Its still really hard... but this helps a lot. I want this summarized on a poster so I can look at it every morning and night.

[@joannaedwards6325]

I don't know if this will help but - - - - my mood swings were troubling to some of my friends and family UNTIL they all stopped taking my emotions PERSONALLY. As they accepted that I would dramatically change during a day or a night they NO LONGER WERE AFFECTED by my actions or words. They chocked me off as a crazy Drama Queen and chose TO LOVE ME NO MATTER WHAT. I believe ACCEPTANCE is the key to being less disturbed by a bi polar ( manic depressive ) loved one.

[@hillarykosgei6519]

Feeling stronger,courages and new everyday i go through teaching from aurelius

[@adyingdream4585]

One of the best guys that ever lived...

[@j0nnyism]

And his son was one of the worst. His wife was known for adulterous affairs so maybe not his son

[@j0nnyism]

Oh and Liam is a complete tit.

[@nicoleonfeels]

I was actively in an argument with someone, trying to deescalate it, as I got this notification. The timing is uncanny.

[@sherriesteele-petty2998]

Don't you just LOVE how God will deliver information right to your doorstep! 💖 And..... JUST WHEN YOU NEED IT MOST! 🙏

[@Jonas-gl9ke]

I was going to comment that someone will likely comment that “God did it”. But remember, God is not responsible for the millions of people who could have benefited from this video today but didn’t get a notification.

[@DaciaLibera]

"Thank" G👓gle! 😛 No timing here!

[@joannaedwards6325]

Isn't it serendipity or synchronicity???

[@lilacnpink3864]

Nice tips, I just also learn to expect the unexpected. I prepared myself everyday.

[@johnmills3163]

You don't always have to deal with / or be around difficult people ... just part company with them and LEARN TO SAY "NO" ... get comfortable saying it !

[@RinAsami1]

"Has the insult really harmed you?" That's the thing nowadays. Yes, it can harm you and not just in your mind. If someone or a group calls you a certain buzzword negative name, you can be canceled socially and possibly lose friends and jobs. I'd love to know what Marcus would say about this toxic cancel culture that has been going around for the last several years. It's very sad.

[@sebastianrobertsvideo]

See it as an opportunity to get a better job and social circle

[@BeeRain]

Easy. Don't depend on social media as a means to bolster your ego.

[@BigShean]

Grind on yourself and your life privately and be a good person. You’ll never be canceled.

[@alcap5285]

“What you do speaks so loudly that they can’t hear what you say”…. 💪🏻

[@johnburrows1179]

Think with your head not your heart. Take emotion out of it. See people for what they really are, not what TV or society has brainwashed you into thinking they are. And understand that 99% of the time when someone gets pissed off at you or are angry, it’s not at you, it’s something in their life. I let them rant, and when they’re finished I ask.... what are you really upset about? That puts them back on their heels. 99 times out of 100, the reason they are upset isn’t you, it’s something in their personal life.

[@gadgalleto5906]

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[@racebannon2332]

Wow Jonny, that’s wisdom! People with a multitude of issues obviously seek your advice lol Don’t get emotional 😭

[@joannaedwards6325]

Exactly. A good thing to remember YOU ARE NOT THE TARGET

[@gretajakubonyte9192]

As easy it sounds Thank You for being one of the meaningful channels.

[@ericvidal440]

I stay away from negative people , at all times

[@SuperBobby1967]

There are exceptions. Narcissits are really aiming to hurt and control.

[@Jordury]

Repetitions makes perfect, everyday read what you want to reflect your lifestyle and the wat think to and you’ll be able to reprogram your whole conscious and unconscious mind.

[@lunatism9714]

Im glad this video was made. Perfect for people to learn how to deal with me

[@RitikMaurya07]

Clausen from DARK Netflix: *"My mother used to say - have hope, not expectations. You might just be surprised, but not disappointed."* This has really helped me a lot being a stoic.

[@user-ng8eq8ew8n]

Wow! These videos is so uplifting and enlightening. Thank you♥️❤️♥️

[@MrNardusdutoit]

In most corporate environments ones positive behaviour don't bring about positive change but rather expose you to exploitation and is naive, it can be more complex the more relationships a working environment present

[@66NOI773H]

Is this your thoughts of what could happen speaking to you, nobody can exploit you unless you allow it. You have to apply contemporary intelligence to the ancient wisdom, there are many environments that did not exist in ancient times that modern man comes into contact with daily. Again, you are in control, maybe acorporate job is not something that fits 'you'. It is always about improving you, you can do nothing to change another to your will and should avoid wasting time on such useless endeavors. Always take the higher path of self-improvement. It is never more complex than you are willing to deal with. One of the most powerful tools you have with you at all times is that of silence, turning around and walking away, giving them nothing of you. Sure they will say stupid things, maybe do stupid things, but you always have the choice if you will go to 'their' battlefield to fight them. Another great quote is: 'choose your battles wisely' know when a battle is a smart choice and when it is not. It feels as though your real concern is being exploited and being perceived as naive and an easy target for such, not improving yourself. With improvement comes realizations you will not get without the improvements to yourself. Another quote: 'Don't throw pearls before swine'. Swine cannot understand the intrinsic value of pearls and would probably just crush them as they devoured them along with everything else never comprehending what they had done. From Marcus: 'Never let yourself be heard to complain of the work to oneself for improvement!' (not an exact quote, but I believe conveys th message accurately) One's positive behavior will bring about positive chnge to you directly, and by example possibly others will see an image of strong character and courage in the face of adversity and so much more it might shock you to know how many you may well influence onto your same path, daring to be courageous as you are. So many people are looking for this very thing, especially with the state of affairs as they are. People are confused, frightened, unsure of themselves, not sure what will happen next, and the corporate environment is indeed a place that is designed to promote conflict and adversity. View it as the gladiator arena it is and each morning wake and the first thing you do is suit up, placing youe armor and shields on your mental and emotional body, readying yourslef for th horrific battles that will sure rage all the day and part of th night long, bloody and unforgiving, with savagery that would make Ghengis Khan puke and cry, envision the horrors, the double and triple crosses, the set-ups and evil manipulations, all will be there waiting for you every day! Prepare yourself or if this is too much for your heart and soul, and for many it is way too much, it is the better, wiser and self-fulfilling ambition to find your true calling. Not everyone is able to be a gladiator in the prime arena, but just as worthwhile, not everyone is able to be a school teacher, a poet, an artist or musician, or just an averge man with normal ambitions who just wishes to be happy in his own skin and with himself! Many believe this last to be the required predecessor to all of the others. But most importantly, absolutely the cornerstone of all of this is you must come to terms with yourself on these things and then immediately pursue it directly everyday, all day. Do not waste what little time you are given, everything requires putting the effort in. I came from such an environment, battled within it ferociously seven days a week, determined to never stop until I made it or died trying. A third option reared it graceful head, experience taught me I was very good at the arena, but even better at another skill. It is much more gratifying and I am happier doing what I do now every day, then my best day of fighting in the corporate arena. Corporation means (loosley) 'To give life to!' They are so much just that, a lifeless monster in which arcane documents and manuscripts and approval of various and nefarious agents must all come together to imbue this abomination with a false life without a true soul or the betterment of mankind in its lifeblood. More of a parasitic, life sucking competition to the death requiring non-entity of zombie-like humanity-, lol!feasting evil! What you so pursue so shall you become with daily repetiton thereof!!! (Lucky for humanity, we can switch horses mid-stream without a hitch! (Pardon the pun!) *** In the hopes this gives you something you may utilize to your own benefit ***

[@michelsascha]

It's easy... take a deep breath, turn around and walk away. This is the most powerful thing to do. Than after some walking tourn around again and watch them freaking out. Than turn around again and smile.

[@tpeterson9140]

this video is extremely important and everyone should watch this

[@Hummingbirds2023]

I needed this information today badly. 😢 It's so helpful in changing they victim Mentality. Thank you, we all have our own issues, it's knowing how to not let it "sink in" with a better much better way to look at our stressors. Thank you it helped. 😅

[@petronilobuan4648]

The more i come into age I’m now 55 the more being a stoics makes sense! The more I age n gets older the less i trust people! The best revenge is not to have revenge! You cannot control difficult people what they think n do what you can control is your reaction and how you respond to their behaviour! If you control it in your mind it cannot affects you! Difficulties and Stresses! Always treat everyone with compassion and understanding! They behave poorly because they are ignorant and lack the wisdom and knowledge we possess! K

[@faridaaziz9055]

P. Buan . The best comment on this topic . Thank you sir

[@nickgraham6527]

Thank you for taking the time to create this video 🤙

[@christiaanjellesma1851]

I really think when getting older you are more and more open for this kind of advice and implement it , im gonna give this a try at work for some people i keep ignoring prob cause the way they are

[@byron8657]

Setting your expectations straight! Have negative visualizations of toxic people around you before you start your day unpleasant difficult people will show up from time to time! Marcus Aurelius

[@aarone1777]

This is so applicable here in comment sections of you-tube vids!

[@TheBlinked1]

Before I even watch this video...thank you, I need this NOW.

[@66NOI773H]

Well, in the wisdom of Stoicism and writings of Marcus Aurelius, the internet is just loaded with the type of people you should be forewarning yourself you will encounter. The internet is something Marcus may or may not have anticipated, but the wisdom still applies and is very effective. My first initial feeling (emotional) was to engage some of the commentors in a manner that would easily set them straight, (if they were capable of understanding what I would have said!) but having been working towards a better, simpler life for a time, I was able to easily remind myself that I am in control of my actions, thoughts and feelings, when it is their time to grow those needed will come to them. It's ironic, really, that here in these comments even, we are given the opporunity to strengthen ourselves and make our world a little bit better place, through and for ouselves! The most liberating experience in my existence!!!

[@fabazabe]

3:56 all I have to say to this is that “silence would not save you”

[@wjvlodek8769]

Sometimes I guess I am the problem...I know that I have a problem telling others "what to do"...I am old and into physical fitness and watching what I eat (although far from being Charles Atlas). I just gave my seriously overweight nephew a "lecture" on watching what he eats, caloric deficiency, strength training and walking for aerobic exercise. I know that I come across as a smart a$$/know it all. I need to work harder on this. However, it is difficult for me NOT TO pass on good/successful experiences.

[@joannaedwards6325]

VJ Vlodek I'm 75

[@joannaedwards6325]

VJ Vlodek I'm 75

[@joannaedwards6325]

Sorry I hit the wrong button. Was about to say that I have had experience trying to advise younger ppl since I have learned a lot in my experience in my 75 years. However, hardly anyone cares what us older folks have to say about life. So now I accept the fact that everybody IS ON THEIR OWN PATH (destiny) and it really isn't my place to interfere. I'm less frustrated and they don't have to put up with this old lady's "lectures".

[@wjvlodek8769]

@@joannaedwards6325 Thanks for the experience/advice (I agree)!!!

[@joannaedwards6325]

@@wjvlodek8769 We Baby Boomers must stick together 😊 ✌.

[@riguez3001]

A manager my age was yelling at my mom working there I couldn't feel more anger ever in my life than a person my age disrespecting my mother a person older. Then I saw this video and now I feel better p.s. i am 19

[@onemorething100]

“There is no person so secret punished as those that subject themselves to the Whip of their own remorse” -Seneca

[@Epicurean999]

I do the same thing by visualizing what could go wrong and then people put a label on Me as "Being Pessimistic" And whenever those same people are stuck in any ruckus, they'll call Me first. Hypocrisy Maxxxxxed up

[@austintennisrox]

This guy is really good. Thanks for the information

[@knotgood9077]

TY for all your hard work and content contributions

[@Diachron]

I would just like to point out that the fellow who wrote that report should have double-checked it regardless of whether his boss was in an ill mood or not. ☺

[@whomeye2168]

Compassion only works so far. Eventually letting people continue to behave illfully is accepting their laziness to improve themselves. I have told people that I won't tolerate their disrespect particularly if I am not the cause of their distress. I've asked them if giving them a taste of their own medicine would help. They couldn't fathom it and excused their behavior as due to being drunk. Which they weren't. It's very negative and the constant sour energy emanated from them eventually breaks mine down no matter how compassionate I act around them. I've spent years looking at people's circumstances to avoid developing hatred for them. But some people are just dark and they've no intention of evolving or improving. And leading by example just doesn't work. What then? I have an imperfect mind being human. So therefore I cannot deal with negative people infinitely. Due to my imperfect level of tolerance, I have to walk away. And if that makes me inhumane, so be it.

[@paulbroderick8438]

A lot of workplaces are snake pits, always some obnoxious creature willing and able to slither out from under their rock. Actions probably condoned or ignored by the boss!!

[@zendean5207]

You sure do give humans a lot of credit.

[@nrs6956]

The wisdom of these observations would have been useful earlier in my life, but I doubt that I would have appreciated the message unfortunately, being much older, I now realize there innate value! Thank you.

[@alrightalrightalrightalright]

Needed this right about now

[@aidamouradian5581]

THANK YOU SO MUCH !!💞🌞

[@Gringohuevon]

Avoid people..job done

[@professionalamateur1549]

Boom

[@MrPrimoPR]

Amabilidad, respeto, cortesía y empatía.

[@j0nnyism]

I have to admit these are lessons I could really learn from. I’m going to be a better person from now on. Thankyou

[@haydeeobedoza8313]

Thanks you are humble human...

[@haydeeobedoza8313]

Thanks you are humble human...

[@philippebressange5383]

A quote from boudha when you forgive you heal you let go you grow

[@saif98230]

Objective judgment, now at this very moment. Unselfish action, now at this very moment. Willing acceptance-now at this very moment-of all external events. That's all you need. -MARCUS AURELIUS

[@kellexone5814]

This is all fine knowledge except when it's applied in the context of abuse by other humans. Stoicsm shouldn't be applied as a list of rules to closely follow, but reminders of the human condition. If this is followed as a set of rules, it would be easy to fall victim to physical, emotional, or other kinds of abuse fairly easy, with no solution to get out of it. Abuse is never to be managed, but exposed and dealt with. Just my 2 cents.

[@mattwright9765]

If these examples were to be followed as a set of rules, it would render emotional/verbal "abuse" ineffective. I suggest looking into Stoicism further, especially with techniques like framing and tending to matters that one can actually control, and disregarding those that one can't control.

[@mattwright9765]

@Tracchofyre you make a good point, but an Emperor could merely exert their power and authority to shut people up or rely exclusively on the privileges of his title, but instead he used Stoicism to bolster his character.

[@a-lie-n]

Sometimes you gotta learn from experience sadly, at least in my case… But I also never actively looked up manipulation tactics and ways to protect myself

[@junzenthmanjaluna9914]

This is the best advice I need right now❤️

[@peachsangria8704]

I frequently read the writings of Anthony DeMello and I hear echoes of Marcus Aurelius in DeMello's writing.

[@BlueVein1926]

Awareness

[@lmw314159]

I just got done reading "Awareness" by Anthony DeMello and I had the same thought. Maybe all the great wisdom teachings are saying similar things.