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@Dj-qi2we Жыл бұрын
Thank you make sense!
@YOU-niter9 күн бұрын
Thank you! For this video! Great man! Hoping this helps men & women flow 2gether nicely! Great video! Men take notice! & your woman will honour you! & give you what you need! Naturally! ❤️🔥
@schawnettarobinson85843 жыл бұрын
1. Security 2. Communication 3. Patience 4. Leadership 5. Attention 6. Masculine energy
@keithkekenbosch92893 жыл бұрын
Define masculinity energy 🤔
@schawnettarobinson85843 жыл бұрын
@@keithkekenbosch9289 Great clarification question.. Alpha male: Take charge, Make decision I’m such an alpha female, and I don’t want to be. It is a lot of responsibility. I want a man to see I’m struggling, and he has a back. I want to be spoken with love, respect, and care. I want grace also. I’m not perfect. I make mistakes. I don’t want to be call names or belittled.
@CrystalDatingCoach3 жыл бұрын
Loved
@CrystalDatingCoach3 жыл бұрын
@@keithkekenbosch9289 Confident. Able to make decisions. Not afraid of commitment.
@smartkookie3 жыл бұрын
@@keithkekenbosch9289 I will give you an example. Putting your feet down and drawing a line in the sand. Telling your mom and adult children "This is my woman and all of you will respect her."
@chrisparker62493 жыл бұрын
A King makes Kingdom moves. He ensures that he honors his Queen and cherishes her.
@cindybain51763 жыл бұрын
You got this on point
@chrisparker62493 жыл бұрын
@@cindybain5176 🙏👑
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right!
@loveinautumn39783 жыл бұрын
Yes brother 🙏
@suzannemuliolis60663 жыл бұрын
💯
@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate28623 жыл бұрын
A divine feminine will often want a strong masculine... security, confidence, disciplined, decisive, trust worthy & loving
@eldiariovivircondiana3 жыл бұрын
It can't be better described.
@NYCAppl33 жыл бұрын
100% facts 🎯 🎯 🎯
@OkJess04043 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@nikkilove61283 жыл бұрын
Precisely👌🏽
@1pbreakershorts593 жыл бұрын
I agree!!!
@ashajaylaclerk41453 жыл бұрын
Masculine Energy is a must. Direction/leadership, trust, etc. All Must.
@Alan_19823 жыл бұрын
Real men love this type of teaching. To many times we were taught to treat women a certain way. Grown men will do these things for a successful relationship.
@sellinamartin62003 жыл бұрын
Words of wisdom hearing this makes me cry u r soooo accurate! Man great video !👍
@nursegaines35193 жыл бұрын
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
@TT-th1gb2 жыл бұрын
Facts. Learn how to love and provide the correct way, not the damaged way
@laquieshabailey2 жыл бұрын
PREACH!
@brianpicado5639 Жыл бұрын
Whether you treat them good or bad, its the same shit.
@karenhenson81953 жыл бұрын
Consistency Communication Time Honesty Commitment Emotional security Trust Attention Love
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!
@thesoulonquest3 жыл бұрын
Totally agree!
@Kavellda2nd3 жыл бұрын
Once you have confusion, then you have chaos.
@Weuniteas13 жыл бұрын
And God is not the author of confusion... I Corinthians 14: 33
@schawnettarobinson85843 жыл бұрын
Confusion is destructive. Asking questions is horrible.
@medicinekeysformrcps50253 жыл бұрын
Summary of the video :- 1. Security, not just physical, but also emotional 2. Communication 3. Patience 4. Leadership 5. Attention It is always better to watch the entire video 💐
@tinker22173 жыл бұрын
Number One. Oh My God. She won't feel safe enough to open up.... A WORD! 🙌🏿
@sharronstewart10743 жыл бұрын
Ladies let's make this go viral instead of misogynistic foolishness. I, of course, agree with this video and remember telling my ex that I couldn't open up because I didn't feel safe and broke up with him shortly after that.
@atongethompson93453 жыл бұрын
You definitely did the right thing. Many times some men are so insecure that there's an expectation for you to compensate for it.
@jamesbradley55043 жыл бұрын
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex wife back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem❤❤❤
@jamesbradley55043 жыл бұрын
Text me via what's app for recommendation❤❤❤
@jamesbradley55043 жыл бұрын
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@atongethompson93453 жыл бұрын
@@jamesbradley5504 Are you talking to me Mr. Bradley? Just checking 😁
@nikkilove61283 жыл бұрын
An indecisive man is the worst especially when in a relationship🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️... causes alot of confusion and no one has time for that
@atlantasfaithsmom3 жыл бұрын
Amen, sis..🙌🏽. Go somewhere with those darn mixed signals. 👎🏽👉🏽
@CrystalDatingCoach3 жыл бұрын
Yes. Confidence.
@ms.dvinelyblessed3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely.
@ms.dvinelyblessed3 жыл бұрын
This is it. 🙏🏽👍🏽
@NaturalSista813 жыл бұрын
I agree! Each point is valid. Even "strong" women want these traits. It makes it easier for them to open up especially if they're willing.
@lady.leo123 жыл бұрын
I agree 100% with all these points! In regards to leadership, a good Christian mentor told me: "communicate with your husband on important decisions such as buying a house, finances, etc. but trust God to lead your husband in making the right decisions for your family. And if your husband makes bad decisions then allow God to work in his heart. Don't belittle his decision making skills or take control!" I think that's good advice. :)
@vanbriannemodel3 жыл бұрын
No offense intended, I'm just genuinely curious about your perspective and was wondering if you believe that a couple that are atheist or agnostic can have a healthy relationship? It feels as though you're saying that you need God to guide your husband/marriage and all decisions? Perhaps I misunderstood, but that's the way I interpreted what you stated. I understand that everyone has different beliefs. My boyfriend and I were raised agnostic and have studied many religious, and are always striving to understand others points of view even if we don't agree personally. We have a healthy and loving relationship based on equality, honesty, and communication. When we make decisions it's as a couple/equal partners. Again, I was just curious about your perspective and relationship practices as it seems vastly different from ours. 😊
@lennicoleman76423 жыл бұрын
I agree
@demileonard67883 жыл бұрын
Agreed but I would also add consistency
@lady.leo123 жыл бұрын
@@vanbriannemodel oh my goodness you're too sweet! Of course I'm not offended. I think it's cool you asked! 🙂🙂 You asked a loaded questions which can honestly be answered yes and no. I've seen healthy and unhealthy relationships from people who worship God and people who don't. But who can know with certainty if the relationship is a good except the couple. Right? So it runs the gamut ya know. In terms of relationships and marriage, it's like a pyramid with God at top, husband on the left, and the woman on the right. (Bc women are always right! 😉😆lol) No but seriously men and women in relationships should treat one another equally. However, in the Christian community the teaching is that the man is the one who is held responsible and therefore accountable to God on whole different level than women. Idk it's a thing in the Bible which is difficult to explain in writing but hopefully this helps. If you have any more questions feel free to write to me on my page. PS- If you and your bf are honest, love each other unconditionally, and communicate then that's awesome. All those qualities should be present in any relationship no matter if you're a Christian, atheist, agnostic, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, Wiccan.....well you get the point. 😉
@YessiWaters3 жыл бұрын
you just keep dropping gem after gem in every video. thank you for always providing the wise perspective to situations where many would simply look at the surface🙏❤️
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure ❤
@lightuponlight60243 жыл бұрын
This applies also during marriage. Only a man who loves and respects himself would be naturally doing all of it.
@rjpeppers-hamilton80853 жыл бұрын
Yesss...The connection is there shown before marriage...have the connection in dating..before marriage...A spiritual bond is important to me!
@jjmccreary3 жыл бұрын
I have a bit of anxious attachment style, but if a man did these five things, I know I’d feel secure & erasing anxious issues
@YOU-niter9 күн бұрын
Yes❤️🔥
@Derlet303 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I want a man of integrity. If the man has integrity, everything else flows almost effortlessly (trust, safety, comfort, listening, etc). To make my point: Would you trust and feel safe with a man whose character you cannot trust? What about listening to a man whose judgment you do not respect? Character comes out on top on the list of needs for me and I suspect, for a lot of other women as well. 😉 Thank you for this video! Golden content to reflect on 💕
@tinker22173 жыл бұрын
Not 100% true. My husband is faithful. But he lacks in other areas listed here.
@soystef3 жыл бұрын
definitely representing my thoughts
@SoJesusChristMusic3 жыл бұрын
I AGREE!!! ...and I’m probably one of the most honest men out here (not the only but maybe too honest), and that has gotten me nothing but assumptions and the person believing I’m lying 🤣 Not saying don’t be honest but some women will reject a god man thinking he’s lying because his truth sounds like some of the guys who ran game on her...Sounds too good to be true. Then if men continue getting blamed they don’t know what to do which causes them to say what they think she wants to hear...Now that’s lying 😂 I’m always trying to be a better me. Women most realize that men need practice. It’s difficult to practice if I have no hands on. Reading the manual is one thing, actually working on the car is another; Sounds so easy by the book. Another thing that when fail to realize is EVERY WOMAN IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT. So while man expect us to already know this and that, If one woman is picky on holding hands, while another is like why are you up on me, it’s hot...I still love you though 😊 They expect us to take what we learned in one relationship to another and that doesn’t work. One woman is like take your shoes off, the other is like WHY ARE YOU TAKING YOUR SHOES OFF!!!? 🤣
@yanacshell3 жыл бұрын
Yes. Integrity and humility♥️.
@taishawilliamson99443 жыл бұрын
I totally agree. Especially with the making me feel emotionally safe so I can be my complete true (vulnerable, naked) self. When I feel safe to be me I am at my absolute best.
@dianaharris39673 жыл бұрын
Patience, security, communication, a good leader and attention+affection
@Nekole13 жыл бұрын
Yes. Love this list. ❤
@kenyajosey88173 жыл бұрын
In my own healing and growth, before entertaining any man him mentally and emotionally being in a good place is important I feel with that its a great way to have healthy communication It allows both of us to become and feel vulnerable in the relationship because your partner makes you feel safe in doing so I love a man with a strong backbone, a man who shows leadership and leads with it It makes a woman feel that security blanket all around her because she know her man got her and is handling his business Attention and a man paying attention to me Him knowing what I need before me even saying it shows he watches me at my inner core
@melissalitus88793 жыл бұрын
Love this!
@heavenlylyte49583 жыл бұрын
I Agree, As a Woman of God: I definitely want a man That is “Equally Yoked” meaning we are aligned with one another by providing and ensuring security, communication for one another. Communication is the key foundation of the relationship. It’s the building block to ensuring that there’s an Open Forum to speak freely open and honestly with any reservations about being critiqued or judged. Understanding we all have our way to communicate however it maybe there should be compassion . Leadership is needed of the man to be front runner for the relationship in a way of being confident and loving her in all ways and she feels like your her comforter and protector. Attention to her in every way will bring her more in tune to you on every level and she never feel like she would need to look anywhere else. Basically never allowing her mind to have any doubt in you whatsoever. Whenever you give her any reason to doubt you in anyway then that automatically breaks down trust and the domino effects happens and the whole relationship fails before it even gets a chance to blossom.are truly for her snd the relationship
@giantking67443 жыл бұрын
She needs 2 start her own channel for she can share her wisdom from a woman's prospective.She would do well.
@sjp80596 ай бұрын
👏🏻
@absolutelynina81873 жыл бұрын
"I Agree" Women need a man to be patient, show kindness, empathy, and be honest. We love communication. However, not all but some are not good at that.
@kelz27393 жыл бұрын
I Agree 💯
@jennifv13 жыл бұрын
I agree 100% ..I agree with your mindset regarding relationships and it is so comforting to have a place to come to and listen to a man speak your language as a woman. So important to reach all men with your videos!
@tisaligon-roman63533 жыл бұрын
I completely agree jennifv1. So important for women to have a safe place to express what they feel and know they are heard.
@dawnmcmaster49493 жыл бұрын
Yes, I agree 110%!
@shebuddha3 жыл бұрын
This is brilliant it should be taught to every male on this planet....God bless you Stephan for your wisdom
@jenniferhammett47443 жыл бұрын
I AGREE
@jenniferhammett47443 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@poobear34able3 жыл бұрын
This should be taught and deeply rooted by fathers within the home
@moneshalynch33263 жыл бұрын
I agree. Consistency is important to me too. Being too moody is not attractive and can hurt someone's feelings.
@chantejones98253 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I co-sign this! This was very thoughtful.
@malene44813 жыл бұрын
I AGREE!!! This is a post for MEN and WOMEN, KINGS & QUEENS. 🙏🏾☺👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@amandam16173 жыл бұрын
I AGREE💯❗️ With them all. I've been married for 19 years and our marriage has always lacked communication. I have never really truly opened up to him that the way it should be in a marriage I've just never felt that he needed to know. Masculine energy is exactly damn right.
@lovesmitten343 жыл бұрын
I am a woman and I approve this message!
@Iamtiffanykirk2 жыл бұрын
Love this- absolutely accurate! Love the distinguishing the difference between attention and paying attention. Showing that you see me and hear me is priceless
@skimpdeetrucking3 жыл бұрын
These were great, & very soild but many of us need Understanding from a man...stay blessed always... A man who understands our perspective A man who understands when he's wrong A man who understands situations to where they can make wise or sound decisions...
@jenniferhelterbrand48373 жыл бұрын
I must admit that I look forward to these new videos with much anticipation! I have ordered four of Stephan’s books and the information is invaluable! I love hearing a man’s perspective and wisdom based on godly principles. I’m a preacher’s kid and NEVER had I ever, in 57 years, heard such straight up EXCELLENT guidance. BRAVO!!!
@cynthiagarey-ousley61393 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!
@taco27283 жыл бұрын
Its all gun and games tell u see a small wee wee lmao Im lucky im not one of them
@LateshaRenee3 жыл бұрын
@@taco2728 Go away
@eveannebak46023 жыл бұрын
Women need security ,communication,patience,leadership , your attention👌
@CrystalDatingCoach3 жыл бұрын
We need a lot of things and we GIVE a lot of things. We need to feel Special, respected. Loved.
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
@sadamvip49203 жыл бұрын
You are right, women can give alot if they treated correctly.
@trob57233 жыл бұрын
“I agree with the things you mentioned” I personally need all those things. Dating whole and healthy is priceless but to many people rush the process.
@KN-hn7jc3 жыл бұрын
Definitely agree and I pray the man for not only has a strong relationship with God but has also listened/adheres to your teachings!
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!
@anyaneverills91243 жыл бұрын
That's one thing for sure with my ex, I never really felt that he was really committed to me which made me feel not secure in the relationship. I would ask him questions about it and he would dance around the issue. I just got tired of the rollercoaster mentality. I went through it in college with him, during and after his first marriage, and during his 2nd marriage. He would make promises and never completely follow through, last January it finally ran it's course with him. After reading 2 of your books and watching your videos helped snap me out of that rollercoaster narcissistic mentality with him. You are definitely right. He would take me to dinner when he would come back home, and it was only for his needs. I let him know what I like and want, and he would make promises and never fell through. Promised he would make up for all the years he should have been with me in the beginning. I heard it all before. I told him our time hAd passed years ago. If he really wanted to be with me, he would have. Him playing professional sports would not have stopped that. But you are right. And I know not to bring any previous issues into any new relationship that I will have this year.
@nikkihendison71073 жыл бұрын
I agree.. so many men are needing to hear this. Even as strong woman we need our strong but humble men. That will lead us as we hold them up and support them‼️
@giantking67443 жыл бұрын
Facts
@patriciamccurdy56903 жыл бұрын
Love this! It made me realize how lucky I am to be with my man. He is amazing and does those 5 things. Thank you!
@samanthaqyyum23033 жыл бұрын
I agree with all these points. My last relationship made me feel like I was asking for too much, but this helped me realize that these are all just normal wants and needs that need to be reciprocated by both partners
@jerricaholloway553 жыл бұрын
I agree. I was just talking about this with my friend. And he opened himself up to receive what I was saying to him.
@kortiniamartin96823 жыл бұрын
"I AGREE" 🙂 Communication and security are a definite priority for me. This is how we build trust and loyalty with each other. Patience is huge too! There is nothing more intimidating when a man has masculine energy with no patience. Its makes it hard to give him the love he deserves or require. But in all you have made some very valuable points. Keep giving us greatness! Have a blessed day!
@MsMuffin20083 жыл бұрын
All 5 of these are beyond on point, but that patience is the big one for me! When a man is willfully patient it communicates him as being insightful and understanding, grounded, open, caring, and invested. That degree of selflessness also speaks volumes of their maturity and attentiveness to the relationship. How can you not feel safe in that? How do you not flourish in an environment of patience created by your guy? It’s the perfect set up for me to joyful have all his babies. 😍😁🥰🥰🥰
@Onlyone_Keke3 жыл бұрын
I agree. As a women, I want a man who can take accountability for his actions.. Thank Big Bro Stephen for your advice....please keep blessing us with the videos
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
More to come, ensure you stay subscribed and you click the notification bell so that you can be notified whenever I release a new video.
@lisajones-franklin35743 жыл бұрын
You covered everything Stephan. I especially love what you said about attention and time. It seems like a lot of men are spending so much time working on becoming wealthy or wealthier that they don't have or they won't make time to enjoy being with their wife or family. A balanced work/life schedule is important, healthy and essential. Thank you Stephan 🙏🏽
@Matt-tt2br Жыл бұрын
Uhhmmm, no, not really, what if they have drug & or alchol addictions?...hmmmm? RIGHT!!
@Erica-cf1xb5 ай бұрын
People make the time and effort towards what they deem as important. The hard pill to swallow Is accepting you are not It.
@healingwithpatience3 жыл бұрын
The ACCURACY!!! 💯💯💯 I would add that we also need our men to be accountable, trustworthy, a man of his word in big and little things, to do the things he says he will. If we can count on our man and trust his words we flourish, feel safe, loved and give more to the relationship too. 💖
@classydahlia39333 жыл бұрын
Stephan got put this video in front of my face as soon as I turned on KZbin today.. The reason for this is I have been dating a man for 6 months and have been recently asking him where our relationship was headed ..Instead of feeling like a nag.. I started pulling away and not making the efforts of helping with his kids and his house... not going to see him and looking to see what he would do..the only time he really responded was for physical needs which I have since also stopped..and now I am the problem :( This video made me realize that I was only asking for the basic needs of a woman from her man as I was doing everything to be sure he was taken care of..I have no desire to be crazy making although the yesterday I started feeling crazy and that he was gaslighting..I actually feel physically ill today. I thank God for you and your video ..and although I am sad for the demise of this relationship..whatever it was ..I now realize it was for the best... God bless and thank you for your videos and texts!
@classydahlia39333 жыл бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you so very much! With the help of your videos, and realizing I need to fix my “picker” so it might take a minute.. I’m gonna start hanging out with God and let him fix it.. I’ll just keep praying and learning Thanks again!
@chrysanthemums49633 жыл бұрын
You definitely have a God given gift that aligns you with your purpose. I've been watching your videos for a while now and they have been on point 💯. Even the one about "female players" (gulp) was very accurate according to a girl I used to know 🤣. I pray that you continue to put God first in order to help those who need it. 🙏🏽.
@Joy-up6lf3 жыл бұрын
I agree!
@Danes.153 жыл бұрын
I agree!!! I’ve been in situationships where I didn’t feel secure and it was because I didn’t have the label that they wanted to be with me and only me
@safaralenkinsey4243 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree with everything in the video. Security,Communication,Patience,Leader ship,Paying attention and Masculinity. But there were two more most important key points that you always express. One of them was healing.
@justsomeideas95943 жыл бұрын
You understand women very well😊
@angelamcwhorter443 жыл бұрын
Yes I Agree. One day true Love will come My way..
@roshianderson3 жыл бұрын
Love this! This is such real information for people who want healthy relationships 💕 if there is one person I recommend it is your videos! Real experience, real advice!
@ramonajohnson27383 жыл бұрын
I agree 200% Stephan! I'm not an expert Biblicly but I can say God has been there watching over me! Put God 1st. I have nothing to loose..
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@jadeenvy86723 жыл бұрын
@@stephanspeaks6821 ThankU for being such a positive influence in all arenas; for living as "your brothers' keeper. 💝 . I'm sure I speak for many in saying"GRATEFUL"🦾🙏
@ginadeniseallen29193 жыл бұрын
I really pray the man I love will watch, understand and receive this...
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to hear that!
@barbaranannenga72313 жыл бұрын
Transparency and honesty are also very important especially when there’s a history of trauma such as infidelity. Women need to know there’s nothing you have that she can’t know about or see. In a healthy way.
@devonjones52003 жыл бұрын
Hey can i paypal u
@sakinahmuslimah87873 жыл бұрын
You took the core needs of a woman and brought them down to EARTH! Every point you made was on point. Most men make women sound so "complicated"...and we are! But i appreciate the fact that through life experience and just listening to and studying women overall, you were able to make loving a good woman sound so simple and at the same time a smart decision for any good man thats truly ready to give their heart to a woman.
@giantking67443 жыл бұрын
Actually men make it more difficult than it needs 2 be.been married for 8 yrs all u gotta do is show love support 1 another and be loyal.Women are not that difficult
@Ms__Respect_love3 жыл бұрын
I AGREE! As a woman, communication is key for a healthy loving relationship. It allows for me to be vulnerable and open. This video was amazing and truthful!
@Mberechi3 жыл бұрын
Stephan you hit the nail on the head. Those are exactly my NEEDS in a relationship. I do not ask for alot, but when I have been telling my husband over and over this is what I need from you and I even told him our marriage is in trouble. He didn't listen and now I am going to divorce him. Thank you for this video.
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear about your divorce and I pray that you may heal from all that you have been going through!
@queenchica66233 жыл бұрын
Good luck to you as I too will be moving on from my marriage this year as well.
@joanagain0073 жыл бұрын
You're always on point! These things that you share should be on the news everyday, prime time news or at least a segment that helps men to know how to be men because it is really a worldwide problem. They dnt Know how to treat women and sometimes they not tying either.
@kismetbridgeforth91313 жыл бұрын
MASCULINE ENERGY!!! Thank you, the assertiveness, the leadership, the desire to protect & provide, good character, and ambition - it almost seems as if that was a caliber of men who started to fade away if born after 1960...
@Sheba3573 жыл бұрын
“I AGREE” You hit the ball out of the park with this video. Every single point was a million percent true. You put into words what most of us feel in every relationship one way or another. ♥️ Thank you for spot on information. Definitely sharing this video!
@shevisharris87803 жыл бұрын
I agree I'm single! And everything you touch resignates. This is very good information for both male and female my biggest thing with men is communication. Communication is so important.
@tinker22173 жыл бұрын
I liked it before you even got to the list cause I KNOW it's gonna be good. 😁
@pintjones293 жыл бұрын
All these points are awesome and so true as a woman...paying attention is a big one.......it means so much when your love pays attention.....because he will pay attention on each point that u mentioned of he is really into you.
@tisaligon-roman63533 жыл бұрын
“ I AGREE “ to the umth degree. Soo many variables used to create a harmonious space energetically. I’m big on the energetic magnetism. Gotta be on the same page. Also what’s important to me is that a man know that just because I want to spend a lot of time with him doesn’t mean I wanna be all up under him 24/7. I don’t want either of us to lose ourselves trying to be something we’re not let alone doing something neither of us want to do. Respect and genuine communication.
@ebonysmith15033 жыл бұрын
This video is everything! So on point! Especially when you said "learn how to get in tune with her" We women don't always want to communicate everything to our man because we expect you to know us enough to know when something is wrong or we need your affection/attention. Love this video!!
@NissiOsue3 жыл бұрын
It’s the masculine energy for me 😊😊 you said everything. 👏🏾👏🏾
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
So glad!🙂
@donatello47163 жыл бұрын
To me a "confused' man is not a safe nor confident man. It is a huge turn off. Affectionate is so important, too. If I have to be the one who always approaches to give you affection I will slowly start to feel unloved.
@dkgnew3 жыл бұрын
True!!!
@dkgnew3 жыл бұрын
...in a dating situation it’s all about timing and understanding that affection is more than sex...we men sometimes forget about Kindness and gentleness (without sex as the goal).
@krystal58753 жыл бұрын
Omg you hit this conversation right on the nail...so many men don't listen,have patience are communicate .I wish you where close to me so i can high five you!!
@Wynter843 жыл бұрын
Oh wow, great video. This needs to be forwarded to him! 😔 he lacks all of the above
@salathieljones27443 жыл бұрын
I agree. Before the video even started, my first thought of want I need from a man is security. The umbrella of security allows communication, patience, attention, and leadership to manifest. Thank you for sharing.
@giamckinnis25763 жыл бұрын
I’m glad I caught this... I’m copying and pasting this breakdown for the description box into my notes! Thank you Stephan!
@Samsohecanpost3 жыл бұрын
Part of that security is financial too, I think that is an unspoken point.
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate that!
@Erica-cf1xb5 ай бұрын
Another important topic. One loves to have everything and let their partner starve. Just to see if the begging will occur, so they can say NO.
@ms2knowmeis2loveme3 жыл бұрын
I would definitely agree with all 5 of these tips and the bonus one 🙂. I would add for myself personally, someone who lives for God, shares a spiritual connection, someone who’s happy and who’s whole before the relationship. What I mean by that is someone who has taken the time and healed from past hurts and not searching for someone else to make them happy. That type of energy drains the other person in the relationship mentally and emotionally, like an energy leach. A lot of people say “ I’m searching for my better half” but I want a whole person to begin with. Your partner should be an extension of your already happiness from within. Love your content Stephan.
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure ❤
@StylesbyShimiko3 жыл бұрын
I agree wholeheartedly! Loved the video. It really solidified that me needing all of this from my partner doesn't make me unreasonable, needy or demanding. Having an equal partner who's open, can reciprocate, and is willing to communicate will truly create an unshakable foundation.
@thetransparentjerseygirl3 жыл бұрын
Yesssss Emotional Security!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@venishadavis13593 жыл бұрын
I agree. Communication, communication. Men/women please communication is very important!!
@kimmiejones200173 жыл бұрын
Well said Stephan! You mentioned this video was geared more towards your male audience today however, there was an abundance of great information spoken for a lady to receive as well. Thank you for taking the time to create and post this video. 🙂
@joshuarand97923 жыл бұрын
As a woman I agree! Many of my relationships have fail from not getting these needs..
@candiwilette16613 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree with your presented principles that women need. As a Pre-licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that work with individuals and couples this information is very valid. I would also state that women also have to allow these things to be put in place. The needs of a woman are mostly always mentioned, but we fail to learn about us and revive ourselves from past hurtful relationships that pushes us to forget the needs of the man. This is more for women who struggle with self and fear to get healing so that our men can feel like they can be open to communicate, lead, be patient, and etc. I truly enjoy you and things you provide! I hopefully can have you as a guest for my upcoming Podcast "Love Therapy". Both men and women have to value and get to know self before trying to restore things for others!!! Let's work because LOVE really does Work!!!!!!! Thank you soooooo much Stephen.
I agree “Communication Is The Key 🔑 “ !!! With God’s help communication can open & lock 🔐 a relationship together. Thanks 🙏🏾 Stephan.
@ajheramartin11943 жыл бұрын
1. Security -physically and emotionally 2. Communication 3. Patience 4. Leadership 5. Pay Attention- Time, Presence, Prioritizing All facts Stephan. Now if I can ever find someone that does all of these things that would be great.
@ninifire4282 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for telling men the truth about what women need. It’s so important for them to know and be educated about this. ❤
@MeetStephanSpeaks Жыл бұрын
My pleasure ❤️
@777Angeleyz3 жыл бұрын
Wow!! This information is so on point. I especially love that you included that the relationship must be protected from all toxic situations. This information is such a blessing and imperative for a healthy relationship. Thank you🙏🏽🙏🏽
@delenarimes26573 жыл бұрын
These qualities women need are so on point! I just learned more about myself as a women lol. Especially pay attention because we as women were always taught to tell our men what we want. I get the feeling you have talked to a lot of women to get to this level of enlightenment 😁. Security what position I hold in your life. Communication to prevent confusion and chaos. Intimacy and patience during intimacy ( emotional and physical). Leadership: confidence to lead and be decisive. Pay attention and give attention. Masculine Energy wow.💕
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
@31jcalhoun3 жыл бұрын
Yes, leadership is huge to me!!! This is really good teaching. ❤🙌
@Mberechi3 жыл бұрын
I also want to add that yes a woman wants leadership, but if he screws up his leadership role by repeatedly making bad decisions that she has to pay for in the end. She will start to lose confidence in him. SHE WILL STOP BELIEVING IN HIM.
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right!
@Lnf4003 ай бұрын
What kind of decisions would she have to pay for
@christinacashady34213 жыл бұрын
Hallelujah 🙌🙌🙌 Thank you for this 😁😁😁 I posted on my FB... I definitely know alot of people that need to understand this 🤗🤗🤗
@christinacashady34213 жыл бұрын
My ex stated that this only has to be done for 6 months and then he doesn't need to continue it any longer 😤😤😤
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!! 🙌
@31jcalhoun3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate what you said here about giving her your time and attention, and I think this also ties into communication!
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right!
@beckyjade89313 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making me feel normal as a woman. I have been dealing with a man that sadly won't communicate or make me feel secure. When my time of the month comes up it causes chaos and pain. Very unessecary and hurtful
@ShantaRheams3 жыл бұрын
You really have a gift at understanding the dynamics of how to be in relations with others etc....
@ShantaRheams3 жыл бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you’re welcome and appreciated ❤️
@preciousbroussard3 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. Its a blessing to have a man like yourself leading these kind of conversations. As women it's equally important to recognize that not all men are equipped to just know these things. So taking the time to explain your needs is important. Something I'm still working on.
@jenniferjenkins27363 жыл бұрын
All of these points are 100% on point! My ex husband missed the mark on all these points and that's why he is now my ex! I hate I didn't find your videos sooner because it would have helped me a lot and I would not have wasted soooooo much time with the wrong person.
@hikerhobby12043 жыл бұрын
I agree Jennifer! I went down the same path. I’ve always wanted a Godly leader. I didn’t realize the leadership part was missing until I’d been married twice. I’ve stayed single for over 20 years, figure I’ll lead myself. Have a great day!
@jenniferjenkins27363 жыл бұрын
@@hikerhobby1204 oh wow. This was my first marriage and now I know what to look 👀 for. I want to be married. I think if we follow God's word and wait on him instead of doing it ourselves, he will send us the husband he has for us. I don't feel like we weren't meant to be single. Have a good day and happy new year 🎉
@reneebcc3 жыл бұрын
Agree. My favorites are security and communication. I found writing letters to be helpful before verbal conversation because you can get everything out. If one is emotional at that moment, writing helps to calm the person before confronting if there are issues. How we speak to people can lead to positive or negative outcomes. Healthy communication is the foundation for one to open up and be fully vulnerable. Once this is achieved, you can work through almost anything in a relationship. Great advice ❤😍
@Erica-cf1xb5 ай бұрын
I like this method ...but what about them showing someone, or privacy breeched, or no motion, or falling on deaf ears? This world is embarrassing and nobody is helping the right people. Everyone is laughing at each other and watching people suffer through their tech world. I honestly hate it here.
@ItsMeShanalee3 жыл бұрын
totally agree!
@lizrichardson70333 жыл бұрын
I agree
@lasonyaisisbasetwalker31383 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I have asked for personal in my relationships. I have spoken to my ex’s personally on this matter and neither one wanted to commit to any of this. So I am single for this reason
@pambrown53163 жыл бұрын
I so agree! A lot of men have some of these, some men can even have most, but it takes a special man to have them all! A God sent man!
@kimberlysmithcarlson17773 жыл бұрын
You literally read my mind as a woman and what I am looking for in a man...like on EVERY level. Thank you so much for the confirmation I am always so grateful for you and the work you are doing!!!
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the kind words
@tabithabrown45243 жыл бұрын
I agree!!! Heal first! Before trying to be with someone else
@jaquelinedoss-cola81603 жыл бұрын
Agree. I require a man to be generous and giving as well as compassionate
@MeetStephanSpeaks3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate that!
@katelcherry93363 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video to let men know what we need.
@yolondalogan33093 жыл бұрын
These 5 are an amazing starting place for a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Thanks for confirming that communication and wise leadership especially, aren't too much to ask from a man 💯🏆