5 THINGS I DIDN'T EXPECT BEFORE BECOMING A MUM UK 2021, THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN ABOUT MOTHERHOOD!!

[@erinholloway8818]

The loneliness is real! I’m sure all pregnant Mumma’s out there having to go to their appointments alone or even giving birth alone has excelled this feeling even more. Thank you Shan for raising such an important point and it feels nice that you have created a platform of such supportive ladies 💁🏼‍♀️ due early April and can’t wait to meet my little girl and feel this overwhelming love 🥰

[@sarahroberts7374]

Im due end of March with my little boy😊👍 💕 cant wait!!! Best of luck for your little one hope it all goes well, & i agree with every word you have said! Im so glad the UK has changed the law now to allow pregnant ladies a support person at all times! Im not with baby's Dad but my Mum is my support bubble & other friends & family will help in other ways! Hope everyone else out there is getting all the support they need 🤗💖💕xxx

[@mrshayleyr7346]

I had my baby 2 years ago now and definitely felt the loneliness, can’t imagine what it’s like in a pandemic so well done to all you new mamas! You’ve got this 💜💜💜

[@isabellereams5142]

Have you considered a childminder rather than nursery? They're usually quite a bit cheaper and you get the benefit of it being a homely environment with the same caregiver every day. Plus George will still have other babies at the childminder's to interact with. It also means they can be taken to the park etc. They have to be ofsted registered so will still have to provide the same activities and education as nursery. I'm a nanny (also another option) but that is usually more expensive than nursery, although worth looking into. If you go for a nursery, often nursery's attached to primary schools are less expensive (no idea why). Just some ideas :) x

[@_sheraz]

So sweet. Loved the video. I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant and I did not expect the hormones to be like this. I never get hormonal or anything before or after my period so this, this is something else. I am literally praying the lows are just a hormone thing and go away. It’s most likely this pandemic that’s making us feel this way I guess. But being hopeful and positive helps almost most days 💪🏻 love to all 💞

[@kshaw2307]

I'm due in 10 weeks, this is really helpful. Childcare is definitely ridiculously expensive and because I work shifts we won't be able to price it up until I'm on mat leave and work agree a flexible working plan for me. Not as easy as if I had a Mon to Fri 9-5 but that's just how it is I guess. Loved the last point! I think at the moment I'm so caught up in getting ready for my LG I hadn't stopped to think about that side of her being here, but it's lovely and makes me look forward to her being here even more.

[@HomeWithShan]

Yeah I bet that is tricky!! Honestly, I was so caught up in the organising everything for him to get here, that I kind of detached myself from the emotional side of it.... but now... just all the love and emotions are flowing without a care i the world what his nappy drawer looks like haha!!!

[@tjw6572]

Thank you for keeping me so calm! I recently found out i am pregnant, now 5 weeks and have been watching your videos back to back!! What an angel 👼

[@HomeWithShan]

Aw I love that!! Honestly it’s the best thing ever, all I though about before was the birth but honestly, I can barely even remember it now!! The best days are to come 💕💕

[@jordannoble8678]

Girl it breaks my heart when you speak about being lonely💔 I'm a military spouse too so know exactly how you feel, especially when it comes to moving around the country and living away from friends, I'm a stay at home mum and it can get very lonely, my inbox is always open❤️

[@HomeWithShan]

It’s so hard isn’t it!! It’s just one of those things that we have to deal with though! Thank you so much chick, means a lot! 🥰

[@rainbowdolly]

This video made me cry. I am seven weeks in with my beautiful incredible little boy who is an angel - good at eating, sleeping, smiling, etc. But I have felt really emotional just this week. I have an incredible partner who is locked down with us, as we are both school teachers and everything is shut. I am breastfeeding - hardest thing I've ever done in my life!! I adore being a mum and I'm 30, so a bit older than you. But, cripes... it gets hard some days. I just love our baby and I am so amazed by him. Can't get over, even now, that we made him! On the flipside, I feel immense cabin fever atm and my hormones are still adjusting to not being pregnant and I am still absolutely exhausted. The everyday grind of feeding and changing around the clock can get samey, but other times, it's my favourite thing ever having this little boy to nourish. It doesn't help that we are in a pandemic and that it's January so too cold and dark to show him the world outside. No one can visit us to see him grow. I guess I have quite a bit of FOMO in terms of his milestones this first year. I worry about all the little 'normal' things we won't be able to do together that I'd hoped for. 💔 I have found your content on IG and here really comforting. Especially when there's no mum baby groups at the moment. So thank you. I'm just taking it a day at a time and not planning and doing all I can simply to embrace him. I'm so with you on your final point - being with him every minute and finding out about him and noticing all his new behaviours is what keeps me smiling. I just feel very lonely, even with my partner here, working from home.

[@halloweellahere7602]

Oi, just you hang in there buddy. It's clear how much you love your little boy, it's bouncing off the page. It's ok not to be ok, and soon you'll jump through another hoop where you'll feel unbelievable again, and back to yourself. Just keep doing everything you're doing and that hoop will occur naturally. Try not to overthink the best you can - and remember that everything passes. I hardly ever write comments but yours deserved a reply. And some love. So here. Here's a big fat heart from a total stranger who can see you're struggling but can also see what a magnificent job you're doing - - - > ❤️

[@Jocawe]

The waking up to every noise cry and movement the baby makes yet the dad hears nothing so then you never really get a full night's rest x

[@HomeWithShan]

Omg this is everything 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 how on earth don’t they hear anything???? 😅😭

[@Jocawe]

@@HomeWithShan i think they did research on it to find out mens brains function differently to ours when it comes to sounds xx " selective hearing" x

[@beegreen28]

Literally couldn’t stop staring at that fire on the tv 😂 but 100% agree with every single thing you said (as always) especially the loneliness that’s why it’s so nice to talk to other mums that have babies a similar age as it makes you feel like you’ve always got someone who understands! 💗

[@HomeWithShan]

I love the cosy vibe that fire gives hahaha! And yeah I completely agree!! Love our little mumma community! Xxxx

[@cris-mm]

You are such a sweetheart. I'm 36 weeks pregnant. And I'm very glad that I found your channel last week ☺ . I love you videos. And thanks to your I know now what to buy for my little boy. And what i need for my self for the big day. I live in London but I'm originally from Romania. . Wish you all the best!.😘😘

[@amiepoulton7517]

Thank you for this amazing. My little one is almost 12 weeks, I have found listening to “happy mum happy baby” podcast have helped so much.

[@HomeWithShan]

Awh amazing, I’ve never listened to it but I will now!! Thanks for the recommendation🤓💪🏼

[@Nikitta]

We’re in the same situation with childcare, it’s so hard isn’t it and it’s frustrating that working mums don’t get more support with childcare 😭 but 100% agree with how amazing their development is by being in nursery every day interacting with other kids and adults xxx

[@nicolesurphlis1558]

Amber going her grandma and grandad o. Sunday night am at work Monday morning

[@FutureBilinguals]

I have given birth over a year ago...and i still have a pouch! But thats ok, we need to learn and appreciate our new bodies. It's part of being a mum 💜 Thank you so much for being honest!

[@saq546]

Lovely video, super cute baby George and mummy. I find your videos very helpful so thank you. 💙

[@roosmarija5166]

I'm not pregnant yet, but I love these video's!💕 George is such a gorgeous boy!✨

[@kayleighgardner7707]

I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant with my first baby so this was really helpful to set expectations! Like yourself, I have moved away from my hometown to be with my partner so I do worry about the loneliness. I just really hope by the end of July when I have this baby there will be a bit of normality back in the world 😊 xxx

[@HomeWithShan]

Oh gosh I really hope by July here is some sort of normality back in our lives!!! 😅🤞🏼xxxx

[@ukhti9650]

Me too! I am one week ahead of you and even moved country so I feel your worries❤️ we got this 💪🏻

[@tayrnwoolley1139]

Oh my god yes the lonleyness is unreal!! My babys 6months and is is so lonely still wouldn't change it cause the love like u said its unreal!!!

[@emarnold964]

I got induced on the same day as you (a little boy) & I love watching your updates as it feels like I have a friend at the same stage as us!

[@HomeWithShan]

Aw I love that!!! 🙈

[@tahmina7652]

I’ve got a 1 month old and I absolutely love her to bits, she’s making me the happiest and proudest mama on earth so your last point definitely got me saying “that’s me too!” 😂 also... sucks to be in a pandemic and dealing with the loneliness... and it’s extra hard with anxiety and depression 😥 sending all my love and hugs to you Shan, and to all your wonderful mums ❤️

[@HomeWithShan]

Hehe I love that!! 🙈🙈 and yeah it’s rough at the moment but we can all pull together here which I absolutely love ♥️♥️

[@tahmina7652]

@@HomeWithShan I’m always excited to watch your videos, and I loved watching all your pregnancy updates because it helped me! so thank you for the great content during this horrible time we’re all having to go through ♥️

[@samcook5306]

Mine would be I didn't realise how it would change my relationship with my own Mom...we've always been close and friendly, but since I got pregnant with my eldest, it's like she is a part of me, my conscience and guide and we are closer than ever

[@greenbeanzforever1]

I absolutely loved watching this! So cosy and chill. Sending love as a new subscriber!!

[@sophiejohnson1937]

I said this on Elle Darbys video not preggers but love the content! It’s so true for yours too. Not only supporting your channel but also good tips for when the time is right for me to become a mum!! 🥰

[@emilyh1408]

I love your videos. I’ve been trying to conceive since before you fell pregnant as a single mum by choice. I’ve decided to opt for IVF after such a long time trying. I can’t wait to finally fall pregnant and watch your videos to help me!! X

[@emmaroutledge1885]

I’m 20 weeks tomorrow, I can’t wait for motherhood, I’m almost 40 so late to the party but I can’t wait! Thanks for being so honest, it’s really good to hear all this. X p.s George is super cute 👍🏻 xx

[@HomeWithShan]

Oooh halfway there, that’s when I started to get really excited! I’m really glad you liked the video 🥰🥰

[@nicolesurphlis1558]

Your video are really good

[@hannahslost]

16w pregnant. Crying my eyes out with the last minutes of the video.. 😂 you're lovely! Following you here and on insta! 😘

[@sarahroberts7374]

Lovely video Shan, nice cozy chatty vibes & as everyone else has said, George is super adorable 🤩! My little boy will be with me in just under 9 weeks its gone so fast, im so excited! Finishing off all my prep & bingeing on lovely positive KZbinrs like this channel! 🤗💖💕 Good vibes to all the Mums & Mums to be out there! 💖 Edit: No5 wasnt cringey it made me soooo emotional in a lovely way 😭💖

[@HomeWithShan]

Aww thank you so much, I’m so pleased you enjoyed it 🥰 time is flying by so quickly isn’t it!! I know everyone said it would but it’s so true!!! And honestly, It’s so hard to put that emotion into words but it’s just so strong isn’t it ☺️🥰😅♥️

[@laurengriffin2718]

My little girl Alissa is a few weeks younger than George, she turned 4 months today 🤯 and when you spoke about being lonely let me tell you I feel every word you said! Only yesterday I had a full meltdown because it can just be so hard! I've never considered myself a very social person and really only have maybe two really close friends but it's only since having Alissa in this lockdown that I've realised how much I really appreciate and need the few people I do have around me! ❤️ I cannot wait for this lockdown to be over! I feel like it's really taking a toll on my mental health this time around! 😩

[@HomeWithShan]

Aww girl!! I totally get what you mean! It’s so hard at the moment, I can’t wait to go and see my family and friends. This whole pandemic has really put everything into perspective for me and made me realise what the most important things are in life. Get me out of lockdown ASAP!!? 😭😅♥️

[@emz3337]

Having a new baby is the loneliest time in the pandemic, not having other mum friends. But also the most rewarding

[@HomeWithShan]

Totally agree 🥰

[@emz3337]

I could talk to the babys dad but that's not the same as other mamas

[@nicolefaulkner1601]

The loneliness is real during this pandemic with my first 6 week old baby boy Leo☹️ especially in Northern Ireland where our lockdown has now been extended until 5th March.. sending all the love to mums who are feeling more low days than usual like I am❤️❤️

[@HomeWithShan]

So true! Oh gosh, such a long extension 😩 it’s just crap isn’t it! Sending you all the love ♥️♥️

[@nicolesurphlis1558]

Our amber and Hannah don't sleep well too 2 3 night s

[@nicolesurphlis1558]

I live beside railway 🛤 not good they amber keep wake up for a warm bottle

[@jessfolk1]

Outfits: SO true. We panicked and asked people to buy us loads of 0-3 clothes. I've just given away 2 FULL black bags of them. Ridiculous amounts. Childcare: it's crazy money! I always thought I can't afford to go back to work part-time but I'd probably be better off financially if i did. BUT I'm similar to you in that I really need social interaction so will be going back full time. Plus with covid it's pretty pointless being off work half the time because there is literally nothing else to do. Baby groups aren't happening.

[@kirsty19926]

George is so clever look at him at 11:07 he puts the bottle back 😫😍

[@HomeWithShan]

Aww only just notice that haha!! 🥰🥰

[@georginakenna2428]

Helpful video thanks, I'm halfway through my pregnancy today and cannot wait to feel how you do. Loneliness is definitely going on atm. Grateful for being able to meet a few people for walks . Maybe see if there are any other mums in your position near to you? Facebook group maybe. X

[@HomeWithShan]

That’s a fantastic idea! I always forget about facebook these days!! 🙈 With the loneliness, I think everything is so exaggerated because of lockdown. I really hope that once we’re out of this one, people (and myself) will want to make the effort to get out and meet new mum pals! Xxxxx

[@louisegardam5706]

This was a really helpful video to watch! In early stages of pregnancy and the last one pulled on the heart strings 🥺💕 so cute!

[@flint869]

I have a 2 month old and Loneliness 100%, and like you said the pandemic on top just doesn’t help! And I also underestimated how quick they grow and change! 😂 as well as how much your live changes and is flipped upside down in that slit second when your baby is born!

[@sophiesayswatcha]

Loved this video, thank you for your honesty! It's really made me so excited to have my little one arriving in May 🥰 but not looking forward to the childcare costs - better start saving 🙈

[@HomeWithShan]

This is the main reason I needed my budget tracker haha!! 😩👌🏼

[@sophiesayswatcha]

@@HomeWithShan yes! I made one for this year too and then watched your video and made it even better! Time to get organised 😂👏

[@rachelsc5841]

Love this Shan! I know it’s difficult but this has just made me more excited to have my little boy in May 💜 xxx

[@HomeWithShan]

Honestly, of all the thing i just didn't expect/anticipate.. the overwhelming love I have for my boy is by far the best thing ever. I would do it 1000 X again just have that feeling! xxx

[@georgiemason3656]

Love your videos, find them all so helpful 🥰🙏🏻 I’m 20 weeks pregnant & love listening to your advice! You have the most gorgeous little boy 💙👶🏼xxx

[@BethJC1993]

I'm due in 9 weeks and also an army wife so the leaving my job situation is a reality for me because of childcare costs! Unfortunately I got pregnant a tad bit earlier than expected and got made redundant during covid whilst 7 weeks pregnant so I literally don't have a job to go back to! I can't wait to become a mum though and I'm just keeping fingers crossed mum and baby groups open up again in the summer so I can meet some friends here on camp! Xxx

[@eszterkrivik2508]

Wow 6 baby grows would have lasted us maybe two days tops. With both of my boys. They just peed so much that no newborn nappies were able to hold that much. And we tried loads of brands, winky down etc. My second one also has quite a lot of spitups now (12weeks) so even though nappy wise we’re better, we do need to get changed sometimes. Poo explosions are mostly happening if you breastfeed, so I think you’re fine, Shan!:) And loneliness is a thing. Especially as a first time mum. Second time around you already have a group of mum friends, hopefully.

[@abbijarvis4487]

30 weeks on Thursday and so glad I found your channel x

[@erinvandermerwe7110]

We are trying at the moment so videos like this are perfect! Loving your channel and ig, you don’t find many people keeping it as real as you xx

[@cdorrell5038]

I love watching your videos. I am 30 weeks pregnant and due in March. I am very excited but also a little nervous :)

[@HomeWithShan]

Thank you so much! You’re going to love it so much, everything is worth that first cuddle or first smile or first giggle 🥰

[@Annagracie24]

Loved all of the advice - glad I now know in advance - thank you!! 4 weeks till my little one arrives! :) x

[@ellencrouch6]

I'm not due until July but honestly I got so teary when you got to number 5 🥲

[@sabine46]

I'm due any day now! (Due on the 24th!) I love him already, but I can't wait to feel that type of love you described!

[@HomeWithShan]

Words can’t even describe it!! You’re going to adore it 🥰

[@jadedesombre5714]

It’s great! I had my baby 12 weeks ago and you literally cry just looking at them 😅😅

[@slaybells6848]

I'm due 24th too!!! Good luck mama 💕

[@sabine46]

@@slaybells6848 Good luck to you too!

[@aliceneren]

I agree on everything (except number 4, in Sweden childcare is not that expensive and is based on your income)! I became a mum at 21 yo and number two hit me hard. It was sooo lonely being on maternity leave and that made me incredibly sad sometimes. I had no friends with kids so eventhough I had some close friends hangig around they couldn't fully understand how it was becoming a mother and I couldn't really get the understanding and support that i needed and that I think older mums get from their friends.

[@HomeWithShan]

Oh wow! There are so many things I hear about Sweden that I wish were integrated into the UK too!! That’s so great! But yeah, it’s an unfortunate truth isn’t it 😩 I’m so pleased that we’re all able to have this chat about it though. It’s something that needs to be talked about!! ☺️

[@vickychilton8648]

Love your honesty and how you are so down to earth. I’m having my 4th baby in a couple of weeks and have 3 already (12byr old twin girls and 3yr old boy). Xx

[@natalieevans7139]

I think you're doing amazingly and you're helping to prep me for motherhood xox

[@lindsaykat3675]

I had my daughter when I was 16 years old and bounced back so quick! Our bodies are definitely made to have babies early. But the stretch marks never went away, my body will never be the same as it was pre-baby. 11 years later and my husband and I are trying to get pregnant. I'm not excited to see how long my body takes to recover this time...

[@saq546]

Some of us first time mums are in our 40’s and doing well so I’m sure and certainly hope you’ll be fine! Stay positive and best wishes xox

[@savvynorthernmummy2394]

Im nearly at the end of my 4th pregnancy now but 6 years ago having my eldest the loneliness was the worst. I struggled making mum friends and i didnt know anyone who had a baby. I was so un confident in my ability as a mother. Its a complete overwhelm!! And yes you don't need shit loads if clothes! Cheap cheerful clothes ha xxxx

[@HayleyMichelle12337]

This video is so helpful. My partner and I are planning to start trying this year so I'm attempting to watch every "before pregnancy" videos I can find! :)

[@2345Wood]

Thank you for this video in particular the first point you made about bouncing back really needed to know I wasn’t the only one as stupid as it sounds 💓

[@HomeWithShan]

Honestly, I look back and think how naive must I have been hahaha! Silly but we all think it!! Xxxx

[@Alice-ir5uu]

Loved this video, I’m due at the start of March so these videos are so hopeful. Also definitely feel you with the loneliness 🙈

[@misssjw]

I’m the same, been binge watching these videos 🤣 due at end of March, hope everything’s going well for you x

[@7991lsne]

I’m no where near motherhood but this was such a sweet video! Loved it x

[@clairehayley170]

My little boy is now 9 weeks and omg this video is so true! I definitely thought all babies nap when they are tired... Wrong! Overtired babies who fight sleep are a thing 🙈 also tmi but tearing.... Damn... That doesn't heal too quick either lol Xx

[@nicolacooney373]

As a nursery teacher, 100% understand the ridiculous costs for childcare! It’s honestly so expensive. Mine is the cheapest in my area and we still charge £45 for a full day for one child. It’s incredibly expensive because we’re so underfunded and yeah that’s definitely something I’m worried about too with having kids 😂

[@amberkingsley9232]

So helpful! Luckily for me my parents can help with childcare but if they couldn’t it would be pointless me working as it cost so much 😂 I’m just happy they can as like you need the social side of speaking to an adult and I enjoy my job too 🙈 x

[@nora9357]

Such a helpful video, thank you x

[@KtVFD7]

Loved this! Going to film one this week too 💗💗

[@hollywoodruff4526]

You guys are so darn cute! Have to admit - I didnt expect the physical side of things when I had Ivy. Not to go into too much detail but let's just say Piles and Prolapses 😂. And with Ivy I didn't expect to feel so judged by everyone. With willow I didn't expect her to slot so well into the family. I was really worried about having another baby and was convinced I'd ruined our perfect little family by changing the dynamic..... NOT THE CASE! She's completed our family. ❤️

[@HomeWithShan]

Oh hey therreeeeeee! I’m having similar issue myself haha! Not cute 😳 aww I love that, that’s the best kind of thing not to expect isn’t it 🥰🙊👶🏼

[@BhaviByrne]

Aww that last point made me a bit emosh. So true!! I didn't expect the loneliness too! Xx

[@KatjaE13]

I thought I did really well not over buying clothes but we got loads of 0-3 baby grows and vests as gifts 😂 and the childcare! I'm planning on seeing if my boss will allow me to work from home a couple days a week so I can have reduced childcare costs.

[@HomeWithShan]

Always the way haha! I just know that I couldn't fully work from home and look after a baby at the same time. I'd do neither job very well I don't think haha!

[@KatjaE13]

@@HomeWithShan it might have to be a trial run for a few weeks but at least one of the days my mum said she'd come help out so I can focus more 😊

[@Amy-dp9pk]

I think the loneliness is definitely surprising but definitely made worse by the pandemic...I live in Scotland so we have a travel ban between Scotland and England but my family live in England 😢 and on top of that Scotland doesn’t allow support bubbles for parents with a child under 1 like England...just want to see my family again...had my little boy in October so luckily my family got to meet him before all these extra restrictions 💙 and thank god for FaceTime! Xx

[@HomeWithShan]

Bless your heart I can’t even imagine how hard it is for you, like he said thank God for FaceTime because if this had happened in a time when we didn’t have the technology I don’t know what I would’ve done😳♥️♥️

[@azrahindija558]

Definitely the loneliness, I had my first baby 2 years ago and second 3 months ago. There are things that I wish I had known for my first baby, that I now know for second. Like how to teach them to fall asleep by themselves and not to take them at every sound they make. I also thought that I would bounce back easier with my second 🤣. It was actually harder and longer recovery.

[@azrahindija558]

I also want to add something about sick babies. I have learned that 2 babies can be so different, while my first baby was sick after every feed and I had to change her like 3-4 times a day, my second has never been sick and I literally don't have to change him until his bath time. And I was so expecting sick baby and had prepared loads of clothes. 🤣

[@halloweellahere7602]

Thank you Azra for the helpful advice!

[@paleprincess6099]

Yeah my boy is 3 month old and 10 sleepsuits and 10 vests isn’t enough! I’ve got a very sicky baby and since his second jags most his dirty nappies are explosive 🤦🏻‍♀️ we’ve thrown away so much.. x

[@ShannanLorraine]

Loved this & definitely very informative! I’m 38 + 4, honestly can’t wait to have my own little nugget 🤣🥰

[@kirstyclarke3869]

Loneliness I definitely feel you there being in lockdown really don't help. I have two children age 10 and 5 weeks and I felt I still knew everything about babies but I was so wrong as all children are different. Probably the funniest thing about having babies/newborns is never being able to finish a cup of tea - always goes cold 😂🙈 George is gorgeous by the way such a sweetie xx

[@creativereindeer]

Really sweet vid! I know it’s all screens at the mo, but loneliness is real. Big respect for bringing it up - just a thought, I really really value the community of my church ‘family’. Even if you don’t go in for the ‘God’ thing, if you’d be willing to give it a go with a Mum’s group etc, I’d really recko as soon as safe to do so!!

[@jadedesombre5714]

Your lucky my 12 week old is so messy 😅. I think one evening I had to change her 5 times when she was 5 weeks old.

[@HomeWithShan]

Awww bless! Yeah it’s 100% dependant on the baby isn’t it!! Xxxx

[@lydiasawyer2936]

I’m half way there now with my pregnancy and I’m already feeling lonely, I think due to the pandemic And being furloughed I’m feeling it now 🙈

[@littlebrokenbird]

Me too. Such a strange time to be going through this experience. X

[@L.16.9]

Ohh my god. I feel lonley too🙄 the pandemic hit us hard

[@HomeWithShan]

So truee! It's hard but I genuinely love how we can all come together in the online world like this. Mums supporting Mums!

[@GiuliaSC]

Lovely video 💕 have you looked into have an au-pair 😊? That may help with loneliness and childcare cost? Both you and George are soo cute! 😍

[@Lyricvids72]

I really didn’t expect the hormone changes I’m not an emotional person I was stuck in the hospital for a week and it was so lonely then I thought it would be just in the hospital but my baby did a scream in her sleep and it woke me up and I was sobbing and I still don’t know why I was crying like that.

[@HomeWithShan]

Omg this is a massive one for me too!! I wasn’t emotional at all either, quite a closed book - but now I’m like a waterfall when I see a cute advert 😂😅 it’s crazy! I was exactly the same in hospital too. Cried my eyes out 😅

[@Jocawe]

You may be eligible for tax free childcare. Its £2 for every £8 you spend topped up by the government into an online account. You have to register snd the nursery of your choice has to be signed up too. I work in a nursery and i actually dont agree about the cost. We are the cheapest nursery around but its due to the space available and funding my boss gets from the government. You will find the expensive nurseries are just in it for the cash 😂😂😂

[@louisetokelove6866]

Hey I feel the exact same 28 weeks pregnant and I feel completely alone even though I have my partner I just feel like every responsibility is mine! I’m also so worried that my body is going to be awful and I struggle with body dysmorphia! Also could I ask what baby cam that was I love how it alerted your phone! Xx

[@sillysoz]

No poonami's! Lucky you! what nappies do you use? I'm in the middle of IVf so fingers crossed can use this advice soon :)

[@HomeWithShan]

I know! I bet he’ll have one soon though! We switch between the Tesco ones and pampers at the moment xxx

[@CandleLightFlamexx]

My little boy was born in November, his first nappy was a poonami so you can imagine, I had an emergency section so the poor midwife had to change it and since then at least once a week he has a really bad nappy

[@92Eww]

Is it really odd that seeing George makes me feel really broody even though I’m already pregnant and due in around 6 weeks?! 😂

[@HomeWithShan]

Haha that so sweet!! You’re probably just excited for your little one!! 🥰🥰

[@sinead99_29]

What baby monitor do you use?x

[@HomeWithShan]

Hi lovely - I use the BT smart baby monitor xxx

[@sinead99_29]

@@HomeWithShan aww I wasn’t expecting you to reply thank you so much!xxx

[@littlefox3128]

I wish dads had more paternity leave, because I know my husband would love to be home with me for 6 months :(

[@eszterkrivik2508]

Oh and you can apply for tax free childcare!!! That helps quite a lot!

[@emmapearson936]

This is soo cute 🥰 what’s his middle name Shan? Xx

[@fairytaleviola]

I am the opposite I'm not having a kid coz I think my body will never recover and I already don't like my body enough

[@calvinliu6304]

Hello

[@carolineswanson-hunt502]

For what sets out to be quite a candid video I was a little disappointed about how coy you were when discussing your body “bouncing back” after the birth. Before getting pregnant I had no idea that you could bleed for up to six weeks afterwards, and that’s before you get onto urinary incontinence etc. It would be so refreshing if we could break the taboo by talking openly about what really happens after birth so that women are well-informed and know how to deal with these things before they’re also faced with trying to care for a tiny newborn as well as themselves whilst very sleep-deprived!

[@Ameliarv]

Thanks for this video Shan! I’ve got a 3 month old, and I didn’t think about how lonely it would be - it’s made much worse with the pandemic. Also agree with the clothes point you made, this is our 1st baby so to be honest I got a bit carried away with buying new things for her. But half of the clothes she didn’t even wear more than once in newborn and 0-3. Love your channel, and hope you can check mine out too! I’m just rebranding my channel to a mummy and baby channel xox

[@HomeWithShan]

So true, it's hard normally, but chuck in a pandemic and it's brutal!! But yes, with clothes I was being so conservative with what I bought, but he still ended up with SOOOO many cute things that he never wore!! Haha! I'm heading over to your channel to check it out now!! xxx

[@gemmamansfield8865]

Aww love this he’s such a beautiful boy and being a mum definitely changes how u see life my girls smiles melt my heart so much and my body not good back too normal since my first and she’s nearby 5 lol if u want too add me on Facebook my name is Gemmamansfield xx

[@whatsappme1094]

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[@Lily91x]

Look up tax free childcare! It’s the government paying 20% of the costs xx