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5 Things I Wish Women Knew About Men

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Courtney Ryan

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@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan Жыл бұрын
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@taasmr4203
@taasmr4203 Жыл бұрын
I as a guy totally agree with you, Courtney.
@JuanMoreno-wo5yb
@JuanMoreno-wo5yb Жыл бұрын
Courtney: Too bad not that many women will hear this great advise. I hope your channel or another channel you create will get these and other ideas across to women. I actually have thought of advertising that I would pay women to spend like an hour a day just being a friend and not looking for any type of hookups. ❤
@Alex19II
@Alex19II Жыл бұрын
Women from gen. X think that men don’t have feelings and we, millennials, think that women don’t have real feelings, only shallow emotions. And I think we are both right to some extent.
@ajtaylor8750
@ajtaylor8750 Жыл бұрын
"I shouldn't have to ask" is a very immature mindset. How else can a woman or anyone get what they want unless they speak up? As the saying goes, "Closed mouths don't get fed." I LOVE when a woman communicates EXACTLY what she wants, what she's feeling, or tells me something I did wrong so we can fix it.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan Жыл бұрын
Agreed! 🎯
@postmodernmining
@postmodernmining Жыл бұрын
​@@iamme25yagosometimes the mother kicks them out of the nest to die
@laraantipova389
@laraantipova389 Жыл бұрын
But men use this to paint women in a corner because when she says “can you please start putting away your things and picking up after yourself I’m getting exhausted working full-time and doing all the cleaning for two.” He can switch to “she is ‘nagging.’” No one should have to be asked to do the most basic stuff like clean up after themselves, whether they are a man or a woman.
@MustbeTheBassest
@MustbeTheBassest Жыл бұрын
​@@laraantipova389counter point, different people have different levels of tidyiness. If I am fine with clothes on the bed or floor then you do need to tell me that you aren't okay with it. Otherwise, I will assume that you are also perfectly happy with it. Because many people honestly are lol
@laraantipova389
@laraantipova389 Жыл бұрын
@@danielallan8061 I mean I see what you’re saying, and at the same time NO WAY women are messier. When I was in college I went in Wales and we had a building with 9 flats 7br per flat. About 50ish buildings. I swear there were these men that didn’t take out their garbage (from the first floor for 6 months). Then I found out this is a regular thing with men. It’s called a sad boy house. Just based on that I can tell every study is going to show women are cleaner.
@ccstan27
@ccstan27 Жыл бұрын
I still remember a compliment a stranger gave me 20 years ago. Never underestimate the power of a compliment.
@Frionelz
@Frionelz Ай бұрын
Goes to show how us men are living our lives in super hard mode.
@lukers9819
@lukers9819 Жыл бұрын
"Men have insecurities too" resonated with me so much. Several years ago, when my soon to be girlfriend told me that I seemed to have my life all together, I told her about some of my biggest failures and insecurities. She reacted by putting her trust in me because of my honesty. I am now truly blessed to be married to her. My wife is my biggest supporter, even when I am going through a particularly hard time and I don't feel worth supporting. She doesn't excuse mistakes that I make (nor should she), but I never have to doubt that she still loves me. I will love and support her with the rest of my life, no matter the hardships we go through. She means so so much to me.
@reflective6602
@reflective6602 Жыл бұрын
When "I shouldn't have to ask, you should just know." morphed into "If you really loved me, you would..." I knew it was time for that relationship to end.
@LisaFenton-h7f
@LisaFenton-h7f Жыл бұрын
TRUE (from a woman)
@kevinfasciano6314
@kevinfasciano6314 Жыл бұрын
Courtney really is such a class act. What I like about her channel, is that she's definitely not siding with men, or just trying to earn points, so-to-speak. What the goal here, is, is holding both parties accountable, which is hugely important in a society that intends to make strides.
@CourtneyRyan
@CourtneyRyan Жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much this means to me! Thank you 🥹
@kevinfasciano6314
@kevinfasciano6314 Жыл бұрын
@@CourtneyRyan I'd be happy to do some Q&As with you for a future video! A good video idea might be doing Q&As with viewers in the comments...
@paulbradshaw8878
@paulbradshaw8878 Жыл бұрын
@@CourtneyRyan 9:43
@Acess-1bx
@Acess-1bx 11 ай бұрын
💮💮💮💮🧠🤍​@@CourtneyRyanyour the best One I can ever found in my entire life Your worth Everything Anyone can ever Admire💮💮💮💮🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮💮
@Acess-1bx
@Acess-1bx 11 ай бұрын
​​@@CourtneyRyanYour Most Most Welcome Ever. ✓ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤💮💮🤍
@gabrieleparise2397
@gabrieleparise2397 Жыл бұрын
It's so encouraging to hear your words, it's so rare to hear a woman simply understand that men are also life forms that have feelings like everyone else. Men and women are not enemies, but respect and mutual understanding are the key to a healthy and successful relationship, in my opinion.
@JD_Mapes
@JD_Mapes Жыл бұрын
Being in a 10 year marriage where my ex-wife never complimented me, was always highlighted when others complimented me. I didn't realize how much I needed her words to build that part of our relationship. Post divorce, therapy and a new girlfriend has opened my eyes to how important and vital receiving compliments are to my daily. I don't seek them but I definitely notice when I get them because I don't know how to respond to them. Great tip, but it goes both ways for sure.
@LordHolley
@LordHolley Жыл бұрын
I completely agree. Taking the time to genuinely compliment your significant other is a vital part of making it last.
@29yyears
@29yyears Жыл бұрын
@@iamme25yago I remember last hug from girl 13 years ago.
@JACQUEZ23
@JACQUEZ23 Жыл бұрын
​@@29yyearsholy damn I felt this on a personal level
@coolsteve1985
@coolsteve1985 Жыл бұрын
When a woman gets complimented they either get upset with you or they forget the compliment like 10 minutes later because they get compliments all the time. When men get compliments we remember that for the rest of our lives because we very rarely get compliments. I know I very rarely get compliments from women but whenever I do it makes me feel good and I remember that for a life time. Haha
@karantikoo9302
@karantikoo9302 Жыл бұрын
@@29yyears , 10 years+ here
@therealunclesam8975
@therealunclesam8975 Жыл бұрын
To play devil’s advocate on the communication topic, as a man I also have a hard time with communicating my needs. I’ve learned that a lot of it stems from my experiences where any time I tried to voice my concerns or thoughts I was shut down or told I was being “dramatic” or “whiny.” I’ve come to believe that people who struggle with communicating with others likely have been punished in the past for speaking up and not just going along with what the other person says. That being said, it still falls on me to acknowledge this about myself and work towards overcoming it.
@bittersweetindustryexecutive
@bittersweetindustryexecutive Жыл бұрын
@TheRealUncleSam89 Thanks for sharing! You just admitting to this on this channel spells like you ARE actually changing. You just acknowledged this about yourself. So kudos for that! That's ALWAYS the first step. So congrats, you've made it to level 1. You can't expect to win the game if you don't entertain the entry level. That being said, I am a really good communicator now. But that hasn't always been the case. I always had the gift of the gab but it rarely pertained to my feelings, emotions and concerns. The thing that helped me kickstart this whole journey (and might help you as well) is learning how to deal with the consequences. If I express my concerns to someone and they immediately brush it off or don't take it too seriously, I don't HAVE to think that my concerns are invalid. What about them seriously lacking in the listening department. Or them NOT knowing what to say next and basically don't know how to communicate themselves. And also, try and work on any self-worth, self-esteem issues. These are usually very closely tied in to a lack of assertive and direct comnunication. Simply put, if you (kearn to) care about yourself enough to express what's bothering you, you will eventually stop caring about whether they are gonna stop liking you for speaking up. And who are THEY than for not caring about your concerns? Are they THAT special? Probably not! So just start cracking and use this channel (which, thanks to Courtney, is slowly becoming a safe space for men to express themselves anywhichway) to share your progress. Remember, If I can do it, you can do it too. I was in the same boat with you years back. Sincerely wishing you the best of luck! Cheers!✌
@LisaFenton-h7f
@LisaFenton-h7f Жыл бұрын
I think you're RIGHT on where the challenges in communicating needs comes from==for BOTH men & women. And yes, WE have to work on that,
@hrobky
@hrobky Жыл бұрын
0:44 men have feelings too 4:17 men aren't mind-readers 5:53 men like compliments too 7:38 playing hard to get is a turn off 10:01 men are looking for more than just sex
@Erick-di9gm
@Erick-di9gm Жыл бұрын
And we don't like tests!
@NotApplicaple
@NotApplicaple Жыл бұрын
no Cliff Notes please
@Danny328DT
@Danny328DT Жыл бұрын
​@@Erick-di9gmI always said that is something women have to get over as they become adults. People have busy lives, and don't have time to waste with people who keep making them second guess their actions.
@Harikejn
@Harikejn Жыл бұрын
Important things: 0:42 First Thing - Men Have Feelings Too; 4:16 Second Thing - Men Aren't Mind Readers; 5:52 Third Thing - Men Like Compliments Too; 7:37 Fourth Thing - Playing Hard To Get Is A Turn Off; 9:58 Fifth Thing - Men Are Looking More Than Sex; and 10:39 to summarize all the told here. What you have told there Courtney, that is so true. All of them for me were just wow. I might add one sad thing. And before I say it I have to apologize to men, and women that are reading this. But what is sad is that there is lack of empathy. Unfortunately, we can see it in either men, and either women. Meaning to say some people don't have, and don't show empathy at all (honor exceptions). Sad, but it's true. Among the all told here I might add few other things. And those are: Sixth Thing - Men Like To Get Support; and Seventh Thing - Men Like Also To Get Help As Well; Eight Thing - Men Also Seek The Maturity; Ninth Thing - Men Also Seek Someone Who Can Rely On. But these things that I have mentioned can be partly used in Fifth Thing Men Are Looking More Than Sex. Why? Because, the sex is not the only thing that is important. The commitment is also very important for both sides, and also for good relationship (believe it or not). Thank you very much for this Courtney. That means a lot 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰. The color of your eyes goes well with the pattern of the dress 👏👏👏👏👏👏. La perfection madam❤💙🤍.
@GregXHunterz
@GregXHunterz Жыл бұрын
One of the few videos that needs to be seen.
@redlt194
@redlt194 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the summary!
@Bloodcurling
@Bloodcurling Жыл бұрын
No need for the table of contents. If you don't have time for a 11:30 video, maybe don't watch.
@Harikejn
@Harikejn Жыл бұрын
@@Bloodcurling Some people do like that table of contents. If you don't like seeing the table of content, maybe don't read, and don't reply. Thank you for understanding.
@Z25MikeD
@Z25MikeD Жыл бұрын
Truth! Thanks Courtney for again being positive and conveying a unifying message here! Enough of this Women or Men are terrible nonsense!
@ericsmith8597
@ericsmith8597 Жыл бұрын
I am 50 and felt like my view of relationships was so obvious to me, yet no one else seemed to have the same viewpoint. Then I found you, Courtney. It is so refreshing to hear someone share wisdom that is so on point. I am sitting here completely agreeing with what you have to say.
@benliftin4awhile
@benliftin4awhile Жыл бұрын
Men aren’t less emotional, they are just told not to be by society, and the worst part is there aren’t too many people out there telling you to hide your emotions, my dad never taught me that, it’s the look in the eyes of people I know when I’ve let my pathetic side show that taught me, the pure lack of attraction that has left a woman’s face when I’ve broken down. It’s the evidence that nobody cares, and even worse, you’re a blight if you need anything emotionally, that makes us suppress our emotions.
@SPMinerva
@SPMinerva Жыл бұрын
This is true. Just look how many phrase encapsule men not to be emotional, boys dont cry, weak, and the current buzzterms are stoic where dont show any emotions are emphasized. It seeemed like society want men to be psychopath who dont have feelings
@benliftin4awhile
@benliftin4awhile Жыл бұрын
@@davidhenryhudson3102 well ya I do agree, I guess what I meant was men are much more emotional than people would have you believe.
@Arander92
@Arander92 Жыл бұрын
@davidhenryhudson3102 Thanks for the pointless, unhelpful comment David👍🏾
@NormanF62
@NormanF62 Жыл бұрын
I’m not into my emotions and very few things make me feel sentimental and vulnerable and I realise upon reflection, what I’ve lost will never come back to me so I don’t dwell upon it. When a man is thinking of nothing, that’s his safe space where the world can be tuned out. Life is hard and taking a break from it makes it a lot easier to address when we return to dealing with it again. Not every problem has a solution but they keep life from getting boring or routine. That’s what being a man is all about.
@gaylenmiller
@gaylenmiller Жыл бұрын
"Words of affirmation" is one of my "love languages". So saying "thanks" and other statements of appreciation really mean far more than the mere words would indicate. A statement of "I really respect the way you can deal with XYZ" might bring me to tears. I can feel parched and dry like a man in the desert and encouragement like this is like falling face first into an oasis. If a woman is not feeling loved, these compliments might be harder to say. But affirmations can trigger the connection that women desire.
@greywolf6146
@greywolf6146 Жыл бұрын
Men aren't mind readers! Yes! I had this exact conversation with one of my female coworkers today about anniversary gifts. I said tell us what you want and we will give it to you. She disagreed and and told me husbands/boyfriends should know their partners well enough to find a gift that is appropriate and what they want. Just telling us what they want doesn't make it special. Why does it have to be so difficult?
@Threesixtyci
@Threesixtyci Жыл бұрын
Because she hasn't a clue what she wants... that's why.
@kingofthejungle2894
@kingofthejungle2894 9 ай бұрын
Yes men are not mindreaders, but sorry, you sound lazy. The joy of receiving a gift from a loved one, is that somebody has put in the thought and paid enough attention to you in order to know what you like. There is also the joy of looking forward to being surprised on their birthday. Why would she order a gift from you, if she can simply order on Amazon?
@KhronosTrigger
@KhronosTrigger Жыл бұрын
Told my Wife if she ever has something wrong she needs to step up and talk about it instead of trying to give hints or cold shoulder etc because when she does that I’ll just ignore her. My Mother did the same thing when I was a kid. Would get angry at me, not say anything, would withhold feeding me as a child and would always say “you should just know”. If she would ask me if I knew something or how I didn’t know something, I’d ask if she ever taught me how to do it or told me about it, “No” was her favorite answer. Mothers don’t teach their kids, Fathers do. The only thing my Mother really “taught” me was to cook, and that was just from watching her and being forced as a kid/teen to cook for myself. My Wife is surprised I can cook so well.
@Vegaswill714
@Vegaswill714 Жыл бұрын
All of Courtney's points are dead spot-on. Ladies, if you heed this advice it will make the world a happier place for all. Men and women need to be more patient with each other!
@TheCasualHazeFox
@TheCasualHazeFox Жыл бұрын
100% Agree with your points here. Those basic 5 points sum up a ton of men's issues with even finding a partner and how women have become so closed off from men's needs/wants. We're expected to be receptive far more than they tend to be.
@kevinc1593
@kevinc1593 Жыл бұрын
At times we can be carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders, and you’d never know it. What is most important to us is that you feel safe, and cared for. We tend to hide our emotions, because of this; not because emotions are a weakness, but showing them at the wrong time or to the wrong lady take away her feeling of safety.
@homiesenatep
@homiesenatep Жыл бұрын
Yup, the world preys on our emotions because simply we “can’t show it” The world is trash on men’s emotions. We must show it only to people we trust
@cameronbodell7985
@cameronbodell7985 Жыл бұрын
So refreshing to hear empathy, compassion, and balance of perspective as suggestions for relationships. Even as a married man, I can never stop growing in how to communicate. Your content continues to strengthen my marriage. Keep up the good work.
@QMS9224
@QMS9224 Жыл бұрын
7:40 yes playing hard to get as a game specifically isn't fun. However I do like when they are hard to get, in terms of having strong boundaries and being authentically themselves. I love chasing a girl who is genuinely hard to get bc she values herself, takes care of herself, only gives herself to specific people and not everyone. I like the challenge of proving that I can meet her standards, but there's a huge difference between actually being hard to get because you are valuable, and "playing" hard to get
@paulinepanarello6912
@paulinepanarello6912 Жыл бұрын
Agree100%
@jlh4jc
@jlh4jc Жыл бұрын
In my experience, a woman playing hard to get is just too emotionally draining. False hope is more hurtful than a hard no.
@JuanMoreno-wo5yb
@JuanMoreno-wo5yb Жыл бұрын
The last girl I really liked and hope we could get things going was like a weird fisherman. I got hooked, reeled in a bit and then the line slacked off and I was reeled in again after I didn’t feel the same as at first. I noticed some game playing and a big lack of communication which was a large turn off for me. She is very attractive but I have to keep the communication part in mind more than anything. Without communication there is no way to build trust, without trust there is no way to build love. Oh well… I am sure there are lessons that I am yet to learn from that situation and I am working on me now much more. ❤
@Criner05
@Criner05 Жыл бұрын
They're also narcissistic.
@kennethsmith2030
@kennethsmith2030 Жыл бұрын
the fact you admitted to point #2 just blew my mind i think every man has been hit with the IM FINE face lol and be lost at how to respond. maybe its me but yea kudos that's growth
@Shageta456
@Shageta456 Жыл бұрын
Thank God Courtney made a video like this that's aimed for women. It's honestly really refreshing for her to A. Have the backs of all her men followers like me and B. Give healthy advice to the 5% of women that follow her. Hopefully a video like this will help her attract more women in a positive way.
@DKon3
@DKon3 Жыл бұрын
Hey Shageta456! Im actually not sure if these videos are aimed for women. As a man i 100% agree with her points but i dont know if they 1) reach many women and if they do 2) many women agree with it. What do you think ? 🙂
@zachmiller6941
@zachmiller6941 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately i think it'll just fall on deaf ears
@LisaFenton-h7f
@LisaFenton-h7f Жыл бұрын
I'm a woman & while I've only listened to Courtney for about 2 months, I think s'he's a real breath of fresh air! This was a GREAT video & it's "flip" What Men Need to Know About Women is just as good.
@Shageta456
@Shageta456 Жыл бұрын
@@LisaFenton-h7f I agree and very well said.
@chrialivest
@chrialivest Жыл бұрын
Standing slow cap 👏 … 👏 … 👏 … 👏 … 👏 … 👏 … 👏 I don’t say this in a mean way, to sound condescending, or to be facetious. I say it with the best intentions and in the most appreciative way. Thank you for this video. I hope this video goes viral.
@katomarii22
@katomarii22 Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate your advice and wisdom. You're very mature/wise, and I find myself learning a lot from you. Although, I am pretty young, I find myself to be very mature for my age. You still bring up plenty of points that I sometimes dont even consider. Not this video in particular, but some of your other videos. Ive learned a lot from you and im able to become a more understanding and mature man. Thanks for your videos
@gregberkowitz3667
@gregberkowitz3667 Жыл бұрын
Spot on Courtney! I like the realness, straight to the point, no bologna video content you always create. It is extremely refreshing. Your realness about relationships and life advice serves both men and women very well.
@puremaledark8305
@puremaledark8305 Жыл бұрын
I think the worst relationship experience I ever had,as a man, was a girl that never gave complements or appreciated what i did for her. God, it felt horrible. At the end of the day, i asked myself “why am i even trying here”
@infinitedurr
@infinitedurr Жыл бұрын
Relevant thing to note: expecting people to read your mind is a sign of an insecure attachment style, and thus, wounding that needs healing. Securely attached people have no issue asking for what they need
@LisaFenton-h7f
@LisaFenton-h7f Жыл бұрын
Good point that really needed t be said. People--BOTH women & men--need to bhhe clear about what their Attachment style is and, if NOT a Secure one, then, get therapy & address it!
@joaquin67
@joaquin67 Жыл бұрын
At 31 years old, I was told for the first time in my life from a woman who I wasn't in a relationship with, that I'm handsome. It like, finally validated that I'm not bad looking. It was also a random woman on reddit who gave me feedback on my pictures.
@BLACKAAROW
@BLACKAAROW Жыл бұрын
when I was 27 (i'm 29 now) I was at the post office waiting in line to submit my passport application, when I went up to the counter to submit my paperwork an older Asian woman in her 50's looked at my passport photo and said I was handsome. This was the first time in my life that I got a compliment from someone other than my mom. it felt really good but after about 5 minutes I really started to get depressed at the notion that it took this long to get one single compliment. and to think most women today get this on a daily basis
@joaquin67
@joaquin67 Жыл бұрын
@@BLACKAAROW yeah same dude. And it’s funny because they complimented it indirectly, at our photo, and also someone that is not in our age range or location.. but supposedly men have a better dating value around 30 because we have some financial stability and a little more settled
@alejandroperez-xf3qb
@alejandroperez-xf3qb Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy I found your channel, you make me feel hopefull and not so lonely.
@yvesgysel9834
@yvesgysel9834 Жыл бұрын
I am so impressed with your latest videos. You truly get to understand men. Most men are not bad and have feelings, too (we just do not show it that easily). Well done, Courtney. Keep up the good work.
@pepa007
@pepa007 Жыл бұрын
I noticed over the years that almost all women say they want men to be "emotionally mature", want to "encourage vulerability", etc. But it's really dangerous territory, because it plants seeds of subconsious doubt. Women will say they're glad you shared your fears and insecurities with them, but without realizing it, it will also do damage to the way they see you. They subconsiously still want someone who can protect them and take care of the family in all situations, and suddenly they see some weak points where you wouldn't be able to do so, and the image is shattered. You may say only weak women think and act that way, but it's much more complicated and the power of subconsious even in strong, mentally mature women is greatly underestimated (even by themselves). My 2 cents: be extremely careful with what you share, it can destroy even the strongest relationships, unfortunately.
@mar4kl
@mar4kl Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, Courtney! "Men have emotions, too." - Yes, we do, but many women don't know this about us because most of us have been taught from a very early age not to wear our emotions on our sleeves. "...people hear the word 'emotional' and automatically assume it to be a negative thing..." - This is because when a lot of people, especially men, hear someone being described as "emotional", the image that pops up in their minds is of a dramatic or even histrionic display of emotions, not merely that the person feels happiness, sadness, anger, etc. "...I think women can be very hurtful sometimes with how they talk about men..." - I think some women feel a need to see men as emotionally immature, out of touch or even vapid. Men are generally stronger than women physically, and if women can see themselves as superior emotionally, then that levels the playing field in their minds. Not all women need that -- my wife never did -- but as you say, there are plenty of men and women who have insecurities. "Men like compliments, too." - True! However, I think the reason that some women think men don't appreciate compliments has to do with the way they're delivered. Remember KISS. No, I don't mean that men require physical thank-yous, although those are always appreciated in the right time and place. I mean "Keep It Simple, Sweetheart." Men are embarrassed by a cheering squad (sports teams' cheerleaders are there for the crowd, not the athletes), an over-the-top deluge of compliments comes off as insincere, and a shower of excited praise, especially delivered in a higher-than-normal voice and small words such as a mother might use when complimenting her 5-year-old child is embarrassing. A simple "thank you" is often enough. Something like "Wow, fixing that shower handle is really going to make my mornings easier, thank you so much, I love you!" feels like we've just found a gold vein.
@whiteknight5100
@whiteknight5100 Жыл бұрын
As a man, i am highly emotional but i channel a lot of it toward protecting and loving my woman as well as work and taking care of pets, engaging in hobbies, and even drinking a bit of beer. All of these things are items that i need. Its nice to have a woman understand us...
@Jotaro5181
@Jotaro5181 Жыл бұрын
A woman that is playing hard to get is not into you!
@SabastianWeaver
@SabastianWeaver Жыл бұрын
Not always true
@Jotaro5181
@Jotaro5181 Жыл бұрын
@@SabastianWeaver Nah it is always true. If a girl likes you, she will wanna date and be with you right away!
@vianhoho19
@vianhoho19 Жыл бұрын
​@@SabastianWeaverwhat I learn is that the more she likes you, the easier she makes things for you Getting her to like you in the first place, THAT'S where the struggle is 😅
@LordHolley
@LordHolley Жыл бұрын
Quality woman know men do not respect woman that hopps straight into the sack. That doesn't mean they like you, they want a man they can play with that night, and not get attached to. If a quality woman likes you, they will play the slow game.
@kellytweheyo3333
@kellytweheyo3333 Жыл бұрын
Ur just scared of women 😠😭
@ilai7893
@ilai7893 Жыл бұрын
I think point #1 needs to be expanded... not just knowing and accepting male emotions but appreciating it. It might be too engrained into our DNA but many women still can't view male vulnerability as anything other than weakness, even with the calling of stoic males as "toxic". Something's gotta change
@LisaFenton-h7f
@LisaFenton-h7f Жыл бұрын
TRUTH. As a woman (& a feminist--a feminist who's long tried to see how "gedr boxes" ALSO limit MEN as well as women). youve made a sad but, true observation. Some women have no patience for men's emotions--or worse, see them as "weak". BEING THE MOST WHOLE HUMAN we can be--both men & women0-- ought to be the goal. And supportive partners can help us reach that.
@jamest2861
@jamest2861 Жыл бұрын
Women don't put themselves in the other persons (mans) shoes when unleashing negative behavior (unless she's sleeping with this man). She simply doesn't care and society (other women) don't call her on it. Hence...no consequences other than for the person (man) that complains about her behavior.
@juanderuano8969
@juanderuano8969 Жыл бұрын
Great video. I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
@juanderuano8969
@juanderuano8969 Жыл бұрын
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@juanderuano8969
@juanderuano8969 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
@thirdtime
@thirdtime Жыл бұрын
Communication is key in relationships so yes, you should have to ask (i.e. communicate) if you want that relationship to be successful.
@hotsauce1556
@hotsauce1556 Жыл бұрын
It's almost like we're human too thank you Courtney it does feel good to know someone understands us or atleast cares enough to try we matter too
@anthonyw5261
@anthonyw5261 Жыл бұрын
Glad more women are subscribing. Really great information for better relationships on this channel 👏👏👏
@BrentJohn
@BrentJohn Жыл бұрын
Another point I think is really important to realize is that psychological/emotional abuse can be just as harmful, and even worse, than physical violence. It doesn't always take a physically strong person to destroy a person.
@briar35981
@briar35981 Жыл бұрын
Your efforts are highly appreciated. We as men understand how life is and what it has to offer us. We understand we will just keep our heads down, grinding away at life knowing we have recourse only to God. I was taught this as a young man and have watched it through out my life.
@flameoftherisen6334
@flameoftherisen6334 5 ай бұрын
Everything you've said makes sense. My last relationship didn't really show that for the last couple of years. You would think that being together 15 years having a child and 2 marriages in different countries would mean something. I was always expected to read her mind, do what she wants without asking, never complimented basically everything you've said happened to me
@gilbert2303
@gilbert2303 Жыл бұрын
Courtney. The “ mind reader” comment is so spot on.
@cdorman11
@cdorman11 Жыл бұрын
1:25 "Men don't have feelings" Likely used as a rationalization to justify launching into a brutal attack, salve her conscience, and pre-emptively undermine counterarguments she knows her reckless reasoning will effect.
@helloDobson3259
@helloDobson3259 Жыл бұрын
Feedback to Courtney: Kudos for addressing some of the toxic attitudes of some of your previous guests. For your age demographic, you're the healthiest female provider of dating/relationship advice I've come across. As your calling out here, lean into the healthy, and your channel will continue to grow to a million.
@bronsonbamnallen1633
@bronsonbamnallen1633 Жыл бұрын
That one about playing hard to get. Absolutely right. Great job with this video Courtney.
@dankimbrough2411
@dankimbrough2411 Жыл бұрын
I agree with what you are saying . As a 62 yr old man with a huge aspect of a loving nature. Games are out, i wont play. Im a serious man, and i want a life with a serious woman. Keep up your good work! You are wise beyond your years.
@petecam3949
@petecam3949 Жыл бұрын
The point about emotions is a great point. Men do have emotions, but we just express them differently. Men rely more on logic to figure something out while women rely on how they feel about it. Direct communication is going to get a better response than subtle hints. A lot of times if you tell him what you want he will do whatever he can to get it for her. Men are much more direct in how they communicate. When men are talking you will hear another guy just straight up say, your idea sucks! Women don’t realize this about the compliment thing. Women usually get complimented all the time, men rarely get compliments. 7:15 this is so true. Showing appreciation will get her farther than nagging and criticizing.
@stevenhaas2096
@stevenhaas2096 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely amazing video Courtney, a great video for EVERYONE to watch, both men and women. Mutual respect for each other, as well as simple gratitude (thanking EACH OTHER for the little things) is truly the key that is lacking in relationships nowadays, unfortunately, and each and EVERY point that you raised in your video illustrates that perfectly. Let’s hope that many viewers (both male and female) take away some great tips from this gem! 🙂
@davidduff9871
@davidduff9871 Жыл бұрын
I take comfort knowing we’re good for a laugh. Empathy is a little more than I can hope for.
@PooplexCanal
@PooplexCanal Жыл бұрын
Great video! A brief summary: 0:43 Men have feelings too 4:17 Men aren't mind readers 5:53 Men like compliments too 7:38 Playing hard to get is a turn off 9:59 Men are looking for more than sex
@cymbergan
@cymbergan 3 ай бұрын
Thank you, Courtney about #1. Women who STRONGLY emphasized masculinity, bring out my strong emotions.
@Wolf-Man88
@Wolf-Man88 Жыл бұрын
I could say so much, but you'd be reading all day lol.. In regards to EQ, my ex would say I have a low EQ and then proceed to not talk about an issue healthily and then kick me out if I ever tried to rephrase something or understand her more. It was a traumatic experience that I'm currently grieving as there were some really sweet moments as well. As always, great video and spot on with every point 💯
@dannychhann6917
@dannychhann6917 Жыл бұрын
What is the meaning. of having 2 rings in each hand, open relation usualy on the right hand is married on the left engage and both hands what it mean😊👍🙏
@deanthroop8054
@deanthroop8054 Жыл бұрын
Quickest way to end a potential relationship is to play games. First hint of it and I pull back. Once confirmed, I am out. I have no time or patience for childish behavior.
@Florida_gyrl
@Florida_gyrl Жыл бұрын
Me neither! (I’m a woman)
@jimreeve8240
@jimreeve8240 7 ай бұрын
Keep these amazing insightful videos going, Courtney. Men like me can be shy when we like a pretty woman and we are just sweet at heart and want to love a woman with love and kindness and lots of cuddles and kisses. If a good quality woman is looking for a true Godly loving man or just a huge-hearted man. They got to look past their own insecurities and concerns and look around to the quiet ones. Because we will surprise these women. And if women would just ask us nicely for anything, we will love them more because they will be open and honest with us. Making love in a relationship and marriage is so much more than sex. And the love and emotional sex connection is so important.
@brego12317
@brego12317 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Courtney for this video. I hope more people listen to you!
@MichaelJTaylor
@MichaelJTaylor 24 күн бұрын
I think my wife's mind just moves more laterally than mine, I have a hard time following why she's making certain connections and statements. I often ask her "what would you like me to do, I'm having a hard time following" and then she says plainly what she needs. This makes it easier for both of us and I appreciate the clear, direct communication.
@MarineSgt
@MarineSgt Жыл бұрын
Seriously ty....im not a subscriber because you're beautiful but because you literally speak truth & ty i share you constantly
@revanmoto6261
@revanmoto6261 Жыл бұрын
My father gave me a great bit of advice when it comes to dating. He said, “Never show a woman your emotions because once she’s seen them, she’ll never treat you the same way. She’ll use them against you in an argument or look down on you as being weak.”
@NormanF62
@NormanF62 Жыл бұрын
We show the same face to world and we’re hard to read for good reason. The suppression of emotion lends a man a smouldering sensuality. Clint Eastwood brought it to perfection in the Man With No Name. He never reveals anything but if you’re a guy, you know ahead of time what he was going to do. How I know, don’t ask! 😊
@ForestForTheTrees3283
@ForestForTheTrees3283 Жыл бұрын
Regarding your video "6 things women say that are Red Flags"- Your thumbnail photo was absolutely incredible. Love your hair style in that pic!
@niksananiksanov6777
@niksananiksanov6777 Жыл бұрын
The part play hard to get to is probably the one ive most seen in recent years,whether at work or in real life. Even without approaching such women and also they sending mixed signals its a common sense to self-respect yourself and if a woman likes you for real she can always contact you and directly show you what its like. Have your self-respect people and stay ahead from such
@PaigeSzupello
@PaigeSzupello 7 ай бұрын
I’m pregnant with a son and my goodness.. the society and culture men have to deal with stresses me out. I don’t want my son to feel like he can’t have emotions or to feel lonely in this world or misunderstood. The dating world, the modern day feminism “movement” , the societal pressures, just so much! It breaks my heart. Praying for God to give me the wisdom and mold me into the mother that will grow and nurture this child into the man God made him to be. 🥺😭🙏🏼
@cdorman11
@cdorman11 Жыл бұрын
7:40 "Don't play hard to get." After many years of hearing "no," and being told that not respecting "no" is borderline harassment, a guy will respond to a woman playing hard-to-get by thinking, "I've seen this movie before," figure there's no chemistry, and walk away.
@tgan71
@tgan71 Жыл бұрын
Empathy is a must! The ATM dig is awesome 👌
@DavidLevis
@DavidLevis Жыл бұрын
Great lessons.❤️ I think it should be 50/50 for both men & women. When it comes finance, love, business,relationship. Not only men playing the whole staff. Above mentioned. 👋
@ronaldthibodauxjr
@ronaldthibodauxjr Жыл бұрын
Having emotions is natural, as long as they don't govern your actions!
@musiclassica
@musiclassica Жыл бұрын
You, and this message, should be treasured at all costs. Thank you for posting.
@amorosogombe9650
@amorosogombe9650 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely Courtney. I think you summarised how men really feel. We feel very cruelly treated most of the time.
@kyndrydspyryt3867
@kyndrydspyryt3867 Жыл бұрын
Well done Courtney, you are truly sticking up for us
@pmac5386
@pmac5386 Жыл бұрын
You are so correct on these points. I have a wonderful relationship which works perfectly most likely due to the fact we are both older and have learned how to communicate directly and compliment both successes and failures as a growing together experience.
@Adam_Le-Roi_Davis.
@Adam_Le-Roi_Davis. Жыл бұрын
As a 63 year old man I'd like to pick up on two points, I can count on one hand the amount of compliments which I've received from women in my life, and if a woman plays hard to get or doesn't reciprocate my effort I leave her to it and move on.
@paulposch3627
@paulposch3627 Жыл бұрын
You are so spot on it is not even funny; thank you for saying what needed to be said
@JohnnyinCLE
@JohnnyinCLE Жыл бұрын
Interesting. Good to see this vantage point episode from a woman's VP. I think where both sexes get this all wrong is that guys portend to be stoic, whereas women aim to poker face as that. At the same time? Women try to empath, whereas men try to predict rashly. I think both sexes should try to bring a certain level of "crossing summit". ALSO: You're right. "Hard to get" tells me that a woman (or rather, either sex) is playing head-games. And most of us have no time for that.
@markfennell1167
@markfennell1167 Жыл бұрын
7:37. Don’t play games. Don’t play hard to get Be authentic. And real.
@OctavianVesa
@OctavianVesa Жыл бұрын
Dear Courtney, you’re an absolute legend! Please write a book about this subject and I’ll the first to pre-order! Thank you! ❤
@nohackershere6592
@nohackershere6592 Жыл бұрын
If someone tells me they aren't interested, I believe them. If they want to play hard to get, well, they won't get got. I've wasted too much time on people who play games. Tell me you are fine? I'll believe you. If you then get upset at me for not reading your mind, I'll politely remind you of what you said and I'll ask again if you are fine or not. Expect me to put forth 100% of the effort in the relationship? I'll just stop and then see what happens. Ask if you look fat in that dress? I'll tell you the truth, as politely as I am able to (if it actually does make you look fat), since I am going to always default to assuming you are asking in earnest instead of wondering about your intent for asking. If being straightforward and honest, in as kind and polite ways as I can, is upsetting to you, then it might be best you find someone else. No matter how pretty you are or how good you look, if you can't interact without playing games and don't show me interest in return, then you aren't attractive. Life would be a lot easier if more women understood this, and forming relationships would be much less frustrating for both parties...
@rlp4028
@rlp4028 Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you mentioned that guys like compliments too. I get maybe 1 compliment a year.
@JoseJimenez-vk8kv
@JoseJimenez-vk8kv Жыл бұрын
Girl, you hit it right on the nail. Thank you so much!
@IAmAFEX
@IAmAFEX Жыл бұрын
Even as a 19 year old I love hearing facts about myself reinforced. Shout out to you.
@richhayes4883
@richhayes4883 Жыл бұрын
As a man, I watch many of your videos but this may be one of the best! You put in five points the central interests of men. keep up the great content!
@helloDobson3259
@helloDobson3259 Жыл бұрын
Excellent call out on don't expect mind reading. She's right, it's immature and toxic behavior.
@devilsadvocacy
@devilsadvocacy Жыл бұрын
5:56 I’m 52. I have been complimented more times for my professional abilities (lawyering skill) over the course of my lifetime, than for all of the other reasons combined. And the count is not even close
@Razl07
@Razl07 Жыл бұрын
I dated a girl who expected me to give her flowers using subtle hints. Not a bad example at all!
@Razl07
@Razl07 Жыл бұрын
@_TeIegra.m_RealCourtneyRyan first off she was a great girl. Definitely don’t want to diminish that. But she occasionally dropped hints about liking flowers. She also had her friends contact me and suggest getting flowers for her birthday. In reality, it was never something my dad or anyone in my family did so I wasn’t accustomed to it. I did spend several hours trying to find the perfect gifts, even shelling out big bucks once to have a necklace made with her name engraved on it. When she didn’t get flowers, she got really upset and acted as though I ruined her birthday. It made me feel hurt and very confused that she expected me to know what she wanted without ever telling me.
@thegray5730
@thegray5730 Жыл бұрын
"Geez Louise...have some fricking empathy"? Never seen you lose control like that.
@kennethwagner76
@kennethwagner76 Жыл бұрын
Cried @ 4:30. Time to pick out some Factor meals.
@jamesturner2126
@jamesturner2126 Жыл бұрын
People cry. Men are people. Ridiculing men for crying is inhumane. That treatment leads to the "don't cry" filter, a communication barrier men have to use, to prevent crying. Then Men get ridiculed for being cold/violent, as if we were given some other ways to grieve. Men are people, stop oppressing our emotions then complaining about the consequences.
@davidm2299
@davidm2299 Жыл бұрын
What a refreshing video! The world needs more of this! Thank you, Courtney! :)
@joseph.irvin.photography
@joseph.irvin.photography Жыл бұрын
Good list, knowledge is power! I dunno exactly what you're looking for but there are some great books out there covering topics like this, for example 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married, For Men Only, For Women Only...
@zerofuksgivins2539
@zerofuksgivins2539 Жыл бұрын
men do have feelings, its just when we show them, they get use against us
@chrisstone-streetlightinte5629
@chrisstone-streetlightinte5629 Жыл бұрын
I'll tell you what ladies...wanna know if your man has feelings. Buy him flowers...just once. On the outside, he'll be weird and awkward about it, because he's not used to it. But I garuantee you that those things will still be alive a month later and that will tell you everything thing you need to know about him. The one time a girl bought me flowers, it wasn't even a romantic thing. It was a "Hey I know you're going through a hard time and I know its not much, and you're a dude, and you probably hate flowers, but I want you to know someone cares about you," sort of thing. Those roses lived a month. I cared for them daily and I enjoyed the hell out of it. Point: Treat your men the way you want to be treated. Lesser lesson. If you enjoy it, there's a solid chance he will too.
@demonderpz7937
@demonderpz7937 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate that you made a video on this topic, and I hope there wasn't a significant amount of hate regarding the video (because I know when similar content creators have made videos on the topic, women on twitter and tik tok tore them apart calling them "pick me" and other derogatory terms for simply having any empathy for men)
@sgr2828
@sgr2828 Жыл бұрын
One thing I'd like to add is that a lot of this advice falls under the category of "say how you feel / say what you want the other person to know", but some relationships are toxic to the point that the other person does not care about your emotions / wants / needs whatsoever, and will even get angry at you for communicating what your needs are, because they don't want to feel like a "bad" person for ignoring them. Some people are not brave enough to leave a toxic relationship, so instead they halt clear communication, fearing either being ignored or retaliated against, and resort to the passive aggressive stuff and unclear communication.
@cameronnovy3718
@cameronnovy3718 Жыл бұрын
As a society it seems we’ve forgotten that men appreciate positive affirmations, regardless of who it comes from. I rarely if ever get anything from those in or around my generation. However I do still get it from the older generations, things like women complimenting the way you dress or how ‘handsome’ I am, and from the men when I do a good job with something they actually acknowledge it. I’m a fairly stoic person, but I always make sure to say something I’m thinking if it could make someone’s day.
@Crimson_Builder
@Crimson_Builder Жыл бұрын
I absolutely love what this girl speaks I so wish that more girls were like her
@Rogue-Sentinel
@Rogue-Sentinel Жыл бұрын
Once again. Outfit and look in Thumbnail is on Point! Prettiest dating coach on KZbin!
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