The Reasons Men Are Single? (This Is Unhinged)

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[@johnny5ramos]

Women: "You need to level up and become a better man." Also women: "If you don't accept me for who I am, then you're the problem."

[@AnOriginalYouTuber]

I" can't afford a family and like video games. Accept me for who I am or you're the problem." This is evidence that too many men and women are too immature to have proper relationships.

[@dr.edwardrichtofen365]

This is why I’m so glad the Supreme Court is taking away their rights!!!!😎🙏🏼

[@mix7893]

@@dr.edwardrichtofen365 You would wish that upon your own mother? Your own sister?

[@RobertCarter-o6x]

@@mix7893women don’t need right

[@Jenn_KittyThe3rd]

Sounds like a liberal, stay away lol.

[@aikidokamks]

The way she described unworthy men also describes women too often yet men who have a higher standard are criticized and called controlling.

[@PaperRaines]

Everything she said was correct, but out of context, and from a lunatic like her it doesn't serve anyone. Everyone does and should have standards, nothing wrong with a woman desiring a man who's responsible and works out for example. But her version of that, "does your mommy still wipe your noise?", she the walking epitome of what a one-night stand is

[@TKINcaidduh3jp]

Well said 👍🏻

[@csx6910]

Ya know what? She's had LOADS of the guys she just cried about want her but she rejected them all because of one dumb reason or another. Most women today want perfection, they don't want responsibility and they're going to be left to grow old alone because it it.

[@alexandernorman5337]

@@csx6910 They'll get cats.

[@josuevazquez5889]

She probably needs to reflect on what she's doing wrong.

[@TenMallak]

We've been told for over a decade that we're bad because we're men and that we're no longer needed. The dating scene reflects this.

[@kylemacdougall8355]

It's been way longer than a decade. It's been happening since at least the 1960s.

[@johnanderson1245]

Every ill on Earth is due to the patriarchy and women don’t need a man. Now they’re whining because they can’t get one. This chick must live under a rock.

[@EriPages]

Brittany is feigning ignorance

[@414violence]

And women hold all the cards until late 20's-early 30's, they hit the wall hard and the tables turn. They haven't felt rejection in the same way we have and it'll be a rude awakening

[@antonboludo8886]

Many decades more than that!

[@stu3705]

If you tell someone repeatedly that you don't need them, you don't and you wish they'd leave you alone, they will go away. Especially after 40-50 years of this.

[@CaptainHanneman]

Woman struggles in dating: “I’m a victim!” Man struggles in dating: “Do better!”

[@patrioticaussiesams8581]

Even this Courtney is the same as the ones in the Tik toks. She's just Another Chamelon

[@protorhinocerator142]

Guys, you can't just play video games and have fun all the time. You need to meet women. Yeah, you're not really selling the concept. Should I have fun or date women? Such a tough choice...

[@bknight407]

The BMI number for most women (70% in the US) is not in the normal range. My BMI number is normal and I do workout. That woman is a red flag parade. Perhaps she should work on her view of men.

[@davidbolha]

@@patrioticaussiesams8581 Yup. Clout chasing to her SIMP fanbase. 😏😄

[@iggs67]

@@patrioticaussiesams8581She a woman after all, and she's good looking. Of course she is biased, she cannot experience what we as men experience every day. But at least she has a bit of common sense and a bit of compassion towards men.

[@1wood101]

It's pretty simple. Men don't want to be with disagreeable women. It's too much stress.

[@OpenCarry2024]

Yeah or train wrecks like this one.

[@protorhinocerator142]

Not worth it. Men want peace, not a fresh argument when they get home from work.

[@alanskinner7031]

Guess why high blood pressure is ramp these days !!!! starts with a W.

[@boogieoogieoogie9688]

Amen! Simply put.

[@Tails_Trades]

Boom! Exactly.

[@233kosta]

"Men want a fantasy!" The fantasy: a woman who sees us as human beings.

[@TTailled]

I wouldn't want someone to see me as a human being, humans suck and are worth less than the cars they drive in today's societal usefulness/ranking. I would prefer a woman see me as an intimate friend with benefits which would then evolve to housemate with benefits and finally a parent of our genetically identical offspring. Sadly though, not possible.. They just want to identify us as work mules and mind game toys which when broken are disposed of.. employers do the same thing and our government supports this kind of relationship which is why we will stay single if we know what's good for us.

[@233kosta]

@@TTailled Your options are: 1. Hew-maan 2. Untermensch unworthy of anything, least of all basic empathy

[@sweetbrown89]

Most of us see you as human beings…we just don’t want anything to do with most human beings Go to a mall or the beach or anywhere public with people walking around How many people there do you want to know on a personal level? That’s probably the same ratio of people for us, but we would choose ~1-2 people at most of that number who we’d consider dating or more

[@sirslapjob825]

But they only see rich men as human I bet Ryan only go for rich too let's be real .......so why are there jobless women demanding men with cars on dating sites why are 18yr olds selling booty online why are only fans girls 18yr old making 40k a month

[@SilviaLampa]

No. You guys want underage submissive virgins

[@edwoodstock]

"It just requires you to type in your credit card number, and pay a woman who doesn't even care about you, which is sad" And while very true, this quote similarly describes the way some men feel within relationships. In the case of divorce or break up, this simply means that some men will continue to pay a woman who doesn't care about him, forever, or risk being thrown in jail. Yes, sad indeed.

[@notthething9531]

I was going to ask what the difference was besides pretence.

[@AlvaroArredondo-ir6iv]

Many men also feel that the transaction is the most straightforward & honest interaction they’ve had.

[@bluefalconssuck5881]

The Prostitute isn't paid for sex... She's paid to leave afterward so the Man can enjoy the peace and quiet.

[@sixfootse7en248]

I love how she attacks guys that don’t go to the gym and aren’t fit, yet criticizes guys that wants a woman for her looks.

[@michaelsix9684]

look at her top row of teeth, they are not right, one side is shorter than the other, never seen this before

[@bluecollarman694]

@@michaelsix9684 her shits a little crooked. I think she should get braces. I mean I’d still do her 🤷‍♂️

[@applebutter4036]

Not just going to the gym, but abstaining from masturbation, never wasting time on hobbies, not living with or any way dependent on a parent. She can have all these standards, but how dare a man care about a womans physique.

[@rolandthorne79]

I'd like to see how a woman does with a sex drive that never stops... see how they do. Love it how christian women can't understand that. Regardless, in person is where its at. Online doesn't work because women screen for appearance same as we do, only they apply an "ick" factor to the men who don't look the way they want. Men will accept a woman who is available even if she doesn't match his physical wishes completely.

[@pfp4ever]

well she would walk away at the first red flag :3

[@markesblack]

It is hilarious. Men can’t tell women anything but at the same time we are the leaders when it is time to assign blame.

[@jaxonwoods8181]

This right here. The hypocrisy is damning.

[@mafp22w]

By definition, no one is a leader if there are no followers.

[@gordongekko2781]

@@mafp22w I think that's his point.

[@riffcaster]

Women don't listen, they follow.

[@wanderer5200]

Very insightful. I never put that together before. Nice work.

[@whothefcares2687]

I like how physical appearance was listed first in her criteria, literally above all other things, and then she complained that men had preferences on looks.

[@incharini]

I noticed that too. Apparently women have a right to demand physical attributes but if men do we're shamed. *SHOCKER*

[@MustbeTheBassest]

Yeah, I caught that too. But it's okay because "men are the leaders. You need to change".

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

Never ever ever ever trust what a woman says regarding what they are attracted to

[@sweettooth7625]

She’s obviously unstable. I can bet she got a bit of history as well.

[@ctguitarguy8510]

@@sweettooth7625 Yeah, she has other videos, including a followup to this that suggest she is completely insufferable

[@jrossofskb]

We're not tired, we just don't care anymore.

[@liquidt3ch]

I decided to stay single at the age of 25. I was so unhappy being in relationships. once it clicked with me that I was happier alone, I decided to do what makes me happy. I'm 41 now, and have only seen the dating scene go from an unpleasant experience, to a downright nightmare. I've come to peace with dying alone

[@shahabuddinahmed5694]

😂@@robertgarraway-144k

[@unkown34x33]

Your never along ;) you got the bros! The brotherhood. Soo many times I thought I was a alone, and the boys always back you up. not a girl

[@uSetTheScene]

As someone who died and lived to tell about it -- we all die alone.

[@DonJuan-z7c]

Same…and I’m 32 now

[@waltermyers8891]

#christianfriends

[@fearthemerciful]

I regret listening to her 2nd video. I tried so hard to to become a better man. I finally got a girlfriend within my league and she put no effort into making it work out. The moment the "spark" left she stonewalled until I ended the relationship. This woman in the tiktok has no idea how unbelievably broken dating is for average men. Emotionally, I've died to trying at being better. If I push myself anymore, I will probably cry. Being alone hurts less than setting myself up for further disappointment. I want to love and protect a wife so badly, but no woman wants to have that. I have to stop trying because it is destroying my self-esteem.

[@BrisaRuiva]

Maybe start working on yourself for yourself, go to therapy to heal your traumas. Become a better person for yourself only. Be the best you can be. Take care of yourself and your life. And stop complaining about life or women. Try to see positive things on them. Write down what you look for in a partner. Have a gratitude journal. And this way you will attract the right partner into your life. If you are working on being the best you can be, people will see that and good women will recognize that and will want you. But first u got work on yourself and get away from all negativity ❤ hope this helps 🙏🏻✌🏻

[@Stratiljirka]

​@@BrisaRuiva "Become better person for yourself only. Be the best you can be." usually means something completely different from male and female perspectives so it will not bring you the right partner because the right partner values different things than you do. Works both ways, yet for some reason in modern western society only one sex is expected to adapt to the expectations of the other.

[@BrisaRuiva]

@@Stratiljirka men also expect a lot from girls, when I was ugly and didn’t care about my appearance I couldn’t get anyone. So yes it goes both ways.

[@alexaalexa2308]

​​@@BrisaRuivayou're a part of the problem, how about you stop hating men and said men need to better themselves why is always men who need to better themselves? Why women are not need to better themselves?, how about you girls better yourself, how about you girls stop sleeping around

[@daishan1234]

@@BrisaRuiva eh, you might not have gotten who *you* wanted, but a woman has to be pretty damned hideous to not get *anybody*. the difference is it's pretty easy for a girl to level herself up (it's basically just "be fit and healthy"), whereas it's a lot harder for a guy. you can be perfectly fit and healthy, and still not getting girls that are even on your level or below. you also gotta level up your money, which is *hard*.

[@SpoonHurler]

I wish I could be as empathetic toward women as Courtney is toward men... the chick in the video is exactly what I meet every freaking day and I just don't want any of it. I workout, work 50+ hours a week and I play video games cause I love it. It would be like me complaining about a woman watching true crime. And of course if I did all those things the goal posts would change like with wage... it was six figures and now you need to make a million a year. I'm done playing into the games personally.

[@Swearengen1980]

She's empathetic towards men while telling all of you the many ways you need to change if you ever want to meet a woman? All of that applies to men and women. A guy doesn't have to go workout to get a woman, he just has to be realistic about the type of woman he can get if he doesn't take care of himself. As an aside, WTF is with the female obsession with crime and serial killers the last couple years? It's as random and odd as the sudden obsession with tacos. 2-3 years ago, sushi was the best food ever. Now all women say "Tacos are life".

[@jgj4430]

Tacos are a gateway to the Tequila. Sake isn't cutting it anymore.

[@Jennthegreen]

But would you be ok with a woman that would rather play video games than be with you?

[@ArantyrDarkhand]

Lol women want talk about porn... when men watch porn to masturbate and go with their day. On the oter hand women are looking at their porn 6-12 hours a day(social media), and think thats real life.

[@biscottigelato8574]

With hypergamy, realistically a 7 guy can only get a 3 girl. 4/5s dates at least 8s, 6/7s dates at least 9s, 8/9/10 dates at least 10s. Realistically, an average guy (5/6) gets a ~1 girl. That's realism for ya.

[@gimenovax1]

After trying many times I realized that if I had got married there would be about a 99% chance I would just be divorced. I decided just to not put the 2 of us threw that. Oh and I don`t live in my moms basement, I have a paid off house, a paid off car and a boat and a dog, I have everything I need.

[@tangobear3536]

Years ago I met a woman online, met for lunch, and she told me that she had messages on the site from 47 men. I realized then that it didn't matter how "perfect" I worked at making myself or how I scored on all the metrics---the only thing that mattered was this flighty woman's emotions in the moment, as she instantly decided my fate, likely based upon what salad dressing I ordered, or the color of my socks. Men don't get inquiries from 47 women. So, after a period of trying to be the best we can be, we walk away and save our time, money, energy, and yes, emotions.

[@Grouse2275]

Having tried online dating I will verify exactly what you have experienced. No guy is going to compete with women who are getting 40 messages a week, meeting at least a few and dismissing all of them. These same women are often nothing of a bargain but get deluded into thinking that they're "special" when in fact they're not.

[@scambaitspidey3470]

golf clap

[@christophermoshier]

True. As someone who dated a lot of women after my divorce I say about half wanted a free dinner.

[@mrlucus8007]

Go to the gym, have a nice body, don't be fat. Don't go for girls that have a nice body.... got it, double standards. Maybe Her problem is the big red flag she has

[@graymatters7584]

Brilliant comment. This is the point nobody ever makes.

[@Peter-vn5jq]

I'm 36, male, and I'm done too. Too much work for no reward, other than a 50% chance of losing 50% of my assets thrown in as a bonus. I'd have to be insane to take that deal. Thank God for the mid-30s slump in testosterone levels, things have gotten much easier for me lately. I still care, after a fashion, but I'm not broken up about the prospect of being alone for the rest of my life. I suspect that with time I'll stop caring completely, and be content with what I do have, which objectively is a hell of a lot. Wealth, time, and most importantly, freedom and peace of mind. And that crying chick in the vid is absolutely delusional. Just insane. She would be a nightmare to deal with on a daily basis. The crocodile tears followed by rage is a classic combo.

[@ctguitarguy8510]

38 here, amen brother. Men are checking out, and women are the cause. We keep dancing around this, but it really is the primary cause. Male loneliness is spiking to record highs, but it still seems like a better alternative to this. This is the world women wanted, and created. The reduction in testosterone is a godsend.

[@michaelsix9684]

being single actually gets easier and better over time, I've lost the desire to have a woman now -- quit dating 46, now 67 -- seen divorces destroy men I know , I'm out

[@recmtnbiker4368]

That is the biggest reason. In the US, our family law court system is corrupt. I have seen too many men have their lives ruined in divorce court to think otherwise.

[@1davidburns]

Peter, I have 4 words: Testosterone supplements, and Prenup. Michael, everyday I wonder if I'm going to be alone, but I can't stop holding out hope that there is one good one out there all for me. Good women are vital for society and to men in general.

[@cencalsupras]

Just turned 34 I'm feeling the same. Single father of one and single for going on 10 years here soon. I checked out last month. Now I bought two dirt bikes for me and my son and just got a boat 😂.

[@kevinobrien3888]

In my dating years from 1987 to 2015 here is what I experienced with ladies: - Lived at home or with roommates 58% - Overweight or obese 55% - Kids at home or single mothers 48% - Found out they cheated 23% - Has an actual hobby 19% * Shopping, watching TV, traveling and eating out aren't hobbies ** At some point in every relationship, given enough time, all of the women wanted me to quit my hobbies so we could sit on the couch and watch TV together. *** Doing the same hobby as me, with me, doesn't count I will freely admit at some point I was dating a lot of women that weren't particularly desirable to me. However, as you get older your options thin out and I was willing to take chances. I will also say I realized that I attracted broken women because I was broken. Now that I've fixed my issues dating seems like a waste of time. I've been single 8 years and I look the same as I did 10yrs ago. I'm working on being better then I was 20yrs ago.

[@kiddcloud]

So true bro 😎

[@thomi77]

Never Date fat women!!!!

[@l2xsniper1]

Yes, when you mention about quitting your hobbies to sit on the couch with them to watch TV all day - that is their definition of "emotionally available" - they want you to drop all of your interests and hell they'll even nag you over your job too as if you can just drop that to be more "emotionally available" as well. Essentially as a guy when you date these girls you have to be this 24/7 entertainer because the second they decide they're bored with you, is when they'll call plan b to come over. This is why men don't date, its not worth the time and energy.

[@josephesposito3499]

Good for you! I wouldn't however call wo-MEN 'ladies'

[@jonrichardson319]

I like your post. Those stats are realistic. I would add: women who lied about there notch count: 90 percent.

[@KuroiRenge]

I regret ever having put myself out there. I met a beautiful woman with traditional values who I loved and cherished, and she still dropped me, never told me why, sent a text of our break up of a relationship of eight years, and told me the lease was up in ten days. I'm in a far worse place than had I never met her. My life and mental state is in shambles, even a year later. All over a woman. It isn't worth it. They are not worth it.

[@FM-jo1jh]

women get dumbed for younger women, or some new piece of asss all the time, some after spending decades making a home and raising his children. goes both ways.

[@JimiJames528]

@elizabeetle13 I have to ask, but have you checked your friendzone?

[@Sarah-xw2ff]

You are not owed a relationship. They are two way streets. She didn't feel the chemistry like you did. Move on.

[@JimiJames528]

@elizabeetle13 Somehow o have female friends. Friends from high school, pool league, sking/snowboarding, work friends. Many women have a circle of men they're friend zoned over the years.

[@ets2atstruckermartin527]

@elizabeetle13 red flag: the typical "best friend" no man want that

[@superbob24]

Funny how the first red flag for men she lists is working out, then says men wanting a women with ass/tits is a red flag. I guess its okay for women to want physically attractive men but not for men to want women they are physically attracted to.

[@arthurmorgan2906]

I knew right away she would be hypocritical and always choosing the same kind of men and then complain about it. SHE IS THE FKN ONE CHOOSING THOSE MEN... and rejecting everyone else. I mean how can someone have a red flag when someone just dont work out. If that person is literally obese thats a different story. I play games but if someone is addicted and plays ALL THE TIME okay that would be red flag for me too...

[@markaurelius61]

The red flag was being out of shape

[@ShadowPhoenix82]

​@@arthurmorgan2906that is what she meant by not work out. I believe she was pretty clear when she said "fat slob."

[@brambledemon1232]

It’s never ok for us to have preferences.

[@jeremythompson1199]

She was right though, and she’s saying the boob and butt are all Some guys look for, regardless if they have flags or not.

[@robbsclassics]

Women: You think I should be interested in you just because you're nice? Also women: Why can't I find a nice guy?

[@danwarner7816]

Added nice over 6' and make 6 figures to that 1 😂

[@1_chilled_guy595]

nice guys are sitting in the friendzone and then they complain

[@Elisabetta.10980]

​@@1_chilled_guy595 So many of the self proclaimed nice guys are not actually nice. They are delusional, toxic and often abusive. A real nice guy doesn't scream it to the world, but he show his manners though actions in the real world.

[@RPOlawale]

​@@Elisabetta.10980being nice guy and what you described are not the same. The word nice has been bastardized.

[@rlh125]

@@Elisabetta.10980 I knew someone (probably a woman) would throw this accusation at nice guys. It’s the popular excuse for why women don’t pick nice guys: “They aren’t REALLY nice guys. They just ACT nice so we will date them.” 🤦‍♂️ No, they act nice because they think it is the right thing to do. Then they get frustrated and angry because women keep choosing the pump-and-dumpers over them while simultaneously whining that there are no nice guys. 🙄 By the way, I was raised to be a nice guy, but I was trained by women to ignore that impulse and be the man they choose, not the one they claim to want. Once I learned that lesson (that it’s better not to care one way or the other about any one of them in particular), I became very successful with women. These days I rarely even bother to date because I can’t stand entitled western women. For every Courtney Ryan, there are 10,000 plain, overweight, entitled, selfish women who aren’t worth spending 5 minutes with.

[@zourin8804]

as a 43 year old single, never married 'average' man, everything I've achieved I've done so in spite of the women in my life. I'm blessed to be an extreme introvert where I can say that dating is not worth the very real risks and consequences of sorting through spent, desperate women trying to find an escape from the consequences of their life choices. Modern women offer me nothing but drama, discomfort, discontentment, and financial strain only after I've already done the hard work to be succesful without them. A little bout of loneliness once or twice a year is a small price to pay for the bullets it helps me dodge. Bullets that have left so many friends with destroyed lives that I could not ignore the warnings left by their stories. Eventually, women will realize that you have to get in at ground level and commit if you want to get taken to the top, but this is not that era. This is an era of delusion, misandry, unaccountablility, and self-entitlement. I know there are good women out there, I am sure there are even a couple women who could fit my life and lifestyle, but I am not so good a judge of character that I have any confidence I could find her. I will stay where I am. Thanks.

[@IndyMotoRider]

Well said. I'm 50 now, divorced at 40 from an unfaithful wife. Had to file bankruptcy and start over. Things have gone well the past few years focusing on self improvement (lost 70 lbs and off blood pressure meds). But I haven't dated since the divorce and even though my libido has returned with my improved health, I can't justify re-entering the dating market. As you get older, you really get to know yourself, your interests, what you will or won't put up with etc. You're right though, a couple times a year that loneliness rears its head and it can be rough. That's when I force myself to get outside my man cave and interact with people who have common hobbies/interests.

[@patrioticaussiesams8581]

Beautifully spoken mate. Ya not missing Anything by not getting Married in the West I was Married for 6 & half years and was a 6 yrs of HELL. Only to find out she was Cheating for years with st least 4 different dudes and she was a Size 18. How my kids were mine I found hard to believe the DNA results. Then loosing my kids 70% of my wealth. The only way I got something was I hid the fact I knew about her Cheating and secretly got my Aussie 60's Classic cars out and parts etc and my family airlumes out to safety under her nose and didn't abit of financial manoeuvres before I served her Divorce papers. Never EVER AGAIN will I Get Married or COHABITATE with a Modern western Fea-male

[@patrioticaussiesams8581]

​@@IndyMotoRiderI'm 46 divorced 14years I had to work and Lie CHEAT and virtually steal to rebuild my wealth. Was able to advance my career got into Drag racing my Mid 60s Holden street car.. I couldn't be happier actually. Will haven't dated in 5 years NOW I've lost interest

[@gregwochlik9233]

Love your story. As a fellow "deep introvert" (INTJ-T), I share your sentiments. I do have weight issues: hence that aggressive woman from the video won't date me! I"m totally fine with that. I agree fully to what you are saying.

[@patrickhammond1939]

The best relationships I've had are with the females I met on the school campus in college.

[@Xiomaro01]

"it only requires you to pay a woman who doesn't even care about you" Is that what most men are feeling the issue is in the real world anyway...

[@Trynottoblink]

Yeah it’s funny that Courtney says this because in a previous video she says she prefers dinner dates. If every man catered to this preference in women they’d end up doing the exact same thing she criticizes men with AI girlfriends for doing.

[@JorgeHernandez-oh7xv]

As a person who lives with his parents because of epilepsy, this girl really got me thinking why we men don't talk about our problems.

[@ranekeisenkralle8265]

Because if we do, 9 times out of 10 (if not more) we get told to just "man up". Moreover, even if they say they want a man to be more open about their emotions, typically women regard that as a sign of weakness - therefore undatable. A textbook-catch-22 if you will. There are very rare exceptions of women who won't mock a man for showing emotions, or weaponize it against them, but those too typically are not interested in a relationship with that particular man. Those rare women do make for great friends though, but take your time for vetting such individuals - bacause you are opening yourself up for a world of emotional hurt if you don't. Hope your epilepsy isn't giving you too much trouble. Keep it up.

[@JorgeHernandez-oh7xv]

@@ranekeisenkralle8265 that is pretty much what she said on the second video, but nothing about be more feminine for them. Lol. I'm working on it, after 5 brain surgeries and a brain tumor and working on anxieties I at least working on my self. It's hard not going to lie since I can't drive because of the what "if".

[@FrancisFjordCupola]

You don't talk because you'd know the answers you'd get. And the amount of empathy you'd get.

[@JorgeHernandez-oh7xv]

@@FrancisFjordCupola I don't like the answer "oh I'm sorry that happened to you".

[@ranekeisenkralle8265]

@@JorgeHernandez-oh7xv Yeah. My recommendation is to be yourself and let others deal with that instead of twisting yourself just to be liked by others. Best of luck for your health, buddy. Depending on where you live (Europe for instance) a car is not a necessity anyway.

[@wnlimalcolm]

I grew up with 3 sisters, my mother and every woman in my life telling me to never judge a woman by appearance and weight doesn’t matter. Fast forward to today, I see that all of the dating profiles that say they want someone to ‘take care of themselves’, ‘have an active lifestyle’, ‘be health conscious’, ‘fitness oriented’. It’s all a sugarcoated way of saying “No fatties”. It’s the difference between being nice and being kind. Sugarcoating things is nice, but it is unkind.

[@almosthelpless9374]

There's a difference between looking good and being healthy/fit. You can be shallow or you can truly wish your partner lives a long, healthy life.

[@wnlimalcolm]

@@almosthelpless9374 I agree. But in this context these comments are coming from total strangers who want the other person to be immediately and conventionally attractive to them.

[@scottb296]

It is really something too that criticizing a woman for her weight is some kind of war crime but when directed at men it is perfectly fair game.

[@MonkeyMind69]

I can see some truth behind your words, but as health-nut, I'm not sugarcoating anything when I'm asking for it in a potential mate. I'm being real. Imagine later in life if you stay together with someone who has a lot of unhealthy habits ...the accumulated health problems and medical costs can accumulate into a huge burden. Good health translates to quality-of-life, happiness, and overall satisfaction with your significant other. Imagine too the role-model a person with such unhealthy habits would be if you were to have a child with them. Children learn by what you do, not what you say. It would undoubtedly have a negative impact upon the child, and that's not something I can personally abide by. I try and be my best-self and lead by example. I expect the same in the women I am in relationships with, and that is not "unkind". On a final note, if a person is on their own ... then they can be as overweight as they want. ...But in a relationship, it's a selfish thing to do. The burdens, emotional, mental, and ultimately financial are all things brought into the relationship that didn't need to be there. P.S. In speaking about the health burdens brought into the relationship... I'm specifically talking about things like being overweight, smoking, alcohol, or drugs. These are self inflicted and can be overcome. I don't hold health ailments beyond a persons control to the same standard. I'm after the person who CHOOSES to live a better life, not only for themselves, but for their spouse and children as well. I don't' ask anything out of another that I wouldn't ask of myself.

[@arcticwolf8313]

@@scottb296or their height (something they can't control).

[@Grahamulet]

I have been single for 4 years now. Been putting in my all, trying to find something real, not even hookups but looking for my future wife, and this entire time I have been ghosted, used for money, treated like trash, gaslit into thinking there's something wrong with me for wanting a relationship, and I'm just done with it, I'm tired of putting myself out there just for these women who don't even make half my pay to put me down and make me feel like garbage. That's why I checked out.

[@MrMan-fx3ow]

I’ve noticed that I’ve been criticized for giving off a “player vibe” But then when I actually like a girl and would be open to taking things seriously, I’ve been told I give off “boyfriend energy” which leads to the girls attempting (😂) to friendzone me

[@swagguy4101]

19 years and counting

[@inconnu4961]

@@swagguy4101 How old are you now? I was single for 6 years before i got married (I took the only offer I had) and have been single for 7 years since, with NO prospects to speak of. Most of us 'average' guys probably have similar stories.

[@ingeclaeys3761]

The thing is, your experience happens to women as well... We have come at a time where it's very much men against women. Women not seeing the sad perspective of men who truly put in the effort and want to find a real and deep connection. Men not seeing the side of women being used and tossed aside like a pair of dirty socks. It's not all men are bad or all woman are bad. It seems to me that good men end up with bad women and good women end up with bad men. Also there is no more community. You used to go to a local dance, meet someone and date. You wouldn't just start ignoring the person you were seeing, or show up with someone else at a local event. That was a hard nono. Now? Swiping, ghosting, benching, the quick dopamine hits, meeting someone on an online platform... It's all very unnatural. Sometimes I feel we need to disconnect in order to (re)connect.

[@jaredscott760]

Even the women with a bunch of kids with dudes who aren't you think they are high and mighty

[@jolly968]

Lots of risks having a real girlfriend-being cheated on, getting married and then divorced, finding out that the girl is a covert narcissist, unwanted pregnancy, waste of time and money since familiarity breeds contempt, for example, she gets bored with you, she meets someone taller, richer, better looking than you at work or church…the list is endless and men are finally realizing it-thanks to the women’s movement.

[@katemiller7874]

You can’t think like this. It will hold you back in life. Think positively

[@longredroad4249]

for many men, it is better to live a life alone and unloved than to live a life where you are disrespected and betrayed. The winning move is not to play, and that gets more true everyday.

[@Kramer63]

That’s the big thing disrespectful women especially when they’re over 30 overweight do they not see themselves naked and say why am I such a witch. They have nothing to offer for the war out fat body and disrespect for a man it just amazes me how they think because of Instagram Shawna pretty face and talking sweet will make up for the fact that they’re out of shape and have nothing to offer like a used car with 200,000 miles on it and rust does Amanda want that or does he want a woman that takes care of herself and shows a man respect I thought men were perverts in their 50s and 60s with women under 30 years of age physically fit some of them bury these women and have children some women actually get it they’re not looking for a meal ticket they just want to be dedicated to one man they’re very rare but precious

[@cliffterrell4876]

You are 100% correct. I have been single 12 years after my divorce and dating two other females after, because every female I have been with caused nothing but drama problems and cheated while I was at work but wanted me to pay for their wants and needs. I was a living ATM. Not anymore.

[@donieluong3695]

That’s what I’m thinking and tbh I’m just being me and I learned my mistakes. I’ve been in a relationship that I don’t want and I was guilty of it cuz I feel bad. But now I learned that being in a relationship is a big commitment and it depends on you no matter who you are. (I’m not against anyone)

[@Yeaaaah_z]

What did you do wrong? Always deflecting @@cliffterrell4876 🙄

[@danballe]

​@@cliffterrell4876quintessential deck ironic the juice is NOT worth the squeeze

[@mimicotom]

Where does she get off saying us men are superficial? I was on a date that lasted 12 minutes. She told me there was no 'chemistry' between us. I downed my beer, paid for my drink only, told her to have a good life, and I bounced outta there. She looked like a deer caught in the headlights. I can still remember that shocked looked on her face with her wine glass halfway up to her mouth. Priceless. Stay strong, brothers. Do what you want to do. Do not bend to the will of others.

[@1_chilled_guy595]

well done bro..i don't think I would have had the balls to walk away midway through a date.

[@chef-magoo]

in a sense though, she really did do you a favor didn’t she. You didn’t waste any time, probably would’ve just walked out, but thanked her for being upfront and honest about it. It all depends on her attitude, and only you can know what that was like.

[@mafp22w]

I would have loved to have given you a high five as you went out the door.

[@visaman]

I hope you tipped the waiter.

[@mimicotom]

@@visaman I did.

[@PopeMetallicus]

Part of the problem is a lot of us realize that women don't care about us even in relationships. A lot are just there to take the fruits of our labor, and as soon as things get slightly rough, she'll leave and force us to continue paying for her lifestyle after. Hell, a lot of men saw their fathers ruined by it, and refuse to follow the same trajectory

[@gambooyt]

Absolutely

[@Alazar-z8p]

100% truth.

[@scottb296]

Men are just treated like shit, period. Even good men. Even if he was just the way she wanted she would probably find some way to tear him down or complain about him.

[@breaks3085]

So that means your saying women are USERS

[@lewengineering]

Right on brother. It is not just some men that play games but women play games too.

[@juandelacruz5247]

I live with my mom not because I'm broke or dependent on her. I take care of my mom, support her, and spend a large amount of money in the household. In return, my mom helps me with my clothes, cook the food and other house choirs. Don't get me wrong, I can cook, wash my clothes, clean the house and others. But this is called cooperation! Yes, I can live on my own, but I still need to give financial support to my mom, drive her from time to time to her appointments and etc. Can you imagine how inefficient would that be if I am to live out of our home?

[@chronobot2001]

Dating/marrying a woman is a risk that could totally ruin your life and cost you everything you have.

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

💯

[@unnf9971]

Prenup.

[@boxtradums0073]

@@unnf9971they can be thrown out and routinely are arguing ‘duress’

[@ronaldlee3537]

@@unnf9971 : Prenups can be broken, I am not a lawyer, just what heard on the internet.

[@Steve-zl5om]

A "normal, regular" person doesn't start crying and then immediately get out their phone and film themselves crying to post on social media. A narcissist does that, not a normal person. There's the reason you're single.

[@IamtheFerryMan]

She was even wearing the Narcissist T-Shirt

[@cdorman11]

@@IamtheFerryMan Narcissism: The Other Pandemic A confession? Possibly. BPD is characterized by wild mood swings, with temporary paranoia that is triggered by emotional stress. She's wearing another day's clothes, enough time for the mood swing to be from bipolar. She might be on meth in the second video. I'd keep an open mind.

[@will7446]

LOL！@@IamtheFerryMan

[@nickem6556]

yeah like someone cares about her crocodile tears

[@danballe]

I wanted to like your video but, the count is well... Have a comment instead.

[@nickhfda223]

Now take the level of frustration displayed in the 2nd clip and multiply it by 20. Thousand. Then sit with it for 20 years until you're 40, and you've nailed what the "good men" have been experiencing for the last two decades. We're still here; we're just in hiding doing our own thing.

[@Swearengen1980]

Maybe you are, not me.

[@DCMikeAviationFun]

Yep. We are being men and enjoying it without unnecessary drama. Haha. Used to be lonely now happy alone

[@OriginalTodzilla]

​@@DCMikeAviationFunMGTOW!!! Yeah, the juice ain't worth the squeeze. Most of us are invisible to most women and they dispise "regular" (read nonChad guys), so why am i going to bust my @$$ for a low rent hater like the girl in the tiktok?😅

[@ricknelson8886]

You can do all those things that make you attractive and still get rejected for irrational reasons. It is hopeless, can anyone really live up to unrealistic expectations?

[@RayleighCriterion]

In my twenties I was in better shape than 99.9% of women, but that didn't help me at all in the dating scene, it actually hurt me because most women were embarrassed by their own out of shape bodies.

[@UnexpectedWonder]

I can mos def resonate with that, Brother. 👊👊✊✊👏👏👏👌👌

[@rapidroadsode8789]

That was a different time . More women workout now that ever . I can almost assuredly promise you that isn’t an actual problem for most women today . Most women want the absolute highest quality hottest man they can get regardless of their own quality

[@RayleighCriterion]

@@rapidroadsode8789 Superficiality and shallowness driven by social media now rules.

[@rapidroadsode8789]

@@RayleighCriterion agreed . It’s really shaped the desires on both ends . I remember distinctly being able to easily attract curvy women. I mean actual curvy , small waist wide hips big ass . Because at one point that look was only desired by a small demographic . Now every group of men wants that type and so many women are paying for that look or eating themselves into obesity no longer benign obsessed with maintaining a size 4-6 any longer . Social media really is going to be a large contributor to the near eradication of actual human interaction

[@genovasquez8361]

​@@rapidroadsode8789its about the same back then as it now. infact more women are obese than ever before.

[@keitsee]

My last intimate interaction with a woman was my last relationship of 2 years. That Ended in Jan 2023. 8 months of being alone with no physical intimate human interaction. Modern women are so spiled for choice that they just don't give a damn anymore, they will ghost you the minute they think something better has come their way. Modern dating is extremely hard work.

[@mojomanmurph1925]

If she is attractive, they will have on average 3 to 5 guys in queue and still be looking. It's insane. The other option is be with someone who is not attractive at all so being single is the path most men take.

[@rascal211]

Yep those are the options. be with a woman you aren't attracted to or be alone. @@mojomanmurph1925

[@patrioticaussiesams8581]

Just hit the Gym get in shape focus on your Purpose and Career then plan for early retirement. Get ya Passport deal with Women overseas

[@HenrySomeone]

@@mojomanmurph1925 The "just" not attractive ones aren't all that better. Only the absolute ugliest ones have their options somewhat on par with an average man.

[@richardhall6034]

Hi from the UK 👋 🇬🇧 that woman would be a nightmare if you are a fat slob but a multi millionaire she'd be in your bed in a hart beat ❤ And as for following the teaching of the Bible does that include God's instructions for keeping slave's

[@robertfountain3274]

Well she did a better job of explaining why men are not interested in her then anyone else can. Can you imagine dealing with that set of principles on the daily. Gawd..... run for the hills...lol

[@pricesalem]

😂👏

[@Trancymind]

With those demands, any man would think she has very high expectations hidden in her sleeve like income, height, kids, divorced, assets.

[@Swearengen1980]

She actually didn't say too much unrealistic, it was the way she said it. She's mostly wrong about the jerking off thing, most women don't care. But do women want an adult that lives with mom, plays video games all day while he gets fat? No, they don't. Her biggest problem is not recognizing the flaws she's bitching about are equally as bad, if not worse, in females. Ok, 2nd biggest problem. The first is that she's on tiktok to begin with. Remove masturbation and my requirements for a woman in my 40s are steeper than hers. Add a degree of intellect, a career (not a job), no liberals, be feminine and submissive.......and a few more. Anything less and I don't waste my time and I pretty much always have someone I'm dating/in a relationship with. If you put her ideas through Courtney's filter and you'd have no problem with what she was saying unless you're guilty of being a fat, lazy, momma's boy with no life potential.

[@DCMikeAviationFun]

Yup. She’s the poster child behind why as a man best to be single. Dealing with that? No thanks

[@user-fv7sy7kl4p]

Amen Brother!

[@FDR_progressive_liberal]

My three ex-wives wore me down to a nub. That's why I'm single. I was mowing the lawn and a neighbor across the street commented that I must be single and there was something wrong there. Typical woman. A cute guy doesn't have a woman to make him miserable so the world is out of balance. I am quite content thank-you-very-much.

[@patrickl5290]

I mean bro, three ex wives? Sounds like you might be bad at picking

[@dh9224]

​@patrickl5290 lol right Three ex wives and u still think they're all the problem, not you??

[@elizabeetle13-k4z]

@@FDR_progressive_liberal You didn't learn your lesson the first time?

[@LightsCameraJake]

The male loneliness epidemic is only prolonged with each and every woman like this. Meaningful connection in general. A lot of Woman would not last a day if they had to deal with what men go through.

[@Joe-tk8bn]

And most of us men are ok with being alone and are asexual, so I don't why you people on youtube, and people on the news are making a big fuss about this. I have friends that are nerdy and don't care about flirting and wanting sex. Some of us men are built differently.

[@MikeyP109]

@@Joe-tk8bn They despise what thay don't understand.

[@sarcodonblue2876]

There are plenty of lonely women too. Women in general are better at being part of a community. This loneliness seems to be mainly about a lack of sexy times and so many of these guys seem to hate women. All you need to look at is the red pill stuff and other manosphere crap.

[@Sandlund93]

Sure, but most men would have a rough time if their consciousness was transferred into a female body. Just take menstruation for starters. Or being half the size as everyone you are attracted to, knowing that anyone of them could easily rape you if they decided to. Western culture has obviously turned into feminazi-land in recent years, but let's keep it real man. And what has struck me lately is all the ugly and fat women, most of them are probably lonely too.

[@UnexpectedWonder]

Absolutely!!! 👊👊✊✊👏👏👌👌

[@TrentonF505]

I think the problem is most men are single and lonely well into their 20’s so they use adult content to console themselves. Often time this builds into a habit, and when they finally find someone to date they bring along that habit into the relationship. I can sympathize with her but this is the result of a larger problem.

[@jasono2139]

"to console themselves" Spoken like a true ignoramus. 🤦 Do smokers, too, then use cigarettes to "console" themselves?

[@schroederluck7984]

@@jasono2139 I would say that's certainly part of it. My guess is you're focusing more on the addiction aspect, but it's a combination of both. Many smokers I've known use cigarettes to relax and de-stress. Of course they are simultaneously addicted, and there is a chemical component that drives the addiction, but people BEGIN watching porn and using cigarettes BEFORE they are addicted. And it's certainly reasonable that many porn users began using porn as a way to escape, feel good in the moment, "interact" with women, etc. I don't think your ignoramus comment really holds much weight here.

[@jasono2139]

@schroederluck7984 married people and couples often use porn as well (either individually or together)... So yes, if you think single people are using porn to "console" themselves like a crazy feminist cat lady uses a tub of ice cream, you're an ignoramus. Most people who are addicted to cigarettes do not use them to "destress" anymore than an infant using a pacifier out of habit. While I'm sure it gives them temporary euphoria, they're not grabbing a cigarette ONLY during stress. That's like saying everyone drinking at the bar is there because they've had a rough day. People do these things because they're pleasurable. 🤦

[@drewgonzales4533]

No we watch porn cuz getting a chick is a fucking pain the ass.

[@TheSoulCrisis]

Feminism and children without fathers in homes is a big contributing factor too.

[@growlith6969]

When she said guys are in this sea of hopelessness and loneliness and "I have no idea what that is like", she gained my respect.

[@dieuwtjin]

This. I haven't seen any other 'female dating coach' actually acknowledge they don't really know how bad it is.

[@johnwilmington895]

So, with her judgy, attacking attitude, who would want to even talk with her. Most guys don’t want to hear male flagellation or someone who tells them what they’d better do.

[@LuKiSCraft]

Yes and this is disproportionately an issue among lower-educated & lower-income men. It is completely out of control. If you don't make AT LEAST $60K as a man, many women will consider you completely undatable.

[@thesaddestdude3575]

I love the first girl , she cries no regular guy would date her but she looks really pretty. truth is, she can find plenty of guys she just cant find the male supermodels with 8 inches and a 200K income a year she wants.

[@Dark_Angel555]

the thing is that you guys don't approach girls either because you just decided they are all not worth it .... but I bet if you gave up porn and masturbation for life ... libido will come back and you will want to interact with women - and you don't have to settle and be in relationship with mediocre women - but you can still fuck them and feel like a king and them dismiss her because it's your right ... as long as you are honest and you don't manipulate them In the history of the world there was always guys who thought women are worth fighting for and the funny thing is none of them were just annonymous losers - they were always highly succesful men or celebrity ... you think a celebrity would just give up on women because he feels like they are sub par women ? lets get real... he would still get laid at the minimum because he has options - even if he doesnt like their personality

[@ValeryBoikov]

I've been single for my whole life. I have no idea what it is like to be in a relationship. Never had enough motivation to try to change that. I guess I just don't care anymore at this point.

[@MS-1994]

I'm now over 50, average looking and height. When I first dated my educated and attractive wife, I was quite fit, a young military officer, and we've now been married for over two decades with three kids and have achieved many things; because of my kids and their arrival on the dating scene, I've wandered into this sort of content. I honestly wonder if we would've been able to pull this off in today's culture. I'm also thankful we're happily married.

[@Heeroyui752]

Good on you 👏 more of these comments

[@jamesdonahue3227]

I think that people are so used to treating others as disposable items that they can get tired of in use up and then discard that many speak of one in a relationship and what that means but you were actually living it. You are a good example to those around you of being a decent person and trying to do the best by your family and being a stand-up gentleman. I hope it's not too late for women to realize that people are not disposable items because this whole Chad Tyrone phenomenon is something that they helped create by creating the guys that are fitting those models that they are pursuing instead of the decent people that they're keeping in the friendzone and constantly using

[@LGDarksteed]

Congrats on your success.

[@mafp22w]

I’m with you. I think it is near impossible for my two sons in their 20’s. One is a CPA and the other is an Electrical Engineer. I think both are great catches, but because they aren’t 6’+ Chads, women don’t give the interest they deserve. One plays baseball in an adult league while the other plays in a band and leads worship in church. Women today all want to be with men at the winners circle, very few want to be a part of getting there.

[@AndrewH1994]

glad to see you here! It sounds like you and your wife must’ve done something right to be together for this long, so I’d think that just continuing to be that good example for your children will be enough. you and your wife can display what a healthy and loving relationship looks like, and your children will pick up on that. also don’t be afraid to give them some general or specific advice about what has worked for you and your wife throughout the years, as long as you aren’t interfering with their dating too much, but instead being a gentle guiding hand, then I’m sure they’ll be fine! All the best for you and your family! 😊

[@UltimateTS64]

Some dating advice my mom gave me that actually worked: 1. Meet someone who goes to places you enjoy, you'll have common ground and an easier approach (for me it was church) 2. Confirm that you have the same core values (in my case religion) 3. Find your complement, not your opposite (someone who helps you to grow)

[@wanderer5200]

"Find your compliment" Now that is interesting. How does a person figure out what their compliment is?

[@UltimateTS64]

@@wanderer5200 I would say that one takes a little more time to figure out, but you gotta make sure to ask some good questions on the first few dates to kinda gauge it. I think it's really a matter of the attitude of your SO, and how they push you to be better. In a sense they could still be your "opposite", but they're more supportive about helping cover your weaknesses, so overall you can both be more well rounded. A silly example is cooking and cleaning. I don't like cooking much, but my gf does, so when we get married, she'll primarily be cooking, while I'll primarily be washing the dishes and cleaning up afterwards. In a sense they'll still be opposite to you in some areas, but I think it's a matter of the attitude of support that makes it different than just having an opposite quality.

[@zerpblerd5966]

*complement

[@T0nyAvde1]

bless your soul, fellow human being. those are great tips

[@UltimateTS64]

@@zerpblerd5966 preciate it

[@wanderer5200]

“Because it’s easier.” I actually agree with her. American women have become so difficult, in general, that meeting their demands has become next to impossible. It’s only rational that people would simply give up when facing an impossible task with few rewards and many risks.

[@ArantyrDarkhand]

Relationships are supposed to be easier. Rasing kids build family its a bit tricker. Shes making a enormous effort to like men haha. Lets use their language against then. WHO HURT HER?

[@exothermal.sprocket]

Kind of like a lot of employment opportunities in the USA, "...meeting their demands has become next to impossible. It’s only rational that people would simply give up when facing an impossible task with few rewards and many risks."

[@bhart3321]

​@@ArantyrDarkhandAll the top 20% chads her shallow ass will only allow her to date. I guarantee you she's a hypocrite that's doing at least 2 of these things she's complaining about. Women like her are the very definition of "Rules for thee but none for me."

[@DahcipheR]

That's the thing. I notice that a lot of women will create a criteria for an ideal man, yet not even fulfill aspects that are desirable to men.

[@exothermal.sprocket]

@@DahcipheR Isn't that the definition of selfishness, hypocrisy, double-standards?

[@wickedsur1]

I once met a woman who wasn't delusional, I asked her to be my woman and we have been together ever since.

[@SealTwo]

I love how you are empathetic towards men and even though you say that you have never experienced what we have been through, you acknowledge what we might have been through. Thanks for the thought

[@yme3267]

Doesn't hurt given her views are most likely 90 percent plus easy

[@SanVic]

Courtney literally demonizes the male sex drive because it doesn't conform to her rigid rules. She is no different than the crazy woman in the video.

[@jeffreycheng5984]

"Live your best life! Have incredible relationships, just don't get state divorce laws involved. They will dictate your finances in the likely event your marriage becomes non-functional! Be careful out there! I wanna keep ya outta my office!"- Jonathan Noble Esquire. Pennsylvania divorce attorney who has practiced in the fields of divorce and family law for 20 years.

[@AndrewTheFrank]

that is called being sympathetic not empathetic.

[@ReadingDave]

I appreciate the sympathy. Male loneliness is a rift that creates more ignorance on how to relate as it goes on. Often, in today's society, male loneliness means to be rejected by society because of couples oriented social gatherings. There is less networking and less bouncing off ideas with another. Being single is also a chance for focus and taking action without hinderance which a relationship will interfere with.

[@ct90twa]

She wasn’t describing men, she was describing teenage boys. Her repeated behavior and apparent relationship outcomes is a “you” problem, not a man problem. Stop blaming us for your poor decisions.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Unfortunately I think this behavior is trickling past just teenage boys, but I do agree with you. Who you choose is important and blaming the people you’re actively choosing doesn’t help.

[@gideonravenor7351]

@@CourtneyRyan she's just like my friend, always falls for a wrong kind of dudes, then complains to me that all men turned to garbage. There is a truth about manchild, but sometimes the problem is within us. In the end we are the ones who make decisions, so it's a little bit unfair to put a blame on someone else. For example i dont go to gym, play video games, live with my mother, have a fat body and also i'm watchin porn, but i dont blame others cus i know that all this is my dicisions. So i'm the only one to blame) Also sorry for bad English, i'm from russian speaking country.

[@lewengineering]

Yes. They take a good man and dog him out or just keep him in the friend zone meanwhile these boys not men, they are the ones who get all the women then the woman wants to complain that there are no good men around that will step up when they are around.

[@Swearengen1980]

That pretty much applies to Gen Z and younger. Even lower Millennials. I see many issues like hers when I've dated younger women.

[@thrilla72]

​@@CourtneyRyanAs an older gentleman who has worked with young people for over a decade, the men she describes are few and far between. Most of them recognise by 16-18 that they need to be head of house and get their lives together. The men I know (anecdotal yes) who party often are ones who work extremely hard in the week and earn great money.

[@gradymorrrowjr37]

And they wonder why we choose to remain single Peace Serenity and Sanity is EVERYTHING 💯

[@SuicideJones]

you didn't choose to be single, nobody coupled with you.. that's delusional.. very poor understanding of your chosen language..

[@gradymorrrowjr37]

@@SuicideJones Who GAF long as my daughter is taken care of that's it that's ALL 💯

[@dojoswitzer]

What’s missing from the first video for me is her definition of a ‘normal girl’, because I don’t see any ‘normal girls’ on social media (she’s obviously on social media).

[@rail7646]

thats the point, she missed the part of "regular" 2 times, what a regular man is and what a regular woman is as well, if she calls herself one

[@GET1237]

I did have a bit of sympathy for her in the first video but she completely shattered that in the second video. Also her calling out men for "acting like a child" is hideously ironic.

[@Kenny-ep2nf]

HAHAHA agreed

[@MB-xe8bb]

She's allowed to fight back. If you live in a rough neighborhood, and she owned a gun, she would make your life safer. If you had a home invasion, there would be 2 of you fighting the intruders, not just you getting your head beaten in.

[@Kenny-ep2nf]

@@user-oi6pw4gr3m she seems all over the place emotionally

[@Kenny-ep2nf]

@@MB-xe8bb good point pal, but what’s important is she doesn’t take out any aggression on her partner himself

[@610kclaf]

Women: "Men only want a fantasy girl" Men: "Women only want a fantasy guy"

[@nsgamingallen1308]

It's definitely far more woman looking for fantasy men than the other way around.

[@redclayscholar620]

Women's requirements: Illogical Perfection Men's requirements: A pulse

[@thesaddestdude3575]

@@redclayscholar620 You said it best

[@oldschoolsoflo]

Men don’t want a fantasy girl, we want feminine girls, feminist act and sound like men, none of these girls sound feminine, plus independent means alone, you can’t be independent in a relationship, a relationship is being dependent upon each other, both have roles of which girls now want a masculine role, and no man wants a masculine woman

[@AaronD313]

attractive and sweet is a fantasy these days, especially if you want to be liked exactly as you are@@nsgamingallen1308

[@joaquin67]

This year I have: - moved out of my parents house (again) - no longer have a TV or video games at home to make me go out more - haven't watched porn in over 2 months (longest I've gone since god knows when) - started focusing on my diet and slowly losing weight (always worked out but bad with diet) - started my hobby as a creator with animation - and about to start therapy to finally get a grasp on my social anxiety which prevents me from approaching women This is crazy.. I can't believe I've improved so much after being in a major slump from the pandemic. It honestly started with this channel, when Courtney said something about keeping and accomplishing promises to yourself is what helps build self confidence. When you accomplish tasks and goals, you're slowly believing in yourself again.

[@CourtneyRyan]

This is so wonderful! Thank you for sharing. Wishing you the very best 🤗🤍

[@SpoonHurler]

Awesome, man. Keep growing everyday.

[@carrionflowers6764]

so you watch youtube on your laptop instead of watching tv on your sofa or playing games

[@phillconklin382]

God bless man. Keep going. I'm happy for you.

[@gabrielrcortina]

That's awesome dude! Basically every other comment is still the hopeless narration, but you really stuck out. I have high faith that you'll continue to be successful because you're finally taking accountability.

[@TheSergio1021]

Her second video... I have a near PERFECT score. Do I have girls lining up? Nope! Cause there are plenty of men that have almost 0% of her list which get a ton of chicks, herself included, evidently.

[@aaronburdon221]

For Courtney, i'll try to explain how exactly that sort of hopelessness feels. How would you feel if you did everything you could do to attract even the barest whisper of attention from someone you like, and then have them tell you that you're not worthy of them? Rinse and repeat for 20 years. Then add on top of that, the maintenance of your home, your family ties, your finances (especially with this whacked out job market and the financial system that has produced nothing but inflation and misery for the past 30 years), your expectations and others expectations of your future. Before calling a man lazy, you might want to take into consideration all he has stacked on his shoulders and then wondering why he can't run the marathon of dating. Then they wonder why the male self-deletion rate is so high. I'm 34 and have never had a girlfriend before, much less a wife because I haven't found any women worthy of the title. I don't seek perfection. I just want someone who doesn't make me want to slash my wrists when I walk in the door. This is especially bizarre due to the fact that I fit most of the stereotypical desires a lot of women say they want. I'm 6'2'' muscular, moderately intelligent. I have a stable job, my own home, no children or baby momma drama. A 7 out of 10 on the looks scale. I'm no Adonis, but i'm not ugly either. I'm not bragging, but merely trying to hammer home the severity of the situation. If someone of my intellect, physical attributes, financial stability, and integrity can't find a woman, then what chance does someone who has less have?

[@eddiewillers1]

Peace and strength to you, Brother - you will prevail.

[@Theviewerdude]

Shit man I'm like a younger version of you. Same here - by any reasonable standards, I should be quite attractive. Not just visually but character as well. I actually have no problem making many friends, including women. People like me, compliment me about what I do and my looks... But other than a few sporadic hookups and unwanted attention from someone WAY below my league? Nada. No real, committed relationship. Just flings. I think I'll find someone eventually, but I think women's standards are absolutely ludicrous. They all must be chasing the same 5 guys.

[@devilsadvocacy]

To your point, when Tom Brady and Kevin Costner both get sued for divorce, what the hell chance do the rest of us have?

[@UnexpectedWonder]

I can resonate with it. It's because many Women know that they can't live up to you. That's why. It took me many years of trial and error to get with the Woman I'm with now who's Wife Material. It can be extremely bleak out here, Brother. Keep looking for a Woman that has Morals as well as one who genuinely loves you.

[@zerpblerd5966]

hope is evil

[@warbaby1975]

I went on a date with a woman I met on Facebook. She had a disappointed sigh and rolled her eyes when she said "Just so you know, I only date tall men, but we can still hang out for a couple of hours". She knew I'm retired military with a pension keeping me high minimum wage and I'm waiting to use the VA Home Loan until I meet a woman to pick a house together in any State she wants, anywhere convenient for her regarding her work. Hell, a woman that wants to be with doesn't even have to have a job lol. Anyways she goes on Facebook after we hung out and posted on her page "Why can't I meet a normal guy who is tall, has a house, and a job" I'm 5'5 by the way.

[@SpoonHurler]

I'm 5'11" and the same women say the same thing... and thank you for your service to our great country.

[@ThaiKicker97]

not so great anymore with those woman @@SpoonHurler

[@SpoonHurler]

​@@ThaiKicker97our country is a vase and it's still wonderful, some of the stuff in it might not be though

[@dobermanownerforlife3902]

I'm an old 6'1" 195lbs grunt. Being tall doesn't help. It just means you move onto the next demand. Essayons!

[@stevedapirate5]

How tall was she? I really get it if she was taller than you, but it's still rude.

[@RayBetterThanEvilCanival]

Hearing that first woman say “men are living in a fantasy land” is levels of irony never achieved before. Y’all are the ones with 100 requirements for Prince Charming and you won’t settle for anything less.

[@rake483]

THIS

[@l2xsniper1]

She in particular did at least list off things that are legitimate *minimum requirements. She didn't bring up height, $300k salary, "well-connected", somehow has the time to go on trips to fiji 5 times a year etc.

[@BlindWitchFire]

*Hear Hear* _!_

[@allenjackson2846]

This, and they don’t offer anything but their body occasionally

[@thoreschmechtig5007]

Women: "We just want the BARE MINIMUM and you boys aren't giving us that!" The same women: "Non-negotiables: 6 feet tall, 6-figure income, 6-pack, 6-inch (censored)" Yeah bare minimum indeed.

[@wnose]

Guys: don't listen to this woman ... let me tell ya: instant gratification is AWESOME. No rejection, no risk of divorce, all the variety you want. Thailand is fabulous. She gets what she wants, you get what you want, everybody is happy. If you need a daily companion, get a dog. The dog isn't going to impose requirements or even leave you.

[@Dragon99GID]

Simply put, men are tired of having to work so damned hard to achieve the insanely high standard women demand, whilst being abused for having any standards of our own. All we want is two things, just two. 1. Respect. 2. Peace. Men can be lonely, but can also quite easily live alone, especially to achieve those two fundamental things all people strive for.

[@bbkyjohnson]

Well said. I’d also add to that I worry for my son nowadays in the dating world is that you risk so much financially. Why take that risk. Possibly losing a car a house paying support and alimony. Losing your retirement savings. I just read an article yesterday where law makers are trying to approve a law that your spouse would have to sign as well for any money coming from your retirement accounts even if it’s only in your name. Can they make it any less desirable to get married?

[@Sandlund93]

I guess respect from women is still possible. But peace was never an option. If you want that you gotta stay single. Or get a robot. Of course, it's all relative but a relationship will always be more complicated (less peace) than a single life. Unless you have a woman that bows to your every whim but that's not really love, that's twisted.

[@Sandlund93]

@RealPeterAndrewNolan Yeah, marriage seems like the ultimate no-no option in life. But our laws (Sweden) are almost as twisted for people who just live together. And I don't know about kids either, I might want em some day but I definitely don't at the moment. It feels like it's something that's expected of you, sort of like the ultimate meaning of life. But I'm not gonna chase it, whatever happens will do so by chance and nothing else. I'm not sure I'd be a good father anyway tbh. Especially not if I have to fight the system just to get a chance. The monetary system itself is the root of all misery and corruption. It's all about money in the end. And everybody is in it for themselves, you get burned if you're not. But it's not actually people who are twisted, at least not most of us. We all just adapt to the conditions set by the system.

[@bbkyjohnson]

I feel for you. My 12 year marriage and divorce was no fun at all. Very similar to your situation. He’s been well educated on the faults of the divorce situation. He had to live through mine. My kids all had to watch what their mom turned into. It sucks. At the end of the day I’m as responsible for the situation as she is. I married her and had a family.

[@Sandlund93]

@RealPeterAndrewNolan And how do you get control and power without money? I guess it's possible in a relationship, if the man is weak, but in general everything except breathing is about money. Unfortunately.

[@the0rpheus]

32 year old guy here, been in the "keeping an eye on the dating market" mode for the past 3 years - I'm focusing on my body, my mind and my finances first and foremost; I also check the dating apps regularly - but there simply aren't that many truly likable women there anymore. Modern feminism + social media combo has poisoned so many female minds and turned a lot of them into obnoxious and insufferable human beings who simply are not pleasant to be around with. I'd rather be alone and do my own thing than waste my time and energy on these "modern women".

[@1_chilled_guy595]

Totally agree - dating apps for men seeking woman seem to be the 'bargain rack' at a clothing store. The ladies that you would want to date think they miss universe because they have a gazillion men in their Dms at any given moment, It would appear meeting woman in person is the best way - but that brings its own challenges.

[@the0rpheus]

​@@1_chilled_guy595 yeah, I've come to realize this also - that if I (or any guy at that matter) ever start seriously looking for a girlfriend, then the best bet is to just ditch all the dating apps and start meeting women in person. But until I have enough free time to start doing that, I will just have to keep checking the apps.

[@michaelcavenaugh5892]

Couldn't agree more. Our time, our energy and our hard earned money

[@biscottigelato8574]

Just by looks some might be 7s/8s. After personality they are more like a 4 or a 5 at best. AND you can't get them anyways. 9.5+ or lower they think you don't meet their standard. Just walk from the entire game. Pay for needs if you need to. Don't play a game that's working for nobody, not even for the girls themselves.

[@frankiew6854]

34 and 15 years single now and good luck to you it’s a fun ride that’s for sure

[@WOLVERINE95899]

I had a fiancee who completely ghosted me two years ago out of the blue and claimed to be a "Christian woman". My last girlfriend admitted I treated her like a queen, but she was disrespectful to me on several occasions, so I walked away. I have a good job, am in good shape for my age, don't cheat or lie and treat anybody I date with the utmost respect. Most modern women show up with these ridiculous lists. If a guy doesn't make a certain amount, or doesnt hit every crazy check box, they treat him poorly. Guys are exhausted from spending tons of money on dates and getting used like a free meal ticket or paying for a womans drinks only to be rejected. Guys are tired of being rejected and beaten down. The whole "toxic masculinity" movement was the final straw. Guys can easily stay home and hang out with their friends with no drama. Im sick to death of women saying they cant find a nice, smart, and in shape guy. Feminism destroyed dating. I think she brought up some valid points about being a man that is in shape, not living with your parents, and not being addicted to drugs, alcohol, or porn. This woman will never find anybody with this holier than now attitude. I feel very sorry for her.

[@Nick84525]

I totally agree

[@Heeroyui752]

💯

[@michaelsix9684]

women are so programmed to reject, fear, men etc. they always find a reason to say no or cut you down -- quit at 46, now 67 -- so grateful it's over for me

[@Tomboy_Dragon2001]

💯

[@mafp22w]

I was all of the good things…in shape, good job, God first, homeowner, while chasing after one of these American women. I even bought her a ring in hopes that I could more our relationship forward. It was a good move because it forced her to stop stringing me along. I move on and met a Filipina gal that really loved me. After I got married to the Filipina, I once ran into the other gal and she was furious with me for moving on. Her game playing was a loss for her. Now married about 30 years, it was a big win for me.

[@limazulu6192]

It seems im often rejected because im too level headed, openly loving and nice to be interesting. Then i see a bunch of men who get laid like crazy even though they are objectively bad for any womans mental well-being looking at how they treat them. I hear those same guys admit to me in a very defetist and depressing manner that women are all the same and want to be treated like garbage. And every time i actively try to fix my issue with this and seek another mans counseling on how to maintain a womans attraction i get the advice to behave a little more toxic and when I do it works like a charm. But since i don't like being an asshole i revert back to being my usual well intentioned self and lo and behold im back at square one. Im at my witts end with this. I don't want to hurt anyone and I don't feel the need to create needless drama and mindgames with someone who has done me no harm and i actually kinda like.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I don't know what the answer is, but I sure hope you don't become jaded and eventually become one of the bitter ones. I would guess you are younger, and are going for the wrong type of women. A sweet and humble woman is looking for a sweet and humble man.

[@stacyrensburgoliver]

Please don’t ever change yourself , we are similar to that respect. I don’t like mind games, I don’t like confusion, but it seems a lot of people are choosing to live toxic which is why I’ve taken myself off the dating market and trust fate will lead me to the right person.

[@yashpatel261]

@@stacyrensburgoliver There is no such thing as fate or karma.

[@corysantacroce1735]

I work out, actually I’m in pursuit of a natural body building competition. I don’t party, I have a great career, hobbies, passions, live on my own, and I’m a confirmed catholic. I still get ghosted, flaked and treated like garbage, all women are looking for are blue check marks now days, and have completely unreasonable expectations. I still sleep good at night and love the fact I have even more time now to pursue my goals/ambitions. I’ve done better but it turns out your best will never be good enough for most.

[@scottroman6941]

I feel this man. In a similar boat, and it's like "do I have to be literally perfect" to be considered dateable.

[@playthegame7445]

Cos u waste to much time on what these ungrateful woman want. and if u have money just get urself a woman from abroad

[@Justanothercog24]

I've been ghosted/ unmatched right after saying I was not sending nudes, not wanting hookups, for being "too smart" (yes 2 guys told me this before they unmatched), not responding to messages right away because I'm not always attached to my phone, not having instagram or snapchat, choosing to be single & celibate for 5 yrs before getting back into dating, not drinking & not liking the bar scene, wanting to engage in real conversation beyond 1 word answers & "lol" & not wanting to mess around with married men. Yes, there are a LOT married men using online dating to cheat on their wives. The sh*t is overflowing from both ends these days.

[@jacobtorma2490]

wow thats unfortunate, somehow the bad ones always find the good ones with both genders. @@Justanothercog24

[@playthegame7445]

@@Justanothercog24 Not really, i would say 95% women to 5% being men And from ur description of the guys I can tell that ur chasing chads.

[@gambooyt]

She cries not because she can't find a regular boyfriend, but because Chad pumped and dumped her & won't commit to her.

[@MikeyP109]

That whole thing was an act.

[@michaelrivera8360]

And had the audicity to bring the bible into it😂

[@MafiosoDon21]

😂😂😂

[@Defender2516]

I love the video game argument. As if women aren't wasting time on Netflix browsing for vampire films to get their romantic itch on.

[@jans724]

and complaining on tik tok 😂

[@sterlingdennett]

Or spending all day on their phones, taking selfies, scrolling through social media, and watching TikTok.

[@repro7780]

If I wanted piles of baggage, I'd work at the airport.

[@Harry-tb8yo]

When I was in my 20s and 30s I always got rejected by women but never received a feedback on what they had a problem with. As a guy who saw himself as quite normal but somewhat good looking and well-mannered back then it must have been something I did not and still do not notice. When I realized that regardless of what I do or don't do the result will be the same I decided to walk away, live my own life and do what I like, regardless of what other people might think about it. I do not work out but I take care of my attire and my appearance, but only for myself, not for the pleasure of others or to draw attention from women. So yes, I like to have a nice cocktail, a juicy burger here and there, a good cigar from time to time, watching SciFi movies and playing violent video games. After putting effort in dating without any success I realized that this is my life and decided to live it in the way I like it. And I don't care for women's opinion about that anymore.

[@notconnected3815]

I can understand that very well. Consider that you may not be the problem. Even if they like you, women are often just not ready to commit. Women have to overcome their fears and doubts themselves.

[@Harry-tb8yo]

@@notconnected3815 Rejecting someone is different to not committing to someone. I never expected any committment from women after have the first one or two dates with them. But if they don't want to date anymore it is just done. And no woman, not a single one, is worth trying again and again. For me it is a waste of time dealing with them.

[@axiosw0774]

Exactly - same life journey here, I always thought something was wrong with me cuz no girl would pay attention or enough of it, kept trying to improve myself in every way and realized, nothing changes anyways (yes a little bit more attention, a little bit of XYZ, but not like you jumped from 0 to 100 difference) and when I travelled outside and learned how women are in 90% of the world, and HOW THEY CHAAAAAASE to the end of time to be WITH ME, because in their eyes I am THE BEST of the BEST, the most manly, the most handsome, just perfect - please let's marry and have kids type I realized wow, nothing is wrong with ME, everything is wrong in where I LIVE, so I gave up appeasing women in the west with unrealistic expectations - just like the housing market, inflation - there is a "ho inflation" too and you can either go under debt, risk it all and lose or you just take your business elsewhere We are the men, we chose what we want to buy, not the other way around, if the market is poor quality, expensive fish, don't buy it, let them rot, take your business and hard earned $ elsewhere

[@magnetcrusher1193]

Ya'll are 100% the problem, you are the only problem. Poor insight is the issue. You're like 2/10 dudes trying to get the 6/10+ woman. If you want that high value woman you got to go high value also. Or just go to Colombia and stop complaining, but I bet you cannot afford a passport or flight.

[@doom9603]

+1

[@e.paradigm7415]

My personal experience with dating is not so great, I have noticed that I share almost none of the same morals as the women I meet. That’s probably the biggest turn off for me, I’ve met women who are in their late 20s wanting to consistently go out to bars on girl nights, parties, clubs, etc. I don’t personally do any of those things, I prefer going on an adventure, try a new experience, learn something new, family oriented, outdoors-ish, road tripping, stay at home movie night, board game, video game, try new foods kind of man. The women I run into always seem to want to have a “single-ish” kind of lifestyle and I’m just not about that. I don’t want to change anyone, but I would like to grow with a woman together for a purpose with a future together. I don’t even hook up, I’ve kept my body count very low and only had sexual relationships with women I had interest in building something with.

[@patrickmurf8743]

Well...at least you HAVE a bodycount ;)

[@e.paradigm7415]

@@patrickmurf8743 that is a great point, lol, but it’s still unfulfilling to go in life without feeling an emotional connection with a woman though.

[@patrickmurf8743]

@@e.paradigm7415 Yes but does some form of physical intimacy have to happen to get an emotional connection with a woman? I have a few female friends whom I call or message sometimes, but thats all

[@Bennysol]

@@patrickmurf8743 high body counts doesn't mean much. But the time I hit 30 sex has gotten boring. I've had so much of it in my 20s its not even appealing to me anymore

[@johnmininger7472]

​@Bennysol - My experience is that sex becomes less important when you have access to it and takes outsized importance when you don't, primarily for men. Money is a bit like that, too.

[@daniwanicki]

Dating and marriage is a nightmare for men now. Been single for 5 years so far, I'm not lonely, I'm not depressed, just content.

[@DannyLanders-k7z]

She’s a high spirited woman. Not unreasonable by no means. She would make someone a great girl friend and wife if it came down to it.

[@JustinFromMD]

The issue isn’t any of her standards In and of themselves. She acted unstable and doesn’t seem to think the type of guy she wants is allowed to have his own.

[@carefulrogue4834]

The instability also gives the impression of ... inflexibility? Theres some definite "yeah can't fault that" but there is some give and take throughout, that reminds me of some other convos I've had when the issue comes up, among older, married, traditionalists. We're not getting anywhere until both sides and take a long hard cold look at what went wrong and how to restore the proper order of things.

[@Zoloft77]

@@carefulrogue4834 It does make me wonder of her past choice in men that led her up to that point. She literally pointed out guys who lived the fast life of YOLO as a flex. By itself, it's good observation for what she does not want in her man, but her delivery sounds like she met one too many. It reminded me of a guy who constantly complained about women being always materialistic and unrealistic. I did question him what brought him to that conclusion as all women. He retorted name one bar or club you found a woman not like that. I simply said I never go to bars to hook up with women as I don't do bars and clubs rather the last time I got a date was from a jewelry store to a Barnes & Noble.

[@carefulrogue4834]

​@@Zoloft77 Definitely. She wants something, and I can't fault her too badly, for wanting something on the up and up. But... I recall conversations with the traditionalists, and the story of some of his traditional sons, who are up and up... but outside of that fixed mold the modern woman, even one such of this, wouldn't turn up and away their noses. Though for reasons of desperation I might be doing what you advised your buddy to stop. I don't have many friends in this new town, except for elders. WHich is all fine and good... except I need some folks my age, if I'm to find anything. And church functions are either aimed too low in age, or are just a little too religious. And I'm not sure how to suggest something else. I just want to roll dice and kill dragons and take their stuff...

[@leescuderi8331]

100 percent. She should have standards and staying in shape, not being a drunk etc. isnt outrageous. its just her energy is so abrasive no man wants to step into something like that.

[@OpenCarry2024]

​​@@Zoloft77I get that drift from women because I've been on online dating for 5 years. My net income is over the gross income for my state. I have two cars, my own place, I'm attractive, stable emotionally, looking for a serious relationship with a real connection, treat my women like Queens, honestly never cheated, Don't lie to my women, I can go on and on about the good things when I'm in a relationship..... I've not gotten any decent results on online dating. They have ideological men that they want men that do not exist. Or they're looking for the 6-ft tall covered in tattoos bad boy that treats them like a gold. But that is still a specific ideological standard. They expect too much social media is ruining everything. This woman is a train wreck, sure some of her standards aren't bad, I wouldn't want my significant other messing around a porn 24/7. I wouldn't want them paying more attention to a hobby than they paid attention to me, I wouldn't want my woman going out and getting cock drunk or high every night of the week, but still I am emotionally stable so I will meet a woman halfway. It's give and take - take and give. This woman laid out standards that you have to meet in order to "qualify dating her" she is nuts. Again the problem is her delivery, The way she talked crap about all men and told us all to grow up. One second she says she don't need us and in the next she says we're the leaders. So one second she's acting like a feminist and then the next second she's acting like a traditionalist. She is a train wreck

[@IronmanV5]

With a personality like that, I am not surprised that she is having man trouble. She reminds me of this gal I met at a bar who was a 10 on looks and 0 on personality. All she talked about was the stuff she owned and the important people she knew. The way she said it was almost as abrasive as this woman. I couldn't get away from her fast enough.

[@williamwallace410]

I agree, she does not have the feminine, cooperative energy men are looking for in a woman. Instead of listening to the view points/arguments men were giving her and internalising them, she starts attacking those men and shaming/blaming them. She doesn't want to listen to men and that's exactly why she is in her situation. Feminism programmed young women in a way that men are repulsed by in the romantic sense. They just lack the self knowledge to see that.

[@darrenhilton9402]

Courtney, when a man says he's not thinking about anything, he's not thinking about anything. Courtney, when a man says it's easier, it's secretly because... it is easier.

[@iamsyourdadi]

They never want to believe that...instead, they believe they know better what we need and how we should operate because you know "they are smarter than us" and are "empaths"

[@PushingThroughThePain]

I work out, don't do p*rn (often), don't live at my parents place (single father of 2 with FULL custody, and financially stable), don't get drunk/high or party, my only physical requirement is the proper equipment for a woman down there (my ex-wife was 300lbs+ and did not have a sparkling personality... I thought there was more to her deep down), I AM behind a screen most of the time...for work (I'm in IT, but I rarely spend time on things I enjoy to relax), and I have worked on my emotional, spiritual, physical and mental states of being to improve myself all around. In theory, I *should* be a catch, but I seem to be invisible to women 🤷🏽‍♂️ that's ok though... I'm not desperate to have another woman in my life

[@efficiencygaming3494]

I had to watch this video twice before I realized that the girl in the first video and the girl in the second video were the same girl. From sad and somewhat sympathetic to bitter and rude - what a change. I do try to improve myself and make myself more presentable towards women, but I question the usefulness of it every time I see these negative TikTok rants from mean-spirited women. I've been burned by women with the same spiteful mentality as many of these TikTok girls. It's led me to have a very cynical and pessimistic view on dating, as well as a general feeling of distrust. I can't help but feel suspicious any time a girl is being unexpectedly nice to me.

[@chazzmccloud36]

I haven't been on a date in nearly 15 years, and I don't miss it. That mean, spiteful attitude seems to be the default. The thin veneer of niceness usually only lasts long enough to ask for something. But you refuse to do the thing they're so nicely asking for, and the mean/spiteful rushes back to the surface in a hurry. All you can do is laugh, the same as you'd do at a petulant child throwing a fit at being told 'no' to more ice cream.

[@Theviewerdude]

Do it for yourself and not for women. It feels good to take care of yourself.

[@flyingfiddler90q]

Yeah, same here. I had sympathy for her in the first one, but it becomes obvious very quickly in the second one why guys don't want to date her. I'm actually OK with the first few, but when she starts talking about a "good Christian man" she lost me. As a non-christian, super religious women are a turn-off to me. I'm sure there are guys that vibe with that, but it's just not compatible with me and my life...

[@efficiencygaming3494]

@@flyingfiddler90q If it wasn't for her mentioning it, I would have never guessed she was a Christian in the first place. I'm not religious either, but I thought Christian women were supposed to be more dignified since they apparently have "morals" that modern women don't have. I don't think she realizes that her attitude may be the reason why dating is so hard for her. She is rather physically attractive, but even pretty girls cease to be appealing when they have a very unpleasant personality.

[@ilovebutterstuff]

Suspicious is an understatement.

[@ytlongbeach]

I object to the notion us men play video games 24x7. I, for one, play no more than 23x7. Please get this right.

[@michaeldpa1333]

Laughs! Better then drugs!

[@chriskeepit100]

😂😂😂😂🫡

[@massageandrecoveryservices5197]

yeah you need that one hour to shit, shower, shave and sleep.... no time to eat...I learned that phrase from a male friend of mine. lol

[@gandolflitke]

I'm 36, decent looking and I can't even get a women to look my way. It's not that there are not good guys out there, it's that women don't want a good man. In today's society it is extremely hard to find a sane women who does not have a history or 3 or 4 kids born out of wedlock. This women is a perfect example of what is wrong with this world. She is getting her societal standards from social media and the internet. So he doesn't work out, maybe he needs a partner to push him to get into better shape. That's the issue, women want men in their prime. If they can't look a man's way when he is at his worst what makes a women think they deserve him at his prime? That just shows the man once he hits hard times or lets him self go a little because he is stressed out or life is getting him down that the women is going to abandon him. The point of a soul mate is to grow, to experience life together through the hard times and the good times. Why is it that men should be at the peak of their life for a women who is a wreck to come in and feed off of his hard work? My parents met when they both were at their worst. You know what happened? They grew together and raised three children and have been together for over 30 years. Sometimes it's not about finding the best you possibly can.

[@edgaraskim17]

Totally true

[@melliexcx]

I agree with you except for the worst part. If you want a partner, you shouldn’t be at your “worst” and it will be hard t o find one at that level. You should also improve yourself to the level of the people you want to be with. You might not be at your prime but you don’t have to be down in the dumps either. And this isn’t just related to money and material things.

[@JoeJ-8282]

I totally agree with your entire message and thought there, but WOMEN is plural, meaning MORE THAN ONE woman. WOMAN is the right way to speak about ONLY ONE individual woman. MANY people get this messed up nowadays, and I see the mistake literally every single day somewhere, but it's still annoying to see it when reading a comment where it's being used wrong over and over again throughout their entire statement... And just to be clear, this comment wasn't to offend or try to pick on you, it was supposed to just be an FYI, so you can hopefully speak and write with better grammar in the future... Because this modern world definitely needs more GOOD role models in that regard, lol! (I don't always have perfect grammar myself either, but I try to do my best, and at least I know when it's the proper time and context to use woman vs. women or their, there, and they're, for example!)

[@VirtualAdvocate]

Older woman who dates a young guy is a "Cougar". Older guy that dates a younger girl is a criminal. Nuff said.

[@MikeS-7]

As soon as they sniff resources you will be a popular guy. Until the resources are extracted. Pay for a surrogate and stay single. It is a blessing.

[@allopezm]

Well, last time, I was dealing with a sadist and I don't think I can recover from this one, I don't deserve the amount of pain and suffering she inflicted on me for her amusement. She gave me PTSD and now I'm hyper-vigilant, paranoid and I'm constantly screening people for psychopathic traits. I should have seen it coming when she told me she regrets not having aborted her 8yo child. I'm happy being on my own, I'm happy being single, I have come to the conclusion that my hand is better than a warm humid ... (you know what I mean).

[@aggdga]

During the first TikTok I thought to myself: "Ok, and why can't you find a good man?", and with the second one I realized "Ah, that's why!". There are a lot of good men out there. I can immediately think of several that would correspond exactly to this list, but these men also have their own list and I doubt that the lady could fulfill it, because one important point is, for example, no drama.

[@Ag3nt0fCha0s]

Oh yeah. The drama. The list of what they want starts out small, but as they feel more secure in the relationship it grows. Then affection and sex is withheld and the games start. After that you’re there for the kids.

[@LuKiSCraft]

Yeah and especially at the end of the 2nd video it is very apparent that she is pushing all of the blame onto the men she dates instead of herself. To be fair, I think her problem is mostly with lifestyle compatibility. She wants a very particular thing and is pissed when she doesn't get it. She mentioned drinking, pot, porn, and videogames as complete non-starters. Well, hate to break it to you, but the VAST majority of men do at least one of these things, LOL. Sounds like she needs to find a partner at her local Church or try Christian Mingle or something 🤣

[@_khaine]

I wonder how many people meet every single thing on her list, but aren't considered for relationships because they're short and/or unfortunate looking

[@aggdga]

@@_khaine You don't want to insinuate to this poor, unhappy, lonely lady that her inability to find a good man is due to her own unrealistic expectations, and not because men are simply incapable of fulfilling her expectations... shame on you. ..*points finger in the corner*, please go and rethink your absolutely realistic worldview so that you can understand her utopian thoughts and thus become a better person......

[@daishan1234]

she is also a solid 5 on a good day. and despite her talking about reading the bible, the body count is probably 10+

[@patriotstate]

Courtney, everything that you are describing is what woman want in a relationship. Men don't want the same things. We are tired of having to base every single decision in our life according to the anticipated emotional reaction of our partner. We have been taught that we don't need connection. We were taught to be lonely - and now we are happy being alone. We found our peace. We changed to suit women's wants. If women want things to change - the change has to come from within: Women have to hold each other accountable. Women have to step up to actually be the "strong independent woman" table that they build". Women cannot expect a man to lead - if she isn't willing got follow. You don't get it both ways. Women have to prove long term that there will be some sort of ROI. Then maybe men will then consider taking the biggest chance of their life.

[@Canadian_Eh_I]

LOL you are correct but things WILL NOT change until the INCENTIVES change. That can only come with an economic collapse, which is right around the corner. Unfortunately many of us (and said women) will be old by then.

[@evanpaulsmithfalconfogolin6147]

risk.

[@doom9603]

Exactly but they won't and had over 1000 years time to change it 😆

[@stu3705]

@Canadian_Eh_I - won't be that long. Club of Rome predicted worldwide population collapse beginning around 2040. Their graphs shows a high point between 8 and 9 billion dropping under 2 billion by 2100.

[@THunt-ss4hy]

She is entitled to her standards (I personally fit all of them), and don’t think they’re outlandish. She also needs to look at herself and see what standards she meets. Is she feminine and respectful? Doesn’t dump her emotional baggage or lash out? Can she cook? Is she clean? Kind? Drug and alcohol free?

[@RealYRM]

It looks like she dumps her emotional baggage... she lashes out tearfully in a video. She calls people out rudely. She doesn't seem particularly kind. I think her problem is that she's mad that she has to sort through 20, 30, 100 guys to find one that fits her standards, wants a relationship with her, and is compatible with her. Just based on reading someone's profile and looking at their photos, she should be able to avoid fat guys who live with their parents... have a conversation with the guy digitally before meeting him for coffee.

[@Smytjf11]

She expects perfection. That's unreasonable. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

[@mk1fourwinds62]

Contrasting both your presentations, I would never consider a relationship with that other woman.

[@johnkauffman1191]

Amen brother did that look like she hasn’t combed her hair since she got up out of bed. She looks like she’s been sitting on TikTok all night long I can barely stay awake and pissed off at the world.

[@ericpeterson8732]

Not on TikTok. Definitely not on TikTok.

[@AlvaroArredondo-ir6iv]

Thank you for sharing! While your observations are correct, there are also several other characteristics for this desire for men to stay single. Much of it is cultural conditioning. Many men came from homes with strict parents. In adolescence & developmental years, many of us were told to focus on school, get the best grades, get into a good college, and get a good job. We were told to stay away from girls & were scolded if we mentioned we liked a girl or one liked us. Then we got good jobs and were yelled at to “go get a girl!” We weren’t encouraged nor taught to talk to girls or go out on dates when it was important. We weren’t prepared for high risk of rejection & getting rewarded with “the one.” Often, if we broke the mold and got a girlfriend & subjected that girl to meeting our parents, she wasn’t good enough. This is all in addition to what’s happening now with these women posting on Tik-Tok about this. We’ve shut down, not because it’s easier, but because we were setup to fail.

[@chateau-de]

As mentioned, I'm tired of trying and tired of rejection. Rejection because of the most stupid things. As an example, a 1,55m tall girl tells me I'm too short for her with my 1,73m. So many dates, so many chats. Just a minor thing and you're out. As a man you look for reasons why you should like her. A woman today looks for reasons not to like you. You even get rejected by women who are much less attractive than you are. I'm out of this game. I just stopped because women today destroy your inner soul.

[@John_Caravella]

Everything you mention has been experienced by a lot of men. And yes, men can usually find something to like in a woman, and we can overlook a lot of her imperfections if she has one or two redeeming qualities. Women do not give men the same leeway and dismiss men with minor faults. Let these ladies feed their cats. Men have more important things to do.

[@John_Caravella]

@elizabeetle13 Oh? What part of what I said do you disagree with? Women are choosier when it comes to dating; they only date up. Men are willing to date down -- i.e., we're not as picky. That's been proven in lots of studies. Have I missed something?

[@arturobianco848]

@elizabeetle13 ah wait till the woman they critue show a real interest in them they shut up almost immediatly and will stomp on their friends to. Unless you are stupid enough to go after the players. Then you become just a slut. i didn't make up the rules so don't go blaming me. If there a bit younger you might just have to do it 2 times man aren't that smart.

[@1414141x]

A problem seems to be that the wenches have very strict demarcation on what they are looking for. Falling outside that instantly dispenses with any chance. Men tend to be a lot less choosy. As long as it does not talk to much, is clean and has a pulse - then ,,, yeah ! At least for tonight.

[@yourcrazybear]

​@elizabeetle13 "I've heard plenty of men critique and tear women apart. So, I call BS." Define plenty? And well. Usually it's the man that takes the initiative and asks a women out. So the risk of rejection is way higher for men. And well if the women starts to get disrespectful it will obviously affect men at a greater scale. "@John_B52_HEMI yes, you have. Things that I have heard and experienced for myself" So you are denying all the studies because you have heard something yourself that better suits your wishes?

[@StuJones-gn7te]

First girl has a shirt that says "narcissist" on it. As for "jacking," I don't have to go out, pay for a date or get an rejection for all that. I also don't emotionally abused that way. If he'd rather be alone than be with you, then there's something wrong with you.

[@thephotoandthestory]

I'm sorry man, I want to be charitable to you here. You need to reread what you wrote. You are projecting your expectations of the future based on what this woman says? Rejection is a part of life, unfortunately. In my 44 years I have been fired from jobs, lost friends over my beliefs, and before getting married was rejected. It hurts. It totally does. I had a woman tell me she thought I was attractive and had a good petsonality but then that she could not date me because of my car, my apartment, my clothes my job. It hurt a little but there was wisdom gained from it. She was definitely in the long run going to be a disaster but I think she had some valid criticisms. Rejection should not be the measure of whether you pursue a girl because yiu do not know the universe of women. You don't. You could be missing out because yiu are telling yourself a story and you don't get to be in the sequel where you find what you want. All good stories have conflict and tension. As for pornography, no woman should be expected to tolerate that. If a man wants a woman to be exclusive, he has to be exclusive. I would be suspect of any woman who accepted or encouraged pornography. It's also a grave matter. Despite what the redpill sells, we are more than animals. Now get back out there dude, because to some woman, probably not a bad looking one either, you are probably worth it. You don't have to be a Chad. You just need to hold your head up and be willing to face rejection. Good luck.

[@StuJones-gn7te]

I read what I posted. I'm not projecting. I don't know where you got all this from a 2 sentence post

[@StuJones-gn7te]

3 sentences. My bad

[@AlexTapisevic]

Men use porn as a pressure relief, women hold the sex key, they have no problem at all getting it, and still they are crying and complining... Men struggle ALOT and have to comform with what we can get and most of times we don`t.

[@Annabel-ew5nx]

you always dont get real happiness. go outside for a change

[@mcshea415]

she's the architect of her own misery. She's confused between "Men don't want to date" VS "Men don't want to date HER"

[@Yvert86]

One step further - "The men she wants to date don't want to date her"

[@Joe-fj6dj]

Don’t forgetthe guy who does want to date her, has been put in the friend zoned lol

[@PhilipPetev]

But they do. They "date" her, but it's obviously mostly for the pump-n-dump... I bet the problem here is she's picking wrong people for the wrong reasons.

[@elektriceye]

I disagree. If those really are her standards, then I'd date her. But who is she really wanting, the top 10% of guys in looks? I'd like to see that.

[@donhaze8131]

@@elektriceye She has great standards and morals but she lacks femininity.

[@donnavoorhest6145]

The frustrated young woman was challenging the comments made after her first post. How was it "unhinged" when you agreed with all - or at least most - of her points? Perhaps because she was emotional?

[@seanphill]

What little miss Big Tooth probably isn’t willing to admit is how important she finds physical attraction; she’s clearly only been physically attracted to men with her red flags, and hasn’t found herself physically attracted to the men who don’t have any of her red flags, of which I’m sure there are many.

[@SaturnFrost]

Nailed it

[@Concatenate]

That's only part of it though. What is she doing for him? She had a TON of masculine energy in that second video and seems like she loves to stir crap up and give her man a hard time. Just what we need, a woman to compete with us at home instead of being cooperative and loving. And I don't necessarily blame her for this, she was probably raised to have masculine energy so she could go out and survive in this world "without needing a man." But she carries that energy into her relationships and guess what happens?

[@inconnu4961]

@@Concatenate You dont blame her for this? C'mon man, stop being nice to people like her! She totally blames YOU & ME with NO REGARDS for the crap we've been through. Treat her as she would treat you! They will NEVER learn by us being nice to them!

[@Tweakkkkkk]

​@@inconnu4961you need to retake those English classes

[@terrytorres5026]

Bingo!

[@MarioDeSouza]

I guarantee that even if a man meets all her criteria she'd still not be interested or happy. I can't imagine any man I've ever met in my life wanting to date someone like that.

[@nicfox3874]

It's quite ridiculous that she seems to think that men have an obligation to be just how she wants them to be!

[@REALdavidmiscarriage]

What do you expect? She is just another grifter. Andrew Tate keeps saying the same things but when he says it people suck is c***...

[@MrAbiel1]

I think the real problem is guys putting 100% effort into women and getting only 5% back. Eventually, men figure that women are not worth it and go on to sedate themselves with video games, adult entertainment, and stop trying to get that 6 pack abs. Men start off putting a enormous amount of effort to attract and keep women happy when previous generations put maybe 50% because times were easier like economy, community, culture, gender roles, ect. Women are asking way too much from an average guy to the point they give up and walk away. Things are going to get worse, and no one notices until it's far too late. At this point, it's just about enjoying life the best you can before society collapses. That's the brutal reality we are facing, and the problem is too massive, correct at this point in time. Hopefully, a miracle happens, and good people survive the hard times coming.

[@lazysnipeify]

I was raised in the generation which was told that approaching women and desiring women was horrible and chauvinistic No matter how much I work on self esteem I have this brainwashed mentality that keeps me from approaching. I don’t know if it’s worse to be lonely or to feel evil

[@elbowstrike]

It's still wild to me that women are upset that men aren't approaching them. Like... YOU LITERALLY DEMANDED THIS! WHAT DO YOU EVEN WANT!?!? So glad I'm married and don't have to deal with this bullshit anymore.

[@robertoaraya910]

Being lonely won't land you in jail. Approaching the wrong woman might.

[@samuellourenco1050]

I born in that generation too, but for me it is simple, given the nasty experiences that I've already had, even when not approaching women. I don't want that in my life. Simple. Now, I just flee from women and treat them as I would treat nuclear waste.

[@dielugenpresse7668]

@@elbowstrike I approached a number of women successfully - so these women probably did enjoy it and they did not "LITERALLY DEMANDED" to not be approached. So whats your point? Thinking about this as a group guilt thing is pretty much third grader level.

[@justsoyouknow9665]

@@dielugenpresse7668 Women will always love being approached. They just don't want to be approached by men who give them their business card. It's an oxymoron and very hypocritical. The men crying about this are being deliberately disingenuous.

[@StanFrantz]

I gave up looking for a woman before the internet was invented. I tried endlessly to be the best I could be. I was a So Cal surfer, male model, Ivy Grad, well known local theater actor. Didn't do drugs, not a partier, did love dancing in the clubs to great bands. (It was the 80s) I was told constantly that I could get any women I wanted, by both women and men. That was not my lived experience. Women were mean, nasty, cruel, deliberately hurtful. Sometimes laughed in my face. I never got to have a conversation, to show my personality, my intelligence, my humor, my charm. I was rejected simply for approaching them. I dont know why til this day. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. So I stopped completely. I just turned 71. I own 2 homes, one on a private beach in Nova Scotia. I'm a multi millionaire, but I don't live or act like one. So it was not because I was poor or not willing to work hard. I haven't even held a woman in my arms in 30 years. That blows my mind when I say it. I take responsibility for not asking anyone out or even going out. But why would I try when I had 25 years of rejection and pain. Why would I do that again to myself. I'd rather die alone.

[@clownshow5901]

Sorry to hear that but yours is not an uncommon story. If I run into ya the beer's on me.

[@StanFrantz]

@@clownshow5901thanks man. stumbling on the plethora of videos like this, seeing 10,000s of comments from guys with similar experience was so helpful and healing. While sad that so many great guys are suffering, it's good to finally know that "it IS them not me.:

[@sceudue50]

No Woman is worth a man's pease✌...no Woman...💯

[@yourcrazybear]

@elizabeetle13 "No one with a laundry list of such glowing credentials will have a problem getting MANY women. " What kind of women do you believe that to be if they are so easy?

[@wnose]

I suggest you do a bit of travelling and sample all the different varieties the world can offer. There ARE women in 200 other countries believe it or not. Thailand/Philippines are my favorites.

[@anthonyschmid7385]

I don't have a problem getting dates, I'm just done with women's BS. I do me and life is extremely peaceful. Living my best life with out drama is way more fulfilling than dealing women these days.

[@dennisbloomquist9220]

I used to be described as a commitmentphobe. But after committing to a string of women and trying to do my best, I have realized that my former approach was probably the best one. Too painful to keep investing all of my feelings only to have a woman do some random, scattershot breakup.

[@rail7646]

you need to be lucky to get the right one these days, one that is loyal and dedicated and not interested in BS scandal and surface level desires

[@meganlutz7150]

I may be in the minority but i don’t really care if a man goes to the gym or not. And I don’t mind if he is chubby. I find it kind of cute actually. I also don’t go for “charismatic “ men. I actually prefer if he is a bit awkward, especially in the beginning. I find it endearing. What matters to me is how kind he is and if we enjoy eachother’s company.

[@SerasXHarkonnen]

There comes a time in every man's life where he has to face some facts, and one fact I had to face was that, whatever it is women want, I don't have it. I tried, I put myself out there, but it didn't work out. All the time, money, and energy I put into dating amounted to nothing so I'm done trying, why keep bashing my head against a brick wall?

[@StephenLauridsen]

Hey Harkonnen, I had the EXACT same experience. Dating an American woman is TOTAL frustration. Had a MUCH different experience with foreign women. Really enjoyed it. Especially Asian women but Eastern European women were wonderful too. After traveling to these countries, dating actually became exciting & fun again. ( and on very little money compared to dating in the U.S. )

[@docbohemian1328]

I had the same experience but over a 20 year period following my divorce in 1994. I took all sorts of training, paying good money for it, only to find that the psychological hurdles I had to jump through would have turned me into someone I could not look in the eye. Of course these classes were David DeAngelo's double your dating, John Alanis' the art of steel and even of course, by a very successful PUA out of New York. I think that the aspect of all of that training that turned me on was having to engage in manipulations, both verbal and with body language simply to mind fuck a woman into having sex while also making her think it was her idea. What all those gurus do not tell you is that if you fail to completely internalize what they teach then women will shine you because they are not stupid. You will be seen as a fraud as you well should be but yet the results get are the same except that you have blown a lot of time and a lot of money figuring that out. Also in that period in my life I asked more than one wrong woman out for a cup of coffee only to be turned into HR and then fired because while the women in question were all single and looking to date a guy, I did not meet their standards so they felt I did not even have the right to speak to them without being spoken to first and then used the systems and laws in place to punish me for it. Granted, since my divorce all those years ago, I was involved in four different relationships, the longest of which lasted one year. It turns out the feminism ran strong in all of them and even though they were not high value picks, which is on me, the fact remains that each of them were absolutely horrid people once they felt they had me hooked. I had made the mistake of following my mother's advice for much of that time. If I hadn't, I would have never chosen any of them. The expectations of each of these females were absolutely ridiculous. I was expected to be the provider and the emotional dumpster while also being a butler who might be treated to low quality sex that always met her needs but never mine, but only if was a "good boy." I saw my things destroyed, sold off, and giving away, finding out about these things after the fact while I was out working. I finally woke up and swore. I would never allow that crap to happen to me again. That is 20 years in my life that I will never get back and for what? Being rejected at every turn because no matter what I tried, I was never good enough for those insane standards that the modern woman has and feels entitled. Even my own daughter is like that. Today's modern woman is a self-entitled, narcissistic, abusive and exploitative piece of crap who demands to live a life of opulence while being served by men whom she only keeps around until she can find something better, All while taking advantage of all the misandrst laws you can think of, and all while taking advantage of the legal system which allows her to live a life of anarchy with zero accountability and zero responsibility. As for the woman in the video, I am willing to bet that she is an absolutely horrible human that demands everything and gives nothing in return except grief, frustration and false domestic violence claims. Possibly even false grape accusations. If you look at the uniform crime report, you will see that that particular statistic is almost 80%. Which happens to match the false accusations of DV which are currently at about 77%, all courtesy of the Duluth model and a family court system that is designed to destroy families and the lives of children and men while allowing the little woman to live a so-called life of freedom without responsibility of any kind. The woman in the video has not one shred of sympathy from me. She and women like her wanted this scenario. Now they can fucking DROWN in it. Courtney is a breath of fresh air though. I like her fair reporting on things that matter. With this video, My first thought when it started was this: change the laws and teach women manners again and perhaps things will change but not until then. Until that happens, we men should allow women to prove they are truly our equals being brave, stunning, powerful, independent and all that other crap without so much as lifting a finger to help them because let's face it: so long as they have special privileges they will never be our equals. I apologize for the rent- One thing that I think we can all agree upon is that nobody really gives a crap anyway because in today's society the only thing that matters are women and the members of the alphabet community. But hey I love a good show- I will sit down in the cabin I have built in the mountains of Arizona since I decided to spend my time doing something productive instead of wasting time chasing worn out all whistle sacks and created a modest retirement for myself- one that I gladly share with my dog but also which a woman will never get to experience because in my opinion they simply are not worth the powder to blow them to hell. And at this point they only have themselves to blamed for it.

[@docbohemian1328]

Turned me off I meant to say. I am using voice to text and it blows chunks. Chunks is my dog. 😀

[@someone-ji2zb]

Same here my man. 35 years old and got in fairly good shape over the last few years, switched to cooking for myself and attempting to be healthier, stopped playing 5~ hours a day of video games and substituted it for walking outside and sometimes talking to random strangers, and began grooming myself better and more often to be more presentable. However, I don't make a whole lot of money and I likely never will. Where I live, I can support myself, a wife and a couple kids without government support (barely), but I suppose I am not an ambitious man, and that is not something women like. It is what it is I guess. I will say that these realizations have really tempted me to start excessively play video games again lol... at least I was having fun. Now that the hope from 5 years of effort has kind of died off, it sucks being bored with no hope... I'd rather be having fun while having no hope, even if that is not the right thing to do.

[@scotsbillhicks]

Who was the writer on Wargames? Were there wiser words than “….an interesting game. The only winning move is not to play.”

[@Akcd11r2002]

The part where she is blaming men for being dominated by their mothers is actually sad. She clearly does not understand how abuse works and how someone can be brainwashed and dominated into becoming codependent on their power tripping parent for life. She needs to do some research into how narcissistic abuse from a parent works... So sad to see people living as victims of the second wave of the culture harpies, and now getting put on blast by the forth wave for psychological injuries they got in childhood.

[@kylemacdougall8355]

"Stop doing everything your mother wants you to do! Do what *I* want you to do instead!" 😄

[@ranekeisenkralle8265]

Let's be real.. figuring out a guy is a victim of narcisstic abuse would require getting to know him and his background. But that is precisely what women with this particular mindset don't want to do. Either a candidate ticks all the boxes right of the bat or they are not interested. And why would she bother learning the background of someone she is not interested in? And to be quite frank, given that second clip, that is a boon to all those men who have such a background, because that way they at least avoid running the risk of doubling the number of people abusing them...

[@ArantyrDarkhand]

She need to learn the fact ppl dont talk the number 1 abuser of kids are their single mother. (phisical, sexual, and psycological, single mother win all categorys). How many sonhusbands ive not seen in this life.

[@poeticeclipse]

I don’t think she was including THAT kind of experience. But just in general, there are men who could leave the nest just fine and have no real good excuse not to.

[@spoonman4024]

We have become an extremely "What can you do for me?" culture on both sides. Men and women both want more than they are often willing to put into a relationship. 8+ yrs of marriage has taught me that it's ALWAYS about teamwork and that neither of us is perfect. It's worth it, but our ego has to die. For both people.

[@agent2280]

Nicely phrased! I heard that from someone else too. The ego has to be thrown out by both sides for anything to work out.

[@boogieoogieoogie9688]

Completely agreed. For a relationship to become successful, you have to change the "ego" from "I" to "we". I know so many wonderful relationships; many of them in my own family, but they take work and commitment on both individuals for a common goal, love. Selfish "What can you do for me" attitudes, which I blame media for, need to be actively cast aside. Communication is key.

[@johnfisher8401]

enough of this "both sides" shit, men dont expect jack shit in comparison to women. Literally most men want only two things, loyalty and peace. THATS IT. Not hard at all to meet those standards, yet most cant even do that lol So thats two things men expect compared to the list of over a hundred things women DEMAND. Yeah, were good.

[@Frigid_Knight]

The thing that really stood out to me is that the stuff she pointed to also happens to be areas in which many modern women are lacking. As such, I get the impression that she’s projecting.