5 Things to Stop Feeling Guilty About

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[@Requinix17]

"I'm out of most people's control, but you definitely did this." 🤣

[@AxxLAfriku]

i was a boy. they were 138 girls. can i make it any more obvious? thats right, i had a crazy dream last night. HAHAHAHAHA!!! im the funniest youtube star ever. youre welcome for laughing dear req

[@Requinix17]

@@AxxLAfriku you did make me chuckle

[@1337hacks]

5 Things to Stop Feeling Guilty About 1. External Validation 1:00 2. Liking Attention 2:01 3. Rest and Relaxation 2:51 4. Things you can't change 3:08 5. Yourself 3:18

[@serene9532]

mwah thanks for the timestamps

[@Avril.]

4:00 Daddy Squarespace

[@Efflorescentey]

Never feel guilty about time stamps 🤩

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

1- It's nice, but i know my own worth. It feels weird when it's exaggerated. 2- Attention makes me nervous, unless i'm speaking and there are less than 20 people. 3- I wish i could, but anxiety and insomnia won't let me. 4&5- Never felt guilty about those.

[@Tiffany-cr9bc]

My daughter is gonna love this when she gets home from school! I watch your vids first to make sure they are appropriate. But I totally appreciate how your humor helps us feel comfortable having these discussions with eachother which has helped her grow emotionlly and socially!

[@GabiMattosOficial]

You’re the best for doing that. Go, girl!!

[@EtamirTheDemiDeer]

Best mom

[@Tiffany-cr9bc]

Wow! Thank you all for the supportive and kind comments!

[@Hyuzuka]

damn... this is some healthy stuff. had none of that growing up fkkfdkd

[@Tiffany-cr9bc]

@@Hyuzuka nor did I. Lol. Stop the cycle.

[@miraculousismyguiltypleasu9372]

"So you admit guilt to your crime?" "Which one? There's so many." Anna Akana everybody!

[@charlesward8196]

I would differentiate between “attention” and “recognition.” Attention is what you get for how you behave, recognition is what you get when you produce a “societal good,” whether it be art, a service to others, a bequest, or a legacy structure like a building, or an organized institution, I give Anna attention for her on-screen presence. I give her recognition for her efforts to help others be more fully functional and happy people.

[@diaryofadreamer6970]

Then you would be missing the point

[@diaryofadreamer6970]

I can do thing purely for the attention of others. I do not need everything I present to others to be of use to them.

[@aliabdaal]

Loved the attention skit

[@jademondia6537]

I died at the "wanting attention" robbery scene 😂🙌🏼 Growing up, I've always been made to feel guilty for wanting attention & validation. Needless to say, it kinda messed my childhood up. Now, thanks to self-reflection, doing the work & Anna, I've grown to be a more emotionally-sound individual. Girrrrl, you're a super hero! Keep making these videos! 💗🎯

[@Yashuop]

Blessed to have such a youtuber❤️

[@duskshadow25]

I think a lot of us can relate that our parents are rushing us into relationship to eventually get married and have kids, but some of us out there just don't want to be in a relationship and have zero interest in having kids, especially in a pandemic right now. So it comes to that decision of whether we should choose to pursue a life we want for ourselves or disappoint and perhaps hurt our parents and possibly even end the heritage there because we don't want to have kids. It's that guilty of not wanting to end the family tree there and disappoint our parents, but at the same time being married and having kids is just not what we want.

[@ElNino157]

I had a job offer come up and while I had already decided against taking it to chase a dream, I was feeling guilty because I didn't want to feel like I wasn't meeting my families expectations. Thank you. This really helped me feel confident in my choice and that it's what best for ME.

[@Karishma_Unspecified]

Basically, don't hate yourself for being human!

[@MagisterialVoyager]

Exactly!

[@rinciel4999]

YES.

[@giulianoerli6438]

"stop feeling guilty about things you can't control" Me, robbing a bank: sorry, i can't control it. i am such a virgo

[@voldemortdumbledumbdumbs1547]

“Don’t be cancer” words to live by

[@jusjaisinghani8179]

5 Things 1. Meeting Extreme validation 2. Liking attention 3. Rest and relaxation 4. Things you can't change 5. Yourself and everything about you

[@fortune_roses]

In a perfect world, *empaths* would stop feeling so guilty... and *narcissists* would start feeling more remorse

[@goldHydrangeas]

That’s your twisted WORLD. A perfect work would NEVER have ANY narcissists obviously 🙄

[@ohno8398]

@@goldHydrangeas Yikes that's pretty ableist 😬 having NPD doesn't make someone bad and having high empathy doesn't make someone good, nor would that justify treating someone's existence as disposable. Wanting to remove a group of people from the world on the basis of the medical diagnosis is really messed up.

[@traveler-a113]

Finally! It’s been weeks, I’ve needed my weekly Anna Akana fix, glad she’s got new videos

[@mindspeaker6378]

As a budding teacher, I'm gonna use the "Don't be Cancer" story

[@rusyaaninova]

every time anna says "daddy squarespace" i feel alive

[@longlostkryptonian5797]

Omg exactly! I haven’t just been going to the gym for decades for me to look at myself. Plus I’m pretty sure it’s why tank tops and yoga pants were invented. Thanks Anna for once again explaining simple things to us we should already know.

[@BiqNiqq]

The attention heist has me literally crying on all fours from laughter right now. Bravo

[@britnizta]

Same here, it's too good hahahaha

[@profannaty]

LMAO same I was searching the comments for someone to bring it up 😂😂

[@greaterthanharrowk1679]

The queen is back 🙌🏽

[@frozentropic]

Hi, hello. Been following since a teen and now I'm 24 and I still look forward to your uploads and I love how magicly uncannily you post what I need to hear in the moment. I love your energy and creativity, amongst so many other things like your raw emotions and attitude ♡ anyway just wanna say thank you for still creating and I love you. Have a lovely new year Anna! :3

[@Cicura001]

"How magically uncannily you post" is right. Iam 26 and have been watching her vids ever since highschool. Her videos have always been freakishly relevant to my situations at the time too and were always like much needed advice and help through such times. I like when I see comments like yours becuz ik it's not just me and it's amazing to think she helps so many people in the best of ways by uploading at the perfect time.

[@tomasmuller8079]

I love the trio when they're doing comedy. They're hilarious.

[@mamischdinne5297]

I once read that a study showed that negative attention is better than no attention. You also notice it in kids who search for their parents' attention by doing things they know is naughty. I have experienced what it feels like to be neglected, to have my feelings, my words, my dreams, or anything really ignored by my partner for one of his obviously more important matters like the fact that he stubbed his toe three days ago and it still hurts a little (haha). And it reminded me of this study, because I felt how suffocating it was to be neglected like that. I just remember wondering when I had become so hungry for attention, because I seemed to need it all the time, so much so that I started crying and feeling like a plant in some dry corner somewhere, crumpling up until I was no more than a bunch of brown, crispy leaves (...if it wasn't for yoga and luckily the occasional visits to friends). Don't feel guitly if you need attention and validation and don't feel bad if you cannot sustain yourself in that... it's like feeling guilty for not being able to produce your own vitamin C and needing to get it from an outside source like fruits and vegetables.

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[@andrea.dandelion]

I love her last comment of, "don't be cancer!" Like, I can fully get on board with that 😄

[@brysiax3]

Cancer metaphor sounds really powerful, it encapsulates the meaning so well

[@nicoleonfeels]

we're only human, we can't always control what happens to us. but what we can control is our mindsets and how we react to what life throws our way!

[@johnkeith9237]

I love your message. We are all trying to be perfect and not our perfect selves. We should not feel guilty for being who we are.

[@whatsapp0813]

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[@Laura-bi1cb]

I'm always thankful for discovering this type of content back in 2020. Thank you Anna!

[@Dexington429]

I needed to hear this. Anna always coming through in a clutch ❤

[@BenjaminRodriguezReyes]

Anna's videos have been getting increasingly more unhinged and I'm here for it

[@beriukay]

So yesterday, I didn't feel like I was getting enough 1 or 2, so instead of worrying about 4 or 5, I just did 3 for 12 hours and it was great.

[@rueluxprince6982]

Essentially, don't feel guilty about things that doesn't bring harm to anyone. If you hurt someone's feelings, yeah you should probably feel guilty about it. If you requested breaks in your nine hour barista work shift, don't feel guilty about that.

[@ashleyancona4805]

Your vids have helped me for years. Keep doing what you do dude u make me wanna be the best version of myself I can be.

[@emilyallen366]

Wow, it's actually unusual for me to watch videos like this that are helpful. Usually videos like this just say that you shouldn't feel guilty about saying no, and while that's true, it's been said many times. These were actually things that I needed to hear.

[@borofreak]

Anna. Your bangs... They killing it.

[@erynemarcelo277]

As always, every episode is for some reason, so healing.

[@elirventure_5622]

Bro Anna I have literally learned so much from you when it comes to mental health and other things, so thank you so much :)

[@nickdisney3233]

The "problem" is, I come from a privilege background (never needed to worry about food on the table, roof over my head and never had to work while studying), am generally healthy physically and mentally and I'm working in a job i like but I just feel so guilty for existing when people online keep talking about how they're upset some people dont have to suffer to get to where they're at. Watching Parasite made me feel so guilty because I felt like I related more to the rich family than the main one but I genuinely don't know how the hell I'm supposed to change that. And I'm human so I keep wanting more- I want to climb the ladder in my workplace, I want to travel, I want to buy a house. But then i feel guilty for even wanting those things because I already have so many advantages that I just should just... not exist (this isn't a cry for help. This is me not being able to find a solution where I can't feel guilty. But my guilt isn't eating me up inside). Edit: Thank you everyone for your kind words and suggestions. I did volunteer quite a bit before COVID but my country still hasn't given up the battle with it yet so it's very hard for me to find a slot on a weekend since they mostly disallow groups

[@eride79]

As long as you’re not actively doing anything to hurt anybody, nor taking advantage of others, you should not feel guilty. You might have had it easier, but many people in your same circumstances end up ruining their lives, plus some more. If you’re a decent person to start with, you’re more than ok. However, the best you can do to feel better is helping others. And you’re in the best situation to do so, since your needs are covered and you seem to be happy with your life. You can give and inspire genuinely and you’ll feel great. How can you help? Find your way. Maybe babysitting for a friend, or taking them out for a day when they’re burnt out and need a break. Buying flowers for somebody. Helping at an animal shelter. Spending time with an old person in your life who is alone most of the time. Or whatever you like :).

[@gurenrenren]

Surround yourself with people who don't care that you are privileged when they are not. People who understand that not everybody is born with the same opportunities but appreciate effort nonetheless. Positive people don't cheer only for the poor, they cheer for whoever puts the effort into getting what they want. If the people around you are not like that, just stop caring about their opinion or company. Also what the other person said about giving, if it makes you feel good you could try that too.

[@sweetpotato953]

You can always volunteer for social services in your community. I recommend the local library, since people of all walks of life congregate there and it's a service based in equity. Might be eye-opening for you, and will shift your perspective of guilt, to a productive one that helps brings positivity to your community. It's the same idea behind white guilt. Feeling guilty about being white isn't healthy or productive. Using that knowledge of privilege to help better the lives of POC (even in small ways like volunteering) is the better, more positive use of one's time.

[@chickencake5134]

You shouldn't feel guilty for something you can't control. Everybody has advantages and disadvantages when they come into this world. We all have different ones and it is fine if you want to help but you are not responsible for other lives because ultimately it is their lives and their choices that have the most impact on their lives. And about those people who want other to suffer,the answer isn't to make everyone suffer. But to try and lift everyone up. Hope this helps and goodluck

[@ehehehblah]

Then go do mutual aid and help your community

[@TheTarutau]

Very wise indeed. Inside we all deal with similar issues. Few are open and vulnerable enough to give it an honest look. Inside so much common ground. But outside confusion. Maybe to hide in plain sight.

[@aprilisme1186]

Your entire channel validates me so hard. Thank you so much for your wisdom. That last point really hit meee omg. Don’t be cancer.

[@womenwhodate7643]

As soon as I saw the title, I knew this was good stuff ❤️🙌 I wish there were more KZbinrs like you. All the best 😇

[@angelofdestruction8914]

The “booed into oblivion” lol I wasnt going to put this but its too good

[@mishelleilieva9657]

The thing you said about cancer is such synchronicity wow. I've been thinking about this for a while now and I am supporting the idea that certain emotional/psyche states can cause physical illness in our bodies. And in particular, I've been thinking about cancer that if it is a manifestation of something it most certainly is a manifestation of going against your own self. :)

[@MaitreyaNaik]

The audio quality and intonation were so enrapturing in this one! 👂😌 Also loved the new cuts, especially the zooms when showing off Zaddy Squarespace

[@anagharani450]

It's a joy to watch your presentation it lighten up my mood

[@JACk79457]

What I got from this episode was don’t be guilty or you’ll be a cancer. thank God I’m a Leo Anna

[@advika8681]

I absolutely love watching your videos, nearly everyday i check your channel to see if you have uploaded and it basically makes my day when i see that you have. Keep going. You're doing great ❤👍

[@CoffeyBrew]

Thank you for this.

[@martinfrog768]

I do not feel guilty at all about using this space to say how sad I am that Betty White has passed ... She had a wickedly sharp sense of humor and great comedic chops that spanned many generations ...

[@gabemesa3921]

I agree so much and I've been thinking about the same thing lately

[@annemariestrehl]

Side note: I adore how tall your pilea peperomioides is. Never seen one grow like that. Impressive.

[@Sce45rays31]

I forever hope you videos enter my life forvever they really make me feel better and encourage a better me

[@Bjornstativ]

Thank you for this one, Anna! Could you link the ted-talk you refered to in the decription box? Sounds super interesting!

[@esthykechan]

these hit so hard. people would make me feel bad for resting and spending time on things I genuinely enjoy just because they don’t think it’s worth the time and they’d rather use me to do chores for them.

[@crsytaltan]

YOUR BANGS ARE A BANGER!!! I LOVE IT!!!

[@WoziduranJahemter]

Guilt is good to make you humble yourself, don't neglect consciousness that whispers about a benevolent change to don't be addicted about external society that is like a mass of materialistic or low-ego baits.

[@whatsapp0813]

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[@evqev]

Thank you so much for the last thing you said about not feeling guilty about doing what you want. I am just about to swich my majors in collage for the second time and I have a really hard time being fine with that. What you said really helped me feeling better about my decision.

[@troybonner91]

People commonly think psychiatric diagnoses are overly representative of the population. Like, if someone get easily pissed off at people they think they might have "antisocial personality". Or if they seek attention at literally any time at all, a person is labelled "narcissistic". There's obviously a point at where attention-getting is too much of a good thing, but some isn't bad. We're literally built to need some attention for socialization.

[@sealwhiskers3515]

I actually love the hot take on wanting validation and attention. Learning not to rely on someone's validation when they're not giving it to you or they're invalidating you is fair, but imagine any of your friendships or most loving relationships absent of you guys giving each other validation... wouldn't be nearly as good of a friendship, would it? And babies literally need attention to not DIE. It's in human nature to both want and give attention because we're a social species.

[@desireer6915]

I love this ❤️ thank you anna! I want to live as my authentic self without feeling bad or guilty!

[@mashedpotatoe6275]

I’ve been here for years, and honestly, I do t think I would have gotten through high school without you

[@noabar8937]

My favorite KZbinr . Thank you.

[@aarongerig9223]

God Bless you Anna.

[@whatsapp0813]

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[@tensaeinretrograde]

God, I will always love your content, Anna. You are incredible and help me in so many ways.

[@K1RTB]

I don’t like how happy she looked when she said the word murder.

[@ilou9129]

She's permanently sponsored by Squarespace, I love it 😂

[@daisy_elle_]

this videos are so so helpful, thank you for them

[@Chocolatebeeef]

thank you for helping me have a better outlook on therapy. therapy has really helped me.

[@liamodonovan6610]

Your awesome anna love your videos your always interesting

[@yungprovocateur]

I really felt that at 2:27

[@whatsapp0813]

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[@martamayorga1444]

The mugging for attention is so funny lmaoooo

[@mariamberidze2052]

ilyyyy this so needed

[@awesomeadamfrom2099]

Awesome job anna

[@stevethepaidintern196]

2:37 I LOST IT AT YAS GIRL 💀

[@Thehealthycreative_]

I’m not on other social media so I guess everybody already told you how fire your bangs are but I’m telling you because it needs to be said so frickin prettyyyy

[@samikingsley2258]

Ugh such great content! Thank you !🙏🏻

[@brittneyfranco9048]

I love the bangsss ✨✨

[@lu59999]

the bangs!!!! 🥺🥺😩

[@dum-chan6218]

Nice bangs! you really made them work.

[@connoravila]

Yeah ah I got like guilt 24/7, I just turned 18 and now just ball of stress and anxiety

[@AntonWongVideo]

0:32 "OBJECTION! Your Honor, my client needs a snickers. She's not her when she's hungry" *This plea deal is sponsored by Snickers*

[@RS-ny8my]

2:56 triggered my PTSD

[@hellochako]

Im proud to say im feeling a tiny lil bit of guilty of all of these. It used tp be gigantic :') im more spiritually okayer rn

[@fasterslower6778]

Love the bangs

[@another_youtube_bot4400]

Nawww attention makes me nervous, especially from strangers. If I had my way, I would only be visible to ppl I know.

[@kessel18]

thank you

[@angelkaterose]

Spot on

[@polinavorozheykina2073]

Love your hair style, you look gorgeous!

[@loupelizzo2399]

I enjoyed this so much and I always have a better day after seeing your videos

[@OkronTeress]

I know you brought up attention but I have to point out your new hair, I love it! Happy new year Anna!

[@mattcaston9546]

Like with most things, it's all about excess; too much of a good thing is too much of a good thing.

[@joeyjdevivo11]

Made me feel a bit better. Ty

[@jinkzava]

Love the bangs girl!

[@christiangirl1275]

you look so pretty!

[@ThreeProphets]

Oh my God, the attention mugging was the best skit you've ever made

[@tumiaraga1256]

Not me actually feeling anxious watching that court scene 😅

[@Dauz]

Love the new hair cut!

[@itsdeonlol]

ANNA'S HAIR!!!! 🔥🔥🔥

[@Slyyvie]

I LOVE YOUR HAIR!