5 Top Favourite Books of a Narcissist

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@Isabela2024-yr]

I will never ever get married again. I know what narcissism is all about. It's stupid to find another man good or bad. I will not gamble the rest of my remaining life. Enough is enough. It's not worth it.

[@fightback397]

This video about books is not a good idea at all . Remember why people are prevented from reading ? To educate themselves . Good people will read good or bad books to educate themselves to be good , bad people just will reaad them to hurt people .

[@Akhilaloshy]

My both parents are narcissist. And I stay away from them. But I carry their surname. And people often calls me my surname. This triggers me so much. I am even thinking about changing my name. I hate it so much, I want to take a knife and cut my name into two half's and discard the second one.

[@aparna1170]

@@fightback397 some bad people might abuse after getting access to these books. But we need to know it exists to spot them and ward them off imho

[@LDuke-pc7kq]

Hi Danish👋, Would you consider doing a 'favorite movies of the narc' next? I have noticed: The Talented Mr. Ripply, American Psycho, Falling Down, extremely violent movies like the Hostel series or movie bios about serial killers or where the 'bad guy wins' are also popular.

[@ninjacat508]

Reading Robert Greene's stuff is recommended to recognize and protect yourself from the tactics of toxic people.

[@narcabusecoach]

Absolutely!

[@Sound-Eater]

​​@@narcabusecoach I remember Sam Vaknin saying that Greene's books are for psychopaths... And I remember CS Joseph recommending those books so sooo highly

[@imjustahandle]

Sam Vaknin is a self admitted psychopath ​@@Sound-Eater

[@irinaivanovic9792]

Robert Greene's books are banned in prisons for convicts to read while locked up. That says everything.

[@ceraroberts2691]

That was my pick exactly 💯💯💯 We had to ban any of his books in the prison system. Funny....none of the inmates could figure out why 😂

[@bridgetsieger2261]

My mom has a lot of copies of the DSM mental health books. She diagnoses everyone with terrible things. Except herself. Of course .

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

@@bridgetsieger2261 my mother does that. Took me 50 + years to realise she's the psycho! I was conditioned to think there was something wrong with me!

[@bridgetsieger2261]

@ same There is an old KZbin video of her at an institute that she worked in and she’s being hailed as a hero for the mentally ill. They loved her and my dad married her. He was the Dr on staff she was volunteering. Very young and pretty. They had no idea. It’s before I was born. She is believed by everyone. I feel so broken.

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

@@bridgetsieger2261 Mine tried to finish me off a few times. I reported her to police but they don't believe ME! In fact I am sure they have told her everything I reported. I see everything now from age 5 ! The jealousy, the deliberate neglect, leaving me out, leaving me on my own all whilst she's acting the victim of domestic abuse! She's crazy! My mood would change going home and I didn't realise why .... until now, I thought it was me. I was made to believe it was me! She's had me having empathy for her for 50 years and it was all a lie!

[@ali-jean]

My mother frequently resorted to psychobabble without the actual work of looking anything up in the DSM. She triangulated between me and my sister, creating the ever-popular scapegoat (me) and golden child (my sister) dynamic ...then when we grew to hate each other she labeled it "sibling rivalry" in an attempt to deflect blame and normalize our hatred.....she would also pull statistical data right out of her a** when it suited her...still does, and she's almost 90....

[@lilysleisure1918]

Sounds horrible

[@Asenueh]

I was introduced to "The 48 Laws of Power" by my ex-husband. He wasn't a narcissist, so he bought the book to understand the machinations of his colleagues and to not be taken advantage of.

[@novairene6880]

Agree. I read it to better educate myself against manipulation and toxic people.

[@TheNEOONE1]

Is that why hes your ex

[@Asenueh]

@TheNEOONE1 No. My ex-husband having read "The 48 Laws of Power", which I borrowed and read too, wasn't the reason for our divorce. He was hypercritical and there were unresolvable conflicts, concerning the allocation of space, as well as the fact I'm on the autism spectrum have hypersentivity/hyperviligance issues where I be stressed out by him non-maliciously making noises and doing things that would be objectively benign to a neurotypical person. Our divorce was amicable and we're friends, since he's an otherwise kind, helpful and accommodating man.

[@TheNEOONE1]

@@Asenueh sounds like narcissism to me

[@Asenueh]

@@TheNEOONE1 No. The man was conscientious to the extent he planted the exact species of grass recommended by the instruction manual he read for the septic system he had installed. He also always kept his word, when he promised anything. He also didn't blame everyone else around him, if he misjudged something and something didn't turn out how he expected. He also didn't center himself, or insist other people center him at all times. So I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion. Also, what narcissist ever would allow a divorce be amicable and not high-conflict? We joined in our pro se petition, the decree gave everyone what they wanted, our total court costs were $454 and with real estate and a minor child, took 4 ½ months.

[@mrscrofford]

This could be an unpopular opinion here but a lot of narcissists I’ve known were into “the secret” and the “four agreements” book. Their obsession with magical thinking and also I think they like to look spiritual and mindful because it’s a manipulation tactic to bring people’s guards down.

[@patriciagootgeld9273]

My ex-brother was hooked on "The Secret" and hawked it to everyone he could. He would say "The Universe has provided for me". I would say "No, people have trotted out their kindness, their cash, their credit cards, their savings for you". He now lives comfortably on his pension and Soc Sec and owes me 20K for over 15 years while I live in poverty with cancer, and no contact, in the same town. He will only reap what he has sown in this life or the next. "The Universe" will bend him over, and then some.

[@riseofdarkleela]

i’m a former woo believer law of attraction etc. It was dripping with narcissistic types. Lots of covert narcissists too. It’s got a lot of dangers.

[@tomharvey5466]

4 agreements seems benign at least I use it that way

[@mybiz1006]

@@tomharvey5466 I agree.. in fact it calls for personal responsibility, which narcissists seem to repel.

[@lemsip207]

I watched The Secret video and read The Four Agreememts and understood neither. If you are not a narcissist or sociopath those won't resonate with you.

[@andron967]

Many years ago I was with the worst narcissist I've ever known. She was a nursing student. A health care professional getting a master's degree. It was getting more and more obvious that she had a severe mental problem and her lies were starting to fall apart. So after a intimate situation she had a very strange crying reaction. These were becoming almost every time we got close. And I was learning how to ring all her bells so to speak . So after a really weird reaction I asked her if she'd been molested as a child. She did respond. Said she'd had a bad nightmare and lightly mentioned a character in her dream. Years later I was learning about narcissism. Her mother was a author. I checked out a review of one of her mothers books for teens and young girls. Bingo there was the character in the nursing students bad dream. And much much more. This of course is just the tip of the iceberg. Early childhood development of personality is extremely complex. And things that are very damaging might not be seen outside of the families false public images. And that's what it really is. A very false image that manipulates and hides the truth.

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

@@andron967 I wonder how many are nurses and doctors. Many many I think!

[@katalinmcewan]

@@PaulaSmith-c3rNot sure how many nurses, but tons of docs for sure.

[@moiracneill6478]

I think I know the author. Her books are full of dark sexually weird stuff, hidden in fantasy. My doctor was, is, so narcisstic, he has no hospital privileges.

[@oysterchampion8998]

I don't think I quite followed how the character in the book was connected to your ex and her dream. Can you expand?

[@samanthaq3422]

SLD maybe her narcissist was only a projection of her mother characters onto her..shes SLD

[@helendayle6502]

#5. There's the quote, "The devil uses Scriptures for his own purposes." So true with a narcissist.

[@dakoderii4221]

The Devil tried to get Jesus to sin by twisting scripture. Satan's minions do the same thing. Scripture is the way to beat them, as Jesus did. Instead, in modern times, people side WITH the wicked so they can "go along to get along". Professing Christians do what God said not to do and won't do what God said to do. Main reason, they refuse to read the Bible for themselves and instead let other people tell them their watered down and twisted version used to justify their sins. God said His people are destroyed for lack of knowledge and that the wicked are wiser than the righteous. They take their religion seriously. Many Christians are lukewarm and say that's "good enough". Don't want to be hot and offend the wicked now. 🤦‍♂

[@sharoncoe6421]

Yes they use scripture very well. I know someone exactly that way, a neighbor in fact. He is mentally and physically abusive to his wife but she refuses to get help and will not let anyone else help her. I pray for God to intervene in this situation for her. She is such a wonderful soul.

[@jimstenlund6017]

@@dakoderii4221”you can be like God”…religious narcissists feed off of the original lie.

[@jamesupton4996]

There are some pretty hairy stories in the Old Testament. For instance, Solomon and David were excellent politicians, and strategists - and both sidelined Religion. There's a wealth of examples in the Bible for those who want to study nefarious doings, and not worry too much about getting their come-uppance. The Psalmists often cry out against the flourishing of the wicked - and Qoheleth casts his clear eye over the dark state of things, joylessly.

[@AlvinKazu]

​ @jimstenlund6017 They believe they are God without putting in any work to be spiritually closer to god.

[@GB_008]

Before I hear the list, I already know that The 48 Laws of Power and The Art of War are definitely on this list.

[@nadyatytian279]

Yes, but sometimes you need to fight back to gain some of the power the narcissist has knocked out of you. So, the Art of War might come in handy.....😂

[@hautecouture2228]

48 laws of power is manipulation and witchcraft manual. It’s their bible since they are evil , manipulative and demon possessed

[@cl5470]

​@nadyatytian279 there is a healthy amount of narcissism. Being totally soft and selfless is just another brand of being manipulative.

[@JayTed2024]

48 Laws Of Power is a load of shit. Rob Greene is an idiot.

[@Nunya_Bidness_53]

I've heard if it but never read it...all these books though are clearly perverted/weaponized by narcs but are useful in an appropriate context.

[@jackslapp9073]

You should include Dr. Wayne Dyer's book, 'Pulling your own strings.' I don't know if it is a book read by narcissists, but it sure provides some classic behaviors, attitudes, and tactics of narcissists as if it is a manual for how to become a narcissist. Lack of accountability, "I'm not responsible for your feelings," when they intentionally or negligently stand you up, lie to you, insult you, stab you in the back, etc. where they put the responsibility back on the victim and reduce it to a feeling, such as, "I'm not responsible for your disappointment." Or, "I'm not responsible for your anger." This book is also where you will find the fake apology, "I'm sorry you feel that way." Where they are not apologizing for what they did, or feel any regret for what they did, but are only expressing their disapproval of your feelings by using the word 'sorry,' as a synonym for being disappointed in you. But, any book can be dangerous when a narcissist reads it and interprets it as a system of manipulation.

[@lindavolk9958]

My ex-boyfriend always said the same thing. Now I wonder if he got it from this book. I had to be responsible for my own feelings no matter what his actions were but, somehow, if he was hurt or angry it was my fault!! 🙄

[@jackslapp9073]

@lindavolk9958 . Yep. 💯

[@C-man553]

Dr Dyer….Wrong

[@ritalawson7020]

My mother myself is another book ,shows how mother's can dominate over children and how to protect yourself from their narcissistic personality

[@GettingAlotDone]

G​@@lindavolk9958unbelievable!!! Imagine that.....being responsible for your own feelings!!! I can't believe a man asked that of you

[@yegenek]

Ayn Rand books, nearly every narcissist I have known had them.

[@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019]

she was a massive one herself , her interviews just drip with it .

[@jarhead21100]

Really? I've had different personal experience.

[@JumpingJesus4]

I was thinking of her books but I never read them!

[@keddy5627]

Robert Greene books! The 48 Laws of Power is banned in jails and prisons throughout the US…😳

[@hiraijo1582]

What you learn from a book depends on the reader not on the book. Robert Greene wrote it as a warning. He wanted people to recognize manipulation so they can protect themselves. A narcicisst will use the same book to learn how to manipulate people even better.

[@saturdayschild8535]

😂😂😂

[@AM-..]

@@hiraijo1582 this book was/has been ex-husband’s Bible.

[@world-uk2vj]

Which are filled with malignants anti social narcissists,

[@tired3726]

Odd this book has been in every jail and prison ive ever been in in the US so im not so sure about this "ban" you speak of.

[@KatherineGrey-pz9on]

Narcissists move VERY fast in relationships. It's not uncommon to hear, “I love you", and/or be bombarded with love songs/texts/memes a few weeks after meeting them. By rushing into sex/intimacy, they fast-forward the relationship. They get their targets to fall for them before he/she can realize something is amiss. I believe this is also the reason they tend to be VERY good lovers. Sex is usually the “hook” in toxic relationships. Narcissists lack genuine personalities. So, they mirror their targets. If you find you have “so much in common" with a new person, your likes are their likes, and your dislikes are coincidentally their dislikes as well, raise your antennas! They may be mirroring you. This is the “soulmates" hook… You'll also notice that they'll spend more time telling you who they are, verses showing you. As time goes on, you'll notice the words they used to describe themselves do not fit their personality - at all. But, they will fit YOURS!!! Passive-aggressive behavior and irrational/unexplained anger, are also major red flags. Pay attention to how a person treats you the first time you say, “No”, and/or when things don't go their way… If they give you the silent treatment, grow cold, and/or pull away, do not overlook it! Most importantly, if someone pulls away, or goes silent, after you set a boundary - DO NOT pursue them! This is how they groom you to be the chaser in the relationship. It's emotional abuse/manipulation! Pay close attention to people who portray themselves as victims. NOTHING is EVER their fault! EVERYONE, including the family pet, has done them wrong… ALL of their ex's are “crazy” and mistreated them… They’re great, but no one appreciates said greatness… Simply put, it's bullshit! No one should have a laundry list of bad experiences. If they do, RUN, because they're the common denominator! Narcissists tend to have a history of failed/short-term relationships. Believe it or not, it's hard for Narcissists to find people to deal with them long term due to their instability and poor behavior… Superficial relationships/friendships. I've noticed they don't have anyone they're genuinely close to. This is due to their inability to bond and form true attachments to people. Their relationships are shallow and based on surface-level bs. They'll refer to someone as their bestfriend, but you’ll notice they barely speak. Or, that the person is never really around. Or, only shows up when it's time to party, etc. They may also speak down on/poorly of said “bestfriend” behind their back. Narcissists tend to be condescending, two-faced and downright mean! Based on my experience, they cannot talk about deep subjects (i.e. fears/emotions). Or, how a situation truly made them feel. Or, what their childhood was like in detail… They don't want to go there. I suspect, it's because they can't. They don't know themselves well enough. They can't connect. They also live in a world of dishonesty. They're very dishonest with themselves about who they truly are. A poor relationship with their Mother/primary caregiver. Underlying issues between Narcissists and their Mother's (abuse, neglect, don’t get along, etc.), seems to be common. People that I've known who've displayed strong Narcissistic tendencies, ALL had bad relationships with their Mothers! I think it's worth mentioning, their Mother's also displayed strong Narcissistic traits… I'm fully aware and understand that there are healthy adults who have toxic Mother's. However, if you're spotting several red flags in an individual, including this one, pay closer attention! They're selfish! Some are selfish from the very beginning. Some start out generous and slowly begin withholding. Some act helpless and needy. They manipulate people into doing things for them, but never give back. It's not only financial and material selfishness. They're selfish emotionally, affectionately, conversationally. sexually and with their attention. They withhold validation and support. EVERYTHING has to be about them, their needs, their wants and everything happens on their terms. Anger, rage, silent treatments and disappearing acts are common - when they don't get their way. Pathological lying. Narcissists are professional liars. It's their second nature. If you call them out, they'll have no issue staring deeply into your eyes as they tell another lie! You'll hardly ever get the truth. Even with unchallengeable proof of the truth, they'll hold on to the lie. It's actually quite fascinating to see them in action - once you know what you’re dealing with. They also have the uncanny ability to provoke doubt in their victims (even when you KNOW the truth), because their lies are so convincing! Beware of people who do not seek conflict resolution. Many Narcissists enjoy drama/chaos! Remember, these are high-conflict personalities. Many of them NEED to argue and fight! Peace to a narcissist, is what chaos is to non-disordered people - unsettling. This is why they repeat behaviors that trigger a negative response. They need tension, anger and high/out of control emotions. They're known for calling people crazy, drama queens, insecure, etc., but never admit what they did to provoke those responses. And, when you attempt to discuss/resolve something, THEY said/did, they’ll gaslight, stonewall and/or flip it back on to you. They're extremely disrespectful, rude and lack self-awareness. They have an issue with being called out on their behavior and project/deflect to avoid accountability. “Normal” people want to get along, for the most part. So, they seek fair compromises when conflict arises. Narcissists want to “win” and conflict IS their niche. This is how many Narcissists get their way - they wear people down via conflict. Immaturity. It’s one thing to be playful and lighthearted (in appropriate settings), as an adult. It’s something completely different to be immature. Narcissists suffer from arrested development. They do not know how to respond to situations/people/stress/life appropriately. They have a child-like mindset. They truly believe everything is about them and have no concept of the needs of others. By nature, children are takers. They have no concept of reciprocation. They believe their Parents (and everyone else), exists to meet their needs. When their needs aren’t met, or they don’t get what they want, they become mean and throw tantrums. Narcissists cannot think outside of themselves and their wants/needs - like children. They’re completely unaware that people are individuals with their own agency, needs, wants, opinions... They truly believe people exist to serve them. They believe their job is to receive. They’re children trapped in adult bodies, who cannot consider anything/anyone other than themselves! Above everything I've stated, trust your intuition! Narcissists give off an uneasy vibe. They try very hard to appear cool, calm and collected - on the surface. But, you can feel their energy. It's very off-putting. They also tend to have more noticeable negative qualities, than most people. But, you have to stop justifying and making excuses, in order to see things clearly. Accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Observe, listen and trust yourself. No one should be allowed to grant themselves a position in your life. Vet people and YOU decide if they'll be a liability, or an asset, to you. Lastly, take cues from your body. If you ever feel your mood changing, feel anxious or feel your stomach knot up, in the company of someone, don't dismiss it! It could be a sign that you're in bad company!!! Additionally, If you suspect cheating or other forms of manipulation and need to gather evidence for your own peace of mind, you may consider reaching out for assistance. For more information, you can contact: MetaspyHub@gmail. com.

[@audrablue515]

OMG this comment is insane! This is EXACTLY what my narc ex was/is like!!!! Except for the sex thing. We were in our mid 40s when we met but he had severed ED issues all the time. I only found out earlier this year (more than a decade later) that he was out slithering over 20 year olds. I was not his target demographic at all. If made perfect sense but, gotta say, still hurts after all these years. He’s 57 now and not in good health but he’s managed to snag himself a 40 yo girlfriend. Sure, she’s an adult but it’s still a nearly 20 year age gap. Glad I went full no contact earlier this year and stayed that way. I just don’t have the care factor to deal with his life anymore.

[@keddy5627]

@@audrablue515 An aging narc is looking for a nurse or a purse! A dear friend told me that once…#truth

[@nusratarif6519]

thanks for the paragraphs!!

[@raf-gr1sn]

isn't it strange how describing with NPD can often sound exactly describing the victims of people with NPD?

[@Open_Your_Eyes]

Yep

[@riddhidharaiya5032]

Nowadays on the internet you can find a lot of channels discussing topics like, "How to save yourself from empaths"....How to silent and discard empaths....How to use their empathy.....Beware of empathetic personality......Empaths are enemies....lists can go on and on .....I was shocked when I found out about all this..... It's evil !!!

[@narcabusecoach]

I am shocked to know this

[@riddhidharaiya5032]

@@narcabusecoach Yes sir it's shocking but true. You can find many channels like this on KZbin.....🙏

[@maricelasalgado86]

What? That’s crazy I did not know

[@R73949]

Are you serious? Wtf are these people? are they coming from a hell? 😂

[@jangunning1676]

​@@maricelasalgado86 😳 😲😬. Me either, I did not know this! Bizarre! 🤦

[@jlanderson21257]

"The Prince" by Machiavelli. Anything written by Anton LeVoy, Anything that is about assassins, violent murders, and destruction.

[@ninjacat508]

Anton Levay was a santanist.

[@jlanderson21257]

@@ninjacat508 EXACTLY....and narcissists are demonically inspired.

[@kky.x]

What about Lovecraft?

[@Magdalene777]

The Prince was satire. It wasn't meant literally.

[@lemsip207]

I was thinking about The Game of Thrones, too. Anything by Andy McNab. I was given no 3 as a present to learn to get along with people by someone I now realise is a sociopath. I read it and was so disgusted I threw it out. I didn't have the best social skills then, but at least I wasn't fake and arrogant like the one who gave it to me. Or like the writer of the book.

[@raymondclapsadle9310]

I read 48 Laws and loved it! I did realize, however, that, while effective, most of the tactics were the tools of a sociopath.

[@TheBigdog868]

I couldn't finish it. I found it horrifying.

[@DaPhreshestKidd]

lol read it to help you see not to help you act

[@jarhead21100]

Same thing with "Rules for Radicals" incredibly brilliant and utterly evil.

[@duitseles9687]

There's a reason it's banned in a lot of prisons.

[@NjJohannsen-uq6xe]

How about the good old Bible! I've know several so called people trying to twist verses and passages to justify their actions or blame others. And acting as if I didn't know what that verse or passage truly meant. Pretty sick when a person calls themselves a Christian, but chooses to twist the words of God or Jesus for their own justification or benefit.

[@jangunning1676]

👍💯🎯

[@Atomikbomb444]

Absolutely agree. Churches have more than the typical selection of any population.

[@catherinehume9193]

That is spiritual abuse, not narcissist behaviour. Different things. Some similarities but different.

[@Atomikbomb444]

@catherinehume9193 It's both simultaneously. It's twisting an author's meaning and intention to suit their own gain, and manipulating followers to guilt them into serving them. If anything, it's actually worse. The Pharisees mentioned by Jesus himself in the gospels he called "vipers" for their spiritual abuse tactics. All narcissists are "white washed tombs" which are outwardly beautiful, but full of dead mens bones. Satan is the ultimate narcissist and scripture is full of allegory, examples and accounts of this. Narcissism is at the core of spiritual abuse.

[@lorettajoy7275]

What confirmation, i've never heard anyone address this subject before! My covert nex loved "The Art of War" and it was always in his semi-secret belongings. He also used (Bible) scriptures extensively as "program codes" to keep me confined and in line, and in proving i needed to be obedient to him. Due to having come from a strict church, i was susceptible to nex using verses in many ways.

[@lorettajoy7275]

YES....."They selectively interpret teachings to enforce submission, obedience, or silence." All of these.

[@AM-..]

@@lorettajoy7275yes, telling me the definition of a wife in the Bible. When I stated what he as the husband is to do and brought it for him to see for himself, he would have none of it.

[@carolbaughan8768]

They carry books, and never read.

[@JumpingJesus4]

The Art of War was one of Tony Soprano's favorite books! There was a scene where he and his psychologist discussed it together.

[@JumpingJesus4]

The Art of War was one of Tony Soprano's favorite books! There was a scene where he and his psychologist discussed the book.

[@creativearena]

Then they read 4 agreements and spiritual books for gaslighting - to say how emotionally and spiritually we are inferior. But have to give it to them , they have this insane ability to memorize books with 1 read and regurgitate with zero introspection!

[@jvnd2785]

A narcissistic parent can weaponize even innocent books. My narc mother loved to read a book called "How to love your child" (I cannot recall the author, it was 30 + years ago, but could be Ross Campbell) and then use the information to manipulate me. I often wondered why did she have a need to "learn" to love me from a book in the first place.

[@robbehr8806]

Perhaps, do a review of "Toxic Parents" as a guide for a parent to be proficiently toxic.

[@judypatriarca3574]

Wow mine was reading how to win friends and influence 😮

[@susannakotoff7095]

the religious covert narc weapons the bible and twists it and her husband is enabler and entitled as well. Wolves in sheeps clothing and not in christ like they profess too much. They create evil then gaslight and act like nothing happened. Never accountable and always has to have last word, especially in a so called bible sermon

[@susannakotoff7095]

everything is a compeetition game to her, even at a funeral. Never ends

[@inawood8658]

Mine also read this book, read it repeatedly.

[@SailajaMandada]

Mine as well 😢😢😢😢

[@lemsip207]

That started it all and spawned other books. Narcissists need manuals to learn to control people as they are too dumb to figure it all out themselves.

[@863mes]

I had forgotten about The Art of War. When I first met the N he talked (and wrote) endlessly about The Prince and The Art of War. These works were like an aphrodisiac for him.

[@MrAndersJensen]

One of my exes gave me the Prince by Machiavelli, as a gift😂 She’s not a narc, lovely girl.

[@MrAndersJensen]

One of my exes gave me the Prince by Machiavelli 😂 She’s not a narc, lovely girl.

[@Ram-uj8ls]

Nietzsche' s books also feature in their library.

[@NonYa-l9t]

Also psychpaths

[@Nannas-cp5nd]

Nietzsche is impossible to be understood correctly,unless one has been studying philosophy and loved it. There are no many that can do that,especially not those watching short videos about his work on YT. This approach is wrong.

[@Ram-uj8ls]

Anyway, they read his books, take the writings at face value and approve of the content.

[@NonYa-l9t]

@Ram-uj8ls yes. As many non npd, also

[@abdulwahabsufyan5939]

My Dad is really lucky and blessed to have a big network of friends(most of whom who stay abroad). Whenever those friends come back on vacation,they hold very lavish dinners that my Dad goes to. His favourite dialogue to me is "You don't have any friends". I guess I haven't learnt to win friends and influence people like him.

[@abdulwahabsufyan5939]

To make a difference I started going to meet ups and social events and he was like "What will you do/achieve by going to such events?"

[@lemsip207]

They would all be fake friends. I hated lavish dinners even when staying away from home in a hotel. I would much rather eat in a cozy pub or fast food restaurant such as Nando's earlier in the evening and be out of there after an hour than spend an entire evening in a restaurant. Or if not that hungry a few snacks from the deli counter in the supermarket and have a picnic with them in my hotel room. How dumb is that to sit in a restaurant all evening even to 11 pm?

[@jvnd2785]

I would not call those people "friends". Real friends are people you know through and through and that can be done only when you spend a LOT of time together. These are simply folks your dad goes to spend money with once in a while. It does not mean that they care about him nor that he cares about them. It's just an ego trip.

[@abdulwahabsufyan5939]

@@jvnd2785 Most of them have known each other since childhood,College Etc. They have spent many years in each other's company

[@lemsip207]

@@jvnd2785 I wouldn't call them friends either. I used to think I had friends in the 00s but I only had people I hung out with that I had to tread on eggshells around with or lose them. They actually expected more from me such as me telling them how wonderful they were but I was a bit of a grey rock. They would drag me around clothes shops when we had arranged to do something else hoping I would be their personal stylist and pick out clothes for them like they do in films such as Thirteen and Juno. If you want a personal stylist you should pay for one. Instead I stood around bored and saying I wanted to have coffee instead. They expected a lot of emotional labour from friends but didn't return it. One was rude and insulting and dragged me around four clothes shops when we had arranged to have coffee in a cafe instead. But when we got to a cafe I then told her I had changed my mind as I couldn't stand her company anymore giving the reasons why. I told her that she had been rude to a shop assistant earlier for not having what she wanted in her size in a sale and that she needed to lose some weight before fitting into any of the clothes in the shops she had dragged me into so she should in the meantime look for tent dresses to buy. She had said I looked drab earlier so that was my way of retaliating. Others were often badmouthing other people to me and eventually I got so bored with that and told them they had a part to play in being badly treated and that they had set themselves up to being a victim. I should have seen that as I sign that they were badmouthing me too when I wasn't around them.

[@Giselle332]

Please do a video on narcissist's favourite films.

[@paulineklostermann5877]

Gaslichting from Alfred Hitchkoc

[@krystjanchanerley9288]

Malice 1993 with Alex Baldwin.

[@CW0123]

Definitely American Psycho and The Dark Knight. I knew one that loved doing impressions of Patrick Bateman and The Joker and had illusions of grandeur he was gonna move to L.A. and be an actor (he had no training or experience) he ended up living in his parents abandoned house and becoming a 🏳️‍⚧️y

[@Prabhunathachari]

Saw

[@hettykoster9447]

The Matrix

[@ericacecchini3998]

Good evening Danish! It’s always a pleasure listening to your channel. I appreciate you for sharing all your knowledge to me about narcissism and toxic people in our world. I have a very sensitive soft heart and that is why I hurt so deeply. I cannot express enough words to THANK YOU! 🙏

[@copperpetals5113]

"" Rich Dad, Poor Dad." One of their fav books of narcissists

[@dlzk12]

OMG yes !

[@michaelgarrow3239]

Why would that be so?

[@rachaelheelan8121]

Funny: I just couldn’t even buy that book

[@PeriwinklePotter]

😱My narc sister promotes this book to ad nauseum!

[@anuradhasridhar1319]

👍you nailed it...true...

[@kristinmeyer489]

DO NOT BAN BOOKS, EVEN IF YOU DON'T LIKE THEM!

[@miketexas4549]

Nah that books they're finding in elementary school depicting illustrated sex acts between kids and adults should be banned.

[@cbeautifulworld11]

@miketexas4549 They are not finding textbooks like you describe in schools. You're repeating a lie, one of many, fed to you by right wing extremists. Stop it.

[@UrGranny-zc1mz]

I agree.

[@ILoveAstronomy]

​@@miketexas4549As pro-book as I am, I wholeheartedly agree with you on that one.

[@matt3024]

I don't think anyone is suggesting that.

[@abdulwahabsufyan5939]

My Narcissistic mother is obsessed with the British Royal family,she has a massive collection of Books by Phillipa Gregory and she has watched all seasons of "The Tudors"

[@deliamariaalandetemanotas4931]

Ex mother in law

[@ladyv5655]

My narcissistic mother had a collection of tea cups, plates and other dishware featuring the Royal family, going back to King Edward VIII, who was king for less than a year and didn't even have a coronation. That was actually before she was born. It was probably the influence of being raised in large part by her narcissistic English grandmother. The stuff was mostly worthless. None of us wanted it after she passed away. My brother ended up taking it to a consignment store in our small town. It's a very niche market for that stuff. She used to say she hoped I would want it. I'm glad she didn't will it to me, as I probably would have destroyed it if forced to take it.

[@carolhill8917]

My mom had a couple Queen Elizabeth's coronation tea sets. I have one of them. They were part of tea set collection that were bought across the border in Canada from her hometown Buffalo. All the tea sets were made in England. My mom wasn't narcisstic at all.

[@ladyv5655]

@carolhill8917 , yeah, my mother was Canadian, so that's probably where hers came from. It certainly wasn't narcissistic that she collected those things, but it was narcissistic that she expected me to care about them as much as she did and to devote so much of my limited space to her belongings after she was gone.

[@Tempusverum]

Eeeww

[@purplpen]

Atlas Shrugged (Ayn Rand) The Prince (Machiavelli) That's all I can think of off the top of my head.

[@klarissam8719]

Thank you danish for sharing this information

[@kohinoorakhter5026]

You are the bestest information giver ever.i am a survivor. Huge regards and respect towards you

[@pheart2381]

Brideshead Revisited is an interesting novel. The matriarch of the family is useing religeon to guilt-shame everyone in the family,and slowly it destroys them all. It's very subtle.

[@blindknitter]

That's an interesting take on the book. There are very different interpretations.

[@chiara1194]

That’s actually my favorite book and I’m a survivor of domestic abuse. Idk my interpretation is that God can - with our participation - reach us with His grace, love and mercy in spite of narcissistic abuse, bad choices, and tragic circumstances. There are quite a few flawed narcissists in the book that come in a variety of flavors…..Lady Marchmain and Bridey are religious, sanctimonious narcissists….Rex is a money-obsessed secular opportunist….the list goes on. But I think the lesson is that by having genuine faith in a loving God, we can transcend the bullshit hurled at us by the narcissists in our lives.

[@minocat7793]

The sicko narcissist I was involved with told me when we first met that he majored in Business Administration in university but his real interest was psychology. Then he proceeded to tell me how his last girlfriend emotionally manipulated him. Ladies, beware when a man tells you this!

[@katalinmcewan]

Yes. Beware of the ones who claim to be the victims of a terrible marriage.

[@carolhill8917]

​@katalinmcewan Like my ex husband.

[@margretenglesson5834]

​@@katalinmcewan Like half the people commenting here?

[@ladyv5655]

I have a neighbor went to prison years ago when he was young. There isn't always a lot to do in prison besides read. My neighbor said he borrowed a book from the prison library that was essentially a how-to on how to exploit and manipulate other people. I don't remember the title of the book, but my neighbor was about halfway through the book before he couldn't stand any more and he threw it away. Even though he was in prison, his crime was more due to stupidity rather than malice and manipulating people like that book taught was horrifying to him.

[@RKX_Errant]

I never considered this before. Jaw-dropping!! I have noticed that as far as television goes, narcissists seem to frequently watch sitcoms. I assumed it was more to study our reactions to situations. 😮

[@Greeceismygoto]

I have to watch sitcoms over and over to get my mind to shut off from the narcs. I never heard of watching to get our reactions. 🤷‍♀️

[@RKX_Errant]

@Greeceismygoto I've watched my narc niece more closely ever since I suspected she's a narc. Sometimes she doesn't recognize that someone paid her a compliment or is making a joke. As I watch her closely, I can see that there is a slightly longer than normal lag. It's as if you can see her processing the information (almost in a robotic sense). Then she will laugh or shyly smile. She has her shy act, her unaffected act, and her demon mode. Her demon mode is when she becomes "righteously offended" regarding a situation then proceeds to insult you. When you can observe without being involved it's quite educational. But know that they do study the normies; individually and collectively.

[@Greeceismygoto]

@@RKX_Errant freakin crazy! I’m going to pay more attention now. Thx

[@jeffreykuhns6581]

My narcissistic sibling read "Toxic parents" ... And she diagnosed everyone around her...she learned all the terms to belittle and devalue.

[@ericschulze5641]

50 shades of Grey caused my ex to crash and burn, so they do sometimes punish themselves , she was a narcissist who actually wanted to change, I left her shortly after she stopped getting counseling and read this book

[@jo-anblanchet-girard5488]

Narc husband loves "The Art Of War"

[@sma5559]

Confirmed- for years laying next to his bed.

[@DrPeterMarsh]

I’m sad that I guessed 70% these books before I watched this. The validation is helpful.

[@adele865]

Yep, my ex narc/abuser had 48 Laws of Power, The Prince and the Art of War.

[@sc4112]

Oh, my. The psychopath ex-husband studied Carnegie’s book like none other. He was dyslexic and a slow reader but studied this book like it was his atheist version of the Bible. His favorite KZbin channels were MGTOW-themed and he was all about Dexter.

[@DavidPeacockChannel]

I have a booktube channel and I this is an outstanding video. I wondered why these books are praised so often and now I have an insight into the people who recommend them.

[@michaelgarrow3239]

It’s not the books that are inherently bad; it is how a narcissist exploits the information. One should be aware of tactics used by your enemies and frenimies.

[@rnbsteenstar]

Meanwhile, people on the autism spectrum might use book #3 in an attempt to learn how to form genuine connections without losing themselves. Who knows, they might even use the other books in an attempt to better understand what their navigating in a world not designed for people like them.

[@ali-jean]

I'm at 1:17 and I stopped the video to comment that I'm guessing "How to Win Friends and Influence People" may be on the list because my malignant narc mother swore by that book and my BF, who has traits but not to the same degree, has told me it was the only book he ever read cover to cover....now back to the video....

[@rachaelheelan8121]

That book never agreed with me couldn’t get through first page

[@AngelaGrant-uf9go]

I guessed this too

[@AM-..]

@@rachaelheelan8121 I actually brought the book years ago and believe I still have it. . This book was often referenced to at sales/business seminars. I simply couldn’t get into the book either. An ex/husband swore by it and told me I should read it..

[@ali-jean]

@@rachaelheelan8121 I felt the same way. I was a voracious reader my whole life but when I picked up my mother's copy and read a few chapters I decided to stop torturing myself lol.....

[@rachaelheelan8121]

@ I couldn’t read the first two pages. And I binned the book haha: I just thought if I get on with a person why read it. If we like each other let natural relationship develop

[@unholysix6883]

Selfishness, blaming of others for one's problems, and a complete lack of empathy for anyone who disagrees with their point of view describes most people in the world today.

[@VeganWithAraygun]

1) anything by Ayn Rand, 2) Winning through Intimidation by Robert Ringer

[@user-rd6vl8sv1w]

Ayn Rand? lol

[@user-rd6vl8sv1w]

I’d say anyone who mentions they are a vegan in their user name is a narcissist.

[@briandrake6881]

Anything on how to gain power over others would be on any book/movie list of narcs.

[@ISeeFishGanzEgalWo]

They also like to read auto biographies written by powerful men. They want to seem humble by saying they adore these idols, such good men and ideas the whole world should know and live by. In reality they try to be like these idols themselves.

[@michaelgarrow3239]

You should still read these books to be aware of tactics used against you.

[@ExoticalT369]

True.

[@ritalawson7020]

They are nasty bits of work. That's what they are and you don't need them in your life

[@thomasblohm3073]

Definiftely yes; you should know what you can protect yourself and others from. And this is only possible if you see through certain intentions in time.

[@zenscout]

The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me. Ayn Rand

[@lesliekupchanko5001]

When I started studying N. on KZbin and heard this one common trait, I Was SHOCKED Into The reality of N. Exististance. ----- David refused to kiss me...A French-passion-kiss. 10 years later and he still hasn't. (I moved out/left over a month ago) ----- Early on he said it was because he was saving that kiss for our wedding night. While drunk (alcohol, his truth serum) he looked down at me and said "It's because you're not good enough" ------ In 7 years in if studying N. A therapist said that a symptom of N. is withholding kissing. This therapist said it's a symptom that's International. ------ !!!!! Shock or what? ------ The therapist said, "It's as if all Narcissists go to the same school" ------ Yes, they do. Satan is the founder of this school.

[@mrskmac716]

Dale Carnegies book greatly influenced my mother to be the best narcissist she could be.

[@ali-jean]

same

[@Amazinglilflowers]

My uncle once asked me to read and summarize the book “the 48 laws of power” because I loved to read. I tried to read it and was utterly disgusted and told him it’s the worst book on this planet. I wish I had read it so I would have been able to recognize the signs of toxic ppl. Still only managed to read the summary. That book is triggering

[@joanb8489]

This is one of your very best videos. 🙏

[@aloksrivastava7938]

My guess is: "The Prince" by Machiavelli. I tried reading it, but I couldn't go beyond a few pages. My disgust for the lessons taught was too much.

[@user-rd6vl8sv1w]

I’ve read most of these books. Not a narcissist, just a reader.

[@scmacsart]

As a victum of a narcissistic family i interpreted the art of war as letting the narcissistic type to turn on themselves. I knew that their would be connections to blue bloods on both parents ancestors because the behaviors were extraordinary and that is exactly what i found when i researched the ancestors. Im the only child from both parents and i can tell you these traits definitely get passed down. Not to all the progeny but to enough.

[@ayasibilla]

Alcoholics Anonymous should be on this list 😂

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

I agree.

[@freedomnsurvival8472]

you are right there

[@fightback397]

Why ? Aren't they supposed to help alcoholjcs ?

[@jangunning1676]

Why is that your opinion??

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

@@jangunning1676 it's very cult like and dogmatic.

[@PaulaSmith-c3r]

Dexter the psychopath was his favourite TV programme. The matrix was his favourite film.

[@narcabusecoach]

No wonder Andrew Tate is obsessed with the Matrix

[@paulineklostermann5877]

My narcessistic son in law liked also Dexter and films about psygopaten

[@jangunning1676]

​@@paulineklostermann5877 What is psygopaten? Dare I ask.....lol

[@AM-..]

@@jangunning1676me too🤔

[@Dj.D25]

I enjoyed Dexter, not really for his sense of justice, but was curious how he became what he was, trying to understand his monologues and why he did what he did. Also, how smart he was to avoid getting caught was sort of entertaining too. And mainly because the first few seasons have great storytelling and writing.

[@sheru8786]

I don't know whether he read these books or not but he told me that he loves reading self help book and was insisting me to start reading it( when we were friends). I cannot read a self help book rather fictional story because I can connect with story and character then some tips in a book. He is very knowledgeable overall so I thought that he is smart. But when is real side was exposed after we were in relationship, he is the stupidest person ever known to me

[@OptimisticMaya]

OMG, my ex narc was the one who introduced me to the 48 Laws of Power book many years ago. I read it and there was a lot that I didn’t feel comfortable about. It didn’t occur to me that my ex was actually using the tactics against me !! It all makes sense now

[@Sempreinsieme-y1x]

Many narcissists do not need books to know how to exploit people...they have a sort of natural gift for evil and manipulating..

[@vernonschmidt6514]

art of war, dt spock, Machiavelli, the secret, and how to win friends and influence people are my picks before I watch the video. I wonder if I will even know the ones the video actually lists.

[@JasonJones-x5e]

Great video today I just recently parted ways with a group of people that were part of a break away society and in all their 📚 📚 they use this tactic to a apear virtuous but after many years of being involved with this group I realized that they were extremely narcissistic and this was exactly what they were doing so I decided it best not "ascend" any further on my journey with people like this through their "MATRIX" of illusions. 📝

[@memmemayer9622]

Definitely the Christian holy Bible or any religious texts. That's all I got.

[@lorettajoy7275]

Yes, same here, and unless someone has been immersed in these by religion for purposes of control, the impact can't be fully understood.

[@memmemayer9622]

@lorettajoy7275 narcs just tend to cherry pick what's to their own benefit. Like the Christian "honor thy father & mother" thing. Both my parents are/we're narcs (1 still living & just won't DIE!).

[@lorettajoy7275]

@@memmemayer9622 I was in a strict religion in which we were to do EVERYTHING the preacher said, even when it changed within weeks or only applied to certain people. We weren't to question either, even during obvious lying and other abusive behaviors. That would mean not being "obedient/submissive" to the "man of Gd". Now i know that particular preacher was a narcissist, as well as at least some members of his family who ran that church like a cult. (Cults are probably led by narcs nearly 100 percent of the time.) This led to nex coming into my life, and he built on what that religion had taught, and i was supposed to be obedient & submissive to him! I'm sorry you went through that with your parents, and hope it gets easier.

[@memmemayer9622]

@lorettajoy7275 thank you. Sorry you went through that as well with your church & meeting your ex. Glad we're both learning about it/ narcs now though. Imagine if we had a dollar for every time we learn something new about these types of people? I hope you're finding your peace freedom happiness and sanity now. Those things are all priceless. ❤️💯🎉

[@lorettajoy7275]

@@memmemayer9622 Thank you so much. Nex often insinuated (even spread rumors) that i was "cuckoo", but amazingly i've had saner actions than the narcs i've known.☺ Feeling SAFE is also the best experience ever, when you've lived its opposite. Lately i HAVE been finding peace freedom and happiness indeed, and i wish these for you as well! Priceless indeed.🥰

[@PatGusoff]

My mother didn't read any of these books. She "wrote her own agenda. Me first! She would compliment herself about looks and education (went to 11th grade while siblings went to only 4th) Quit school due to depression in 1929.

[@pastelsky4236]

I think now we should read these books too. So that we can already predict their next move😅

[@jangunning1676]

Oh, those of us who have delt with them long enough or delt with numerous narcs could write our own book on their behavior predictions because we've already lived it! Those authors have nothing on us! 😁 💯👍💥💥

[@AM-..]

@@jangunning1676I’m sure there’s info in those books that we haven’t encountered yet. I started to read a little bit of my ex’s Bible. (48 Laws of Power). This book opens up one’s mind and is very influential. I stopped reading it, I don’t want my spirit tainted by what is in there. I’ll rely on God & my intuition. I overlooked the red flags in individuals, but no more will I be going that. 13:13

[@jangunning1676]

@@AM-.. Thank you for your reply! Maybe you are correct on the info in those books. I tend to lean more towards your opinion of not wanting your spirit to be tainted. I guess a big factor is ones mindset before consuming any or all the information to begin with. I'm not sure what to do because my grown son has that book and he also read " The Art of War" back in late high school. I have not read either book or the others people have mentioned. However, from learning here from Danish and a few others, let's just say the puzzle pieces are slowly starting to fall in place. If only I had had awareness years ago, so much would be different now!! Not just with him, but with other people as well who have narcissistic characteristics that crossed my path or I theirs. Let's just say, with my son......it's been a very difficult year. What a story and unbelievable what I have been through. Devastated, heartbroken, disappointed, betrayed......just the beginning of words that still do not convey the pain of the revelations that have come to light. Perhaps those books might be of some help but, perhaps not. I think I will rely on what God brings to light in clarity only He can give as I have always done. One might say He did by this video..... ponderous indeed. Thoughts? Opinions? 🙂🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏

[@malcolmwaddilove1822]

Manuals on how to live,mind over matter etc, is it any wonder there lives are such a facade,and act,a pretend,a falsehood,a script to follow come what may or who gets in there way! As I've witnessed the debris of broken discarded lives in her wake including my own,thank god I'm out of a four&half year relationship,I do feel so sorry for her.

[@beanallene]

My narcissist treats The Art of War like the bible. In fact, when he filed for divorce, he took that book with him instead of his bible 😬

[@DavidRandallCurtis]

Fascinating video!

[@Q-154]

He explains it perfectly 4:00 min in. The problem isn’t the book itself, it’s how the narcissist reads it. Maybe I’m just way too open minded, but I don’t think you should shy away from anything if you’re able to tolerate it. I have 4 of these books, and many mentioned in the comments. But then again I purposely buy books that contradict each other and are on opposite sides of whatever spectrum or topic they’re on. I’ll go from Marx and Lenin to Hit-ler, Keynes to Milton Friendman and Mises, Chomsky and Ron Paul, the Quran to the Bible to the Torah. I still believe it depends on the person. I love both Dave Ramsey and Robert Kiyosaki, have learned a lot from them and taken and used what I feel works for me, and they are polar opposites. Maybe I just pick things apart too much and am able to take things here and there from reading, leaving behind what I feel doesn’t work as opposed to having to accept something like it’s an all or nothing decision. Edit: I also have my degree in psychology and am in the field so I have always been fascinated by how people think, act, and incorporate their beliefs into their lives. Probably a big reason why I enjoy reading things I don’t necessarily agree with.

[@aparna1170]

Love.. love.. love.. I agree . They all have the same source and they practice it one at a time and look vulnerable til it is acceptable

[@Joe_Goofball]

As I recall, Macchiavelli said "It's better to be loved AND feared, than loved or feared."...

[@deebee4622]

Just wondering if reading those books might help us open our eyes to the devices of Narcissists.

[@jangunning1676]

I'd say be careful of that. For some it might, for others I'd say there's risk of high influence in a negative way. If you understand my meaning. Danish, what's your opinion here? I would rather get our education of "opening our eyes to the devices of narcissists" through professional people like Danish. I don't need any more confusion than I've already lived because of narcissistic trauma and abuse. 🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏🫂❤️ Well done video Danish!! Thank you for all you do here! 😁💚💚💚💚

[@AM-..]

@@jangunning1676 I agree, you kind of have to study the book as with 48 laws of power. I read some of it when I came across book. I did not like what i was reading &did not want to continue. I could see how it could influence individuals for evil. It belonged to ex husband who was studying it like it was a Bible.

[@firesha-x]

No you are just teaching yourself how to be evil. Avoid 🤍

[@AM-..]

@@firesha-xagree 💯%

[@NothingCompares2U]

Survivalism, all survival books everywhere. I just got into them myself growing up.

[@danielscott8180]

All these books are good to understand those that try to manipulate you. The Art of War, as an exception, actually teaches you how to deal with narcissists such as the most important piece of advice: "If you sit by the river for long enough, you will see the body of your enemy float by." Unlike the narcissist who is always seeking some pitiful revenge, this book teaches you not to respond as they will destroy themselves. When taken out of the context of the battlefield, this quote works well when dealing with a narcissist. Also, covert narcissists won't read these books.

[@sameyeam5277]

I found one when I divorced my wife. It was a to use gaslighting and manipulation to influence behavior. She didn’t need a book. She was already a Jedi knight in dark traits.

[@jangunning1676]

😬😂

[@ritalawson7020]

That's right they don't need a book they are just nasty

[@ColleenHogan-v6p]

Heard of 3 & 4. I am actually shocked 😳

[@AlvinKazu]

I'm surprised to hear "The Art of War," but since it's been so popular the last number of years on Social Media, it makes sense it could be used for evil.

[@melissamissyvillafrakes9131]

When We First Met, He Asked If I Ever Read The 48 Laws Of Power And Art Of Seduction. I Regret Not Looking Into It, But I'm Healing From The Abuse.

[@aidanjohnwalsh2129]

I've noted the attraction of narcissists to one, Brene Braun, her insight twists well for manipulatory purposes... the "you don't love yourself" routine only works once though, then you're immune to that bullshit. [.. Oh, you're into Brene? Lovely meeting you! Bye..]

[@yuwanajoannazemoh4349]

The Prince The 48 Laws of Power How to win friends and influence All religious books are tool of manipulations to rationalize their acts The Acts of war Kundera's Unbeatable being

[@Sound-Eater]

What is their motive for reading Kundera's book in your opinion?

[@jangunning1676]

​@@Sound-EaterWhat's that one about? I've never heard of it.

[@Sound-Eater]

@@jangunning1676 It's a pretty well-known title, I remember listening to a piece on audiobook 10 years ago, but it didn't grab me. But I'm reading on the internet now that the book is about a guy who fell in love with a woman, but he still stays in a polygamous lifestyle. So maybe for narcissists this book is a justification for such behavior

[@philyeary8809]

All religions, huh....sounds.... Narcissistic.

[@ThaiSoup39]

Note

[@xenajade6264]

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini was the main book my ex narc was obsessed with. He loved it because it gave him strategies to manipulate others while making him feel quietly and smugly superior. He concealed his motives, love bombed, breadcrumbed and discarded me. Classic narcissist, they all seem to have the same playbook. His facial expressions still haunt me; contempt, disgust and smug superiority. That look on his face kinda destroyed me on the inside for quite a while.

[@sambudd7592]

48 laws of power left me with a sickening feeling. The historical context throughout showed how society, of the hierarchy, operates!

[@davidfleming7887]

Wayne Dryer was very interesting. He said whenever you have a choice to be right or be kind, choose kindness.

[@aparna1170]

There is a community called Brahmin community in India. Parents give it to children. They give that book How to influence people to have friends. I had Brahmin friends who used to laugh saying how they were able to fool using those tactics. They used to encourage me to read it. I walked away from them. Inspite of it all, I couldn’t spot ex pulling it on me. I didn’t suspect him as he didn’t come from a Brahmin community. Someone I knew told me that ex’s community behave like Brahmin community but i dismissed that person and now I am paying the price for the disrespect I showed to that person.

[@marymorningstar6832]

THANKYOU your insight is unique as you understand the spiritual distortions of narcisism

[@lilysleisure1918]

It's always a pleasure to learn from you Danish

[@88KUNGFUMAN]

There are just as many NON narcissists who read these books. It's also worth mentioning there are many narcissists who do not read---anything.

[@8931888]

Most interesting and something never knew - actual books like manuals describing the very methods of their character. 😮 Learnt something completely new . Thank-you

[@budhancock5719]

Love Your Work 🏢! And this episode is an absolute banger.

[@l.5832]

My ex had "How to Win Friends and Influence People" We were married before the 48 Laws book was published. He also loved books on war.

[@Risha-ig9we]

Thanku for coverong this t opic.. my narsisisct husband reads lots of psycology books... And it makes me afraid... fear... What more will be learn to control others...

[@naomilu9910]

I had guessed the last two. I'm not surprised by the third. The first two I haven't heard of before, but I trust that you are correct.

[@Xianne027]

Thanks for bringing up this topic, Danish. No one else has.

[@louisduplessis2075]

Interesting take...as a book lover...and interested in outwitting these "people "...I found it informative.

[@MrsNatS87]

Hmm idk about Carnegie..i read it.. and we discussed about it.. that surely U can misuse everything in it if u Just understand it in a negativ Manipulation.. A narcisst uses every book against u , while an Empathic Person learns with all of those books .. so it is Not about the book itself but what u do with it

[@tmw7550]

Oh my gosh! My narcissistic mums favourite book she has read multiple times she brags about is how to win friends and influence people! WOW you are right on the money you are sooo right! But the ironic thing is my mum has never had any real/true friends!

[@haramichael1340]

They say knowledge is power,so if you're lazy to read or research things about life then you will always call people narcissists. And all books you mentioned here I finish reading last year and now am on the next stage.

[@mechanicalpirate664]

As former stock broker we read alot of this stuff for selling tactics this is always common in business.