The SHOCKING Truth About Narcissistic Abuse and Its 5 Devastating Mental Consequences

[@narcabusecoach]

Book a 1:1 session with Danish danish.dayschedule.com/session

[@Deborah-uw5ip]

Hello Danish, FYI...I tried this link and it's not working. Also the link in your email. I would like to book a session with you. Thanks.

[@narcabusecoach]

@@Deborah-uw5ip Hi Deborah. Apologies for the inconvenience caused. The link is working now

[@Deborah-uw5ip]

@@narcabusecoach Thank you, I'll try it now.

[@kevinbell888]

In these times, this isn't incidental - they MALICIOUSLY intend to INFLICT MENTAL and EMOTIONAL trauma and distress! I assure you many of these evil doers act with great deliberate planning.

[@Deborah-uw5ip]

@@kevinbell888 And it's a hard pill to swallow.

[@jane84321]

Narcissist abuse literally almost killed me.

[@Bolllie43]

You are a warrior..... I'm glad you survived 🙏

[@jane84321]

@@Bolllie43 Thank you and my best wishes to you.

[@EiriniKaranika]

Yes. I feel like my mother is the epitome of death.

[@marytaylor9504]

I Became A WARRIOR!!!!

[@SarahMThompson-m9l]

@@jane84321 me too

[@atmosrepair]

If they are ruining your day, everyday, then they are ruining your life!

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

yes.

[@LarsGsanger]

I know!🥲

[@sueb7217]

@@atmosrepair he says “ I’ve only ever wanted you to be happy “ then was horrible, angry , resentful and hurt me with cruel words and put downs ! Ended up full of anxiety and fear , just existing not living

[@CherylHCheri]

Thank you

[@DrinksNthinks94]

Don’t remind us, we will make sure to do that , thanks tho

[@DenshaOtoko2]

You can't heal unless you get away from them.

[@SarahMThompson-m9l]

Unfortunately, when you have children with the person, the abuse doesn’t end

[@SallyNegus]

@@SarahMThompson-m9l Especially when in my case it was the gift that kept on giving...meaning my two beautiful children unfortunately inherited the schism...they were 3 and 1 years..a girl and boy...beautiful good kids until puberty...I've read everything including listening to a tremendous number of internet experts....depending on how the genetic dice gets rolled all bets are off regarding inheritence.....they not only got the negative but I have to admit, they inherited the gifts...high intellect, photographic memory, artistic and musical..all wonderful...but the negative (also depression and drug/alcohol issues) too that made it so they have had what I would call "failure to launch " in life...I could go on but you get the picture.....hope your kids have your spirit/personality....

[@marytaylor9504]

@@DenshaOtoko2 I Praise God that I was rescued and delivered from evil!!!!

[@marjet2228]

@@DenshaOtoko2 No contact is the only way. And save your children, keep them away from the abuse. They will thank you later once they have found it out for themselves.

[@kkw-pal1178]

True 😢

[@Layla-vw1sz]

This should be codified in legal terms as assault I'm responding to some of those who commented on this post but it is not showing up.

[@marytaylor9504]

Yes I AGREE!!!!

[@george-annwood7526]

ME TOO!!!

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

They don't make laws against themselves. 😄

[@rosieE121]

@@oOIIIMIIIOo very good point

[@freedomforusa1658]

The 'assault of the brain'. Not sure how a court room could prove the trauma to be true willfully.

[@beanallene]

I'm definitely in a state of constant anxiety. The narcissist is gone, things are calm, and it is so unsettling. It's like I don't understand how to relax anymore.

[@MaryCauchi]

I totally understand....I was like that ...can still get like that at times as one of my adult children suffers this from trauma suffered. I am 68 and only partly recovered after narcissists mother and ex.. which led to illness and lots more

[@jakeansell5408]

I can understand that

[@cassiebennet4262]

They train their victims to be in fight or flight mode constantly. Over time you can heal and become more relaxed.

[@diginandpitchin]

@@cassiebennet4262🙏🏾

[@TaylorElizabethHunt]

It’s waiting for the next horror

[@shimidharma]

Depression, paranoia, sadness low self worth, brain fog, looping thoughts bursts of crying and body pain and rashes all over, cortisol issues in my body have made this body a living hell! As I mentioned in our session … but I having a hard time shutting down my nervous system …. It’s stuck in fight or flight .

[@jessicahoskins8606]

You described it perfectly. It took me a year and a half after breaking up and no contact to feel 95% healthy in mind and body again

[@miminini9857]

​@@jessicahoskins8606am in no contact too since 8 months. Blocked all mutual friends. Much better now. I still have some psychological aftereffects. Doing some exercises, gardening....to avoid me from ruminating. Wish u the best 😊

[@heyjude1101]

I'm sorry honey it may pass with time. Don't lose your faith. God bless!

[@Jathinr]

Have you tried full spectrum CBD oil , it is good for anxiety, depression, lack of sleep and concentration etc.

[@phylliscurtner5578]

I know what you mean. Stuck in survival mode.. horrible way to have to live.

[@taylormorrisett8495]

Amen - We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities power and rulers of darkness in high places!

[@Michelle-mq5cw]

AMAN

[@pianoreigns]

Ephesians 👍

[@ShineBright-m5b]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@richardbowman7057]

Yes!!! Pray 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@GJCHSMM]

I have always said.....remove all toxic people from your environment and take care of yourself BEFORE you allow ANYONE to apply any diagnosis to you ❤

[@vickievans6853]

That would be a major improvement and move in the right direction, then seeking Jesus Chrisr with a humble spirit, a teachable spirit and a grateful heart, He came to set the captives free, truly free.In every way, through his help and guideance.

[@GJCHSMM]

@@vickievans6853 the seeking of Jesus Christ, although He is not lost would honestly come first.

[@ladyb7327]

The Sweetest Revenge: Live The Sweet Life

[@raminrouchi202]

That is literally the only way to fight back

[@PetrinaDanielsMcMoore-ps9pn]

I AM A WARRIOR NOT A WORRIER!!!! 🙏🙏🙏AMEN🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@deborahwales1717]

@PetrinaDanielsMcMoore-ps9pn very good!

[@shazzorama]

Excellent ❣️

[@SoOkThenLetsGo]

@@PetrinaDanielsMcMoore-ps9pn like it. Now to believe it and become it

[@StavroulaAlexandridis]

Gods warrior!!!! Jesus is the winner

[@ChariCole-c2t]

The person who cares the least in a relationship has the upper hand.

[@Michelle-mq5cw]

Partiality is causality!

[@lindaj71]

@@ChariCole-c2t Or so it seems…until the tide turns.

[@ChariCole-c2t]

@@lindaj71 , my tide turned with my narcissist.

[@doreenevans5945]

Very profound observation.

[@naveedrehman2987]

anxiety depression dissociative disorder complex traumatic disorder post traumatic stress disorder

[@shannonwashburn4126]

High blood pressure, and it's accompanied ailments, as well.The narc can literally kill you! And blame you .

[@Rohityourface]

Addiction

[@jolesliewhitten6545]

I got Chronic Fatigue and Fibromyalgia after years of narcissistic abuse.

[@cherrydomingo8545]

Auto immune deficiency sickness, psoriasis, diabetes, shingles

[@shireenramnarain4005]

But theres no help from authorities to stop this ...to help ...narcissist victims are vulnerable...

[@justmemother2]

My narc Dad destroyed my Mother. After 65 years of marriage, my mother finally succumbed to heart failure. It was horrible as a child to watch her go through all of the abuse, not having anywhere to turn. As an adult I tried to get her to divorce him, to walk away from him. She felt responsible for him after so many years of marriage and she became his mother not his wife. He is now in a nursing rehab and they want to discharge him to me. I don't want him back. I love him as my father, but I hated him as my mother's husband. Thanks to Danish there is hope that once he is gone, I can start to rebuild myself. As my Mother did, I have many issues such as the ones Danish mentions here. It's a long hard road ahead, but with God's help, we can do it. 🙏❤️

[@diginandpitchin]

😢🙏🏾 Thank God for giving you clarity.

[@TamiE1978]

Heart problems are common....so sorry..understand.

[@bobbibenesh3186]

DO NOT take him in. Did that with the narc father-in-law. Ex was a narc as well. Made them both leave. Torturous.

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

My son graduated. I left. I waited far far too long..but...

[@marjet2228]

@@justmemother2 My narc dad died after 65 years of marriage. My mother nursed him on his deathbed but it was too hard. She found a nursing facility, that lasted just a few days. She was at her wits end. Thank God it ended all. I am wondering if she is capable of normal family relations. She associated too much with his lifestyle and she suffered from it at the same time. Could narcissism be contagious? Or are these narc traits she already had that have developed further?

[@geonav1]

Memory Loss, and falling asleep when confronted with stress. Please consider these. They happened to me.

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

yes. but sleep can dissapear as well. In the end when you have completely destroyed your adrenals from decades insane stress, within minutes you turn from hyper to burnout and can sleep an utterly exhausted sleep anywhere. I was teaching and would just crash in the five minutes between classes, utterly exhauasted

[@geonav1]

@@lauchlanguddy1004 Me too. Between business calls, sitting in my office chair. I didn't remember falling asleep, just waking up. Weird.

[@GG-ul8ne]

THESE were so prevalent for me. I'm so sorry that, bc of suffering these two things, it was so difficult to protect our daughter from her dad/my late husband.

[@gloria2340]

Sleeping is what I do to shut down and stop my brain thinking. It's a good form of relief.

[@geonav1]

@@gloria2340 A friend of mine recently said, "Like you, I also meditate. I call it sleeping". A little humor in an otherwise serious subject.

[@aida_9902]

Please be careful everyone! I was mentally healthy when I was young, but My narcissist father and boyfriend caused me ocd and anxiety, now I’m faithful to get healed by the Grace of Jesus

[@PricelessJesus]

Aww x hugs same here

[@deborahwales1717]

@@PricelessJesus yes! God is slowly healing me as I've been trying to say.

[@deborahwales1717]

@aida_9902 hmmm, I'm interested in your username. Is that from the opera aida by verdi?

[@plcl7157]

Thats not what happened but I'm glad u feel better

[@therealaayan]

Our mental illness, caused by narcissists, will heal over time. But trust me! the suffering narcissists will endure is just as dangerous, if not worse, and it will haunt them for eternity.

[@jeanaallison7236]

I hope so. He is diabolical 😢🙏😓

[@Isabela2024-yr]

Somehow, the narcissist here stopped gaslighting me. I suspected something else was happening. He's quiet for a long time now, but I noticed something is going on. He's frequently locking himself in the bathroom in which I wondered many times. I just found out why narcissists locked themselves in the bathroom from one of the online narcissistic psychologists. My suspicion was right. He's gaslighting people online and flirting with men or women. What a dork? So stupid human being. I can't believe it. I confronted him about it. He got tongue tied, He's so surprised. How did I found out about it. I think he doesn't know I am an emphat. I could feel what's going on around me. I warned him to free the bathroom for other users. He's not the only person living in the house. If there's a emergency to use the bathroom, no one can access it. I'm watching the coward closely. I gave him an ultimatum. No bathroom locking anymore. 5 minutes is the most.

[@mayadove_7]

Amen 🙏 😢

[@ChinaSu-i3k]

This makes me so sad. It’s not the narcissist’s fault.😢

[@paulettelamontagne6992]

Nada que no quiero

[@Dawid-n6e]

Its a vicious circle...caused my mental illnesses...I fought back...they thought they broke me...They made me mentaly stronger...In future i will choose my own circle without them...

[@edl6398]

Trauma dumping. I’ve done this for years and didn’t know what it was. Now I do. Thank you.

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

yes. I did it, survival mechanism.

[@sperosversis3678]

You are not alone. I didn't realize it had a clinical name until a few years ago. My god; the friends/acquaintences and co workers I tortured for years... thinking I was just "being real." I keep getting better about either NOT begining or catching myself while doing it. I've gone out of my way to apologize to several people who were on the recieving end, they've been very good about it. The others, who put distance or completely stopped speaking to me, I respect their choice and give them the space they asked for by walking away.

[@heyoldman2003]

mine is extrem depression and apathy. i can’t get back on track . coffee, red bulls ect don’t do anything.. but i’m happy i’m still here and away from the abuser. thank you Danish

[@fightback397]

I stopped with coffee which i consider a huge victory . I need to take up sport to get some energy . My wounds are deep and sometimes i wonder if i ever regain some joie de vivre .

[@user-np4ge5wy4o]

God bless you and give you strength and grace my friend. Pray , you are precious to God .

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

@@user-np4ge5wy4o Gods the ultimate narcissist. Why pray to someone that treats his whole creation like shit when he can fix all of it at any time?

[@heyjude1101]

Did you try some faith, a mainstream church with a nice congregation, I hit on a lovely church with really loving members, they have helped me; I go to bible study and Sunday service. But know that all churches are not full of loving people. Sometimes they resent someone new coming into their environment. It's a process. Don't get discouraged just keep trying.

[@heyoldman2003]

@@heyjude1101 i do have a Church i have gone to for years . the Pastor was my counselor for over a year . at one point he asked me “ you do realize your in a abuseive relationship?” i just figured it was a messed up marriage. i took my wedding vows very seriously and hung on for 40 years hoping and Praying things would get better.. sadly they never did . i still have great Faith but … my Prayers were never answered 😞. i am very happy in one side and soooo sad and depressed in the other. thank you Jude for your interest 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@chelseaananda2831]

Filled with so much hate and hopelessness. Yup. Constantly depressed. Yup. Don’t recognize myself anymore. Yup. Thank God he’s leaving - I’m all used up.

[@PricelessJesus]

Let him. Take it from me! I am freed now x relief

[@diginandpitchin]

🙏🏾

[@cindyolson5264]

Wish you best!

[@cookiegalleria6916]

My dad is a Narcissist and I was then married to a Narcissist for 25 years. I am 64. always in fight or flight, even when I think I am relaxed. I cannot make decisions, I have major anxiety and health issues. I am so mentally and emotionally exhausted, and I am not as productive as I was. My body is also weaker. I used to be muscular, and strong, but I had a major ankle injury, cannot workout, and I feel physically weak, and have put on weight. He stole all my money, was so abusive, and now I have to start over, which is overwhelming. He is an evil person.

[@EmilyWilliams-o8i]

I completely understand. My evil narsist did the same to myself. I am totally afraid of people. How do you ever trust anyone again? They look human but are evil.

[@wendyguymer5327]

You can do it!! I was married to a N for nearly 40 years.Praise God He helped me as l looked to Him and helped with good non-N friends

[@tarajoyce3598]

Ditto. The difference is I'm 60. 🤗

[@emurillo8573]

I’m praying for you 🙏🏼❤

[@Empresstinnita]

Been through same thing like you. I need the grace to overcome.

[@RoxanneSchmidt-c9t]

Danish you are a valuable jewel to this KZbin community . I thank you deeply for all your wise support . This video was especially helpful. 😊

[@annrodriguez2891]

The BEST ❤

[@Nelikaful]

@@annrodriguez2891 SO true!

[@Susan-lf2hl]

How perfectly you say this

[@mayadove_7]

The Monster gave my mother depression, trauma, anxiety and my brother schizophrenia.. killed them both. I’m not sure if they were born evil or just became demon possessed over time. Truly sad and sick stuff.

[@deborahwales1717]

@Charmainecharmainecharmaine narcissists are thought to be possessed by 7 demonic spirits. They are therefore demonicly driven. That means it is not the person doing evil to you, but the demonic spirits in them.

[@terrydyer2490]

I feel your pain. My evil narcissistic demon daughter killed my husband, her father.. I've been destroyed beyond repair.

[@mayadove_7]

@@terrydyer2490 I’m so sorry. May you heal and be comforted ❤️🙏 May I ask how she did? Or what mental illness it caused?

[@terrydyer2490]

​@Charmainecharmainecharmaine 😢 😢 This is just a part of my long nightmare. My husband and I were mentally and verbally abused by our evil narcissistic demon of an adult daughter, For years. It got so bad that the stress cause an emotional breakdown for my husband, One day he started crying uncontrollably with him gasping for air ( this is a guy that never cried because of his upbringing of men don't cry ) He was asking what he did wrong on raising her to be so evil then he collapsed and took his last breath 4 years and 11 months ago. She always had anger issues since she was a teen, but we chopped it up as just being a teen and hormons since she seemed to be a very well-rounded person overall. We noticed the changes in her as she got older and thought she was bipolar. But it was too late for us to get her help because she was over 18. She wouldn't amit that she has mental problems and get help. By the time I learned about narcissism, it was too late. The trauma damage was already done. In those horrible years of walking on eggshells, she had us under her control because she was kicked out of her ex-husband's home for stepping out on him and the trauma she caused. She ended back with us because she was homeless and 3 months pregnant with another's man child. So, of course, we took her in. She was lying from the start, telling us her marriage failed because he was abusing her physically. I know different now. We tried to help her, going through her pregnancy and the birth, then she couldn't handle being a mother. She wouldn't do what a mother should do and we ended up raising our grandson until he was 6 years old. She hunted down for a new supply because my husband became disabled and we couldn't give her a free ride anymore. We asked her to start paying her own way because if she didn't we would end up homeless. That pissed her off, and she really got bad. She finally found a nieve 24 year old guy, 6 years younger than her, Within 3 months, she manipulated and lied to him and they moved in together. Then she trapped him by getting pregnant. My husband I ended up homeless with her stalking us and still messing with our heads using our grandson against us. Then my husband died. She destroyed me beyond repair. I have been abandoned by everyone,... She made sure of that with her lies.. I went no contact but it is slowly killing me from the inside out. I can't have a relationship with my grandson. I can't function anymore. I'm the one who is at fault somehow. And you know what.. I'm starting to believe I must be. I'm just a failure and a lost cause.. I can not heal . It hurts so much. I'm so tired of trying. I just want to die.

[@Danii9921]

@@terrydyer2490wtf….

[@JasonJones-x5e]

I'm overcoming decades of severe narcissistic abuse and I battle with most of these things especially chronic fatigue and complex PTSD

[@mia_1969]

I am going thru the same things. I know u and I are not alone. So many walking wounded from Narc abuse!

[@JasonJones-x5e]

@@mia_1969 I realize this now more than ever Mia these channels and the people spreading awareness about these issues have been so impowering for me.

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

have some PTSD, but not extreme.

[@stephenklebold517]

Go back to childhood pain to acknowledge unresolved grief then you will realize why you were attracted to the narcissist in first place. Be mindful and practice self compassion before getting into any future relationships. You never need to take care of others issues to feel loved. This us due to unresolved childhood wounds. To thy self be true ❤

[@stephenklebold517]

Narcissism and Co dependency are both sides of the same coin. Learn to love yourself and heal yourself. It is the enemy within that you actually have a problem with. Unresolved childhood grief and need for self compassion is the answer to not being attracted to a person with NPD. You don't need to heal their wounds but to be kind to yourself

[@br9791]

It took me 3 years twice. Once from my husband abuse, second time from my sister abuse. These people don't care if they destroy you. That's actually their goal. Then they call you crazy. Leave, run. I wish I knew this. I lived through this. Leave and don't let them manipulate you.

[@joseenoel8093]

Hubby did that and they've been doing it since cave man days, still ruling but once you know, thank you everyone!

[@cyndeeappling404]

Same. Ran from hubby and his murdering son to jabe my sister use me and my kids for food stamps and house repairs. To be discarded and homeless because I refused her abuse and control. Ugh.

[@princessak21]

Ufffff you just explained my life story 😢

[@deborahwales1717]

@@br9791 and doesn't it drive you crazy when you merely mention the word narcissist to someone and they look at you as if you are the one who is mental !!!!!!!

[@ruthd0807]

You are a survivor and an inspiration to others who have suffered from narcissistic abuse. ❤

[@lydiadoyle1163]

Im blessed protecyed surrounded by angels only God has the authority

[@lydiadoyle1163]

Just say No to any toxic person

[@nadyatytian279]

Why does that sound too easy and banal?

[@veronicaladd5821]

Can't do it

[@gigiarmany]

that's not how it works unfortunately.. victims are often conditioned from earliest childhood to accept unacceptable boundary breaches.. narcs have an uncanny radar for these vulnerable ppl..they hide their true nature for ages until they have solidly entrapped & trauma bonded you..its an almost impossibility to avoid them under these circumstances..

[@hettykoster9447]

A Mental Merry-Go-Round …..So Exhausting …..😔

[@susanzimmer1776]

Absolutely!!! I can't stabilize my nerves, AND my children aren't helping, because they went through the same thing! they use me,as their therepy!!!! THAT isn't helpful,to move on, but after 45 YEARS of marriage, divorced me and his children

[@susanzimmer1776]

thanks for your words! Yes,long, scary rollercoaster!!!!!!

[@Michelle-mq5cw]

Only with narcissist/the only emotional rollercoasters in the Universe! E438291SCI

[@matthewridgeway9250]

How much damage does narcissism cost society? This is a study that is very much needed. The damage can destroy lives as it has done to me. There needs to be a cost evaluation otherwise good people are destroyed beyond repare.

[@summacumsoap8983]

I've thought about this a lot.. Given how long it takes to come to some awareness of the issue just by the listeners here, advanced ages, soo much loss of production, financial loss, medical costs, on & on. . If like penalties were applied to the damage done by harm - intentionally - to victims of narcissistic abuse, as are to perpetrators of legal transgressions, our prisons would be even more overrun than are now We won't see this in our lifetime, but right here is a good place to start. Wish you well 🙏🕊️💜

[@pervezakbar5828]

Hi Danish, I watch your program everyday ,it has been helping me . Today I went out with my narcissist wife,she was shouting at me and cursing me I felt like crashing the car into a tree and kill both of us. Then I thought about advice and calmed down. I am 75 years old and my wife is 68. I am more knowledgeable now. My wife and her two sisters and a brother are narcissist they got it from their father. To make things worse we 3 brothers are married to 3 narcissist sisters. Keep up the good work. Thanks

[@heyjude1101]

Stay clear as much as possible, I'm no therapist but that would be my advice. Too many narcissdist to handle in that family.

[@AC-np4dn]

Its not too late to walk away from her and have some peace and emotional balance in your life. You dont need this toxic behaviour at this stage of you life. Walk away from her and go no contact.

[@rocky1raquel]

Sounds like a pattern… we Tend to seek what is familiar

[@gracesanity6314]

I learned to not talk about it much. To give it no energy. I did not want to re traumatize myself. It would have taken longer to let go. It was a journey to feeling nothing for him. 2 years of solitude, study, sleep was my healer.

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

At home in the end, I basically did not speak at all.

[@amandapalomino4710]

You are really helping me break the chains of a 10 yr Cycle. Thank you so much.

[@n0426]

Wow creating a new personality.. that is so real it’s crazy when you look at yourself in the mirror and don’t know who you are. It’s so hard to fake a smile!

[@deborahwales1717]

@n0426 I've had a psychologist dislike me because they thought I was so negative. They tried to tell me to start saying positive things. No way I was going to obey her ignorance!

[@n0426]

@@deborahwales1717 what the hell. What kind of psychologist is that. One of my family members would always tell me to go pray and read the holy book. That doesn’t serve me!! Some people just don’t get it.

[@deborahwales1717]

@@n0426 she was highly unprofessional. But God has helped me.

[@n0426]

@@deborahwales1717 he always does and will always do. Self isolation is the best way to heal yourself mentally. It has been proven in many religions too.

[@Ryuuzaki145]

​@@deborahwales1717Depending on how she told you to tell nice things, it isn't necessarily a bad advice though. Not saying the pain isn't real, just... being a little bit more positive about stuff can help getting yourself out of paralysis -- And by positivity, I'm talking about being kind with yourself and "celebrating" small wins, if that makes sense. Now, without context, I can only try to make sense of it -- with my understanding -- so I might be wrong here. She might simply not be a good fit for you either, either way as long as you have a better therapist for you now!

[@tarey05]

Brilliant analysis and life-saving advice, Danish! Now in the West, we"re dealing with that abuse from our central governments. The evilness of Others just never ends. 😮

[@chocolate4135]

I think I've developed ptsd. I practically jump out of my skin everytime he's coming home from work😮😢

[@k.johnson6198]

yeah …your body is telling you to leave …because it only gets worse

[@rosieE121]

​@@k.johnson6198I left long ago but still have PTSD.

[@susanlamphere9004]

It has to stop for your own good! I was scared of my husband too. Get help.

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

yes you are always like a hyper cat, just like a coiled spring all the time.

[@EmilyWilliams-o8i]

Get away. It only gets worse. As time goes on. You will only get sicker

[@tahiramasood8447]

Oh, God help us. It's awful. I'm so sorry to all of you beautiful people who have suffered in this way. God help us!

[@PatGusoff]

Yes, right on spot! When I was younger thought it was "normal ". Then realized other families weren't like this.Our narcissistic mother made 2 brothers alcoholic. One unfortunately died in car crash due to being drunk. Mom blamed her sisters on wishing him bad luck. Crazy woman!

[@susanawright7757]

So true! My parents, brothers too, I'm blessed to have come out half sane at all!

[@Dont_ask757]

I'm currently watching my brother be consumed by alcoholism, which I believe is a coping mechanism for dealing with his covert narcissist partner, who is the mother of his child. I see through it, and I think she senses it because now I have a target on my back. 🤦

[@KBArchery]

You have explained what I have gone through in better ways than any counselor I have gone too. You are the first to truly validate what I have gone through instead of trying to get me to give mercy grace or forgiveness to the perpetrators. Not one validated what they did. Even EMDR therapy makes you go back in time and actually relive the pain but I was encouraged to see it through the perpetrators eyes. Honestly just a “you didn’t deserve that. They shouldn’t have done that. That was awful. You are strong for having gone through that.” Instead of all this bilateral tapping that honestly just honed my disassociation skills even more. I guess it helps panic attacks? I just want someone to call a spade a spade and you do. Right is right and wrong is wrong. You are an absolute angel and brilliant and using your gifts to help others. I don’t feel so alone anymore. You make me feel heard and seen. Your one statement in this video shook me to my core. “When you have someone so close to you that you should be able to trust (for me- my mother / my husband) betray you of course you are going to not trust people.”

[@susanawright7757]

Wow, shows how bad our counseling, psychologist training is. It's all gone woke even in many Christian circles. I'm sorry you went through these horrific things. You remember and know, you did not cause it nor deserve it. No matter what abusers told you. Luke 17:3 Rebuke the sinner, if he repents forgive him. How does God forgive? When we repent sincerely with crushing sorrow. The People that tell you any different are lost themselves.

[@disgustingwaterSO]

You have illustrated, perfectly, why I will not seek counseling. Thank you for validating me! ❤

[@michellesood4419]

That spade?.....It's a spade!! Never forget that dear soul. I too, unfortunately get it. Trying to completely rebuild my life from scratch due to abuse on a criminal level (with no one being charged)...and I'm too exhausted to even think straight . Stay strong and look forward to life's natural justice to realign and restore and repair all the damage that is extremely undeserved ❤

[@summacumsoap8983]

​@@disgustingwaterSOAgree totally! I made that mistake by paying for treatment centers for couples, going to local Pop therapist, who told me to "lower my standards", right in front of 'him', and w/o any suggestions to 'him'! Other $$ attempts too.. Dr Bashier is the Bomb when he clarifies and stops all the gaslighting by phonies. Wish you the Best 🙏🕊️💜

[@midpac6626]

Thank you, I don’t know what else to say. I appreciate your input and look forward to better days. God Bless you

[@上口秀文-c4y]

NO... I CAN'T SAY THANKED THIS I WILL PROBABLY REMEMBER THEM!

[@garyomason]

I've been with her for 23 years with no end in sight. To this very day she has not grown, is verbally, psychologically and sometimes physically abusive. When she gets abusive her green eyes get orange she starts cursing and begins hitting anything in reach, she starts burping and farting, it's a real display of demonic possession. I stay in prayer and praise all the time. Our kids are grown and gone, I'm tired and lonely, it's crazy. My mental health is questionable. I'm nonviolent, gentle and compassionate but I have a lot of pent-up rage. I have isolated myself to protect myself from her but it has left me without anyone to share love with. I'm going to make it through, thank you for the videos. I'm going to watch more.

[@ts7371]

Pls leave her.

[@garyomason]

@@ts7371 it's tough. Her mom just died. I'm grieving as well and then to think about what her future will be losing her mother and husband all at once.

[@ts7371]

@ Sorry to know this. Sending you strength and healing…

[@上口秀文-c4y]

I NEVER DOUBT TO THEIR BEHAVIOUR IS VERY VERY VERY HELPFUL... I NEVER DESPERATE TO IMPOSSIBILITIES THEIR BEHAVIOUR TO FOREVER LIVE IT. IN MY LIFE OF SCAPY BUT I CAN MAJOR ISSUES, OR I / DISNEY AS IN THEM ABOUT THINKING ETC ETC... SO LIVE IT

[@carolflower9672]

Danish your insight is REMARKABLE !!! Thank You

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

you are good.

[@reethathomas6321]

Sir, you mesg are are like a mirror in my life. My narc husband gangstalked me. Made everyone,( my family, neighbour's, friends )against me. It took 30years to make tham believe that I'm innocent but was in vain. I divorced my hus and here I'm left alone and I have all kind of personality disorder's as you have explaned., children are tone apart, no money, but still I'm surviving by fighting to the life to get back, And I'm sure YESHUA will help me. Thank you Sir. You are unavidable person im my life yes!!!!!I'm surviving ♥️♥️♥️❤️❤️👍♥️♥️♥️👍👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@BruceSlater-yi5wj]

Thank you for your video Very ENLIGHTENING GOD BLESS YOU ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@DevikaAjith-lr1bw]

Thank you sir for your valuable words. My Narcissistic ex discarded me months before our marriage. I was traumatized to my core and become suicidal . Now I am on my healing journey. lt was your videos that brought me back to life . I am really grateful to you sir 🙏

[@lauchlanguddy1004]

I considered suicide, but only as an academic exercise, I NOW fully understand why people give up, but am not a suicidal person, or managed to dodge that bullet

[@mbm3099]

You escaped a lifetime of suffering.... should celebrate.....I got married 😢

[@redruby5689]

My son has anxiety, he loves his narc Father but sees how much damage he has done by being awat from the him. I pray my son finds peace and doesn't become his Father

[@TreFlipJones]

This is crazy. I’ve been taking Xanax and have had chronic anxiety and ever since I went no contact with my gf I have been off the Xanax for 3 weeks and I feel better like I don’t need it aside from withdrawal symptoms. I gave her too many breaks through the years. I’ll never let her back in for the sake of my own mind and peace

[@ruckerbrady8342]

I pray your feeling OK dealing withdrawal. I know the hell of withdrawal from opiates and a little bit from benzo's. Stay no contact and stay strong

[@superluvver3]

You are spot on, i feel like i dont physically exist. My sister is a narc psychpath, she destroyed my small family of mum and dad,she continues to abuse and steal from my mother in a nursing home, she stole all our family photos,my photos,the family will,dads strong pain medication. She even took her allocation of the will before i had executed it. She has turned all my relatives against me,i thought they knew better? Recently she took my mothers rosary beads and her glasses so she cant watch tv,read or view photos. The nursing home dont care even though im paying everything including funerals ect . Im at the end. Ive had too much

[@summerbrooks9922]

You will have to fight the evil with good to your mom. Get her new glasses. That kind of thing. It is a nuisance but it will help your mom

[@phylliscurtner5578]

@@superluvver3 If you are in charge of your mother's care, ban her from seeing your Mom.call legal aid and find out how to charge her with elder abuse.

[@deborahwales1717]

I have heard other so called experts on narcissists describe vulnerable narcissist people and all they do is describe someone like myself with cptsd and make you feel useless. I've endured one useless psychologist after another not to mention psychiatrists. They don't seem to have any knowledge on the signs of narcissistic abuse at all !!!

[@terrydyer2490]

Isn't it so frustrating to reach out for help with a professional and they sit there and look at you dumbfounded because they don't understand and have no knowledge of these evil narcissistic demons. ????? If they can't help you why can't they find someone who can. I have to Waite until they figure out they are not helping and making me feel worst. Then they say something like our sessions are over because the insurance company only allows so many visits and they will not pay for anymore. Then I have to start all over looking for answers and a different therapist who might understand the horror I have been through. I think I'm teaching them about narcissism, which it should be the other way around.

[@sperosversis3678]

Because so many of them ARE narcissts. They control how their patients feel about themselves and keeping coming back looking for their help... ego fueled narcisst. NOT ALL or MOST therapists fall into that description; but a survivor like myself, will gravitate toward them.

[@Intelligentbydesign]

I think it's a misunderstood type of insidious and often "hidden" abuse. As long as there are no physical marks, no outwardly signs...it isn't abuse in their eyes. And, they know it.

[@deborahwales1717]

@sperosversis3678 yes, I really think there is something to what you say. I was suspicious with my last psychologist that he once was gaslighting me. He was such a bad psychologist who also reinforced the abuse I had endured. I was always teaching him and he was meant to have 17 years experience. All he was most of the time, was disinterested ! I soon walked away, refusing to ever speak to him again !!!

[@deborahwales1717]

@Intelligentbydesign do you mean the narcissist knows it? Then you are not taking into account the overt narcissists that will physically and sexually abuse you and get a sadistic pleasure from it !

[@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose]

I'm sooo glad I found your precious work ✨️ 😌 ☺️ 💓 ✨️ because I always was afraid because I thought I have an earlier form of dementia but through your videos I finally know that I was just a survivor of narcissistic people's v1olence. Thank you, dear Danish

[@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap]

And I'm a surviver

[@felixdelarosa4691]

I am a Survivor as well she told everybody I was crazy while she was cheating on me with the whole hood she dared to do it Even with My 24 years son But nobody belelieved she said I was crazy thanks God I left her I moved next to My mom 's far from her And thanks to this vídeo I know now she is a narsicts abuse your videos are helping people thorougout the world.now I know I'm not crazy thanks.those people are demons on earth they don't give a damn about people's feelings.leave,run the sooner the better.by the way I'm Dominican I've never been abroad though.

[@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose]

@@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap I hope you will stay resilient, angel 😇🙏

[@TinasRottiHerz]

Thank you so much for your work for us! Its so right on point and helps us to understand whats going on within ourselves 🙏🏻

[@narcabusecoach]

Thank you so much ❤❤❤

[@anenglishlife7210]

I've experienced most of these "alterations" ..it's all subsiding slowly.( my dissosociated state i called LaLa Land, hearing his voice constantly, severe anger outbursts, EUPD, Fibromyalgia, and much more).It really is like being born again..I did two years of music therapy writing songs about my experience of narcissistic abuse and recording it on an album..wow, it relieved me so much from all the pain and anxiety..but Danish, your explanations are truly enlightening, so thank you.

[@charliesmith_]

was 7 when I understood their broken human behaviour. I lived with a herd of horses instead. Horses taught me everything that any herd of narcissistic humans never could. 🐎

[@Thecinnamonwizard]

Thank you for sharing that! ❤ My best life from 11 to 17 was in the barn or on a trail ride with my horse to get away from abuse.

[@charliesmith_]

@Thecinnamonwizard 🙏🏻🐎x

[@上口秀文-c4y]

OMG!! SUCH A DESCRIPTION RELATIONSHIP TO I REMEMBER ABOUT LIVE IF BUT IF THEY'VE BACK TO NOT EVERLASTING THEIR LIVES TO YOU... MY BABIES YEARS OLD OF KUPPILY IS REMEMBER APPARENTLY - ALL OF IT WAS FEELS DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIP SO CRAZY... I WAS NEVER BE EAT IT UP... I WAS NEVER SURRENDERED IT UP... AND IT IS VERY SPOT ON TO LIVE IT THROUGH THIS IS TRULY ANYMORE. MY REMEMBER WAS AS IN WONDERFULLY WHERE IN DOUGHNUT TO REBOUGHT OF IRREPLACEABLE AT MISDOS CHOCOLATES ANYMORE!

[@2anthro]

Danish, thank you for validating my experience with demon manifestation. Recently, I realized that event wasn't his actually changing into demon but a revelation of the demon to me. I hope that makes some sense. Your work is important, you are saving lives.

[@benji4330]

I saw Lucifer in my mother one night

[@2anthro]

@@benji4330 trust that event.

[@angelapedigo9214]

Danish, im a Christian who has survived long term trauma. This is brilliant. Subscribed, Sir!

[@Barbreck1]

I reckon I should submit myself for psychological studies, considering that I survived a narcissistic mother, then a narcissistic and abusive life partner, then dealt with the systemic narcissistism of a large educational institution and numerous insane employers and the institutional narcissism of the freemasons. I'm not saying I'm completely healthy after all that, but I'm still standing!

[@susanawright7757]

I've been thru numerous narcissistic predators too! God heals, God knows! Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord!

[@Barbreck1]

@@susanawright7757 God is the greatest abuser of them all. The very definieition of a completely insane and malignant narcissist.

[@RKX_Errant]

​@@Barbreck1I completely agree with you. The last sentence of your first comment reveals that you view yourself as a survivor and not a victim. I believe that is a major part of the battle. Perspective!! My best to you.

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

@@susanawright7757 Are you serious? Gods the biggest narcissistic abuser of all!

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

@@Barbreck1 Exactly that. He has the capacity to remove evil from the whole world at any time yet does not. He uses it to get his way. Then when we need his help the most he shits on us and when we don't need him he gift bombs us so hard we can't begin to properly and correctly manage and use what he's giving us.

[@上口秀文-c4y]

WOW... THIS HOPEFULLY I CANNOT STOP START LIVING FOREVER!!

[@edainari]

The ceaseless cleaning was spraying Lysol and repeatedly washing my hands or my showers taking over an hour because I couldn't tell if I had washed certain body parts or believed I had washed them insufficiently. As for the psychosis, I saw my abuser everywhere in any male who looked even remotely like him. OMG thank you for clarifying this. You just explained SO much and made me feel sane. Thank you

[@LilyBlack-bs7hq]

My boss is a narcissist and abusive, and being a new parent on top of that is really driving me crazy. I have a supportive husband and have considered quitting severally but I haven't been able to get another job yet. Are there ways for someone like me to earn a decent income while working from home?

[@_king_james_23]

Sorry you have to go through this❤❤

[@hildredscali1754]

Must be tough balancing new parenthood with a toxic job and a difficult boss... A couple of years ago, I faced something similar and decided to focus on opportunities that were less detrimental to my mental health... Now, I make over 10k a month from home! If you have skills in writing, graphic design, or web development, consider freelancing. Also, consider stocks but ensure you use a financial expert in the earlier stages to avoid mistakes... I do both, freelancing keeps me busy while the other brings in the bulk of my earnings but more passively...

[@kevingood-r3n]

Dont want to quit my job or anything like that,, but I have been considering the stocks thing for sometime now,, heard its a nice way to get some extra funds. Do you have an FA guy you can recommend,, maybe yours or anybody decent

[@hildredscali1754]

@@kevingood-r3n Well, mine is a woman... Kelly Matwick. She's not so popular but you might have heard of her

[@dannywalters958]

kevingood-r3n It is really a small world. I used to be classmates with her in high school, one of the smart ones then lol. Had to go to her page to confirm that i wasn't mistaken. Nice!

[@v-future1444]

I had malfunctioning daydreaming because of my narcissistic mom. I was a crazy delulu man living in another reality. Also I had suicidal thoughts all my youth. The day I woke up, I felt pathetic. That was my brain trying to protect me for the merciless emotional abuse. That happened like 5 years after she died. Now I'm broken AF and I don't have any reason to live. I'm poor, I'm trying to escape poverty but I have no opportunities to make it. I don't wanna become a hobo, I don't have any vice, I'm not a bad person but I'm so fucked up... Why did I deserve this fate? what did I do wrong?

[@jenniferraymond9766]

You didn't do anything wrong to deserve bad treatment by any abuser! But, you should probably seek out a good professional counselor to establish a course of treatment. Good luck.

[@benji4330]

Start reading the Bible and praying

[@JessAnonymous]

I think you meant to say maladaptive daydreaming....because I too would do this (still do) since I was a child! I never linked it to actual abuse...I thought it was kinda normal even since I could still distinguish reality from my imaginary world. You're not broken. You were mistreated and none of it was ever your fault! Keep watching these videos by Danish. Keep meditating and regulate your nervous system. Keep listening to positive affirmations and affirming them Out loud. One step at a time. If those positive affirmations or any of this becomes a lot, retreat and take a step back. Remind yourself that you are away from THAT abuse and you're gonna do your damnest to heal YOU. It takes time & effort on your in to do this inner work but you owe your inner child that atleast. Journal to get your emotions out. Treat yourself with LOTS Of compassion and nurture bc you need it

[@NicoleVillanueva-bw2kv]

I got discarded April 4 of 2023. I finally found a man that truly loves me and my children recently. I feel so terrible because my current partner did not cause my trauma but he has to put up with my anxiety and pain😢 I try really hard to not let my ocd depression and anger and sadness show but sometimes I break down. I trama dump at least 2 to 3 times a month. Hes so patient with me but i know it affects him. The abuse changed me i feel forever 😢

[@michelle-gr8fr]

That's the reason I jave stayed single. I have trust issues and I don't want someone else to suffer because I'm broken, I have realised that I will probably never ever be in a relationship again. It's sad because I don't believe that kind of love is possible... I'm glad you found someone who is patient and kind to you.

[@IqraChauhan-x2u]

The best therapist for narc abuse in the world!! I swear by it😊🎉🎉

[@Deborah-uw5ip]

Yes, I agree.

[@WendyHannan-pt7ez]

He’s lived it , that’s the difference . 🙏

[@IqraChauhan-x2u]

@@WendyHannan-pt7ez Despite the fact,Mostly people going through the same horrible path can't explain better or even equal to Danish's depth of understanding of complexities. He's the most best therapist. Alot of praise to him!

[@bradwest90]

Thank you for these vid it's helping understand things so that I fix them

[@sjf8305]

thank you Danish, i am 36 years old and have cptsd, my husband and i moved in 2023 across country away from the people who where really toxic to me that wasn't just my family. i have been wheelchair bound since age 11 for the first time in my life i can stand for a minute without hanging on to anything. my healing road is a long one and i am praying that my brain will heal to the point i can walk again your videos answer a lot of questions i have been having and it helps my husband to understand what is going on.

[@Deborah-uw5ip]

You CAN heal. I did it from many ailments: physical, emotional and mental. Godspeed to your further healing!

[@sjf8305]

@@Deborah-uw5ip Praise the Lord for the healing he has done for you and thank you for your testimony and encouragement ❤️🙏

[@Deborah-uw5ip]

@@sjf8305 You're most welcome. Yes, Jesus saved me many times, but I also did a lot of work/research Lol

[@TamiE1978]

Try grounding.. just try!

[@oksanaschmidt8208]

Danish, the truth is, you are a blessing! God blessed you with the wisdom and helped you out, that you can help us. ❤❤❤

[@Audrey-g5x]

Very relevant advice for me. Thankyou so, so much. I don't know what I would have done without you.

[@tuulamuukka1221]

Thank you so much for telling these things! I found myself a victim of a narcissistic mother at the age of 60, over a year ago. When I was 40, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and borderline personality, but the diagnoses never explained why things went this way. This list helps very much, so thank you. I also have a friend to whom I am going to tell about this, cause I think her schizophrenic symptoms may relate to her upbringing in a very "You're good for nothing" environment. Now I need to find help for my recovery, but I found new hope through this.

[@LifepostNarcissism]

Thank you for sharing Danish. I started experiencing panic attacks and when it got frequent like twice a week especially while swimming at night, I knew it's time to leave the relationship at every cost. 😢

[@Itslizyall]

For me, the worst is thinking that I'm making myself a victim, and i needed to get a back bone. I'd feel embarrassed watching this type of content, even when I'm alone. I just need to toughen up, it's my fault bc i forgot who i am, alot of the time. i will full circle understand something that's been created over months and months, and it out of no where it hits me like bricks in the face. I will let out a gasp or say oh, in a completely devastated way and then I'm more vulnerable bc I'm in too deep, my thoughts. I'm iinvested at that point. I'm constantly apologizing and having this internal War thinking I'm crazy knowing I'm crazy..and understanding why... but then not. What's crazy is after all of these years I stepped out a little bit and I mean that in the way of like talking to people in a way that" I shouldn't" I guess more or less, like on messenger or something and when they relate with me, or they understand what I'm trying to say, or like when I watch these videos and hear all of the things that resonate with me and immediately brings this anchor of Sanity in puts air in my lungs and now I'm feeling exhausted from typing this so I'm just going to stop right here but trust me when I tell you this list goes on and on. Edit This comment section helps me so much to as well as this video thank you to the creator of this video and to all who have commented although I really hate these circumstances it is like hell on Earth seriously

[@cindys.9688]

✅ All of the above I thank you, Danish, for laying it all out there. I had a narcissistic mother and have a narcissistic sister. Raised that way + lived that way. I'm on my journey of healing. 🌹When I heard you say about how do I regain my personality when I never had one - I almost fell off my chair! That's me! I needed validation and there it is.

[@NevaWilson-s2h]

You nailed it. You explaned it. So very well.

[@TedMyrrh]

Wow this video is so helpful and validating. I often have imposter syndrome and feel like I'm making up all my experiences. I'm guessing it's from the gaslighting, projection and family denial and scapegoating

[@Michelle-mq5cw]

Mental health emergencies would be treated better if authorities etc. get their CIT!

[@TedMyrrh]

@@Michelle-mq5cw no

[@yabuzagardens366]

Thank you so much for this video. Especially for affirming that we survivors are not 'disordered' that we have adapted to horrific events as a healthy human would. I'm a naturopath, and thinking of myself as 'disordered' is extremely disempowering & it adds to the insane attacks at self-esteem that the narcs endlessly attempted to break.

[@suzannemazieres6657]

Very helpful content. Thank you so much. It explains quite a few things I am experiencing and I am happy to hear that I am not the mad one

[@avkan1980]

You answered all my questions being myself a victim of narcissistic abuse and unfortunately witnessing the same thing concerning loved ones. THANK YOU

[@christinageha-sf2zg]

Appreciate you

[@sandyj2023]

This is so good. It finally explains what I went through. Now I know it wasn't me.

[@Malarmalarmalarmalar65]

Yes everything true sir. I’m also same problems.

[@susanlore345]

Thank you for this. I have several in my and they are killing me. It is the most horrible most lonely experience ever. No one understands. Thank you for letting me know I’m not alone. 😢 I pray I can escape all of them soon. It truly is killing me

[@maryweckerle9946]

The dehumanizing treatment.

[@Nobody-be8lf]

But they are never wrong.. 😢

[@janicemurphy4373]

Danish you truly are a God send!!!!! It truly is amazing to me how so many of us have so many different experiences and problems because of a narcissist, but thank Almighty God we have help from people like you, thank you so very much, and many blessings to you!!!!!!!!!😊😊😊

[@sharonhearne5014]

My mother and later my spouse; your comments make total sense. One thing that happened with me because I was under so much mental stress from mom’s mental illness was that I said to myself, “I will worry about that later.” I became avoidant and I certainly had tics caused by constant stress. I was so stressed I would rock back and forth counting -2-3-4-5-6 etc..

[@sTinger12300]

A special thank you, Mr. Danish, for correctly labeling this situation as a "RESPONSE", and not a "disorder". I sincerely wish that you would brainwash other psychological health "care providers" to use this correct terminology and treatment, instead of the mis-labeling, discrimination, and maltreatment that is all too common currently. ❤

[@brandierwin9900]

You seem to understand better than anybody I’ve ever listened to what I’m feeling even better than I ever could. You are amazing therapist I wish I could have you as my therapist. You are amazing and you explain exactly what I’m feeling. It’s amazing. People are lucky to have you as their therapist especially the narcissist survivors.

[@meiw8358]

This channel and this film greatly help to the persons who have been abused by the narcissists, Thank you so much ❤

[@tarajoyce3598]

I have been thinking my mental issues were the precursor and I was not honest enough with myself to acknowledge that and get help before my devastatingly important relationship. This is groundbreaking to me. Thank you ❤

[@DreaminToo]

Excellent!!! You definitely are an expert and this video has highly elevated my trust in your knowledge and wisdom. Thank you so much 💙

[@bsupergamer27]

This is me! I have been trying to figure out why I am the way I am. Especially the trauma dumping that you mentioned that is so me. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. I’m 56 years old. I also have terrible anxiety, depression, social anxiety, and binging disorder. This is so helpful. I need to point this out to my counselor.

[@Lydiaazubuike]

They can 🤥 lie, twisting things around. They can not be managed to live with.😏😏

[@BrooksCyguhijc]

aimentalhealthadvisor AI fixes this. Guide answers mental illness questions.

[@DrLar]

This explains so much of what I've been experiencing since shutting out the narcissist 3yrs ago. I'm just now (past few months) recovering. Not only was she narcissistic but bi-polar as well. Factor in the 2yrs we were in a relationship and it has robbed me of 5yrs of my life. I'm not done recovering yet but I'm finally understanding why I feel and fear the (near) future. Thank you Danish for sharing your knowledge of the trauma caused by a narcissist. 🙏🙏🙏

[@Sophie-ur2qb]

Thank you for this one Danish 🙏 This is very helpful. Stabilisation is my goal. I am less hard on myself now that I know more about CPTSD and dissociation. My family doesn't take mental health seriously. They want me to just get over it. I didn't know there was any other way than living in survival mode. I thought this was normal. When you healed your dissociation did you have bad memories return? I'm scared of this. I don't think i can handle it. I've had a couple of memories return and its brutal.

[@drsarita-questioneverythin3194]

This is a great analysis-rumination over past events never feeling safe and the cortisol being up is downstream from so many problems -thank you

[@terrierdelphine4682]

Two narcissists including one covert. I think i am borderline now. Walking in the morning helps a lot. Sport. Working and socializing is a challenge

[@Suryaprabhaeaswar]

Thanks!

[@salliet5787]

I still jump at shadows/slightest movement. Tidying/cleaning is definitely not my thing, I wish it was. lol

[@susanwallcraft1864]

Ahhh. So much explained. Thank you, Danish. I have experienced both trauma bonding and the cognitive dissonance that you described. The dissonance was terrifying. I really thought I was either dying or losing my mind.