5 Ways to be More Elegant

[@azhotmom]

"Small minds discuss people; average minds discuss events; GREAT minds discuss IDEAS." -Eleanor Roosevelt

[@laurenecarter246]

I was just about to write this quote too!

[@StartingoverRN]

I was thinking of this quote but couldn't quite recall it. Thanks for sharing!

[@arvyarvy4242]

Thank God for my mother she's a class act. She never stopped singing this quote into mt ears

[@marenlatham4349]

I think that to be an elegant woman means you don't swear and you don't gossip. A woman at a party that just deftly changes the topic away from gossip, in my mind is the most elegant creature in the world. You know that your name and your character is safe with her. Gossiping and revelling in the dirt and frailty of people is so not elegant!

[@ER-er2yr]

I cannot love this comment enough! ❤️❤️❤️

[@businessacc179]

Yes! I don't use profanity, my husband is in the same page. I've noticed with friends, and even with "working guys," (I operate a business w my husband and the industry does real, hard work) who typically swear often will clean up their language with me and elevate their behavior. It's interesting because I don't say anything to evoke it. If a profane word slips out, people will actually apologize to me. Of course I graciously say it's ok, and I never chastise for poor language. But for some reason people get the message by my behavior. When people ask explicitly why I don't swear, I say, "I don't swear because I'm a lady." They are often inspired by that. Jennifer is right-- pretty cool things happen just by being ourselves!

[@steffa648]

Yes to this!!!! Women who swear is soooo not attractive and actually makes them less beautiful in my opinion.

[@ali18398]

❤️❤️❤️

[@wannaduckfin]

The Bible says gossiping is sin. Great comment👍

[@arlenesmith4609]

Carrying yourself with humble confidence and sincere kindness is elegance. Be comfortable with who God made you to be and take a genuine interest in others.

[@teresacesario6247]

That's it perfectly.

[@bibigems]

I agree. Be yourself and people will find you to be refreshing. Don't put on a phony personality. Don't be afraid to let your true self shine through.

[@EE-hi4re]

Love this

[@michelletackett9489]

Simple is elegant. Simple colors, simple life, and simple style.

[@jenniebensch7216]

I totally agree with you!

[@pattymccoy2866]

So true!

[@gailtester8749]

"Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication."- Leonardo DaVinci

[@katoloniable]

Serious question. What are simple colors..Do you mean neutral?

[@michelletackett9489]

@@katoloniable yes. Neutral.

[@megroux]

Being helpful always conveys elegance to me. Holding the door for someone, offering to help carry items, helping clear away dishes at a party, etc Remembering to ask about something that has happened in a person’s recent affairs, such as a ill parent, child’s graduation, trip etc.

[@denisebiendarra5996]

Yes!

[@oldtimer7779]

Yes, all are great examples.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

Good manners is always elegant .

[@MarysNest]

Hi Jennifer, what a great video! And I love that you told people to put their phones down and engage in conversation! I have to share with you a story about when I was at the airport. I’m somewhat of a naturally outgoing and chatty person and so I usually look for someone sitting near me to chat with. There was a very nice young man sitting across from me and I smiled and said hello and we started chatting (just to chat in the motherly way… Keep in mind, I’m in my 60s and married! Lol!) He was an architect and he was heading home to visit his mother. How sweet! In any event I asked him how old he was and if he was married. He told me that he was 28 and he was not married yet. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said no. (keep in mind… These things came up in conversation - I wasn’t asking the question so directly! Lol) Mind you… This is a very nice looking young man with a good job! I asked him why do you think it is you don’t have a girlfriend. And he said “well, today… All the girls are always looking at their phones and I don’t want to interrupt them to make conversation.” How I laughed. I have to tell you I felt like standing up and shouting out “ladies… Put down your phones!” In any event we had a lovely conversation and a lot of good laughs and he was a delight. So yes, single ladies especially - put down your phones and look up. You may find your future husband right in front of you. Love you Jennifer, Mary❤️🤗❤️

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I love this, Mary! It’s so true! And you are the only person who can get away with these deeper conversations with strangers. There is something calming about you that probably makes people want to tell you everything, haha. Love you! ♥️

[@pedinurse1]

the phone is a big problem

[@garlicgirl3149]

Great advice!!!!!!!!!!!

[@tomam6534]

I think being empathetic and considerate of people’s feelings is a big part of elegance as well, because it shows integrity and kindness :)

[@yavonae]

You can shop at Goodwill and be an elegant, very likable person.

[@kristiLB93]

Absolutely!

[@katherinerichardson1767]

If you look carefully at Goodwill or other thrift stores, you can find good quality clothing items. Also, keeping them in good condition will help make you feel ready to face any situation and make others feel comfortable in your company. Clothes are only a presentation but interesting conversation seals the deal.

[@Rosie_C]

One of my favorite people in the whole world loves Goodwill. She’s amazing.

[@TriniMonstera]

@@katherinerichardson1767 Hand laundering and pressing out clothes will help with keeping the look elegant.

[@womanoffaith6243]

My precious mother in law God rest her soul, was the most classy lady I ever knew. Yes she loved the thrift stores and yet she made every peice look like a million bucks. She tought me so much, I strive to be like her in so many ways.

[@juliasmet6052]

I buy my clothes from the thrift store and I like to think I dress elegantly. Modesty goes a long way to make you look good. You can find a lot of classy dresses if you keep in mind to cover your knees and shoulders. Add a light cardigan. I even found a cashmere sweater once!

[@susanspianostudio7057]

Me too

[@annarebecca3384]

Classy clothes generally are not the latest, hot style. In addition, classy clothes are not tight and unflattering. I am "older" and I wear skirts and dresses below the knee and straight pants that touch my shoes, and they all fit. They are not so tight that I can't breathe.

[@Rosie_C]

😱 I have never heard a stranger say that! I like to say that is my guide for anywhere and everywhere, to keep my shoulders and knees covered. :) What a blessing to hear someone else say it!

[@liliabenavides4052]

I thought it was a lost art!

[@gailtester8749]

Do you remember Ann Lander's advice column in the newspaper? I still remember someone writing in and saying, " I read your column every day and enjoy it very much. My problem is that when I go to a party I can never come up with anything to talk about." Ann replied, "Read the rest of the paper."

[@allieeverett9017]

That was fabulous!

[@mytws]

Respecting things that are not our own. I am always surprised when I see people putting their shoes on seats in public places, disposing of chewing gum on the pavement or worse yet under a table or not even trying to put things back neatly when shopping, leaving a mess for someone else to clean up is never elegant.

[@garlicgirl3149]

👏👏👏👏👏👏Yes!!!

[@bernadetteleach372]

Yes, agree with being a tidy shopper.

[@arvyarvy4242]

This kind of behaviour is pet peeve of mind. My mom always said never take the short cut through someone's backyard, always take the allotted route no matter how long it is. Crossing over the neighbours lawn is a bad habit very common where I come from.

[@garlicgirl3149]

@@arvyarvy4242 Same here.

[@anye76]

True story Jennifer. I was hired at a very well known global company several years ago. The HR team takes the new hires to lunch. I was the only person who wasn't on my phone. They made me feel uncomfortable that I wasn't a "phone person". We ended up eating pretty much in silence until some gossip on the social media site chimed and everyone spoke on it. I still wasn't included I don't watch the housewives show. I barely made it 9 months with that company. I was stunned. This was HR. I'm certain this was not indicative of the company as a whole but certainly this location needed major work. It was very disappointing. Phones are an addiction, rather sad.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Yes, the phone reliance has gotten out of hand. I believe it!

[@angiehelmly2841]

Please do more post on this subject. Thanks

[@elyjane6078]

What very rude people - bad manners.

[@KarenDGobsmacked]

It is so strange...at some point if everyone else is on their phone, then I figure I might as well be on mine too. Better than twiddling my thumbs alone. :-)

[@francesca2411]

Totally agree with you..its the height of rudeness to be on your phone when you are out to lunch with somebody. Totally puts me off and shows a lack of respect for the other person...not to mention makes the other person not feel valued for their own time and conversation...

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

Also, be sure to talk to each person at a social gathering, not just your immediate peers. Everyone is interesting, those older and younger than oneself, and of different gender and background. Older people have fascinating careers, lives and histories, and younger ones have really interesting viewpoints, values and life goals. Why not make everyone feel special, they are. It’s not classy to ignore everyone except your special friends.

[@missmayflower]

Yes, you’re talking about maturity vs adolescent behaviour.

[@dorzopen]

I agree totally. And at the same time I struggle talking to someone I don’t know well. This encourages me to keep on trying.

[@Emiliapocalypse]

had to comment again! I do believe professional doors open for you when you look elegant. Many years ago I applied for cashier work at a bakery. I tried very hard during this job interview to do many elegant things I thought up myself, (no looking at my phone while waiting, just checking my resume or straightening up the bistro table I was sitting at) including an outfit that was on point. In the end, I wasn’t offered the cashier job....I was offered the job of assistant manager at the central bakery! But by watching your video, I now realize exactly why they hired me. I fit right in that elegant mold they sought after for their faux French patisseries

[@Justheavenlyflowers]

I would like you to make a video on how to walk stand and sit elegantly. That would be most helpful! Thank you Jennifer you are a beautiful inspiration in my life xx

[@megroux]

One more, knowing when a person wants advice and when they simply want to be heard.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

That is so good

[@mommabear5059]

Excellent!!

[@ThePriam3]

Oh yes!

[@divinewitchivan]

Yazz a lot

[@EE-hi4re]

I find that's the case with men. A lot. They usually want you to listen, but not necessarily for you to solve their problem

[@MariaFinniss]

I think being elegant is dressing appropriately for an occasion, being able to hold an intelligent and interesting conversation without foul language and listening instead of just talking, and sitting down for a meal using correct table manners. Finally, after a kind deed done by someone for you , writing a thank you note afterward is elegant.

[@kathleenbolanos]

"Bring something interesting to the conversation" Me: what excellent boiled potatoes 😐

[@anitas5817]

It’s been many years since I’ve had such an exemplary vegetable. 😆

[@anye76]

Oh Mr Collins 😂🤣🤪

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

😂😂

[@sarahwells7583]

Classic! 😂

[@katiestevenson8920]

😂

[@kenzieb.8221]

I find it hard to have conversations with others that do not seem to know anything but the latest movie or politics lol. It’s so nice to talk about a book or travel or a new hobby! When people say “ oh I don’t have hobbies or time to read........ it says to me that they do not really have very much self respect. Even though we are busy people and moms we are individuals and can be very interesting if we put some time into ourselves:). I have 6 children and still find time to read books and ride my horse lol

[@shelby3987]

I agree! I’m always pleasantly surprised when someone wants to talk about something other than Netflix shows or political matters!

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

It's refreshing to discuss things other than Netflix, definitely!

[@catherinecorn7182]

Some people are just surviving. Their health, or work or family life doesnt permit the luxuries of a hobby. Its not that they dont desire one, they simply dont have one. ❤ Some of us have too many hobbies. 😂

[@Tinamar65]

For me it is more important to be interested than being interesting .....

[@veronicav575]

@kenzie b. Please tell me how you achieve this? I used to love to read and ride horses and paint and needle work and all kinds of things. Since being a mom this doesn’t ever happen. I have a hyperactive toddler, an infant, a preschooler, and I homeschool my 1st and 3rd grader, while doing all the cooking, laundry and dishes, and going to school part time to try to get into school full time in a nursing science program. I’m over weight and tired and depressed all the time and I want to know how is it people like you do it. Are you wealthy? Does some one clean your house for you? Do you have in laws or parents that actually care about you and your kids and they will baby sit for you more than 2x a year? How?

[@soniaspf9705]

I think doing your homework when meeting people from different cultures/countries - I work in an academic/ research field so meet many people from all over the world (well in normal times) you can really put people at ease when meeting them if you know something about their country/culture.

[@dailyequanimity]

I think being an elegant person, along with your wonderful tips, means to show sincerity and interest in others, listening well and asking questions, along with making eye contact and smiling.

[@SoNick25]

Lovely tips! Clothes, make up, poise and conversation are all part of the package. I also think VOICE is very important. Speaking in a loud voice, yelling and screaming are very off putting. In Western cultures many women are loud and vivacious but never stop talking! 'Silence is golden' is something I have learned in my adopted culture.

[@Clarinda787]

People who are shy and do not know how to chat intelligently need to make a list of ideas in advance. Keep the list in your pocket & sneak a peek at it if you need to. This will help you get used to speaking to strangers at gatherings. Later it will become natural and you'll be so glad you took that first step.

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

I’ve struggled with bad posture all my life. Standing is ok, but it’s so hard to maintain good posture while sitting. On my wedding day, I made a huge effort to remember my posture, and I couldn’t believe what a difference it made in the photos. I looked taller, thinner, younger and much more elegant than usual.

[@missmayflower]

Me too! Always head forward, stooped. Now in my sixties I found the videos by Milton Chiropractic. A few simple exercises, done consistently every day, have made a big difference for me. It worked quickly too. It raises your awareness and strengthens the postural muscles.

[@ChiaraFrancioli]

this! I am hypermobile with scoliosis and although my posture looks good when standing I've always sat with one leg tucked under or resting on some chair rung, it's something I do unconsciously to ease the pain but it does looks juvenile

[@erinobrien8793]

I’ve found that in an office setting and being in meetings all day that sitting at the front of my seat with feet flat on the floor really helps to maintain posture during the day.

[@melaniestong1634]

I am very surprised that you didn't say "watch your language" Especially since Babble was your sponsor. Swearing, and crass language or humor, can take any amount of elegance right out of your persona. But you are amazing and I love your videos.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

This is by no means a comprehensive list. There are many more keys to elegance and I completely agree with you. :)

[@kathleenbolanos]

Good addition! Absolutely agree

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

Humor is tricky unless you know someone well. My sister had a friend, whom every time I met, insulted me and assumed a prior knowledge of me that she didn’t have. I eventually learned that she was very insecure and this was attempted humor, but I never enjoyed seeing her. (We were thrown together by my sister’s wedding events).

[@jaimezuniga4702]

Very good addition!

[@mommabear5059]

@@azhotmom I think she was referring specifically to this list.

[@marycecelia7386]

This is so on point, Jennifer. To have any level of elegance in the current culture makes you an automatic standout. Thanks for the important content and message.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you, Mary!

[@kimberlyperrotis8962]

Wear the best clothes that you can comfortably afford, but keep them in great condition. Right now, for me, that means mostly H&M, but everything is always in immaculate condition and well ironed, so people think my clothes are more expensive. If you don’t want to iron, don’t buy clothes that require it, like woven cotton and linen. Knits are a great choice, they usually don’t need ironing after getting the packing creases out, spritzing with hot water, then hanging them up works.

[@windflowerrainstorm6497]

checkout the dresses on Amazon from Grace Karen they are well made and $30-40 ( i have like 6 of them)

[@TriniMonstera]

Hand laundering will keep the fabric in good condition too. The colour would not look faded/washed out.

[@aimercab8630]

Yes, please! A video on how to sit, and stand properly. Lifelong tomboy, looking to embrace femininity here. Thank you for all you do on this platform ❤

[@TheAmiMom]

I like to think how I can make the other person shine by asking thoughtful questions, like how they became interested in a particular organization or how what they are doing now is different from what they thought they would be doing 10 years ago. Asking good questions is an art, but helps others feel like they are important. And that is part of the essence of elegance!

[@minniedog1000]

Hi Jennifer, I loved this video & it made me realize a situation I found myself in today. I work at a hospital on a ward. We have had a big intake of student nurse's here (aged 18 -24), so at break time's in the coffee room it can get quite busy. I noticed today considering its busy its very very quiet. ......that's because they are all on their phone's, not feeling the need to even aknowledge if anyone enters the room they don't even speak to each other & i find it genuinely very very sad, if not awkward 😕 i would hate to be like that. I sat doing the puzzles in the newspaper today instead & i felt ancient. 😊 (I'm 44) I feeling like screaming sometimes Jennifer,there are just no social skills at all. Love your work , much love Maria jones UK 💕 xxx

[@localluxurieswithEmpressTT]

I'm a Jones too lol...and 44 too...and I feel your sentiments. It's so sad. We both like this KZbin and topic too. Funny!

[@margaretarydeman5202]

😢

[@eleanormckelvaine6939]

My mother would love you! Even though I grew up in a lower/middle income home she taught me manners (she had several books on the subject , including of course Emily Post!), how to set a table, and how to carry myself with dignity. She used to tell me “you don’t have to have a lot of money to have manner!” Do I do all she taught me? Sadly, no, but should I need them, I have the knowledge, of course I do use the “good manners” part! ❤️😁

[@CP-gq5fw]

One way to be elegant is what the Bible teaches about women. In the sight of God, a woman with a gentle, quiet spirit is precious. Because she seeks to live a holy life, she is elegant in the sight of both God and man. I always enjoy your content, thank you for the practical tips.

[@kathleendillie3556]

Speaking in a calm way is elegant to me. I enjoy your videos because you always speak sweetly and gently. Thanks for these tips.

[@brifren2]

Talking about a recent trip, a culture you've learned about is fine if those around you show interest. If they don't, though (the topic could be a sensitive issue somehow, like people who cannot travel for a reason, or have no idea what you are talking about), it is best to change the subject. Also I was taught that as a host, you do not constantly talk about yourself unless you're asked or it is relevant to the conversation. We should not aim to be the centre of attention for too long, we should give a chance to everyone else to talk.

[@jendyson6729]

I agree and actually I think it makes other people more comfortable if you ask them questions and get them talking rather than talking about your interests/travel (unless you have that in common). I also would steer clear of 'todays events' /news as everyone has really strong feelings about whats happening in the world. My mom told me to never talk to someone you hardly know about religion or politics. There are so many other things to talk about :)

[@workin4alivin585]

Talking about some place you might like to travel to or learn more about (their food, language, architecture, culture) would be preferable.

[@workin4alivin585]

In woke cancel culture is it getting a lot more difficult to discuss anything. 😕 Seems like nearly everything can be offensive or twisted to be divisive. Even the weather. 🙄 Sigh.

[@christinat8248]

I agree. If you are around someone who isn’t interested in traveling, art, etc you might come across as boring and maybe even snobby. If you know the person loves TV or movies then by all means, talk about what you are watching and ask about their favorite shows. If you sent into art or music it doesn’t make you a dull person, it just makes you, you.

[@wintermatherne2524]

@@workin4alivin585 Haha. Literally.

[@bjgoels1]

Completely support the idea of having things to talk about. I grew up in a small, one-industry community in northern BC and, when people got together for events, all they spoke of was work and the people at work (who almost everyone knew). After I had gone out on my own for a while and returned to that town for an event, the same thing occurred. I found myself completely omitted from any conversation because I didn't work at that company, nor did I know anyone people were talking about. (This was before cell phone days.) So, yes, having topics of conversation that can include most people is a very good idea. On one visit I made, I was treated to a birthday luncheon by several people. Everyone at the table talked to each other about events and people I knew nothing about. I was hurt and insulted by that because had I not been at the table, I wouldn't even have been missed.....and it was a lunch to celebrate my birthday.

[@garlicgirl3149]

Hugs...I understand.

[@FreedomWriter-r1o]

Very good point! I've been in conversations like that and it's so isolating and awkward. I've tried including myself by asking questions or changing the topic fluidly, but it doesn't always work.

[@nadegearmour9378]

Good morning all. These were some important and effective tips. To me, an authentic smile and a friendly face is not only elegant but will resort in open doors.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I agree, Nadege!

[@Fatnabeladel]

If I might add a fee more things on being elegant. Saying someones first name in a conversation also shows you are paling attention to them, being an empathic person adds to your overal grace, having an open and friendly face.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

If you are on a first name basis, definitely!

[@Fatnabeladel]

@@TheDailyConnoisseur i felt that one coming, anyway adressing someone during a conversation 😊

[@keelyross5127]

Good eye contact and a great smile are essential. This can exude confidence and elegance😁

[@angelagan6803]

I was once told that we all love to hear our own name spoken, it's a compliment paid to us.

[@wintermatherne2524]

@@angelagan6803 Sparingly. Anything more has an insincere ring.

[@tara5742]

Thank you for acknowledging that those of us that physically cannot sit up straight can still practice elegance. I’ve been practicing habits and exercises that are suppose to improve Dowager’s Hump, but it’s a slow road. Actually, any help or insights on improving posture would probably be a video that would reach and help a lot of people 🤔

[@camillelittell1250]

Many times poor posture can be from not developing the muscles that support your frame since childhood. Watch videos showing how to correct. Will improve breathing too.

[@tara5742]

@@camillelittell1250 Yes, I believe this is exactly what is happening in my case. And you’re so right about the breathing. Growing up in the 80s, everyone slouched in my house, and we all ate sitting around the t.v. 🙀 When I’m not paying attention and go back to sitting as is comfortable, I can actually feel myself becoming short of breathe.

[@helenebennie3961]

@@tara5742 May be the Alexander Technique would help you.

[@tara5742]

@@helenebennie3961 I just looked this up because of your recommendation. Thank you so much :D

[@juliecarns]

Jennifer, You look so lovely here next to your flowers; a simple top can be quite elegant! Would appreciate tips on sitting properly especially when on a couch for extended time if it is the only option available, carrying yourself up stairs straight, and getting into a picnic table bench with poise, too. Thank you, Julie

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thanks for the recommendations, Julie!

[@robertairvine767]

'How to get into a picnic bench with poise'....Oh yes, we understand and we ask too!

[@jadakowers4727]

Picnic Bench Sitting. Place your bottom on the edge of the short side of the bench. Bend your knees and elevate them. Swing both legs together over the support bar and scoot in.

[@juliecarns]

@@jadakowers4727 is this possible in a skirt and not getting splinters from the wood?

[@kimwebb9550]

I would love to see some advice on being elegant, capsule wardrobes, or any other subjects for mothers of newborns and very young children. I find it hard to narrow clothing down for my postpartum body while I'm breastfeeding or having to change frequently because of spit-up, etc. I just started watching some of your videos during nursing sessions. Love!

[@susan6406]

Me too! I am post postpartum and have just discovered these videos

[@Chelseyandfam]

A couple years ago I read the book “How to win friends and influence people”. It was written in the 1930s but has really excellent advice even for today about how to connect with people. It’s also nice to know that there was a need for that kind of literature before people were addicted to their handheld computers! All generations have at times needed a little help being more elegant and graceful.

[@camillelittell1250]

Yes that book has always been a classic! I read it as a young woman and kept referring back to it. I am 74.

[@Rosie_C]

Thank you for the reference! I love old books, and I am not even 30, yet. :)

[@helenebennie3961]

@@Rosie_C Definitely worth the read. I'm 55 and read it in my 20's.

[@a-knight]

your background is also so elegant! 🌺

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you! ♥️

[@j.marieweldon3580]

@@TheDailyConnoisseur May I ask where your pillow came from?

[@reformvideos4303]

Yes I would love to see a sitting elegance video

[@heather5926]

Babbel is quite the fitting name for learning languages, given the fact that the Tower of Babel is where different languages originated from! I'm also practicing my elegant conversation here. haha jk

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I like how you did that! haha

[@luba-healthywithluba6866]

Thank you for inspiring me to be elegant in every way, Jennifer! Today I woke up early and had to be out the door early and yet looked presentable.

[@halcyondays8945]

Doesn’t that feel amazing? I feel like putting myself together on a daily basis has been such a keystone to elegance for me. Not because of how I look but how I feel. When I’m feeling confident and happy with how I’m presenting myself - I can turn my full attention to others instead of wasting my attention on the things I feel self conscious about. I can be more present with others and engage fully - I don’t think there’s anything more elegant than when a person is focussed fully on others rather than themselves.

[@the.kid.ginger]

I have really loved having a little smart watch for leaving my phone in my handbag. I can get the highlights and be handsfree away from my device for much of my day. So much nicer! Thank you for this lovely video Jennifer!

[@Keapix]

I have found that I check my phone less since I got my watch too!

[@anitas5817]

Great points! Thank you. I would add language and speaking voice.

[@melissakelley6073]

This was a very nice video. I agree that today’s society would benefit from honing elegant behaviors. Melissa 🌼

[@kristiLB93]

It's also great to study examples of elegance. Someone like Audrey Hepburn or say Julie Andrews are wonderful examples of elegance in poise, speach, and humility. And they maintained that all of their lives! Just listen to and watch interviews they gave, read what people have said about them, look at pictures of them. Great topic to ponder. Great video!

[@ruthmanor70]

Sophia Loren is the most naturally elegant person today, in my opinion.

[@kristiLB93]

@@ruthmanor70 she really is!

[@helenebennie3961]

Grace Kelly too. They are all old actresses though.

[@helenebennie3961]

And Jackie Onassis

[@joyceychang]

Another thing elegant people do is to be articulate and well-spoken. I think the way you talk is very elegant. I would love to see a video teaching us how you talk (cadence, rhythm, etc.)

[@traciehanley-jacobs252]

The elegance you mention - I consider - is an 'elegance of the heart'. My tip for everyday elegance is to put one second more in each stride as you walk. (I do this consciously) So, if you tend to be a quick walker like me, looking like you are in a hurry all of the time does not give off an air of elegance. The other thing that I find exudes elegance is when someone asks you for a favor and you are going to say yes, Respond and say: Of course I will help you, or - I would love to help you. Or if it is something that you cannot do anything about, you 'can' say - I'm praying for you friend.' When someone is this way with me, it makes my heart feel warm and relaxed. Elegance of the heart. ;)

[@StacieBussey]

I've always been a fast walker, multitasking but I'm trying to slow down- add that extra step-and focus on one thing at a time. I think this also exudes elegance in addition to kindness, thoughtfulness, being fully engaged with the person you're talking with

[@Chelseyandfam]

I personally think it’s ok to discuss a shared love of a particular movie or tv show as this can be a gateway for deeper conversation. This might be because I have a odd affinity for BBC adaptations, however, 😆

[@elycevwestby1521]

Love this video! I would enjoy a video on how to sit more elegantly, too- that sounds great!

[@FreedomWriter-r1o]

Can you do a video on clothing related to small town, rural communities. I love your videos. Although, many of the clothing items listed would make me stand out like a sore thumb in my community. Being outside and active is common in my area, and there's 4 seasons. I can't see myself wearing dresses or much jewelry too often except for special occasions. Thanks so much for your thoughts and input.

[@pamelawilliams7174]

I live in a small, rural community of 2,500 people. Whenever I leave my home I’m usually dressed in slacks, a nice blouse, nice shoes and bag. I do not wear jeans or tennis shoes or tops with writing on them. I always wear some kind of simple jewelry. It is surprising to me when people comment on nice I look because my clothes are really quite simple.

[@FreedomWriter-r1o]

@@pamelawilliams7174 Thank you. Yes, I'd agree on that. I have young children, so I'm often on the go, on my hands and knees, or outside doing hikes or activities with them. It's hard not to wear clothes that are for more rugged activities so those clothes aren't always "elegant". I'm trying to make a point not to wear sweats, but rather nice athletic or hiking gear. My active clothes outnumber my nice clothes. I don't want nice clothes getting sweaty or ruined. I think you're right that little touches like plain clothes and simple jewelry add an elegant touch.

[@AmatiinBC]

I’d like to hear about the same thing. I live in a small mountain town and have three little boys who are quite rough and tumble. We do a lot of hiking and walking. I have a corduroy jumper/skirt that I live in as it’s functional but I can put pretty blouses underneath and can trust that they won’t get ruined. I got it second hand years ago. I also had two long denim skirts that I literally wore out last summer... can’t find anything similar to replace them unfortunately. I need more ideas though! Lol and maybe I need to get more serious about sewing my own clothes!!

[@FreedomWriter-r1o]

@@AmatiinBC Yes, I'm right with you! We're outside a lot...gardening, at the beach, swimming, hiking, biking, and in the winter we're clearing snow and playing outside too. I need more rugged apparel for my day to day activities. I'm all for nice clothes to wear if I'm running errands or meeting someone, but that's not my norm for the day to day. But, I'm sure there's a way to look put together while doing these rugged activities.

[@AmatiinBC]

@@FreedomWriter-r1o same here with winter time and needing more rugged clothes for day to day. There has to be a way.

[@stephaniehansen5162]

You are a breath of fresh air!! Thank you!💗

[@staroliva6502]

Great video.I don’t keep a 10 capsule wardrobe but,I do have in my closet is 4 colours for each season that anything in my closet goes together and it’s great. This past year with Covid and early retirement I got very lazy dressing because I was just home but this Spring I started buying few quality items at the same time keeping it casual for during the week . Trying to get dress every morning and not hang around all day with my gym clothing....

[@melissawilson4796]

Girl, you speak my language. I’m so glad your channel exists and that you have so many subscribers!!

[@SugarMamma]

Love your advice on elegance, I am taking it all in stride and will try out Babbel!

[@carrielegg5480]

Me too!! Calmness flows through me hearing Jennifer speak! So soothing and helpful!❤

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Ah, thank you so much! xx

[@angiehelmly2841]

Love this post you are a role model for all women. I reread your chic books 2 times a year

[@alexandraeverafter1015]

I love your videos about elegance, and we all appreciate you reinforcing us regularly. That means we can watch more of your videos. 😊 I agree that elegance opens doors. Mom and I have made friends with some of the most respected people in our hometown for all the reasons you mentioned in this video. For example, as a dedicated Elder, my mom had the honor of reading Bible verses at a pastor ordination service (the only Elder at my church to do so), and she got a kick out of seeing herself described as “Ruling Elder” on the program. Meanwhile, I served communion at the special service. I was dressed up in a red floral dress for Pentecost and made sure to show good posture the whole time, including when I served communion. When I watched myself later, I was proud of myself because I served others with a smile and stood up straight the whole time, even when my feet started to ache from wearing heels all day long. Thank you Jennifer! 💐♥️

[@doriannoconnell1346]

Such a great video! I have been talking with my girls about this so it was very timely. Shared it with all 3 of them!

[@leslieread556]

Wonderful...and always act with the highest Integrity.

[@ljh150]

Could you share some elegant examples of clothing to wear in very warm climates for summer? We’re in record breaking heat here in FL this week and I do not want to wear cut off jean shorts.😬

[@nvaranavage]

Being able to discuss topics like books, places, things to do and such shows others you take time for yourself.....I recently watched the show Lupin on Netflix which inspired me to read Maurice Leblanc's stories that the show was based on, not only was it enjoyable to read, but it also taught me some new vocabulary, inspired me to brush up on my French and research the author, the wealth of knowledge I gained from simply stepping out of my comfort zone in things I normally wouldn't watch was mind-blowing. I am currently finishing The Mysterious Island.

[@adambaer726]

I just love you! So many good tips here. My family and I went to a zoo this weekend, and I never want to be “judgey,” but America has for the most part lost its class. I would love to see a swing back to it!! Good point on being interesting too. Adults need to pursue hobbies and passions beyond a screen! My latest? Bread baking 💖

[@PerfectlyObsessed]

I would love a whole video on deportment.

[@tgardenchicken1780]

Always choose to be kind.

[@elainenorvell3335]

Such a nice, gracious lady. Thank you.

[@debbiewood3819]

O! Jennifer your makeup is so subtle but very nice...good colors! After listening to this completely, I would add...to endeavor to reach elegance on a daily level, I like to think of it as respecting, honoring yourself.....giving my BEST to those I casually meet, my precious family; offering my best to them....learning to be relaxed and approachable but with elegance....thank you for this reminder, Jennifer

[@GeorginaTrainor]

Yes please to a video on how to sit elegantly! Something I struggle with sometimes

[@honeybaysoaps]

Wonderful tips! 💛 Thank you, Jennifer! I always enjoy your videos! 😊

[@gwenewing6837]

You are darling and a plethora of information that even at my age enjoy learning!

[@justynachojnacka4382]

Thank you for this video! Elegance matters

[@miloslavahavelkova3794]

Chère Jennifer, vous êtes tellement BELLE!!! Avec quatre enfants et toutes vos inspirations - je vous admire!!!

[@LesReadBooks]

Posture is such a weird one for me. I’m tall (almost 5’9”) so I’ve always tried to shrink myself as if not to stand out. (I love being tall don’t get me wrong, but it draws a lot of attention to yourself when all of your friends are 5’3...) but owning that has been as much a physical change as much as a mental change. Thanks for the reminders!!

[@shanekquadenise3924]

Same here. Especially in any kind of heels

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

I love that you've embraced that, Leslie!

[@shelby3987]

Oooh I’ve experienced the same! I’m about your height but I look to my sister for inspiration, she’s six feet tall and still wears heels with confidence! I am still working on not shrinking myself in flats! Haha.

[@Erin_29]

I'm 5'10", and still wear heels😊

[@DansonforJoy]

Yay for the tall ladies in high heels! 😁 I’m chiming in simply to say that I’m acquainted with a young lady like this, and while her height IS striking, she looks STUNNING! There’s something positively REGAL about a tall woman who carries herself gracefully. 👌 Or any woman who carries herself gracefully, for that matter. 😉

[@Anna-Anna53]

A video on deportment will be nice . Thankyou for this weeks video. 😊

[@sandiebarrios25]

Refreshing content, as always 💗 you're a breath of fresh air in this social media world. Would LOVE to see more of your meditations on homemaking videos with the typewriting! Ah, I could watch those all day 😬😁😆

[@donnaschindlbeck7457]

What beautiful reminders Jennifer❤️

[@Andeedom12]

Love this! Can you give us ideas of how to look presentable when doing volunteer work or cleaning? Sometimes I have to wear tee shirts with a logo on it to volunteer and I don’t feel very elegant 😅. Also how to stay looking elegant with small little children. I have 3 kids and sometimes when im out and about with them I feel so stressed and inelegant bc the get me dirty or they are dirty 😅

[@seaglass7375]

Lovely video, a wonderful subject that you brilliantly approach. Someone would think that these points are common knowledge or skills everyone has, but they are not.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

Thank you for watching!

[@lmn5233]

Love the video! Thanks. I see a lot of additions to the list in the comments. ❤️ The flowers on you side table are gorgeous.....Please link them if they are silk. Thank you!

[@myozbubble]

Genuine smiles.

[@debbiewood3819]

You look beautiful today(lip color, white shirt, eye make up "very awake")..I agree making others feel like they're important

[@harperculver1666]

Yes, please! A video about how to sit! Thank you for today’s video!👏🏼🖤

[@DominiqueFrancon]

Brava! A lovely video as always Jennifer. You give off a very strong vibe of elegance. It’s a wonderful thing to see and hear. The background of the room in your home is elegant too. All around beauty. I love your channel. I always feel wonderful after watching one of your videos. I would love to know the background music to this video. Actually all your videos have lovely music.

[@classylady3889]

“How to sit beautifully” video please! ❤️❤️❤️

[@zoe0abundant]

I wish I had this video back in junior high. I never felt comfortable or confident as a girl. I didn't know how to be one. So I became a tomboy and emulated boys instead. When I read your title, I thought 'I could never be elegant, that's not possible for me.' But these are good tips that anyone can do. My outfits just won't look like yours...lol.

[@TheDailyConnoisseur]

You can absolutely be elegant ♥️

[@Jessinblackandwhite]

I am working on my posture. I never know what to do with my hands though when I’m not actively using them. I’m a very anxious person and tend to fidget.

[@debbiesivertson817]

I love ❤️ how you show us how to live out the Daily Connoisseur life!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@bethany45101]

This may seem like a very strange question but, do you ever wear shorts? I ask this because I've never seen a 10 item wardrobe with denim shorts included. I have been adjusting my wardrobe to a more elegant attire. I've got dresses, some jeans, capris and I thought “ill get some nice shorts for some of my tshirts”. Well, I went shopping for shorts yesterday and it was a disaster. I felt so odd looking at myself in the mirror in denim shorts. Can a person mentally outgrow shorts? I think i have 😂

[@ChiaraFrancioli]

are shorts a US thing? genuinely asking, where I live teens wear them in coastal towns and that's about it

[@spacequeen8329]

@@ChiaraFrancioli It's odd in the US not to own at least one pair of shorts for casual events in summer. When it's dangerously hot for weeks, being able to relax on the weekend at least once in cool clothing makes a big difference. Shorts send various messages depending on the type. Material, cut and length each make a difference. I prefer Jamaica-length shorts, longer than track shorts and shorter than Bermuda shorts.

[@mrstn123]

Oh, my yes! Shorts are a necessity in Arkansas- if you want to live past May 30.

[@ChiaraFrancioli]

@@mrstn123 I live in Florence, Italy, certainly not as hot as Arkansas but we do go over 100F in summer :) that's why I was asking, it's just not a thing here :)

[@ChiaraFrancioli]

@@spacequeen8329 thanks for answering. Where I live in Italy we go over 100F in summer but you don't see them much in southern Europe, while they seem to be a staple in US wardrobes. (I used to live in London and Vienna and it made sense not seeing them much there.) I'd love to know more about why in a genuinely culturally curious way.

[@googleuser8143]

Hello Mrs. Scott, thank you for sharing this video with us. I really enjoyed it.

[@lobro4018]

I’ve noticed that with women dressing down more than in the past, the younger generation of ladies aren’t learning how to sit in a lady like manner. I don’t believe it is being modeled for them or taught to then either.

[@garlicgirl3149]

Agreed. I had told a young lady to wear a slip with a certain type of skirt, she asked me why. She was genuinely curious. I was shocked.

[@joettaxoxo]

@@garlicgirl3149 I’m 24 and I have no idea which type of skirt needs a slip 😟 I do own a slip!

[@garlicgirl3149]

@@joettaxoxo I truly believe it is a generational thing and how fashion is viewed over time. My grandmother and mother always said to wear a slip #1 if the skirt is sheer. Don't want anyone to see your underwear. #2 it prevent static clinic which can happen in colder month when wearing tights and a skirt or dress. Nice chatting with you.

[@sarac.3259]

I am in the UK but I love these videos. Having been mostly away from social situations this past year or more, it's good to have reminders - it helps build confidence. I like your presenting style, Jennifer - encouraging and warm.

[@m.arnold717]

A walking and sitting video would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!

[@lenabigonia333]

Loved this, Jennifer! Not too long, such good tips and examples. Thank you!

[@andreavonwurmb4763]

I took your advice on being open and friendly into my dating, and this is just the right touch! Even in the online phase, the best approach is elegance in communication. Thank you :-)

[@AW-lp4vm]

Wonderful video as always! Yes please on the sitting elegantly video!! 😊😎

[@pathiggins6513]

Lovely video. I would add good manners at all times😊

[@livingholistically1485]

Something that does wonders for posture is pilates! It's great for those with health problems as well.