6 Mindsets That Keep You Single For A Long Time

[@Psych2go]

How are you today?

[@officiallycinna]

I’m fine!

[@BigFlusteredMess]

Okay, thanks!?

[@strider5964]

Could be better

[@princ3ssrose996]

Amazing!

[@harleye07]

Lonely unfortunately. Thank you for asking

[@wisdomsparkproductions7916]

Remember to give yourself the time you need for a relationship. Too many people I feel get pressure into being into one by society.

[@joycedropoog575]

That is soooo true!

[@N3XTREVOLUTION]

It's not just you. If you're a guy making friends can feel impossible. You need to find an outside hobby, I recently picked up Yu-Gi-Oh and it's been a blast playing with people in public.​@mugendude.

[@mmowec8159]

Agreed!

[@Lordran__]

Thank you

[@Lordran__]

@mugendude.Did you message her at all after you got her contact info? If so, what did you say?

[@Karen_Obim]

It is addicting to be single, i don’t want to loose my space and time. Being in a relationship takes effort, and to be honest I’m tired of giving effort or trust to anyone who doesn’t deserve it

[@trinaq]

At the moment, I'm happy to be single, but one day I would like to meet someone. Thank you for your useful tips, and soothing narration.

[@sunburstshredder]

I'm glad you mentioned the point about perfection. True love isn't about finding finding the perfect person, but rather loving someone in spite of their flaws.

[@susannewenzel1831]

...Not Looking AT each other but looking together in the same direction...

[@Vantitas]

This is definitely what’s lacking in a majority of relationships these days regarding the unhealthy expectations, standards and boundaries people set for themselves and others. No one is perfect, so you’ll waste your time looking for it under the falsehood of knowing your worth than being realistic.

[@anderstermansen130]

tell that to women.

[@onemillionpercent]

exactly

[@valeriaabarca6743]

@@Vantitas It is true not everyone is perfect however there are certain things you just can't accept in a relationship. That's why boundaries are so important. I won't settle for someone disrespectful or someone that doesn't treat me right just out of fear of not finding anyone. There are some things that you just can't accept. There are prons and cons to everything but if your partner will make your life more miserable I dont see why you should accept that

[@keip4568]

It's hard for those who deal with a lot from others who traumatized and ruined their lives and past loves if there is any.

[@agzone7226]

I absolutely hate how people can ruin your life, walk away and never have consequences.

[@lucatricerri1531]

Timestamps! 0:32 1. You're not letting new people enter your life. 1:01 2. You're not willing to try new things. 1:35 3. You're not over your ex. 2:10 4. You're still waiting. 2:43 5. You have major trust issues. 3:15 6. You genuinely don't want to be in a relationship.

[@LastEarBender]

Thanks Luca

[@elisciachristie6984]

This has been coming across my phone about staying single, and what if that's just what someone wants. Many people go through a lot of pain, believing someone loves them and come to find out they never did. So leave people alone and maybe one day they will get there.

[@aarspi]

That’s one of the signs listed. Some people simply arent and that’s okay

[@neofulcrum5013]

Low self esteem and unsure of how to approach or what to say.

[@ecronaclon47]

I recommend the youtube channel JulianHimself to navigate that. I have wrestled with low self-esteem for many years as well

[@JustMalcolm914]

Definitely can relate

[@RetroManiac64]

To me, my fear of rejection is the biggest thing that keeps me single. I often fear that if I try to open up to people, or try and strike up a conversation with someone new, they won't like me or want to talk to me. I try to let myself know that if they do reject me, or are even rude to me if I say "Hi", it's not my fault, maybe I just caught them on a bad day or something. Also, ironically, the biggest reason I fear rejection, is that I don't truly know what it feels like. Like I've said in other comments, I'm 25M and have been single for my whole life, so I don't know what breaking up feels like, and that terrifies me. I know it's unrealistic to expect my first girlfriend to be my ONLY one, but that doesn't change my fear. Personally, I compare this to my fear of bees. I'm lucky and never have been stung by a bee, but that's also why I get extremely paranoid when one or more are nearby. I don't know what it's like to be stung, and am so afraid to find out. I obviously know that trying to talk to someone new won't result in physical pain, but the potential rejection can still hurt, which is why I fear it. I also am the kind of person who gets envious and even angry sometimes when I see couples or people kissing in public, being envious of what I really want and don't have. Even online, when ever I see comments on videos like these where they say "OMG I finally got a girlfriend!", this feeling comes up too. It just sucks because all the replies say things like "Wow, congratulations! 🥰", but I have to be that one guy who's just like "😠". I never reply as to not be the mood killer, but still.

[@A_Man_with_a_Dream]

Stay strong bud, one day u ll notice the change in everything 🧡 someday when you won’t realize that 💔 just stay strong and keep living

[@kiim1593]

Relatable! At 30, I still haven't been in a relationship either, but I just feel like I haven't connected with someone like that. And also the few people that I've liked throughout my life never liked me back. Granted I have the extra challenge of being wlw but even the couple of guys I've liked didn't like me back 💀. But at least I've been stung by a bee and survived 😅. It stung me on my chin 😭 but i's a manageable pain if you take the stinger out right away

[@jinchuriki7022]

Are you me?

[@707bear3]

Same here, but after constant rejections I don’t want to believe to any girl who approach me first.. I cannot forget what happened.. Sometimes I wish I didn’t meet them at all. After all I’m just a reject in this world

[@ExcelMK]

I don’t think I really have a chance regardless of my mindset. Not only am I socially anxious, not only am I also depressed, but I have a bad habit of laziness and I say the wrong things so often it makes me look like a complete jerk. Maybe people see something in me I don’t but I’m in a horrific spot that I don’t see me breaking out of.

[@Aweesashh_13]

1. "Perfection"

[@CosmicGlitterGoddess]

Having been in a couple bad situations, it’s hard to give chances. So I’ve resolved to just be single.

[@flamegamer3424]

I’m glad I’ve seen this video. It’s been hard to trust anyone these past few years because I got turned down a lot. I feel like I’m waiting for a relationship, but in reality, I don’t have to. I still have time to work on myself, let go of the doubts, and I’ll be ready when the time comes.

[@BeelzeKid]

A golden heart tainted by the world . Never to be the same Ill face the struggle But first ill resolve the issues others caused me

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). You're not letting new people enter your life 0:29 2). You're not willing to try new things 1:00 3). You're not over your ex 1:34 4). You're still waiting 2:06 5). You have major trust issues 2:41 6). You genuinely don't want to be in a relationship 3:15 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@DJ-iu5bb]

I never say never but I dont see it happening for me as I got Autism and ADHD even talking to folks that you dont have feelings for is hard to interact so imagine me asking someone out also those Dating Apps are so heart crushing when Folks see it as a Game to really get laid then more finding a person that actually has feelings for you its like a Popularity Contest and your not in the Club and like due to the past im pretty used to rejection or getting let down alot

[@sonzai5162]

People are exhausting, trauma and yeah, trust issues. I'd rather be single

[@lazar190]

As an aromantic, the last advice is pure gold. Even if I want a relationship from time to time, I can't see mysilf into one

[@SoldierOfFate]

1 and 5 are very, very relatable...but I was cheated upon in my first relationship, endured a barrage of bullying and harassment for rejecting someone I had no interest in, mentally and physically abused in my second one, and I was rejected by someone that preferred to be with someone that was unemployed. At this phase, I give up because it's a game you can't win at. Also, I'm old (will turn 33 this year) and it's hard to compete with the younger generation. But then this channel did once mention the dating world is beyond broken, so I don't feel TOO overly bad about it now...

[@SkytaStyle]

I'll turn 33 this year too, and I can relate so much about what you're saying, at this point I feel it's all about luck after all. I've met people who barely meet new people and get into a serious relationship, and I feel I should meet 1000000 new people to probably get in one 😂 it sucks man, I know people have flaws, actually I wss the idiot who really did ignore the big flaws abd get hurt in the end, but you just wanna be genuinely loved, that's it

[@SoldierOfFate]

@@SkytaStyleSame here. At the end of the day I just want to be loved without having to beg for it like a dog or a subhuman.

[@Princessm1320]

I agree and I’m 24. The girl I thought I would marry cheated on me and my first relationship was sexually abusive. I’m just afraid of getting hurt again and hookup culture isn’t for me.

[@Comment.section-b5g]

I'm 24 yo now and still finding reason to be in a relationship. For real guys, being single is the best, being free is the best. I watched this but the only thing I can relate is the last one, being aromantic

[@valerietaylor9615]

Being single and free can be best for women, too.

[@yatinexile7144]

I am single. I watched this video to find out how to stay single.

[@igga_hd]

"Professionals have standards"

[@valerietaylor9615]

This video should be called, „ How To Stay Single In Six Easy Lessons.“ 😊

[@obievergreen3771]

Personally, I have, for lack of a better word, an algorithmic brain, and genuinely can't be bothered with it anymore. I can't justify it. There's nothing that makes me think it's worth it anymore.

[@allyjay7395]

As for the flawless relationships, we need to make a distinction between petty differences and fundamental disagreements in values and worldview. Personally, i cant settle for someone i don't like or trust their judgment or believe to be a genuinely good person.

[@JoseBladerEc_-qh7qz]

I think I will be always a single person I don't need to other person in my life.

[@bethannfeng5062]

Thank you. I saw myself in several of these scenarios, and your gentle voice helps in the healing. Thank you.

[@TheSpectacledOwl]

Been 14 years since my last relationship. Thought I found someone recently, but turned out I misread all the signs.

[@Aizen_Sosuke999]

independent is better than responsibility. -me

[@DJBawnkers]

I know this was 4 months ago but a reason im single is becasue everyone tries to piss me off and hates me

[@jayredz7807]

Losing two girlfriends one after another is challenging. The last one we were already split up but grieving the death of an ex is complicated in it own right.

[@sunburstshredder]

I'm sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine the pain you're going through

[@jayredz7807]

​@@sunburstshredderThank you so much for the comment and acknowledgment. Sometimes things may seem to get worst before they get better. Blessings to you❤

[@apocratos0174]

Remember to work on your personal issues first and try to be happy with yourself before going out there searching for love. How can you make another person happy if youre not happy with yourself?? And its not fair to go out there, trying to find someone and throw your emotional bagage onto them, expecting this relationship to be healthy and lasting... Thats why im 33 and the last serious gf i had was 13 years ago....

[@richiepez]

damn 33? how is u holding up ? like do you still feel the need to be with someone or no

[@KiallVunMyeret]

I don't actually like this advice though it does hold some truth We are fleeting and imperfect creatures. Fixing personal issues takes a lot of time for some and the longer you wait and go without love the harder it will be to find someone later as you will miss experience. You can be in a relationship and not dump all your baggage on the other person. And even if the relation doesn't last atleast you'll have more of a understanding of what you want/need in a relationship. Sometimes the happines you can't see can be found by someone else with a different perspective who looks into places you never thought of. You obviously shouldn't rush into relations without taking time to heal but it's equally bad to wait around forever in the hope you'll someday be a perfect person without flaws. We are social creatures who are designed to feel unhappy when we are lonely as a survival instinct. If people could commonly achieve perfect happiness by themself we wouldn't need relations to elevate that. How do you expect someone to make you happy if you insist on trying to do it alone?

[@tomotan5552]

​@@KiallVunMyeretI'm here literally crying because I'm so tired of hearing and reading that I should be in a relationship RIGHT NOW because if I don't, the older I'll get, the worst it will be, that NO ONE will ever love me for just for getting "old". So, people over 30, 40, 50 don't deserve a chance? Really? Life isn't linear! You can't imagine all the pressure and the hurt of those words. I'm tired of hearing being single is worst thing that can happen to you as a human, "missing the experience?", no, stop pressuring people to live a life they don't want. There's many ways you can feel loved not just from a partner.

[@KiallVunMyeret]

@@tomotan5552 Sorry you got such a visceral reaction but absolutely nothing of what you are crying about is what i actually said First off i said what i said was the longer you go without a relation the harder it will be to get back into one. A relation between a person who knows what they want from previous relations and a person who doesn't know what they look for in a partner cause they haven't pursued one in a while is going to be harder (not impossible) then one where both sides know what they want. That's not pressuring people that's facts and common sense I never said it's impossible to get into a relationship once you're old. I never even mentioned age Second i replied to a comment who said to work on yourself before you search for a relation which means that it should have been obvious the context is about people who actually are looking for a relationship. This was never about people who are happy alone. Don't put words into peoples mouths. Next time a comment makes you litteraly cry would you kindly wait for the tears to dry so you can do some comprehensive reading before attacking and projecting your issues onto other people

[@valerietaylor9615]

Some people ate better off being single. I know, because I’m one of them.

[@sparkster1701]

I can relate, especially to not being over one's ex. Mine ghosted me about 17 months ago, and I'm not sure if a relationship will be worth the effort again. 3 years of time and money shot to hell for no reason that I can fathom.

[@flobba123]

i havent been single that long only like 32 years, Guess i need to talk to more people.

[@ZendreGlymph]

I realized after my last relationship which was over 11 years ago, I learned a lot about myself. I’m happy being single plus you have to live your purpose. Don’t I have found someone who will love me for me 😅.

[@spicydiamond8502]

I have bad anxiety so I don’t go out a whole lot. I want to break that habit of staying in all the time. I would like to meet new people and possibly build a relationship :)

[@ecronaclon47]

What specific thought or belief causes your anxiety?

[@spicydiamond8502]

@@ecronaclon47Most of the time whenever I meet someone new, I get so nervous and I start stumbling over my words. It’s hard to connect with people whenever that happens. I’ve been practicing calming down my mind before I have a conversation with a person. It’s helped me for the most part.

[@ecronaclon47]

@@spicydiamond8502 yes, but what are you afraid of when this happens?

[@spicydiamond8502]

@@ecronaclon47 I guess I’m afraid of not communicating myself “properly.” I know that first impressions are important and I just don’t want to mess that up for myself. Rejection also plays a factor.

[@imgoodkinda]

Be with me then We can book a date Okay I'm joking sorry We're too far away And tbh I'm a male so idk if you're a female, I just assumed you are because of your pfp

[@EthanJaredFuentes]

i wanna be in a relationship but at the same time no one likes me

[@wooohooo103]

Actually, I'm at the point where I'm like, forget it. I'd rather invest my time and energy pursuing other things.

[@AymNBlast]

Being single feels like I'm trapped

[@wardonx887]

Exact opposite

[@AymNBlast]

@@wardonx887 Could also be for anyone else too

[@valerietaylor9615]

It’s much better to be single and free, than trapped in a bad relationship.

[@petermacquarrie8977]

I am the youngest of five children. My three sisters were married at the age of 17. My brother was married at the age of eighteen. My oldest sister was married to two men at the same time. She's been divorced a number of times. My brother has been divorced five times. I am 54 and I've never been married. What else can I say?

[@JustMalcolm914]

Well, I've been single for about 6 years now. I had a learned to be by myself and not rely on other people's love and validation. Now i'm just here🤷🏿‍♂️

[@duongnamphuong]

I have trust issues with anyone approaching me without telling their purpose. There are times that they convince me to join their cult. I despise strangers in social networks that send me friend request without a word, those who contacted me for job interviews even after I refused twice. Both real world and virtual world are not safe for my social life.

[@aznstylepn0y]

I’ve been single for 23 years. Doing what this Gardening, walking, bird watching , art etc. basically what retirement people do. If I get in a relationship it’s like taking care of a pet and spending money lol and then when marriage comes more money to be spent. And if kids came along there goes the gardening and full time work. But if someone does confront me thought I’d probably say yes. But it has to be friends for a long long time . Not just right have the bat relationship like my last one lol

[@krisztinafarkas2976]

Not everything is ment to be for everyone. Need to know when is it foolish to hold on to something and when to give up.

[@lovelumity]

I can mark V on all these signs except that I don't think that the other person should be perfect, I rather think on the contrary that I should be perfect And I didn't have a friend before mainly because of what was mentioned in this video It reminded me that one time someone asked me what I would do once I had a friend and I didn't know what to say because my thinking was that I would be alone forever

[@Chisszaru]

I prefer to be alone. I personally don't need people in my life, i'm happy as is. Besides, i'm not as social as my parents say i am. I have gotten over my last ex, but still, i'm not looking to be in a relationship, as i like i said is happy as is. I wouldn't turn down someone who wants to be with me in a relationship though. While i'm not looking for a relationship, i won't say no if anyone wants to spend their life with me. I'm only 25 after all. I'm in no rush to find love. I'm not looking for love or sex at the moment, because again, i'm quite happy as is, and i do prefer to be alone and just do my thing

[@brendenblechle1681]

Wise words, brother! I'm in the same path as you are. I'm in no rush for a relationship either!

[@lordgiblets7585]

I can't even get people to treat me with basic respect, nor am I able to get anyone to show enough interest in me to have anything more than a surface level conversation. Why should I even bother trying?

[@chrisyentastic379]

I think my main issue is that I just hate myself and can’t imagine anyone caring about me at all let alone in a romantic way.

[@STA-3]

That's the exact same way i describe myself.

[@GargoyleDragon]

I feel like I’m still single because I keep putting my foot in my mouth. Saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. Best solution would be to have more conversations or to talk to a therapist and discuss what’s going on, at least in my biased opinion.

[@mikloridden8276]

As someone in this predicament, it’s so spot on. However I have some reasons to doing some of these. I refuse to meet new people simply because I’m not in the area I want to be, with the people I want to be with. With social media I can see lucky guys getting such people just by being in that area. It make me frustrated knowing that I’m in the wrong place.

[@O.uroboros.777]

I get real emotional when a friend of mine is hurt. I don't know if I want to deal with the pain that'll come when a romantic partner is hurt. The absolute outburst of emotions that would come is overwhelming, and it scares me. That's why I remain single

[@BerylliumBronze]

"6 reasons why you're single" one of the reasons: "you don't want a relationship"

[@wardonx887]

🗿

[@Pault3788]

I've never been in a relationship or been on a date,63 soon to be 64

[@TomcatF47]

Losing all hope was freedom

[@CaptainChubbyDuck]

I think my problem is that Im autistic, have tried online and dating apps for over 15 years, Ive been rejected by every girl Ive ever tried with so for me its like I completely miss some details or dont understand something, doing something wrong. I hope Im wrong, that I just simply miss some signals, but it actually feels like no girl has ever been even the slightest interested in me, regardless what I do. It feels like I need to study and learn flirting techniques or maybe reading and understanding body language. Girls use alot of signal and non-verbal communication after all. I have some issues with the social stuff in general, but have an easier time getting friends actually. Its always been like this. Sure I have bad self-esteem and might come off as desperate etc, that is something I need to work on. But sometimes i dont know where to start, and Ive actually pretty much given up, because it simply hurts to much to get rejected over and over and over and over, every single time......Im 30 years and havent even had sex dude.

[@valerietaylor9615]

I didn’t have sex until I was twenty-seven. I’ve had two serious relationships in my entire life, plus a few flings and one-night stands. I’m now sixty-five going on sixty-six, have been alone for fifteen years, and only recently realized that I’m happier that way. 😊

[@MitsuriK14]

It's so hard to meet someone who wants a genuine emotional connection in this generation

[@RetroGame855]

I literally fricked up...every new day, I understand more that I will stay single forever.

[@Redheadbelle]

The One does exist! It’s ok & understandable to feel scared to approach. Find out what you want. It should be communicated in some way so the One doesn’t wait while you have no plans whatsoever to approach. Your needs matter. Find out what you want. But let it be known in some kind of way. Mixed signals hurt her as much as you. ❤

[@patsonical]

Neo?

[@Redheadbelle]

@@patsonical Neo? Who is that? 😊

[@Redheadbelle]

@@patsonical Neo? Who is that? 😊

[@anderstermansen130]

My needs matter? Mate im the middle child of 3, im used to be ignored and overtrumphed by my siblings, while never being able to meet my parents sky high expectations to me. Thats the home i came from, and i was raised that way. Why should i, at the age of 27, turning 28 in less than a month in the time of writing this comment, suddenly be eligible to needs that actually matters?😂 Wouldnt you think i grew sick and tired of life, and gave up on chasing any interest, because it constantly gets hammered down by my own parents?😂 And wouldnt you think i stopped beliving there would be a "the one" for me, just because there is a "the one" for litterally everyone else, that are actually capable of running sunshine-and-rainbows relationships from day fucking one? Ive seen a lot of fine, cute looking girls over the course of the past few years whereever Ive travelled, and each and every single time ive been absolutely agonizing over the fact i cant have one like her, her, or her. Its gotten so bad to the point where if i make eye contact to a woman, it hurts in my stomach, as the Avalanche of thoughts about i could never be an interesting enough person, to just chat the women up, like normal men actually do. I found out what i wanted. I want to be left alone, as i apparantely am supposed to. I admire those of men who actually have the courage to talk to women. These men have my respect, because i do certainly not have the balls. This long rant is signed. ABT 17-03-2024 Shoesize 46, and tired of life.

[@SuperZippyzippy]

Ill be single forever

[@wardonx887]

Same 💪

[@Xtpfr]

I've been staying single because i feel like i'd hurt the girl emotionally. I havent dated in a few years now, but my past relationships all seemed to end very soon after i messed something up. I feel like me having the general capasity to cause so mamy issues, even though it's not guarenteed, is a major obstical blocking me from dating. Also, im in highschool with no car and no job, which i struggle to get because of my living situation and lack of transport. Im probably overthinking, i dont know anymore. I have a good personality and i really do try to be the best i can, but i guess some little issues sorta stop me.

[@mwaves4152]

You in Highschool focus on doing your best I’m in college g don’t stress yourself with love

[@D.M.S.]

1. let someone in 2. learned a lot of new things before and during 3. Was completely over my ex 4. Wasn't really waiting, but finding 5. Have NOW major trust issues, but not as it started 6. And I genuinely wanted to be in a relationship But she lied and dropped me overnight for nonsense reasons.

[@Shannnie]

People just suck. As sad and unfair as it is, it's luck of the draw sometimes...

[@sgnibble1]

I don’t completely agree on not having to meet someone before a certain age. Once you reach a certain age most people have kids from previous relationships thus limiting the number of available potential partners. I’ve already come to terms with staying single because I don’t want to help a baby daddy raise his kids 🤷‍♀️ that’s just unnecessary stress and extra responsibility which I’m sure would be dumped on me while he just chills with his friends or does his hobbies. It’s a bad deal

[@resko8758]

amen to that, single parents are just shitty as a partner

[@MegaChriz]

I'm 38 years old now, and I find the idea to date women that have kids uncomfortable, especially if these kids are nearing their teenage years. I just have no experience raising children and I'm also unsure if I could handle that currently emotionally. But I wonder if I should try to let go of these feelings in order to get better chances of finding someone?

[@UnderWarranty]

If you date someone with kids and you end up getting close to them kids and she breaks up with you. That will be a lot of heart ache

[@bluestrike01]

Because people right know making themeselves to individual to be open for eachother!

[@Gold-Entertainment]

Relationship < reelationship

[@noxk1992]

Haven't been in a relationship since birth, now I'm 20 years old. What I fear is that what's left for me is people with relationship experiences. I fear it because it makes me feel small because they know how this works and I don't

[@brendenblechle1681]

Staying single benefits people for the better. Its not worth being in a relationship.

[@omppu65]

well depends on how u look at it. For example, if everyone would be single there would be no more kids born (or very few) and humans would die

[@KiallVunMyeret]

The fact that the number of people with mental health issues is steadily rising along with the number of people who are single suggest otherwise

[@CWazBroadwayBandGeek]

Oh I KNOW I’m going to be single forever. The dating scene focuses on looks instead of personality and heart.

[@Siniset]

For me there's only one thing: I'm too shy to tell girl I like her

[@khrisbreezy3628]

I appreciate the nod to religious inclinations affecting our dating prospects. It's a big part of many people's lives and dating preferences.

[@DaRealFantomas]

I want to get back with my ex. She was exactly what I needed. I tried finding someone new and haven't found anyone right for me.

[@0_3_6_9_0]

Thank you for this video, I do not relate to any of these signs or mindsets. Its just that I feel attracted to few girls (probably on this platform) but I do not know any of them well enough to filter them all down to commit towards one, so avoiding them becomes an easier option.

[@joycedropoog575]

I genuinely don't want a relationship. Its hard work, and i don't want to put the work and effort into it.

[@Laindal]

I feel i will be single forever, but because i am ugly, introvert and i have no social abilities to approach a woman "romantically". It is sad to accept this reality.

[@LuckyBlast1]

I mean, we humans can NEVER be perfect! We always come close to it, but never reach it.

[@valerietaylor9615]

Most people don’t even come close.

[@LuckyBlast1]

@valerietaylor9615 We always need to try our best, though.

[@Seventh-sky_official]

1 and 5 are my problems for the same reason. I feel dumb for believing someone special loved me, they left and now I'm scared to love again.

[@tomotan5552]

Dear people reading me: Please don't let anyone to make you feel bad just because you don't have a romantic relationship. Sometimes I feel people just look for a partner because that's what others expect you to do, and it's horrible. Makes you believe you are incomplete but that's not true. Please stop thinking you are unlovable for whatever reason, you are worth tons of love, doesn't matter your age or whatever. Live the life you want at your pace, you don't owe anyone anything but yourself. Honestly, I want a relationship too but I'll do it for myself, not for pleasing others, not to prove I'm worth just because other person decided to share their life with me. No, I'm already worth the way I am, single or in a relationship, whatever.

[@mrSrigwils]

Damn so the "coaches dont play 🗣" mindset is holding me back, thanks Psych2Go for the help :)

[@derekmaullo2865]

In my 16 year olds, I thought to myself that being In a relationship was the worst thing ever. I was right

[@brandonporter2321]

I swear, this video speaks to my soul. Well, except for the ex since i never had a relationship to get an Ex. With that said, I'm trying my best to come to terms with the fact that I will more than likely be single forever, and i will die single. And the sooner i do a better job at accepting this, the better ill be in life. Is it harsh and cynical? Yes. But honestly, it's the truth. A truth i need to accept.

[@ecronaclon47]

Not necessarily. I can say for myself, however, that I'm finally starting to understand that making a relationship a top priority actually shoots myself in the foot because I care too much, and I put too much pressure on myself with too little experience, producing stress and negative feedback. I don't think a relationship should be more important to us than say finding quality friends and being true to ourselves and who we want to be. Find an ambition and pursue it with passion! Because it is more delusional to believe we will never succeed in life than to believe, with work and vision, we can become who we want to be in the circumstances we always wanted. But, that takes the risk of hoping again. Or rather, believing we are worthy of our ambitions and letting that _new identity_ drive us to make it reality.

[@se-pelaaja4478]

YES👍

[@nikosschoolofMentalHealth]

Everyone need time to full decide and ensure they are ready to be in a relationship. Matters of Love are not for the immature people. ❤❤❤

[@Motivtilldeth]

f my friends laughed at me from being single but I'm ok with ut, due to avoidance of commiting a toxic relationship. Guess who's crying and approaching st me after an heartbreak😂😂

[@len_not_enough3010]

Well.... Based on that i will never ever be happy

[@wayneturner8575]

I normally like and agree with this channel. However,I disagree with this video. It is victim blaming, and solely blaming the individual for those that don't want to be single. Instead of victim blaming. It fails to mention, that a lot of luck is involved with finding someone. Add to that we live in a very shallow and fickle society. In which possibly the majority are picking the wrong people. With many people rightly or wrongly going to be seen as more appealing than others. We all have to remember the populist fallacy - Just because the majority think something, doesn't mean they are right. Issues have to be judged on individual merit and not popularity.

[@jccuchvjvj]

I have copied the mechanism from childhood from my relationship with my mom. I'm a child from a rap.. and I can only love the one that I'm pushing away. Who is close and yet so far.

[@zhiyangl1028]

Being in a relationship is so expensive, especially in Singapore

[@matheusimon7316]

Feels kinda weird to not have any of those mindset but still single lol

[@mr.sheeppeehs4204]

I don’t know if you guys do suggestions. But a video I would like to see would be how to show others that I care about them

[@omppu65]

They have made a video about love languages which seems to fit that topic because it talks about different ways of showing love (doesn't have to be romantic)

[@mr.sheeppeehs4204]

@@omppu65 thanks, I’ll look for that

[@thamashadevindi]

I am leaving this comment because I want to tell this to somebody but I cannot do that to my friends. I think I had feelings for one of my best friends in my school years but she is also a girl as I am. That time I didn't want to admit that but felt very happy deep in my heart anytime when little things happen like catching me when I was about to fall or patting me to say 'it's okay'. I thought I was happy because I felt that she cares about me because I cared about her a lot. Sometimes I felt like I am doing all the things that she ask me to do but only thing I got back was letting her to make fun of me always. But I wanted to be with her so badly. Though I was thinking in that way, I know she also did care about me. Anyway I admitted my feelings after leaving the school but didn't know how to get over them. Unexpected confession also happend in last year but I know she doesn't have the feelings for me like I did. And she was having a partner already. I said her that I had overcome from it but it was a lie. I want to let this go because the friendship is far more important than this stupid 'having feelings' thing. Does anyone know what to do?

[@Borizotto]

I have issues trusting people. Or, to be honest, people think in a way, and I think in another, entirely. So I'm awkward with girls, awkward with boys awkward with...things nor masculine nor feminine. I'm just comfortable with my 8yo grey cat. He's calm, fat and cute. I'm anxious, fit and cute too. So we make a good pair, we watch youtube videos together. He loves when i scratch gently his neck, and his back. I love feeling the softness, and the fluffiness of its fur. I'm trying to change things, I wanna be more comfortable with other humans. But I trust either too much, either too less. I start trusting people, then I feel betrayed, and I'm sad I trusted someone. I know I'll feel bad, so I trust myself, my family and my cat. So buy cats, people. They are carefree and independent, so they don"t feel like a charge, they aren't acting like pick-mes (like dogs do.) and they do trust you if you're not an asshole.

[@paddy_118]

6 years after my last relationship, thought I found someone who was a good fit but I fucked it up so now I'm just staying out of things for a long time.

[@gabriellecureux5528]

Ya my biggest problem is meeting new people but I have no idea where to even start I my community isn't that big and the majority of activities money which j can't really afford to do a bunch of stuff

[@eeyore8874]

Definitely trust issues especially after when my ex was manipulative emotionally abusive and stalked me after i split. Much easier not to go back into one.

[@GeorgeWeiss-s8p]

Hello, I am a socially ignorant Autistic. My interactions are all difficult. These videos collectively have given me the knowledge to proceed socially correctly, and without the wanted support of friends, who just stand by and laugh. Many thanks for the knowledge base, which now allows me to successfully navigate the female forest I walk daily.

[@suryagamers1102]

I'm still feeling low from past experience 😢

[@rosesmith2480]

Trust. Where can I find that

[@NoNeedForRandomNumbers]

3:49 Isn‘t aromentic a typo?

[@Akash-Studies]

Seems like I am going to be single forever 😂😂😂😂

[@Plom8888]

Where is the lady narrator Amanda 😢😢

[@Jukari94]

Aromantic that's me.

[@wardonx887]

Good

[@LessThanLucid]

It's perfectly valid to be Aro! 🏳️‍🌈💚💚🤍🩶🖤

[@DarkEdgePrince]

What if you simply chose hatred when you were younger and feel it's too late to turn back?