6 Secret Keys to Dating a Younger Guy

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@trutherasitis2109]

My husband is 20 years younger than me been married 10 years very much devoted to each other and the lovemaking is out of this world 💞

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yess Truther Asitis! He's a lucky man ❤️

[@tiliayala9288]

Good for you! Love is Family and only you know what is best for you. Good to know you have a good time together.

[@blessed3975]

I am praying for that kind of relationship and love. I'm happy for you

[@michellevicente1274]

LOVE that!!💕🙌🏽

[@T333TN]

Woohoo! Good for y'all!

[@deborahreed4057]

I'm 66 and just met a beautiful younger man of 37, a few months ago and it is a wonderful connection. I love how he brings out the playfulness in me. I'm an active person and to be free of everything he shows his masculinity in ways he never thought about. He calls me his cougar which is a sweet. Go for it ladies. 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so sweet thanks for sharing! it's a great connection:)

[@t.lc.777]

I hate the cougar name.

[@lisalamour4909]

Hi, I'm in love with a 47 yr old and I'm early 60s. He spends lots of time with me and texts me everyday alot, but keeps me in friend zone, what to do??

[@rhiannon-bv9rk]

@@lisalamour4909 friend zone, just means that!!! It might be painful, but he doesn't want something permanent in terms of having babies or getting married.

[@heathertaylor4979]

I am 71 and my partner is 39! I can’t imagine dating a guy my age now! Since this original post we are still happily together and I just turned 74.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations!

[@tresjolieme81]

oml lol

[@PlatinumNW]

More power to you do not let anybody take that happiness from you. Remember, only hurt people hurt people.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Yeah! Get it girl! ✊️✊️😏😏

[@KKLee-yt9ic]

Wow! I wanna be like you 😊

[@lc9629]

Met a younger man, (14 yrs younger),19 years ago. He's never been married and no kids. Was merely fun sex to me, but for 19 years he still kept contacting me for a 'fun time & to catch up'. Im a twice divorced woman and very independent since my divorce 26 years ago. I fought off this guys line of "age is just a number"....laughed at him and thought he was just after the conquer. He's very successful and had many beautiful women his entire life. 2 years ago I realized I love this man....who Id fought off for many years... What was I thinking?? So I threw that at him and he was shocked. He said 'what?...you want a commitment?" I said 'your'e not capable of a commitment; I just wanted you to know and I don't know what to say but I'm moving on". Been together & committed ever since and deeply in love now. Sometimes you've gotta tell em 'sh## or get off the pot baby'....has been an adjustment for us both because we're a lot alike but we're growing, learning from each other.

[@marianas3268]

Wow ! Great story

[@gracedeatherage4955]

Yes what a great story

[@helenkornilova9849]

thank you for sharing! would you have time to give some advice?

[@kchezy5805]

Thank you. He was secretly in love with me since he was 28, and he thought I was out of his league. At his manly age of 33, he built the courage to ask me out. I was 44. I am so grateful to have him in my life and we are still together going strong. By the way, I look young like in my early thirties.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yess K Chezy! He's a lucky man ❤️

[@kiddor909gmail]

I seem to be getting younger as I date this man..I feel alive and have more energy..even my Dr noticed

[@ralitsavasileva4568]

1. Be clear and direct. 2. Show you are interested, connect, play. Openness, invitingness. 3. Be present. 4. Be playful and spontaneous. 5. Master in texting. 6.Use sensuallity.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESS well done! you got it!

[@jackmears3167]

Ralitsa Vasileva here

[@kateschneider8813]

He’s 27 years younger and wow! Magical in every way. This advice is spot on.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@MiaSanchez11.11]

I'm 42 and he is definitely my youngest, 20 years younger. Been trying to figure out how to navigate telling my oldest daughter as my other 2 are excited and love him. Biggest concern is breaking the news to mothers. This has helped me tremendously and makes me realize that our happiness is all that matters and there is nothing wrong with having a big age gap. He is definitely the best, my BEST friend ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!🤗

[@susandavis903]

So you feel like dating men who be interested in your daughter? How do you not treat him like a son?

[@marincuculic1020]

Mia you look so stunning :) are you single maybe?

[@hirschiegirl]

I recently met a younger man, and we really clicked. It took me by surprise, but I felt very comfortable with him so I decided to go with it. We went on our first date last night, we both had a lot of fun! He’s 28 and today is my 50th birthday 🥳

[@Mat_Shaffer]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAR! And what a fun birthday present... a fun date with a guy almost half your age heheeee 🤗🤗 what was so fun about being with a young guy ?

[@cn2746]

GO GIRL! Make us proud. Carol

[@melmel8907]

Rock on girlfriend !

[@elizabethjimenez7368]

I'm there too!...in 7 years.. I will be 50 and he will be 28.

[@hirschiegirl]

@Mat Shaffer thank you! We share the same world view and common interests, so we never ran out of things to talk about on our date. He’s very sweet and respectful. Also, I’ve met him at a time in my life when I had just come through doing major healing after having my self esteem, self confidence, and self worth destroyed by someone I was involved with for many years. Meeting a guy of any age who is truly into me and appreciates me for me is absolutely refreshing and validating. I think he’s going to help me get rid of any lingering negative thoughts and doubts I have about myself. Age is just a number and neither one of us are bothered by it. I have no expectations, I am just going to go with it and enjoy our time together. Truly liberating for me! ☺️

[@Lilione111]

My guy 38 me 52. He always calls me his queen. I secretly love it.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing! you ARE his queen

[@patriciaanderson3938]

WHEN THEY CALL YOU QUEEN ITS A SCAMMER

[@Lilione111]

Patricia Anderson Iknew & worked with him for a couple of years before we started dating, so we got to know each other first. He didn't start calling me his queen as soon as we started seeing each other. It developed with time. If a guy was saying I was his queen straight off the bat, I wouldn't buy into that. I'm not that naive 😄

[@mayramalave1279]

@@patriciaanderson3938 so true!!

[@bscnyc9948]

don't G... 🤐🤐🤐🤔🤔🤔💋💋💋

[@celineawad3946]

I always attract and date younger men. Why? Simple. I look younger and love life and fun. 🍸🍸🎊😄

[@Mat_Shaffer]

BOOM sounds like a party to me! :)

[@mylovelealife1460]

Same 😍😍😍

[@reason5591]

Same with me Celine. I am 60 yrs and young and look young

[@reason5591]

@Elizabeth Tremblay i like 30 year old man even if he was my age. He found me and he likes me and our age difference we dont consider. It just worked out this way. I wasnt even looking.

[@lisesuroto9544]

@Elizabeth Tremblay I look very much younger than my age, young spirit, healthy. Men of my age looking old and wonder if I would marry them, my world would adjust to that old life. I feel age just numbers. The actual one is how you're in the presence.

[@francinegray9383]

Wow, Mat, you are the only coach who takes this type of connection seriously -- with no jokes, no snide remarks. Age gap relationships have always existed, often behind closed doors. They are not only legitimate, but deeply important at certain points in our lives. We have things to learn from each other, and can have a wonderful time doing it! I love the open, tender hearts of younger men, and being completely silly with guys who can loosen up!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Beautifully expressed Francine, thanks so much for appreciating the nuances of these connections :) It can be so fun!

[@francinegray9383]

@@Mat_Shaffer Sounds like you know! lol

[@jackieflynt995]

​@@francinegray9383doesn't it, though..lol

[@ParisTNT]

What a sweet comment

[@ljvita5011]

In my 70’s and after my husband of 29 years died I found that younger men are more interested in me than those my age. I’ve had a great sexual relationship with a 43 year old and presently exploring a relationship with a 52 year old. I can’t imagine being with someone my age again.

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Hello I can recomend you to someone that helped me get my ex back recently he can also help you just as he did mine too

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Text on whtzapp

[@bobbiebarrance6421]

Go for it.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@yadhilopez8929]

My Habibi is 20 year younger than I and I love him so much. He brings me so much youthful and happiness. I adore him 😍. Thank you for your advice.

[@mofimTV]

niiiice but how do you handle your cirle of friends? do you hang around his younger friends or him around your older friends ? what is the best recipe for you to make it flow and not awkward?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.

[@antoniosinstrumental3820]

I love this video so much! I really hope the ladies beyond my ages are aware of these keys... One thing I disagree on this video is that we text a lot... I call more than text! If I'm texting someone, i will always drop the bomb of "Can we call? Calling beats texting". I get tired of texting, and love hearing voices and conversation flow

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for the beautiful share Antonio's Instrumental 🙏

[@TuffLuv1984]

So refreshing

[@Cybergirl]

That's so cute!

[@gloriastroedecke2717]

Yes. Actual talking is very important to connecting.

[@ednamariacroxton8859]

@Antonio's Intrumental Iagree with you. Text or call is not a age matter. I could be the older woman and I use a lot of voice messages or text and I do quick calls. Is not the age is the communication tools that we have nowadays. So I don't agree the video on that.

[@WillieCotton-n5y]

I'm 64 and my partner is 48 I'm praying this relationship works out for us

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I hope it helps mazel tov! :)

[@blessingsfromspirit6881]

The reason I’m dating someone 16 years younger right now is because I’ve never stopped playing and enjoying life but so many men my age have. We have so much fun!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality

[@kenishamonsi2305]

Me either!! I’m 43 and I am a kid at heart

[@BBFLYRISEN]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🙋🏿‍♀️🫶🏿💃🏿

[@TainaCurrymusic]

Totally agree!!

[@blancacharun4398]

My baby is 25 and I’m 46. He rescued me when I had a flat tire, paid for the replacement of my rim, followed me to make sure I made it safely. that’s how we met … He is still around ❤ and the sex is fire 🎉

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yesss LOVE THAT STORY! So happy for you! 🤗❤️ 🔥🔥🔥

[@AutumnGold0706]

I can arrange to have a flat tire!! 😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great idea!! It's on my list! 😁

[@susandavis903]

Enjoy it now…menopause will come for you….

[@margieebe9933]

😊😅my lover is 19 years younger than me! I'm 73, fantastic sex,

[@mdkcjtl5523]

I’m 18, and my wife is 24. I always tease with her, calling her a “ cougar” lmao. It’s great tho, I love the fact that she’s much more mature than women my age and she’s pregnant:) where expecting are kid to be born in February. Cheers from Germany.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

congratulations!!! children are a blessing, for sure!!

[@WARFORCHRIST]

Oh wow😊 My boyfriend's 21 and I'm 24 and we're expecting our first baby March 29th 😊

[@shabnumosman5192]

Congratulations guys

[@Mingmingmeow90]

Ha! When I turn 19, well she's probably 22 at that time. I'll call her a cougar too!

[@mdkcjtl5523]

@@Mingmingmeow90 I’m 19 now and she’s 25 and our sons ( she had twins) are one. Cheers

[@sandramatthew931]

He puts me in my place, tells me when I’m going wrong he is so mature… Better than any man that I’ve been out with older or not it’s not about the ages about the maturity in mind

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing my dear so happy for you!

[@trudy-annsmall9600]

I told a younger man that today who is showing interest but I am still in overthinking mode about us...praying I make the best decision

[@sandramatthew931]

@@Mat_Shaffer thank you my sweetheart

[@sandramatthew931]

@@trudy-annsmall9600 the best decision is for you to be happy age is just a man-made Number. You need to take time to know him it will work out. It’s all about the frequency and the connection between both of you that’s what’s important not age🙏🏾💜

[@trudy-annsmall9600]

@@sandramatthew931 thank you for the positive vibes even though I know sex is high on his agenda I am keeping an open mind and will take up his offer to go on a date...bless you

[@dawnstarling2752]

I have a boyfriend who is nine years younger, I have been married twice to men around my age and I feel like they have always treated me like I’m a child and their servant, but being with my younger man it’s effortless and calm, he uplifts me he’s supportive of any decision I make and he doesn’t stress me out. He’s easy to talk to he’s easy to be with and around, we have fun together but we also have our quiet relaxed time as well, there is no rush no stress and understanding and no pressure!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

This is an inspiring story!

[@borcsaster]

I so much agree! 🙏

[@tanhue1265]

Society really shames older women/ younger men relationships. Thank you for taking it seriously and all these really great points. Younger men are so wonderful.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS you got it my dear!! so glad this supported you :)

[@dlandrews1]

Yes it does and it is wrong. It happened to me at my church.

[@shabnumosman5192]

My guy is 22 yrs younger than me. I'm 54yrs. He keeps me feeling happy

[@shabnumosman5192]

Exactly. These things happen when one is usually not looking. 😂😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@laura2842]

Thank you so much. I am involved with a man 11 years younger, and we absolutely love what we have, hope we stay together forever!!!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love that share!! :)

[@GENDERISAFACT]

This is great to hear. I've recently begun dating a younger Man 11 years between us as well. ...it's new and he's so sure and I want to take my time. It's a bit overwhelming but I'm letting it happen....curious....

[@irrsinnslicht1]

I`m 36, my husband is 29 and we getting our first baby in 4 month :)

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING congrats my dear!! :) Boy or girl?

[@irrsinnslicht1]

@@Mat_Shaffer a girl 😁

[@drbhaviify]

Congratulations

[@yeiyei3869]

Beautiful

[@RestingCatNipFace]

Congratulations 🎊🎈

[@amynoeloconnell3059]

I’m 51, he’s 27! We have the best time together! ❤️❤️

[@marincuculic1020]

Are you still dating him?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@marincuculic1020]

you look really stunning :) are you still together?

[@jamiamiller5751]

I really like (love) you Matt. You have it! Go for it! I'm 61 and continually am approached by younger men. I'm engaged to a man over 20 years younger than myself.

[@celestegadsden6916]

I am dating a man who is 41 years old and I am 57 years old

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@orchidpaint9885]

I am 60 my husband is 45. He is so good to me, I am treated like a Queen. We started out as friends and took our time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@graciehomestay3134]

Omg, thank you I already attracted a man half my age, I didnt know what I had done but we are now building our lives together.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@cherelmatadosalbina8150]

I was 36 and he was 24 when we met. 12 years age gap. When he ask my aged on my birthday, he's bit disappointed when he learned that I am older than him. He thought that we are on the same age or maybe I am older 2 years than him. So I sleep that night thinking Que sera sera whatever will be will be. A message from him woke me up the next day saying "Hey Birthday Girl Wake Up". Then the rest is history. He knows when I feel uncomfortable of my wrinkles, freckles and unstable body. But he always comfort me (my flaws and imperfection), saying "It's alright. Nobody is perfect".

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aww this is SUCH A SWEET STORY!! thank you for sharing, you two have a beautiful connection I can tell :)

[@dancingcloud8557]

Very sweet. How long have you two been together?

[@marianas3268]

Awwww 🥰

[@ashley9776]

So sweet

[@0111ddd]

You are so lucky

[@kamie1978]

My Guy is 28 and I am 41 So its not abnormal what I see and read here. Sometimes I think of it, but when I see videos like these iT gives me kind of great feelings I am not the only one. Thnak you very much❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES you are not alone!! my most popular recent videos are all around this beautiful age gap dynamic... congrats on your wonderful connection

[@kamie1978]

Mat Shaffer thank you very much!!!

[@crose55082]

I keep attracting younger men. It's good that the age gaps work. I find myself attracting younger men, they say I don't look my age. That is usually the first thing that attracts them.

[@julifunnygirl71]

Bar Clays, your comment gives me hope. I'm really interested in a guy who is 13 years younger than I am and I have so much fear about it. I'm glad to know that for some people it works.

[@antihaters6504]

abnormal 😂🤣

[@GwenMotoGirl]

I’m 62 and find myself in the delicious potential opportunity to date an attractive, intelligent 33 year old man. This video has me smiling. Big. Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing my dear so so happy for you!

[@marincuculic1020]

Gwen you look so cute :) Are you single?

[@Cravenn5]

Brace yourself….. you will likely change the rest of your life and his! ❤

[@marincuculic1020]

Gwen are you maybe single?

[@lindajackson2382]

I know ALL the keys to attracting and dating younger men! I'm ONLY attracted to younger white men ( I'm black! ) In fact I MARRIED a much younger white guy who died in 2006. I'm a PROUD COUGAR of a different kind!! I'm currently in love with a white guy that's 38 years old but I'm 63 but LOOK 40 something because I'm BLACK and black doesn't CRACK baby!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

GET IT MOMMA!!! one of my favvv recent comments heheeee... you inspire me my dear! Whats your favorite part of dating younger guys?

[@patriciaanderson3938]

Im only ayracted to younger men alk my life nothing against older but l JUST LOVE YOUNGER WE GROW TOGEATHER

[@primroserosemary8862]

🤢

[@federicacaldana4782]

Linda jackson I m white and only attracted to black guys, and I m like yourself, I seem to attract younger guys a lot, however it doesn’t last... I need some advice

[@virginiasherland9306]

Awesome..Im the same way only, I m attracted to black man much younger than myself..🌹❤

[@callmejo9068]

I am 64 and he’s 42. It has been the most amazing journey, his energy is so refreshing.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

incredible Im so happy for you! thats a lovely age gap relationship right there :)

[@petitlivre]

Does anybody else watch every single one of Mat’s videos with a pen and notebook in hand like he’s preaching the New New Testament? No? Just me? 😅 I appreciate your wisdom as always Mat! I’m 28 but still feel like everything you said is totally applicable for dating men of all ages. Your videos have helped me turn a black heart and false narrative about men and dating into hope for the future. What a gift 💓

[@Mat_Shaffer]

😭😭❤️ one of the most touching comments I’ve ever received!! Thank you so so much for your kind words, truly moved. Y them... it’s my honor and purpose to support you and I’m beyond grateful that I’ve inspired you to connect to your heart in a deeper way🙏🙏❤️✨ let me know what more you would like me to speak Into 🤗

[@charitymunyiko6457]

My prayer is to find someone who will make me happy,smile all the time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

you are worthy of that!

[@lilliemoss6895]

Me too

[@williamhendricks3935]

I am here

[@teammotivation142]

I’ve always thought of dating an older woman after listening to your previous video l can say am ready now

[@teammotivation142]

Hi dm me I will make you my queen

[@karljans4807]

I met my gf when I was 20 and she was 28 when we did volunteering august 2021. Been in a ldr with her ever since. This month I visited her again for a long weekend and it was great. She looks quite young for her age which makes it easier to not get judged by ppl. I lover her a lot.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!

[@freespirit5234]

Everything you explained to attract a younger man, i do it naturally, i have ADHD, im a fun bubbly person, so i have always attracted younger men, but dated older men. I dated a younger man in my 20's and he treated me better than men my age or older. No more older boring men!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wonderful! I’m so glad this helped you!

[@brendabrewer8276]

OMG I love this!!! As I get romantically involved exclusively with younger men (date all ages) this is INVALUABLE advice and I took notes and added to my "Important Relationship Stuff" folder! It's just perfect to know that we always have OPTIONS when dealing with any romantic partner and the more knowledge we have about upliftment, no matter what situation, the better outcomes we have! 💗

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YESSS you got it my dear!! so glad this supported you :)

[@nancysloan3731]

I am with a man who is 9 years younger than me. We have been together for over 20 years. It hadn:t always been peaches and cream but we work things out together.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing my dear so so happy for you!

[@starchildgoddess_3335]

Your voice and tone is ridiculously soothing! Yes need this! Mine is almost 10 years younger 26!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aww LOVE IT

[@starchildgoddess_3335]

Mat Shaffer thank you!

[@Relaxinwealth]

How is it going sis ? I’m contemplating 🙃 mine is almost 13 years younger than me

[@rhondareese3908]

I'm engaged to be married to my younger man. I'm 10 years older than him. Been together for 1 year and 9 months. In 62 and he just turned 52. We are always on the same page and have same thoughts. Sometimes saying tie same thing at the same time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thats so beautiful thanks for sharing your love! truly inspiring!!

[@rhondareese3908]

@@Mat_Shaffer you're welcome

[@trishmccollum1263]

Never thought 10 yrs younger was possible

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@ayudewipuspasari6088]

I already subscribe your channel

[@nannyonjojamila1805]

You said that help but me I need awite man In my life am from Uganda am 25 years old thank you so much sir

[@kirstenholmquist7074]

Whoo hoo

[@lpsglitterpaws8536]

I am 50 but I look 35 according to feedback from others. I am a runner and lift weights which really help my physical appearance. I recently went online to find a relationship and I am finding that younger men love older women! I am finding that the men my age or older don’t look so good!!! I am flirting with the idea of dating these younger hotties. I have to enough confidence to go for it. Thanks for this info!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome Lps glitter Paws! 🙏

[@richardrivas3294]

* Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally. ... * Don't chase him. ... * Love yourself. ... * Take care of yourself. ... * Don't be a people pleaser. .. * Speak your mind.

[@marianas3268]

Protect your heart and bank account, apart from that you could find a true love

[@marincuculic1020]

Hi :) are you single maybe?

[@lpsglitterpaws8536]

@@marincuculic1020 Yes

[@angelinasamson6996]

I’m 49 and he’s 33 , it’s so effortless and organic ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that! ❤❤❤

[@melmel8907]

Yep he thought I was younger and I thought he was older. I was 48 and he was 36! It was a year of fun. How’d I do it? I learned to let myself be my feminine self, appreciate them for who they are right now, definitely loved the banter, and oh so many adventures. We taught each other a lot and he got me out of my shell and made me realize that I am desirable! He still wants to hang out when he’s in town! Flattering!! But won’t do it. I’m in totally love with my new guy who is one year younger than me and treats me like a queen. 💜 Videos like yours Mat truly helped me learn how to understand Men. Seriously love your videos! Thank you. 🙏🏻

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing my dear so so happy for you and your experience! and congrats on your beautiful new relationship

[@c.b.2321]

Thank you so much - from an elder woman from North Germany ;-), who's dating a 20 years younger man since some weeks.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome! ♥

[@urpisarmiento5385]

Good luck❤🎉

[@stefaniekantor1900]

You make it sound like we, the older women are there to date the younger man to teach him how to more of himself. I’m drawn to men younger than me because if their sexual prowess and energetic abilities as I’m a very active 50 year old woman. But if I date a man it’s because I might be interested in a long term relationship with him. My casual days are done as I’ve just ended a toxic relationship with a 36 yr old Narcissistic man. We aren’t in this world to train anyone.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

We can all teach each other regardless of age - precious lessons can be exchanged both ways :)

[@stefaniekantor1900]

Mat Shaffer I think you are very positive, which is great, but when you’ve been in a toxic relationship with a younger man as an older woman In a patriarchal world.....well, then we can talk.

[@terribrown5989]

I'm always afraid they would reject me and be like go away old woman....😥

[@beebuzz959]

I get that, but realize you're the one rejecting yourself, not them. Flirting is safe, but if you're not comfortable with just that, just smile and be yourself, open and warm. And if he moves more forward from there, just a tad, then just play with it and enjoy it without expecting anything. Very often but that will build to something, and it's all safe.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

great coaching Beanie! You can do this Terri

[@terribrown5989]

@Kat Loveslife I don't like older men I'm really hoping to find my younger man...pray for me

[@terribrown5989]

@Kat Loveslife thank you

[@terribrown5989]

@Kat Loveslife all that ever approach me is old men I don't know what to do

[@elizabethanderson9437]

I’m 65. He’s 22. Never been happier.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you

[@natashialee6632]

My man is 10 years younger than me. His so amazing.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@ljc3484]

I’m not into “younger” men, just happens some of the ones I like are younger than me. But I think I want what every one wants: someone who is healthy, happy, independent & kind, financially responsible. My issue right now is my own health, illness isn’t always great going into a relationship. And I’m past the child bearing age, I know lots of not most men want someone to start their own family with.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

[@felicidad2388]

I’m 49 and he is 29! Never actually planned dating a younger man but is nice!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@Maggie-sx2fr]

I'm 66 dating a 34 yo. I was married for a long time. Getting divorced. Should be next month, but have been dating this young man for 9 months. I have never felt so alive or sexy or want to make passionate Love like I do with him.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

[@viktoriastockmal8405]

Very well put. I have and always have dated younger men, but usually by only a few years. Several years ago I dated a man in his 30s. You are so right. It helped him to become more of the man he wanted to become. And it was wonderful for me to embrace my feminine side. Which can be quite powerful for a woman. LOL it seems to work very well for both sides. Thank you for this video. The topic surprised me at first. But I think it's very well done.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES this is exactly what I’m talking about!! Especially with points 5 and 6.... great opportunity to establish polarity and expand with your partner 🤗🤗🤗

[@viktoriastockmal8405]

@@Mat_Shaffer Definitely especially points 5 & 6! Bravo, Mat!

[@marincuculic1020]

Viktoria are you single?

[@viktoriastockmal8405]

@@marincuculic1020 I am .... But much older now. 😄

[@marincuculic1020]

@@viktoriastockmal8405 haha well that is definitely fine by me. :) I am 28 btw. Can we maybe get in contact? Would love to be friends.

[@stella9785]

The biggest love of my life is 29 years younger than me! Pure bliss!

[@adamadel7097]

Wow

[@adamadel7097]

Are you single now

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing! love hearing that!

[@tiliayala9288]

My son's father was 10 years younger than me. I have loved younger men, since then. He passed away, left me a son. I am praying for a young guy in my life.

[@jonynicolas929]

Sorry to hear he passed away

[@RobertMichael-d2u]

Accept my condolences, same here. I'm 34y old how old are you

[@carlagarrett5278]

I am so pleasantly surprised to have found your channel. I have been a Psychologist in private practice for thirty years and I learn a lot from you. Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@modestyblaze2987]

I never thought I'd be watching this kind of video...! I was in love with 35yo and I am 13years older. And married, not living with my husband at the time. I never wanted a relationship, less likely with a man so much younger. I still look pretty good, but he was soon hot..so handsome, very tall, very attractive. We had so much passion for each other. But then I fell in love. There was no future for us so I came back home to my husband trying to forget. Never cheated for 25 years so now I am feeling so low. It's good as a fun for someone who can control his/her feelings. I couldn't so I'm paying the price.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your share my dear... sounds like it was a powerful experience for you and you learned a lot from it!

[@143christ2]

Didn't work coz u were married. 🤨

[@marianas3268]

Why there was no future for that relationship?

[@briechilli4496]

I love that you mentioned the honouring his deep masculine and stay in your feminine. Love it ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yes! Thank you!

[@sandrajones5135]

I'm naturally all those things you described, no wonder I am attracted and just attracting 28 to 35 yr old man and find the ones my age too serious, too boring and lack energy! Thank you as I just discovered I'm not going crazy! Most guys I meet in person feel I'm 35 which doesn't help ah ah

[@Mat_Shaffer]

wonderful you are magnetic... own THAT :)

[@luckyedward250]

Hello beautiful

[@GreenTara2010]

I really needed to hear this. Met a younger man online and need to move this forward.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

have fun!

[@vixter28]

Ive had younger men attracted & after me since I turned 60 ! News to me - I never thought of myself as a cougar I guess but have always been into younger men They tell me I look like I’m in my late 40’s & that is very flattering! I just met a 32 year old & I’m 63 The age difference is so great I’m scared - he treats me very good & is always a gentleman. He tells me he’s so into me & I’m digging it but I don’t know if it could work out in the long run , he also has young children 9 & 11 & I have a grown daughter that’s 36 & a granddaughter that’s 17 I don’t know what to do.....

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING how fun is that?! you are a magnetic woman!

[@reason5591]

I have similar thing going right now. Im 60 and he is 30

[@vrobinson5100]

Go for it! Life is too short not to try. If you are happy, why not give him a chance. Be blessed always 😊❤️

[@luckyedward250]

Hello beautiful victoria

[@justrelax3743]

I'm 63 and he is 25. Love it!

[@reason5591]

I have 30 year old man wanting me in his life as girlfriend. I am 60 years old.

[@novelvlog1562]

Go for it mam It will very enjoyable moment

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Give it a try!

[@reason5591]

@@Mat_Shaffer ww have so much in common aside from the age difference. Its pretty incredible! He is mature for his age and im young for my age so we land somewhere in the middle. We have same inteterests and values on life.

[@reason5591]

@@novelvlog1562 thank you Novel

[@adela7tupi849]

Go girl I have same now we are 5 years happy indeed... Keep smiling and smell fresh all the time😀

[@juad4184]

I love how Matt reads comments n hearts them too. That's so new n refreshing. This videos great. Tomorrow I have a second date with a guy 16 yrs younger than me in his early 20s. I find that hes a bit rigid like nervous so not overly playful n hes anxious that i won't accept him due to age gap. But he wants proper dates in the way is more mature than jaded men in early 30s who just wants fling. I found when i was in my early 20s, guys were more naive n wanted commitment. Had more meaningful relos n they did fall hard when their hearts were broken. So who knows! Every1s different.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so glad you enjoy the work I put into connecting with my community :) age gap relationships can TOTALLY work, enjoy the process and see where it goes!

[@juliebabin]

Very excellent video and content. Thanks Mat.

[@hapigoluckee1266]

Started seeing this dude, 29. I’m 49, and he couldn’t believe l am this age. First of, ppl say l look like between 30-35 yo. Tbh, l just feel good and l don’t act like most ppl my age. Wrinkles are alien to me, so dating younger men doesn’t sway me at all! I goof off like crazy and my sense of humor is off the roof haha It’s a great feeling having younger men ogle over older women. It’s absolute heaven! My ex is 34. He’s actually the oldest l dated. You’re very right on this topic. Thank you!!!

[@luckyedward250]

Hello beautiful

[@hapigoluckee1266]

@@luckyedward250 hey! Thank you ☺️

[@marincuculic1020]

Hapi Go Luckee are you still dating?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're very welcome.

[@marincuculic1020]

are you single?

[@belle2263]

Ive dated so many 20 somethings and early 30s. Im 38. From my experience they just want sexual experiences and not a long term relationship. The odd guy did but he was only few yrs younger. Most just find it easier to get good sex from an older woman. Don't expect much!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

There's definitely a wide spectrum of men out there and yes 20somethings will often be more open to lower level commitments than men in their thirties! But commitment is still possible regardless of age gap if teh connection is there :)

[@belle2263]

@@Mat_Shaffer i wish lol....ive dated hundreds. They all want fun unless they have low self esteem or some mental problems or bad upbringing, then they tend to want to date....or they are a single dad. In saying that im from Sydney where an abundance of single women compared to men live

[@beebuzz959]

@@belle2263 men in Sydney still can make commitments, so don't look at them all through the same negative lens. I know it's frustrating, but try and be hopeful. There are also a lot of tourists that go through Sydney, so if anything it's a new energy to can flirt with and refresh your position with. Enjoy yourself!

[@belle2263]

@@beebuzz959 Im not into tourists and flings....I'll pass thanks lol

[@TheAshMcG]

@@belle2263 I believe his point is if you are having, being playful and in your feminine energy the right commitment oriented man will show up. Negativity won't advance your goals...period.

[@micheleedwards62]

Thank You!!!! This is so powerful!!! Just started dating a younger man. It's awesome!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

you're welcome!

[@adriennecsanadi1088]

great advice, thank you! I am 31 and feeling really positive about my new hot love with a 23 yo guy. We were magnets from the moment we met and it's just getting better - meeting of the souls and minds...and bodies too hey :) p.s. luckily he hates texting as much as I do lol

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yess Adrienne Csanadi! He's a lucky man ❤️

[@BigHeartNoBS]

I am 47, he is 34. I have so much fun with him! ❤ Yes, we text a lot, but sometimes we call too. It's just nice to hear his voice.

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Hello I can recomend you to someone that helped me get my ex back recently he can also help you just as he did mine too recently

[@mistressevamzonia7087]

Text him on WhatsApp

[@marincuculic1020]

Are you still together?

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations!

[@marincuculic1020]

you are still together?

[@SatyaKaliYam]

This list confirmed what we have. 💯🙌😍I just met “the one” and he just turned 35. I’m turning 48 next week! 13 year age difference. We met literally in the end of April and in less than 2 weeks, we decided to be together as bf/gf. I didn’t have to go far to look for him. I literally met him in front of my doorstep. His father introduced me to him to help another son with therapy since I am a holistic healer. And then I meet his younger son and it was very easy. Our connection and conversations. All just felt like it was meant to be. We both don’t want to have children and we both love to communicate about everything. And now, he’s my boo and I’m in love and very happy and feel so blessed to have met him. 🙏🙌❤️💯👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏻

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

[@nappyfries]

I have the biggest crush on a guy at work that’s 11 years younger than me & I’m pretty sure he’s into me too. I feel like I’m a high school girl gushing about him 🤣 it’s important to know that he might think I’m out of his league bc of the age difference when I thought he might not be interested bc of that. These are great to keep in mind if anything comes of it.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy this resonated with you! ❤❤❤

[@marincuculic1020]

nappyfries are you single maybe?

[@AuroraBoarder1]

1) Be open and direct. 2) Be present in the monent. 3) Be playful and spontaneous 4) Be a master at texting 5) Own your sexuality and sensuality 6) Give him a platform to practice his masculinity by being feminine

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

[@AuroraBoarder1]

@@Mat_Shaffer - thank you for this video! I'm an older woman who has always appreciated young men.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Question of the Day - Have you dated younger men... and if so, what did you do that really drove them wild?

[@Serel25]

They like the straight talking, clear actions, maturity in dealing with problems, the experience, knowledge and streetwise nature appeals to them. I've always been in relationships with younger guys, but married a guy 10 years older than me! It didn't work because I'm very childlike in character and I think they like that but my husband was intimidated by the attention I got. They also always say I understand them!

[@ladycherielindsey2618]

I always ask them about something that they are into. I give them the opportunity to teach me something about what they are excited about. (Some other things are, the tone of voice, the WAY in which to flirt... there’s more but... I’ll save that for later. 🙂)

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for this fascinating share Serel I love it! I’m sure you create great connections on both sides of the age spectrum 🤗

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great point Cherie, would love for you to share some of those amazing techniques 😍😍😍

[@cottonflannigan3671]

It's a secret... 😊

[@mizkaponi4853]

Im 37, he's 24. So confident, sure of himself...and take charge. He is willing to be patient with me as I warm up to the idea of us being a "thing" ...its just so overwhelmingly intense and I was blowed. I am not out here tryna snag up young men....lol! When he goes away...it always seems like he's making preparations some where..idk. He has questions and new things to always teach me..tell me. I love it. Im so intrigued. We share the same beliefs. He wants to impress me...please me..he wants me to be happy and comfortable. When he's around me, he is so relaxed and at home. So mature minded. And idk who gave these young ppl the keys to wealth but he gets money...he goes away and always comes back with more and more money. I turn it down but he wants to provide...it feels crazy. I tell him I need nothing from him...i really do like him but im just so apprehensive. He is so hands on..i love it.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love that share!! :)

[@giadalu]

Me 33 my boyfriend 27 so far the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been In

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing

[@TruckinMommy]

I just started dating someone 6 years younger. Everything flows so naturally with him and he’s so kind and sweet and I feel safe enough to bring my guard down. I just can’t get past our age difference and I’m insecure that he’s going to leave eventually bc I’m an old lady 😂. I know it bothers him. Idk how to get past that but I need to stop. He’s so much fun, we can talk for hours and the sex is off the chain. He basically worships me and I kinda love it. He’s very attentive and a complete gentleman. He’s so expressive about how he feels and I feel super safe and he’s taking down all these walls haha. He shows a lot of initiative, I communicated what I needed and wanted and that same week he applied for a management level position at his job. We talked about his interview the night before and he was receptive to advice. He for sure is trying so hard and I really really love that. It’s so refreshing, I have a lot of energy and it’s cool to have someone who is down for whatever as long as we’re together.

[@Bobi484]

This is all so true and me too I've experienced the true attraction to a younger man. It was during some non-date time spent in meaningful conversations and constant smiles (he is the coach of my child). Actually I feel embarrassed of my almost constant thinking about him and I started to avoid him (which doesn't help much my mental addiction haha), because first of all I am married to a very descent guy and second, I am 43 and he is 28. I've never spoken about any of that to him or to anybody else... the only thing is when I have to talk to him I can't refrain myself from asking him " How are you" in a somewhat special way hah and I felt he answered once "How are YOU?" haha my God I really sound like a teenager.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so sweet thanks for sharing! its a great connection :)

[@lisasunshine7654]

I don’t approach them, they approach me! I’m not sure what to do with that, because I’m looking for LTR and they typically want ‘fun’.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

keep your boundaries in place!

[@luckyedward250]

Hello beautiful

[@pleasuretube2132]

Single man looking for one Seriously

[@miriamallie4298]

⁹

[@marincuculic1020]

Lisa are you single maybe?

[@HattieReiter]

I’m dating someone who is much younger than me I am 86 years old and he is 56 years old we have good chemistry and we communicate very good ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

[@beatawiater3770]

I'm in relationship with 20 years younger guy and I'm expecting our daughter. On the beginning I thought that is not possible he is so much younger this not going to work, what people say I was on the stage of my life when my marriage was over and I was scared to trust again. He was amazing, he gave me huge support and gave me so much love. I did fall in love with him so much and now I really don't care about age gap and what people say. Can't wait for our daughter she is due in three weeks xxx

[@Mat_Shaffer]

amazing share congrats!! love your love story!

[@karenwalker2239]

I am so happy for you both

[@marincuculic1020]

are you still dating him?

[@beatawiater3770]

​@@marincuculic1020 why ?

[@jacquelinedarst8313]

I'm happy for you I met a gentleman in his 40 I'm 65 this connection is better with someone my age he makes me feel like I'm 20 again yes we are together after 10 yrs.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing your sparkle with us! Keep being fabulous. ✨

[@ladolcevita5582]

Thank you so much. That is very useful. Btw, I really like yr tone of voice and smile ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're welcome 😊

[@abdulmateen3326]

hi ladol. are you single?😉

[@Susan-vz7fm]

I'm 67, my guy is 60. He was the one more comfortable than I was. Now, we are having a great time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@cn2746]

Mat, this has to be one of your very best talks! Each point was excellent. New and fun territory. (always wanted to be a teacher!) Carol

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AWWW thanks so much my dear, so glad you enjoyed it!! Yeah always looking to increase the value provided by my content... this format is working I think :)

[@aloveaffairwithself]

My friend is 10 years my junior and I’m trying very hard to not be judgmental. We are attracted to one another, but we are taking our time to get to know one another.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yess dear! He's a lucky man ❤️

[@ravinweerakoon7065]

Older women are so sexier than so called chicks

[@deepanatrajan9410]

Wellsaid! Absolutely.

[@debbibobetty5620]

Im 65 and he is 50. Absolutely perfect timing for both of us

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

[@dudu-no4ec]

Thank you for this video! I`m not so old (only 27 years old) but I always attract and always been attracted to younger boys so your tips are very helpful!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're so welcome!

[@michellawarren1715]

I feel better after this video and the comments. I'm 58 he's 26. Yes your right, he does have a comedy side and I love that about him. He also has a serious side and a business head. I have a great job and own property. That sounds like it could work......I think if he wanted to have children I may have to let him go so he could be with a younger woman for that......

[@lindapetersson588]

Love this video! I'm interested in a younger man and info like this is really helpful. More on this topic, please. ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I will keep them coming! So glad you enjoyed it!! 🤗🤗❤️

[@TheSuziiiQ]

Agreed!

[@richardrivas3294]

* Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally. ... * Don't chase him. ... * Love yourself. ... * Take care of yourself. ... * Don't be a people pleaser. .. * Speak your mind.

[@marincuculic1020]

Linda are you single?

[@susanmiller2414]

Your guidance and knowledge of human behavior is impressive. Your podcasts are the best !

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!

[@susannesonnenschein2878]

I made the same sad experiments. You can have fun with the most beautiful young men. That´s easy. But never ever fall in love with one. You are the one who loose the game in the end. Unless you are lucky to find someone who has a kind of fetish with older woman. Be carefull of your heart. Because young men will brack it sooner ore later .

[@Mat_Shaffer]

not all younger men are like that

[@susannesonnenschein2878]

@@Mat_Shaffer I don't know how to find a serious one...

[@marincuculic1020]

Susanne are you single at the moment?

[@margotstack6303]

I agree 100% with what you wrote

[@stephanieorme2950]

So true...

[@margotspiller5615]

I started dating younger guys when I was 30. It wasn’t by choice. I didn’t pursue younger guys; they pursued me not knowing that I was older than they. I would tell them my age; it didn’t matter b/c I’ve always looked 10 plus yrs younger and found it didn’t make that much difference in how we related. The wildest tryst: I was 55, he was 22. That didn’t last long, but he was very attracted to me.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@laurawindrim]

I feel like this honestly applies to all guys in general tbh. All of my male friends tell me they're basically little boys in a man's body. So all of them really want fun and lightheartedness.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great point!

[@abbdas22mohammed]

Can I talk with you Laura

[@marlonred2301]

I did all the Keys, right the way You told us hier, two months. Was so relaxed and Natural on going learning eachother. Very harmonic. Since three weeks he puled back and we have no contact anymore. But I release all my childhood patterns and die the best Variation of mine. Beautiful Life. Thank You! 🙏✨☀️☀️☘️😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Many thanks!

[@Hawaii444]

i turned 40 and i have younger men hitting on me and ....sooner or later i m going to say yes: THEY GET OLD BY THEMSELVES lol

[@Mat_Shaffer]

HAHA you must be super magnetic I have no doubt! :)

[@felvenbrain6856]

Ha ha ha

[@mofimTV]

😅

[@marincuculic1020]

Ombretta are you single at the moment?

[@RobertMichael-d2u]

😅 you look amazing, I'm 34 and I like older woman because they don't play games

[@nancieamethyst2541]

Wow can’t wait. Just gotta go out and find one then!😉