6 Secrets to Healthy Relationships on Your Terms

www.toddvdating.com
I spend a lot of time on this channel teaching how to meet girls, but I don't spend nearly as much time addressing how to have the types of relationships you want with them. What makes the difference between a girlfriend and a girl you just hook up with? What dictates the rules of the relationship? That's what this video is all about.

[@unitynofear7758]

This is not so much about female psychology but about how deeply you know yourself and are comfortable with your desires not being in line with social norms. I call this deep congruence and never faking anything. It's how I get away with all my imperfections and look cooler than guys who try to fake perfection. And - this is key! - I am far far happier. Because congruence == happiness. Emotions come and go, happiness is here and now, forever.

[@YolatheFou]

Damn, spot on 👀

[@naturesmusic5926]

❤❤

[@markanderson4353]

For those who want to skip through the fluff 0:46 How you convey yourself 3:04 How you convey the relationship 6:58 How the relationship starts 9:44 Your boundaries 11:57 The girls story

[@stealth797]

Thank you!

[@SammyCee23]

Thank you. Less is more :)

[@lucasvilleza1188]

Thanks dude

[@c.h.5855]

Thank you, sir. "We cannot waste time; time is precious" - Garry Kasparov

[@tialt6857]

we need your services for all his vids LoL please

[@phillipschristoph]

This is one of the most solid in content, length and editing. Love the Bold text (as a graphic designer)

[@nicholasbeauchamp1440]

I just wanted to take the time to say thanks Todd. This is great stuff you've got me studying your videos now and the results are showing. You also inspire me to improve in all aspects of life.

[@anonymousvine4105]

So powerful. This brought me out of the supplicating, unscalable frame of trying to do things for any girl, to the repeatable, confidence building frame of setting the tone for the girl to follow.

[@LOGOASSASSIN]

Don't under estimate the importance of this. Many think game is something young guys do for a while. Wrong.

[@ty-le5lv]

Many of these are excellent tips for other than romantic relationships as well

[@izak-jn3vi]

Your knowledge and your understanding of female psychology is mind-boggling.

[@Neb6969]

Cause he’s full of shit 😂

[@TonyMotherfuckinLee]

Todd, thank you for everything. These lessons are just "game " lessons but life lessons.

[@str8904]

Todd's cinematography is always as point as the info. Thanks Todd.

[@FyreStarz]

This is gold man. This video is just what I need for my current situation. Very much appreciated.

[@tylerdurden1241]

Awesome video, would love to see more videos covering relationships and how to maintain the relationship you want

[@davidhetfield6]

Awesome clarity Todd!! Tnx again

[@maximillian.a.m]

Always with a fire soundtrack to these vids!

[@MB-ks2bk]

dude your videos are dope and so are the beats you put in them

[@MrHav1k]

This is one of your best videos Todd, and that's saying a lot, because everything you put out is quality.

[@blacktortoise6812]

Yeah this one is a game changer, no pun intended. Like he said, this kind of encapsulates game in that it is a way of increasing congruence, conveying value, and observing and rearranging frames.

[@instagaylord7307]

I wish I could know all of Todd's knowledge when I was 15 year old. Ty very much Todd for helping us and sharing your time

[@Jon-pn1sw]

It's awesome this kind of knowledge is out there for the young guys of these days, wish I knew too. But atleast we know now.

[@joerosati5017]

You make sense man, you make sense. Keep the videos comin'!

[@manaschug]

This is Dope, thanks my man!

[@michaelflores5800]

Todd is the definition of a Genius

[@Shoto_Mist]

Thx Todd..i been in negotiation...great advice

[@MonsterPOV]

09:25 absolutely true, specially if you know what you're doing!

[@LehiRulon]

Thanks Todd, this is still as relevant as ever. 🙌

[@mindset_olympics2]

So much said in one video.... -convey social proof and abundance -good game -convey social proof & abundance (other options -controlling the frame -under testing you pass -Have power and convey what you want Meeting: Day game, night game, work, dating sites, class etc. -what happened before hooking up -so something about it when your have boundaries -uphold boundaries, maintain the relationship and keep it friendly without making the other person hate you. -do not feel forced and coerced -do not tolerate everything -intergrity and decide precursors ahead of time -“set the frame” to put your foot down Sixth: Background and story You need an overlap in what you want as a spectrum and what he wants as a spectrum.

[@seand622]

Dude, we need more infields

[@salembeats1875]

Look up Todd infield he had alot but they got deleted

[@seand622]

SALEM I’ve probably watched all of them. His style of game is the best in my eyes

[@SuperFilipman]

There's a lot of infield in the Sytem. Good quality. You can buy it If you want. I'm glad I did.

[@minobutterfingers]

I paid for The System, and I would pay for a pack of infields. Also JP's infields are cool, but more difficult to replicate.

[@taylor_tony]

Agreed

[@A2Kaid]

Very good info. Didn't think about these things.

[@ChazLangley]

Thank You, Todd! This video is the Bible for establishing a new situation without being cocky or arrogant! Very well articulated, my Man! 🙏🏾

[@rustyshaklford5642]

So useful thank you Todd👍

[@michaelquebec6653]

Brilliant video (as always.)

[@stinky8744]

CONVEY WHAT U WANT. THIS WOULD HAVE SAVE ME A LOT OF TIME GROWING UP. THX TOOD

[@felipesilvausa]

Thanks Todd for changing men life's RSD TODD FAR THE NUMBER 1

[@pangaea6united]

love how you mentioned ranges for all those poker players out there

[@rickrude7868]

Very good with the details, I agree with most of this. I believe u should break this down at least to 3 separate videos. Or if ur viewing this and u are confused, take one step at a time until u fully comprehend. Other than that awesome also note that if ur Lovely dovely u risk losing the woman or being used and abused, u have to find a balance and play the game called Life to win.

[@AronPowa96]

Thank you Todd, really

[@jean-pierreparent1408]

This is mind blowing. I've always wondered why women see to act differently and have a different personailty in their next relationship than with me. I assumed it was because of not knowing themselves or being fake, now I get that it's about the guys on a deep level.

[@radovansurlak7445]

Thank you a lot Todd :)

[@MikeHersnt]

Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Be honest and try to listen to one another and things will get better. Amazing talk bro! Learning a lot from your videos. Keep it up👍

[@bitcoindaddy748]

very well put through

[@eminem252525]

Immense value in that video exactly what I was looking for 😍🔥

[@Notethos]

Nice video! I watch more from the theoretical/ theatrical framework; game isn't for me. I like how you keep a nuance that deconstructs relationship dynamics but doesn't (too much) force the game mentality and respects viewers have different intentions.

[@mrpussinboots4252]

You're trying to use synonyms that make no sense...

[@paulcolin9071]

Your videos are excellent for us thinking people

[@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027]

You set the frame, expectations and rules from day 1, moment 1

[@SavaNedev]

The End Screen cards have been missed :P

[@olb47]

Todd could you make an video about techniques that help to set boundaries in a right way? Or maybe someone has good examples, sources, etc.

[@5qcW_WLlgt6-lke9-_kiQg]

Todd, this is a different message to you. The video is very useful pointing out the big picture in starting a relationship. You have had many and serious relationships, that is why I want to ask you - How do you work on the relationship? How do you have the relationhsip under control and how it develops? How do you avoid the emotions and drama before they come up? There must be a proactive way of having conversations where both introduce their expectations and negotiate before things escalate. This is what I call having a mindful relationship. Not by having all the power, but by having the control over its developement. Not having things happen in the relationship unexpectedly, but putting issues on the table and sharing reationally with no drama. Have you had a similar experience? Please share some techniques about going for this option. Thank you for your articulate and specific videos and lessons. Greetings

[@mohamedabd8285]

In my country ppl get married this way since its religious moral country, but other cultures is hard to have such thing before displaying high value. I would say u must chose the wright type of social circle.

[@cumthru2555]

Not sure if you'll see this, but you need to approach and conduct yourself in a manner that indicates that you are intentional with your actions. Have the conversation and be upfront about what you're looking for in a partner, what you expect from a partner, the role you can play, who you are, and what you bring. This conversation isn't had in one sitting - this will scare her off because you will come across as manipulative. You have to time it right and be as honest as possible. Don't lie about your intentions, and don't make/let her compromise on her boundaries and expectations. A lot of the time, this kind of honesty allows for a woman to feel like you are trustworthy - as a person, and as someone who will always have her best interest at heart... like a leader. Be self-assured, open, honest, and this takes some vulnerability and work on your end.

[@ErvinMitchell]

Amazing insights

[@heatherfeather9951]

This was very informative. This makes me glad that I am single and staying that way.

[@josel8311]

Girls txnd to bx xasy to manipulate. Somehow. No xffense intended

[@eyesburning]

Great video! How is the music genre called in the intro/outro?

[@eliegillard1762]

That's hip-hop, I guess you could fine similar tracks by searching for "Lofi hip-hop" "Jazzhop" or "Trip hop"!

[@rubdq7415]

So knowledgeable on game.

[@iNandobaby]

Todd. One video I haven’t seen on your channel is how to be how to build sexual confidence in the bedroom. That’s the point of this all. I would love to hear what you say about this

[@andysmith5997]

Very intelligent video by the way

[@cordariusniter2807]

The key to happiness is to have fun. The purpose of a relationship is to have fun. If your your not having fun your in the wrong relationship

[@versatilelord8893]

Exactly

[@jamalthompson5583]

Real s#it

[@jimbersmcimbers]

This

[@letsdostuff5864]

When will new content be added to the system?

[@gillan5]

uphold boundaries! -do not let them step over the lines!

[@abacdse]

Great video

[@ramellyde6232]

GREAT VIDEO

[@ChessMasteryOfficial]

*Resist much, obey little.*

[@SammyCee23]

What do you mean?

[@badmudafucka4448]

obey? fuck that. cant be half-man.

[@fitnesspoint2006]

You tying soooo hard to sound profound but failing miserably at it my dude.

[@b.b.2638]

Discover pls explain your point

[@hexadecimal5236]

DO NOT OBEY is actually perfect, my FWBs often Order me to do things, or we'll have a 'talk' and she will say, 'I thought we both agreed to...' Before I understood this I would say Oh Ok and Obey. Now, I say, *"I didn't agree to anything, you talked and I listened but just because you say something about me doesn't mean it's True."* And of course the threats to never see me again follow, which of course are not True at all because females are fundamentally biologically driven and as long as you continue to be the highest value male she can attain, she will continue to seek you and your validation.

[@smoothblackskin7655]

Good stuff ;)

[@Hyrtsi]

This advice is golden. One thing I must say: there are decent women out there. Just be honest, be open, communicate. The women want the same things as you want. Do not think women are different species. Do not think they are your enemies. Otherwise you have lost the gsme because women get to choose.

[@scoofking007]

That timing though

[@saulbravo3485]

UNION SQUARE!!

[@LOGOASSASSIN]

SOLID gold. Question: when a new girl wants to talk about your past GFs do you make a joke and avoid the subject, lie or honestly tell her and convey how you've changed so she knows you're no longer the guy you're describing. (Although doing this can kill the vibe) I'm mainly into short term girls unless I find a keeper which is unlikely.

[@IWasAlwaysNeverAnywhere]

honesty is the way to go dude. if youre even considering being dodgy or dishonest youre doing it wrong. doesnt matter who youre talking to or what your motive is.

[@themancuniancandidate2744]

I always body swerve this one with a smile and the answer "A gentleman never tells". That way you let her know the subject isn't up for discussion, but she also knows you won't blab about your relationship with her, should it end. Every time I've handled that question in this way, the girl has been ok with it and hasn't brought it up again.

[@barbapapaplouf5419]

You're free to disclose or not disclose what you want dude. Jokingly push that away. Or say something like: it's too early, We don't know each other well enough, I keep that for when we're closer, it's too personal for now... Etc... It's not about dishonesty, it's just boundaries. You decide who you let in your personal life, and how fast/slow if you decide to welcome them. Be it your boss, a stranger or a date.

[@renegadezen7841]

Odds that those 3 ppl who gave this a thumbs down are in the type of relationship they dream of????

[@weltenmonarch1891]

use for one of your videos future married to the game

[@readthispleaseify]

Can you make a video on approaching more than 1 girl or a group of girls? I only cold approach girls alone.

[@kittycat5347]

@Luis BielExact! The last RSD Max video is exactly about that.

[@belieber888]

What’s your take on the overly feminine dudes and masculine women? I guess the dynamic of their relationships made them that way

[@justinwhitebeaver966]

No the feminst media made them that way. Henceforth news casts,tv shows, movies ect. The femimst media yearns to eliminate gender roles. But those relationships end bad for both. Think of it the women is a single mother and the father has to pay out the ass for that kid or kids. Because no true alpha wants a single mother

[@brennanbets]

Is there a video for how to hold power in relationship

[@rainbowcat832]

Song name?

[@Metheys]

FIRE CONTENT

[@sinkunorbert]

Todd looks so happy on the thumbnail, he must've gone through Julien's Transformation Mastery! :)

[@ramonalfaro3252]

Transformation Mastery is Alcoholcs Anonymous + Breathing exercises. Save your money.

[@mohamedabd8285]

+ramon alfaro did u go to it?

[@ramonalfaro3252]

No I wasted money on it.

[@gcg8187]

@@ramonalfaro3252 you didnt learn anything?

[@PrettyWhen1Shoot]

This dude a genius

[@fukc9970]

This dude is a tool

[@Raao1]

Guys! I'm not even kidding! For best relationship advice study the philosophy of Patrice O'Neal a.k.a. Black Phillip and Dante Nero a.k.a. Beige Phillip

[@noahf3269]

Can you put out a video about how to get intimate with a girl which is not sex? There's a huge connection that happens during sex but what are other ways to connect in order to make each other feel good? @ToddVDating

[@sleonse]

Buenísimo. Pletórico. Súper Valioso. Clave.

[@itsdavehimself]

Todd V for Vocabulary

[@littleoceandrop]

Voice tone & volume is too high up ;)

[@broryku]

they fuckin did Todd, thanks a lot

[@theturokchoi]

12:50 yay

[@Southpark1097]

dude i need more oomph

[@AshTheDuke]

6 more plzzz plzzz

[@colecoke6996]

todd said oOF

[@tesev7071]

making decisions ahead of time

[@davidguerra5237]

Awesome

[@DemonRuby]

There are two rules you need to know: 1. NEVER act like you want a relationship if you don't want it and don't give her impression you care about her more than you actually do. In other words, do not pretend you're on the same page with her and have the same goals if you don't. 2. See the first rule.

[@MartinHansefiction]

Horseshit

[@spacemeter3001]

Why not?

[@milkyporridge5929]

The girl is your mirror - tom torero

[@DevilFrog61]

Is it ever advisable to give a girl an honest/upfront ultimatum? (Like if you’re asking to hang out (second date) and she keeps being “busy” after a while I gotta say I can’t wait forever) OR do I just not say anything and stop asking/trying altogether

[@jake.geckler702]

Ultimatums don't work. Find a new girl or several that make it easy to hang out and that actually want to see you.

[@swill1020]

“How many sandwiches do I need to make before I get a ring on this finger?”

[@justinwhitebeaver966]

70,000,000,000

[@versatilelord8893]

Where did he say that in the video

[@alexanderandreev3780]

This black jacket has more game than me

[@NoName-bx2ft]

Self help is the future, Todd!

[@JJ-vp3bd]

how so? explain?

[@seyned89]

How so?

[@chadadvice3707]

Hey Todd, let’s say, you were in a committed relationship with a girl, doing all the things that set you up as a boyfriend, then you break up with her, but she still loves you. Is there any way to realistically re-enter the relationship at a lower capacity? Ie - renegotiate the terms to resemble a more casual relationship?

[@jake.geckler702]

You could just do it through your actions brother. Hang out at night only and only back at your crib or hers. Don't go out on dates and don't bring her over to meet the fam.

[@greenfairy7646]

I personally do not think that is healthy. She needs to be able to get over you and move on. Not be used because you don’t want to give her up. That’s not fair. Let her go and let her move on. Find someone you really want to be with. Or find some one who wants to be a casual hook up

[@XCVi_MAC]

It takes two for a healthy relationship. If your giving it your all and that other person isn’t then it isn’t going to work out. Social media ruins many relationships.

[@someguyO2W]

Ruined my marriage

[@justanamateur1682]

This video can be summed up in one line: Girls see whatever you show them.

[@papetua]

So how do I set boundaries in a relatonship if not by being angry or ignoring?

[@Barad-Dur_IsACapitalOfMordor]

Eating and drinking is good, but you should try to use your mouth to speak.

[@gcg8187]

@@Barad-Dur_IsACapitalOfMordor LOOOL

[@wenztot388]

Todd, how can I subscribe twice in your channel? 🙃

[@Thisisfifty]

@ 6.09 some girls will be very insecure around a guy with options as they don't want to be just another option

[@thewarriorinu]

סרטון מדהים !!! תמשיך ככה כיף לראות שיש עוד אנשים בתחום הזה בעולם. גם אני מאמן דייטינג בישראל ונתת לי השראה להמשיך :)))

[@jamesjohnson6309]

Hey Todd. Been a fan for a LONG time. I have a question for you: why am I so fuckin awkward???? Especially in conversation. It feels rigid, unnatural, robotic, and extremely uncomfortable. How can I stop this ??

[@OEThe11]

Be You

[@mrboobiesrider9212]

Be me

[@zaltarical]

James Johnson Practice is the best solution. Talk to whoever whenever you can. If you’re in high school, join some clubs or sports. It’s worth it every time.

[@gcg8187]

Look up David Hawkins scale of consciousness. Raise ur lvl of consciousness on this scale is on the most powerful "thing" u can do for your life. Dont bullshit this

[@travisdip]

Damn, I wish I saw this 2 weeks ago. Just made mistake number 1 lol

[@boaz.bananas]

6th!

[@apprisedbeauty6783]

Know yourself and your target. Design a win-win that funnels the energy towards.activities you prefer.or both enjoy. Make sure you understand how much freedom how much security the other person once you balance those two elements into their favor you can get away with whatever you want. it's all about presenting something in a way that they want to choose the options you provide You and the woman I always want different sides of the line getting the ladies to understand and appreciate and accept turn aspects of their nature that societies train them to deny I'll have your girl on the same side of the line as you. Also discretion, discretion, discretion. not making a big deal about all the chicks that you knocked down will give you much more opportunity in the future you don't want to be labeled as a player if you really want to sample the whole field do it on the sly don't kiss and tell and you'll get repeat business.

[@blacktortoise6812]

Todd's going to have to make a video about what to do if the girl has game LOL

[@jeremymartinez4438]

what's the best way to transition from casual fling to serious relationship

[@badmudafucka4448]

playing to win, not to not lose.

[@claresimmons5996]

Tell her you want something serious