6 Signs You're a Wounded Extrovert, Not an Introvert

[@Psych2go]

Do you consider yourself more introvert, extroverted or both (ambiverted)? Comment below.

[@student1754]

I consider myself as both.

[@student1754]

⚓

[@IamEonian]

both

[@Shade._Glitched]

Ambivert

[@sheeshabedin1379]

It seems like I am both.

[@polythewicked]

I have times when I desperately want to socialize, but the idea of it gives me anxiety and I’m afraid of the awkwardness of hanging out with people. That happens when I feel happier and more confident overall. Then I have times when I just don’t want to talk to anyone for awhile and social interaction is exhausting. That’s usually after I’ve had several negative experiences where people have betrayed me or pulled shit with me.

[@waffuwaffle8969]

Same, I used to be really happy & had like 5-6 friends in one group, but then I moved & I never made any friends. Unfortunately I developed a lot of anxiety & I am too afraid to even tell my parents what music I like 😀

[@casam_wgf2679]

I feel the same

[@joejoe9566]

Same feeling.🙋‍♀️

[@edward5247]

called social anxiety, i have it since i was a kid, i can understand the feeling

[@mochiezu]

Same

[@psych2gomandarin]

0:00 intro 0:41 1、You crave social interaction, but you're afraid of being hurt. 1:24 2、You're always alone, but you feel depleted by it. 1:58 3、You isolate for different reasons. 2:20 4、You used to enjoy and look forward to group work and collaborations. 2:56 5、You used to be talkative. 3:28 6、You were an extrovert as a child. 4:05 outro

[@MiriadCalibrumAstar]

does it need to tick all boxes?

[@satorii_2060]

All of this fits me damn.

[@SillySamWho]

NAUR NAUR I KNOW MYSELF I DO KNOW MYSELF I’m Positively Sure.. That I Am… An Introvert..

[@itsnottoolatetostart]

@@SillySamWho same

[@christma1116]

@漢語Psych2Go Mandarin for me its 1,5 and 6 anyways thanks for taking the time to comment this

[@Music._.55]

I was an extrovert until I got bullied so hard that I just preferred being alone. Years later, I am now trying to get back into being an extrovert without any fear or doubts!

[@koengreen2540]

Hows it going now broski?

[@ishitasharma7025]

I got brutally bullied too when I was 11 to 12 y/o. Thanks to the lockdown, I recovered but wounds did not completely healed yet. I still feel insecure, I have become over sensitive but still talk to people, am the always bright and smiling kinda person but I myself know how small things and words hurt me so deeply. These traumas ought to be faced but I lack that strength as of now.

[@Mochi-re8cv]

me toooooooooooo I am having a exetential crisis because I don’t know if I am an Ambivert or a wounded extrovert?

[@Sculk023]

I'm 4'9 as a teenager and now I think this is why I became so quiet. *It all starts to make sense now.*

[@401Sakura]

As an extrovert with social anxiety, thank you for this video! People always joke that I'm such an introvert cuz I'm so quiet, and I laugh with them to avoid making it awkward, but really I hate being alone. I'm just too quiet/shy and meeting people/making friends is difficult so I spend a lot of time by myself. Trust me though, I'd really rather be hanging out with people! So not all quiet people are introverts and not all outgoing people are extroverts.

[@ur_mom9955]

Yes ong I feel the same way like when your too scared to go over to soemone and talk but when ye don’t your just dying to talk to someone when ur alone but ur too nervous too ahhh it’s such a struggle!!

[@animefans2420]

FR I thought I’m a introvert but I’m just a traumatised extrovert

[@Maharashtra895]

You are Introvert and quiet is a symptom of Introvert

[@401Sakura]

@@Maharashtra895 Thats a common misconception. Introverts and extroverts just mean where you get your energy from: like batteries. Does being around people charge you (extrovert)? Or does being alone recharge your energy (introvert)? It has absolutely nothing to do with being quiet, loud, or in between.

[@Yourfavcrime]

Omg, we are the same person

[@AriaNovaX]

My parents had been always said that I'm an extrovert child at my childhood. But, I was changed at a point as the result of bullying from school and some family problems and started to afraid to being socialize. I totally forgot old me and sometimes I felt really guilty for lost her.. Now, after a long years I realised who I am and trying to break the cage made by me and I think I almost rid it... I am so glad when someone saying that I changed a lot from that silent girl... 🙂

[@weeznax]

This is super relatable!

[@christian9125abd]

same here, i got mobbed in school and 4 years ago my mother died, so i did not go out or anything, now i am starting to do it again.

[@Rice_Steam]

Oh my gosh so relatable… so relatable

[@1mol831]

Shittt. I realised I’m a massive extrovert, is there any way to not be an extrovert? I literally feel bored walking alone so I talk to homeless people. And can’t even be productive without working with other people and chatting about the problem.

[@juliabrnssr]

This actually makes a ton of sense for me. Only now am I starting to face the fact I have A LOT of childhood Trauma, and it's slowly starting to heal. Not wanting to show weakness to people could exploit I often kept to myself. Plus I was rarely able to have friends over until I was 10 because of the cause of the Trauma. When I could though, I tried to do something with them every weekend. Provided I didn't have too much homework. Always felt like an introvert as I hung out with few people. Since the pandemic, and now that I live alone, I realize I hate being alone. I love spending time with people, even if it's just a group of friends playing an online game. Whenever someone drops an invite to something, even if it's just going out to Dinner I take it. I feel this video has given me insight, as to what feels like such a sudden change.

[@Psych2go]

Happy to hear that this video has provided some insight into your story. Thank you for sharing so vulnerabily!

[@gachanoob1012]

#ChildhoodTraumaGang (we need the rest)

[@Cherrycreamsoda1]

I used to be pretty introverted as a child. I didn’t even want friends; in fact when kids came to my house I didn’t play with them (I’m autistic so didn’t have great social skills back then). As I’ve gotten older I’ve started to like people more and more as I learned how important they are, in fact I’d say they take up about 50% of my mindspace alongside my inner life. My sister’s the other way round - she was outgoing as a kid but is now an introvert. I guess people can change with age.

[@cutieoui7772]

I used to remember how unbothered I was when I was a child talking to this popular girl in my class despite her bullying me and subtly telling me im weird cause im a nerd. but over time, she opens up to me and goes along my nerdy side because i was unbothered by her verbal attacks. The memories, where I come along to join these group of popular extroverts and hang around their house, that today that same group were still together friends and *still* popular, but the difference is that I am not with them anymore, because I developed social anxiety after I let my family's continuous verbal attacks get through me as a pre teen, just because i listened to them and let them rot my premature brain.. My then friend keeps sending me videos of me back when, I see me dancing and unbothered with full of confidence and everyone used to like me, and i got a lot of friends, and all i could ask myself after that video was.. "where did my confidence go?" "if i wasnt socially anxious, i could've still be friends with my elementary group and the others and made a lot of memories. but while they lived their life, mine had stopped."

[@1000OtherFoxes]

how did you come to believe that people are important ?

[@Cherrycreamsoda1]

@@cutieoui7772 🥺 I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes it does take an encouraging outside influence to help you out of your shell again, I've certainly needed mine in the form of good friends and teachers, but yes I'd say the important thing is also to try and avoid seeing too much of your family if they are toxic and bring down your confidence. I had to live in a household full of negativity for years and the only escape was hiding in my room, leaving the house and, eventually, going to college. I do hope things get better for you and you still have those amazing friends in your life ❤

[@Hooniiii]

As a person that also has autism, not being able to understand many emotions is still bothering me to this day. People have used me for their own problems and it made me realize that I was just a tool that did everything they ordered, I've been in countless situations where people have been crying, screaming, getting angry and I didn't understand them at all. Situations like those still occur and I cannot avoid them. What did help me were actual friends, people that I care for and they care about me which I'm really grateful about. I've spent so much time with them that they feel like a second family. They gave me advice on how to handle certain conflicts and they also gave me tips on how to communicate with people. We all suffer from problems we've never encountered before, but don't forget that your friends and family will be waiting for your arrival

[@00harry-x1x]

Sometimes I worry about stuff and I don’t know what’s happening my brain says is life learning I’m not to sure or when someone gives me advice how would I know and what if that person never or when people say to get better at something is practice but they never say wouldn’t you have to learn first like for example playing the piano you can’t just play it without practice why is my brain saying this stuff and I need to find that information and if I see a problem like I can’t understand some information I get this weird feeling but when I know I feel good and carry on with my day I’m just so confused and don’t know what’s happening

[@milesmabale3641]

Last one is so true for me. I used to be so jolly and outgoing as a kid until I reached the age of 12 or 13. I was so friendly.. this video makes me think a lot about what really happened to me. What went wrong? When? Now I consider myself as an introvert but I can still feel an extroverted part of me. I typed myself as an Istj. Well, I'm not sure if our personality type can change but it's about development (cognitive, etc.) so.. I guess getting to know myself will never end.

[@metan0iia]

Woah me too now im thinking if im an estj

[@meagancrowley5197]

Do you use 16personalities typing, or Objective Personality typing? I recommend OP because 16P typed me as an INFJ when I'm most definitely (after a couple months of studying myself) an ENTJ/ESTJ. And similarly, I stopped being extroverted in my early teens after being ridiculed by friends for being too "hyper". It really stuck with me. I wouldn't be surprised if this was a common thing. (Plus I think the 'definition' of introvert vs extrovert being that you either get your energy from being with people or being alone is actually really unhelpful when finding out what your personality is actually. Especially if you are a 'wounded extrovert'.

[@あき-h5f]

Oh-I didn’t even last until I was 9 :’)

[@y0uRm0m]

THIS ONG SO REALATABLE

[@justsomerandomzamasu4956]

for me i think i overworked myself as a kid, especially considering my friends werent exactly the best for my lack of maturity back then, so i kinda just left the idea of socialization and only talk to my closest friends. so far i like having control, mostly quiet, calming, good piece of mind.

[@rellikai945]

#6 hit home hard. Up till 5th grade, I remember being super sociable, talking a lot to my classmates, always playing with each other during recess. Then I endured a whole semester of being constantly bullied by about half my class. So in order to avoid all my bullies, instead of playing on the playground or near the blacktop where I knew they might be, I'd go and sit under a tree at the very back of the field and peel the skin off the nuts that would fall from its branches. I named the tree Eddie. He was my buddy. Even when a girl came up to me one time and asked if I wanted to play with her and her friends, I was scared that if I came out "hiding", my bullies would find me, so I declined. I was going to be forced back into my class with them soon anyway, so I wanted to maximize the amount of time I could guarantee I wouldn't need to deal with them. So I just continued to sit there, under Eddie, until I graduated to 6th grade and didn't have to see any of them pretty much ever anymore. But even once they were gone, I was never the same. Where once I was bright and outgoing, I've since then been more quiet and awkward around new people. I think I've come a long way from back then, I can definitely look forward to social events or maintain conversations with friends and coworkers, at least more so than true blue introverts. But I do still like my alone time. At least I think I do. I honestly don't know if it's truly deep down what I want and crave, or if my conditioning back then has just been so irrevocably engraved into the fabric of my being. It's hard to say. But overall, I think I'm doing alright now.

[@ishitasharma7025]

I had almost a similar experience but this thing went on for 3-4 semesters starting from when I was 11. Lockdown ensured a break from all of that. I healed a little but now I'm not the same kid I used to be. It's been several years but I lack the strength to face it.

[@Zefhyniux-Sieraqina]

Thank you so much for making this. I've been struggling with social anxiety for months already and I thought that I'm just an introvert but I turned out to be wounded extrovert. I just happen to have so many traumas with circle of friends and even during family gathering. I always wanna spend time with people and even I'm the one to shame, I would still wanna hang out with them but now I changed, I prefer to be left out, forget and just wish to be invisible for once

[@NodeSort]

0:09 Attack on Titan 1:35 One Piece 2:05 Naruto 3:25 Steins Gate 3:40 Naruto Shippuden (Madara & Hashirama) :D Really love your animations Psych2Go!! Please keep them coming.

[@phillipchavez1321]

I noticed the Attack on Titan reference, too 😆

[@nootube8537]

You forgot Mob Psyco :P

[@cherrieows]

NO U MISSED MOB PSYCHO 😭

[@yugotchords]

Mob Psycho deserves more attention fr it’s awesome

[@daychild_]

Don’t forget mob psycho 100 😭😭

[@sgaf7001]

I talked a lot as a kid and I was shut down too often too. It occured to me that no one wanted to hear me and whatever I had to say at school and inside our house. As I grow older, I started to stutter until I talk less and less. I also started to isolate more until I reached this stage where I no longer crave for a companion. I also had this thought that maybe I would be different if only I was not humiliated too many times for talking? The memory of me as a kid is too different to what I am now. Is that part of growing up or did I just change too much? I guess I will never know the answer.

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

I'm sorry u were invalidated or humiliated only for expressing urself. That's so wrong. Kids should be encouraged to speak their mind and figure themselves out. I see this happen often. I hope you find that sort of urself again. Or at least find a self that ur can feel at peace with.

[@sgaf7001]

@@sakuranovaryan9261 I don't think I can be talkative ever again. I'm now comfortable with silence, but gotta admit, it's noisy inside my head. I just try to say the most important things from time to time (and still fail lol). Thank you for the nice words.

[@EnergizingBane]

I can relate with just about everything you said.

[@minidini4000]

I wish you both the best and a happy life even if it's getting very hard sometimes.. other people can be extremely difficult to handle

[@sgaf7001]

@@minidini4000 Thank you ♥️. I also wish for you to have a happy life.

[@Dev.Yadav.]

Shy introverts: signature look of superiority

[@BLAZE-ie5ud]

I'll think you are extrovert!

[@Dev.Yadav.]

@@BLAZE-ie5ud I'm like an extroverted introvert if that makes sense

[@thatsgrim4309]

@@Dev.Yadav. a social introvert ✔️

[@whooshylushy743]

@@Dev.Yadav. youtube can auto translate it

[@Dev.Yadav.]

@@whooshylushy743 Well I had to do something else but let it be😅

[@mattmorris8761]

I fit the description 110%. Thank you for shedding some light on this topic, I didn’t realize this was a thing and I’m literally a mental health professional lol

[@nategwright]

My status quo for so long has been to stay home alone in my bedroom and I struggle with self-worth issues, and it makes it really difficult for me to reach out to other people to try and hang out. I project my insecurities onto people, and I always think I'm bothering other people with my presence, and that they'd rather hang out without me. I know I'm not an introvert because I would love to be around my friends pretty much every waking moment. It's such a struggle just to try and approach people, let alone go out with people. I'm so afraid of rejection that I'd rather not ask.

[@acorze]

I've always been confused about wether or not I'm an introvert. This explains why :) Thank you

[@lunaforestdienstag6850]

Thank u!

[@iamthatoxygenthatbecomecar7984]

Thankssss

[@super-sizedmcshizzle6235]

Thank you so much for this! You have no idea how much this means to me, and i relate to a. lot. of what you said here. I really appreciate these encouraging words!

[@Hibiki....]

Thank you!

[@Hawaiiansky11]

It blows my mind that I have always thought of myself as an introvert. Then, recently, I have recalled a number of suppressed memories, including an extremely traumatizing one. When I look back at those days, I remember feeling excited every time I went somewhere to meet new people. I was always looking forward to the potential to meet new people. I was a 'welcome wagon' girl, welcoming new people into our groups, fearlessly walking up and introducing myself to strangers. Just the other day, an epiphany. "I think I used to be an extrovert!" What a revelation. I do enjoy people, and friends, going out, meeting people. But my narcissist mother made me regret doing that, fearful of others, and believing that I was better off being alone and isolated from the world. Thank you for releasing this video!! It confirms my beliefs.

[@luvism]

Are we the same person cuz same :')

[@carrot7868]

I enjoyed reading your comment. The way you wrote it sounds very poetic and pleasant to read. I hope you get better, sometimes life hits hard.

[@emc32]

Then you realize,being an introverted is not that bad,but more useful. We don't rely to other when we can do it alone without getting fooled by fake people

[@thecertifiedweeb]

The AoT reference in the artwork is soo greatt! Keep it up!! And the character you have chosen fits the topic perfectly!

[@neji9427]

My parents always used to tell me bad things about my looks when I was younger. I used to be a very outgoing and extroverted kid who didn't care about what other people thought of me, but somewhere around the grade 4-5 period I got more shy and anxious. My parents always pointed my flaws out and they used to do it in front of other people which would make me feel very uncomfortable. They made me insecure about my looks, told me I wasn't likeable enough and that they would threaten to expose my habits to all my friends. They kept making me look bad in front of others, and my mum wonders why I don't open up to her.

[@jedijazzygamer5369]

Why would your parents even do that??

[@neji9427]

no idea

[@ZomboidMania]

@@neji9427 Jesus Christ your parents sound just as bad as mine, but just know that they were either doing that because they were jealous or they just thought they were trying to help you out before others did as a weird way of protecting you

[@oddball3264]

Sounds like you're parents were narcissistic towards you

[@jessicajohnston5693]

🥰 THIS VIDEO CHANGED MY LIFE! I might seriously be an extrovert who has had a difficult life. I was super sociable when I was a little kid and in school. I thought I was an introvert for so long but I am super lonely a lot of the time. Thank you! Edit: Added another detail.

[@katara9]

I used to be an extrovert when I was a lot younger. No one could get me to stop talking. I still love talking to people when my social anxiety is suddenly absent. I don't necessarily enjoy being alone, but I often have to excuse myself to recharge from social anxieties and sensitivity to the excitement around me. But I usually don't hate being alone either. When I hear people talking, I often crave to talk to them, but never know how to engage. Thanks for the video, it's really nice to see the representation ♥

[@Alisaanangel]

I’m definitely the last one. As a child I was so loud and wanted to be the centre of attention everywhere. Now I struggle to even make a phone call. It makes me constantly upset just to think about how amazing I felt as a child, now that I feel the opposite. That really sucks.

[@last_hope]

I feel you 🙁

[@Lvestfold4143]

This definitely describes me. I remember when I was young and I would look forward to group work and talking with others. But past trauma bullied me into working alone and avoiding conversations. I had teachers that would blame me for being "disruptive" when all I did was try to voice my input in the group they assigned me to and said group was not interested in what I had to say. One teacher I had even considered me a pariah and isolated me from other students and forced me to work alone on every group project. I was also often gaslit into thinking my voice was too loud (I had breathing problems so there was no way I could project loudly in the way these teachers claimed) and my talking voice became a soft whisper over time. To the point where people have a hard time hearing me when I talk "normally." I think the teacher just thought I had an annoying voice and didn't want to hear me speak.

[@meadcwlark4064]

I used to think I was a “wounded extrovert”, but when I think back to my childhood I realize I just never really wanted social interaction much. I would walk alone in kindergarten during recess, sit on the curb, only talk when someone talked to me. I’d say my introversion has gotten worse, though.

[@Amalia19]

"My introversion just got worse" Uhh sir that is not introversion, that is actually anxiety because introverts wouldn't even worry about their introversion in the first place.

[@РадославаДимова-н2ц]

I've always wanted social interaction as a child but rarely had it. In kindergarten no one liked me for some reason although I tried to become friends with the kids. Before kindergarten though i was in something like other kindergarten and there i had friends and I was social, but since the new one I was too shy in school too and had like 2 friends that I don't remember how I got them. Now I feel like they started going away from me and feeling better with their new friends, but idk. I'm alone most of the time and I feel lonely but when I socialize I'm tired because I think too much of how they see my behavior and what to say.

[@pinkdevil5561]

When I was a child I was a huge extrovert and I wanted to talk to everyone and be friends with everyone, but after all the trauma and stress my childhood brought me I’ve been quite and scared of people. I have no friends and I don’t go out much anymore, but it’s not that I don’t want friends. Sometimes I’m still my friendly old self, but I have really big trust issues now, so I’m alone most of the time even though I don’t want to have no friends I can’t bring myself to trust people anymore Oh wow- I kinda vented there 😅 Thanks if you read all the way to here ❤️

[@ratlesscat2216]

I just don't know what to say to people. I have no issues/difficulty reading feelings. But, I just say the wrong things that i don't mean.

[@ahkafkhan4512]

SAME OMG SAME

[@Kaylsea]

Before I started highschool, I absolutely loved socializing with people especially from school.. I showed no signs of shyness but I just realized now that why I suddenly stopped being sociable for years, and it was because of what happened when I started highschool, and last year when I already recovered from it, something worse happened again to the point where I just found it so exhausting to talk to people and just want to be alone all the time not just that but it just feels so awkward to talk to anyone and it gives me anxiety + tires me out thinking what I should say to them.. I've been thinking about the reason for months up until today and thought I was just shy or awkward in general before I saw this video.

[@JoeMama-1diot]

Yeah I got assaulted the summer before highschool and i was never the same again, covid being my freshman year doesnt help either.. ☹

[@umadey8493]

I went through the same before high school i was a totally different person then things happened in my life which totally broke me down and to make it worse as i was just trying to start off again worse things happened to me all from people that i trusted, it broke me in every way. I felt like leaving school and juat staying at home. Life was hell for me, then slowly things got back on track but the after effects it left on me, made me vulnerable, put certain scars on my memory and my personality that i can never forget

[@АлександраГришина-с5р]

It's very complicated, but I feel like I was a wounded introvert who is forcing themselves to be a wounded extravert. That's amazing how I still manage to connect with people, how I am still happy even after this. Take care🏵️

[@Ryan-9000]

I was an extreme extrovert until roughly 18-20 years old. Then I found hanging out with people, even my best friends started to exhaust me socially. Just like the video. I found myself needing time to recharge my social battery. It confused me then and still to this day. It makes me sad thinking back, as it feels like a part of me died when this change happened and how it must have changed my personality. I’m only sharing this for others who may have gone through the same change.

[@sherry356]

Before puberty, I was an extrovert. During high school, I did everything I could to give the appearance of being an extrovert. At university I discovered I'm deeply introverted and also have an anxiety/panic disorder due to my experiences in high school and at home.

[@debanikgoswami4834]

Because of my past,I have trust issues with people(bullying,mocking, discriminating,frauding) . That's why I like to stay alone.

[@solanopedro23]

Man ik the videos aren't meant to be a diagnosis or make you feel terrible but gosh when you're this accurate, it's kinda of imposible to not feel at least called out lmao. Ik it's not anybody's fault but mine but I didn't realized how many wounds I carried until now and it feels wrong. It hurts in a way I don't know how to explain it.

[@thewolfandherbooks]

It hurts because it feels like you were remembering your past wrong and now you have to relive certain memories to figure out what went wrong. You're not broken---you're becoming self aware.

[@analopez-xk4qe]

I've been recently thinking that I was an extrovert who was hurt. Thank you so much Psych2Go! This is really helpful!

[@JennyG.COW5]

Oh my gosh! You hit my metaphorical nail on the head! I loved chatting with people and when I'm able to share anything about myself, it's like the floodgates open. I'm also like a butterfly at a dance, I love to check out what other people are doing in different groups and get to know new people. However, that being said, lately I've felt nervous to go out to know people. I'm also still single and I haven't been in a steady relationship for literally years (I'm including some years Pre- Covid Lockdowns)! My status has also changed because I don't have school anymore or have a job. So... I can often feel inadequate when it comes to finding and dating someone.

[@LuvMaxxDed]

Wow, I've always assumed I'm introverted but this video has me thinking I may be an ambivert. I've always been shy but being shut down as a child definitely caused me to be too afraid to socialize, no matter how much I may have sometimes felt like it. Thanks, you always can learn more about yourself :)

[@arachne8461]

This hit me hard because as an adult I've gotten way more comfortable and as I processed trauma I became extremely extroverted. Made me cry because I realised I got abused and traumatized so early in life I never got the chance to even realise I was an extrovert and spent most of my life thinking I was just an introvert

[@John-vp1ej]

I would love to see a video on 'wounded introverts' as opposed to regular introverts if that's possible? Love your stuff, thanks for the amazing content!

[@telayajackson2.023]

I said the same thing before you, but I guess no one cared if I say it.

[@divacandyful]

they kinda did that in this video already😅

[@Astropicsky]

I've definitely grown more introverted over the years. As a kid I remember having so many friends. Being invited over, going to parties, goofing around my block, but as I grew up my family just moved around a lot. Connections were lost and it was difficult for me to make new friends everywhere I went. It didn't help that being I ended up getting bullied too. I remember I once tried standing up to bullies who were picking on a classmate of mine in 6th grade only to end up getting bullied a day later for it and in trouble with the principal too for no reason either, go figure. There were nice people in my life from time to time, but after so many years I guess the damage was done. I've been betrayed and used by former 'friends' and exes. In the end it was just kind of difficult to trust after that. But after everything though, I'm definitely not the type of person to just give up on my goals and on the people who really care for me.

[@emc32]

I fell you bro. We discovered so much things and become semi introvert,after we dig deeper, we know that life is painful and full of fake people. Then we become someone who doesn't rely on anybody anymore while fighting the trauma etc while we still want to be the old us in the past but we know it is just not right. We will ended up being used and lied again. Now we become introvert,who think before doing something.

[@indianshrek4299]

Relatable, my family also moved around a lot

[@kananiseven]

Same here. I'm glad ur being positive because things CAN get better

[@kananiseven]

@@emc32 True. Or we can go back to being extroverted but use those pple in return since we know they will be fake. It's a win win. U get to socialize (without trusting), and u gain what u were looking for by using them.

[@ann4ge2]

Respect to you, for standing up to bullies, and so sorry it made your live so much worse. But you were better than most people, so thank you for trying

[@iferawhite7661]

As someone with autism, the question of whether or not I'm an introvert has always really confused me. I've loved and craved social interaction since I was a kid, yet socializing has always been exhausting because I spend the majority of that time masking and I end up super drained by the end. But I enjoy hanging out with people when less conversation is involved, like when playing games or doing sports. I used to be a lot more extroverted when I was a kid (though I've always had an occasional need for alone time) and that slowly went away as I got rejected again and again by the other children my age and continuously confused others by being socially oblivious. Now I'm starting to think it's not just a coincidence that I'd rather sit alone in silence than risk hanging out with others :[] A very eye opening video, thank you psych2go as always!!

[@IloveGardensandteaparties]

I am in the same boat as you

[@ivansalamon7028]

This is such a gentle, level headed, soothing advice. Perfect for when I'm high

[@ayoutubechannel7143]

I can relate to this. Around 10 years ago I was an actor performing in theatres across the UK. I was very outgoing and loved being in the limelight. I gave that all up in 2016 after going through a difficult time in my life and now I work a dull office job from home and almost never leave the house. For years I have convinced myself I'm an introvert but I've just been hiding from reality. Thanks for making this video, i'm sure it will be beneficial for a lot of people.

[@syl3r]

Yup, I think I am quite extroverted by nature but before my social skills could fully bloom I experienced some huge betrayal and became very closed off and quiet, preferring a smal group of friends and not going out much. Only recently in my life did I discover I enjoy going out with a lot of people and being socially active with many, granted I'm still pretty closed off and I hesitate a lot when invited to go out with friends but when I do I really enjoy my time outside, its just that I still have some anxiety from back then and I struggle with initiating or joining in contact with friends. It's getting better though.

[@brittanys5969]

Same! This perfectly describes my personality evolution.

[@crescentmoon_aus]

Love your work psych2go, its helping me through feeling a bit "off" and understanding myself. Also i love the AOT references XD

[@HarshaVardhan-vo5ws]

AOT One piece Naruto Steins gate Mob psycho I found these references (EDIT): I don't know if there are any other references

[@ガビブラウン-q2i]

Ikr i loved it sm

[@xxlamaxx1]

I remember doing that personality type quiz and I was like 51% extrovert and 49% introvert. After watching this video Im pretty confident I’m extroverted, but I experienced trauma entering my teenage years which is when I became more withdrawn…I think Ive been doing better recently though

[@leopardsun]

Hope you're doing well!

[@yumi9918]

Maybe you are an ambivert

[@leopardsun]

@@yumi9918 ambivert is kind of just a cop-out term used by people when they're feeling lazy... the thought of a mid-point between introverted and extroverted makes sense on paper, but really, that would make everyone an ambivert, because no one is an extreme charactiture of one or the other. It's a pretty useless term imo

[@fenrisvii]

I got 51% introvert and 49% extrovert and I need my time to be alone and enjoy it but just not for months to go by..

[@ptrdblmeter]

I took a personality test again recently and I was 36% introverted. I was so sure that's wrong. I hate how trauma can change you.

[@jungcatjungworm]

i came across this video, and now i realize i'm not an introvert but a wounded extravert. all of the reasons are so accurate to my situation. i usually get confused if i'm really an introvert or an extravert but after watching this video my mind was cleared. thankyou

[@debanikgoswami4834]

Because of my past(bullying, betrayal), I have severe trust issues with people. Even if someone is nice to me I don't open up to them and prefer to stay alone 😔.

[@micah3331]

Y u on the internet then?

[@stacybradshaw4818]

wow...was going to ask, but I see now that I'm possibly ambivert? I'm going to keep watching, and hopefully find out . thanks for the helpful content and soothing voice, for someone like me, it's not so easy to see who I really am, and confront why, so..yeah,thank you!

[@gevi6942]

I would say that this actually makes a lot of sense with how i'm interacting with other people. As a kid or when i was younger, it was really easy for me to have friends and just in general, interacting or socializing with anyone i meet without caring if they are a stranger or not. When it came to school, of course the first day of school is kind of awkward each grade since you're in a different class, but it was so easy for me to break the ice with everyone and just talking and talking a lot with my classmates. I was also that one kid who would approach exchange students and be the best of friends with them. I am still like that now, to some degree but i could see a lot of changes now that i think about it.

[@Jubbinn_]

I find it surprising how many unlisted videos there are on this channel lol

[@chloenotoco2664]

Yeah !

[@Psych2go]

Good job on finding our hidden videos. You are one clever person. :)

[@siona444]

1 month ago? O.o

[@Blu3b3rrymuffinn]

@@siona444 ikr it must be a glitch

[@katzea.a7880]

@@siona444 bruh

[@bencarter9363]

this video really came at the perfect time for me, I've been struggling a lot lately with my friend group and relationships and this has opened my eyes so much. thank you!

[@_pudu661]

wow.... this hit me, i truly am an extrovert, but these last year i have become more introverted because i was hurt by friends. and lost trust in people. i really am just a wounded extrovert. my friends pushed me out of the friend group, and it made me spiral into a depression and anxiety ridden state, where i became afraid to talk to new people because i didnt want to be rejected... this cycle has happened a lot throughout my life, where problems with friends and family cause me to withdraw from everybody. even tho all i want is to connect. thanks psych 2 go for always giving really insightful videos, you have helped me learn a lot about myself, or put into words my feelings and experiences with many of your videos.

[@mr.austin8007]

This video hits the bullseye for explaining my past school year. The first 2 months of my 8th grade year, I was so open, humorous and fun to be with and I loved hanging out with my friends and I was so confident to tell them about things. But, all that slowly descended into nothing as I lost things to say and as I got more mature, I hardly find things funny anymore and it feels like they complain to the teacher so much, i dislike being around the immature and loud. I'm as blank as a piece of paper and I'm starting to dislike their noises that, during recess, I enjoy listening to the birds and whatever quietness I can soak up. Last week I felt like such a complete outlier In the whole school. I try to be like how I used to be but, what is there to say anymore? I'm not depressed or an introvert, this video gave me the answer I needed. Thank you.

[@piejosh9593]

That is what exactly happens to me. Seven y.o me was extremely extrovert. I love spending the day after school with my friends. One day without them felt so "lonely". 12 y.o, started to pull myself from social life, spending less time with friends and more time with games. No longer close with my neighbors anymore. And 17 y.o until today, I'm still struggling to be an extrovert again like the way I was before. Still struggling with this "afraid of rejection" trait.

[@annas.4529]

I really like how you use anime reference to explain it specially mob psycho 100. I am an Introvert but I still enjoy watching it.😍😍 Introvert related video helps me to understand myself and extrovert related videos helps me to understand my extrovert friend. Thank you.☺️

[@tuzar359]

What I could add up to being a 'wounded extrovert' are the moments where I get to finally acquire a sense of confidence to go out after recharging for a long period of time, so I go out of my way and reach out to a friend that I want to hang out with. It would be a clear indicator that my friend would agree, but nearly all of the time I come forth like this - my request gets rejected. In turn, my confidence and ability to socialize in the future drop from a 100 to 0, then I return to my old ways with an extra sour taste in my mouth and agonizing pain from having a dark cloud of the big sad appear over my head, overanalyzing where I went wrong, until I get back up on my feet and give another shot. Is there a way I could do better? While on the topic of events of extraversion taking place, I have noticed that the dynamics of any friend gatherings aren't the same as before. I might enjoy present-day meetings, but deep down I am just yearning for the energy we had from, like, 2016-17 - but it isn't reciprocated. I would find myself feeling hopeless knowing that this feeling would never be replicated again. Is it just me that feels this way, or is this just how things really are? Ever since I graduated high school I knew that Life was gonna call my name one day and make me more and more distant from my closest ones. I might be looking at this from a pessimistic point of view. On the bright side, I've been told by the same closest ones that I shouldn't stress, as they too had recognized it - as long as the air to fuel the fire is still there, ain't nobody going anywhere. Big shoutout to all my friends who encourage me to keep it together - y'all know who you are, bless your hearts! You were 1000% spot on with number 3 though. I am not sure if the hurt factor could stem from paranoia over past experiences from leaving a bad first impression from not being on my best behavior (or from being on my best behavior, but at the wrong places) when meeting new people. Or I straight up avoid meeting people altogether to protect myself from potential dramas over bollocks. Maybe I am tripping, but this is just a part of the environments I happened to come across. P.S: "Babe, a new human archetype dropped!"😁 Nah, but for real though - this video was really eye-opening. It makes a hell of a lot more sense. I think I could identify myself like this, despite the fact that I am a walking paradox of a person who doesn't have a coherent understanding of self. Still, big up 🙏🏻

[@РадославаДимова-н2ц]

This is so relatable to me, but I don't know what I may have been wounded from Especially the rejecting part

[@twentyeight602]

I used to be super extroverted as a kid, talkative, constantly hanging out with everyone, everyone was my friend and I loved it! But now I definetly consider myself an introvert, I do enjoy social interaction but it definetly isn't what gives me energy, it's the opposite actually. And I always wondered what caused this change around the age of 9, but I don't think it really has to do with trauma and being wounded, so it remains a mystery

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I used to be friendly guy as a kid but now I have trust issues with people. I like to stay alone.

[@twentyeight602]

@@debanikgoswami4834 it sucks that you have trust issues now, hope you're okay man

[@EMPenguin_Gaming]

(1:55) Robin is just so adorable 🥰

[@stevenponcho293]

Growing up I used to talk a lot. I was quite extroverted as a child. This often got in me trouble. Over the years I've shifted. I avoid people more often. The video about shy extrovert really made me think. This one as well. I feel I might be extroverted. Recently I'm trying to reverse these trends and see more people and I feel better

[@DanielWalvin]

0:07 Attack on Titan kids. Only thought of that possibility because of the red scarf. Nice subtle referencing 😛

[@DanielWalvin]

2:03 Naruto and Sasuke, becomes clearer it's Sasuke on the zoom-in

[@DanielWalvin]

3:00 Okabe Rintarou from Steins;Gate? Lab coat + hair

[@DanielWalvin]

Okay, 3:20 confirms Okabe, and that red hair must be Kurisu's 😛

[@earthboundisawsome]

Very interesting. I feel traits on both sides but I still identify as an introvert. The one that really stands out was being really social as a child. I still like to talk and enjoy the company of my friends. I just really value the alone time now way more than i used to. I guess working retail made me tired of engaging all the time. I think that really takes its toll. I remember being young also having plenty of fun time by myself. I think i just really value one half more after my experiences as an adult.

[@LinkEX]

Although extroverts definitely are more _chatty,_ aspect 5 (at 2:56) seemed a bit too vague. Having deeper discussions is also a typical introvert thing. Communication is important to both. It's merely the smalltalk that's exclusively an extrovert thing. That said, talking it out is a good point: Extroverts almost need it to process their thoughts. Introverts prefer working the list out themselves, and merely talk _afterwards_ to explore new perspectives.

[@allisonelizabeth6596]

relatable

[@Amalia19]

@@LinkEX Introverts love having deeper discussions more than extroverts, mainly because you can't have that kind of discussions with a normal strangers, which means they are trusting each other, and introverts value trust a lot more in comparison to extroverts.

[@saudkmurrani]

That’s explains the last 4 years of my life So many things are making sense now Thank you so much for this video Love from Baghdad-Iraq

[@aquafeanen736]

The last one is practically me, I used to be (and still kinda am) an extrovert. And I had friends next door that i could play with, every day. But when March 2020 got out of hand and the whole world went bonkers, my life started changing. And it was harder because I had just officially become a teenager 4 months before that. So I had to deal with the forced isolation and the rediculous stuff going on. Eventually things escalated and my family and I had to move, we moved out of the suburban area and far out to where it was more rural, out on the countryside. It was WAYY too lonely, and still is. Everyone was so far away. This video showed up and I was interested to see if I was just a wounded extrovert, though i still think I'm an ambivert. Thanks for the vid.👍🏻

[@jm2307]

I was an ambivert as a kid. As I got older I became more aware of the dynamics behind socializing as a Black woman in PWIs. Overall it hasn’t been a pleasant experience so I put less value in it & put that energy into myself instead, ultimately becoming more introverted. Best decision I ever made. I’m still looking for spaces & friends that are more authentically accepting but in the meantime I’m enjoying experience of not being impacted by others’ perceptions/opinions of me which have always been heavily influenced by the anti-blackness that’s deeply rooted in global cultures.

[@toma6116]

Preach sweetheart

[@purrfectdanii]

i understand this

[@_pudu661]

omg i truly feel this!!! Im a young woman of color from the carribean, and recently moved to texas, and worked with literally all white older males. And it was such a pain socializing and being alienated by them, because i am so extroverted and friendly but they had a lot of normalized racism and sexist ideologies about me that werent even true! when i finally got fired ( no surprise i was miserable and my usually positive and friendly attitude was just worn down by them) i was relieved and i got a new job in a place where the majority of us are WOC! and i was super shy and quiet at first, bcuz i had just been so hurt by my past coworkers nasty attitudes towards me, but it became a breath of fresh air! and i feel myself becoming like how i was before, an extrovert!

[@evil_laugh_hutao7357]

I don't really know what introvert means But in my case I can do literally do everything like an extrovert (or whatever it means) when it comes to my goals . But like when i wanna have fun i get extremely shy i don't know what it is.

[@mxtanoiia]

TO THOSE THAT ARE CONFUSED ON WHETHER THEY ARE AN INTROVERT OR EXTROVERT ✨ i feel like it’s important to mention that extroversion and introversion are not defined by how social you are, but by where one gets their energy from. extroverts tend to GAIN energy from social interactions and situations which makes many prone to be sociable people who like putting themselves out there. introverts, on the other hand, tend to LOSE energy from social situations, which makes many more withdrawn and quiet. but after reading some of the comments, it seems that many confuse these behaviors as the only possible way (what i mean is many believe all extroverts are outgoing and all introverts hate ppl). so with this idea, the term “ambivert” really doesn’t exist since it has nothing to do with where one gets their energy from. you can be a social introvert and a withdrawn extrovert (like shown in the video). you just need to see where you feel you get your energy from. is it ppl and external stimuli or recharging thru alone time? just some food for thought.

[@mochiezu]

I agree

[@markvd1008]

What if it's inconsistent though?

[@daychild_]

As someone who calls himself an ambivert, I think it’s more bc I’m not sure where I get my energy from. Sometimes it’s from being social while other times i get energy from being alone

[@mxtanoiia]

@@daychild_ maybe it depends where you’re usually social? is it with close friends and family?

[@alicev5496]

Yeah but where you "gain" energy from often just. Isn't that relevant when discussing things'

[@Tboneisawesome]

Thank you so much!! Before my trauma from second grade, I used to be talkative, happy, and always with people. Now, I really want to socialize, but it’s tough. I don’t want someone to put me through that pain again. I should probably tell my therapist about this next week.

[@icecreambone]

i feel like the hardest part to distinguish for this is whether you don't like hanging out with people because they hurt you, or because they're just not fun or comfortable to be around compared to doing your own thing

[@shadowfax776]

Because of my ptsd I isolate myself from a lot of things. Even things that I really want to do. I just want to get better but the waiting list for the adult traumacare is several years long. I just turned 18 and it's only now that I really opened up about my trauma to my therapist. It was our last meeting and I told her I desperately needed help and she got really sad because she knew it would be hard for me to get that now that I'm an adult.

[@Wonderer565]

I always thought of myself as an ambivert. The idea of being an introvert makes me sad and drains my energy. On the other hand being a full extrovert seems too wearing. I like to balance the time spent alone with the time spent with people. I love long conversations but I hate small talk. My mbti score is always 50/50 with a slight preferance over introversion ( but I also have social anxiety). Acording to some pshycologists, ambiverts shouldn't exist. That is like saying that you can't be bisexual, you can only be either gay or straight. It's frustrating.

[@sushimelon4798]

I totally understand, I feel the same way and deal with social anxiety. I feel like I would have the potential to be an extrovert if it werent for the fear, over self consciousness, or my mind going blank when talking to people. Being an ambivert is confusing. We're not a full on extrovert or introvert, just somewhere in between the two.

[@Wonderer565]

@@sushimelon4798 I know right? There are so many things I feel the need to do and say but my anxiety holds me down so I live a much more introverted life than I want to. They say introverts are comfortable with being on their own, but to me it's more like a coping mechanism. I do enjoy alone time, but when it's constant it's making me depressed.

[@cutieoui7772]

I used to remember how unbothered I was when I was a child talking to this popular girl in my class despite her bullying me and subtly telling me im weird cause im a nerd. but over time, she opens up to me and goes along my nerdy side because i was unbothered by her verbal attacks. The memories, where I come along to join these group of popular extroverts and hang around their house, that today that same group were still together friends and *still* popular, but the difference is that I am not with them anymore, because I developed social anxiety after I let my family's continuous verbal attacks get through me as a pre teen, just because i listened to them and let them rot my premature brain.. My then friend keeps sending me videos of me back when, I see me dancing and unbothered with full of confidence and everyone used to like me, and i got a lot of friends, and all i could ask myself after that video was.. "where did my confidence go?" "if i wasnt socially anxious, i could've still be friends with my elementary group and the others and made a lot of memories. but while they lived their life, mine had stopped."

[@preludethealbum]

Too relatable. I have been outgoing when i was a kid but i was a bully too Its just hopeless with me man

[@chimp_monke123]

I just have to say, i recognize a number of the references in this video, and i appreciate the attention to detail... not only were there scenes from shows, but they actually fit contextually for those scenes... thanks for the feels. xD

[@senoritaartistica1999]

I think I am a wounded extrovert,I try to push myself out, even though a lot itrauma, and stress happened, When I am with buds, or family, I think less of it, but when I am by myself other than studying, or other hobbies, it's depressing, I often feel lonely, it's tough forcing myself out, but stressful times ain't easy!

[@ValeriaCorvina]

Thinking wounded extrovert learned to love time alone and became a true introvert over time. I know what trauma was the turning point.

[@ehhhhhh1885]

thank you so much for your videos recently!

[@TwilunaCM]

This video explained my whole life in a nutshell, I used to be such an extrovert, always leading the pack and being so talkative, overtime however I lost that, especially now, I am a high school graduate, but I wish to be out there more y'know? Maybe things could brighten up when I get to college? Who knows?

[@rhishovanwarloukik113]

I used to be an wounded extrovert. Still those memories haunt me left and right. Still I suffer from the 'experienced' fears. Anyway, time will fix everything ig. Life is beautiful🤞🏽

[@ChowingChow]

I was surely a confident child and used to love hanging out with friends. But then I started to become more shy and introvert for some reasons that I don’t even remember, and now I’m on my early twenties and I wish to have that confidence back.

[@debanikgoswami4834]

I have severe trust issues with people. Because of which I don't make friends and prefer to stay alone . I used to be quite friendly as a kid .

[@TheHated0ne]

Well I'm not a wounded extrovert but thanks for making this video. I'm sure this will help a lot of people out there who always called themselves an introvert without knowing about this

[@non-existent4717]

This video really was one for me. Thank you. I'm still trying to get over my past trauma (finding the exact roots first)even if I can't really contact anyone else to help me. I may not be able to be that person anymore but maybe I can at least turn into an comfortable ambivert.

[@rolvenaleen4684]

Relatable..

[@super-sizedmcshizzle6235]

Wow, when I learned more about introverts and extroverts a couple years ago, I always thought I was an introvert but was disappointed about it and wished I could be an extrovert. I always find myself thinking about my past and how I had so many friends since I basically made friends with just about everyone I met, and I always wish I could be like that again. I DO want to socialize so desperately but am too scared to make new friends and it’s hurting me so much... I never considered the fact that I may just be a wounded extrovert. The problem is that now I’m not fully comfortable talking to anyone at this point (except my family) and I don’t remember how I used to be so comfortable before...

[@skye_136]

As a child I used to be a happy extrovert. I was a little shy, but I hated being alone and my only purpose was to play with my friends. Later on things changed and I was diagnosed with social anxiety. I'm really lonely, even though I'm an extrovert and I still hate beging alone, but I'm terrified of crowds and meeting new people, so this video perfectly describes me.

[@strangecorgi2903]

Very insightful video! For a while I thought I was an introvert, but after going on a trip to Washington DC and meeting tons of awesome people and making some friends, it really boosted my confidence. I guess I've been an extrovert this whole time, but never really got the chance to remember that until the trip. Don't be afraid to leave your comfort zone every once in a while; I was terrified at first, but I really enjoyed DC once we got there, and it's an experience I'll remember forever.

[@mathildetja09]

I’ve never Been this early, thank you for your videos!

[@KM-vq1vy]

This actually fits me perfectly. I’ve always felt like I was/am extroverted at heart- but.. life has been well.. nothing but abandonment and rejection all my life! I’m a bad person. (I judge myself by how those I love judge me- but when there’s no one close or around regularly, I tend to judge myself based on how I’m treated) Anyway- so I think ‘wounded extrovert’ fits. I’d begun to thing i “turned into an introvert”, but then I noticed how much happier and how much more energy I have when I’m outside or after/while being social (and it goes well)! So I began to wonder- am I just a socially lifelong starved extrovert? Is that also why I’m so exhausted? My Social Communication Disorder not helping me at all //

[@christianevans1485]

I cant stress this enough. THANK YOU. I had a random shift in my personality mid way through college. I’ve felt so confused for months, and the internet had no answers for me… Until today. You have lifted such a weight off my chest today, and anybody else feelin this way, you’re not alone!

[@Pac-Fire]

I was really extroverted when i was in kindergarden! I had friends, was super active, loved going outside and more! Nowadays i don't do any of these, i don't even have friends. I compeletly changed personalities. Even my mom is so confused!

[@Nessy14337]

I'm not sure, but it may be that I was a wounded extrovert since my childhood. I used to try interacting with others a lot, but every time it was a catastrophe, so in the end I just stopped talking with anyone and forced myself to just think, not say. Or maybe I was an ambivert since the start, because I DID wanted to be with people, but was too scared to communicate. Or maybe something else, cause I remember feeling anxious about talking to people every time I needed. In the end I was just all alone and had a status of a "weird girl" my whole childhood until I was like 15 or 16, and gone to college, where I finally found few of friends. Right now I still hate talking to strangers and mostly communicate with my close friends and family, no one else. IDK if I really am an introvert (since I spend really much time within my mind), an extrovert (since I DO want to get new friends, communicate with people, be more open to the world, but I just... too scared, and feel extremely uncomfortable about talking to strangers, cause every time I try doing that everyone just think I'm a weirdo, which is getting any will to try even deeper), or an ambivert (cause I can't really tell if I feel fully introverted, nor fully extroverted)

[@averykitsch]

Hot take: no one is an introvert, they just don't feel safe around people I don't feel this is applies 100% necessarily, but we're social beings we need each other

[@yumi_cloud]

Im am introvert and it's not that i don't feel safe around people I just prefer being alone. I actually feel very safe being near people I hate crowds but still. I have no reason not to be around people i just like being alone and I think there's nothing wrong with that.

[@Amalia19]

There are actual introverts out there, but you'll rarely find them on the internet because they are one of those few people who don't really use or care about social medias, and just vibing with their life while playing single player games.

[@averykitsch]

Okay admittedly I was low key high when I wrote this.. BUT the sentiment I was tuning into is: Both avoidance/discomfort from connections or over dependence on it are trauma responses

[@averykitsch]

@@trinitym5552ctually Jung said himself those personality types are a parlor trick.. too much stock should not be put into them. I do understand you feel best one way... alls I'm posing is to ask yourself whether it's a trauma response and to possibly what degree your personality has been shaped by things outside of your control.. and then to choose from that information

[@meagancrowley5197]

In my case I know exactly what switched in my life to make me a "wounded extrovert". (Note, I'm also crazy empathetic, and a 'fixer', for anyone in the MBTI/OP community, I'm Te/Ne, or ESTJ) Becoming a wounded extrovert might start with having someone get close to you because you are friendly and funny, and accepting of everyone- then once they are comfortable in the relationship they turn around when it's convenient for them and berate you for those qualities. Now you're just loud, annoying, weird, and too nice to *other people* (not them of course, keep enabling THIS toxic relationship until you die, spoiler alert, im still 'friends' with this person, its been 16 years, pray for me). They might say your contributions to the group are stupid and unnecessary, then turn around and take credit for those things when someone outside the group decides it was actually cool. They inturrupt conversations about things you like, in favor of something they like. And on and on. I was especially unlucky to be saddled with some borderline narcissists. Which I have to admit, is basically trendy at this point. You might be like me and be so open to others that you gather in a collection of "lost" types, losers and weirdos, that you take care of because you are socially capable and you spend years helping them get from one awkward situation to another- but when you try to spend time with people who are a little less co-dependant, those awkward friends get territorial over you and sabotage that friendship that you needed. They might actually scare away potential friendships, then claim that person was too toxic for you. Now you have years of bad memories attached to speaking out and making friends. Being extroverted means being called loud, bossy, weird- being extroverted means having your ideas torn apart and then taken from you- being extroverted means having crazy people latch on to you and never let go, now you have to babysit them for life. For me, growing up as an extrovert was a series of asking myself "when does this get good?" And today I ask myself why the hell would I even try? If I go out and make a friend, but I don't check in on them enough- even when they don't check in on me, I feel guilt, because my friends convinced me (without even meaning to) that friendship is when *I* do all the emotional heavy lifting, and NEVER get lifted myself. Some friends might try to do some lifting- but with very little empathy and practice, quickly turn it into another moment for them. So even those "checking in" calls, are just more work on my end. Having a relationship with anyone at anytime is just WORK. It NEVER gets better. Honestly now a days I can't be an emotional support for one single person. Not even my mother while she struggles with cancer. I used up all my social empathy points in life. Because I KNOW I will never get the same level of care back that I have given others. The amount of listening and siding with that I have done in my life exceeds anything I could ever receive from someone else. I can't take anymore on, and I could never expect someone to do what I did and take my burdens the way I took on others. So I have this massive deficit in my heart. I cannot allow myself to have any more friends. I can't go out and risk spending more energy on others- but oh! according to the extrovert/introvert "science" it's as simple as "you get energy from people". I think this is a bit oversimplified ngl. If I take that question "do you want to go to a party or stay home" I want to stay home- because at one single party I could get excited about being out, for 10 minutes- realize everyone else has friends, no one likes me, no one cares about the things I care about, and the only people who would speak to me are either pittying me or desperate for attention themselves. It doesn't make me less of an extrovert to think that situation is bullshit and draining. Yes, maybe it's all in my head, and if I could just "find my people" I'd get that energy I need- but years and years of conditioning have told me I -cant- have that. That even if someone thinks I'm funny- it's just for now, until I'm annoying again. If someone appreciates my help it won't be long until my ideas are bad and I'm just 'acting like I'm better than them'. I might be a good listener and they'll love it- until I'm the one struggling to explain my insecurities to them and they can't take another minute of my 'whining'. Being an extrovert- or otherwise(imo) a person who is likely to derive their purpose in *connecting with others* is completely overrated and I'm not surprised everyone and their dog claims to be an introvert these days. People are handing out 'wounds' left and right. How are you meant to play to your strength when someone's already gutted that part of you? I'm happy to pretend I love being alone, hand me a book fellow introvert I'm never leaving my house again.

[@RaynaTamarinASMR]

I feel this way too.

[@joticoronel2020]

Bro chill, this isn't a college application. (Take my like though)

[@starlightparades]

me and you both buddy

[@MintE2805]

I really feel those last two paragraphs

[@hectoriul6135]

TeNe is ENTJ, not ESTJ. ESTJ is TeNiSeFi

[@TP-nx7uf]

I don´t exactly remember when it started, but first I was isolated because there were no people to hang out with (I lived in a small village, later town) and if there were, they hated me or didn´t want to accept me in their group. I was always extremely social and extroverted, absolutely despised being alone. But after this experience, I got so used to being alone that socialising became scary even though I really wanted to spend time with people. I became severely depressed because I just hated having to spend all my time on my own. I am just not introverted, never was, never will be. But my social life is more like one of an introvert. I have few emotional problems, mainly anxiety disorder and borderline personality disorder that make trusting others almost impossible sometimes. It hurts to be like this, but fortunatelly as you get older being alone becomes more bearable. Thanks God for animals who keep us company without stabbing us in the back.

[@bare_bear_hands]

Years of not getting what you need will do that to you. It does get to the point where the fear of getting hurt again, a probability, overshadows the pain of being alone, a certainty. I've been damaged for a long time, but for almost one entire year already I haven't been capable of going outside. It's horrible seeing yet another perfect Saturday night go by and me not enjoying it.

[@jailynnnx]

I've always been kind of shy or anxious when talking to people, especially adults as I never wanted to be seen as a "bad kid" or get yelled at by someone with more authority than me. I remember being very social with my peers growing up, specifically younger kids or kids I could empathize with - kids who were too afraid to speak up or were more introverted, I tended to feel more extroverted with them as a way of showing to them that it's not as scary as it seems. It's kind of strange because I'm very much an ambivert with slightly more extrovertedness (58% extrovert to 42% introvert), meaning I remember MANY times I was extroverted and leading games at recess, but I also remember times in the classroom where I was terrified to raise my hand and answer the question, KNOWING I had the right answer. I don't remember any vividly bad experiences that lead me to be socially anxious but I just always have been. For me, there was never a point where I just stopped being extroverted or became more introverted, it always wavered. Truly, I don't know how to explain this very well, but I hope others can relate to this and/or feel less alone.

[@Spiglevle]

this really helped 👍

[@hibak8196]

I'm an introvert AND have been feeling that all my "extroversion" has faded out of me lately. Idk how to explain it. Maybe I'm a wounded ambivert? Or something? 🙈

[@kittylikemebluejay9723]

Same

[@codeswift27]

Same here

[@LemonyGoose]

I'm homeschooled now and don't live in town so I can't really just walk across the street to see a friend, I'm a shut in not by choice, but from the circumstances around me. I remember myself enjoying time with my friends at school a lot. I might be a wounded extrovert, but I do enjoy a lot more time alone now. Though I do really miss having friendships (I lost contact with most of my friends) and often feel like I'm missing the warmth you would get from them, lately things have been so hard and I just want someone to hug, and I have my family... but when you're around your family everyday, it may not feel the same as a hug from someone you're not related to and have a meaningful friendship with. I would really like to see more content on this channel talking about kids who are homeschooled and from everyone like me. Great video though, thank you Psych2Go!

[@nirahana4832]

all of these are me, i think the reason i became a wounded extrovert was the relentless bullying I faced in middle school, and the fact the people I told didn't help me, also the fact I had toxic friends. now im trying to be an extrovert again i just dont know how and its just akward , like i cant continue the conversation

[@ehhhhhh1885]

Oh wow. I guess this is me. Thanks, this helps

[@thev0idnati0n]

Something I would love to point out here. As a person with a cluster c personality disorder, these are not only symptoms of being a wounded extrovert, but, it also explains what I desperately want and cannot seem to do. Would you do a follow up video on how to become comfortable with social situations and coping skills with that? I think it's much needed for the world.

[@KIP-j8m]

Thank u 4 this!!

[@caili2813]

I was always an extrovert but since I was bullied because I am a plus-size, I prefer small circles or stay at home. I always love socializing and putting myself performing and talking our on public as a kid. Although there are some times that I do that, I am now always wary and scared...

[@alalcrumo]

These cameos really work, literally i saw little Eren and i was sold, i clicked instantly. More to the actual content i relate a lot with the "i used to be an extrovert" part, but it is a bit different. I think I was an introvert in kindergarten, but it's a loose term, from the things I remember and what I've been told i had zero, none desire to talk to anyone even tho i had no problem speaking, i remember watching and completely understanding the situation and the natural reaction they wanted to get out of me. But i just didn't care to perform it. It's not like i didn't have friends but i don't think I cared a lot about them. From then on it was how the video explained, somewhere in middle school i started to hangout with people a lot more and i started enjoying playing with other kids unlike before. Teenage year's ups and downs aside, i think I reached my popularity peak in my first year of uni. Afterwards, i met a lot of people but right now I have just two very close friends and that's it. There was also the covid time that shaped me into a literal shut in.

[@eris-ju8qv]

I'm still an extrovert but I've been kinda forced into an introvert by my "friends". I usually become friends with people that have the same interests as me who are usually introverts. A lot of the time those friendships end terribly because I drift off and find another group of friends (while I'm still being polite and respectful to the introvert) and the introverted person gets angry. Or, I become "too much" for them. This has led to countless arguments and I've been called many things along the line of "narcissist" or "attention whore". Their words have hurt me very deeply. But I recovered. Now I know what type of people I tend to get along with and I'm happy that I'm an extrovert. So that's an upside. (Not implying that all introverts are toxic like my former friends!!)