7 Behaviors We Feel Guilty About, But Really Shouldn't

[@thefinancialdiet]

We're so excited for our next virtual workshop this Thursday, 7/30, featuring Chelsea and therapist/KZbinr Kati Morton! We hope you can join us: bit.ly/TFDStudioTickets.

[@claudis.4015]

Maybe this is unwanted input, but was there no other therapist available to set this up with? It still leaves a bad taste in my mouth (& probably other people's mouth, too) how unprofessional she acted in the Jake Paul-"documentary" series of the uber-problematic Shane Dawson. She called the symptoms of Anti-Social Personality Disorder "gross" & wanted to "take a shower" after reading the list of symptoms in the DSM-5. She didn't disclose her "assesment" of Jake Paul to him or his team - in front of the camera at least. And she never discouraged the "diagnosis" of a personality disorder or mental illness on a person she hasn't tested let alone met yet. It was highly unethical. And it did lasting damage to the already stigmatized people with this illness. And her association with Shane Dawson makes me even more wary of her. Especially right now. Anyways, you can invite who you want & feel bring the most to the table. I just wanted to give some food for thought.

[@el1za1234]

@@claudis.4015 I agree, if it was any other therapist I would attend, but Kati's behaviour seems really unprofessional and unethical and I don't feel comfortable supporting her

[@claudis.4015]

@@el1za1234 Yeah, I could see that being the case for quite a few people. All the more reason to make the TFD team aware of this issue. :)

[@Animefreak242]

Sounds great and looking forward to the workshop. Please don't direct us to invest in these horrible companies. The reviews on Aspiration are all negative *dating back three years. Everyone who isn't paid to give a review has given a negative one. I already lost a good chunk of change following one sponsor. I don't want to see others fall for this one when reports from as recently as last month are saying that they seize funds and close accounts without notification. www.depositaccounts.com/banks/reviews/aspiration.html

[@claudis.4015]

@@Animefreak242 In the fear that I might be channeling my inner Karen right now, but I would love for them to reply to your message. This is not just an issue of image/ association with problematic content creators. Your complaint is a serious criticism that needs be dealt with by TFD. :(

[@BradENewman]

The '7' Behaviors We Feel Guilty About, But Really Shouldn't: 1: Having A Career In A Different Field Than You Went To School For 2: Not Doing Enough To Save The Planet 3: Saying No To Social Engagements 4: Prioritizing Your Personal Life Over A "Dream Job" 5: Whether Or Not You Live In A "Desirable" Big City 6: You Waited Too Long To Start Investing Or Saving For Retirement 7: Not Wanting A Romantic Relationship

[@JenzJoe]

Thanks!!!

[@calibby85]

THANK YOU FOR #7. I'm almost 35 and spent the vast majority of my adulthood in a relationship- one of those serial monagomists. Been single for 2.5yrs straight at this moment and I'm loving it, can't imagine being in a relationship now, especially during this pandemic. I have lots of personal growth I want to do, and I don't want children so there's no pressure to find a partner ASAP. I'm not saying I'll always be single but if it turns out I'm happier that way then that's fine too. I think/hope our culture will shift to supporting this and more living communities of people who are childless and not in romantic partnership.

[@margal3120]

Claire Lewis AMEN!!

[@yourer]

Right there with you, Claire!

[@afz5355]

Amen Amen Amen

[@TheMocao]

I’m much older than the average viewer - but if I could just give perspective on #7: I got married in my early 30s because my closest friends were in serious relationships and I started feeling left out. I loved my husband, but probably didn’t choose wisely. I’m now divorced and people are now trying to pressure me to get into a new relationship! Bottom line - you do you and don’t let other people throw a glass of haterade in your face!

[@spacedout8552]

Love this so much !

[@afz5355]

Thank you for this comment! Seriously 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@AdrienneInvests]

OH MAN is the first one true. I studied engineering but I’ve realized that my degree just proves what I’m capable of. But the amount of judgement I get from people for not being exactly in my field is crazy.

[@jiffybishop3191]

Omg same! Also studied biomedical engineering but I knew I wanted to not be a technical engineer, instead I wanted to use my degree to learn the fundamentals of my healthcare but work in a more managerial style environment. First job after college I'm not doing engineering but I'm still in R&D but now I want a more business strategy career

[@AdrienneInvests]

Jiffy Bishop that’s awesome! I’m also on the management side of things. Definitely still use A LOT of critical thinking that I got from studying engineering

[@shannon6290]

I study mechanical engineering and I currently work asan engineer but I’m trying to transition into a design career. I hope I find more people like you guys that see that as a positive versus a “you failed as an engineer” 🙂

[@AdrienneInvests]

Shannon I think that’s awesome. I think engineering just really gives you a good foundation to do anything.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” ― Lao Tzu

[@workhot]

Think Different - Thought Provoking Ideas who Cares

[@redhead3322]

Re #2, I think we often forget that the sheer acting of buying this, especially new things when we don't actually need them, can be incredible wasteful. Not buying anything is better than buying the new beautifully "unpackaged" thing. So often times, even without intention, people who spend less money in general, whether by choice or circumstance, are actually living much more sustainably than your favorite eco-glam influencer. There's a special type of class shame that goes along with the environmental aesthetic which is particularly misplaced (not that any class shaming is well-placed) because pooper people are likely living much more sustainably even if it doesn't look the "right" way.

[@afz5355]

I agree with this wholeheartedly!! People need to understand that not everyone can afford to live ‘sustainably’

[@__beinluv]

completely agree, i live in Argentina where inflation rates are over the roofs so I have to weight down almost everything i'm going to buy, so if I don't need it I won't buy it, and it's like that for the majority of people here. when I watch entertainment from USA it blows my mind the amount of waste they produce because they're almost addicted to buy things, even if they don't need it at all. it's crazy but i know that even if we live in a "poor" country we as individuals are doing much better for the environment than people who can afford to to buy eco friendly thing that they don't need.

[@scarpfish]

Many of us are working jobs not related to our educational pursuits because we didn't have life figured out by age 23, and a whole lot of life happens after that. Academia, in spite of its ridiculous price tag, really doesn't prepare you for that.

[@DemetriPanici]

I grew up with a dad who worked as a financial advisor for years and only when I was 20 did I realize he majored in marketing LOL. This is so true! Great video Chelsea!

[@Martina95673]

I have a master in sustainable economy and now I work as a controller for a bank ... Yup fair enough. I'm not American tho so my university fees were quite low (2k for a master) so I'm not beating myself down too hard for that.

[@joymae]

Omg that's so funny hahah!

[@afz5355]

My dad majored in political science and he’s an executive lmao

[@afz5355]

@@Martina95673 $2000 FOR A MASTERS DEGREE?!?! Where do you live????

[@Martina95673]

@@afz5355 Italy, but I did my masters in the Netherlands. Actually masters are around 10k yearly in Italy, which I think it's quite expensive.

[@michellerevisited]

Oof, I've really been worrying about the amount of money that I'm supposed to have saved by 30 recently. There's just so many things to save for, it's challenging when there's only so much money to go around. Thanks for your words.

[@emiliabolsas]

Ignore those recommendations and find a personal banker to talk to you instead. If they are good, they will be able to look at where you are at and where you want to be realistically and help you see how to get there. I felt terrible comparing myself to the generic numbers for my age - until I met with a banker and left feeling so great about what I have accomplished and that I am exactly on track. Your savings and retirement are bespoke to your unique life and no website can get to every nuance of your own life and your goals. (Also, bankers are like therapists and you might not be a match to one’s specific approach, so shop around.)

[@michellerevisited]

@@emiliabolsas I appreciate that. Thanks :)

[@yourer]

Chelsea, can you talk about money in relationship? Like warning signs that you're not financially compatible? Or they're taking advantage of you? How are expenses split up considering how much each person makes? Things like that.

[@Zygro98acopalypse]

One upside to quarantine completely devastating my sleep schedule: waking up right after TFD uploads and starting my day hearing encouragement and truth from Chelsea first thing after I wake up

[@bourgeoisbarbie7734]

"Truth." Is that what they are calling this nonsense?

[@davidliang913]

Making sure the social relationships we have are meaningful to us and make us feel good about ourselves is CRUCIAL. I think we pressure ourselves to please people who don't matter to us too often. That leaves us unhappy and unfullfilled.

[@tayakenny]

#7 is SO important, I'm so happy you included it. Personally I do think our society is set up to financially benefit people in relationships over those that remain single (just look at how impossible it is to get an affordable 1bd as a single person), to a point where I think people staying in bad (or even just not great) situations because they can't afford an alternative is more prevalent than we think. I would love to see you talk more about this in your videos!

[@yunglynda1326]

this!!!!

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.” ― Roy T. Bennett

[@4everalmightykey]

Two hours ago I was searching on the internet about this topic. One hour later, you post this. The universe sure does work in mysterious ways!

[@iluvzurara2]

omg the amount of importance placed on jobs and the way we talk about jobs is SO TOXIC! ive felt the initial like very overtly measuring up whenever i meet someone only to get asked the obvious question like oh what do you do and im like well i graduated law school and then its like OH! as if my humanity is conditioned on your approval of my profession. im just like wow wtf what if i wasnt?! it's particularly evident when the first information given is of my parent's background, which is of latin american heritage, so the subsequent surprise and "approval" is even more obvious... ESPECIALLY bc as we are very well aware that having latin american heritage comes with a lot of assumptions that are just not true. im just so glad that i already have a strong foundation of family and friends that i dont need to care at all and this only happens at like friends' bday get togethers or something similar. on the flip side i COMPLETELY agree that there is also so much pressure for people to have a partner and married by a certain age and ive experienced both in different ways. ive been with my high school sweetheart for over a decade and ill admit idk what to say to some single ppl when they say omg ill never find anybody bc i know they are beautiful people on their own but i also know they do want to have a partner. so im not going to sit here and be like oh its ok to be single when its not what they want but also i feel like its a bit condescending. lolll and i know the dating pool as an adult is abysmal and ive been incredibly lucky. AT THE SAME DAMN TIME we are not married yet. marriage has never been a priority for either one of us. we're not against it but it was never urgent, never a rush, we just genuinely enjoyed being together and now living together.... APPARENTLY going against society and blowing away peoples minds bc ppl have strong feelings about our situation and we're both here like why do you care. ppl ASSUME that as the woman im here like begging for a ring and that he made me wait forever when that wasnt the case at all. and people cannot fathom being happy for a couple just for existing but the relationship is only valid once there is a legal document. so when we did get engaged it was more of a sigh of relief for everybody else as opposed to an actual celebration of us so yes TLDR ppl and their judgmental selves can go away. lmao so thank you again for making another important video to spread the radical idea that we can live the lives we want!

[@Kaz.2719]

Number 5 is so true. I’ve lived in Chicago for four years, and while I enjoy the city, it’s definitely not the magical city everyone considers. My rent is expensive, I don’t get to own a car because of how expensive parking is, food is pricey and people are generally less friendly compared to a smaller midwestern city (Minneapolis, Indy, Omaha etc). I’m thankful I live here but I know there’s plenty of opportunities out there in smaller communities.

[@parTAYVarieTAY]

I was born and raised just outside Chicago. I left that area for cost reasons.Im a nurse and even with my salary , I couldn’t afford much. I moved to St. Petersburg, FL ( Tampa area) and my money gores much further.

[@Kaz.2719]

parTAYVarieTAY I’ve heard south Florida is also pretty expensive. Do you find that area much more affordable?

[@Eve.Daniels]

#7 felt like a validation for my entire existance... EVERY time I meet someone or chart with an old friend the question comes up of 'are you seeing anyone?' and when the answer is inevitably no, the follow up or 'why are you single?' can feel INCREDIBLY invalidating, like my life isn't worth living if it isn't attached to another human being?? It's just... frustrating

[@makesaveinvest1401]

My friend!! This was amazing!! I'm a computer science major and love programing and ended up in the beverage and hospitality business!! Thanks for telling us we are ok and I am so much happier today for being forced into dealing with lots of people and socializing instead of staying in front of a PC programing or in a cubicle by myself!! Great video!! 🙌🙏👍

[@asefahafeez8910]

Number 5 is a BIG issue for me. I have always had this idea that living in a big city will some how make me feel like a real adult. It's been a real disappointment to not be able to afford to move to a big city for me.

[@Jasmine-in-my-mind]

When I was a high school student in the 1980s, I had easy access to a school guidance counselor who literally helped to guide me on a path to college. I could literally drop in to the office at any time between classes and talk to the counselor, even in my very large school. I received advice on college programs, funding, and even about what types of grades and test scores were needed to attend the colleges I was interested in. I now work in higher education and from what I've heard, most schools have cut funding for counselors, and they don't have anywhere near the level of staffing needed to provide the kind of help I received to make the transition from high school to college and all the decisions involved in that process. Most young people don't even have much choice as to where they receive their college education. The college that is accessible to one might not have a high-quality program in one's chosen field, or even have that program at all. So it's very likely that one would attend college and not end up in the career that they envisioned at 18. (And all this before we even mention the job market!) P.S. This doesn't mean that you won't end up in a job that you love. It just might not be what you expected when you started out.

[@sophiarodriguez3706]

I think this is one of my favorite TFD videos. I've come to some of these realizations on my own, but it's nice to have a reminder that I'm not alone in my choices and that what's right for some isn't right for everyone. Thanks, TFD. :)

[@jellygurl27]

Chelsea, I wish you can see my reaction as you go through each point. I am like Yes! Yes! Like you are a church preacher. LOL! You are so right about everything in this video!!! As a 31 year old, I have gone through almost each point you have listed. No explanation need this video is stellar.

[@barshabanerjee7262]

#1 A chemical engineering grad here, now working in data & analytics in a big4 #4 I have said no to big job offers just to be close to my family And I have zero regrets.

[@julianagc1989]

The world is also different from the one you chose your degree

[@Animefreak242]

Vastly

[@Kelseyveg]

Regarding #2, I feel like yes, there are only so many things we can do as an individual to help the planet, but it can also be an excuse to do nothing at all. Sure, you might not have access to great public transit or can't afford a Prius, but I'm sure there are ways to make changes in your life such as eating as many plant based meals as possible or shopping second hand before buying something new for example.

[@kiterafrey]

And many people do those things, but still get shamed. I grew up reusing things like margarine tubs as Tupperware & only shopping second hand. But, people still shamed me for not having the money to buy organic, not having the ability to bike everywhere because of how far from the city I lived, or how my mom “wasted” plastic because she was diabetic and had to take insulin and the products for needles and kits are single use. People are shit, and the vast majority, especially online nowadays, just want to pick on people for not being “perfect.” People who live in food deserts don’t have access to much unpacked food People who are low income can’t always afford things that are better for the planet And #fact people online throw a fit about them. Chelsea is addressing those people being shamed who are doing their best & telling those doing the shaming to knock it the fuck off. She even said we should do our best. It is just that everyone’s best is different and we have to accept that.

[@wisemoneywomen]

We need to make the decisions that works for us - we're the ones who have to live with them. Especially when it comes to money The shame comes from feeling like there is something wrong with being who we are instead of who 'some else' since we should be.

[@financiallift6185]

I'm just here to check if spending money on Nutella and eating a jar a day is on here. No it's not? Ok well I'm off to go eat another jar then!

[@emiliabolsas]

As long as it’s with a spoon, you are fine.

[@lilyyoung1002]

🤣

[@paulatamaramohamad5794]

@@emiliabolsas if you eat it with a knife it's considered an extreme sport

[@amandabromell9660]

Nutella with chopsticks = game changer

[@lilyyoung1002]

@@amandabromell9660 what kind of chopsticks are you referring to

[@dorothee2314]

I think one of the most important things you have to learn to be really grown up is to say No to things you don’t really want. Of course, for other people it’s very useful if you feel guilty about rejecting their demands on your time or money and they’ll try to make you feel bad when you do. But in the long run, you‘ll have a better life if you learn to say yes to yourself, even if that sometimes means saying no to others, be it friends, your boss, your family or your partner, and not feel guilty about it.

[@sammierose1150]

Just a little FYI on the fossil fuel contribution topic; it’s actually Factory Farms that are the biggest contributors to the damaging fossil fuels that lead to the depletion of the ozone layer in our atmosphere. So long story short; the best way to reduce your personal carbon footprint is to: A - have as no or as few kids as possible and B - go vegetarian/ vegan. Trust me, it will do 10x times what not driving for week or cutting down on showering would do. 💁🏽‍♀️

[@Kelseyveg]

Yes, exactly! I was hoping someone would include this in the comments! I could never afford a Telsa, but I can definitely afford rice and beans. Eating plant based isn't as difficult as it might seem, there are plenty of resources online and it can suit many different budgets.

[@kiterafrey]

Plus is you do a non-fancy-meat-replacement vegan diet is so much more fiscally sound. Vit B12 pills aren’t that costly. And when I make things in my instant pot like Vegan lentil curries with coconut milk it is so much cheaper than meat. It can also be great for people who have gut issues. Going vegan got rid of 90% of my IBS C symptoms & about 1/4 of the symptoms of PCOS. But, the medical one is unique and I worked with my doctors to draft my diet.

[@amanatee27]

11:53 Thank you for showing the relative income difference based on adjusted cost of living. I never understood how people could say certain services or purchases were worth the money, but if someone in a big city is making twice the money, then that $50 purchase for a small town person is really more like a $25 purchase for the city one.

[@jesuschild07able]

The “dream job” for me was important. Its not about money as much as doing what I love. I don’t plan on having children but doing graphic design and photography is important to me. So important when I lost my good paying job and the freelance field was over saturated that I took a small part time job in photography for a studio. I get paid more in tips(tip your photographers most live on tips) than hourly and I’m making less than before Covid. I had to be doing something though due to my depression. I have not judged people who don’t want to work right now because of Covid or people who work more for money than doing what they love. I’m still looking for better pay but that’s hard to find right now especially in Texas.

[@ArtamStudio]

Dang, tips might be a regional thing or a development of the last 15-20 years, I've gotten a tip for a shoot exactly ONCE. Rarely if someone's buying prints they'll round up their check but again very few and far between. Good going, Jessica, keep it up!

[@yamidoggy]

The "70% of greenhouse gases come from 100 companies" stat is misleading because the end consumers are the ones who decide to purchase the products those companies make - fossil fuels, plastics, meat, etc.. We help a lot by being more conscious consumers.

[@Kelseyveg]

@liz t While I wholeheartedly agree the onus shouldn't solely be on the consumer and legislation does need to play a significant role in creating a more sustainable and ethical world, you can get in a slippery slope of 'well, why bother, my $$ don't matter anyways.' And without touching on social media and influencers, I know my personal friends and family have a huge impact on the things I buy and I know vice versa. Being a part of a ripple effect on choosing to purchase certain companies and boycotting others is what motivates me to give a damn where my $$ goes.

[@Kelseyveg]

liz t yeah having a solid circle of friends and family filled with trust is definitely something I’m working on not having.

[@Kelseyveg]

liz t No one said anything about control, it’s about influence.

[@AllTheArtsy]

I definitely am coming to terms with that point about prioritizing personal life versus a dream job. I'm one of those unfortunate people who in childhood were considered very intelligent and likely to go very far, and yet always under-performed due to 'lack of ambition.' I've been in the same job for 5 years and I'm not making as much as I know I can be, if I only went after more high paying and high demand jobs. But I'm fine with that. I like the work culture at my job. My manager is actually someone I feel comfortable coming to and confiding in. And I have so much free time. My job never expects me to answer emails outside of work hours. I'm almost never told to render overtime, in fact we are actively discouraged to do that, and high encouraged to use up all paid vacation leaves. I'm sleeping 8 hours per day, I can pursue my own hobbies, and I think I'm very okay with that. It's just that sometimes I clash my life that I'm actually happy now, with the life I think I could have/should have had if I went after a master's degree and applied to jobs overseas (my degree is in art history, my work is not even 3% related to it) like a lot of my university friends/classmates did (and most of them who did worse in university than I did, at least academically). I look at my other peers (I originally majored in political science) and a lot of them became lawyers or work in international relations/government, and they have such 'busy' lives, while I'm here just casually living? Like, I work. I make money (less than them, but whatever). But I have so much free time. And even saying that, I know that's the dream. People work themselves to the bone, to get to the point where they have more free time. And I'm there (albeit minus the huge nest egg), and sometimes I complain. But it's quite hard to get away from the scripts we've been fed about being busy adults living fast-paced lifestyles.

[@alzbetabaldovska360]

It's so awesome to find out that there's a whole community of financially aware folks and it shouldn't be considered being cheap 💜 love you tfd fans!

[@thefinancialbuddy]

Somehow I am just so in love with TFD. It’s not easy to find people in the modern world who are so sympathetic towards unconventional life choices, which many people and I feel uncomfortable and even ashamed to talk about. I am 22 and just graduated from college. I know what I want for future, but I am shy and embarrassed to attend social events because I hate it when people keep talking about careers and your job title is the representation of who you are and your value. One time I was so so stressed at a party. After that, I know I have social anxiety disorder. And now I only feel comfortable around people who never ask too much about my career.

[@marleee.2174]

Wow the first one is super accurate for me. I went to school for middle level education and when I got out, I still had my job working as a cashier at a grocery store. I felt really embarrassed when I told people I had a bad experience and didn’t want to teach anymore. I felt even worse telling people that I went back to my old high school job and didn’t get a big fancy salary after I graduated. Now I’m work at a bank and I really love it but it is still an interesting conversation telling people I never studied anything related banking

[@Talkinglife]

There are many varying reasons why a person could have feelings of guilt. And these feelings could be due to an event, situation or person. Some people, for example, have “survivor guilt.” This is when a person who survived an event feels guilty about his/her survival when others did not. For example, let’s say you were in a road accident where friends or family did not survive, but you survived. So you start to feel guilty that you survived, but the others you were with did not.

[@thereellarissa]

Chelsea: Do we want to be near the beach, near the mountains, near the woods? Me, in Vancouver, Canada: "Why not all three?"

[@rochellesmith8837]

Amen to this. I live in a suburb of southern Denver. No, it's not the trendy downtown area many young people crave. But I found great friends, a lovely place to live, and we drive 30 minutes into downtown if we really want to go out.

[@joymae]

My parents will still always find a reason to shame me, but that's just having Asian parents.

[@ajcab819]

Ain’t that the truth

[@thiagogregory1]

My mother is Brazilian and I can relate.

[@RocRizzo]

Nope, not just Asian parents. My Italian parents were the same way.

[@thiagogregory1]

Rocco Rizzo Yup. This girl thinks she’s unique

[@popcornlover722]

@@thiagogregory1 I think this goes for many parents of various backgrounds. My latino family does this as well unfortunately.

[@realSimoneCherie]

I didn’t jump to watch this one because well, I don’t feel much shame about anything. It’s really a testament to the company that even when I feel like I don’t “need” a TFD topic I get a LOT of value of it. I really appreciate the substance, there’s a lot of “fluff” out there.

[@veesvoyages]

Amen to all of this!! I needed to hear this today!

[@clairewillow6475]

Beer pong really is nasty 🤭 those days are behind me 🤣🤣

[@simplymaci]

Loving all of these videos lately 👏🏼

[@Marisolkeys]

I will never feel guilty spending hours on KZbin alternating between watching this channel and all my other subscriptions!

[@kentara_excelsior]

Omg, you are a gift from God, I am not working with my undergraduate or graduate degree and the guilt and shame has been staggering!! These stats are so encouraging!

[@Selena133193]

Was anyone else super distracted by whatever was going on with the plant in the background?

[@paulatamaramohamad5794]

No, why, what happened to the plant?

[@Selena133193]

@@paulatamaramohamad5794 I think the green screen was tripping out

[@paulatamaramohamad5794]

@@Selena133193 I thought it wasn't a green screen, lol

[@Selena133193]

@@paulatamaramohamad5794 me too

[@belindarosegold]

Congrats on the Aspiration bump 💕

[@marklol]

Always love watching these videos Chelsea!

[@waywardwillard]

Just tangentially related to No. 5, we need to talk about the judgment associated with moving to the liberal and expensive “enclaves” of cities. The wealth gap is very extreme, and the politics are far from perfect, but I’ve never felt happier than being in a city that actually has other minorities. I grew up in a town that was almost all white, and it is not someplace I would ever want to move again. Of course, demographics don’t change without some people moving places that make them feel uncomfortable at first, but there are reasons why people flock to cities, whether that perception is fair or not. I just think it’s important to consider that while other places in the country are more financially easy to live in, they are not always the easiest for non-white people to live in socially, at least at first. I wish I had a solution to this (why should only white people live in suburbs with backyards, after all?), but I thought it was worth bringing up.

[@leelsbless]

I majored in Computer Science and now I’m doing consulting! (Technically code still code in my current job but I’m not doing that rn) I’m glad that was highlighted in this video. Definitely felt bad about it for a while, but totally over it now

[@ryanfulton1751]

Great video!

[@yourer]

Love it when people look down on other people's "jobs" while not having one themselves.

[@emilynelson3504]

This was an encouraging video, thanks.

[@janehoe.]

I had to pick my major when I was 17 to apply to school so I WAS SO DUMB I should've gone for math but eh nutrition's cool

[@MartyD]

No shame when you got money in the bank!

[@littlegeo1]

Yaaasss Chelsea! ALL of these. Fuck shame. We're here to progress, not to live in past decisions that only hold us back. ♥️

[@austinsmith105]

I really needed this!

[@saniyarizwan3130]

I really want to start investing but I dont have access to the US Stock markets... could you make a video about how to do investing in different countries. I live in the UAE and the stock market isnt as populated. Investing differs from country to country, I tried in india as well but its usually just through the banks.

[@lachi001]

I can relate to almost everything you said. Im single. I invested in my 30s which quite late. And my job is not my dream job but I still love it. ☺️

[@KittySnicker]

I can’t relate to any of these sources of guilt except maybe the eco friendly one. I know who my close friends are and always have and I go to social engagements with only them most of the time.

[@slashblue9190]

I like your advice, but the "dream job" advice leaves out a whole other expectrum out. I work in a warehouse, and about 1/4 of those jobs are weekend mandatory, meaning they must choose a shift of working either Saturday or Sunday. During the holidays they make the whole weekend mandatory and one week day off. If you work hard, you have the choice to change to a department not with a better job, but with a shift from Monday to Saturday. And even then it doesn't pay for decent living conditions, many have to work 2 jobs in order to do so. I was talking with another co-worker that for us a "drea job" doesn't mean to even have a cubicle, but just to have a decent life where we don't have to worry about making ends meet and have the ability to actually be able to enjoy our time off in a meaningful way with our meaningful relationships.

[@annieinwonderland]

that volentering also may gain new skills as well..

[@yokier2628]

Keep'in it real! Always. Great vid (as usual)

[@gabrielacarolina_]

I went to school for biochemistry and chemistry. I am currently trying to transition to project management... Should have gone to business school haha

[@Artofcarissa]

‘Having a career in a different field you went to college for’ yeah trying to saying that’s a good thing to people who can only get a job in retail 🙃

[@ashleaphenicie8787]

Come move to the Midwest! You can buy a nice house for under $100k. It would honestly cost less to live in Michigan and fly out to NYC or DC every weekend than to live in those cities full time. 😬

[@Melissa-kq4ss]

Refreshing!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@AngelOfTheDarkSword]

Thanjs

[@julecaesara482]

it's kinda hard for me to even picture what I 'should' have saved until I'm 30. I'm in a very different, meaning european situation, and going to law school. If I were to start working next to my studies, I would likely finish university later in life. I don't know what the better option would be. Graduating earlier (and that will be... when I'm freaking 27 or 28) or not.

[@hobbeskillah]

There are a lot of careers out there that don’t require a college degree. Just stay positive and keep looking.

[@mikethemechanic7395]

Number 6 I don’t feel guilty about. When I first started my career in my early 20s I would see guys save up almost every penny for retirement. They would not go on vacations or enjoy life. These people would retire at 65-67. One year later they would die. Or get cancer and have to burn through their savings. My coworker had 1M saved up and he built a dream home his last year with his job. He had a heart attack in the driveway the last month the house was being finished. My wife and I will have minimal retirement. But our house will be paid off.

[@heathermoon601]

Thank you!

[@Starfang_Wanderer]

I think the point about cities is a little out of touch. Often times living in a city is necessary based on your income because of the resources and social services that are accessible aren't readily available outside of the city. Things like government offices, cheaper grocery stores, grocery stores that are stocked with fresh produce, childcare, and the list goes on. I understand she's speaking from a "you want to live in this city because a preconsieved ideal of how your life looks" mentality, I just thought it was a relevant point as well if you've grown up in a city it's hard to realize what you may have a harder time accessing if you leave.

[@NandiniGupta1]

Does Aspiration operate in Canada? Sounds awesome but usually these things only apply to Americans :(

[@tyshonwhite4743]

OMG, PREACH!!!!!

[@DrMannuVerma]

You DESERVE more subscribers.

[@MAHALDEE88]

Love this.

[@jades3654]

At freshman orientation they told us that the majority of people don't even have careers in the field they majored in. I should have ran after hearing that.

[@CollectionLearning.]

this is only a list of 7 not 8! nice vid though lol

[@saschamayer4050]

1:40 Inflation? PS: Maybe they should correct the video title...

[@ALu-nq8rf]

The 8th one was miscounting from time to time.

[@grrrgrl101]

@@ALu-nq8rf lol I was just gonna say that! Lol

[@teenindustry]

Love the environmental stuff. I try to buy local from small business but I earn really good money. I am also fat so historically did not find it easy to shop for ethically made clothes

[@carmcam1]

first one , i feel called out.

[@punkkimiko]

LOL i have an IT degree working as an accountant. It pays good so i'm fine with it XD

[@RainMaker0602]

6:18. I just hit 30 last June and looking back; yes, beer pong was kinda gross. XD

[@sherunswithscissors]

Happy Dance - I can smoke again!

[@monk9008]

Hi

[@sofinityice5104]

Hi

[@geneolo]

🤔

[@nydiarevuelta562]

Looking at the thumbnail I thought ones of these would be when you accidentally lose cash

[@alejandrogangotena9033]

Individual choice can have a huge impact on enviroment: reducing to half or a quarter animal consumption and animal products would make insane difference in deforestation use of water use of food, etc. AND for most people it would be *far cheaper* thus, for most people this is not a choice of privelege, but even economical convenience. Not mentioning this was an oversight.

[@gwynneio]

Okay that 70% of emissions come from 100 companies thing is pretty misleading. For example, some of the companies listed are exon and chevron. They are extracting the gas, but we are burning it, myself included. Are they responsible for having lobbied against public transit, alternative energy etc? Of c! But we cant wash our hands of it either. I otherwise agree, we need systemic change- just the way that stat is touted is a pet peeve.

[@annasteininger1268]

I agree partially with #2, what bothers me a bit is that even though there is so much evidence and research we're still not at the point where the first thing that comes to mind is reducing meat and dairy consumption. It is by far the most impactful thing everyone does with the least effort, most of us eat 3 times a day, if you choose walking instead of driving a car you're not really doing anything net positive, if you're eating a hamburger to replace the calories you burned in walking. Sadly humans are not at all an efficient engine at all🤷‍♀️

[@pcckeeneye]

Hi Chelsea. I wonder about your use of "dumb" when applied to 18-year-olds. Is it that they are dumb, or that they are making their way in the world and maybe don't have enough experience to make excellent choices? To me, the use of "dumb" is pretty judgement when applied to people who haven't even lived through two decades yet.

[@Missy2858]

Is the sound off for anyone else?

[@bourgeoisbarbie7734]

Green-washed economics. Great!

[@jayguti9658]

Firearm companies aren't bad.

[@workhot]

I’m your friend/amici

[@matesafranka6110]

#3 in a nutshell: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qpyVcot4aNyZb9U

[@kristinapaxton9686]

Go Live in Lisbon instead. :)