1. Guilt tripping 0:46 2. Taking advantage of your insecurities 1:17 3. Always changing the criteria 1:56 4. Twisting reality 2:29 5. Diminishing your issues 3:06 6. Gas-lighting 3:34 7. Overly complimenting 4:05
@btcxwxy3 жыл бұрын
Thank youuuu
@yukeroinactivated69843 жыл бұрын
SQUIRRELS DYDUDYDH
@Momo-tk7oc3 жыл бұрын
TiMe TrAvELeR
@someone-te6zw3 жыл бұрын
thx
@Psych2go3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for putting this together!
@EddyConejo3 жыл бұрын
I'm watching this just to make sure I'm not a manipulator unintentionally.
@laurensilverspikes43463 жыл бұрын
Awww what a wholesome and awesome comment You sound like a great 👍 person
@lonetabii97353 жыл бұрын
Same i too watched it with that intention 😂
@goglegoo43203 жыл бұрын
I’m just here to see if my girlfriend is manipulating me
@goglegoo43203 жыл бұрын
Update, yes she is
@EddyConejo3 жыл бұрын
@@goglegoo4320 Damn, I'm sorry!
@denissea.71903 жыл бұрын
Doubting yourself and feeling guilty about your emotions is the worst kind of feeling.
@clarax3633 жыл бұрын
Oh shit u even said it.
@IshaSharma113 жыл бұрын
True
@beenagupta35063 жыл бұрын
I have been there
@Meanness_Scar3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's even that you doubt everything you feel and you think you are the bad one. You say you were hurt and hear that you're lying, manipulating, your mindset is wrong. So even when you feel hurt you just don't say it to not hurt those who had hurt you...
@beenagupta35063 жыл бұрын
@Meaness That is so true my friend....I think when you start feeling guilty about yourself then the person in front of you also thinks that You have done something wrong and suddenly You become a bad person in everyone's eyes
@ICEcoldJT3 жыл бұрын
“Be disciplined about what you respond and react to. Not everyone or everything deserves your time, energy, and attention. Stay in your light.”
@yusra83763 жыл бұрын
i always see u under channels that speak truth and you always comment the right things ahah. i hope youre well
@jmvs77773 жыл бұрын
Great coment, Namaste
@zahavasantos9023 жыл бұрын
Um I needed this
@yaraserrano44153 жыл бұрын
awakened soul. 💯
@m.teunissen32703 жыл бұрын
🙌🏽👌 I’ll remember this! Thanks 🙏
@dxrk27373 жыл бұрын
I'm so ashamed of being a manipulator a few years ago. I feel guilty every day for what I'd done. I stopped such behaviours when i was manipulated by someone else. That feeling hurts; when you have high hopes in something and turns out you've been lied to
@gektoast49683 жыл бұрын
Good job
@aerozin3 жыл бұрын
same here and i still worry that im being manipulative and just don't know it yet. sometimes i don't realize the things im doing until after it's happened
@mostafawatchs44833 жыл бұрын
apologize to who u manipulated
@anamikaojha26453 жыл бұрын
Good thing is you realised what you had done, really impressing
@APleasantDaydream3 жыл бұрын
@Agent Of Chaos 666 Please consider talking to a therapist
@matthewyang78933 жыл бұрын
This is why a small friend circle is often best because you can make sure you are in meaningful relationships with your friends
@arvinjayumayam88113 жыл бұрын
Quality over quantity. ÚwÙ
@matthewyang78933 жыл бұрын
@@arvinjayumayam8811 Yep
@lemonpeachsy94583 жыл бұрын
That’s not my case I made a small friend circle and somebody stole it and then I made another one and it didn’t work and then I had to do it again and it’s currently ok just because it’s small does not mean they are that meaningful but that’s just my case :)
@lonetabii97353 жыл бұрын
Definitely i’ve got two friends and they are the genuine ones ever. M quite happy and satisfied of our trio ✌️💜
@lonetabii97353 жыл бұрын
Definitely i’ve got two friends and they are the genuine ones ever. M quite happy and satisfied of our trio ✌️💜
@shaireensharma66033 жыл бұрын
The only way to protect yourself is "BE VERY CLEAR OF WHAT YOU WANT" and "DON'T TRY TO PROVE OR PLEASE ANYONE"...Trust me this helps
@Fareysia3 жыл бұрын
I just got out of a manipulative relationship, and even though it's been five months now, he managed to plant the doubts so deep in my mind that I still sometimes think "What if he was right after all, and nobody will ever love me the way I am, and he was just trying to help me?". No, don't let him take over again. He was manipulating you and those thoughts is just what he needed to control you. You are NOT crazy, and not over-sensitive, you're fine the way you are. You are strong. You are loved.
@oscarcastillo74482 жыл бұрын
Ive struggled with the idea that being over-sensitive is fine. Primarily because of this reason. If we as humans don't enjoy pain, wouldn't are natural instinct be to protect ourselves from it? And if my statement is valid about the human condition of dealing with pain. Aren't sensitive people more manipulative then those that are not? Honest question coming from someone who was hypersensitive, but now I think first before going off of my emotions.
@ummulsadiq5802 жыл бұрын
I’m literally in the same position. I hope we find strength ❤️
@baybeetinax3 Жыл бұрын
going thru this :( it’s so hard not to feel doubtful of yourself esp as you hit 30 you feel you’re the one that will never meet anyone who can accept you for you
@jackieec3 ай бұрын
Going through this rn. 😢
@saino-d3 жыл бұрын
Damn...been depressed for years, fell in love and they loved me back. Became happy, What a beautiful time to find out you're being manipulated
@rosariog54123 жыл бұрын
Same here
@meediamongergamemodder23023 жыл бұрын
narcs r like sucubi they eppear as the appitmy of beauty only to reveal their hidious nature when theyv drained u dry😖
@MistyBlahbull3 жыл бұрын
@@meediamongergamemodder2302 i had a stroke reading that
@meediamongergamemodder23023 жыл бұрын
@@MistyBlahbull have ya ever looked up the word stroke learnt its true meaning i sujest u do b4 u trivialize twrrible afliction its basically a heart attack of the brain that can kill half the berves n ur body n leve u barely functioning n theiretically it could even kill u if savere enough sense it shakes u like a ragdoll when u do that nazistroke crap u disrespect thoes who lost theor livelyhoods n maby even their lives to strokes so think of that nxt time u wanna mock serious aflictions
@caitlin00053 жыл бұрын
@@meediamongergamemodder2302 yes because the average teen searches up what a stroke is in their free time
@Jormbis3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been guilty of being manipulative without knowing. Because I’ve seen worse people, so I try to never be like those people, but I forgot that there’s a spectrum, and I end up still being subconsciously manipulative because “at least I’m not this.” And it’s the shittiest thing.
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@oluwatoyin63853 жыл бұрын
At least ur self aware and changing now. Good on u😊
@igurospit3 жыл бұрын
At least you know, that means you can change now :3
@blam93603 жыл бұрын
Being aware of it is the first step to changing. I've also been guilty and now I can take steps to improve myself.
@habibahmift3 жыл бұрын
Some people don't realize when they manipulate someone because they don't know yet. I'm so glad you acknowledge your mistakes and want to change for better.
@sinistor37273 жыл бұрын
The first one guilt tripping... Is the one I've always face. No matter how right I am... They still push me into wrong. I solve every problem by "screw it i gave up" because the more I try to prove I'm right the more trouble I will get later.
@nicoleonfeels3 жыл бұрын
People who display these traits do not deserve space in your life. Be protective of your energies, friends ✨
@jackiebennett37623 жыл бұрын
It took me 3 years to realize I was being manipulated. Better late than never!
@realhealing78023 жыл бұрын
Yes! Even if they are family. I am related to a bunch of toxic people!!!
@jamkeofficial3 жыл бұрын
You might be hard pressed finding someone who doesn't do any of these, I think what's better is someone who is willing to recognize their manipulative behavior and from there do their best to change it.
@teraspeXt3 жыл бұрын
Remember that some people don't even know they're being manipulative and don't want to be
@StrawberryNinjaNibbles3 жыл бұрын
But what happens when they’re your parents?
@augusthavince89093 жыл бұрын
Maybe the word 'narcissist' is getting overused or overbearing these days, but that these are the tactics of narcs.
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@sammaloney17463 жыл бұрын
You have answered your own question!
@augusthavince89093 жыл бұрын
@Benny Pickerel , thanks for the clarification. I used the word 'tactics' to include people that may be having a narcissistic moment (as we sometimes do). Also, narcissists are made. I'm of the school that if a person gets any kind of dopamine for a behavior, they will have a tendency to repeat what feels good and keep using what ever tactics (I'm not sure what neurotransmitter that full-fledged narcs get when they "win" or gain something from their behavior, but I imagine dopamine is involved). I think that American culture is supporting such behavior, glorifying players and hustlers (I don't mean people that have "hustle" or motivation). So, am I wrong to think that some narcissistic behavior fall on a spectrum, with NPD at the far end?
@rajanikm4583 жыл бұрын
I was also thinking about narcissists
@DennisMC19743 жыл бұрын
Yes hundred percent that's what I was just saying above vulnerable narcissists playing two different roles the perpetrator and the victim
@Ptitnain23 жыл бұрын
If you are here and you recognize some of those behaviors to be yours, you are not a narcissistic person, because if you were, you wouldn't even question yourself or you would deflect it, or even victimize yourself. We all have flaws and it's okay. If you are working on them, it's even better because you will end up having better relationships and you'll simply improve your own life. You got this.
@potato16743 жыл бұрын
Psych2go: ,,Have you experienced any of these signs" Me: _chuckles_ ,,All of 'em. My mom"
@rinaq35413 жыл бұрын
SaAaAmMmMeeee, my grandma!
@stealyourheartz3 жыл бұрын
ME TOO SDHFKJSDG,
@dhruviraj37613 жыл бұрын
OMGG SAMEEEEE
@NatalieTheRican3 жыл бұрын
I feel your pain. My mom does this to me too
@iamnotreal07173 жыл бұрын
ALLOFMYFAMILY
@drinasun69843 жыл бұрын
My schoolmates used all those methods to abuse my good nature. I had no idea what was happening at the time. I did all those favors for them, but eventually they became too much, and I started resenting their maltreatment of me.
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@noname4203 жыл бұрын
Same here too. Are you doing alright now?
@drinasun69843 жыл бұрын
@@noname420 Yes, I'm doing better now.
@noname4203 жыл бұрын
@@drinasun6984 Im happy and proud of you! Have some online hug. Take care of yourself!
@drinasun69843 жыл бұрын
@@noname420 Thanks! You too!
@LordArkanaNavy3 жыл бұрын
This channel is so emotionally therapeutic mentally too, but it’s rare to find one emotionally assured
Is it just me or do Psych2Go videos sound calming like asmr
@xaviergonzalez443 жыл бұрын
Yeah except way better, Asmr can be weird to say the least
@gabriele.11052 жыл бұрын
Dude, this video should totally have more views. People focus on identifying narcissism a lot, which would kind of be the end of the line already, but this stuff right here is much more subtle and can cause great damage to one's mental health. Keep rocking, Psych2Go!
@jamesgilbert24323 жыл бұрын
Me and my ex were in a very toxic relationship and did these things to each other without even knowing it :( communication is so helpful especially if the manipulation isn’t intended
@markuchiha77372 жыл бұрын
True
@an-xiety36063 жыл бұрын
Diminishing your issues 3:06 ... really hit hard, I have a depressed friend who always manipulates me that way. I'm sick and tired of it. :'(
@destinyjames61173 жыл бұрын
Me seeing if I'm accidentally emotionally manipulating someone.. I'm sorry... I will change my ways. Thanks Psych2Go
@buttercupkat3 жыл бұрын
Good on you for changing once you realized what you were doing is wrong! Good luck in life.
@Goose_frog3 жыл бұрын
I compliment all of my friends all the time... am I a manipulator? I only wanted to make them feel awesome! I dont want to make them feel sad and/or smothered...
@lukasreissig45003 жыл бұрын
I am the same. I often compliment friends even on small things. My intention is to make them feel good. I don't want to manipulate them.
@taiyoko3 жыл бұрын
well that's kinda saying they cant feel awesome without you complimenting them.. just make sure you're complimenting them genuinely and not because you want to please them. it's better from the heart
@lukasreissig45003 жыл бұрын
Well, I would say that I do compliment others genuinely. But sometimes these are small and maybe "unnecessary" things
@vildeeckhart77133 жыл бұрын
@@lukasreissig4500 same, I never thought about this as manipulation tho ?? : 0 I feel like I need a better explication on how over-complimenting can be manipulative cuz I don’t fully get it
@buttercupkat3 жыл бұрын
Complimenting people isn't manipulating them. If you were doing it because you didn't mean it and wanted to build them up to break them down, then you'd be a manipulator. It's about intent and I don't think you are.
@weemouse30563 жыл бұрын
Everyone can be an emotional manipulator, you’ve probably done it unintentionally and so have I. But the people who think that it’s a ‘flex’ or something to be ‘proud’ of, big difference
@beyondallreason-du4pq5 ай бұрын
Nah some people are way worse...yes we all manipulate but some people are really outthere trying to hurt people constantly
@LibraP933 жыл бұрын
I dealt with an emotionally manipulative guy before and thank God I cut it off. He did everything that they listed. Watch out for the red flags 🚩 and protect your peace.
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@itstoorainy3 жыл бұрын
he changes the criteria conveniently, catered to his benefit, and blames it on ADHD. he guilt trips. i think the overly complimenting is what got me though. i had a feeling his compliments were hollow and generalized. like anyone would like to get the compliments he gives, but they're not really for /me/ specifically, just directed at me. thank you for shedding some light on this, i needed it.
@edenhoneyy3 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for posting this stuff. Not only does it help me see the relationships I engage in that I have been manipulated, but also how I too have been manipulative. I struggle to see things from the perspective of others sometimes and this helps remind me that our experiences are all inherently unique.
@rawnoodle3 жыл бұрын
It’s always a very serious topic then you have these cute animations and character’s
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@HUYI18 ай бұрын
And no matter what you do to help them, it's not enough, even if you go out of your way to assist or help them when you can, boyfriend, friends, it doesn't matter, if they lay out something that you should attend straight away and you tell them you have plans, they go through the ranks to make sure what you are doing is hurting them and YOU are wrong for trying to live your life or help yourself, I'm so tired of it, glad this video covers the basis of what I have to deal with, looking after and focusing on myself is what I need to do, there has to be limits regarding this and my compassion
@aomccaskill813 жыл бұрын
My wife often diminishes my issues whenever I try to tell her about something in our relationship that upsets me or when we argue. She (or other people) have it worse, so I shouldn't complain. It's really frustrating.
@shreekantprasad82783 жыл бұрын
You are the one who understands what I am going through....You are like a friend who listens and understands me and teaches me for my well-being.
@casacubs93743 жыл бұрын
*when you realize your best friend may be emotionally manipulating you and has the past five years*
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@dreamthedream89293 жыл бұрын
And how about you?
@abcd188023 жыл бұрын
if you care a lot about them enough to save the friendship, you could probably bring it up, just don't accuse bc according to psychology that will make people extra defensive understandably. say something like "hey __, when you do these things ( example: "compliment me a lot"), i'm not sure if you mean to, but it makes me feel ___"
@crimsonmatter3 жыл бұрын
@@abcd18802 idk mily bff (whom I might cut off) said to me once that no one deserves a friend like me cause I didn't help her with something and didn't even say sorry afterwards tho it's okayish now and this was 2 years back and when I ask her for something she says no or like is rude and acts as if they are right all the time.
@abcd188023 жыл бұрын
@@crimsonmatter yeah, cut her off, but you can also tell her and stand up for yourself, I know that’s not always easy. Whatever you do, if you start to accuse her in the face, anyone would probably get mad. Sometimes you also just have to distance yourself and cut off, I was under the impression if you’re commenting about her and the friendship, you wanted advice to save it
@shambhavisharma25923 жыл бұрын
I DO overly compliment people but I think it's just me, I like seeing people's face light up and the subtle blush they get when I sincerely compliment them. I've never said a compliment I did not mean, I hope I'm not turning into a manupilator 😟
@renee.ssance3 жыл бұрын
Same. I mean I see the good and bad in people, but most times people don't see what they're really worth in the eyes of others. We don't praise people for our own personal gain, we do it for theirs. Nowadays it feels as if we can't even do anything without it being called "manipulation" when all we do is behave like what normal humans do :/ Then again the video says "sugar coating" and "excessive" complimenting, which I think you wouldn't do since you said you're sincerely complimenting them, which is more like telling the other party facts about themselves haha.
@crispymattu92863 жыл бұрын
Same.
@sammaloney17463 жыл бұрын
@@thecommenter2711 Agreed. It's all about intent. I wish people would just tell me their true intentions from me straight up! Like if a woman just said I want sex from you I'd be far more likely to give it than if she tried to love bomb me to get me to do it... Mind you I'd still be wary in the first situation as they may want something else really! One has to be careful out there!
@shambhavisharma25923 жыл бұрын
@@renee.ssance That makes me feel so much better, you're kind 😊✨
@shambhavisharma25923 жыл бұрын
@@thecommenter2711 that's a very nice way to put it, thank you, I like your way of thought 😊✨
@otherside_ofqila3 жыл бұрын
"Smooth as Butter" ME : *chokes while drink water.. "W-Wait... WHAT? lololololoolllololol"
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@SamiHime3 жыл бұрын
like a criminal undercover haha
@winterflower35693 жыл бұрын
Hi there! ARMY💜
@raiany1953 жыл бұрын
thoughts 😏
@otherside_ofqila3 жыл бұрын
@@winterflower3569 hey👋🤣
@v1p3rlotus3 жыл бұрын
the -past friend- girl who i thought was an actual friend was definitely an emotional manipulator who was also narcissistic. *explains how my self-esteem was absolutely shattered.*
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@significantlysignificant88423 жыл бұрын
how did they shatter your self-esteem
@AlexanderLynn125483 жыл бұрын
I've had to deal with one on my own and I've left them for once and now I've felt a little better. All I'm saying is if you come across one then just leave them and block them
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@multi_verse86363 жыл бұрын
Why would u wanna control someone’s emotions that’s sad really
@AlexanderLynn125483 жыл бұрын
@@multi_verse8636 That's a great question
@rosenianieves46593 жыл бұрын
after watching this, I feel like I don't have friends anymore.
@NatalieTheRican3 жыл бұрын
This is how my mom has treated me my whole life. I feel bad for feeling this way but I despise her for how she treats me
@Kosmicc.K Жыл бұрын
My mother guilt trips and diminishes me, even though it doesn't seem intentional, I think it has affected the way I treat other people. I have realized my mistakes and am working to not be like her.
@AkiraDraws1243 жыл бұрын
Can you next video be about recovering from being manipulated? I’ve been manipulated before so now I feel like everyone around ether secretly hates me or is trying to use me. It’s getting hard and I’ve starting to be distrustful of my own family members. The only thing that will get me to tell someone is if I have broken down completely. Which in turn gets me yelled at by my friends. Which makes me trust them less a cycle continues
@Bottleofwater-n5y3 жыл бұрын
Thank you psyc2go, these videos help so many people every day
@vanishingstar7773 жыл бұрын
That's why I never talk my stories to anyone even to my friends
@averageastolfoenjoyer4733 жыл бұрын
I'm guilty of most of these, I am working with a therapist to change these bad habits. I will apologize to my loved ones for my manipulative ways and change them. Thanks Psych2Go, I can now rebuild my family bonds better and stronger.
@mady8539 Жыл бұрын
I don’t think you’re as bad as you think you are.
@sp3ctrez2313 жыл бұрын
ahhh i had this one friend who guilt tripped me over the smallest things and ended up making me do whatever she wanted we changed schools so i dont talk to her much but only after that did i realize that she was manipulating me also i love your videos they are really informative and help answer the many questions i have about psychology
@kerridunn42833 жыл бұрын
I feel I have experienced these types of people in my past, possibly present. I like these videos because I like to step back & reflect on how I respond to other people & hope I don’t ever diminish how others feel
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@Gandellion3 жыл бұрын
I’ve noticed that I often consider using these manipulative behaviours to try and make myself feel vulnerable so others will take care of or”love” me, I can usually stop myself but it’s concerning to me that they’re often the first course of action I come up with.
@penelope78233 жыл бұрын
I had a friend like this and I was scared of her. She hated all my friends and if I disagree with her on a small thing she would act so offended and angry until I apologies to her. I realized she was toxic so I cut her off :( Sometimes I wonder if I was wrong and that she actually liked me...?
@user-nu17jmlial3 жыл бұрын
If you think that she was toxic, it is the best that you cut her off. Better be safe than sorry
@ElCalimocho183 жыл бұрын
It's not about whether she liked you, it's about how she made you feel.
@isaak17483 жыл бұрын
If she was hurting you, you're not wrong in cutting her off. Your well-being comes first. If she was hurt by you cutting her off that's not your fault, you come first.
@karyadenemeler12473 жыл бұрын
Yes i had same 8 years. She always dominant to all people. Always manipulate and when you say no to her you always feel quilty and bad. She never care your opinions or feelings. She just control me with fake extreme love words. Same with my ex too. They are so dangerous depressive and weak people. They can never make joke about themselves for example. They always try to show themselves as strong. They dont care.
@crimsonmatter3 жыл бұрын
The last point could answer all your questions
@paulanocu37113 жыл бұрын
Me: -watches video -realizes my parents are emotional manipulators -gets mad
@matter91453 жыл бұрын
One day my ex friend actually came up to me and asked me whether she was gaslighting me. I knew the answer was yes. But I said no because I didn't want to make her angry. I think if I had said yes maybe she would know better than to walk all over me for 5 years
@Chococharlie5933 жыл бұрын
When you accidentally realise your mum has accidentally done all of these frequently by accident
@previouslyakari Жыл бұрын
I'm sensitive but insensitive to others. Sometimes when I feel sad bcs of what my friends say thats probably not really serious, I unintentionally guilt trip them.
@ip11363 жыл бұрын
Number 4. My roommate constantly does that. Nothing is EVER his fault. He always acts and says that you "promised" him something, when the maximum you said was "I might do that". Also, he tries to guilt trip you all the time. He wants pity and is complaining and whining all the time. But then won't accept any solution. He always has to be the victim.
@astrama71023 жыл бұрын
"Smooth like butter" I literally choked on my air XDD It's an early reference to Butter MV, it's out since three days only ! Good job ahah
@__Vasachi__3 жыл бұрын
Thank your for telling us Psych2Go!
@lemon-limecandle22243 жыл бұрын
I’ll be honest and say I used to be a manipulator- Once I realized the damage I was causing, I knew I needed to change for the better, because I didn’t want to hurt the people I love anymore. A lot of the time I want to go back in time and try again, but it’s impossible for me to do that. I can’t undo the damage I caused and I can’t change the way people feel about me based on their experiences with me. But, even though I used to be rather horrible, I still work to becoming a better person. While the things I’ve done in my past were bad, they don’t define who I’m trying to be now. That goes for anyone else out there who may be in a similar boat as me- if you used to be manipulative, once you realize your mistakes and try to become a better person, remember your past won’t define you. It’s better to admit to your actions and genuinely apologize to the people you’ve hurt, and don’t blame them if they’d like to cut ties with you. There’s still a future for you and it’s possible you’ll be in healthy relationships in that future. If you read all of this, I hope I helped you out in some way. Just remember you’re not alone, and my heart goes out to anyone who has been manipulated before, and my heart goes out to former manipulators, like myself, who are trying their best to become a better person. Love y’all.
@KhamTVinc3 жыл бұрын
I dated a girl who did many of these things. Guilt Tripping, diminishing my issues, changing the criteria, and gaslighting were her tools of choice. Guilt tripped me into changing how I interacted socially. Then changed the criteria and included how I behaved privately to accommodate them. When I brought up the issue of how these changes were affecting me she responded with "imagine how I felt before you made the change" immediately followed by gaslighting me. After 3 months I became emotionally numb to everything she did. At some point she didn't even care if I reacted. She would appear to only want to express her negative view points so she could appear like ahe was putting in all the effort. When in reality she'd make demands and I'd process them in a productive way and try to meet half way. Since this wasn't what she wanted she'd get mad. Since we seperated I was able to communicate in a more healthy way. The thing is she has custody of our child and I fear they will learn this alright behavior. My ex had a history of being this way before having a relationship with me. It's been 4.5 years and has had 7 co habitating relationships... all ending in some dramatic way where our child and her have had to leave while the other person was away. Unhealthy in my opinion.
@justlearn97583 жыл бұрын
it is so goog
@marty3456hgn8 ай бұрын
I do some of these things. And I feel so bad. I try my hardest to be a good person but sometimes I fall flat. I think I have become more emotionally manipulative with my family as a survival mechanism cause I didn’t want to get hurt by them as much but that’s not who I want to be and I don’t want that bleeding into my other relationships with other people that actually do treat me well.
@kittywitch21673 жыл бұрын
I overly compliment people so they like me...
@SuperBlessedKing3 жыл бұрын
These types of videos are very reassuring when difficult times are happening. ♥️
@NeroDracolith3 жыл бұрын
I've had experience with #7 so often that I ultimately find it incredibly hard to accept any sort of compliment. While it's partially due to other reasons, because of the constant #7s I've also grown to have trust issues by default :/ I hope that this video helps people recognize these warning signs and can better able to protect themselves against people who shouldn't even have taken your time
@katjamihalic63033 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video! 💛 In my last relationship he would go from telling me how special I am, how great a girlfriend I am and how he’s never felt this way about anyone to telling me that I’m not doing enough, I don’t appreciate him enough and that he’s alone because I don’t care about him (none of which were true) SO OFTEN and I would always cry and blame myself for not trying hard enough or not giving him good enough compliments but now I see that it was all a manipulation tactic all along💔. It really hurts to find out that someone you loved was manipulating you all the time
@igurospit3 жыл бұрын
Y’all…that’s literally my friend- And whenever I call her out she victimize herself
@tatkobob15973 жыл бұрын
Most of my friends oftenly say that I can be easly manipulated and I can't even realize it,being blindfolded by the joy of finding a new ,,friend"
@bitzyvelvet47673 жыл бұрын
Ethereal beauty, smooth like butter Psych2go is an armyyyyyy
@user-tf3ru1ji3s3 жыл бұрын
I love how the people put the time stamps and what it is because it helps me go through it faster since I have a lot of homework.
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@ChocoParfaitFra3 жыл бұрын
When you’re a narcissist and you nail all of these 👁 👄 👁 Seriously, I don’t know if there’s someone who doesn’t think these are bad, but they’re truly bad when they do that to you, especially when in the end you don’t trust yourself and your judgment anymore because they’re so good at making you believe you have something wrong
@user-pc7po4tx8d3 жыл бұрын
i have an example for each point, this is definitely describing my past abuser who lead me to depression, self harming and police, but as my supposed best friend said "they're not horrible, they are sincere it's your fault for letting them do, don't expect me to comfort you" this sucks.
@TaraTHESecretONE3 жыл бұрын
Oh, look, this fits some people in my family. They wonder why I rarely talk anymore, I should see how they react to this video. =_=
@retiredarmy37553 жыл бұрын
Holy Moly, I've used these....in my private life. I was always very confident in my judgement, school work, military & professional life, and average athletic abilities. However, I have many shortcomings physically (heighth, weight, muscle development, and looks) and lacked confidence when it came to the opposite sex. I was a nerd! I did meet and married a wonderful woman (40+ yrs) and have 7 wonderful kids. However, looking back at my life (70yrs), I see where I have used several, if not all of these. Insecurities??? Thank you for making me more "aware" of these things.
@arielm13743 жыл бұрын
Hm, I compliment random strangers all the time but because it feels good when strangers compliment me so I want people to feel that way too and I sometimes start conversations that way as well. I notice how I emotionally manipulate people sometimes by being overly nice. I want people to like me because I feel like enough people hate me already (mostly just myself). I always worry that I'm being manipulative or toxic or abusive because I grew up in an abusive household and I'm afraid of becoming abusive as well...
@halynia86462 жыл бұрын
Your intentions are different. A manipulator do it to lower their guard down and manipulate them afterwards While yours is to be nice to everyone ✨
@geometrydashishere3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for letting me know! Especially diminishing issues
@torisaursky3 жыл бұрын
My ex-boyfriend did most of these things and that is why we are no longer dating 🙃
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@roxiedust63093 жыл бұрын
truthfully
@andrescanario97383 жыл бұрын
He was probably a narcissist
@vanmoonn Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! It's really useful and helps me to do my science research topic in school
@whyger72593 жыл бұрын
Me who compliments my friends all the time: I'm something of a manipulator myself
@yumikothecutie47863 жыл бұрын
i've got manipulated from my girlfriend in the past... it took like 1-2 years before they stopped and we started a REAL relationship after this, after i found out she was actually my boyfriend... this video just reminded me from my past experiences that i had with my girlfriend... i think i might be traumatized from this...
@xjuan38983 жыл бұрын
All those signs actually fit my mom, but i already broke contact with her cause she was just overall very toxic and responsible for half of my mental problems😫☝️
@xjuan38983 жыл бұрын
@edward delorme yeah hopefully but i doubt it my sister tried to help her change, she tried too often it never helped. She tried to keep up the conection between them but she also has to realize it is not good for her. She always forgives my mother even after she almost made her commit unalive, but i also cannot do anything she would reject me and keep doing it.
@MissAllaCinderella3 жыл бұрын
My best friend does this, sometimes more often then not. It’s at a point where it doesn’t really bother me (I actually find it quite comical sometimes!), but it still can be mentally draining to deal with.
@iu91303 жыл бұрын
I have two of these signs. I don't want to hurt anyone. How am i supposed to overcome these bad things.😭😭😭
@blam93603 жыл бұрын
My mom has used guilt tripping to manipulate me many times as an adult when my life wasn't going the way she wanted it to. It took me years to realize what she was doing.
@CapnMadelyn3 жыл бұрын
hm.... i think i do it on accident im very messed up and i cant get the help i need im sorry for anything ive done i think my time is over goodbye
@eizzadam12553 жыл бұрын
I watched this because my former best friend kept saying I'm a manipulator and I just want to know if it's true. Sadly, it is. I never know I'm emotionally manipulating him. I just wanted to help him because he is going through some tough times. All I want to do is help him but I never knew that my words are the words of an emotional manipulator. Guess he was right then. Damn, it hurts to know it was really my fault.
@sage_am_plant67473 жыл бұрын
Haven't seen all of these videos but could you maybe do one to help lgbtq+ community with homophobic parents it could help me and others out
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@cosmospray3 жыл бұрын
I lost my 20 yo cat who is my best friend since i am 18yo, and during an argument he told me : "i've never seen someone so affected by the loss of an animal". that was too much for me.
@Sunny-wz5fh3 жыл бұрын
Have had an emotional manipulative friend for years on end. Thought she was my best friend and that I could trust her. She often would tell stories about new friends I have made or about my boyfriend in order to try and rip me and those people apart. Whenever we had an argument she never apologized and she never thought it was her fault. She blamed my parents for me being antisocial, she thought I was weird and she said my parents didnt raise me in a normal way and that it was odd. I did so much for her and was always there for her but I figured out it was rather one sided... that I was the only one who cared about her in the end. Every time I made plans with another friend, she suddenly needed me and whenever I said no, she said I was a bad friend and was never there for her etc. Etc. I also figured out she said a lot of stuff behind my back and that she also said a lot of other stuff behind my now good friends their backs. I believed those things at first about them but turns out they werent true at all and she was just manipulating me in getting whatever she wanted from me, I believed those things at first and distant myself from the people she gossiped about because after all I thought I could trust her because she was my best friend for years on end. I figured out recently that she has been manipulating me for years and cut ties with her, she didnt even say sorry or try to make it right and tried blaming everything on my now best friend which who I figured it out with together. She acted like she was sad about losing me but later I found out she was talking shit about me behind my back but I aint going back to her. I am finally becoming my own person again and now I am surrounded by lovely people... The lesson for you all is: watch out because your closest friend might be your biggest enemy.
@jeaniusedits60943 жыл бұрын
As soon i saw ur channel I immediately subbed cause I remembered i was watching this on my computer
@theresaotte27073 жыл бұрын
„Smooth like butter“ get it, let it roll hahah
@melly4293 жыл бұрын
One year of overly complimenting one year testing my boundaries and one other year doing all of those
@chelseaharridass45313 жыл бұрын
To be honest even I used to manipulate people to get things I wanted , it was only if I wanted a pacific thing such as toy figurines , snacks , books and food . But I'm glad I don't do it anymore because it was a very bad habit of mines .
@pita4433 жыл бұрын
Just the video I needed
@danielabaer18263 жыл бұрын
My mother saying at lunch "I have one helping at a time and then finish, and that's how everyone should actually eat!", repeating this every time we eat together, knowing both my sister and I used to have an eating disorder... :(
@firemoonflower98243 жыл бұрын
Thank goodness for videos such as these on U tube. I cannot afford to see my therapist.
@aracaol11793 жыл бұрын
oh look you're describing my mom
@CrimeAnalysis10111 ай бұрын
This is very good content....it is a direct correlation with many "so called creators" who used these very tactics to "manipulate" subs into donating their hard earned money. There are many forms of "Manipulation"..... Many criminals....especially ones who commit FRAUD are very gifted in manipulative tactics. DAGO, is very good at this (in my opinion), which is why he has become a topic of conversation on my shows. There are several others as well. Thanks for sharing this.... Regards, John....aka Detective John...
@ravenlover79243 жыл бұрын
That one moment when you realize that you are emotional manipulator yourself and made you hate yourself even more for all the stuff I done... Gosh I am an awful person.
@evoevannismo81412 жыл бұрын
Yep I've been there in terms of being emotionally manipulated by my girlfriend. Hints why I initiated the break up letting her know that I didn't want to be with her anymore. All because she brought all her emotional baggage when she started to get into a relationship with me and expected me to heal her only for her to take advantage of me for that.
@teaspoon32873 жыл бұрын
Me watching so I can make sure I'm not unintentionally emotionally manipulating someone:
@prudenthumanbeing46133 жыл бұрын
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@44Hd229 ай бұрын
The only way I see myself using manipulation (unless I get hurt or something and don’t think rationally which still is unlikely if I don’t) is to remove unhealthy habits from them or just nudge them in the right direction. I still didn’t use it. Maybe I can help someone (wait that’s just therapy).
@ganndalf2023 жыл бұрын
I have a friend I care about but every time we talk about the pain he caused me so I can move on and heal, it always gets turned into me that I'm wording things that others translate as guilt tripping and stuff while I'm just genuinely upset and I don't know if I'm the bad one. It hurts when people care more about how I say things rather than how I feel. I feel guitly for being upset.
@Polar_Bear_20077 ай бұрын
3:06 I've experienced that so many times that now I never even share my issues. I myself have Gaslighting issue.