7 Habits of HIGHLY MASCULINE Women

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@reinaramos3000]

Stephen I don't know who hurt you but you need to continue therapy. You need to stop telling women who they need to be. Instead focus on teaching men how to overcome their insecurities so they don't feel emasculated by confident achieved women. Teach men how love a women for who they are not to seek qualities to replace their mothers. The more I watch your videos you only confirm that men are boys who never want to grow up. I don't know if it's your intention but you come off as men being superior than women. That we are here to serve men. We are equal, we may bring different strengths but we are equal. The most successful loving marriages have conquered that. We both lead. 2 heads are better than one. I hope you come to terms with your feminine energy and be more accepting of your woman masculine energy, welcome it and embrace it and at the very least give it a try, it will bring you peace.

[@rebekahjette6304]

This sometimes happens when you are in a relationship with a toxic man. The man treats you as competition and brings out your need to defend yourself. A toxic/insecure man is scared that your feminine qualities will attract someone else to you because they know they are not treating you well.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@leslierenee888]

Rebekah Jette what a great comment ❤

[@rebekahjette6304]

@@leslierenee888 I speak from personal experience unfortunately.

[@swiftkarma4436]

This has been mu experience

[@leslierenee888]

@@rebekahjette6304 Me too dear me too😘

[@eac-guy7272]

A lot of men think that just having an opinion ,thinking out the box, or being assertive is being masculine

[@amerokeewiya1320]

Exactly

[@digthewarmth]

No they don't. They just don't like women. They like women parts only.

[@tricialewin6972]

True

[@msdemeanour]

They want a doormat. Avoid these weak men

[@geronimo1595]

Then those men aren’t good for you. This advice is aimed at dealing with reasonable men.

[@Destinyj7]

It’s interesting that “masculinity” in this video is defined as hardened. What’s wild about it is that women are labeled masculine for being hardened by the same or similar circumstances men go through that also makes them hard but somehow women are suppose to remain “soft” and the same behavior for men is almost acceptable in society. No one should be hard. Everyone should heal to have healthy relationships. The definition of masculinity and femininity here and elsewhere need to be better defined.

[@Poison_Orchid]

Wow, so right and true comment! Thank you

[@richerDiLefto]

Exactly.

[@johnmays2486]

So how would you define them?

[@donharris8846]

I disagree, a year later, men do need to be hardened. This is an important characteristic to be a protector. Let me ask this question, is there any device that you use for physical protection, that isn’t hard? The case on your phone, a bullet proof vest, an armored truck, a safe. All are hard because they protect something g valuable. If women are valuable, men must be hard

[@Unaminousverdict]

🎯🎯

[@kimtaeyeonismyeverything]

I truly believe if I felt safe I wouldn’t have been so masculine 😂💔 not my first choice. Great video as always 👏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you!

[@gina6273]

❤

[@lashawnharrison8171]

Wow. Great point.

[@jamieduvall8106]

100%. If WE didn't have to be the man in the relationship we COULD be soft

[@tumiblossom912]

Right I’m masculine if I don’t feel safe but if you make me feel safe I’m really feminine and can be vulnerable.

[@moneka72]

My husband moved in with me, we got married, soon after he quit his job and didn't work for like 6 months and had the nerve to tell me more than once that I had too much masculine energy. Maybe if I didn't have to be the provider while he sat on the couch every day, It wouldn't have come out.

[@miab.1916]

💯

[@danielsoares3737]

A man should never move into a woman's home. A woman enters a man's home... a man's frame... not the other way around. That in and of itself was masculine for you and feminine for him.

[@NomsLoots]

You enabled his behaviour. Why did a man move in with you? Ladies please let’s love ourselves.

[@amerokeewiya1320]

@@NomsLootsHow is that NOT loving herself? Y’all just say anything & make no logical sense

[@NomsLoots]

@@amerokeewiya1320 staying with a lazy man who finds you problematic while you’re taking care of him shows you have issues with loving yourself. She was suppose to date him and see if he’s a responsible human before allowing him to move in with her. I assume through this question you asked that you’re one of those people who just allows anything to happen in relationships because you think it’s cute. A man shouldn’t be moving in with a woman they not married to. I’m saying this as someone who’s allowed that to happen and I sure as hell didn’t love myself then come on.

[@selopibani3220]

I was quite feminine going into my relationship... but got worn down over the years and definitely saw myself get masculine to fill that leadership void/gap that he refused to.

[@szatanica1]

Weak men create masculine women. It’s not your fault. It’s the reality of our culture we try to counter.

[@peacepocket]

This happens to a lot of women

[@NomsLoots]

Why are you in a relationship where you need to fill leadership roles? Leave.

[@selopibani3220]

@@NomsLoots it’s ok, he left me after I Barbara built him 🤦‍♀️

[@lynaeeakettgreene7208]

we really need classes on how to communicate in a healthy way. listening is a skill. compassion and relating to what your partner feels so you can understand them is a skill.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that 🙏

[@chrysanthemums4963]

I grew up a tom boy so I was very masculine in my appearance, but not too much my approach unless I was mad. When I got into a long term relationship I realized other traits of masculinity that were present and they were present bc of the unhealed traumas I carried. It was my way of protecting myself (as a masculine trait of men is to protect). However, ever since I decided to do the work to heal those mental/emotional wounds through therapy and God (tbh it was more God), I began to make changes in every area of my life (diet, exercise, skincare, hair care, more devoted to God, updated my wardrobe..etc) I noticed I naturally gravitated to my feminine side and I have the most peace being there and in God’s presence daily. I can still rock a hoodie and jeans, but my presence is much more feminine and men love it ❤.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@Blackswanflymusic]

I can fully relate to this ❤

[@audreyrenee]

I totally agree. In so many ways I resemble the same energies as a defense mechanism. I too am working on myself to exude feminine energy rather than resting in my defensive masculine energy. I’m glad you recognized it and wanted to change for the better.

[@soleshajoseph]

SAME!!!! It Was AND IS God For Me Too SIStren (Brethren) 🤣!!!🩸🐑💯💖✨✨

[@languageliterature9413]

I am here now. Just realizing what my husband means because I didn't see it as masculine. I've cried and had anxiety...😭

[@feliciahuguley8247]

I'm very feminine but when I know I'm being lied to or being disrespected I get masculine af 😂😂😂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@yudollia]

Period! Self respect and intelligence is apparently masculine !

[@MsDeongi]

💯❤️

[@Myfamilysbarbiedoll]

I truly appreciate this video. As a woman, I could relate to demonstrating quite a few of the “too masculine” tendencies referenced in this video. I’m grateful for this video.

[@gina6273]

❤

[@RhondaR4]

Having a therapist is the best for me. She's awesome. I've always smiled and been approachable because I was born with a compassionate heart. I still attracted the wrong, narcissistic men. It's crazy! In my relationshis those men didn't want me to smile or speak to others in passing but its in me. I thank GOD I now have a discerning spirit. As I was out doing laundry today I smiled at others, spoke, and watched them smile back. I enjoy seeing others happy and feeling good.❤

[@loba49]

Love it! Positive people like you (and me!) don’t allow the ugliness to dull our love and kindness. We learn to pull it back when necessary and have boundaries but don’t allow others to make us change our God given natures. Keep the love going, and I’ll do the same! ❤

[@RhondaR4]

​@@loba49, AMEN!❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤

[@susanschroedel893]

Oh Girl, you said it exactly! That's me, too. A compassionate empath is a beautiful trait...but we need to have our BS detector turned on high frequency! I speak to and smile at men and women. But, that doesn't mean I'm interested in taking them on as a damned project. I'm a self assured widow. Not looking for a relationship. Just happy to connect to the human spirit.

[@RhondaR4]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks, You're welcome! Thank you for your obedience to GOD, for this platform, and you being here to help me grow as well as many others. You have a special place in my heart.🙏🏽❤️

[@Somuchtotalkabout]

Everything that you are saying is true. As soon as you exude femininity and walk in your purpose, your man will seek you out. It happened to me. A divorced single mom of 2. He swept me off my feet and now we have a beautiful home, 9 month old twins and a wonderful loving life together. It was a process to step back and have him lead like he was designed to do and is perfectly capable of doing so. I will always trust that the decisions he makes for our family (although they are discussed) he will always do what’s best for ALL of us not just him. Ladies if you actually step back and listen and watch him do his thing, without judgement or micromanaging, he will surprise you even impress you with his skills.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@Ifeomailloh]

Thank you for sharing. Very insightful.

[@fatimahkadri4944]

I admire you and your story. I have two kids too and in the process of moving on and allowing the new man to lead me while I enjoy my real feminity in my new relationship and in addition, I wish to have twin kids like you ...this is beautiful to me, and am happy for you. Thanks coach, for your insightful teachings.

[@miademuro9008]

High achieving men are not necessarily good men either. Are you kind? Honest? Attentive? Compassionate? Protective? Empathetic? Loyal? Men are not just their achievements either.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@asiacollege12]

Exactly.

[@Jenavee26]

Wow, you put succinctly what my exact thoughts are. Thank you!

[@shantakoa8596]

Too independent is one I have heard. I had 3 boys in my house. I had no choice but to man up and take care of my now grown men. All 3 are doing VERY well pat myself on the back. If God wants me to be single then I will enjoy every second ❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾love you Stephan thank you

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@vivianjackson5993]

I agree, I have four sons and two grandsons. I’m independent as well, single after 20 years. I’ve been dating a little and I think men sometimes get offended if you’re not needy.

[@dancingverona1281]

I was raised by a bipolar narcissistic border line psychopathic mother. This made me detach from self as a coping mechanism. So as a result I know my face comes across hard on the exterior however I'm a big softy. And when I smile people are often shocked at how big and sunshine like it is .People say I have a serious face. I'm working on it to be fair...im just so used to having to protect myself .

[@monicafrancNiki]

I smile always when I approach people. May it be a man, woman or child, I always smile. Sometimes man take it as a flirt but it's certainly not that. I am very feminine and love to be that way. My friend asked me why man are always approaching me, maybe because I'm always presenting myself in a feminine matter. Much love for you ladies🤗❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@RhondaR4]

Oh my goodness....I've been working on keeping my mouth closed. I talk a lot sometimes because the only person I do talk to is my therapist. I'm praying GOD directs me to a church and a couple people to be friends. I'm learning and growing.❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@lisadime9411]

Feminine energy is your power, beautiful! I am starting a feminine bible study which my daughter (thirty something) suggested is needed for the females in her life. She said you know it's bad when I get more male respect than the woman they are dating. I raised her as a single parent and did not neglect to tell her the importance of men and women. I was raised in a two parent household so I realize the value my father and mother brought to my life... I love confronting woman and asking them what do you really want? So many have been hurt, and it will be a healing journey we will embark upon... The exciting thing is God is putting partnerships together quickly, so there will be a lot of healing in a short time... I've never been married, I do embrace and comprehend the value I possess being a feminine woman... This video will help in our first meeting discussing Abigail. My first observation about her is that she was 'approachable'. Thank you for your clarity... The woman God has for you needed to hear this. You two will be a beautiful force for Love. Blessings

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏

[@Yummyapplechips]

Blessed be sister

[@jenniferpoitier]

I agree! Additionally I think that women should put less emphasis on a man’s education his house his car and we should put more emphasis on his character!

[@anushkas.1168]

1. Smile 2. Speak less. Listen more. Don’t dominate the conversation. 3. Being dissmissive. Speak wd more love n compassion.

[@jessier.4237]

Why don't we just wear a hijab while we're at it?

[@biancamichelle11]

@@jessier.4237😂😂😂

[@benedalitchmore7723]

😅😅😅

[@amerokeewiya1320]

@@jessier.4237exactly

[@Amazinglilflowers]

@@jessier.4237Women who wear Hijab are actually more free than most western women. And no I don’t wear one

[@geegeegarcia]

My achievements are only to prove to myself that I'm disciplined and resilient to have it not to go towards my real value. In a relationship it's more about giving your man a space where he can be completely authentic, emotionally available, and being fun and down to earth!!! Love this video too 😊😊😊

[@beefaye6861]

FACTS...💯👈

[@geegeegarcia]

@@beefaye6861 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽😉

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!

[@GracefullyMe82]

So eye opening, So much value, as a woman who has been carrying masculine energy, I’m so grateful for healing, I want to relax in my femininity so badly, Thank you so much ☺️

[@lovenikcamille]

It’s wild in this society life being where we are as people. For men to expect women to walk around like flowers and butterflies is ludicrous Women are literally leading ourselves to success yet expected to balance all that responsibility with gentleness 😮‍💨

[@Opulence85]

How do we navigate being bosses & business owners then tone it down at home, often times your ability to lead follows you in every area of your life. Please help me understand, as I make an effort to not be masculine however I do know how to assert & advocate for myself in a both objective & subjective way.

[@lovenikcamille]

@@Opulence85 thank you it’s not a turn off and turn on cuz then it’s fake!!!! You don’t want a needy female who begging for your time and resources being soft and helpless Yet if she’s bold beautiful driven and has made a way for herself to be a “catch” then we have to simultaneously turn that down so our masculine don’t over power his … If you 🐈 just say that cuz I can’t

[@Opulence85]

@@lovenikcamille what I’ve noticed is that because I’m very sweet, soft & soft spoken & I let the man talk his heart out, once a situation comes up that I need to be assertive even in a Pleasent way men cannot take that. It appears that it takes some of the steam from their assumption that they could dominate me or that I don’t have a voice. So we’re feminine but it lets off a vibe that we can be ran over & they get butt hurt when it’s time to have a two way conversation.

[@Opulence85]

@@lovenikcamille & right I’m going to be assertive & should be able to speak my peace in an adult fashion without a man questioning the whole relationship. I had a guy tell me there is no individuality in a relationship, blew my mind. To me the ying to our yang has not found us yet.

[@lavoniaholloway1245]

@@Opulence85 I’m usually soft spoken too (I mean, I don’t even curse). It’s why I allow guys to speak to me in the first place because I feel bad for being assertive. Men who can’t understand my boundaries and when I assert those boundaries because they keep pushing my buttons, they act like they’re the victims. Like are you serious? You literally can’t take no for an answer so when I finally had to argue with you about it, you want to get mad at me? Or like when my ex would get in a dumb sulky mood when I told him to stop slapping my butt so much at work. Gonna get mad at me. Or when I told him I’m not going to his house because it would always imply sex (I’m a virgin by the way). He had little respect for me and always came off like he wanted me for sex only. Dang skippy imma want to assert my boundaries. I honestly don’t care about a man’s feelings at that point because they lack empathy for me. Why would I want to be “feminine” for these types of men? If I want to be feminine at all, really, as I’ve been somewhat of a tomboy my whole life

[@yellag3096]

Always speak from love and respect. We’ve lost core communication abilities, too many selfish and hurt people lashing out and trying to be heard in the wrong way.

[@michellecrowder3032]

I've always been kind of a tomboy. My Dad taught me how to work on cars. But I love getting all dressed up in pretty clothes too. But I was raised to be self-sufficient

[@akeishaharris]

Same here

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@IdaAJ]

@Michelle same! I am the eldest, and a fixer and take-charge-er. I am certain I exude "masculine" energy ALL. DAY. I am also certain it has kept the riff raff at bay. Maybe some good candidates too? Or maybe not...I switch on the feminine how, when and where I want BUT I do take his point that I might need to maybe have it on randomly just because, sometimes...meh. I'll think about it. I am triggered, defensive, and I listened to the end and heard and (somewhat) received what was said...I am all of the things lol😄

[@michellecrowder3032]

Ida, I get it. And after 14yrs of choosing to be on my own, now that I want to date, it's hard to switch gears. Even as a teen, I hung out with the guys. I just wasn't interested in what the talked about... Boys, teen idols, nail polish, etc...

[@Braveh3artGirl]

This is a massively important video! One of the things we need to heal from is past trauma and bitterness! We can ask God to help us in these areas and seek help from a trusted person who knows what they are doing if necessary

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.

[@teearrawright2549]

Sometimes I talk too much so #2 hits heavy for me and I’m definitely working on it

[@sweetsimpleslowlife2709]

Stephan, I must give you a compliment on your tactful, respectful and eloquent way of prefacing the harsh truth. I really love the way you relay important information in a kind way that doesn’t offend someone or puts them in a defensive mode. Bravo 👏 😍🙌

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌

[@luxxebeatbysimone]

Well said, I agree

[@Sassy233]

🙌🏾🙌🏾yess

[@patientv]

Triggered! I normally love all the vids, but today I'm tired.. Rules to find a man. 1. Don't talk.. 2. Wear colors or dresses - stay looking good 3. Get fit 4. Don't be independent 5. Listen to the male coach 6. Your achievements aren't important... Your value lies in being sweet, cuddling, listening, cooking, cleaning, your beauty & sex... And oh BTW if you do all that and you get dumped it's YOUR fault for choosing the wrong guy... You must need to heal from something... Sooooo tired but oh yeah don't be tired... It's just not your time... It's just not meant to be yet... So also be patient and wait & go be happy but don't find so much joy that you become independent or the cycle can start over..... 😂😂 Just done

[@sanurabucknor9395]

It’s all a manipulative game they play and I’m watching women fall for it 😭😭😭😭

[@safrinasafrina8378]

Ty

[@DrLadyBugM]

Thank you. It's always something.

[@mmommo10]

that would be a song....because its just so so good. made my day

[@ambraiezzi5037]

Say “I love you” to your heart as Matt Kahn says.

[@angelicafraoula5355]

So when men exude masculine energy it's positive but when women exude masculine energy it's negative? Detachment, aloofness and coldness is negative regardless of gender.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@mimimi9326]

smh. Why would u wanna exude masculinity anyway ? Unless it’s business or career wise then ofc but in a heterosexual rls, why would u wanna be a 2nd male ???

[@angelicafraoula5355]

@@mimimi9326 Because I don't want to be like you. What is a "2nd male"? Lol.

[@xyz-mc5of]

@@mimimi9326 you sound like a brain dead parrot and didn’t even understand what she expressed

[@liabrown1084]

Holy wow! I need to say a big thank you! Some habits that have become second nature for whatever reason tend to be the hardest to see. But when someone comes along (you) and puts into words to the unattractive, hurtful, and destructive things you do is like a huge missing puzzle piece. I love being soft and feminine. I love to smile! Out of survival, I forgot how. Thank you

[@briawilson2593]

Damn u hit this right on the head for me, I don’t trust men to lead and provide that is why I’m masculine , and give off that energy I don’t trust a man to be financially responsible … i view men my age (I’m 35) as dumb and immature this is why I’m single. Thank u for this.

[@meli7315]

Same 🙌

[@MCLBC]

Always remember, if you act like a man, you will naturally attract boys. Betas, a man who needs a mom, simps and man-children. Act like a lady? Us Alphas will find you. 💪

[@dirtyearl6923]

Your 35 and single , say hey to all your future cats

[@MariaMedina-lj4kt]

@@dirtyearl6923 I'll take cats over men any day.

[@MCLBC]

@North London Wrong. We'll see a masculine woman. No guy wants to date a manly woman. 🤮

[@90charim]

On #2 a lot of times if a woman is “over talking” it’s bcuz men like to lie or gaslight and as a woman I gotta intervene cuz I can’t be a apart of a ineffective conversation if we gone talk then talk!

[@MsDeongi]

You can be anything today except for a woman that stands up for herself or assertive 🤷🏾‍♀️. Men don’t like no or you going against anything they say regardless how absurd it may be. Learn to be happy and heal and you’ll be great

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@sanurabucknor9395]

So true hun 💯can’t please these damn men let them be 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sassanthony00]

Stephan you hit every single nail on the head!I'm a 56 woman married twice and divorced. I Never knew anything about masculine and feminine energy until this video.Thank you for sharing your Spiritual wisdom.I always wanted to be married since I was a little girl,but I never knew what it meant to be a Godly wife!#Shalom🙏🏿❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@nondumisombuyane6395]

I cringed all through out the video...Lord help me I'm too musculine😢

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.

[@Ibochic1]

I accept and receive all you say because your delivery is just not rude or dismissive or degrading, unlike some other coaches. Thank you. You are a very wise man. I’m learning. ❤

[@sarahsarita4852]

He chooses his words and tone carefully. I appreciate him for that

[@4u2cre8]

Overspeaking, being defensive, and having a bad attitude isnt masculine energy. That's just being rude and disrespectful. To ascribe those traits to masculinity is saying that masculinity = being rude and disrespectful, which isn't the point (I think) you're trying to make. I generally don't buy into the idea of women having masculine energy because what most people are calling "masculine" is really just a woman's defense mechanisms kicking in when a man hasn't created the safe, stable, trustworthy, and emotionally healthy environment that encourages her to let her guard down and rest in her femininity. If women are defensive because they see men as threats the question shouldn't be why women are defensive, it should be why men are seen as threats. Defensiveness is just the side effect, not the cause.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@farhanagani332]

A lot of people don’t see how messy this message is! I’m glad I’m not the only who thought this!! If these traits are what masculinity is, it sounds toxic. Men and women shouldn’t have some of these traits if not all. Bizarre message to put out.

[@atlantasfaithsmom]

Here are women explaining themselves.... 😒. So, it sounds to me that masculine "characteristics" are not even good for men either! "Detached," "Hard," "Hardened," "Unapproachable," etc. Is that what women want in their men? And men need to get counseling if they're NOT like this?? I disagree. That's part of what's wrong with relationships.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@RhondaR4]

I've always lived in my feminine although I walked in my masculine because I've never had a man really help me. I just came back from doing my laundry and it would have been nice to have a man offer to carry my bag. It would be nice not to have to carry my jugs of water up 3 flights of stairs. If I have a masculine man willing to help me I could be in my femininity 100% of the time.❤

[@j____397]

I feel the same way .. women are getting accused of being too masculine simply because they are grown functioning humans who also have to do stuff to survive. We can’t be sitting around doing nothing, looking pretty waiting for the prince on the white horse. But that’s basically what most red pill podcasters etc say. And it’s so dumb .. wouldn’t you as a man want to be with a reliable woman just as much as we want to be with a reliable man?! If being a grown functioning female human is being too masculine and too intimidating for most men .. well, then they need to step up and grow up.

[@lucyferreira7595]

WELL SAID

[@RhondaR4]

@@lucyferreira7595❤️

[@barbaraadams8219]

Well said. Men are lacking in these small ways. It creates independence in women.

[@sarahkennedy1481]

Most men over 45 i meet want highly educated women who are slim and also have their own money. This often fits in with family and friends.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@brownshugakale2410]

All insightful 👌🏾 It's worth mentioning that men should not expect their lady to respond with masculine energy to match his when he's upset about things not going his way (like not taking his side, but you're trying to find the balance to get him back in the right head space).

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@raquelt5342]

Such a great video! I have experienced only more feminine men care about achievements in women...anytime I have been around or dated truly masculine men they want to know I am happy, and feel I am successful whatever that means to me..not what I have achieved.

[@CertifiedGrantWriter]

Now you're seeing clearly

[@rjames9266]

This man out here saving lifes! I have been walking in masculine energy for years and it has made everything in my life harder! When you spoke on feminine energy being there when kids are around vs a man that really hit home and this is Extremely true in my case. I'm glad I have some verbage to express the reason for this now ... me seeing men as a threat and have the potential to hurt you the wall goes back up.... thanks so much

[@tinker2217]

I love the warning mid video. You made sure to deliver that as nicely and gently as possible lol. Thank you so much. 🥰

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@toshawalters5818]

Men need to work on their communication skills & how they approach women because this alone makes me become masculine!!!

[@SamStone1964]

How does it make you become masculine?

[@moonchild66]

I want to step into my feminine energy more...listening more....be more soft and show my vulnerable side with the right people!! Many thanks....stay blessed🙏🙏🙏

[@normamaynard78]

Thank you so much for this video. It challenged me in a good way. Truly appreciate your insight and transparency.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

my pleasure ❤ and i'm happy to hear that

[@queenscott9642]

Strumming my pain with his fingers Singing my life with his words Killing me softly with his song Killing me softly with his song Telling my whole life with his words Killing me softly with his song... 4real

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙏

[@Braveh3artGirl]

You can blame the education system for destroying the softness of feminity, we are taught so many skewed things and to be achievement based and have only a career over family

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏

[@emmadezwaan]

I'm a better alpha male than most men I know are, hahaha. I don't care. I'm me, don't give a fuck what men think of me. I love me and that's the most important person I need to love in my life. You want to be in a box, go ahead, it's not for me. I rather be free to be. All the best to all the ladies!!

[@tashaw4444]

Did all the relationship Gurus get together yesterday and decide to address this topic? Lol. First, Iyanla; Now Stephan...Great Video! 💜

[@Terrel3000]

Tasha, I honestly believe it is something spiritual that the spiritual realm is giving to the people who have the platforms to deliver these messages. Why, because it is a real issue. A call straight man does not want to date someone who is masculine, that’s why he is straight lol. He is not attracted to masculine energy.

[@tashaw4444]

@@Terrel3000 Yes, of course. We all have a role in the relationship. That's why we are women and they are men. I welcome this conversation even if it's a challenging conversation to have. I have spoken to my friends about being called "Strong Black woman". I am against that term bcos it I believe, it takes our Feminity away. If you're "strong", you can't cry, all for help, be soft, be feminine, be caring. I tell ppl to please do not call me a SBW.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Lol 😂 it just happened by coincidence or maybe it’s divine intervention 😏

[@TiffanyLadyStar]

@@tashaw4444 I don’t like the term either strong black women or masculine energy. I heard once or twice strong black woman towards me in my life but never the masculine energy referring to me thank goodness. I don’t want to be described as a man at all 😂 Which I don’t get that anyways.

[@99xseax99]

Thank you for this! I am going to put these to practice in my life. I have 34 years of living in masculine. I had alot of traumatic things happen to me when I was younger and all my relationships have been toxic with men. I attract the opposite of what I really want so I've begun my healing with your help and countless other KZbin healing coaches. ❤

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

I lightly smile and say goodmorning but not needy or desperate.

[@heavenwilliams5214]

Tbh the “ over talking and Not allowing myself to get lead by a man “ was me a couple months ago. My man is very patient and wants us to work on our flaws n those are mines. He wants me to work on those two so we can take it to the next step so we can marry as a reward lol. He has his own traits to work on n he wants us to be our best self’s while together. It was hard because I was raised with independent mindset which helped me financially but relationship wise it’s a problem for me. So I’m currently working on that. Other then that people perceive me as being a sweetheart. This just helped push me more. 💕

[@straykittsco.950]

There has to be a balance. A woman at times needs to be a little more masculine in certain situations, but at the same time it needs to come from a place of awareness and not a place of trauma, insecurity, and survival.

[@oober5150]

My thought is i am capable to do this that and the other if need be, but I don't want to and I'm very happy being led and receiving.

[@RhondaR4]

In my kingdom marriage I will need my man to lead. I need him to ask questions when it's something he doesn't understand coming from me. Too many people mis-interpret things being said because they lack positive communication. They make everything seem like their being attacked and not heard. Many people lack positive communication and understanding.❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Communication is definitely key!

[@RhondaR4]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks, AMEN!💯❤️

[@WinntersReaVenge]

This guy I had dealings with yrs ago always would tell Me I needed to smile after I walked away but I felt if I smiled he’d take it as a green-light but now that I’m out of My dark place I Love smiling & using My feminine energy while still standing on My newfound boundaries 😊….

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@RhondaR4]

I see my value in my femininity and purpose not achievements.❤

[@muahalaya-kalimbo8711]

Yoh Yoh Yoh!!! This whole thing triggered me, like I can't believe how triggered and dismissive I was throughout this🤣 I was today years old when I discovered I have masculine energy🤣 I need a minute, I need time out...this was a mouthful 🙅‍♀️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@yanamoore3028]

I am so thankful Stephan that you are in the world - I hope you feel that. Since I discovered your channel, it makes understanding and responding to the men I am dating so much easier. I am happier! And probably, so are they! I thank God that you are here, speaking the truth and putting that real energy into the world. Not sure whether this is cultural, sometimes I can't listen all the way through your amazing vids because the tone at which you speak, even though it's from a place of passion, sounds a little angry. Not asking to change, just to consider. Love you and can't wait for more content!

[@narviaflournoy3869]

👋🏽🛎🙏🏼 Being a people person, calm, respectful, caring, supportive, listening to intuition and serving ALMIGHTY God !! 😊🎨🖼

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@JanetTuttle-cb3xx]

I have lived alone a number of years and so I am an independant by nature and used to living alone.

[@Opulence85]

I love the detailed explanations. Knowing why is a great way to make it stick!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

thank you, I'm glad you found the explanations helpful

[@LakeWeathers]

Forget the past, I need to be physical!!! Periodt

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@leonahuff9802]

How can you allow yourself to be truly vulnerable when your partner tells you its a fact that men aren't supposed to be vulnerable with their woman?

[@thelightofvictory]

This lesson was fantastic, I want to thank you for your time and enthusiasm you put in each video you are awesome!😍

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@phyllmeez]

I agree with that…being from the northeast, I get accused of being “ masculine “ all of the time. Around the right man…I’m so feline.

[@sandraisingoma2355]

No lies told! Don't be defensive, go ahead trigger. Those who want to learn will do so and swallow the bitter pill. I wish I had learnt this years ago!!! God bless you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you and may God bless you as well!

[@NullStyx]

He hit the nail on the head multiple times.

[@edgzr]

This video is really detailed on how my girlfriend acts, I tried to help her solve her issue of being masculine but she doesn’t want to listen to this 🤦🏽‍♂️, I don’t want to leave her but it’s just too stressful dealing with this.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

[@gina7896]

From what I experienced men who didn't achieve anything don't value women with achievements. A women can help a man financially, but he would dog her. On the contrary, men who have achievements, those the type of men that value women with achievements, bit I think because I didn't have to utilize my achievements. I had to contribute more support, generate ideas in his business, and cook for him alot. I mean really cook for him, this attorney was stayed at my house. I was like, " How I went from a Paralegal to cooking, and coming up with ideas for him to save money for him firm" So Stephen YOU ARE ABSOLUTLY RIGHT ABOUT THAT

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@tashellortiz9636]

I'm a masculine woman. Always have been.

[@EmeraldLuvsYouALL]

This is truly an eye opener for all that are willing to understand.I appreciate the way all parts were explained. Easy to understand and identify these traits inside us as well

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@EmeraldLuvsYouALL]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Absolutely 🙏

[@PoloABD]

Too masculine for whom? Some people are just born that way.. I like them, generally speaking.

[@farhanagani332]

I agree that women should work on themselves if they have these traits. BUT men shouldn’t behave this way either! To say these traits are “masculine” sends the message that it’s okay for men to behave this way. These are just rude behaviours that no one should have. Yes it takes away from feminine energy but it also makes masculine energy toxic. Why would anyone woman find a man that does these things as a safe and secure man? This should’ve been directed at both genders.

[@michellecharlery9857]

Wow... think I'm guilty of a few... sigh... taking notes... will practice all that I've noted...❤

[@enaalexis92]

This video was very polarising but this is a good thing as each of the points touched a different nerve in each person who listened it. Keep doing your thing 😊

[@k.h.7575]

I love this. Stephan thanks so much for your wisdom 🙏

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@whitneymoore9814]

I think I know what gift to give a man who has everything. A day dedicated to him that’s all about him. From morning til night he’ll be catered to. Not a day that’s specific to any holiday but a day that’s created out of love and appreciation that can occur at anytime in the year. All home cooked meals for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. An activity that he likes to do like playing games or going out for a little bit. A hot bath for the end of the night followed by full body massage. And a happy ending for a happy ending. I need to date myself 😂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤

[@lashawnharrison8171]

"No one calls to check up on you and everyone thinks you're good" [paraphrased]. 💡 Whew! A-ha moment for sure. I learned a lot about masculine/feminine energy years ago, but this was a new perspective. Excellent message, Stephan. 👏🏾

[@charniecearielle]

Idk if he mentioned this because i didn’t get to the end yet but another downside of being too hard as a woman is we can damage ourselves and think that any safe man that will allow us to be in our feminine is too soft, gay, etc 😩😱. We will end up hurting those kind for the unsafe guys and end up perpetually unhappy because we choose the wrong men and expect the right things to happen

[@starbright2683]

Young girl, Innocent, Naive, Soft, Gentle, Loving, Submissive, Easy to deal with 🔽 Horrible experiences repeatedly 🔽 Wise up, Become suspicious, Hardened, Create boundaries, Become more difficult to take advantage of 🔽 Now you're going to get treated even worse because men turned you into a man. 👍 If you don't find true love when you're a teen, you're pretty much toast. 🍞

[@kimberlydimas3207]

Thank you Stephan for this reality check I’m a very feminine woman , I dress feminine , I talk and look feminine but when someone takes my kindness for weakness and tries to take advantage of me I’ll be defensive and stand my ground but I know that’s not what feminine women do and I’m also guilty of not letting my boyfriend finish his sentences and cutting him off where he doesn’t tell me what he was going to tell me and that’s really rude on my part of not being a good girlfriend listening and understanding what he’s telling me and I felt bad afterwards so now I’m well aware of these negative traits and I’m working on it and so far we’ve been really good thanks for this video sending you lots of love from Long Beach, California!!!!! 💋❤️👍🏼🙏🏼😘🥰🌊🚢🏖️

[@nadinedominique414]

Oooh I needed this video! 😍🙏 The longer I been single, celibate, intentional, putting in the inner work the more I agree with this! Broke and broken men lol have tainted my views in the past and really confused me. I am confident in who I am and what I spiritually offer, but before that last one used to be rough for me! I’m so glad to have a successful good looking man’s breakdown on that. A true divine couple instead of feeling like two competitive bros in a relationship 👏 Amén.

[@nadinedominique414]

*the one on achievements

[@zeobiashereace.8518]

This segment really blessed me. I will definitely continue to work on me. Thank you for this...

[@Obl1queproductions]

I ruined wasted my whole life never knew how to be a woman that could be a good wife i had no ine to guide or advise me in life. Maybe now i can change and find a man to marry who could love me. I will take this advice that i learned on this podcast. I am age 75 on my last years of life on my last chance for happiness. Thank you for changing my life into your rught directions...thank you thanks a million. I will not be difficult anymore ... 36:18 36:21 36:23 36:25

[@stephaniechatman3679]

For me i Love every bit of my masculinity i know i am more masculine then femine For a lot of women it is due to their upbringing in life behind every woman that a man considers is like that is A STORY most men dont take the time out to listen therfore in life a woman of my caliber will always have a shield up which is called the armor of God until he can see through it is how it works one of my Greatest Gifts i carry from God and love it

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@stephaniechatman3679]

Amen thanks for your Prayers I see it all ! God got me I will speak my story in due time right now I am occupied on my mission but thanks and your welcome 💝

[@SotraEngine4]

I'm having WAY MORE masculine energy than feminine energy And he has fairly much feminine energy And honestly We seem like perfect for each other That said He brings out the woman in me

[@biancameril5173]

Depuis que je te suis sur youtube, je suis une meilleure personne, merci infiniment pour tes conseils!!🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@serenityworld6596]

Me to.

[@xxiroman2546]

But what if your a natural feminine person and the person you’re with brings out those masculine traits in you.

[@cocojima5244]

I need the answer to that too

[@ThePojengsidur]

I think i’s because the man could maybe not fully be in his masculine energy, is more in his feminine. But a person can change only themselves, no one else. Are you happy with all what comes with changing your inherent energy, i didn’t like that, so my relationships that went that way, we broke it off cause the guy was too “weak” compared to me. He saw me as the perfect woman and maybe he accidentally assimilated with what he wanted.

[@healthiswealth7555]

Run, sis! Run! Dusty alert! You're dealing with a dusty minded man who doesn't appreciate your femininity and may: 1. Have an emotional attraction to men 2. Be using you as a trophy because he's not ready to come out of the closet 3. Secretly hates women🤔 4. Isn't mature enough to understand femininity/masculinity or what they mean to each other R.U.N... because if he can't even respect femininity, he will never respect yours and spend the rest of your days trying to change you.

[@MissAmeriNegro]

You need to leave them

[@kristelwalton3141]

that person doesn't bring out the best in you and would not be a good long term partner or friend.

[@tammmy1000]

I distinctly remember growing up thinking to myself “ alright ima turn into a dude. “ so that I don’t get hurt and to protect myself, which actually destroyed me… I don’t recommend running from your true identity because it WILL kill you in the long run.

[@Keishondra2003]

Is the woman masculine or is she compensating for what the male is lacking? Would you do a video for the men called 7 traits of highly feminine men? Just so we can compare

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!

[@JHugh-by1qs]

I have always struggled with relationships, and I have to say that I recognized myself in most of the things you spoke about. People often point out to me that I won't accept help from others, which I never even realized about myself. It isn't always easy to face things in myself that hold me back, but I know that until I do, I can't make positive changes. I would rather hear the truth even it stings. Thank you for your videos - I'm finding them really helpful.

[@jar8521]

I needed to hear this! Great video!

[@crystalwall2923]

It is important for EVERYONE to continue to work on themselves. Become the best version of yourself. The version you are happy with the version that makes you happy,confident, and joyful. Everything else falls into place. Be comfortable in your own skin.

[@desireefoster4072]

Thank you for this video . I am receptive and willing to stay true to myself. Valid and I agree with your conversation.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@JazzyJay263]

Very well said....So Enlightening!🔥Thanks brother!💙 Amen🙏🏽❤️‍🔥

[@elhamseyedi3672]

I had this problem and I was used to value myself with my career and achievements. Thank you for showing me the problem I was not able to see.⚘️