7 Habits of People With Low Self Esteem

[@christiantapia5321]

This describes my whole existence 🙃💯

[@FelineAdrenaline]

Same... lol

[@christiantapia5321]

@@FelineAdrenaline I'm glad that I'm not alone 🥺🙏🏻

[@gsisir8478]

Same 🥲

[@FelineAdrenaline]

​@@christiantapia5321 Seriously! Knowing that other people might be feeling the same way might boost some confidence and some relief. I've been scrolling through the comment section, and it's humbling to see that so many people are dealing with this.

[@Psych2go]

Many people can probably relate..

[@drinasun6984]

I procrastinate, I am passive and I am a perfectionist. In my childhood and adolescence, I had the people pleasing habit and isolated myself often.

[@kimchifriedrice8869]

This is exactly myself 😔

[@Psych2go]

How about now? Do you feel you still do all those things?

[@therealestrealistpessimist]

This was me. I feel awful now

[@infinitywinter3151]

TF how did you comment a day before

[@drinasun6984]

@@Psych2go I'm no longer a perfectionist or passive, and I don't procrastinate as often.

[@marjoleinewelters1728]

I once did most of these things... taught myself to believe in myself, change my selftalk, change the bar i set, and start to focus on what i am good at/ challenge the old patters of selfdoubt with successes in real life 😄 I can now thankfully say that this video no longer reflects me To anyone still seeing themselves reflected in this video, know that you can get passed it with work and small steps. You can do it 🥰

[@Sharunyxox]

Thanks so much!! Much needed commemt!!

[@JulianSirian]

Thanks for the inspiration... Quick question, what was the first thing you did, on the road to recovery? And how did you achieve it? Thanks

[@shaddux9126]

Thank you! 😃

[@Arcadius8]

It would be of a great benefit for all of the people struggling with low self-esteem, if you could reveal at least the beginning of the path you took to become better.

[@marjoleinewelters1728]

@@Arcadius8 surrounding myself with people who support me. That was the biggest step. No longer staying near people who where unkind. If you have trouble making friends, than finding this online or even a therapist to talk to, to help jumpstart the focus on all you do right and your value etc. At the same time, checking and changing that selftalk, kindly to yourself. Being patient with yourself there. Those two steps where the most important ones

[@mamaikea]

It’s a bit upsetting that I can relate to all of this.

[@BruceC1]

I can kinda relate. I'm just as disturbed.

[@sophiaslater5173]

I’m the same way, at least we’re in this together, it’s not forever though

[@chillmuffin4536]

Same, I also relate to all of it

[@RemoKnightUK]

Bruce it don't mean we're disturbed lol

[@Taylor-zj7pp]

😩😩you ain't lying

[@Fierie333]

I just wanted to share (related to this topic) I finally got into my dream art university. I still cant believe it’s true and I MADE IT!!!! I feel like I’m finally proud of something I did! Although I hated every work I did

[@lupitamendiolar5262]

Hey! And that's perfectly okay as long as you don't end up hating the thing you love most.

[@patriciapat2106]

Congratulations 🎉👏😄

[@mirandatyner]

Congrats! 🎊🎉

[@jenaah426]

Congrats!!!!🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@Rin-dq7ls]

Congratulations! I'm happy for you(◍•ᴗ•◍)❤

[@casanovacowgurl2156]

7 habits of people with LOW-SELF ESTEEM: 1.Procrastination 0:33 2.Passivity 1:12 3.Negative Self Talk 2:03 4.Isolation 2:44 5.People Pleasing 3:27 6.Perfectionism 4:05 7.Being unable to accept compliments 4:41

[@MiriadCalibrumAstar]

Ty.

[@___Steinn___]

Solid 7/7 for me...🎉

[@noonegirl]

Thank you 😊

[@DrBarbequeSauce]

All except the last one

[@HighwayHorse]

These pshyc2go vids are way to accurate for me some days 😬😬

[@johnloftin2461]

I've dealt with almost all 7 of these since elementary school. Middle and High School were brutal. Here in the middle aged grown up world, it still sucks so bad. Thanks for the video.

[@gigibanks5258]

💕

[@userm180]

have you tried therapy? it might help heal your inner child. also if you need to talk i'm here

[@johnloftin2461]

@@userm180 I've been in therapy with meds for 25 years (My entire adult life).

[@keithbrown8814]

For me too the same life experience....and then at 61 add being poor with no money and a dead end job....life can really stink!!!!

[@johnloftin2461]

@@keithbrown8814 I'm right there with you brother.

[@Lagoonlucas]

This hit hard for me, i think i relate with all the points especially the procrastination, isolation and perfectionism, i need to get better, I deserve it

[@gigibanks5258]

💕

[@sarahshiham3410]

Same here

[@angelaharris1112]

Same here...

[@MsShandy111]

Me too!

[@anemelia7778]

same

[@diannemasters9435]

This is totally me. I’m 69 and been this way my whole life. One thing I have figured out is others pick up on your low self esteem and they add to it. They do nothing to help you. They just keep piling on more and more negativity. And when you meet that one in a hundred who is really trying to help, you tear yourself down, thinking you don’t deserve it or they don’t mean it. At my age, I don’t think I will ever come out of this.

[@virabc1267]

let go of it. Enjoy life is beautiful. It's not just for confident folks. Each life has the same essense to realise peace and calm beauty of life.

[@minghui5199]

Stay strong. You've literally made it through.

[@outlinehappiness]

So much of self esteem comes from how we were nurtured as children. Knowing how to reparenting yourself is so powerful in taking control of your healing and providing for the needs you didn’t have met.

[@SvengelskaBlondie]

it's quite frustrating to learn how much of your life is determined by the quality of your parents, even worse is that it's something you have to deal with yourself cause school and society can't be bothered to teach such things.

[@avidhossanmansur9830]

For most of my teenage years, I struggled with self-esteem. And the solution was really simple, having good self-confidence has two aspects, Firstly, You need to do things there intrust you. If you have low self-esteem or lack confidence in yourself, you're probably still young, most of your life has revolved around school and family and you don't have much experience with the great of the world. Which is absolutely fine. Almost everyone has the same story, including myself! Just go out there and do things that you find enjoyable. Just don't do them by yourself find other people who like the same things. Soon enough you'll find yourself becoming part of a community or even a tribe. This brings a sense of belonging or internal tranquillity which I can't quite really explain. You gotta feel it to understand it. Secondly, You need to be a good storyteller. Us humans make sense of the world through stories This is one of those things that you can't really teach anyone and you just have to figure it out as you go. Remember people will forget your name, they'll forget your face but never forget how you made them feel. So always keeping a light-hearted and positive tone in your conversations is usually a good idea. Especially when meeting new people.

[@alejandraguevara942]

Thanks you very much. That belonging feeling is what most of us desire. I had the opportunity to feel like that last year and I miss that moment a lot. I just think is time for me to find things I really enjoy doing and sharing with others that are same.

[@realt0nse]

i needed to read this

[@Rin-dq7ls]

thank you for this :)

[@suekelly3744]

Well said Thank you

[@c.antoniojohnson7114]

Beautiful statement, and it depends on the people you meet. There's people who look at light hearted and positive people as a tool to be used. Where I'm from being light-hearted and positive is a way to be taken advantage of. That's why I stay to myself and hopefully meet like minded people on my way to and from work.

[@guidancetoislam3071]

As an extremely insecure and a person with low self-esteem,I totally agree with all the points mentioned throughout the video.Hoping for the best in future!💜

[@gigibanks5258]

💕

[@boyu4570]

Dont worry you’ll make it! whtever your goal is just dont be too harsh on yourself mate 😃

[@guidancetoislam3071]

@@boyu4570 Thanks alot for your kind words!🥺Your comment has literally made my day 💜

[@wj1731]

It’s amazing that’s you’re honest with yourself and have self-awareness and that’s exactly what you need to start the journey of self-love. Good luck on your journey 💗💗💗

[@guidancetoislam3071]

@@wj1731 You are totally correct!I still feel that I need to be more honest and gentle with myself and not just love but also care for myself.Self awareness is undoubtedly the first step to self-love 💜Thanks for wishing me good luck! 💕💕💕

[@Azelide]

My experience with these: 1. procrastination - yes, i'm guilty but always get things done eventually 2. passivity - yes, big time 3. negative self-talk - yes, tho i find it impossible to improve at something if i'm satisfied with how i'm already doing 4. isolation - yes, tho i use it only to recharge and regain self-confidence after something bad happens 5. people pleasing - no, i don't really do this anymore but some people can't understand that unfortunately 6. perfectionism - yes, as i feel that if it's worth doing, it's worth doing well. 7. accepting compliments - yes, as i get like two of them in a year for the things i've put the least effort into

[@m3ln193]

bro same... but i can't say i have low self esteem really(??) it just kinda happens sometimes lol

[@jarenfromvenus]

Right. She oversimplified people life experiences. Self esteem doesn’t look the same on everyone.

[@nehajadhav9684]

Same about accenting compliments. I rarely get them about things that I put least efforts in

[@danthompson5797]

I can relate to this

[@MarianahsTrenchGal1]

I've struggled with self-esteem my whole life (which is probably mostly due to being severely bullied in elementary school from grades 3-8 and having a dad with narcissistic personality disorder) but I was also diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder when I was 16 (although both my parents say they could see signs of that when I was 4). I'm 24 now and I felt like I've gotten quite a bit better, but I do every single thing on this list 😭 just the other day at work I tried to take on a task a coworker asked me for while I was in the middle of something else and a few minutes later she said to me, "Emma, it's ok to say no."

[@gigibanks5258]

💕

[@userm180]

im sorry that happened to you. i hope you're ok and if u need to talk im here

[@emily.k3703]

Please check to make sure you do not have Asperger Syndrome or High functioning autism. - Many people who have your symptoms have these problems.

[@indridcold8433]

I have found that staying away from everybody will keep the feelings of low self esteem away. I go weeks without seeing anybody at all. We can not be looked down upon if we stay away from everyone. As for friends, they are just low level enemies. I have no friends. I do not even know anybody. I do not even have acquaintances. If humanity threw us out and mistreated us, we can stand completely on our own. They hate when someone is self-reliant and does not depend on the rest of the herd. Thus, they hate me.

[@anemelia7778]

@@indridcold8433 maybe people that are around you right now hate you, but it can't be that the whole world hate you, people can do nice things that make you feel good

[@Cottons_.]

1. Procrastination 0:32 2. Passivity 1:12 3. Negative self talk 2:02 4. Isolation 2:45 5. People pleasing 3:26 6. Perfectionism 4:05 7. Being unable to Accept compliments 4:40 Correct me if there's any Typo!

[@WatchingTheTimes]

There is a typo at 5th point. It should be 'Pleasing'. Otherwise it was superb. Thanks!

[@Cottons_.]

@@WatchingTheTimes oh okay, thanks for Correcting me! ^^ and you're welcome :)

[@randomisedbeing]

"Correct me if* there is any Typo" You're welcome XD

[@Cottons_.]

@@randomisedbeing I didn't know how that happened but thanks lmao XD

[@jungersrules]

Yup. I was wondering what was going on with me. This reminded me what is at the core of my issues. Something I've been struggling with my whole life.

[@RemoKnightUK]

Me too...though I became much more aware of it as I got older. It seriously affects my life, particularly when I work with younger people with much more confidence...it totally screws with my concentration

[@変態男-o2p]

@@RemoKnightUK Same

[@Xennon1117]

My self esteem has being swinging up and down for years now. Sometimes I am full of confident, sometimes I feel so worthless.

[@paigethompson9931]

Everything you've said has been me my whole life up until now and it's an overwhelming cycle.

[@dark_fire_ice]

I would like to thank everybody involved with this channel, without them I never would have have reached out and got professional help. With a diagnosis of disorganized schizophrenia, schizoid, and ADHD, my medication of methylphenid has actually allowed me the concept of self care and worth, thank you all from the very core of my being. May Laima grant you all her greatest blessings. Albeit, a history of constant parental abuse, may constitute to most of these too

[@alejandraguevara942]

Blessings! Wish you the best ❤️🙌🏼

[@MissSirenita]

I’m really proud of my journey. While there is still a lot of self hate I have to overcome, it’s not as bad as it used to be.

[@apexpredator6921]

I got scared for a moment, everything that you mentioned in the video has been happening to since i was 8, and it has grown bigger and bigger. I thought it was my personality, but turns out that my self esteem is so deep down and i just noticed it

[@dariusmaikko4831]

ckcwu

[@RemoKnightUK]

Why does it say there's a reply here but there isn't? If it's been deleted, the notification part just under the comment it answers to, should not be there

[@arifu3351]

The moment they mentioned procrastination first, I felt like I got stabbed in the heart.

[@desperado.1001]

I saw when this video was posted and… I procrastinated to watch it. I procrastinated because I knew it was going to hit really close to home, and it did. I’ve struggled with everything listed here and over the years I’m proud to say that I’ve managed to get to a healthier place! It’s a work in progress though… especially with procrastination, isolation, and perfectionism. If you’re working through these things too, I feel for you and I just know you can improve your self esteem 🙂

[@alma3817]

I struggle with all of these, but am proud to say that I'm getting better at dealing with them 🎉 when I feel low these signs get much more intense and difficult, but I feel more capable of dealing with them

[@mudancadecomportamento1615]

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[@sandybear61]

I'm 61 and am just now consciously working on healing my self-esteem.

[@teresapugh5130]

I can relate...it's a constant effort at 58

[@sebastianfox5330]

I stopped people pleasing a long time ago, it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. The other six are still a work in progress.

[@khalilahd.]

I used to do all of these things but I’m proud to say I’m no longer dealing with most of them (except procrastinating, still working on that 😅)

[@monolinny1817]

Mind sharing some tips? I've been struggling with accepting compliments these days. Like everytime someone conpliment me, I always go like "No no not really. I didn't do much. [Insert person name] can do a lot better." which personally, it feels like I downplay the speaker's intent. Not to mention I always forget and go back to this habit everytime I'm in a situation.

[@Psych2go]

Comment below if your self esteem hasn't been the best lately and what are you doing to fix that?

[@Imnotthisnerd]

Ok

[@Rip_DrippyOfficial]

Mine self-esteem is really bad from my severe depression and other things just not doing too well

[@xluvmq]

My self esteem is lower than 1% /j

[@drinasun6984]

Positive affirmations, self-care and motivation.

[@xluvmq]

@@Rip_DrippyOfficial Sorry for you, I am the same as you with more mental illnesses, hang on though. It'll be better!

[@deleting261]

This is exactly what I'm going through; they all resonated. 😞

[@EgoKillerPodcast]

I’m honestly shocked. I immediately wanted to disagree that these things were true, but realized that didn’t serve me. Realizing I do in fact have low self esteem actually makes so much sense in the way I experience life. Can you do one on how to increase self esteem?

[@JT_Ling]

It may not be possible; but finding happiness is better than trying to fix something that's not really a flaw. Look at the bright side: you're considerate, carrying, thoughtful, smart, and good at things you are good at, even if you don't see it

[@ritaaaaaaa]

@@JT_Ling

[@Bilbus7]

@@JT_Ling Those are all assumptions that may or may not be true tho

[@thisorthat7626]

@Erikilla, pay attention to your "self talk" and stop it when it is critical. Most peoples' "self talk" is not them talking, it is a parent, teacher, authority figure, etc. Stop negative "self talk" and replace it with kind and loving self talk. Also find people who treat you nicely and don't continually criticize you. Be kind to yourself and others. Blessings.

[@morbidme7673]

After being in a very abusive relationship and going through some horrific trauma, I definitely relate to everything stated here. I can say I'm safe now. Working to heal all that crap, so I don't feel this way forever. I love your channel and content. I appreciate you 💕

[@Linda-pw8gx]

Me too, but I am trying, learning and growing.

[@morbidme7673]

@@Linda-pw8gx proud of you!! ❤️ We can do it 🙂

[@Mohammedangel2999]

I was rejected by Felipe

[@btevr]

I don't comment on KZbin videos very often, but I just wanted to thank you guys for everything that you do. Your content has helped me a lot in my mental health journey :')

[@jolesliewhitten6545]

I’m retired and now am inclined to procrastinate. Love it!

[@kevinkawe]

Im experiencing all the 7 signs as long as i can remember!!! I really dont know how to deal with it. It is really affecting my life in every single aspects

[@Psych2go]

Have you been seeking help or coaching of any form for this?

[@moneytime1556]

Medication will be a big help for you im on and it and changed my life.

[@mvng5231]

"unworthy of love or friendship" this hit hard for me.

[@FireRafa90]

I've always been aware of my low self esteem but never related with this video this accurately and because of that, its been affecting my whole life, pretty sure the same as everyone else here.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

1) procrastination 2) negative self talk-definitely describes me! 3) isolation-I feel isolated at times when I’m in public 4) people pleasing 5) perfectionism 6) being unable to accept compliments!

[@raulremesalvanmerode4458]

Well all this sounds like me A LOT! I always feel like other people are always cooler, more interesting, better than me. Sometimes I see myself as a great person, but mostly I feel inferior. It honestly makes me cry sometimes. I just don't know if I'll ever be able to live the life I want to.

[@k024x]

I can see myself in most of the points. I got over the one or other, but everyone else seems to see much more in me than I do even if I always reached anything that was necessary or that I wanted. It gets better over the years but I can see how much easier it could be with more confidence in yourself - try to tell yourself that you can do it and that you can afford being seen by others. If someone makes a compliment, just say "thank you" and nothing else. At least that's what helps me.

[@samuelebincoletto637]

I can literally relate in all of these points, i have high-functioning autism and i have low self-esteem also because i feel i've been too cuddled because of my disorder and i feel i've never struggled and achieved anything.

[@mattrixuseither8187]

I worry I am high functioning autistic. I was raised by an undiagnosed bi-polar single parent, who I believe played a decent part in setting the bar of my self-esteem.

[@samuelebincoletto637]

@@mattrixuseither8187 Do something i should have done a long time ago, train yourself to be self-sufficient, this might help you a lot.

[@mysustainabilityjourney9321]

It is such hard work being a relative of someone with low self esteem. All encouragement seems to be ignored, even though you really care about the person and want them to be happy. I feel powerless to help them as they just constantly refuse any encouragement or support, always refusing to go out despite constantly offering them a door to door taxi and paying for it, just to see them happy. I think the only thing they can do is help themselves. I do love them.

[@platinumstilettos4331]

7 HABITS OF PEOPLE WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM : 1. 0:34 PROCRASTINATION 2. 1:12 PASSIVITY 3. 2:03 NEGATIVE SELF TALK 4. 2:45 ISOLATION 5. 3:27 PEOPLE PLEASING 6. 4:05 PERFECTIONISM 7. 4:41 BEING UNABLE TO ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS

[@triconcert]

When you're an artist, there's always a hint of perfectionism in all we do. I hope I don't confuse that with low self-esteem. We know when to stop. Painting's done!

[@Panzerfaust-ux8xb]

As well as a sort of need to be validated. However in the case of art it craves an audience doesn't it? It's kinda natural to attempt to share beauty with others. You always find a way to make it better through your eyes.

[@triconcert]

@@Panzerfaust-ux8xb Don't forget the sheer thrill of creating and its therapeutic value while creating. Those motives may override any need for validation since the value comes from within. Yes?

[@Panzerfaust-ux8xb]

@@triconcert Yep you're right! Personally I find it a source of meditation as well as something to remove boredom. Combine it with some good music and you'd feel as glorious as shaping the universe itself! (personally I like pencil drawing mostly)

[@Churrozi]

I can relate to all of this especially #5. Even when I don't what to do someone asks me to do, I do it to please them.

[@reinchelseyo_]

Surprisingly, I somewhat relate to all of these, not really into the second one. But, 4:41? - This is one of my biggest struggles. I appreciate all those who say positive things about me, it's just.. where am I even going to start? I can't even explain myself properly. Accepting compliments makes my heart warm, I'm just afraid for those who heard the compliment with me. They might get insecure, or they might even look down at themselves. At the same time, because of my perfectionism, I don't really notice that I actually make people proud, or impressed, since I like everything, to work on how I want it to be.

[@organiseduser7216]

If you were bullied pretty much your entire childhood, is it even possible to get rid of your self-esteem issues eventually? I read so many books about it and it got little better, I feel. I hate it. I can't even meet an online friend in person I've been texting to since three years. I'd act too insecure. It would be nothing but awkward ...

[@dawnblair6656]

I was bullied my whole childhood and then I met a narssist which made it worse I managed to go to college and do chef's course which sorted me out, but the head chef abused me and I was back to square 1. Now I feel like you and don't know how to get out of it, sorry that you're feeling that way too😘🫤xx

[@thiefbug2]

You can get out of it. While I still have a good amount of symptoms shown in the video, I now try to tackle things head on ... It took me roughly 5 years of therapy to get there, but eventually I did. Trying to think of the options and their effect in the long run is what I do to bypass that now - so if I'm not sure whether to contact someone, I start thinking what the worst case would be ... And usually that is it being awkward and validating what my previous thoughts were. However, not doing anything at all will ultimately also validate those thoughts which will just make it harder the next time (the thought of the worst case scenario will as well and be more present, but the outcome is the same) I know just reading this isn't gonna solve anything in its own, but there are ways ... They all just require a looot of courage

[@whatisaheck]

idk man i was bullied all my younger years and people treat me way different now but it doesn’t help the nagging voices are still there. i’m just growing to accept that this may just be a part of me now and just work through those moments when they come up instead of trying to make them all go away

[@MissSirenita]

Hi, I’ve been bullied and abused since childhood. All my life, I’ve been abused. And it still even happens now tbh. It kind of sucks. It is exhausting to feel the self hate, and it is painful. You feel like you’re in a room made of bricks with no way out. It’s also lonely. You may even feel guilty finding moments to celebrate in achievements so you self sabotage. Here’s the thing though, I’m going to cognitive and behavioral therapy. And since then, I’ve learned to love myself a little more and then that ends up increasing. There are moments I go back to self hating, but I have now been able to counter it. I can’t give advice on my process because it’s different for everybody. It’s taking me years to accomplish and it felt like it took forever to get where I am now. I’m proud of myself, but the journey was tough and emotional. It is worth it, though. And it is possible to learn self love through trauma therapy and help. Reading books alone is not going to help, but it is a start. There are many resources out there and solutions. I’m nowhere near perfect with the self love part, but it’s a start. I learned to practice boosting myself up even if I don’t believe it because over time, you’ll actually begin to believe it if you say it enough. I also discovered which self compliments I like and don’t like. I am now a brave, strong, and striving individual who refuses to give up. I hope the best for you. And remember these: don’t listen to that toxic “just be happy” positive you see a lot, don’t compare yourself to others because everybody’s journey is different, don’t feel ashamed if you feel behind because that’s okay and everybody’s different, don’t feel bad if you relapse here and there no matter how often as it is not a linear path, and you only fail if you don’t try.

[@gigibanks5258]

💕

[@DHARK1873]

Unfortunately, I have all. It’s interesting though that so far my BEST HELP to stop the negative self-talk REQUIRES isolation. Because the only way for me to not have the negative parts of me thrown back in my face is for no one to have to SEE them.

[@charlotte_stevens]

I just absolutely LOVE the narrator's voice! So smooth and soothing. This channel offers good content, the videos are not too long so I don't loose interest! I have anxiety and PTSD, I find this channel so incredibly helpful and this woman's voice is devine! Thank you! ❤️🥰❤️

[@nick27march]

Once a motivating person.. Was absorbed in Low self esteem.. But I promise You... One day I'll overcome 🙂

[@変態男-o2p]

Wish you the best until then. 🤍

[@nick27march]

@@変態男-o2p Thanks Man. Very soon... I'll be an example to the society. Will set 🔥🚒

[@neor1600]

goodluck

[@NathalieLazo]

Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️

[@gigibanks5258]

Amen! I totally agree with you!

[@jonathanforsyth8422]

@@gigibanks5258 🥰

[@umbrascitor2079]

I appreciate the phrase "whatever you're _growing_ through." Whether it was intended to be that word or not, it's a good framework.

[@NathalieLazo]

@@umbrascitor2079 Yes, the framework was intentional :) Thank you for seeing the value of the message! I appreciate you ~Love Nat

[@NathalieLazo]

@@gigibanks5258 Amen! You're the best, Gigi!

[@davidgonzalez1535]

Yes, I struggle with seeing my self-worth. It sucks. Trying to balance confidence and humility is tough. It’s like I’m sabotaging myself by assuming that people will negatively judge me regardless of what I do. I should add that I can relate to a lot of the things listed in this video.

[@Linda-pw8gx]

David, this makes me sad to hear this, however we can’t change other people but we can change ourselves! Stay positive in this hard world.

[@davidgonzalez1535]

@@Linda-pw8gx Thanks Linda. Same to you. Part of my problem, as well, is that I’m too much of a people pleaser.

[@monolinny1817]

Hope you're feeling better and know you're not going through this alone. I notice I'm a people pleaser/think lowly of myself and compare alot, and I think it's time for me to change. We're all in it together. Stay strong!

[@calliemoon3337]

Another problem that is common but they didn't mention is constantly apologizing even if it doesn't matter. It's something that I used to do so much that my friends lovingly joke with me that I'm not allowed to say sorry anymore 😅

[@VegimorphtheMovieBoy]

Yep, I definitely fall under the procrastination, negative self-talk, Isolation, and People Pleasing categories.I kept beating myself up for constantly making mistakes, always feeling like an incompetent burden that always gets in the way of others, and not being "where I'm supposed to be by now" in recent years. Been trying to combat that lately, but it's not been easy.

[@Crystal_Sky_]

Me relating to all the facts - "Shit!!! I gotta think positive and have some self esteem, I'm sabotaging my own self by saying negative things about my own self,I'm procastina and blaming the circumstances for my failure, That's wrong." Thank you so much for the video,I've learned a lesson.

[@lorainemabute6171]

This just describes the entirety of myself. Just thinking about how i did all those and here i thought im more confident. I barely scratched the surface.

[@confuseduck227]

Manifesting for everyone who is trying tO build themselves for the better. We all got this

[@SoloSammy2]

I have been isolated for 4 years and still am now, I worry too much about the world that I overthink every situation I'm in. This video wraps up almost everything about me 🤧

[@yvonnetomlinmiller]

So sorry to hear, At least you know have insight, you are not your thoughts you are just observer them so you can choose. This is your gift as a human, practise and respond to in full the thoughts that are coming up! I hope this helps

[@lesliewells1062]

Great video! The first five definitely describe how I live, the last two--I gave up on trying to be perfect a long time ago and I finally, forced myself to accept compliments. At first it was hard, I would just say thank you, but inside I didn't really believe what the person said was true. But now, I actually sincerely accept compliments and actually believe them. It was a process, but I'm finally able to do it. Love your videos. I think I am going to take this list to my next therapy appt. We've already been talking about a lot of this stuff, but it will facilitate some more good conversations with her. Thank you!!

[@sage9634]

I always beat myself up for procrastinating, and I’m definitely a people pleaser…. Thank you for helping me be a little more aware of my mental health

[@munkeefinkelbeen5395]

Struggled with each of these at different times, and still do. Thanks for sharing this video :)

[@dawn8288]

People pleasing does burn you out,it’s exhausting!Slowly turning this around in my life, making positive changes.

[@dmtdreamz7706]

- We live in a world where the threats that we face are probabilistic: Terrorists might attack. The economy might nose dive, right? These are 'probabilistic dangers.' The problem is, the brain's designed not to turn off the fear response until a danger is gone completely. But probabilistic dangers never are gone completely so we tend to be a little more hyperreactive. So how do you tune up the nervous system rather than having to reach for psychopharmaceuticals? I often define 'peak performance' as getting our biology to work for us rather than against us. What I'm really talking about are the systems underneath what we call motivation, learning, creativity, and flow. 'Flow' is an optimized state of consciousness where we feel our best and we perform our best. The research says there are three tools you can reach for: Gratitude has really precise impacts on the brain and anxiety. I like to write down 10 things that I'm grateful for and I write down each one three times. Gratitude is literally you're just pointing out to the brain things that have already happened that are good. And it tilts this ratio so we're taking in a lot less negative stuff. This, by the way, lets more novel stuff come through. Gratitude can work as a 'flow trigger' that way. The second one is mindfulness- 11 minutes a day of mindfulness practice. You know, follow your breath, focus meditation basically, is enough to really calm down your nervous system, make you less emotional-reactive. Your third option is exercise- 20 to 40 minutes worth of exercise is enough. And if you're exercising for mental hygiene, right, for cognition, and I wanna get into flow, you wanna exercise until basically the voice in your head gets really quiet and your lungs open up. Both things happen because there's a global release of nitric oxide, it's a gaseous, signaling molecule that's sort of everywhere in the body. One of the things it does is it flushes stress hormones out of your system. It'll reset the nervous system sort of back to baseline, back to zero. When I talk about peak performance, we always emphasize 'cognitive literacy': understanding what's going on in the brain and the body when we're performing at our very best. Now this is difficult in the modern world because most of us tend to be a little hyperanxious. Daily problems that we all deal with- anxiety, depression, right? We now know, for example, that a 20-minute walk in the woods will outperform most antidepressants on the market. If you take a walk in a part of nature where you haven't been before, you're not only gonna get serotonin, that calming chemical, you're gonna get the dopamine from novelty and complexity and unpredictability. So you're gonna get some feel good, happy juice and some calm. And these are great tools to be able to reach for in times of stress rather than having to reach for psychopharmaceuticals. On a certain level, we have a drug store in our brain, the neurochemicals that show up in flow: so dopamine, norepinephrine, anandamide, endorphins, and serotonin. If you were to try to cocktail the street drug version of that, right, you're trying to blend like heroin and speed and coke and acid and weed- and point is, you can't do it. It turns out the brain can cocktail all of 'em at once, which is why people will prefer flow to almost any experience on Earth. It's our favorite experience. It's the most addictive experience on Earth. Why? 'Cause it cocktails five or six of the largest pleasure drugs the brain can produce. We're all capable of so much more than we know. That is a commonality across the board. That's the largest lesson that 30 years in studying peak performance has taught me. And one of the big reasons is we're all hardwired for flow, and flow is a massive amplification of what's possible for ourselves.

[@haroldfarfanreto]

I've never think about procrastination as a low self-esteem habit, but now it make a lot of sense.

[@chisaten]

Isolation is a big thing for myself, but I don't feel I can do much about it. After living in Phoenix for 20 years, I moved to a small town area. I tried a lot of groups, yet all but of them have fallen through or had bad effects that were so strong that I had to quit. That's left with occasionally taking myself out to lunch and doing one casual group every other week. Besides that, I'm stuck at home with my elderly parents. Another problem is I have to isolate myself at home because I have hyperacusis (extreme sound sensitivity) whereas my father has bad hearing loss and is in denial about his hearing problems. He frequently does loud noises that surprise me and make me stop breathing and have to get away from him, but he tries to argue that he was being quiet and apologises just for the sake of it without any meaning.

[@nanomachine]

This fits me perfectly. Recently I have been overwhelmed by praise at work and yet I feel like they’re are just trying to be nice.

[@BruceC1]

I'm by myself all the time....(unless I'm hanging with my son) Girls never say what it is.. yall hit the wrong spot on purpose.. I believebut it's a real problem, . I'm becoming a new person...so I'm figuring this out.

[@M_m_24]

Okay I gotta admit I never wanted to admit but I really have a low self-esteem which is effecting my daily life and making me feel bad about myself I’ve been avoiding everything and I’m burnt out I really need to start practicing self positive talk and i should work on my confidence perfectionism is a bad thing we’re humans we make mistakes if we want to improve we should keep trying we should keep pushing ourselves hard and hard to get better i used to be confident about myself but after I grew up I lost it which is a bad thing thank you so much for making this video hopefully i will be able to regain back my confidence

[@Hasna-td7jf]

I have always been a person of low self esteem but I'm slowly learning to be more confident I guess

[@Stick_Nodes.]

Man, I can relate to low self-esteem procrastination and passivity and self negativity talk, I find trying to balance between my career and having fun with friends and I thank you for the video

[@Royalscriber5633]

I can see a lot of that in myself and believe my biggest fault is procrastinating. The isolation one I'd blame on circumstance though due to lack of time and personally preferring to be alone more often. I like hanging with friends but anxiety kicks in if we just sit around and talk eventually leading to me just being on my phone most of the time and not really hanging. Always good to have an activity like games for that situation but not everyone wants to do the same things

[@SheriffBigbyWolf]

I'm a perfectionist; but not because I'm afraid of criticism, but because I seek perfection in life And I don't accept compliments because they are usually not genuine

[@quantaviousealy3675]

So informative! I know my self esteem was low, and I always thought it was me not having certain qualities or materialistic things. But now I understand the root cause. Thanks ❤️

[@dardafnespece6374]

I have long periods of low self-esteem and long periods of high self-esteem and it's hard for me to find equilibrium. In this moment I'm really happy with myself but I can relate with everything in the video because it let me remember months of school anxious and problems.

[@larrytolson4135]

My mom called me a procrastinator once. And I said, “Oh, yeah? Well, you just wait…” 🤭

[@crxtube187]

Lmao

[@juanrubio6132]

Wow, I just got this video recommended to me and describes everything about my life. I am almost at tears. I feel lost.

[@minermole101]

I think low self esteem has struck me hard during my first (and so far only) year of teaching this past school year. But of everything mentioned in this video, I think the people-pleasing side of me got the best of me, especially with students, parents, a particular teacher from a different campus in the same district, and administration.

[@jacquelinemarie8129]

I can totally relate! I was a first year teacher this past year and it was really challenging. I experienced many of the things mentioned in my video.

[@ssjcybersonic9255]

Perfectionism is what caused me to stop drawing almost entirely. Instead of working on things that need improving, I see those things as lack of skill and just get more depressed at not being able to draw what I envision. Dang it.

[@Machi74005]

My life took a turn towards this at age 20.....now I'm 55.

[@ACleverName4Me]

Yes I do. I people please a lot and for the last 3 weeks I have overwhelmed myself because of it. I also am a teacher and I always find myself regretting what I have said during the day or through the week. At the end of every day I always want to hide in my bedroom instead of playing cards with my family which we do basically 5 times a week. It is hard and when my dad or brother tells me they are proud I always look down and feel like I shouldn't be praised because it took me almost 7 years to get through college. I'm really trying to find the steps I need to raise my confidence over time to better my mental image of myself. This video did help me identify things I need to work on so thanks a lot!.❤

[@audeeophile]

I manage to fit into all of these habits, yet I've never considered them all to fall under having low self-esteem (though I've also never considered all of these points holistically). Despite having ideas and the tools to make things, I don't commit to starting anything properly, so I've just got dozens of voice memos and random files of audio and clips of music and I've just procrastinated constantly. Same idea for passivity - I'll take opportunities but only if they're handed to me simply. I keep to myself in my room most days, I always try to please others, I very rarely ever settle for something being less than perfect, I don't take compliments well most times - so yeah, these fit me fairly well. While negative self-talk has been a large part of me before, I think I'm improving there, and I'm trying to improve myself in all these other aspects too. Maybe, now that I've seen these traits as all coming under the umbrella of low self-esteem, I can try to fix them and adapt myself to improve. Thanks for the realisation, Psych2Go.

[@joycejeong-x4b]

Understanding that setting positive goals contributes significantly to self-esteem was a key takeaway from this video. I am now working towards personal goals, finding a sense of achievement and building my self-esteem.

[@ClefairyFairySnowflake]

It might be a good idea to do a video on how to boost self esteem. I really need that right now.

[@ritaaaaaaa]

ok i have all of this, i do have low self esteem. but i have been trying to improve my mindset and personality and myself in general, i feel like im getting there little by little!! believe in yourself !!

[@aina_rv]

As a person with low self-esteem, depression, anxiety and overthinking I can say that every point is my daily life. But I can handle it so far. I'm okay

[@gigibanks5258]

💕

[@sigrid.koppel]

Im happy to find out that I only find one of these relatable and that was perfectionism.

[@Noname-1695]

Those who have low self esteem are the ones who you can see judging others. I know a lot of them. 😁 BTW, thank you for this Ma'am, this is so educational! 🙂

[@YannickLB]

all these points are freakishly nuanced. i do almost all of them very frequently, except for pleasing people and overworking, and ive never had low self esteem problems. for some it's a conscious decision to live like that because they feel at peace.

[@Abfallkannibale]

This hits home for quite a few things, I guess. To be honest, I struggle with what is real about my well-being and what might be "made up for attention or self-pitty", as my mom called it. So who knows, right? Maybe all of my struggles are normal and common and I'm just not willing to accept that. What about our cognitive and emotional understanding is real afterall, right? I'm gonna see myself out. Sorry.

[@emperialempath1022]

Wow I’ve really come a long way from where I used to be… I can say I’m still battling with procrastination on many things from time to time but overall my self esteem has drastically improved

[@shiningamaterasu2579]

Even when i try to better my self essteem the world punches back 1000x fold, to those struggling you can get better, I however can not

[@a1gamer577]

I feel so unwanted, I'm 36 I've lost all my friends I have no close family members and I lost my little girl 4years ago when she was 10 ,her mum then left me and now I just work a dead end job with nobody to love...but I wake up every morning so there must be a reason why I'm here.I believe I was born to live with pain so ima make the best of the book that was written for me.

[@ives3572]

"Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on." - Maxwell Maltz

[@elizabethwalsh3279]

Something that always helps me whenever I’m feeling depressed or bad about myself is music, specifically spiritual music. I’m a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and I find that the song “Devine” always helps me find my self worth. It’s a great song and I encourage anyone who is feeling bad about themselves to listen to this song and know that you are amazing. You are perfect just the way you are.

[@mikeschuett339]

I' m guilty of all these. I'm in therapy and working to get better but I pretty much grew up this way.

[@matinhero7071]

the art style of these videos you're making is so freaking cute and adorable

[@shawnaisme226]

I can relate to so much of this the fact is actually kind of depressing in itself. Here are my reasons for being positive I have low self-esteem: 1. I used to be bullied at school about the way I looked and also the way I acted. A lot of other people called me ugly and stupid so many times that I had begun to personally agree with them that it was true. So whenever anyone told me the opposite was true in a compliment, I would often think, they're my mother, grandmother, aunt, cousin, etc. They have to tell me these things. 2. I also had this one person in my family (my Dad), who used to scream at me whenever I struggled with something, most especially math homework that I was left in tearful and sobbing hysterics beginning at a pretty early age. One of my Aunts used to hate that he did this and even tried to push my mother to intervene. But all my my Mom would say then was, "Well what do you expect me to do?" 3. It didn't help at all that even some teachers seemed to be picking on me. Eighth grade was probably the worst school year I had ever had to suffer through for that kind of thing. I kind of hated Mrs. Manzo. 4. I used to get criticized for supposedly 'talking too much about things no one even cares about,' so, I began talking less and less to people in what I believed was a form of self defense. 5. Whenever I dared to express to anyone any dreams I had for my future, I was often told that I would be unable to accomplish that, it's a pipe dream, you'd never be interested enough or have what it takes to carry it through to get it off the ground, or even the always confidence-boosting: shut up, smarten the hell up, and be realistic. Note the sarcasm. So, now I don't express any dreams at all. I just let whatever happens to me happen. 6. There are still some people I know, I won't mention who, who still believe I am too stupid to ever amount to much of anything in life. They even talked about it to other people behind my back. 7. Apparently it's like, pulling teeth, to get me to actually communicate with people. 8. My Dad is the kind of person who always expected me to keep everything bottled up inside and shut away. If I ever mentioned any problem I had at home to anyone at all, it was this massive insult to him and it would be like WWIII at home. 9. My younger sister actually left home after this one massive blowup between her and my Dad occured, back when she was like 17 or 18, and she wants nothing to do with him to this day. I sometimes wished I had just up and left too, and sometimes wondered what might have been if this happened, or that didn't happen, or something happened differently. 10. I don't have many close friends, and am often too afraid to open myself up to making new ones. Probably owing to the fact that I was often told that most people in the world can't be trusted and that anyone who does something for someone, purely out of the kindness of their heart, even strictly among family is a sucker and a loser. A certain someone said this about an aunt and uncle regarding a cousin I have very recently. It's my own complicated lot to bear in life, I guess.

[@Directorof07]

I can imagine each circumstance that you mentioned would and has taken its toll on you. It’s okay to feel the emotions that you do and the mere fact that you can articulate the building blocks to how and where you are means that you can (with help) tear those walls down to improve in whichever way you see fit and is healthy. I believe in you. You can do it.

[@lisamay5649]

I encourage you to GET SIME THERAPY! It's NOT YOUR FAULT that you feel this way, especially given the LACK OF NURTURING AND LOVE you got from your parents! A therapist can help you process those feelings and help you learn how to POSITIVELY PARENT yourself so you can heal emotionally from your childhood upbringing and to build solid self-esteem. I wish you the very best! 💖

[@ashakheewilliams6027]

I relate to procrastinating, being passive, negative self talk, and isolating myself all to well😔

[@landon9907]

Personally, if the me of 3 or 4 months ago had seen the video, I would surely identify with most of the things said, for years I have had low self-esteem, I have always had a hard time communicating with others and several problems caused by my relationship with my family, but over time I have learned to improve and being with my friends has encouraged me to do more things, it has helped me a lot, although I would not say that now I feel good about myself, but I would not say that I feel bad about myself either Now I would just say I'm somewhere in the middle, I'm just ok.

[@Doll_ie]

Ngl I hate the fact that I legit do all of this, it’s crazy how past traumatic experiences have caused me to be this way. The perfectionists part hits home as I have some family members I actually can’t get away from right now who refuse to see anything good I do and rather focus on all my mistakes and make it seem like I have no excuses and compare me to others, it’s taken a whole toll on me for the past 5 years, though I’m happy someone like you Psych2Go understands truly what others have to go through. Sometimes videos like these keep me going and set me in a better path, thanks.

[@emilyevans6989]

For everyone out there with self esteem issues, hang in there, because you DO COUNT, and you DO MATTER! Work a little every day on loving yourself more. You’ve made it through ALL of the worst days you’ve had so far, and that’s SOMETHING! Even on the days you think you’re a mess, you hang in there. Self esteem takes PRACTICE! ❤️

[@sonicfan2403]

This is me! This is all me! I can't ever keep myself to focus on reading everything my classes want me to and can't help but keep myself on assignments even if I can make mistakes.