10 Signs You Lack Self Love

Do you struggle with self-confidence and self love? Self love is loving yourself. Are you someone who is wondering how to self love? Self love affects us from the way we view ourselves, to the decisions we make, to even relationships we have. Without self love, we get into toxic relationships, toxic habits, and even having depression. If you or a friend or someone you care about seems to lack self love, consider sharing this video with them. The first step towards change is self awareness.
Also, if you relate to this video, we've also done a video previously on some self care tips you can apply in your life when you feel broken: • 5 Self Care Tips When ...
Writer: Sid Thompson
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Maxine Gando
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Arylo, C. (2019, February 12). 5 Signs You Lack Self-Love. Retrieved from www.medium.com/thrive-global/5-signs-you-lack-self-love-b3ae3e58e7d7
Arylo, C. (2017, February 26). 12 Signs You Lack Self Love. Retrieved from www.huffpost.com/entry/12-signs-you-lack-self-lo_b_9329236
Dornelly, A. G. (2014, July 04). Eight key signs that you are lacking in self-love. Retrieved from www.lifecoach-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/8-key-signs-that-you-are-lacking-in-self-love
Love, T. P. (2018, April 24). Do You Love Yourself? 5 Signs That You Lack Self
Love. Retrieved from www.pathofselflove.org/2017/02/do-you-love-yourself/
Partridge, J. (2018, April 18). 5 Signs You Are Lacking Self Love. Retrieved from www.jenniferpartridge.com/5-signs-you-are-lacking-self-love/
Sewell, B. (2020, February 29). The 69 most common signs of low self-worth. Retrieved from www.increasingselfworth.com/69-signs-of-low-self-worth/
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[@charmainen8475]

When this is the only test you've ever scored 100% on...

[@longredroad4249]

lol..

[@neroz6430]

Grades aren’t everything you know my brother is one of the most amazingly smart people. He struggles with school subjects but if anything needs to be put together or fixed he can just look at it and understand how it works and how to put it together or fix it

[@naragrace3870]

Infinite Dragon thanks for the example of your brother! I’m trying to get out of this toxic mindset right now and this really helped!

[@lucisventusnoctis]

Ouch felt that

[@felixneumayer9823]

I can relate :/

[@farihahfawi]

me: [already knows that i lack self-love] also me: mhm interesting, let’s watch this and see if i REALLY lack self-love

[@danae.stardoll7947]

And end up getting sadder

[@maepeterson7197]

And then do nothing about it 🥳

[@watermelonbee2609]

Danae. Stardoll yes ;w;

[@watermelonbee2609]

Mae Peterson yeah TwT

[@NickTheAwsome100]

did you check off all of the signs like i did?

[@yalo3162]

Okay, I get it. “Be yourself”. But honestly, idk who the real me is. Without anyone else around to bias my actions, I wouldn’t know what I’d do.

[@rox3162]

Same I don't know the real me I'm just so confusing-

[@jadapoole3625]

That's why you need Jesus; only He can give you your identity because He created you. He knows His plan for you, your strengths, your weaknesses and your personality. Jeremiah 29:11

[@jadapoole3625]

@@rox3162 God created you. If you want to know who you are, ask God. Father God in the name of Jesus I pray that you show this person who you created this person to be. I pray Lord that you teach the person reading this how to love his or herself and to know you personally in Jesus name Amen. God loves you. He created you. Through knowing Him, you will know yourself more.

[@jadapoole3625]

@@simplyxstqr6 If you want to know yourself more, ask God. He created you. Pray this prayer: Father God in the name of Jesus I pray that you reveal Yourself unto me. Show me who you created me to be. I know that you have a plan to prosper me plans of good and not of evil plans to give me a hope and a future. Lord I pray that you show me myself in your eyes so that my love for You and myself may grow in Jesus name Amen.

[@rox3162]

@@jadapoole3625 :o this is so sweettttt!!!! Thank youuuu ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jellybe3591]

“You feel inferior to others”... This hit me real hard. No matter how hard I try to stop comparing myself to others I still do it. It’s seems like it’s impossible for me to get rid of this horrible mindset of -“everybody’s better then you”, “your opinion worth nothing” and my favourite “no matter how hard you work it’s never enough”. I would never wish such a combination to anyone... it’s truly awful to live like that but I’m trying my best to fight it. If there’s anyone who went through this I would like to hear your suggestions on how to fight it more effectively. Best wishes to y’all Ps: it’s been two years since I wrote it and I never could have guessed that so many people would respond to it. At the time I was at my lowest and my future seemed uncertain and dark. I thought that I’ll always feel this way about myself. But everything changed. To all of you people going through this - I believe in you! I know that each and every one of you are more than capable to reach this beautiful state of mind. This absolute peace. When you don’t judge nor blame yourself for mistakes, when you don’t compare yourself, when you are happy to be you and love yourself so much you don’t want to ever hurt yourself again like this. This is more than possible, there is a way out of this. It might take time, like it was for me, but it worth all the waiting. Send you lots of love and warm hugs💕

[@Magdood]

Damn, I sort of relate this to myself because everyone around me is constantly better than me. They’re always smarter than me, always funnier, always more enjoyable..and overall more happy than me. I always feel inferior and lesser than them, and I tried to do better yet I failed. It’s nice to see someone dealing with the same issue as me, and I wish you luck with it. I’m planning on seeing a therapist to see if they can help, so I suggest going to one as well yo see if they can often any help. Best of luck to ya stranger.

[@jellybe3591]

@@Magdood thanks. No chance to see therapist, but I’m working on this problem myself. And I’ve got to say it’s getting better. Wish you to get better too

[@branen890]

You lack of self-confidience that way you have that feel that others are better than you. In reallty you are worthy like other people around you.

[@xem_ity]

I always tell myself “I’m a background character in my own story”, I always compare myself to one of my few friends, she’s smarter, more experienced, prettier, nicer, more popular, happier, everything! She’s just the person I could’ve became if I didn’t just ruin everything by being a lazy rude ass. We were even born on the same day, which is kinda funny.

[@jellybe3591]

@@xem_ity I remember comparing myself to my bf. We were the two best students in our class and we used to compete all the time. We never spoke about this competition out loud but it always pressured me. But I used this competition as a motivation and it actually worked pretty great for me. I know that everyone is different but I hope that it would possibly be helpful. And I also wanted to say that it doesn’t matter if you’re the same age. It doesn’t change the fact that you’re different and wonderful in your own way. So love yourself and be the main character in your own story. Best wishes (p.s. I know that my motivational speech might sound ridiculous coming from someone who’s struggling from self esteem problems. But despite that fact my words were sincere.)

[@alexc4227]

"10 signs you lack self love" 1. You clicked on this video Mom im famous

[@sammiesisland1487]

Definitely 😂

[@flamingoblue9376]

Alex c yeah..

[@mauliparmar.]

It's true and sad at the same time 😨🤧🤧

[@TanmayyPednekar]

😂🤣

[@hafsahussein365]

Okay but why you gotta be so loud 💀

[@alyssa8658]

Summary: 1. You hide your true self from others. 2. You over-analyze your own behavior. 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others. 4. You struggle with physical and mental self-care. 5. You feel inferior to others. 6. You're too hard on yourself. 7. You lack confidence. 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention. 9. You have difficult and unstable relationships. 10. You settle for less.

[@LittleFlowerluv]

Alyssa *crying emoji* IT ME ugghhh

[@maorlivni6450]

goddamit

[@lofiwackpainting7439]

Most of this is a direct description of me oof

[@user-ec4nt2es8y]

1,2,3,4,5,6,7,9,10 all those are true for me

[@krystine6042]

I’m 1 2 3 4 6 7 9 10 and 8

[@sridam8409]

I don’t even know what my true self is anymore...

[@amberleyah3047]

Me either

[@shelbydickerson302]

Does anyone else watch these while crying because you relate to it but to scared to ask for help because your to scared to ask for help because you don't want people to change the way they look at you

[@stefanyter]

Me🥺

[@jess6119]

It's about taking the step. It's a lot easier for me to tell other ppl advice than myself. It helped me when i started listening to my own advice. And actually trying like it feels bad and wrong coz I've been like this for so long. But push through it.

[@juiceju9345]

24/7

[@shelbydickerson302]

thank you for the encouragement and the support and I hope you have a good day and one thing that helped me with self love even though I'm still struggling with it is the cursed princess club on webtoon

[@juiceju9345]

@@shelbydickerson302 oo i’ll check it out

[@modupebankole4231]

When you realise you’ve been in a dark place since elementary school

[@ketchumuu]

I have been here since I was like 14

[@gabrieldossantossanta5656]

I kinda born there

[@hellogoodbye11923]

Gabriel Dos Santos Santa I feel that :(

[@melanietoliver3344]

Yea nobody really cares...... 😬😂😪🙆

[@emmiegamer1016]

@@gabrieldossantossanta5656 Yeh me too

[@michaela_corinne]

I can’t even be my real self in my journal...

[@stoofypoof7998]

Hang in there! kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqOQo2traq6Lpbs

[@shriyarane8745]

same... i just don't want anyone to read it so i dont write everything

[@yuri6642]

@@shriyarane8745 me too. my parents or friends sometimes sneek on my journal. that's why i started to stop writing all of my thoughts and feelings and just memorized them lmao

[@shriyarane8745]

@@yuri6642 twinsies

[@mq837]

Oh my gosh. Even when im alone trying to be honest with myself, i still catch myself questioning if this is really the real me

[@imahallucination4532]

“You hide your true self from others “ Gurl I don’t even *know* my true self

[@peridotlionwilliamkrakau3772]

Same pal same.

[@s4yorii586]

I do but I hide it

[@atteranenforcer5263]

Pretty sure my true self moved away once elementary school was over and forgot to take me with him... 25 years and STILL trying to find what I want/need/desire...and still no luck.

[@yitomusic8897]

actually happy to see that Im not alone

[@tezasvichowdary1292]

True..till now i guess i was in illusion tht i love myself ..and practising self love but didn't knew so many things i was doing to get into the field i want and putting myself into unnecessary issues

[@NWinnVR]

Self love feels like something only narcissists do. Every time I try it just feels so forced and fake...

[@harshaldange]

True, I hate that feeling

[@Picca65]

Take it slow. It helps me to take 1 little step at a time and be honest and open about my insecurities about it qith somw good friends. They offer me honest feedback so I know if I can go a bit further. You also could do rhis qith a coach or therapist.

[@mimyeko894]

I feel like I'd become a narcissist if I ever loved myself...

[@maddy4690]

Yeah I have that feeling too. When I was 16, there were ppl on social media ( school friends whom I hated) saying love yourself and stuff, I felt like stop doing this bullshit. When people fantasize looking in mirror, feeling pretty, I felt that all a bullshit.

[@maddy4690]

For me, it feels forced, fake and most importantly cringey too.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” ― Ernest Hemingway

[@lhtyeehaw1319]

I never found myself to begin with

[@ginalentil3557]

This is me before breaking up with someone after 12 years

[@luxdavid2.027]

I see you everywhere

[@themightyryden4458]

Goddamn that hits hard, thank you for sharing

[@LoriCiani]

@@ginalentil3557 12 years? Try 20 years of marriage and 2 children. That tends to tear the heart out of you. Especially when the ex cuts the children out of his life in favour of his girlfriend's family. He doesn't even know his own grandchildren. I loved my ex way too much.

[@Sunshine-.-.]

Everyone : jUst Be yoUrsElf Me being myself Everyone: oMg u nEEd tO cHaNge Then people wonder why self hate and low self esteem at an all time high

[@fabiyashah6299]

People really suck 😒

[@fabiyashah6299]

I'm also struggling too but that's called being yourself right !

[@clintdona4586]

Sunshine Me, someone with Asperger’s: *is myself* Everyone: “Wait no stop”

[@arisay1460]

Sunshine Same to me

[@joeyjointjebaiter1275]

People dont tell you to change. They only tell you to fit in with society

[@sivakumarsubramaniam2388]

This is a very serious problem that the entire world is suffering.

[@madelynwood2600]

Soooo, apparently I hate myself, and I bottle up my emotions, I have social anxiety, think my friends would have a better time without me, and I mask my personality 😅 I thought that was just a part of being an introvert

[@cornelj.]

Same !!

[@Cowkitty_]

We should be friends cuz thats exactly how i act :>

[@nope...6217]

So we living the same life 🤨

[@alcifica]

Same!!!

[@tasfiasr8890]

Bro! Same!!!

[@imgonnaparkjimininmygarage368]

It's okay to shed a tear, but don't you tear yourself. -KimNamjoon, moonchild

[@oasis9909]

Are you an army?

[@jaefruit2702]

💜💜💜💜

[@koyoon2310]

namjoon never fails to impress

[@angelynnanimations6226]

That is beautiful-

[@katielamborghini3551]

The secret fans will like your comment, but they are too cowardly to reply to your comment. >:)

[@prettybitch2325]

“Nobody is ugly, we were just born in a judgmental society.” -Kim Namjoon (RM) of BTS)

[@user-hn7nz7eq9l]

Sad but true 😔

[@LuisFlores-tx4ee]

That’s the deepest comment comment from a kpop stan

[@skydawnie7217]

🥺🥺

[@user-hn7nz7eq9l]

@@LuisFlores-tx4ee well... just bc we are kpop stans it doesnt mean we are dumb. We can be crackheads at times... but we are actually very deep and thoughtful 😊

[@rachel3165]

@@LuisFlores-tx4ee yes we probably do seem like weird crackheads but if you got to know is we're are actually pretty introspective at times and we know the importance of self love because bts talks about it all the time

[@brownyuio]

I got a 10/10. Lots of work needs to be done and it WILL be done. Same goes for anyone reading this. You got this ❤️

[@anxiousbaddie444]

thank you

[@rjohnson5845]

Ik

[@beatmonster9586]

I know you posted this a year ago, but I hope whatever you were dealing with is better now!

[@patiencegakii3547]

This is Spirit!❣️

[@jillytot1981]

I always wondered why I couldn't love myself, and then I realized that my definition of love was given to me by my birth family. Their love was conditional. It was toxic love. The only me that could exist was what was allowed to exist. They didn't love me, they loved some version of me that isn't really there. I didn't love my family, i feared them. I feared defying their expectations of who I am because that's how they conditioned me. Fear was living in my heart masquerading as love and destroying anything and everything I could possibly care about for almost 2 decades into my adulthood. I didn't love myself, I feared myself. Because I feared myself, I hated myself. I was never going to feel good about myself because I was always going to have aspects of myself that I hated and / or feared. True love is unconditional. There is no bar you have to pass, or behaviors you need to achieve in order to gain true love. To love yourself unconditionally, is to accept everything about yourself without hesitation or reservation. If you can't do that, you will just keep focusing on that one thing you hate. You have to commit to fully respecting yourself as a person, and loving everything about yourself and everything you do no matter what you do. That doesn't mean anyone else has to love it, and it won't matter. It also doesn't mean you can't improve yourself. You can still have goals and work towards them. It's just if you are always waiting to cross some boundary or achievement to finally start liking yourself, that day will never come. You have to love and accept yourself fully as you are right now, including everything you hate and fear about yourself. You have to realize there is nothing wrong with you, even when you make mistakes. If you are like me, and your definition of love is toxic, then every nice thing anyone ever does will never come across as anything but antagonistic or threatening. You will never be able to accept or receive kindness as kindness from others. It will always feel hollow or manipulative. Every compliment will feel unearned. Every achievement will feel hollow. Pretty much everything in this video will be true for you. Anyway, as someone who has been on this journey, I hope this helps someone. It's nuts when I think about it. Why would I be born to hate myself? What the fuck is that? That doesn't make any sense. I didn't do that! I didn't decide that! I was pretty helpless about it too, until much therapy and work. We have to love ourselves. If there is just one person in your life that you can love, make sure it's you. If you can't love yourself, It's going to be hard to love others, and recieve their love as love.

[@LiterallyJustOVEN]

At least somebody made it out of the hellhole that is depression, anxiety and self-hatred, at least it shows me that it is possible even though therapy does nothing. This made me happy, even though it was for a minute, be happy yourself knowing that you made a 13 year old who has started self harm at the age of 6 happy for a bit.

[@Beast-rq3lt]

Thank you !!! You don't know how much you have helped mee

[@hayden1917]

I thought I loved myself, but I actually feel familiar with most of these signs😬

[@purpleish6194]

how

[@ratcat.2]

Why is this posted two days ago this video isn’t even posted 2 days ago

[@ballsfartpissmychannelisdead]

Wait. Two days ago!? Wth!?

[@tyanamarie7088]

Ikrr😔

[@ava6335]

people with memberships most likely

[@jaykaysdimple9718]

Me: *being myself My mom: act your age Everyone: you’re so annoying Me: *being fake Everyone: why are you so quiet? You should talk more.

[@egg2shells]

relatable

[@rambutan_lychee9255]

To me it's Me *being fake Everyone: **ignoring me** Me: *being real Everyone: Why are you so quiet lately? Are you depressed or something

[@oliviatedder9044]

I just never stopped talking and people get annoyed. Btw don't mind them you're already awesome

[@creativename773]

I never be real Everyone will know my weaknesses and use it against me

[@iremsavruk9724]

yeah that wasnt a problem till last year

[@shuchisanwal9043]

Everybody: watches video for self love. Me: watches video to hear her soothing, calm voice.

[@Norithedawgg]

I watch it for both

[@arifasyaa]

Exactly.. that's one of my reason watches to watches the video XD

[@multifankfpfrontdoorwelcom8696]

Checklist 01: ✅ 02: ✅ 03: ✅ 04: ✅ 05: ✅ 06: ✅ 07: ✅ 08: ✅ 09: ✅ 10: ✅ Self love is too difficult especially when you try to improve but life just slaps you with rejection, disappointment, stress, and depression all at the same time.

[@cheek_ok]

so true, hope you're doing well

[@grometheus4556]

Me: **has all 10 signs** Also me: Thats- that's fine.

[@yuvi6123]

its spelled signs

[@aishatariq3752]

@@yuvi6123 Everyone makes mistakes, you know.

[@yuvi6123]

Aisha Tariq Yes, yes i do know. She spelled it wrong so i pointed it out and now its fixed, i dont see the problem here

[@KaikaiDokeshii]

i have all 10 signs as well TwT

[@stanloonafools4261]

orzo bruh this isn’t a spelling bee 😹

[@allyssadeguzman5344]

I told this to myself all the time, it's time for me to say it to you: "Don't be scared of losing people, be scared of losing yourself pleasing others."

[@katyflame3668]

This is a very true statement.

[@milkz101]

oof... too late

[@kevmasengale6903]

Too late..... How do i fix that?

[@allyssadeguzman5344]

It's not late to fix anything, You still have time to repair yourself, your still breathing.

[@allyssadeguzman5344]

@@kevmasengale6903 Pick yourself little by little, there's still the pieces of you inside. It's just waiting to be found

[@axechop]

I remember years of hating myself *for* not loving myself because I saw self-love as the normal state of being and being unable to cultivate it as a failure. Then I realised the only true road from self-hate to self-love is the long one - through forcing yourself to merely tolerate yourself at first, then to accept, respect,like and finally love yourself. I'm somewhere near the self-acceptance stage now.

[@sidraMPatty]

How did u do it? I'm barely learning that I'm lacking self love so I guess you could say I'm at step zero.

[@upbestsalt1551]

@@sidraMPatty first step to it is self awareness

[@lynbabysusu]

I never knew what is self-love. I thought it was when someone is arrogant and full of themselves. I never knew what is parents “being proud of you” means, or being proud of my achievements means, similar to above, I thought being “proud” also equals being arrogant. Imagine my confusion when my first friend in college, who’s very humble and down-to-earth, mentioned about self-love. Soon after that, I fall into my first severe depression, slowly I came across the term “self-love”, only then what my friend said back then starting to make sense. But no, I’m far from practising it

[@k.t3888]

0. You very often escape to the past. Oh, this is about me 😓

[@purpleish6194]

how

[@ballsfartpissmychannelisdead]

H O W

[@Iloveyou-nx9hu]

Unlisted

[@Chris-mt5qk]

uploaded nine mins ago this was 16 hours ago-

[@astropictures4396]

Same here, its such a comfortable blanket of nostalgia and calm even tho its probably not helpful in the long run

[@HoV326]

"Confidence"? What's that? Some kind of food? What does it taste like? I've never had it before.

[@kingdon7795]

Yeah it's a type of food.

[@riamdiaw6805]

Funny

[@amv_ster425]

Same

[@upvotemd5328]

yeah bro its some kind of food, i cant afford it tho - , -

[@cigxhang486]

Marcelo Saunders I had a confidence crisis (I made the phrase up I think), at that time I didn’t believe there was a single thing about me that I could be proud of

[@bagelbongo8609]

I’ve been a chameleon all my life so I don’t even know if my actual personality is real or not. Or if I even have a personality to begin with. I don’t know who I really am sometimes.

[@maira_gc]

"you have a strong fear of being judged by others" "you feel inferior to others" "you have difficult and unstable relationship" yea.. that me ;w;

[@theinternettrashcan]

me: knows i will relate to all 10 signs also me: watches the video anyway

[@devikavs3152]

I love your channel ❤️ And remember our boys They taught us to love ourselves 💜

[@gintokisstrawberrymilk]

i had the username first GO AWAY JDNJSDKSDM

[@oluyeyeoluwatoyin4141]

Ikr

[@yussuflynch3305]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/eZCwmX9_q9t7fM0

[@spooderdan9127]

I like listening to my problems

[@hihellobianca4360]

no one: me: *feels personally attacked*

[@nisandilinara4173]

Dude same

[@idkutellme-rp9qe]

Same 💀 I didn’t even need the video to know

[@lacabraasada2326]

Same

[@laurelhell]

I'm in this video and I don't like it 💀

[@IceePhoenix]

It's not nobody, I exist Well, unless I am nobody

[@shikhabarik7272]

My eyes were full of tears after watching this video. And then I realized that I don't love myself and even I started hating myself and people around me......

[@MannoEGY]

it is not your fault dear.. 💔

[@kailapedro262]

I came across this video and it made me realize just how hard I am with myself. Would it be possible for you to make a “how to love yourself more or how to start loving yourself,” series? I think it’ll be really helpful not only for me but for other as well. Thank you so much!

[@martinburrows6844]

How to accept the concept of liking oneself.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” ― Sharon Salzberg

[@speedart8st395]

I'm hella sure i dont deserve anything

[@lhtyeehaw1319]

Nobody deserves love, we all just want it

[@toss_the_blade_subliminals4923]

Love is pointless it just annoying

[@landlordofthewoods6001]

No

[@landlordofthewoods6001]

@@toss_the_blade_subliminals4923 Yep

[@fluckter_600]

it just kept getting sadder as they kept describing me.

[@lulugarcia3703]

So true it’s sad but the whole vid describes me

[@mmangalisomasinga432]

Imma just chill in the corner here, licking my wounds.

[@addamriley5452]

Lemme know if you wanna know the secret to the universe.. it helped me get over my suicidal thoughts 🤷‍♂️

[@lulugarcia3703]

Addam Riley please tell me

[@addamriley5452]

Lulu Garcia well basically behind the scenes, quantum physicists have proven that the energy responsible for our consciousness, is a singularity... that means that our brains do not produce their own consciousness but connect to it like wifi... that means we’ve all literally been the same person this entire time. There is no death. Aliens are real, and they’re literally all “you” aswell. The difference is that they know it and humanity(majority) doesn’t. They are waiting for us to figure this out so that we can flip the script on this matrix society and usher in the space age and abundance for all... that’s apparently how type 1 civilisations are created... what we call “humanoid” is actually known as star configuration ⭐️ and is a form that most life in the universe takes on its evolutionary path... a lot of aliens literally look human and others don’t 👽✌️... they know all your thoughts(because they are you)... and if we can hang on a little longer, we can make it. I hope th his helps you like it helped me. 🐣

[@randomgirlxoxoxo]

This is truly sad. I wish I could go back to when I was a child and tell myself that I was enough and fine the way I was ...

[@-DRIP]

The thing I appreciate about this video is that it took me a LOT to go through, especially now during this pandemic, that I went from being a total wreck of a human being (you don’t want to know) to actually trying to get to know myself better, and face myself watching this video coming to terms with my reality but also learning to evolve from it without cowering away.

[@SOS1G_]

this probably wont help you but, i hope youre doing better than before

[@mabelidove6813]

It's not easy to accept love from someone else when you struggle with loving yourself....

[@theunofficialpistachio3652]

yeah. I see so many comment from people trying to cheer other people up and although I get that they have good intentions it just doesn't work like that. as much as I want to believe it those thoughts are still there, it doesn't change anything.

[@mabelidove6813]

@@theunofficialpistachio3652 cheerful comments are nice to read because of the good intentions. Behind friendly comments are sensitive souls struggling with life as much as others are. All we can do is hope the best for others and for ourselves. I came across this video about self help kzbin.info/www/bejne/mp6vhX-heKeGhJo it's different from other motivational videos. I like it, but for some reason, I still feel stuck. But little progress is better than no progress.

[@OrangeDragon04]

Yes. Also I dont trust anyone, not even the ones closest to me. In my view, one day everyone will betray me one day. I've been betrayed by friends many many times throughout my life. That's why making friends is so hard for me.

[@Jojo09081994]

@@mabelidove6813 Try this one, if you don't know it yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZSrZ6d8qsyMnNE&ab_channel=CharismaonCommand It's the only video/advice that really helped me out. I've tried a few things and also went to therapy, but for some reason this video was my turning point. Maybe it also helps you out. Wish you all the best!

[@nudgeone7927]

@@OrangeDragon04 I think I also develop extreme trust issues when I was confiding with my mom about being bullied in elementary school and the first thing she said "Maybe you did something to upset them". Idk maybe she's right but It's an arrow to the knee for sure.

[@artsytunes1347]

I'm actually confused as to how I live through these constantly, but still genuinely believe I love myself...

[@mldag1678]

same, I thought I did, but I still relate to the majority of the signs so :)

[@kurokagator4567]

Same >_> I've been working since therapy on myself and I genuinely feel like loving myself, I even find myself quite attractive by now what wasn't the case a year ago. And still I regret stuff I said in my bubbly conversations, overthink every action I've taken throughout the day... I relate to a majority of that and it's kinda really weird.

[@maryum4982]

same

[@k1ttyk4tlov3scak3]

@@MachineSlayerX Um, how the hell is lacking self love funny?

[@Wronginteraction78]

Misty Kittykat People use humor as a coping mechanism for pain.

[@fklr-369]

Yes, Its hard being yourself when others don't like the real you or certain things about you're personality yet hate it when you close off or sit in another room cause you don't want to embarrass the true you. Stay strong people don't let others get you down even if you have to be alone because no one like you for whatever reason than so be it. That's why we need to love ourself because at the end of the day the only opinion is the one about yourself love you guys and girls

[@TheSoupDealer]

I came here wondering just how much I hated myself, here I am relating with every single one.

[@Ultimate23Dragon]

*Next video:* 10 ways to improve self-love _... because seriously I do need it._

[@Withthia]

We all

[@rainadatkween7959]

Sadly the next post was 10 signs you lack self awareness but I hope they do “10 ways to improve self love” I really need it 😞

[@GoldenMushroom64]

They won’t. The purpose of this channel is to raise awareness to symptoms of poor mental health. Not to provide solutions. They are not legally or professionally qualified to be providing any advice and the channel could be terminated if they did. Sorry guys we’re on our own

[@rinr7052]

Yes please 😱

[@rainadatkween7959]

GoldenOracle64 goddamn.

[@BOOKTOOK]

Having self love is the biggest healer in the world. If people learn to self love majority of the world problems will solve themselves.

[@RosheenQuynh]

Yeah, that's probably true

[@SkylabBeats]

Whoa

[@meghakl436]

Yeah soo true

[@darkacadpresenceinblood]

That's probably true...

[@ambarishpriyadarshan]

How to love self? Kindly answer.

[@SukoonwithAmbika]

This is so well made, Thank you.

[@meechandise6557]

i care way to much about others feelings and emotions. It gets so bad that i have totally lost myself. I feel like everyone matters more than me, which is why i have a hard time being myself and doing, and saying without evaluating what people might think. I tell myself it’s a lie but it’s like it never goes away

[@Shavarmaisvegetarian]

The ten signs are: 1. You don't show anybody your true self 2. You overanalyze your own behaviour 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others 4. You struggle with your physical and mental self care 5. You feel inferior to others 6. You are too hard on yourself 7. You lack confidence 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention 9. You have difficult and unstable relationships 10. You settle for less

[@KaikaiDokeshii]

i have all of those ;-;

[@joannevanderhoeven]

I have 8 of them

[@BrownSkinnedDiva95]

Have all of them

[@marlenacherry1450]

I have most...

[@personalenyertainment2897]

Ah yes atleast i got a 10/10

[@applepiesundaes8391]

when you realize you haven’t had any self love since 5th grade

[@pxperrings]

Same

[@ayy9425]

Same..

[@JZ-cd9tb]

samee

[@recklessfikations]

Same

[@espensuniverse5561]

@Side 999 same.. makes my heart ache from how little I've come

[@DumahRagnarok]

Trying to improve self love be like: Everyone - "I see a mountain to climb" Me - "All I see is absolute void. No direction, no path to go forward"

[@pamloof]

The fact that every point was fullfilled with me just makes this video hit even harder.

[@why-do-i-breathe8359]

me: has 8/10 signs also me: we're just gonna ignore that

[@rosegranger2872]

This is so me...

[@sulfur_americium2993]

I got all of them dawg I ned help 😔

[@missterious711]

I’m just gonna pretend I didn’t see that-

[@annehan6626]

Lol, cheers to skipping the good decisions we're too frail to make! Haha

[@karabomaibi2328]

Same! 😭

[@jadeross7177]

I started crying 4 minutes into the video because I was hitting every point and realised that I really don't love myself. I always jokingly said I hated myself and I've never felt comfortable with myself, but this made it scarily clear to me Edit: Jesus christ 800+ likes? Thank you all for the replies, reading them has really made my day and I'm taking on all advice given. The internet is such a special place ❤️ x

[@KaikaiDokeshii]

same

[@hangersan995]

I've only been starting to realize that I've been a bitch to people and to myself my whole life...and I hate myself for not doing better

[@kelekasanasith5778]

Yes, I started tearing up because of how true it is

[@leahenriquez7717]

Same here

[@CHman712]

Same here my friend. Same here.

[@yuroichi6418]

This video made me appreciate the progress ive made playing guitar even more! Thank you!

[@upsidedown9183]

I’m just so scared of……everything. My parents, my friends, my teachers, and everyone in the world. I just want someone to tell me it’s gonna be okay. Someone I know I can trust that i can be sure I wont have to say goodbye too….

[@charlysch3061]

its gonna be okay!

[@solitas5636]

i’ve been masking my own personality for so long i dont even know what my actual personality even is,, i’ve become to overwhelmed by my anxiety that i let it control who I am. I often act like characters that I admire because I like them more than i like myself,, and that basically leaves me with,, i’m too lazy, I’m a massive procrastinator, i hate myself so much to the point i don’t even know my actual personality anymore, and I’m a wimp who lets my anxiety get the better of me all the time,,, to the point i mask my true personality for something else,,,,

[@AnaMaria-gq1pn]

Yeah sis, I know someone like this...

[@nanayrosa2278]

Might as well continue masking what’s the point in stopping what you already started you lost your personality so why not just continue until you find what personality your satisfied with

[@tamara7301]

I’m so sorry you feel like this but I relate. I’m here if you need someone to talk to

[@hannazahra6618]

I feel the same. I often overthinking about people that hate me, when someone hate me i blame my self. I lack of confidence. I got bully when i was in elementary, junior, and high school. I've been suffering from anxiety and depression. I took medication, it works, but i stoped and it get worst now. Now i dont have trust to overyone. I know its wrong but i cant help, but i wanna change . I just wanna stop please everyone and love my self and show my true self, but its hard to get rid my anxiety. Im so done with my own self. Sorry for my bad english

[@aliyaakira4444]

I also don't know what kind of my own personality i scarred to be judge, being hated, being left alone in the end i just feel like a puppet for society... I don't know what i want to be, i don't have a dream, i don't have any interes in anything i just do what others want me to do and i think that the only reason i'm leaving in this world.... when people leave me i don't feel anything I'm sorry for my broken english

[@kenny-nk5db]

summary: 1. You hide your true self from others 1:02 2. You over analyze your own behavior 1:27 3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others 1:52 4. You struggle with your physical and mental self care 2:18 5. You feel inferior to others 2:45 6. You’re too hard on yourself 3:05 7. You lack confidence 3:27 8. You need excessive affirmation and attention 3:48 9. You have difficult and unstable relationships 4:08 10. You settle for less 4:34 Recommend watching to learn more 🖤

[@tiffanysar-lecluze5679]

Thaaank youu !

[@theghost449]

Glad to say that I'm the 300th like

[@trashlambo]

You are the only one I have seen to both put time stamps and recommend further watching. You are a beautiful example of what a good comment of this kind should look like. God speed, you magnificent bastard!

[@aliazarkasb2033]

great

[@isaacstones8419]

What should I do If I am 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9 but have a deep fear of interacting with any physiologist and/or doctor and also feel like even if I told my family and friends they wouldn't get it so I don't bother

[@juicem1ne]

i really never knew there was anyone else like this. i’ve been crying in the bathroom at this video i can’t lie. i always listened to self love talks and never understood what they were on about. i’ve constantly been with these thoughts and learnt to live with. without me not feeling content with myself how can i ever be content with anyone?

[@cassieory2009]

These were on point.

[@basham1107]

*Ah, yes. I appreciate the reminder.*

[@digi4823]

Me too lmaoo

[@marblecthonaut]

Me, clicking on this video just for fun: Okay- Me, realizing I can relate to EVERY. SINGLE. THING. ON. THIS. LIST.: OH- OKAY I GUESS MHM OKAY-

[@loverofpandas31hi57]

Same

[@naninonani49]

Yeah me too

[@NAMINE0306]

Same

[@raiswarnim1723]

this is on point I have been suffering for 15 years just started self love meditation and when doing place you both hands on you heart it's very powerful it's been 2 months I can see changes .

[@yolandayolanda3840]

This video, have some very interesting high point(s), there are so many people in this world that fit the description of having no SELF LOVE finding themselves feeling depressed and lonely. I hope that people who watch You Tube ,will find out about this channel, you all are doing a great job in trying to help people with many different issue's. 🙏

[@sleepyallen5993]

My depression just said ”do you even need to watch.”

[@whocares665]

I like watching these and seeing how easy it is for me to relate to them

[@RosheenQuynh]

Right?

[@_sixela]

My anxiety was like “gurl! There’s need to click on this”

[@nisandilinara4173]

@@whocares665 yeah same...

[@hildamorales3734]

I saw this and thought : Well i already know i hate myself😂

[@rubygalaxy5026]

I know right? I literally hit the mark for all the points brought up by this video. :/

[@bigclitenergy]

Same :|

[@amiyeet-2976]

Same...

[@ruchamansukh1203]

Ya even before watching we know it's gonna be relatable •_•

[@linam9724]

same plus I relate to most of the points in the video...

[@Envlo]

Crazy that a year ago i had all of the above. Now the only thing im working on is confidence and setting boundaries. Therapy has been immensely helpful. So glad i got help

[@agustinamansur5665]

I can't help but thinking that the illustrations are so sweet and they make my present moment better💙🌾⛅

[@SwedishTalkingWolf]

From someone who has struggled with self love and esteem for several years. Another sign you lack self love is you think all that negativity and bullying toward yourself is justified. And you don't see it as a big deal, like it's something obvious. So when someone genuinely claims you are too hard on yourself, you get a bit confused.

[@opalstar4607]

💜💜💜💜💜

[@the_sky_is_blue_and_so_am_I]

@Reddit tea me too

[@SA-lz1vx]

So true :(

[@audreyemccann]

I think this is very important

[@biancaradelfinger3338]

:(... yeah

[@phoenixthings]

Me who already suspected I did: Can't be that bad- *Has all ten signs* Me: *Oh that's not good-*

[@misbah4563]

Same haha

[@rainyrei707]

Lol

[@georgewhite1972]

Same. This hit hard for me....

[@bookenjoyer3970]

Legit me I had no idea I was that bad

[@Imjustpretend]

Same here

[@adilhussain4940]

Thank u so much for this❤

[@Aging_Casually_Late_Gamer]

Lack of self love keeps me from being blinded by optimisjmand being obsessed with "self love" and other narcissistic traits.

[@myrianahatchi1570]

When you knew you had self love issues but you didn't know it was that deep. That's how I feel right now. Thank you for this video.

[@JadetheFiend]

Same

[@beatmonster9586]

I know you posted this comment 2 years ago, but I hope that whatever you’re dealt with is better. and if it’s not, I hope that you get the support you need to get better I know I’m a stranger online, but I’d love to hear your story and how you’re doing if talking about it helps Remember you’re not alone. There’s a bunch of people who don’t love themselves that don’t even realize there are others exactly like them. We all just feel alone together Anyways, I hope one day you will find a group of people who will truly love and accept you, and I hope you find success in life, whatever that may be to you :)

[@myrianahatchi1570]

@@beatmonster9586 thank you so much 🤍 It’s a battle everyday but I get stronger everyday. I hope you have the support that you need as well. Stay safe out there ✌🏾🫰🏾

[@nightrider12soul]

The one who say I love myself don’t love himself. The one that do not talk about loving himself love himself.

[@fredineljayy9155]

Psycho2Go: 'you hide your true self from others. Me: Jokes on you, I don't even know who I truly am. Edit: OMG this is the most amount of likes and comments I've ever gotten, thank you so much!

[@jumaisahgani1478]

This is my type of humor

[@Pinkie4]

Damn it i feel the same here🤙🏻

[@totallyjokers]

I lost I lost I lost control again Everything’s the same and I’m to blame I lost control again I don’t I don’t I don’t know who I am -A popular song that I can relate to

[@sophieshen3806]

@@anidiot6770 Yeah I do that too

[@_daki]

same lmfao

[@Alexandr4A0]

I cried my heart out with this video. It’s hard to live almost your whole life knowing that you do not have self love.

[@parksmin7314]

This channel will be always my favourite

[@fro6211]

Me realising that I hate myself: I’ll just start hating myself for hating myself too✌️😗

[@CoachDavidAdes]

this is your inner critic. it's like a voice in your head that doesn't like you. it wants to convince you that you're worthless, bad, wrong, not good enough, and not worth living for. it comes out especially when you want to take action for yourself. it prevents your "true" self from growing. your true self needs to grow until it can match the strength of the inner critic kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJy7e4h8jMl9e8k

[@sleverlight]

accept that you are hating yourself and try to change that. It takes time, but it'll happen if you work hard enough. How old are you?

[@sarthaksaxena1186]

I hate myself

[@juniasthegreat4933]

This only make sense to those who''ve ever been there😤

[@sleverlight]

@@snoopcatt3234 Im not a psychologist, but Im 23 year old woman. Ill try to help you with my experiences. 14 is an age where your trying to find yourself and who you are truly. There's no need for you to compare yourself to others. Be proud of who you are and what you've accomplished even if its little. Btw dya have discord? We can chat there if ya wanna

[@lisi26]

Me: okay let's write a comment Also me: what if people won't like it? does this sound too serious? should I change that part? maybe i shouldn't post one afterall

[@ines4982]

Story of my life

[@mmangalisomasinga432]

I literally just deleted, like, 2 essays while I was here. At least I'm not alone.

[@BankaiokenX]

Oooooof, not to mention the 'real life comments' we make. Me: *just finishes a conversation* "oh no what if they interpret that wrong? They're gonna think Im rude or something. Should I go back and correct myself later when I see them again or dont bring it up again hoping they werent paying attention. What would be the right thing to say?" PS: I edited this comment like 5 times over before posting...

[@Convoluted-and-Exiled]

I do this everytime I comment, and at times I even end up deleting it...

[@shadowlitten547]

It's ok u can say u have no signs

[@ayeshafatima4001]

your voice is so calming

[@ssyrup_5255]

Thank you for this This is something I needed to hear :)

[@XIANC]

To everyone who had a bad day, month or year. This is for you: I know you are falling apart and now it is starting to terrify you .This might be the year that made you feel more human ,more flawed and more broken than ever. I hope the coming days fill all the cracks of your heart and you are reminded that you are not alone ,because you are loved ,all of us are. I hope this little gesture remind you that everything will be okay, not now but eventually💖

[@mrgrizzly9034]

Thnxx 🙂

[@user-lx4mp4nw3r]

I mean I deserve the stuff going on with me rn but damn still hurts

[@samb2814]

tysm love 💗💗

[@Minato_Arisato_5]

I really needed to hear that. Thank you.

[@emoash9382]

Here comes teary eyes... Thanks so much, I really needed this. I wish the same to you.

[@cutepaws1233]

I feel called out

[@MasonTheFurryCat]

Why are your videos so relatable

[@katiethewise]

I’m in such a happier mindset. If you’re lacking self love, it will be over soon, stay strong and positive ❤️❤️❤️

[@TheSoupDealer]

I don’t know about that one😅 For me it’s been going on for a very long time and I don’t see it changing anytime soon.

[@Iloveyou-nx9hu]

The Voice makes me calm every time

[@adriahrin3284]

sometimes I even think that my true self is the mask I wear in public, now I don't even know how is my true self anymore

[@iwannacry8218]

Me too I dunno my personality anymore

[@youreabtch3408]

You don’t have to do that, you can take that mask off and be who you are even if you don’t know who are at first, keep trying and be patient time comes. (Sorry if its cheesy, i’m really trying to motivate ppl haha😅)

[@FeuFeuFeuFeu]

I'm gonna be honest, me neither. I- I don't even know who I am, I only remember my old personality of when I never faked who I am Wait- No, I don't remember that clearly- :') Soo yeah, I've lost myself XD

[@brigittaakabribri]

Same

[@fagitocumaeda]

@@youreabtch3408 its not that easy tho :(

[@tsuki9225]

i wish i had seen your videos in 2020. it's hard to recognise the signs when you've been in denial abt them for so long. i recently learnt to say my thoughts out loud and omg i realised that everything i've done was for other people and not myself (whether it was work, friends, school, etc.). i don't know who i really am or what i want anymore. i wish i had realised this earlier. pls say your thoughts out loud. it's easier to deal with them this way instead of keeping them locked up in your head. hugs

[@riceshineshow]

Love your videos!

[@sophiaisabela6261]

"Promise now to me, even if you feel like you're alone, several times of the day, don't throw yourself away." -Park Jimin, Promise

[@Withthia]

I wish this would be pinned at the top of the comments

[@piuchowdhury4855]

Atleast this world has Park Jimin and BTS :)

[@rachel3165]

💜💜💜

[@meettheartist5506]

Lovely.

[@oceaniesea8039]

Army power

[@Layla109]

*You.* Yes, you! You reading this comment! I am all of these signs and I'm currently working on ways to improve myself. Shutting out toxic thoughts helps. There's no guarantee that you won't feel scared or anxious but know that one day, you will get tired of being tired. If you want things to change *just do it instead. Stop thinking about it!* *Do* something nice for yourself! Join a class just to listen to a topic you're interested in! Look at positive videos to help your self esteem and educate you! Go get a spa treatment! Write in a journal the things you want to change and exhale them from your life! Go at your own pace! You're worth investing in and I'm here to tell you that *"YOU CAN DO IT!"* Yes, I'm telling you what to do! I believe in you! You are amazing and that is the truth that you need to learn to live with! Much love to you all!

[@mimumpertin337]

Your voice is too cute and calming... I feel too lonely it just....I imagine..... You're talking right next to me.... I really love what you are doing specially helping people like me 😇

[@-inFinity05-]

This is the first self-love video that doesn’t describe a prideful or victim mentality. Excellent works guys!

[@aryanahjuliette]

It’s just so hard to love yourself.

[@ketchumuu]

*Her voice is so soft and cute and sweet, it's like eating sweets, I love it.*

[@Pezerinno]

I would totally marry her just from her voice alone

[@nomadsland7195]

This was a gem... And so was my 10/10 performance. I just can't understand how this 'overanalyze' is defined. Isn't it the same psychologists/ sociologists who say that self-criticism is necessary? Then where do they put the upper boundary? And how???

[@soepil]

I don't lack self-love much, but no. 6 and especially 10 hit me. Must work on it. Thanks.

[@Lo.15]

I can't be myself in front of people everytime when someone comes to my house even if it was my uncle I just shut up and have nothing to say and stay so calm and quite

[@monabohamad2242]

That seems to be usually me cuz I may never really have much to say to just about anybody and everybody and does that make me evil or stupid or something maybe I'm just always somebody who has always been and still am not necessarily a very talkative person well in person that is

[@imahedgehog6262]

That's what I did. Then my uncle died, and I regret it so much.

[@jujulnge7434]

Over the last few years i forced myself really hard to do this to and if i wouldn't i thought i was too selfish and hated myself Its exhausting i understand you

[@espensuniverse5561]

Same. I don't talk much around people I'm not comfortable with, I feel guilty sometimes. But then I think about it, "If they want me to talk to them why not just try getting to know me? I don't bite??", like I shouldn't be the one trying if *you're* trying to get my attention.

[@shahuzrat9087]

I was exactly like that and due to the absence of this wonderful emotion (self-love), I suffered terribly. Depression, anxiety and codependency were some gruesome outcomes of not being able to love myself. I would put myself so down for people that even a doormat would not be so hateful to itself. Throughout the day, I was making sure that everyone is happy with me and my own happiness didn't exist for me. I unapologetically fell into the trap of people-pleasing. Never said 'no' to anyone. My passive aggression was silently killing me because being assertive was like creating a loop of disappointments. It has been nearly 3 years, I am trying to improve myself. The first step I took was that I started gaining knowledge, starting reading helpful books. Step 2: I started accepting myself every single day. Every morning I would look into myself and compliment myself. Step 3: I became less judgemental towards myself. If I did something wrong, instead of beating myself up, I comfort myself like I would comfort a loved one. Step 4: I started doing the things that I feared the most for being judged. I started to talk to people whom I feared the most. It worked as a magic. Step 5: I started being in present more. Concentrating on my breath, listening to chirping of birds, rain and wind. Being more and more with nature helps you to stimulate your emotions. It did wonders Step 6: I didn't not shut my thoughts instead I confronted them bravely and automatically they disappeared. Hope this will prove helpful to those who are struggling with this bone-and-heart-breaking problem.

[@ketchumuu]

Sorry I just I keep trying everything but it doesn't work, I keep trying to get out of this hole but I have been feeling like this for so long that sometimes I don't even know if the compliments I get are real all I see is just bad

[@priscillawolffe473]

Thank you I’ve actually done some of these and they’ve helped a lot. Of course it’s not a overnight thing to be able to accomplish, especially when you’ve felt like this for so long but long as you keep trying eventually you’ll get to where you need to be. Don’t stop, keep moving forward!

[@clodiathomas6790]

@@ketchumuu Jesus will help you conquer ugly feelings of uourself thru his agape love

[@mojojer924]

Thank you so much for this helpful and very insightful information, some of us could really utilize this!!!!! I love your channel and all that you do!!!!👍👍👍💯💯💯💗💜💚💙💛

[@asiantoast2272]

I had bad friends back in public school who i trusted but they lied and stole from me because i trusted people too much, when i finally realised that my best friend was anything but that and covid put together it burned me out, now im in middle school with bad grades and worse mental health, but thank you for making these videos and helping me get through 2020-2021