7 Mind Games Narcissists Play They Hope You Won't Figure Out

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Do you know someone who is a narcissist? Chances are, you do. Narcissists can be difficult to deal with and often leave those around them feeling confused and drained. In this video, I discuss seven mind games narcissists play that they hope you won't figure out.
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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Do you want to know more about mind games that narcissists play that they don't want you to figure out? Join me in my free webinar where I offer tips and tricks. Reserve your seat here. icanslay.com

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I'll see you all there!

[@NOLOVELUCY57]

It's common sense I say if you want to know a product in life you take it apart and you see how it works this is only for me I can only speak for myself and as they mechanic a female mechanic in order for me to fix it I need to know how it works again in order to prevent it and or stop it from happening again and again and again you have to go to the core and find out how it works in my lifetime I never ever thought of anything like this it must be nice to be able to sit there and plan these gas lighting or whatever it may be because it takes one to tell the story but it takes many minds to sit together and a table in order to drink someone's heart out and rip it apart it takes more than one remember that ladies and gentlemen just like she said he's built his little millions or she's built her little minions they don't build them with you like they're supposed to and live life happily ever after because they hide them under rocks they hide them in the woods they hide them in cars they hide them everywhere and when needed to make you think you are insane that's when they pull them out and use them against you they aren't loyal to you they're loyal to the narcissist they'll never ever be loyal to you

[@CLHS1944]

The ex a covert narc repeatedly plays mind games on me and EVERYONE so he can continue to PLAY the victim. It’s despicable and beyond exhausting!!!

[@evelina787]

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.” ✨☘️🙏

[@thabidlamini6598]

7 Mind games 1. Silent treatment 2. Gaslighting 3. Projection 4. Love bombing 5. Triangulation 6. Discard 7. Play the victim

[@yukio_saito]

Move on! Just walk away from them. Win without fighting.

[@juliaannegrider5734]

My husband and mother are covert narcissists. They love to play the victim card.

[@lucyt-c8092]

… Julia .., hopefully you can move to a far away land where you have nothing to do with either of them ? at least in your imagination ?…

[@temposhop8739]

Can they not stand each other? Before I cut ties or minimized contact with toxic people in my life, I saw that they instantly hated each other.

[@kg0148]

It is exhausting but after finally escaping a relationship of 10 years I feel like it was one of the greatest lessons I have learned in life although I am damaged I know the red flags right off the bat so I can protect myself for future dealings with these types of people.

[@jamesrutter4100]

I now consider it to be training. They are everywhere be prepared and aware so you don't get conned again. Protect yourself watch for them at all times cause they are watching you.

[@lucybraun8969]

The more time you spend in the presence of the narcissist, especially with witnesses present, the more they will try to gas light you, & twist what you said to mean something altogether different than what you actually said.

[@marykacollins9191]

So true it's called short memory syndrome

[@lucybraun8969]

@@marykacollins9191 I will only deal with that narc in writing anymore, & even then, only when I absolutely have to.

[@popmonika]

Anyone had this happen... Even when you have gone through the flying monkey attacks and found a way to create strong boundaries... They'll use the people who they think are closest to you and make sure you watch them do the same thing to them like they did to you.

[@ceraroberts2691]

Going through that right now. It's kinda funny 🤣

[@popmonika]

@@ceraroberts2691 Yes and the people work them out. Just explained to a former supply of theirs what had happened. Apparently there are others who had similar problems or at least have seen her odd behavior. They really do rely on smoke and mirrors.

[@avalancherose]

Smearing campaigns are very useful. They help you a lot with filtering those who really care for you. Love is stronger than any insidious insinuation. I thank the NPD people I met for their smearing campaigns because I was left surrounded only by people who were 1) smarter enough to understand it was just a manipulation 2) interested in my well being and my person.

[@popmonika]

@@avalancherose the strangest thing is that the first person who saw through the smear campaign was a person I originally didn't get along with. It was almost as if they thought - this person's annoyed me before and they just wouldn't do that. We've actually grown to appreciate and realize that we were inside the same person but just went about I differently. Yes a npc campaign can teach you strange things.

[@CanadianBear47]

At this point its hilarious and also ok our relationship changes

[@mommaboombam3764]

Thank you for your education. Like a game like Tug of war; of back and forth. Push and pull leaving you exhausted, just ripe for their picking. Let go of the rope and set yourself free. Strength and silent wisdom is what they don't have and need to break you bc you are strong and they know it.

[@lucybraun8969]

Even the no contact that you apply - the narc will twist, & say they initiated it.

[@marykacollins9191]

Because they have a twisted mind just ignore it

[@lucybraun8969]

@@marykacollins9191 Right. Any fly monkey that listens to them is not worth my time. But that narc is holding onto at least $80,000 that is due to me out of my mom's estate.

[@NOLOVELUCY57]

You're awesome you are very very awesome it's a shame that the world has to produce such trash

[@paulreints2279]

They come from hell.

[@charlottepembroke5446]

Excellent video as always. I also found that even in the love bombing stage the mask might slip a tiny bit and then they'd extra love bomb to try to set it straight. Sometimes they give away exactly how crass they are without meaning to - which makes you doubt your judgment.

[@NOLOVELUCY57]

I'm so glad that you put a name on that projection I was confused at first but when you said blame then I knew and I like the word projection because that's absolutely correct

[@NurseBillBennett]

The silent treatment was the worse pain I’ve ever felt in my life. Here I am working in an icu as a nurse. And he vanishes for a week after a year together. I wish I knew then what I know now.

[@marykacollins9191]

I think it's good if they give the silent treatment at least you don't have to listen to all their crap any more

[@NurseBillBennett]

HG includes one I’ve not seen anywhere else The stranger phase Comes before discard They are very short. One word replies I’d FaceTime mine Hi Hi Silence. Um. You ok? Yes. I’m just busy Um. Ok. I love you I love you too Click Then after 2-3 times of that. You text. Are we ok ? Then “ wtf. Why do you make things into things that are not things. I said I’m fucking busy. Your making this out to be a drama like you usually do. Seriously. Your so dramatic you should be an actor.

[@dalialovesdoggies4361]

THANK GOD he disappeared 😂

[@rtt3166]

Narc elderly mother who caused so much pain for my siblings and I, is now ignoring all of our attempts to assist w aging parent issues. This woman wants to be malevolent until the end. She’s antisocial and one of the siblings is antisocial, too, and that sibling is self centered & causing problems that get in the way of anything productive. I’ve had it w my parent frankly. Thank God I’m a thousand miles away. The last time this parent was in recovery care, I sent care packages w stamps and notecards and a list of names and addresses of friends and relatives, cozy socks, lip balm etc. They didn’t acknowledge it. She thinks I’m after her money.

[@Missbakitch]

My husband is narcissist but way are they very kind and giving with their brother sisters and mom dad .

[@yukio_saito]

It sounds like my ex-friend. He looks nice and kind, but he divorced twice and his first spouse ran away from home.

[@cynthiawarren9379]

Move on!

[@LOVEtoPLAYdrums]

Awesome video~!

[@lucybraun8969]

Sometimes, you have to put a word or a request to a narcissist in order to prove it mattered, or you made an effort, or time was of the essence. I hate when that type of thing comes up, because you know that as soon as they learn that, they will pour everything they have in doing the exact opposite thing. If anybody has a method for avoiding this type of scenario, I would love to hear it. I certainly do document that the request was made, but I don't put it past them to lie about ever receiving it, or blaming others for their supposed inability to comply.

[@pattyfidei3417]

Yep got rid of him narcissist sycophant

[@trkernan321]

Nailed it, Seven for Seven. Thanks for extending the knowledge. I appreciate your efforts.

[@tiffaniesheree]

You're so awesome❤️ Great video😊

[@izawaniek2568]

It is time to move on and wish the narcisists well but over there! Thank you very much ❤ Happy New Year. ❤

[@ninjagirlnomeansno9403]

Absolutely tremendous, Thank you so much for this Rebecca, You're absolutely beautiful, Move on, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe ⚘️😊🐉👽🐴😍🌈🤍👁🌌🧿🐺😁🦄🦄😃💎🧝‍♀️💫♾️🥰

[@TenderhornH]

"MOVE ON!!!"

[@cristalfarthing3742]

You broke that down extremely well and made it simple to recognize the patterns in these situations with a NPD person. Thank you 🫶

[@Eleniexp]

Wow perfect timing. I’m negotiating with my ex narc now where I co-own the house. Thankfully I got in a lawyer or else I would have just signed away everything and would have still had to pay the mortgage based on the “settlement” agreement he sent. It’s maddening- I’m literally just following the law.

[@Eleniexp]

They also showed to have no empathy when the mask dropped after the discard. Like me sobbing in the kitchen and him staring blankly at me. It was so earth shattering.

[@tjtj6540]

Truth

[@laquintaford6092]

Can’t play games with an angel we do not have feelings for evil. It’s like joker trying to date storm 😂😂😂😂😂

[@lauraholland5315]

I asked my husband of 36 years what can we do to work on our marriage and he said I don’t want to talk to you. I walked away.

[@lucybraun8969]

On the day of my mom's funeral, my narc brother bullied me out of a ring my mom left to me. He threatened to delay doling out to me estate assets due to me if I didn't give it to him without even getting it appraised. As though he was entitled to it! At the time, he said he wouldn't ask me for anything else. About a month later, he wanted another piece of jewelry she left me. Since the request came in writing, I ignored the request. Thankfully, now all communications are in writing, but he is still so stupid as to have my deceased mother's mail forwarded to me. Through his doing that, I learned he got a credit card issued to himself off one of her accounts, and is passing the credit card bills from it onto the estate as though they were incurred prior to her death!

[@OT7_FOREVER___]

Ex is a covert, i have 4 kids with him unfortunately (i love my kids ) had to deal with all 7 especially victim in family court, they fell for it, my kids got the worst orders 😢 Im going to go to mediation (he wont like that) then court. My kids are suffering its ridiculous. I was with him for 10 years left him in 2017, hes remarried and still not built a bridge.

[@gabrielhaferbier1908]

Nice work, I’ve followed you and Dr Ramani for a few years. Do you still work as an attorney? I could employ a person like you.

[@pattyallen7634]

I feel like even though were not together anymore i dont talk to him he moved in with another girl on meth he punishes me and unloved and i after 8 years should be glad

[@basementcattiger6231]

what about devaluation

[@sarita4021]

My ex always played the victim. He broke up with me after 2 years, saying I sex flirted with a person at a restaurant on New years year saying he doesn't want a partner like that. He gaslight me saying he seen me the whole evening locking eyes with him. Funny story because I was talking to my daughter throughout supper. The guy had a pretty girlfriend with a red dress so why would I flirt with a men with his girlfriend and while my daughter and son were with us and I took us out for new years which I paid over $200 new years supper. He plays victim still he almost had a panic attack that night. He broke up with me before Valentine's so he didn't have to buy a gift since he isn't financially stable.

[@kristineanix9045]

THE MOST HORRIBLE THING WAS GETTING DRUGGED AND GETTING MY HAIR COMPLETELY CUT !!! just ONE INCH OR SO ... THEN EVERY ONE WAS SAYING YOUR HAIR MUST NOT BE GROWING!!! BUT IT WAS GROWING AND I PROVED IT ONE HAIR CUT WAS UNEVEN ONE SIDE LONG THE OTHER SHORT IT WAS SLEEPING ON A BUNK RIGHT NEXT TO A WALL THE PART THAT WAS ON WAS THE SIDE WHERE i WAS SLEEPING AGAINST THE WALL. !!!!

[@MG-hu9pe]

I watch most of your videos. Unfortunately I have discovered, from the information provided by you and other professionals that I have two text-book narcs in my family. What I can't understand is how typical their actions are. Do they learn them from a Narc methods website or are these traits, actions, reactions, etc just come naturally somehow.

[@larinhoward4140]

Work and home attack every day God is good all the time

[@vinitham226]

Move on just move on 💖🌹

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I know you got this! Keep SLAYing babe! 💗

[@WhiteWolf-mf6sl]

Sooo hard...move on

[@lucybraun8969]

Move on. I'm moving to preparing a timeline of documented events, & letters that go out the day I receive the accounting that locks the narcissist into the final numbers related to what he embezzled out of mom's estate. He's going to put a deadline in my approving that accounting, lest he declares me interfering with his admin of mom's estate. So, time will be of the essence in getting things super sewn up to provide the police & other heirs. He's used doling out to other heirs in order to leverage their sympathy for him, but once they see he had to give them exact numbers from a house sale, but the bigger piece of their pie is the life insurance proceeds, & I have chipped away his credibility with documentation, at least one heir may reconsider that narc's true motives.

[@michaelwhitlow372]

Move on

[@avalancherose]

Here’s a question. A person, your ex business partner, associate, finds out that you are not compatible at all. She doesn’t like you. She talks to other people telling them that you are awful (it’s her point of view), that you frustrate her. In front of you she needs to be polite and still professional but it’s clear that she doesn’t like you. Now you are on KZbin telling everyone that she is an NPD (I wonder wether she was diagnosed with NPD in first place, it’s a diagnosis). Why can’t we think that you are smearing her out on public? You put your name, your face and are accusing her to the world. Thank u

[@morningglory3681]

Do you know it's an abominable offense to Jesus to play with the mind of another human being?