7 MORE Ways to Give Your Kids a Behavioral Advantage

[@JohnD77notJade]

Archer will save so much money by not needing therapy.

[@patriciaclark7135]

"Enjoy what you're not good at" I've had to explain to people why I'm still taking guitar lessons. I'm not great at it, I'm not making great progress (by other people's standards) but I just enjoy the process and the way my guitar looks and feels in my hands. Just strumming the chords is very relaxing to me. It took me a long time to get to this mindset. Thanks for the video Drew. I love the analogies you use. Balance Your Pizza

[@scotts7630]

There's an episode of Mr. Rogers Neighborhood where he draws on-camera. He says something like "I'm not very good at it, but that doesn't matter. It's the fun of doing it that's important." I try keep that in mind every time I can't do something as well as I think I should be able to.

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you so much!

[@K_rye]

Dear Drew, You are an amazing parent and I wish I had known someone like you when I was raising my kids. Please seriously think about writing that book. There just are not enough books written by and for "neurodivergent" people. "Be your own friend". This made me cry. Literally. I'm going through stuff right now and really needed to hear this.

[@Drewinstuff]

No matter what, I think we'll always look back and wish we'd "known what we know now". All we can do is our best!

[@davegoodridge8352]

This really great advice. Way back when I was a kid. I enjoyed Super Man. One day I asked my Mother to pin a towel around my shoulders, like Super Man. I ran around the yard imagining I was Super Man. I wanted to fly like him, I just knew I could. So I climbed on top of the well-house and then on to the roof of the house. I was going to fly! My mother ran outside and yelled at me to come down. “I’m going to fly” I told her. “Even Super Man does what his mother tells him to do” was her reply. So I came back down without flying. Because even Super Man does what his Mother tells him to do.

[@Drewinstuff]

That's very true! Good job, Mom! Haha thanks for sharing, Dave.

[@sahrandipity]

This is a great idea for topics.. please keep going! One thing I bet you could speak to is how to move forwards when things fall apart. And another I've always loved when you talk about is the importance of not yucking on other people's yum. Somewhere in between those two topics there's also a connection about not trying to "fix" what you don't understand. And if you're bored with talking about life skills, I'm still waiting for your episode devoted to the awesomeness that is breakfast food. I'm sure you've been pondering it! I need this content! Lol 😉 (no pressure. ❤️ )

[@Drewinstuff]

Oh yeah! The desire to "fix" what you don't understand is a HUGE one! Wow. Yeah, big topic there. One that the whole world needs.

[@mumalogue]

Thank you for authenticity in everything you do.

[@annestrasko7581]

Drew, I feel like you have a secondary calling in life! These two videos were very wise, and definitely worth listening to and mulling over. When I remember painful mistakes I've made in the past and start to guilt myself over them, I try to remind myself that if I never regretted any mistakes that would mean I never learned from them.

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you, Anne!

[@peterhofmann8292]

Drew these are all great tips and you do put it in such a wonderful way. More parents could use these pearls of wisdom to help their children.

[@sleepawkeen]

Best part of this----at 03:00! Loving with your whole heart!

[@JefferyHall-ct2tr]

Thanks for going ahead with part two! Another amazing talk! Keep at it, my friend!

[@mandiewrites4936]

Happy holidays, Drew! I hope you've had a great few days. I've been loving these. They're so easily digestible and applicable. Thank you!

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you so much for saying that!

[@patoeme]

"Give your heart to those who deserve it" ❤❤

[@mArMyHope]

Wow. Drew, ive never heard so much sense. Everything you said makes sense. This is sooo good. Thanks for your work Drew! Ill start using "This is fine"

[@Drewinstuff]

Thanks for the kind words!

[@davidparrishproductions5082]

Very nice information my friend, and with every point you made I found myself thinking- hey that would apply to ME as well as my kid- and perhaps that was your point. Thank you for being you.

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you! And yes, I have to remind myself of these things more than anyone!

[@themisterchristie]

More great advice. You're so full of wisdom, love these videos.

[@uteh.3659]

Thanks for summarizing these superpowers, that most of us had to learn the hard way, and still are. I think a kids book is a wonderful idea. You could have a chapter on each superpower, with a short story that illustrates the lesson to be learned and perhaps, if it applies, how hard life can be without that superpower. Children love stories, so tell a story about each of the lessons/concepts, with illustrations. 📖🖋

[@s.n.11]

I like how you explain those complex things. You are great at communicating. Cheers and happy New Year!

[@Drewinstuff]

Happy New Year!

[@arcboy2011]

Love ya buddy! This is great advice for everyone, not just kids.

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@ejourneys]

"Enjoy what you're not good at" dovetails into one of my favorite quotes, from Henry Petroski: "If we copy success, the eventual result is going to be failure. We don't often understand fully why successful designs work. And they often mask potential failures. No matter how closely we follow successful models, designing something new involves new conditions that require changes in the design." From "Success Through Failure," an interview with Jeff Stein, AIA, in Architecture Boston, May/June 2007. Petroski spoke in terms of engineering, but I think his words are broadly applicable to life in general. One of my most satisfying experiences was learning a piano piece that I knew I could not play at performance tempo. My analogy was that I was walking a marathon for love of the course.

[@Drewinstuff]

I like that!

[@shazzagirl9803]

Balance your pizza...so so good Drew 11:24

[@awefull-gold]

Keep being you, Drew! ❤ Thank you for sharing! Like you said, great for adults and kids to be able to put into practice. I wonder if Archer could help you put these superpowers into kid-friendly explanations? Father-son writing duo?

[@Drewinstuff]

Yeah, maybe Archer should write it!

[@nicksg3002]

I learn and get reminded by your super parent's powers and still, I wish you could share us for example how or what does your family make to get along? You mentioned in another video that your family gatherings are good, everyone is ok with each other and I think family is a whole generation of people teaching people how to keep together. Thank you and Merry Chtistmas Super Dad🎉

[@Drewinstuff]

That's a good question! There has been some drama over the years for sure, but overall, there's a ton of love and the gatherings (though small compare to some families) are full of love and never feel like an obligation. Thanks for watching!

[@12prettythings10]

In raising my son who is a gentle soul, and a hard worker, with a great sense of humor, I look back on what we did that made a huge difference in his resilience, and grit, and self-control, and it was Taekwondo. He is actually a classical pianist and a piano major, so not your typical image of a boy doing Taekwondo. But we weren’t familiar with martial arts, and I enrolled him one cold wintry day when I felt like weather was too cold to do a whole lot to get the wiggles out. Many years later, I feel like Respect, Self control, Indomitable spirit, all the tenets of Taekwondo were big pluses for his future self. If this helps one parent out there, great.

[@Drewinstuff]

I took Taekwondo in elementary school! :) I remember complaining about it a lot, but I'm sure (like you said) it left a good impression overall.

[@Shiruvan]

needed this so much, thanks!

[@KendallW]

Such great stuff. Brene Brown is awesome, it must be really cool that she's your aunt! Lol, couldn't help it, but you've really channeled some of her info which is super great. Love the content, and it would be a really good book if you could figure out how to make it work. One idea would be to crowdfund it, and if successful you could work with the right artist and people that format kids books so that you aren't doing it all yourself. The Kickstarter would just need enough research to know how much funding you'd need to pay the people you are partnering with, printing, shipping, etc. Maybe you've already thought about this, but I could see it coming to life and that makes me really excited :)

[@Drewinstuff]

Haha thanks, Kendall!

[@karenholden4740]

Great points Drew thanks for the video.

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you!

[@petrisz]

Thanks, Drew for another heartfelt, wholesome video.

[@Drewinstuff]

Thanks for joining me!

[@yesimthatlisa]

These are so good! Thanks for doing these episodes 💕 😊

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you for watching!

[@rctrombone1]

Always spot on. Have a happy holiday season!

[@Drewinstuff]

Thank you! Happy Holidays!

[@slane_design]

Such a good dad!!!!

[@midazolam]

Thank you

[@Drewinstuff]

Thanks for watching!

[@nancymckeand473]

Thank you.

[@tiantuatara]

Learning to let myself just enjoy something I'm not good at is great. I've gotten a lot better about that the last couple of years and my enjoyment level has gone up. Have you read "The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse"? This is an adorable book with good lessons. Quick read, lovely graphics.

[@Drewinstuff]

No, that's new to me!

[@tiantuatara]

@@Drewinstuff I got it for Christmas. Definitely something you could share with your son.

[@melissam0ss]

You are a super Dad with super powers!! Not just topics to nurture children with…so many adults are void of these wonderful traits/characteristics…LOVE. If cloning actually becomes a (good) thing, you would be such an ideal human being to clone. You are a LIVING EXAMPLE of true kindness and humanity 💯💝💝💝🫶🏼💯 Thank you Drew 😊

[@Drewinstuff]

I'm trying!

[@Allthough]

I feel like a children's book needs to be more storyline based and not an Epictetus style list of abstract ideas. That being said, it seems perfectly doable. Come up with a quirky identifiable protagonist and hire a capable artist and you might just come up with a classic!

[@Drewinstuff]

Yeah, maybe one day I'll figure out an ideal format!

[@Soyokaze404-yc1dt]

Giving my whole heart out after a first date and getting crushed gets me like the guy from SpongeBob - “I was born with glass bones and paper skin. Every morning, I break my legs, and every afternoon, I break my arms. At night, I lie awake in agony until my heart attacks put me to sleep” 😂

[@Drewinstuff]

Maybe wait until the 2nd date ;)

[@LucyLu_meztli]

You said skee ball and all the time I was thinking of pinball. Skee ball went by another name in my home country 🤭😅🤣

[@LucyLu_meztli]

7:45 I see you GoT

[@charis_explores]

😊

[@FountainPenNews]

If you show up in Philly, can we dork out together about Brené Brown??

[@user-gl5ld9vm7i]

Drew, have you started already as US President for Fahrney's?

[@Drewinstuff]

Officially, the new ownership begins in the new year.

[@wzukon3849]

So Drew,…which philosophers are you reading? All the best in 2025.

[@pamelasnyder9745]

Seriously, DREWTALKS2025. Love the pizza insite! Balance your pizza!

[@Drewinstuff]

Haha yes! Thank you!