10 Signs of Emotional Abuse from Parents

[@Psych2go]

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[@nothere3950]

What if I say that I experience half of these things? “What if” being the keyword.

[@allchemist736]

Well i being harsh with my classmates. But not animals. I being a Aggresive sack to my classmate cuz they keep bullying me like EVERYDAY. (help me)

[@allchemist736]

Nice vid btw

[@LilMatrixBeats]

Since my childhood my parents taught me everyone is bad and cruel. Because of this i am afraid to accept love in any form. No matter how much i try, i am not able to open my heart to accept any love. Even most nicest person seems evil to me.

[@Starishcomposer]

I kind of experience some or at least most of it. It’s not my parents especially my mother. It come from more towards my grandmother and sister (mostly the grandmother who I am trying to end all contacts so I can be happy.)

[@jvstred9112]

For me, I knew I hit rock bottom when I realised being at school was better than being at home.

[@molly1505]

Haha yeah I bet it is, try being homeschooled and being around it all day long and never getting to go out with friends, I do kinda wish I went to public sometimes

[@jvstred9112]

Molly Rayne Aw, I feel you. I wish you the best of luck!

[@molly1505]

@@jvstred9112 thanks

[@DoomedtotheCore]

agreed

[@Broken_Princess_H]

When you where the one who purposefully stayed waaay too long after school, to the point where even the teachers ask you to leave is a biiiit... concerning.

[@wendyalexi2225]

"Don't cry in front of your dad, you know that makes him angry."

[@julissadelcid961]

Wendy Alexi that’s happened to me today 😢

[@ayushmisra2226]

Today to me he screamed so loud at me and it I just cried

[@BugaferJones]

Hit too close to home.

[@aborez_camiee8981]

I do get abused and my Dad makes me think I’m the one who started drama

[@Dan.And.Phil.Trash11]

It's to true

[@pipelimbo6387]

We’re treated like children, but expected to behave like adults.

[@noisemakertea739]

How can we be adults all of a sudden if we were raised to be children?

[@novagaming7122]

This hit hard 💔🙂

[@lessismore8533]

Amen!! My mom does this!

[@dannyperrell2497]

So true

[@lfraycray]

I am too! My parents treat me like little kids but expect a teenagers brain to be all the way developed.

[@DarkFoxKit]

The fact I'm 30 years old and still living with my parents because I can't do anything due to their emotional abuse really speaks volumes of the lack of control I have on my life

[@StillAlive-t8e]

Same I’m 36 with a son stil living w/ my evil narcissistic mother still til this day she mentally abuses me, she hides & takes my things & my sons just so i can blow up & act krazy just so she can go around & tell ppl how krazy i am. It’s like my brain is stuck in this mental prison abuse & i can’t get out of it ! My brain is fried i can’t seem to get my life together & when i feel like everything is going smooth out of nowhere it all comes crashing down.. At times i just want to end it all but i have a son & dnt want to leave him out here in this cold world !!! Running away is hard aswell bcus idk where to go or who to run too

[@Gloroxsocks]

Me too my mum is so twisting and confusing so It’s difficult to grasp clarity to trust myself and take the steps to leave

[@nicfromkc]

All the more reason to move

[@happyjacktails3277]

A womens shelter? A few nights away at a hotel? Please don’t give up. Don’t let her win!

[@Winniethepooh_Q]

Same here but i know that if i have to get out of this hell-hole i need to study hard, get a good job and move out. It's the only way, enough is enough and now i need to take responsibility for my own life and get the hell out of here. I finally give up expecting any understanding, love, respect and support from my family. I can't expect them to heal when they're the once that hurt me.

[@jennafaboolous3820]

"OH stop crying, you're too sensitive!" Anyone else remember that line?

[@sh00txngstqr84]

Yep, I do.

[@kellythekitty5190]

I GET THAT ONE EVERY WEEK, HOW DID YOU KNOW

[@leojones7780]

Mines more like Mom: stop crying fake tears Me: they're aren't fake Mom: THEY ARE WHATEVER I WANT THEM TO BE JUST LIKE YOU

[@malloryrogers1604]

or stop crying just so we’ll stop yelling

[@noufswrld]

i do :(

[@Zara-zs7ht]

The worst part is wanting to cut them off entirely but feeling extremely guilty even thinking about it

[@luna84_]

I've felt the same way

[@maxcorcoran660]

I recently did that and it’s been such a rollercoaster of emotions mainly between pride and guilt but if it’s something you’re considering for your mental health then I absolutely encourage you to do what you have to in order to take care of yourself!!

[@gracelynrhea7712]

Yeah

[@breadgamer7972]

Yh I’m still going through it

[@Fenrir90918]

My parents legit told one of my friend parents to take everything except their bed out their room when they come home He had run away for a few hours I’m afraid they’ll pull that bullshit on me if I ever came back or they’d actually go physical

[@popefrancis4959]

I do kinda get jealous when I see kids with mothers who don’t criticize them and love them for who they are

[@rebeky25]

Or when you are at your ''friends'' houses and they are just so themselves and comfortable around their parents. I am consantly alert about the way I act. I have cried an shouted for hours to come there and be with them you know...

[@ahmedwassime9697]

Ye those childs will become like elon musk those childs will have self esteem

[@luckypark9599]

Same. Honestly same

[@yalikejazz9520]

Same

[@ag-jo1hi]

This reminds me of the time I cried at my friends birthday sleepover when I was 11 because her parents were so sweet to me and they didn’t fight once the whole 2 days I was there. I think that’s when I realized what went on at my house wasn’t normal 😬

[@janviraj683]

[0:37 ] 1) You experience random emotional outbursts [1:09] - 2) You are overly affectionate to strangers [1:29] - 3) You are aggressive to others and animals [1:58] - 4) You have little to no friends [2:24] - 5) You aren't confident about your future [2:39] - 6) You constantly repress your emotions [3:10] - 7) You don't know who you are [3:32] - 8) You often seek validation from others [3:54] - 9) You're highly self critical [4:11] - 10) You experience a lot of guilt

[@jasoniverson4715]

Some...

[@lenorabarclay275]

Thank you 🙏

[@Hi-hd4lr]

wow-

[@AlextheHomo]

I have all of them, except 3 :(

[@Lucki_MORELIKEUNLUCKI]

I relate to every single one of them 😢😢😢

[@Tanya-nt7xf]

My parents won't admit there mistakes and blame us for everything wrong even with them. They victimiz themselves

[@nicolefonseca9616]

Same here

[@sappholuke5723]

Yeah same here... And it still happens cuz I'm still a teen

[@jahsom6058]

same here😞

[@Tanya-nt7xf]

@@sappholuke5723 aww ,I feel you! I'm here to talk if you ever need

[@Tanya-nt7xf]

@@nicolefonseca9616 I'm here to talk if you ever need a friend.

[@itssmadiii8026]

i’m tired man. it’s like one minute she’s calling me names, the next she’s being nice. it’s so crazy. i will never be like her. i can’t wait to move out.

[@mosmid5073]

That’s how my dad is, he does a bunch of nice things over time to cover up abusing us (me, my mom and brother) today he got in my face screaming and said “you wanna go?” Like fight him, ended shoving me back into the counter because I told him to relax. He acts like he hates my existence on a regular basis.

[@sisdusbshshsgsgssg8607]

Its okay Buddy cheer up! God loves you!

[@garimasoni7569]

@@sisdusbshshsgsgssg8607 he loves u too❤️

[@user-kp1sl7nd3f]

My moms always talking about how she lucky she got with me but now she’s downstairs yelling and slamming cabinets cause the lady that was shopping for us didn’t get her ice cream. My brother made some turkey but she doesn’t want to eat it cause he didn’t make a side of rice.

[@angelacavon4073]

@@mosmid5073 Ok first off...no one should EVER tell their abusive parents to “relax” when their in that bad mood. It’s just like punching your bully in the face after they’ve beaten you up just to make them angrier. You’re the one that has to relax no matter how mad the bully or the parent is. Breathing is life, it’s what makes all of us function, it’s important when things aren’t going right for us! If your dad does this and you start panicking, close your eyes and imagine he isn’t there breathe in...and out in...AND OUT! I know that doesn’t sound easy right now but it works when you’re in tough situations. Pray to God that he will help fight your battles. “Many things that seem threatening in the dark, become welcoming when we shine a light on them” - Iroh (Legend of Korra) “True wisdom happens when we accept what has happened, we cannot look back at the past” - Tenzin Please try not to look back at the past and think positive things if you do. Always think positive it’s your mistake to see. I know you’re going threw a hard time right now and so am I but think of this as a horrible dream that will end very very soon, you just have to believe in yourself...AND GOD! ❤️

[@justarandomgirl6783]

“Every kid deserves parents, but not every parent deserves a kid”

[@misssamawal9859]

Woww

[@savannah2539]

yep... ive wished i had different parents and couldnt wait to move out since i was like 8 or 9 and i still got 3 more years to go.

[@kaiytheguy8727]

Yes

[@anonymousfeather1907]

a very true quote

[@C.Noble13]

If we only knew about the Rat Utopia studies. The Secret of NIMH. Go research this.

[@nathanmartin8393]

It’s sad. I just realized I went through this growing up and now am doing the same to my kids. Fortunately they are still young and this stops today! Can’t believe I let this happen.

[@Fatima-ic1ec]

Well done!!! You are doing the right thing!!!

[@bookwhizz]

Thank you for doing the right thing.. my father cant bring himself to realize what hes doing, so im glad theres people unlike him.

[@MimiO23x]

❤ you can do it. please fight it im 30 and miserable because of this. i often think of ending my life but I keep going

[@KennyMonroe-bz1cj]

At least you're recognizing it yourself. Good job and keep moving forward.

[@stvrlight_xP]

Good, you are doing the right thing, parents that to this to their kid, they will never see how bad their kid gets affected

[@emilynicole4150]

it’s sad growing up thinking this stuff is normal😕

[@serajalhorani838]

Yeah

[@angiel4923]

Kinda wish others noticed it wasnt the normal thing either

[@ban3959]

Ikr

[@christianolsen7834]

I mean every teen ever have most of these things. So it's kinda normal. You know because most people have it. No most people were not emotionally abused.

[@aysh5983]

dolce daises i always thought it was normal...evn frm the beginning of everything

[@shreetamaghosh379]

It's so difficult to deal with these things when your parents refuse to believe that they made horrible parenting mistakes and are never really sorry for what they did. :(

[@ilanat55]

Same here. Refuse to accept it and get really mad when i mention it

[@shreetamaghosh379]

@@ilanat55, I totally get that. And no matter what, we're all here for each other!

[@FunTime-uu7tu]

Exactly

[@ras_krystafari3333]

Yea my mother finds it crazy that our dad threatened to to beat us with a belt when she wittenessed first hand brandishing fire pokers and knifes and throwing punches

[@oatmeal7563]

Right tho? My dad beat me and screamed at me and my mother all the time when I was little. He still tries to get into my life sometimes. I cut him off about 4 years ago and because my brother is still a minor and was a baby when my mother left my father, my dad still has custody over him. To this day when ever I hear someone yell I get really nervous and get adrenaline. It really sucks.

[@theylove_keirstyn6242]

“1) do you tear up easily?” me: starts to tear up over the fact that i even felt the need to watch the video

[@mhb11]

You might just be a typical garden variety wuss

[@theylove_keirstyn6242]

@@mhb11 um i’m not 🤨 you can’t say shit you don’t even know who i am 🤣

[@aakeirahalls3694]

All of these signs are my parents but they never said anything mean.....they simply ignore my feelings

[@Uberqueenbee]

Ditto

[@snowflake646]

I know, it hurts a lot 💔💔

[@crimson-x1790]

My Mother emotionally abused me and everyone blamed me for everything despite my mum starting it all and I always got belittled by everyone. She has basically destroyed my happiness and everything I had going for me.

[@izhadshanwanakmalkhuzairy6087]

This is the dark reality behind the scenes of millions of children behind the scenes.THIS HAS TO STOP.

[@izhadshanwanakmalkhuzairy6087]

But what can we do to stop all this?

[@izhadshanwanakmalkhuzairy6087]

And I'm not american by the way.I'm from Malaysia.

[@SOMPOSMENTIC]

yea i know i’m 15 years old and i figured out i was mentally abused, she’s bipolar, doesn’t take her medicine, my brothers all say she is mentally crazy, and it’s worse for me because i’m her main focus, she does buy me stuff and i have a shelter, but i feel everyday suicidal and don’t want to do this life anymore, i am not allowed to stay in my own room, because she says it’s isolating even though i want to get away from her. please any advice anyone.

[@karinatownsend]

Same

[@akvakv8085]

I hate that I relate to almost everyone of these signs.

[@clu_aidenj8835]

Akv Akv me too man me too

[@eileenzm0911]

And our parents would never realise or admit it

[@alexa.s2111]

Same. it is really painful.

[@Omar-wp5cp]

Ya me too

[@02C4]

Akv Akv I know what your going threw

[@angelkim779]

I would NEVER open up to my parents.They'll just laugh at me,Yell at me or even ask me uncomfortable questions

[@anintruder1197]

They just wanna empty them selves on me like im a trash can or a boxing bag

[@lei5402]

@shebangs same, everytime i try to make a good point or something she'll always use it as an excuse to make me feel bad for her

[@tobziee_s]

Omg yes

[@JS-pb6gb]

I tried to talk to my dad when he was calm, and it went how I thought it would he got angry said I’m ungrateful little sht, my mom said every couple fights it’s just because I’m highly sensitive

[@anariachan7860]

Same. When I told my mom that I think I had an eating disorder she yelled at me and told me it was because of my device. Then she proceeded to tell me to just eat, how smart why didn't I think of that.

[@annel7377]

I'm only recently realising I was emotionally abused because I grew up thinking it was normal.

[@fifiimensah4136]

Same here

[@leagueofph5849]

Same here😢

[@lunaryder7518]

I thought it was normal until a few years ago

[@ΕλένηΔιακουμέα-ω6ψ]

I feel you so much right now. I hope you get enough strength to get through this because it's very difficult😣

[@scarletgirl2238]

same

[@DanielSelk]

I look back and realized I LOVED being away from my parents. I was free. Especially when I was at rehearsals for all the plays I did. I wasn't restrained at all by anything and could be myself. I was ALWAYS afraid of failing or making my parents angry, even the smallest thing could set at least one of them off and they argued loudly every day, and if not with each other would find some way to yell at me or my sisters. I'm glad to be on my own.

[@cosmicystn3626]

i feel this..

[@예랑-g8d]

“nobody likes a crier.” “crying doesn’t fix anything.” “if you want to cry, do it silently.”

[@DieselMonstar965]

i feel you...

[@Fenrir90918]

Oh hey that was relatable

[@miles7885]

“I’ll give you something to cry about”

[@dezerved51]

Haha 🥲

[@candlelit4112]

It does fix something... to show emotion and show your in pain.

[@PhyrricSpirit]

It’s hard because if I even bring up the words “emotional abuse” I get cut off and immediately my parent is being defensive. “YOU HAD A GREAT CHILDHOOD” “YOURS WAS BETTER THAN MOST GOT”

[@eleanorsummers4456]

Yessss

[@forestartistry7208]

Holy shit why when i saw those words i could hear my parents saying them

[@evolonten]

Phyrric Spirit “ i gAve You EvryThiNg yOu WaNtEd “ money don’t buy happiness ma. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@_JamesEinstein]

Same

[@mikestinson3139]

1000%. I just gave them a speech I thought would respectfully address the issues I've been having with them, and I got laughed at saying I had a great childhood, followed by if I don't like it, get out.

[@ghostiesaturn]

"Why are you crying?" Because you hurt me once again and you don't learn from the last times you've done it

[@rogue_fang2924]

Miki my mom does that to me all the time

[@beetle_bailey_bug]

Amen. I hear. This all the time.

[@thenessh2807]

Every single time but felt to much pain to the point i am used to it now n tears are very less

[@maddy3776]

i want to say that to my parents but then they play the guilt card

[@Erri_17]

Or if you hurt yourself in school the first question is 'did you cry?' Imo first question should be how much it hurt

[@Thereasonyoudontlikeme]

My mother abused me in every way possible. I’ve suffered severe depression, still deal with severe anxiety, alcoholism, I was suicidal and still healing. My daughter changed my life for the better and I’m raising her totally opposite from the way my mother raised me. I thank god I grab the strength to understand and realize that it wasn’t normal or ok and to love my daughter better than my mother loved me.

[@steelbeachsiren]

You're strong for raising your daughter like that

[@SOMPOSMENTIC]

yea i know i’m 15 years old and i figured out i was mentally abused, she’s bipolar, doesn’t take her medicine, my brothers all say she is mentally crazy, and it’s worse for me because i’m her main focus, she does buy me stuff and i have a shelter, but i feel everyday suicidal and don’t want to do this life anymore, i am not allowed to stay in my own room, because she says it’s isolating even though i want to get away from her. please any advice anyone.

[@brreezzy]

my father just keeps telling me and my sister what we do everything is wrong and that im never gonna achieve what being a grown up really is, and also since my father is hispanic he struggles to speak in english so he mixes everything up and when we correct him, he screams and blames us for being “ smartasses “ when i was just being aware

[@SamueldaSamurai]

I literally cried when these signs actually applied to me.

[@sss973n8]

Samuel da Samurai mee too😭

[@rockleesmotivation2280]

Same

[@noraabdulla2486]

Samuel da Samurai me to.

[@sleepyghost9286]

Me three

[@standoff2shitter199]

Heh... same

[@Julia-ie6pd]

The worst part comes when you see happy mom/daughter relationships on the internet or with your friends

[@zarriasgreen466]

!!

[@bluxbxrryszn2850]

I feel like all my friends get along with their mom but my moms always started an argument with me not respect my privacy cursing me out etc. smh

[@cam7083]

I have a friend her relationship with her mom is so deep they know everything about eachother, I don't know the last time I hugged my mom without her saying "Ew your sweaty" or "get away from me" I get hugs from some of my friends their like my coping mechanism I really don't know what I would do if they weren't there

[@jovanalipovac5968]

So true. Hurts deep because you know your mom will never be like that.

[@noname420]

Ouch... but yep...

[@californiacornflakes]

Also- the guilt of not being good enough or not deserving love always trying to 'be there' for others who dont give a shit about me not being able to say no

[@Healion123]

True

[@hobihobi1858]

:( i agree

[@adibazahra3197]

I agree and I find it really uneasy for me

[@alexbenjaminlubbers]

Fucking same

[@crazygoldy1538]

Same :(

[@JinksB]

I counted 7 out of 10 that applied to me. When I was a kid, I remember wishing my mother would do something physical to me so I could point to it and say, "See? I need help!!" to a teacher or counselor. All I had, though, was "My mother yells at me." All that got was "Too bad, kid. Stop doing what she yells about and she'll stop yelling."

[@shreyaanumalasetty8288]

Samee i wish it was physical

[@Awigato]

It is sad how parents never know what they are doing wrong.

[@ForeignTap]

True

[@daniellaporturas4405]

they NEVER apologise and that makes me so sad

[@kotokoutsugi7449]

Destiny Xander 'you're just being dramatic'

[@No-Nameeepodcast]

my parents dont know the pressure they put on me for the exams i have brought suicidal thoughts and depression that i have been denying for a while now and as hard as it is to admit it i want and i need help i try giving them hints that im tired of living but i know they will just say its cause of my phone or i watch netflix too much i seriously dont know what to anymore

[@brusqve5965]

@@No-Nameeepodcast literally same

[@miasophia5161]

“It doesn’t matter how many amazing fun things they do for you. They could take you to Disneyland everyday for a year, but you will still feel broken and empty if you are being emotionally abused.” Original

[@alveensaher8222]

They think they are doing their best for their children but dont understand how broken are there children from the inside

[@littlenightmare3481]

@Amia Brackett hey are you okay?❤

[@meitingxu5946]

What does your mom say to you? How do you feel?

[@littlenightmare3481]

@Amia Brackett oh why?

[@laceypants3507]

Agreed+

[@osse1n]

*Mental health in adulthood is directly related to childhood and upbringings by sound parents is very important.*

[@Psych2go]

O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me definitely a relationship. Do you feel we are in control of our destiny?

[@BaeWest]

It’s sad that the criteria of sound parents is becoming an even rarer commodity. I constantly hear parents yelling at their young kids to “shut up” when on the phone or yell at them at the grocery store because these parents have too much stress that they don’t know how to work through.

[@classicalnameless3608]

"Nah, once you turn 18, you are supposed to be stable. What happened to a person in childhood, shouldn't a effect a normal adult." -my dad But, He claims I'm delusional, n' he never yelled or through fits. Of course, he was blackout drunk all the time, n' he's just living in a pipedream. He'll even say something to me n' then claim he didn't, right after he did.

[@sliceofvie2381]

Honestly it’s hard to get over it and realize that you can trust people more than your parents even though most media that isn’t super “dark” has happy families that many with emotional abuse want but can’t have with their parents after their childhood

[@Cellfix]

Not in my case, sure some of my mental health could be from my upbringing, but I have other mental health issues inherited from my father, who got it from his father, who yet again got it from his father.. So no, I don't entirely agree with you..

[@waddle4240]

Seeing this right now, and finally only recently seeing the true nature of how my parents behaved and brought me up, I can't even cry watching this because I don't want to deal with my mom's questions. It hurts so much to realise you've been emotionally abused all your life and its worse when you find out through someone else telling that to you.

[@idfsoldier7325]

The best part is when they try to make you feel guilty for what happened. They blame you and say that you are the one responsible for the abuse. Their love instantly becomes transactional the moment you say or do something they do not agree with.

[@Alicia-jj7bm]

I agree im so sorry

[@Spudsbottom]

my dad is like that, everything is my fault no matter what.

[@okkotsvz]

@@Spudsbottom your dad is one of the shtiest kind of people

[@madelinekaplantzes5512]

So true☹️

[@AlexBigShid]

Or, in my case, just flat out deny it, make wild topic changes, or that I'm "over exaggerating"

[@kapalxtt.l3145]

When I was little if u cried u would’ve gotten hit with the belt :/ and they screamed at you “STOP CRYING” like if they were innocent:/

[@kattyanderson6201]

Screaming at you like they're not the reason you're crying. My cousin was raised like that too :/

[@ashizu2412]

i wouldn’t get hit but do get yelled at for being a baby and that i need to grow up

[@Saturn-qw4nb]

Same

[@youngdawn8670]

@I LoVe PiNk I'm a week UwU idk why you said it though

[@River.s.]

"Your not a baby!"

[@thereisalwaysarainbowafter1364]

Mom: “just tell me what’s wrong” *tells her what’s upsetting me* Mom: *gets angry*

[@LadyGoddessSephiroth]

Ah yes. This has happened to me too many times. I finally started lying and saying "It's nothing." No matter how hard she insisted I told her it was nothing. Bc to her, it was.

[@DragonsAreHungry]

To my mom I didn't actually have the RIGHT to be upset or angryor even sad, just because I was a child... Crazy remembering how I thought she's right....and how I felt guilty...

[@MyouKyuubi]

Mom: "Tell me why you're afraid." 8 year old me: *Tells her, and implores her to keep this secret* Mom: *Laughs mockingly* "Okay, i promise." Next day... Kids at school: *Bullies me and publicly humiliates me for something i'm afraid of that i've only ever told my mother* I unlearned trust that day. :D Of course she made a shitton of mistakes, but that was the day i finally stopped being angry at my mother, because i stopped being close to her, and completely lost my concept of trust. : / I still love her, i can't help it, she's my mother, but i keep her at an emotional arms length now, i can't confide in her.

[@wiktor3727]

@@MyouKyuubi she's still your mother :)

[@whateverlikeda]

@@wiktor3727 that's a random reply

[@josephearle3116]

I didn’t realized this in my own life till now. I feel like my parents would claim this was not true

[@arelichico8469]

I agree, they will give reasons to justify their behavior as well

[@aalers7743]

@@arelichico8469 parents will almost never admit the damage they have caused to their children

[@louc313]

Oh dude. Yeah. They will never admit it. Ever. They think it’s all in our heads and that we’ve made it up. My mom’s famous quote is, “You always remember the bad. Never the good”! Ummmm. BC there wasn’t ever any good!

[@thed00t76]

Parents: *Yells and insults me* Me: *Raises voice by 1 micro decibel* Parents: “DoNT yELl aT mE THat iS DisREsPeCtFuL!”

[@feen7304]

I swear, I'll never get this.

[@qmoo_ikun2385]

this is so true 😭

[@abnormalnox]

Yep. Like werent YOU just being disrespectful towards me just now!!?

[@rebeccastolp-romanowicz2816]

So true lel that made my day 😂

[@syqi7573]

Togermon complete bull ducking shit

[@k_s_5127]

My mom used to use the “if you won’t respect me then I won’t respect you” what she meant was “if you won’t treat me like an authority, I won’t treat you like a person” Anyone else get that line?

[@theabhaysharma1]

Just The Same Here !!! 😢😢

[@jamieazalea685]

I still get that from the father figure, as an adult

[@jamieazalea685]

He equates "respect" as obeying his command. He acts as a dictator and overides everyone else. The "rules" he invents never apply to himself, he uses them as weapons for control.

[@jumelapanes8460]

Me

[@jumelapanes8460]

My mom keeps on saying “doesn’t matter” every time I ask about something

[@dillinmcwhite4130]

It’s sad I have more emotional safety in my dark room than my own living room

[@dillinmcwhite4130]

that’s how it is 24/7

[@bloopshortcake1719]

It sucks because I share a room with mu mother because my mother and father always fight so she doesn't want to sleep in the same room as him and I used to feel ok at school buy now the quarantine is happening I don't feel ok anymore.

[@sethharvey1073]

Same.

[@Ancestorsss]

then, mum will yelled at me saying, "why are you always in your room 24/7!!!??" . Me thinking to myself, "its the only place where i feel safe, from you."

[@bvgs1388]

Well I don't even seem to own anything..

[@zaythefruitloop]

My father was constantly really emotionally and verbally abusive, and even some physical encounters. I came to this video and was scared that it would tell me that I wasn’t getting abused. But I feel extremely validated, thank you.

[@izhadshanwanakmalkhuzairy6087]

I'm very sorry you are born into a family whose father is doing all the things you said.I just want you to know that if you ever want to talk.I'm right here waiting for your response.

[@wigglejiggle5330]

one promise i made to myself: to raise my children 100 times better than my parents did. i dont want them to suffer the same mental abuse that i did. 😞

[@aibhaj]

i made the same promise to myself, i want to be a much better parent to my kids when i have them

[@glenn_is_in_the_area]

It's kinda sad that people have to think like that, but my dad having mental issues kinda reflected onto me

[@Mace-_-frmthaO]

Same I have a fragile heart ❤️ and it hurts to get yelled at or anything because when I ask for something I feel like there going to kill me even if I look at them so I’m going not to yell only rarely never ever hit them they will be mentally exhausted and abused

[@MrTsar-ui8eh]

That's a goal. I'm never going to touch a beer bottle when I'm a father.

[@Julia-ie6pd]

Same

[@catija]

I want to send this video to my parents but they'll just make it about themselves and tell me I'm terrible and they're the victim.

[@kassimasinia3314]

My parents would just yell at me.

[@catija]

@@kassimasinia3314 sending you a hug🥺

[@astroxbrie6327]

yup. they always want me to tell them whats wrong. ex: me: im tired of (name) being rude and never helping parents: well how do you think we feel? you act like you have it so bad. i had to walk a mile just to my bus stop for school! that’s actually something that happened:/

[@yariyahaira]

my parents would just say: tHeY mAkE tHoSe ViDeOs FoR vIeWs

[@anvitomer3443]

Oh theyre always the victim

[@gnat1962]

my mom: *asks what’s wrong* me: *talks* my mom: *becomes angry & defensive thinking i’m arguing* edit: i’m so sorry you guys have to go through this too, i hope it gets better for all of us

[@iiiamdrea]

phatbussy that's my mom I rarely come out of my room because of that

[@spiritual_king2375]

And they wonder why we don’t talk to them🤦🏽‍♂️

[@wildpikachu6477]

Heh, felt that

[@FangFace98083]

Me

[@anothney]

Mom:👁👄👁

[@juis994]

my mother always used the "you make me worry you make me cry you make me feel bad" yeah mom you too. You made me feel worse than a criminal. Happy I escaped from her. Best decision I've ever made.

[@not_lexxzaa]

U make me worry, u make me cry, u make me feel bad is the kindest thing I have ever heard from a merciful mom but my mom is a devil, since 7-12 I used to be naughty at school for playing around with the boys. Some think I'm annoying so I complain a lot but I stopped already cause it was dumb. But then from grade 7 it happened. My mom always come to school to check on my friends for me then me checking cause she said I was hopeless till grade 12, Now, I'm 18 and what happened next, she always said get out of my house, for not involved in huge stuff but for one reason. You must work, work work cause money is everything. That's when I realize when she spit everything out. I was living with a devil who only cares about that and saying "u need to explore the outside World so u are free to go. Like do I have qualifications to work. I just started college and this what I get?

[@Ben-ys7mz]

Anybody else feel like they can’t even cry when they want to cause they’re so used keeping it in

[@dracotheenderwolf8799]

My life in a nutshell, I'm only 16 and already have emotional outbursts because I bottle up all my emotions

[@Itzjennnnnn]

Yeah I used to tell people it’s because of my brothers having me act tough but really it’s my mom. She would tell me terrible things if I cried it make me look vulnerable and stupid and I’m just a crybaby that’s spoiled

[@eddiee9147]

It's gotten really bad recently

[@scarletthazel7023]

Jenna McKay yeah same, not being able to cry make me feel death inside too

[@oliviastuck7756]

Same here

[@AuthenticMentalHealth]

Emotional abuse form our parents really affects us and our mental health for many years to come unless dealt with properly!

[@AlexB-lr2qp]

How do I deal with it properly?

[@Psych2go]

What are some tips you have for dealing with it?

[@doppelsotria4620]

Uh... I don't want to be this dude, but it just bugged me... You accidentally used form instead of from.

[@TheBestDanno]

I'm curious about how deals with it as well.

[@piiinkDeluxe]

@Craig F. Thompson Well, in German there is a word for it but I don't know the English one.

[@cosmic-cookies]

According to parents, you need to be a certain age to feel human emotions like anger or sadness.

[@LeoMidori]

I wish. I'm in my 30's and it can never be about me when it comes to my mom, and if it is then I'm hurting her or "pointing out her flaws".

[@bella-rj2km]

Its so dumb

[@user-pg7fk4bv2r]

I can relate to this because my parents do the same thing with every emotion and also with respect

[@mafu-omo]

According to parents, you have to be a certain age to feel pain too.

[@jesussquad2813]

Parents expect us to have a smile on our face at all times even when their breaking us down mentally. And if we even dare express ourselves, we are being “disrespectful”

[@Eva-xh8kq]

Everything is so spot on, great video. I was emotionally neglected over my childhood and emotionally abused. I recognise myself in every single sign of those 10.

[@caaaroool]

And after doing all of these they cover it up with “its for your own good” “i want the best for you”

[@crismoncloud1157]

@spicy noodles me too

[@youaremeandiamyou8352]

Often the best case turns out to be useless in the present situation,best is not good , instead what needs to be done in the first place!

[@MurasakiHime15]

"I'M DOING IT BECAUSE I LOVE YOU" my ass

[@kiyachew]

ikr

[@SuicideRedemption]

@spicy noodles same here. Now I have c-ptsd because of them. They were emotionally and physically Abusive. I was also sexually abused when I was little and so much other shit. They put me in horrible situations When I did cry they rolled their eyes at me and say "she's being a big baby again. Everyone ignore her" and then they'd all laugh at me When I said I don't feel loved at all and I want to die they again rolled their eyes and said "go ahead and kill yourswlf.do the world à favor" They also isolated me from everyone I was made into Cinderella basically. I just did cooking, cleaning and taking care of my half siblings all day. And most of the night. Yeah they even took me out of school for this reason. I did online and because of the abuse and all the responsibility I couldn't keep up so I failed. I got a ged instead. When I went to college they wrote my college a letter saying I quit... Before the first day even. Didn't even tell me. They said that staying home and taking care of them is more important Now I don't talk to my parents at all. And they keep telling people how I'm hurting them and they are victims. I have a deep hate for them..

[@nimbuswarrior7377]

My childhood in a nutshell: "If nobody is physically touched or hit, it's not abusive"

[@awaywithfairies4689]

😔Saying that, by itself, is abusive. Hurt people hurt people. Neverending story.

[@anonymousfeather1907]

As a kid I thought getting hit would be normal, so I remember fighting with my siblings about who got hit harder

[@Isabel-sr8ep]

@@anonymousfeather1907 with me and my siblings if you hit them first they are allowed to whoop your was till you bleed and eventually pass out lol

[@turkeybut]

That's crazy but I don't care 😂

[@Toshimi1043]

Also: "What I did is not abusive. Actual abuse would be [insert extreme description]."

[@squirrelsquirrel8347]

my mom says she pays for everything, but one thing she can't pay me is respect.

[@fionachen3665]

Good one

[@MissKabugarah]

Truth

[@minahilmustafa5629]

factsss

[@digital_leo96]

Fact

[@itzz_kthv]

They only think that we should be respecting them as they are elders and we don't deserve respect as we are young. Jeezh thats not how it works😭😭

[@shrodu]

33 and still emotionally abused by my family. I feel like I live with monsters and am only happy when pleasing complete strangers. I'm free when with people I don't know, but drained when I come home.

[@Rinoaeris]

Same, I'm 32 and still live with my parents...I can't move out because rent is too fvcking high and I have no real qualifications to get a job in another city. When I go out, I dread coming back home because I'll usually get yelled at like a disobediant child, the moment I walk through the door.

[@owltaro]

Phrases we all can relate to: “Don’t talk back to me.” “Don’t you raise your voice at me.” “You should know better.” “Stop being grumpy.” Personal top 3: “You’re just being a monster.” “You’re so mean.” “Stop being so rude.”

[@jerimiahmoore6996]

Felt that

[@ammaram1074]

KensaiToon stop crying also

[@UncontrollableATroll]

I was so afraid of talking because of my Dad. I didn't talk enough to receive any of those criticisms.

[@mayaasaaa]

@@UncontrollableATroll :(

[@JokeronGamez]

The one at the very bottom my sister says to me ALL THE TIME I'm like "your being so much meaner what do you mean "Don't be rude" WHAT!!!"

[@Kevinhu-je7fj]

"I want to go home." I thought, then realized I'm already home.

[@mikaarora2481]

Kevin Hu “home”

[@dv4402]

The only place that i feel that is home is when my parents are gone and im alone in my room

[@kar0lyn_04]

@@dv4402 same

[@tanbegum5002]

Schools more like home :(

[@xpvnr]

the place that feels like home is when i go out for a walk in the town, and i get something to eat

[@user-js1bo2ve7l]

“i give you clothes, food, and shelter” bare minimum sis

[@vladtimofte6511]

Zootehnic parent mindset,like animals,food and shelter

[@kxpjm4303]

literally parents signed up to do that and the fact that they use it against us when we’re sad angry or hurt, it’s just so upsetting.

[@minerva9799]

I had to work just to buy my own things. And I’m threatened abandonment if I don’t please my adopted guardians.

[@sleverlight]

@@minerva9799 wow...that must be hard. Adoption should never be used to abuse the child. I really wanna adopt children and give them the love and support they need

[@minerva9799]

@@sleverlight yeah, they adopted me because they were my mother’s “friends.” They didn’t make it to her funeral and tell me how bad she was when I saw as a goal figure on how to raise my child. They say she’s in hell, that she couldn’t try hard enough to get me back (even though a lot of people I met who knew her said she gave it her all), and that my adopted parents wanted to take me away from her from when they first saw me. My adopted mother abused me because I cried for my biological mother.

[@gama5942]

I have aspergers; my brain works very differently to the average person, and leads people to thinking varying things about me. I had an amazing mother, she hated being home all the time, and liked getting out of her comfort zone. She understood everything about me; she was highly empathetic. She was the one who taught me how people worked, and adapted to my pace of learning. If it weren't for her, I would lead a really miserable life. When she died, I was distraught and cried for hours. I was never told my mom had cancer, and I felt horrible for being ignorant on that. 3 years later, my dad finds someone he's interested in, she's the complete opposite; she said she means well, and would support me the entire way, but she never took time to understand what I want. She told me I won't become anything, that I'm going to die, etc. for forgetting to do dishes and other trivial tasks on what day at what time. Take this knowledge, and don't become one of these people. These people are rubbish individuals who didn't complete their goals, and want other people to feel the same way they do. Don't let these people ruin your life, you're stronger than them. Whoevet sees this, have a great day.

[@ivy4580]

i feel much more comfortable in my house alone

[@ruth-anneoluchukwuakpaka5778]

This!

[@brockolli1538]

THIS

[@oli_unicorn_loverhydzik8903]

This...😔

[@alyak69]

same, I feel relaxed because I don’t have anyone on my nerves and I can do anything I want.

[@gracelynrhea7712]

Same!

[@backrooms_entity]

my parents, more specifically my mother, do these kinds of things without realizing it, and yet she wonders why i don't go to her to talk about things

[@Skysky2318]

Lolol right? My dad even complains to others that I never share my feelings to him.

[@desirieroselopena7363]

Same.

[@tylztertyla8100]

I honestly would have no idea what that would be like. I talk to my mum daily about everything going on- even tell her about drinking and drugs at parties. She's like my best friend and I feel I can talk to her about anything without her judgement or her overreacting. If i ever raise kids I'd want to do it how mum did it for my brother and I.

[@user-cl8zx6os8u]

Yes. Same thing with my mum we literally never have or had a conversation together

[@NG_Tree]

manson omen Same.

[@lv4519]

I feel like a burden is lifted off my shoulders whenever I'm home alone, especially when my mom isn't there

[@heheqfg]

Yes THIS feeling...hits different..... whenever my dad and mom's around i feel like i am caged and cuffed...and i realised it a little later that had anxiety....i showed all signs of anxiety but took it for shyness:) Idk..i just wanted to let things out...sorry

[@Nennai]

I remember these days... And when I went college I started finding reasons to stay away from her house for as long as it was relatively safe to do so. Going to uni and beyond has been environmentally liberating from my whole immediate family (except my sister, it became harder to stay in touch with her mainly due to my mum and her grudge against my dad)

[@rohan_7444]

IKR!! Rly relatable

[@bigfatboiygm]

No people is the besttt

[@Hp15023]

Relatable

[@joey1020]

I'm growing up to believe I was mentally abused growing up my whole life. I'm 22 and still living with my parents and it's just now realizing all of this. I regret making them happy and doing everything they said. I wish I had told them to F#+$ off way more than I have. I need to move out of this toxic household and I'm working hard to do so.

[@MosesEmmet]

Emotional abuse can also look like a parent NEVER showing emotion... leaves a gaping hole where you need constant validation... I know from experience.

[@Psych2go]

That's true. We actually have a video on types of relationships between parents and children and one included the absent parent.. or the neglectful parent. You might want to check that out too.

[@hqneyzdeath1544]

yes my mom never shows any kind of emotions towards me. never gives me any "i love you's" or attention. she never takes me places or does anything with me. she just sits in her bedroom, smoking cigarettes and playing around on her laptop. and when i do try to talk to her or something, she yells at me.

[@lindxey2]

aka my narcissistic father.

[@marialanuza8995]

I know too.. My bio dad always did this to my mom. I think that's why my mom yells at me for the smallest stuff, like crying. :(

[@NahNo-xy2kq]

@@hqneyzdeath1544 I relate to the part of not showing affection in fact none of my family would show affection except for my lil baby siblings (so cute💖) everytime id try to hug or kiss my mom on the cheek she'd always see it as a problem. Everytime when Im with my mom she would yell at me for the littlest of mistakes and as the baby i am i would cry and it would leave me feeling like 'the causer of all mistakes' or 'the ruiner of all things'

[@rahxeira]

My parents were clearly abused, and they never thought to “break the cycle”

[@angelacavon7305]

Well... yeah that's the point, you're getting abused right now. Think about it, what'll it be like if you had kids? My mom was abused to, and look, she's treating me the same way her parents treated her. It sounds very easy when you say, "you aren't gonna treat your kids the same way your parents treated you" , but it really isn't.

[@fromunderthecorkdre]

@@angelacavon7305 yeah but maybe instead of children they could've gotten therapy first.

[@222ritsu]

same

[@Mapbim]

Same

[@LDXReal]

@@fromunderthecorkdre that's what I've been saying to most everyone these days. I also saw this tweet that said “heal before you have kids so that your kids don't have to heal from you.” I was super taken aback because I genuinely believed (and still do) that I was fundamentally bad. And then I realized I am not fundamentally anything. I just am. That's why I am hanging on, dragging through the days, so that when I get to therapy next week I can give my mother the tools to help her understand, and in turn potentially make these next few years in this house bearable.

[@pixelsticcs1181]

“You can come to me with anything” *opens up* “That’s bs, there’s no way that’s how you feel” She wonders why I rarely talk anymore

[@elviraflorence9268]

Derpie Tacoz I rarely talk to her cos that's not I feel

[@katyasel6915]

Yeah the first (and last) time I opened up she said "it's just harmonies and you're bodys changing" or something like that so yeah thats why i just say im fine

[@camivilla-esquer2823]

Last time I mentioned that I felt incredibly depressed she scoffed and said I doubt you feel taht way, you have a GREAT life its perfect. BS, I've been through a lot of emotional abus and can't heal bc I hv no one to open up to But she's right i hv a "perfect" life

[@zmainly]

That reminds me if a conversation I had with my brother Bad times

[@savanaerie]

Yesss. Then they treat you like a freak for not communicating like a real human.

[@leonmott8419]

I’m autistic and was emotionally abused because of it until 17 and a half, I started isolating myself when I was about 14 and I still do but I get out more than I used to. I don’t think my parents realized how much damage they caused back then but my mother has been a lot more supportive since 3 or 4 years ago and even though it took her long enough but she’s apologized for everything that happened and we’re like bestest of friends

[@princessannieG]

Same with me with my story as having ADHD pi .

[@User56334]

the thing about abusive parents is that whenever someones over or they are with someone else they always treat you nicely so everyone thinks they are so sweet caring and innocent but when everyone leaves everything changes.

[@nyxdrawsthings6847]

Exactly

[@lovefoodsomuch4642]

2 faces people scary me

[@nalanniahj1201]

@@lovefoodsomuch4642 me to. That’s my mom

[@zelleviseho1066]

this.

[@angelacavon4073]

Uh huh

[@auriisguilty1292]

It’s scary how accurate some of these are.. some I didn’t even realize were due to my mom

[@swiper3871]

Same tho

[@HeTookThem]

Yeah cuz of them some teenagers are murdering each other and I know they didn't know that but they will realize that they made that mistake which is making us go crazy deeper than hell

[@404pooh]

Righttttt

[@jaqmsmarti1080]

Ya but its my dad

[@anshikasrivastava8409]

My mother literally called me slut..well calls me slut every night for having a bf..

[@_cloud5954]

I can’t be the only one always saying “if I ever have my own family and children I won’t do any of these things, I wouldn’t like anyone growing up like that and hating how they look like”

[@kaylitakaylota]

i always say that! if i ever have a family, i will know how to treat them right because i don’t want them to feel the way i do right now.

[@meow-bi6me]

I always think this :( no way would I ever judge my kid on their looks

[@crimcrim1987]

Yep same

[@ultimate8162]

_ c̷l̷o̷u̷d̷ well I am growing up like that. My name is Korel Daniel and my mom mentally abuses me and I have no way of calling for help because she took my phone and every other thing I can contact people with. I’m talking to you from an iPad mini witch can’t call. but if you know anyone who I can try to get some help from please tell me. So that I can get help while i still have the mental capacity to do it.

[@crimcrim1987]

@@ultimate8162 Does your mom let you go to school? Tell the teachers there. Maybe they'll do something

[@Brease-j8g]

I have outbursts of tears when someone raises their voice 🙂😶🥲🫥

[@finndarling]

"i have kept you in MY house, fed you, clothed you!" congratulations on doing the *_bare_* minimum. do you want a gold medal?

[@lacey07]

Exactly! Like of course we are grateful for those things as other children don't even have that but we have emotional needs as well. We need that extra support sometimes. I know I do. Especially having a father who fell into drugs (still a great father) and being taken away from him by my mother but having my feelings dismissed even though I miss him like crazy and cry constantly. Like we need that as children AND as adults.

[@yousraan3382]

@@lacey07 fr ! I'm just so done with this like I'm really feeling sorry to myself how my parents always mentally abuse me mom always tells me I hate you you're not my daughter .. And other hurtful stuff like literally I always think how beautiful my life would if I was just born in another healthy family sorry if this is so long even tho I have a lot more to tell but let's just be strong and always be grateful ..

[@trynafindRocky]

And then they tell you that you’re an “ingrate”….

[@oxii99]

talking like i asked to be born

[@finndarling]

@@schrodingersingh4304 parents should be nice to their kids . if they make you feel unsafe or hurt then there is something wrong .

[@FrogFennel]

I feel sad about the fact I searched for this on my own :( Edit: Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences, my comments seems to have resonated with a whole lot of people. I'm sure things will get better for us all

[@rebeky25]

Yes, but these comments from strangers who I feel so connected with because we all share the same story do help tho

[@thesportster996]

Me to

[@ronilayne939]

Same

[@offishworker1109]

Same

[@grizz_yankee]

We’re in the soup now. Love you pal. Hope you stay strong.

[@thedeekabides]

"We didn't raise you to be like _this_ "

[@Xhellfiire]

Yeah right..

[@hyperspaceoddity7805]

Funny I was just told something like this today

[@mysticwonders6972]

If I can count how many times I have been told this, even now

[@cerealotter8277]

Yeah that's what my mother said when I said that I didn't wish to be born in this family

[@andrewsenecal6686]

Oh how many times have I heard that one...

[@jandoerlidoe3412]

Thank you for posting this... To me it is so recognizable, as a grew up with toxic parent's...I'am 67 now, and still bear the scars of what they did.... Vids like this did not exist when i was young... Watching vids like this is both painful and liberating...we can only heal by confronting our pains & trauma's.. and accepting them as parts of our life journey , refusing to see ourselves as helpless victims ... like all wounded healers do...

[@enixcheen5192]

When I cry my heart aches, I can't breathe properly, and I feel like vomiting. There's nothing more hurtful than your parents emotionally hurting you.

[@person39]

I get the same feeling and on top of that I get this anger so I sometimes dig my nails into my face like I did a few minutes ago now i’m bleeding and it’s hurting

[@luv4eva1111]

SAME evry time i cry i get really cold and my whole body aches + i dig my nails into my skin or bite myself

[@jayne1173]

I’m 35 and still have a hard time letting myself cry… I suppress it until I am alone and know I can’t be heard. Nearly go into a panic attack before I let myself cry.

[@poopy5404]

same 😢😢😢

[@boi8831]

Hmm same I punch the wall I don't have any friends What the hell can I do

[@EllieDoesStuff-ii8zb]

Every time I come to my mom with my bad feelings she’ll say, “You have it too easy. you have nothing to complain about. stop complaining.”

[@bonniehuang8696]

Yes! My dad does that all the time! He would say come to me if you are feeling streased, and when I do, he would say he is having real stress and my stress is nothing compared to his. That's why we shut down.

[@EllieDoesStuff-ii8zb]

Bonnie Huang I’m sorry

[@aibhaj]

ohh i hate it when they say that, and then they go on to tell you how others have it so much worse so you should just toughen up

[@EllieDoesStuff-ii8zb]

aibha yes, I relate to that

[@jaiglamora4167]

@@bonniehuang8696my mom does the same thing! I told her about how I was feeling depressed and sad. And she told me I didnt know what depression was, and that she was the one depressed because she had to deal with me every day...

[@sylva_01]

"Do you tear up easily?" -*Immediately starts crying*

[@gabasfilms]

Same 😭

[@iwillstealjksbananamilkand2691]

Same

[@myself4711]

You're all weak. I bottle up everything and only cry about once a year and look like I was in a car crash from the busted blood vessels in my face.

[@xxfashon_oldxx5666]

@@myself4711 that doesn’t mean we are weak do u realize u are adding to the problem

[@jmcg1708]

Now I'm in tears too.

[@d3adstar_600]

I feel free when my dad isn’t home and it’s just mom and me.. I feel more free when I’m home alone

[@CATgodzillatheamazing]

True

[@d3adstar_600]

@@CATgodzillatheamazing :,)

[@YourLocalFurrry]

You have literally described what I'm feeling lmao

[@d3adstar_600]

@@YourLocalFurrry 😅

[@Aryan-wj2nf]

I feel the same😢

[@user-yp2kp1mj2q]

"If someone thinks you're arguing when you're trying to express yourself, stay away from them" *my parents enter the chat* but they don't even admit their faulty parenting. they care way too much about what the world thinks about them.

[@sutogora]

so fucking true

[@Userrrio]

I’ve heard “I don’t wanna argue” too many times when trying to stand up for myself

[@Judith_Vega]

My mother, and siblings are like that

[@corinneburnette3848]

@@Userrrio and "i don't have time for this"

[@send2yam]

Whenever i say the correct answer or opinion etc. In an argument with my parents, my dad says "See, there you are with those smart (annoying) answers" and my mom says "Dont talk back to me!! (In Thai) I will fucking slap you if you do it again" im not sure on the thai bc i dont speak it

[@Idekbrah_]

If I ever become a dad ,I'll never put my children through the nonsense my dad puts me in.

[@lovefoodsomuch4642]

✊🏾

[@queenieroserobles4812]

Me 2 I'll be a good parent ass well

[@lovefoodsomuch4642]

@@queenieroserobles4812 🥺🙌🏿✊🏾✊🏾

[@queenieroserobles4812]

@@lovefoodsomuch4642 I actually write letter everyday for my mom so if she doesn't wanna talk tome I'll just write a letter so I can get my emotions out 😢

[@zenicwave3696]

King Cr7 harsh i can agree with you. i’ve been through emotional abuse for 14+ years.

[@kat6077]

Is anyone else sobbing their eyes out right now

[@3rddegreeassault]

Yea bruh i hate living in. My moms mentally abusive household

[@eatabrickxd930]

I can't cry anymore

[@afifakmal9464]

I've just realized that i've been abused my whole life by my mom and i can't help but cry and it didn't help that i have to stay in home for a whole year

[@dianeolvera4302]

i thought i was the only one..

[@stolasgoetia93]

No but I really want to soo much.

[@kashfia1786]

a lot of the time I used to doubt that maybe I'm the problem not my parents, maybe I'm just making a big deal about this but watching this video I started sobbing. could relate to every bit of it

[@alchemiist]

Must be nice to have parents who loved you unconditionally.

[@trsrcafe-yo7gm]

Yes,Ive never even felt a bit of love from them

[@AwkwardAvii]

Yes, i mean they're the one who raised us, without them, i would be nowhere where i am, but. I just want to be loved, am i asking for too much?

[@d3scribe130]

:(

[@August5676]

Whoever's got good parents, they must've been the luckiest person in the universe

[@AwkwardAvii]

@@miatap21 ur right, thanks! It's nice to see the ppl u don't even know caring about u, more than the closest ppl u know in real life.

[@ameliamcmurray6216]

I feel like my mom victimizes herself and assumes everything is against her when its not

[@latrell9813]

RIGHT

[@michellephan5218]

LITERALLY

[@EpicMarchio]

💯💯💯💯

[@YourLocalFork]

Same she always turns it to what she’s dealing with and why her problems are worse

[@weirdst_]

My mom does that and it almost led to a divorce the day right after she got married. Like wtf-

[@daddysgon9705]

“I buy you all these things” “I take you to all these after school sports” “I raised you from a baby” 1. I never asked for the expensive gifts 2. Never wanted to do the sports, you forced me” 3. I never asked to be born To all the parents that think just because you did the basic things of gifting us gifts doesn’t mean we need to respect you, you can’t buy love. You treat me right, I treat you right. Edit: Some people in the comment don’t understand so here is what we mean. Just because they do what all parents are expected that doesn’t mean we should respect them after they mentally destroy us. Think of them buying or making you something you didn’t ask for Like if a friend got you a gift for your birthday, but then they ruin your life by taking all your friends from you and give you depression, you are automatically forced to still give them a gift back or praise them for it??

[@cinnamonini.]

I feel you, if there not here for you I am.

[@Kas_Styles]

THIS!!! Exactly this!

[@saraha6571]

If i help u but you haven't asked for it, it doesn't mean u should respect me? Respect your parents for their care and hard work for u. (unless they haven't done that)

[@donnyshields4450]

I think this kind of parenting technique should be illegal

[@raghadal2296]

I know its hard But you should respect your parents Who ever they are and what ever they have done Maybe they acting in a wrong way but inside they love you Yes they might hurt you but they never mean to And if they actually hate you and hurt you on purpose(which rarely could happen)then respect them for the sake of god

[@Spinner_Skates]

(Fair warning, it takes a lot of courage to share this, don't make people here regret sharing) It took me 14 years of living and a broken foot to realize that I was being emotionally and physically abused by my parents. When I was a kid, I was always ignored. I didn't know parents were supposed to love their children equally. Heck, it never even came to mind! I was always the forgotten one. A people pleaser that nobody worried about until they made a mistake. As much as I wish I could forget, I remember living under the constant fear of hurting someone else's feelings. Whenever my older sister was sad, it was always my fault. Or my if little brother gets scraped or cries, then me and my sister would always get hurt. I remember being thrown into my room night after night, sometimes hitting my head on the bed frame, or even rolling my ankle because of the way my dad threw me. I thought that was normal. Every time I complained about him throwing me into my room or down the stairs, he'd threaten to do it again. So, I learned that in order to avoid getting hurt, I had to be the perfect child. I had to be silent, never complain about being hurt, never limp, never cry, never take one second for myself, and pretend I was happy while being trampled over all day every day. Flash forward a few years, 2020 kiss and I can't keep my emotions hidden anymore. And when I feel apart, so did my family. My mom and sister got therapy... which should've helped but only made my sister more subtle About how she hurt me. But my mom got better. Soon I started defying my dad. I had learned karate as a hobby and finally felt like I could defend myself well enough that he wouldn't be able to hurt me. As usual he went to throw me into my room, and I did the defense I had learned in karate. Karate saved me from my dads physical abuse. Being scolded for existing was another matter. I have always been beaten into the shape others want me. I thought it was normal. I thought wrong. I started getting yelled at every time I touched someone. To this day I'm still terrified of physical affection. I'm wired every time someone hugs me that all off the sudden they'll start scolding me to let go of them. Calling me disgusting and treating me like dirt. Which, unfortunately, I was used to. And I never learned to say anything about what was happening, because I knew my dad would try to hurt me and yell at me. I was never even allowed to say no. I thought that was a common rule. If my parents told me to jump off a Cliff, my options were jump or be yelled at about it my whole life. My inability to express anything I felt followed me for two more years. I even broke my foot, and before I screamed in pain, I stopped myself. I knew that if I made a noise above a whisper, my dad would come out here yelling things like, "ugh you're such a baby quit overreacting" or "you do karate you're not allowed to feel pain" so I sat silently and, knowing if I stayed there for too long my dad would force me to walk anyway, I walked on a broken foot to my room. Then, after being told I was overreacting because of my limp, I walked on a broken foot for twelve weeks. My dad has to eat his words a bit, And while I had my broken foot I got therapy and learned that I was being abused. Now, I've started threatening to tell people what he does to me whenever he threatens to throw me out in the snow for the night if I'm too loud, or not give me food for a week. And I had actually just been threatened to get kicked out of the house when I started writing this. I was always the one who is compassionate towards others, in my circumstance, and I still strive to help everyone who may even be feeling a fraction of what I've gone through. I admire everyone brave enough to share their stories, and more I just hope my dad doesn't see this and beat me for it. 😬 Thanks for reading. 💕

[@burhanjabbar172]

Are you okay? I hope your dad hasn't beaten you up for sharing this And I wanted to tell you that you r soo strong both physically and emotionally I am surprised how you survived in this environment Can't you call cops on him??

[@Spinner_Skates]

@@burhanjabbar172 thanks, i'm doing better and will be out of the house soon so i never bothered. Also out of concern they will leave me there with him and then he'll know about that.. But either way i'm doing ok and he hasn't been terrible. thx for the kind words.

[@burhanjabbar172]

@@Spinner_Skates I pray that you find some good people in your life and come out of this trauma as soon as possible Always stay happy and safe

[@vio19848]

I'm truely sorry for your pain. I pray to Jesus 🙏🏻 for all the abuse I've lived and it's helped me to not only heal but forgive my parents and feel free from their pain. Hurt people hurt the closest loved ones. Turn to our Lord God I promise you he will make a way for you to get help 🙏🏻🌺🕊️

[@RAyR111]

Im crying... dear I hope you find a way out soon💛 your so courageous...and seeing you fight back with what you learned in karate is admirable🙏 It always amazes me how ppl who've gone through the worst are the nicest people sometimes...

[@reynavazquez7159]

I hate quarantine because I’m always in my house w my toxic family.

[@lilit3552]

Relatable

[@sittiyarrianneibanez1210]

Relatable

[@kalpanamamnani4299]

Same here man

[@tuloyangkaso2316]

SAME

[@yesminsalima4924]

*Relatable af*

[@Allie-xl3hm]

this is EXACTLY how im treated yet my mom thinks she is so kind and loving and amazing! WRONG AGAIN HUNNY

[@scoobxie]

feel ya

[@phululasidlayi2334]

Yeah knowing that shes capable but really doesnt want to know

[@crowcussion]

SAME THO

[@angelacavon7305]

YEAHHHHHHHH! She even said she's always a nice girl, and she's the best girl in the house. WRONG AGAIN HUNNY! No one is the best person in the house, everyone has a different personality and treats each other differently!

[@AllElite123]

Same

[@alex_n215]

when your parents think it’s ok to treat you like garbage because they give you a place to live and expect respect out of all of that, even though you don’t get respect in return.

[@littlenightmare3481]

Hey are you okay?❤

[@alex_n215]

Little Nightmare // i’m doing better now, thank you for asking ❤️

[@littlenightmare3481]

@@alex_n215 great❤

[@littlenightmare3481]

@@Qourie hey are you okay?

[@captainaegirhellkingsurtr3116]

It's even more disgusting when people support them and ok it for them to do such destructive and abusive behavior. Believe me it's used on me too. And in my opinion it is quite cowardly and inhumane.

[@owenf2392]

I cannot believe how this video just described my childhood.The only part Im not is aggressive to other people or animals but everything else is so true about me. I just have no words to describe how I am feeling right now

[@ryuchuwu]

As a result I developed depression and social anxiety

[@ermida8588]

Welp i think iam developing depression

[@kitcat2449]

@Will Reddish Have you considered psychotherapy? It has at least helped me with anxiety and OCD. I love my therapist, she's really nice :p

[@kitcat2449]

@@ermida8588 try to get help soon, it's easier to stop if you do it early! And make sure there's friends around who you can open up to.

[@naturalmente703]

me too..

[@user-cl8zx6os8u]

Me too ....

[@tanvikittur7352]

This video called me damaged for 5 mins straight.

[@SuicideRedemption]

Same but I already knew I was damaged

[@RuptureEt]

Same... even if i deep down i knew it.

[@rosarinho2232]

@@SuicideRedemption Ikr, I feel attacked

[@bluesap7318]

Ok

[@squippites7356]

I am damaged far too damaged but you’re not vying repair. Stuck around here, make things better cuz you beat me fair and square (heathers reference)

[@GlamourCat1920]

Do you ever cry as a result of being yelled at, only to screamed at for crying, which in turn makes you cry? If only I would be used to it by now, being on the brink of adulthood.

[@social-mushroom7657]

When I get yeld at I just laugh cause I know what happens when I cry but when I laugh they think I'm mentally retarded and if I cry I'm a bitch

[@nefgames1837]

Trust me. You never get used to it. Eventually you will become it. You gotta save yourself and avoid that toxic environment. Just try to live a happy life. Away from that toxic person/situation.

[@Elizabethsalerna]

Yes :/

[@smileyface8434]

NeF Games I needed this statement. I thought by now anyone would be used to this.... but now I know I’m not the only one who’s not adapted to this :(

[@rohankishibe4352]

That happens to me all the time. My mom used to call me a crybaby all the time and it made me feel horrible

[@Genyasuffers_frommath]

I swear this matches my personality so much, i play online games all day and its all because of my online friends who can calm me down or cheer me up and when people took my phone away i cried because my only happiness is IN their Hands. They cant understand me like my friends and they always put me in pressure whenever i dont pass an exam its makes me feel like a failure especially when they yelled at me because i got 80% the will say "WHY DID YOU GET 80% YOU HAVE STUDIED AND ITS EASY" and im self conscious anout my future, i want too be successful but at the same time there is a burden that holds me back from things i like too do, when ever i dont play my games and try too get attention they will just watch TV and play with they're phones meanwhile when i do play the will say "WHY ARE YOU PLAYING GAME SO MUCH GO HAVE FAMILY TIME WITH OTHERS" especially when my other family members stepped in they are nice unlike my parents but i have my favorites but when its new year they will take a lot of photos and they will force me too get angpaos when i dont want too, i want too spend time with my friends instead. They will never give me a break.

[@liv-bs7qt]

I had like a huge breakdown while watching this, i cant live with my parents like this anymore its just making me crazy. Please tell me im not the only one

[@christianahandle7488]

You aren't the only one, there are millions of us who have wicked families! It's sad.

[@moondust1338]

You are never the only one out there who feels something ^^ There is always someone who understands. If you fell you can't live there anymore then leave. Find somewhere you can really call home

[@mceze925]

I understand you, I don't know how to tell my parents I want to move out because I'm afraid they'll get mad at me...

[@martinaherbst-kroha19]

@Aylar .A 🌻🌞🌻

[@peachiee1]

I WANT TO GET OUT OF HERE

[@pip398]

mom: * yells at me for something i did that was genuinely on accident * me: * tries to calmly explain myself * mom: * *tells me to stop talking back and yells at me even more* *

[@lsnz.3545]

Dude yes and my mom yelled at me for something I didn't do and guess what it was over a toilet seat being up ._. and she just took my console and always make me feels sad and my dad to and they call me bad names and all that...

[@livquue]

That's my dad

[@shilpasubash8844]

Yeah happend many times

[@xotic96]

So true.

[@majo9145]

@@lsnz.3545 dude do you have discord or smth

[@dav1d.w]

I have never heard the words “I love you” from my family

[@ankurkumar2648]

same here

[@ch3rryc0la79]

They only do sometimes.

[@novagaming7122]

Asian ??? I too never heard 💔

[@thesteven1950]

Oh they never said that from you everytime my parents say “we love you” they say it in a sarcastic voice

[@themanyt7882]

I only hear it once every two years

[@fruity4u]

One of the worst feelings in the world, is when you cry and you can't breath and start getting bad thoughts on sh. Really messed up my life, and they don't even know it. I feel like most of the time it is my fault and i'm sorry for venting. Thank you if you actually read this. I just need help in life rn.. and major advice

[@koichihirose3526]

"depressed? ugh, hormones" "what's wrong with you, you can't do anything right" "i don't care if you're being bullied, its your responsibility to come up for yourself" "you have no right to be sad, i cook food for you and you have a roof to sleep under, isn't that enough to be grateful for?!" "look at all your classmates and friends, they have good grades and their parents dont have to deal with such a disappointment like you" - my mom

[@ryliebaker2149]

ahh yes. the classic, “you have no right to feel bad about what i said because i buy you clothes to keep you warm and i cook you food to keep you full. now shut up about how awful i am because look at YOU!”

[@mismagnius]

Just move to an another house or to an orphanage...

[@Navy1711]

I am deeply sorry that you all have to go through that. No one should go through this alone

[@sasha3010]

Can relate. When I broke up with a s/o she said:"You can't do even THAT right." Or "You're not worth the dirt under my fingertips." - Needless to say I was bullied in school as well and am on alert almost all of the day. 4 years ago I couldn't even leave my house. - Btw: My mom got theraphy, she's like a different person but I can't talk to her about this stuff. - I have been 10 years on and off theraphy. And she thinks I need more. LOL / Needless to say I can guess that even if you tell her stuff she directly deletes it from her brain as some "unimportant grow up pains". Everybody has their own experience and own ways to deal with pain. It depends on how much the individual person can carry. And depression is/can be inherited. --- I really do hope you get help or try to do something good for yourself! Much strength to you!

[@pamelaberry6523]

My mom says that too

[@BH181]

I cried a little because I related to 8 out of the 10 signs, especially the one about struggling to socialize (number 4).

[@Face44445]

I feel the same actually. I have a lot of the problems that got mentioned in this video

[@FunTime-uu7tu]

I can relate to most of them, almost all 10 of those signs

[@FunTime-uu7tu]

Me too

[@kxngmxrs]

Same

[@triborg5013]

Indeed

[@marlainab7165]

"Im disappointed in you. I expect better. you are so ungrateful. after all we do for you."

[@zhayio]

This hit hard

[@Fenrir90918]

Yep

[@EugeneAxe]

Anytime I hear "after all we've done for you" I get so pissed. It's like, that's your job, a-hole. You're a PARENT.

[@Fenrir90918]

@@EugeneAxe agreed

[@sarahkhatir5446]

This and my mom always says: I was married when I was your age (18). Ok wow congratulations but i don’t give a fuck! So what? That doesn’t have anything to do with me tho! I wish could say this to her face