7 Signs You are a TRUE Gentleman

[@bruceboman9801]

I'm 67 years old and watching your video. Live, don't just exist. Get better, not bitter. Yes, great words. But wisdom is what one DOES with those words. Well done, my man.

[@Afrologist]

A gentleman was traditionally a member of the gentry that didn't have to physically labor for a living. In the modern day, it has transformed into an ethos which tries to encapsulate that level of sophistication in both action & aesthetic. Stoicism & religious virtue is the bedrock of gentlemanly philosophy, yet many people simply see it as a stylistic choice.

[@401Blues]

I agree...Stoicism is the foundation of a gentlemen...from which you can become a True Gentlemen

[@estebanmunoz7486]

Man… that’s an impressive summary… thanks a lot…

[@FlatOutMatt]

Not convinced that religion is required - could just as easily be an impediment when you consider how zealots behave 😕

[@Afrologist]

@@FlatOutMatt I'd rather live in a society where vices & impulses are constrained by the spiritual implications of morality than the literal circus we find ourselves living in today.

[@FlatOutMatt]

@@Afrologist fantastic but the problem is they’re not constrained by any sensible definition of that word.

[@richoneplanet7561]

Personality traits of a gentleman 1. Maintains dignity. Have enough confidence in your own abilities so you don't become desperate. 'I will always be ok.' 2. Self-respect - dress well, eat good food, good skin care, style - 'I deserve' to dress, eat well 3. Gentlemanly behaviors - no man is an island, make the effort to make the world a better place, help others, be kind and warm 4. Gentleman is unique and authentic - don't be afraid to think for yourself, eccentricities can be ok 5. Open Minded - gentleman does not look down on others but recognizes other's points of view 6. Taking ownership - the buck stops with me, no excuses, takes responsibility for actions and state of mind 7. 'I shall use my time' philosophy. Do what you want to do. Don't waste your days. Not afraid to step out of the ordinary

[@walterfoyt5985]

Being male is a matter of birth. Being a man is a matter of age. Being a gentleman is a matter of choice - Vin Diesel

[@chadwickdavis1749]

Well said!

[@christophneuschaeffer7489]

Here is a nice addition from one of my favorite songs of the 1980s by Sting: If "manners maketh man" as someone said. He's the hero of the day. It takes a man to suffer ignorance and smile. Be yourself no matter what they say. Modesty, propriety can lead to notoriety. You could end up as the only one. Gentleness, sobriety are rare in this society. At night a candle's brighter than the sun Takes more than combat gear to make a man. Takes more than a license for a gun. Confront your enemies, avoid them when you can. A gentleman will walk but never run.

[@vanessaeriksson1212]

As a Classic Gentlewoman, I would like to thank you for your incredible content, this video in particular. I apply all of your habits daily. Keep soaring in your endeavours and I wish you endless success.

[@AnthonyRodriguez-xe7cx]

A gentleman is the epitome of power under contol. The true gentleman is a tough man willing to protect and stand against deception and tyranny.

[@advhawk6455]

Solid gold. We live in a dangerous world, so I would add that a gentleman invokes peace through strength.

[@ms.annthrope415]

Yet a gentlemen is not going to be a punching bag. He wants to avoid a fight, but like James Bond as stated, he can clear out the bar, or realistically, in at least put himself out of harms way. Yes we live in a dangerous world. A gentlemen isn't a sheep walking blindly among the wolves. There is no being less gentlemanly in being paranoid enough to see danger areas, recognize the human wolves, and avoid the ambush points. Being a gentlemen does not mean a yuppie target walking around thinking all is good and everyone is wonderful. Some of good, some are pure evil

[@petermartin9494]

A real gentleman pursues a meaningful and ethical profession.

[@dadonthetube]

In my mind, bravery and chivalry is part of a gentleman's character.

[@JamesRDavenport]

We cannot choose how we're born, our start in life, or who will love us. But we can choose whether we'll believe the truth or the lie, whether we'll show up, when we'll give up, and if our word will mean something or nothing at all. You choose your own reputation. No matter who you are, you can choose to live your life with integrity.

[@tylerwhitney]

What a beautiful ending! So inspired...

[@Joele54]

Very inspiring to know that someone of your age has such wisdom. I would only add that one should never stop learning: about art and culture, science and technology, psychology - follow your interests and broaden your knowledge. But never stop learning.

[@MM-vv8mt]

A gentleman always endeavors to not unintentionally offend others. He always remains in control of himself wherever he is and whatever is happening around him. He studies the emotion and contents of this thoughts and does not practice anger or jealousy. He never punches down. He is conscientious in all things, big and small. His word is sacred. Remember, it takes a lifetime to build a good reputation, but only five minutes to ruin it.

[@SadButter]

That first sentence is a weird one. It kinda sounds like "a gentleman always endeavors to intentionally offend others." Might want to elaborate on that.

[@sandwitch61762]

@@SadButter To my understanding he means that a gentlemen minds his language to not sound harsh or even offensive.

[@MrFenris75]

These are all wonderful traits that any person, at any age, should heed. I specifically love Trait 3. Showing kindness and compassion for others is, in my opinion, one of the most gentlemanly virtues one can have.

[@pensivepenguin3000]

That quote you shared reminded me of the Neil Young lyric from his song, “Hey Hey, My My”: “it’s better to burn out than to fade away.” More succinct and plain spoken, but I think it gets at the same idea

[@benwillis124]

This is such wonderful advice, and so refreshing! Thank you for producing this content, so sorely needed today!

[@ronaldtapp5136]

Well done. Bravo!

[@sarahschmidt4177]

This is outstanding! Your advice to seek counseling, if necessary to improve/prepare oneself for that perfect mate, is just stellar.

[@owengreene382]

Im not handsome. Im on the avarge branch of the tree. All through my 67 years ive had to build this fake personality, high energy, overgraces. I even took acting classes. And its mostly worked. At 5-10, 12 stone 4 puonds and a nice mop of hair, i made a point from an early age, to get my haircut every 3 to 4 weeks to spruce myself up and to feel good. My working life is at an end, my children have flown the nest, and my wife and l travel more at home in Ireland and abroad. I have 3 brother's who are better looking than me, (my wife does not agree) but, i must say, because of my short comings in the looks department, I've certainly made up for it in charm and generosity, and above all its made me more humble. I love your podcast, its full of intelligent manly advese. God bless you. You seamed to be a tallented lovely guy.

[@ImYourOverlord]

High and noble living, and defense of those weaker than yourself.

[@DrRonThomasJr]

I do not know the source of the quote but years ago I heard “A gentleman does not inconvenience others.” So good manners, strong ethics, and self-control factor into it. It is how I strive to carry myself.

[@ulvesparker]

Trait #3 yes absolutely. Thinking back on what most distinguishes a gentleman to me is how one treats others, regardless of age, gender, perceived social status. Politeness, kindness, a respectful calm demeanor, and generally making people comfortable around one (even service staff) are all traits that define a gentleman. Nicely done video.

[@TimDriscoll-i8d]

Good advice Number Seven revealed strong life lessons 👍

[@peterjosephdrums]

“A gentleman takes responsibility for both his actions, and his state of mind.” Bravo! I’ve met a countless number of men who’ve never learned this. I loved the Jack London reference by the way. “The call of the wild” is one of my favourite books.

[@lindanorris2455]

right on!

[@subhankardey6652]

Thank You James, I highly appreciate your efforts.

[@JimBobH13]

This video has a tremendous amount of wisdom. I'd like to add: A gentleman thinks before he speaks, and he considers what effect his words may have on others.

[@JustAnotherGoddess52]

I wonder who your father and mother were and how they influenced you. They did a good job. Thank you for promoting gentlemanly traits for all young men. Hopefully we'll see a parallel video about how to be a true lady.

[@birdman4565]

GentZ is clearly a man of intelligence, capable of original thought. Then there's the little things like his correct pronunciation of "often", "entrepreneur", etc. Pretty impressive.

[@skepticaloptimist1917]

The advice you give in this episode is quite good, and some of your more profound. It resonated with me. You have inspired me in a lot of smal ways and it is nice to to be assured that there are still people who understand and appreciate the idea of holding ourselves to a higher standard.

[@douglasdietz7503]

Very good and valid info and advice. These are learned attributes. In order to learn these important values, boys and young men have to be taught. Unfortunately, this is not the agenda, by and large, of fathers, families or society. We, as aspiring gentlemen, must provide inspiration, guidance and direction through our actions and demeanor. Without pretension, indignation or authority. Just by being and acting as real gentlemen. I salute your efforts. Cheers

[@ianoakpark]

Being a true gentlemen always means you are socially aware of the people around you and their needs. Making sure you acknowledge them as human beings and validate their worth regardless of your differences.

[@thesiselchannel]

I live in Israel and in this hot little country, however nice it may be , you can almost rarely see a person in a tie. And I cannot explain why , but I always dreamed of going to work and going a full day with a tie (just like in the American 80s 90s 2000s films). So ive decided one day to go in smart at work , and yes I get looks from people surrounding me but to my surprise the people I work with are very delighted with the way I dress to work , and so now I rock a tie almost every day even though it is so not a part of Israeli culture, yet people still love it and Im glad they do!

[@mikewise1256]

A long time ago, when a senior in high school, one member of our gang suggested that each Friday we should dress up in business attire - jacket & tie - for school. I really liked the idea. We were all likely to end up in academic or managerial roles, and our final year in high school was really our job, so why not dress the part! (And the girls who were important to us liked it too!)

[@thesiselchannel]

@@mikewise1256 awesome! My girl likes it as well😉

[@highpointadvisors9314]

​@@thesiselchannel Women like men who have themselves "put together". It begins with an idea about dress, then becomes other ideas, and eventually a "philosophy of life".

[@herosjourneymotivation]

Nothing about being an Israeli is gentlemanly

[@mahdimohmmedmahdi4149]

Children kills you support genocide

[@aaronramos8872]

Being a self-disciplined man. Cultivating such quality transfers into any endeavor one pursues and is the quality that gets him through the most difficult of times.

[@thomashubbell7551]

Superb. Profound and concise. You touched on themes expounded by Jesus Christ, the Stoics, Dale Carnegie & Ralph Waldo Emerson. Thank you.

[@msjoanofthearc]

One of your best presentations.

[@ronaldpoppe3774]

Very well said. I have always liked Jack London's writing. I like that quote. I always say you can't save time you can only spend it. So spend it wisely. Cheers Ron

[@kevinderrickson2759]

Love the channel. Cheers!

[@robertcoreth6793]

I have led a life much as Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote about in his essay “Self Reliance.” Your approach to gentleman characteristics parallels Emerson’s writings. In addition, if I may add, gentleman characteristics are always manly in nature.

[@philipciaffa6643]

Time very well spent! How ironic that many are preoccupied with and distracted by the superficial, the pretentious, the scoundrels, who espouse and exemplify the exact opposite of these values, characteristics and behaviors. I hope that you find a wider audience and visibility.

[@lutzmuller2166]

Good evening Sir, thank you for the video. Well said what makes a gentleman with values. A man is not born a gentleman, it is a process and it is helpful to have a mentor to guide you through it. Unfortunately, there are fewer and fewer men or gentlemen who take on this role. So thank you again for your videos.

[@johnallen8860]

Great video, I’m glad I found your channel!

[@jax5875]

Such an inspirational video 👍🏻

[@FloydFair-yj2yq]

Much admired...well done sit.

[@JonathanLewis-gf1lu]

I agree And at the same time bring humor to the world to

[@strikeback1080]

Very nice. This vid hit a lot of points. I enjoyed hearing them said. Not because I was already doing activity and that made me feel good. But because there have been times when I doubted myself while doing some of things you said. For example, I have wondered if I've been too open minded. As crazy as that sounds. I have been told that I'm too willing to listen to oppossing views. And to to disregard the person telling me that would in a sense be me being unwilling to listen to a different view. So it sometimes seems to me that being a gentleman is like a dance that's a give & take between partners, or like a boxer who favors counter punching. You have a style and it may be strong and works well for you but it can never be completely dominant because you never lose the concentration of what others are doing. So you can never get too much into yourself. I think that's the message here or at least part of it. Thanks for the vid. And for helping me to think.

[@abhilash7381]

Good points brother👍

[@robertfriss1440]

Great post…your channel is both informative and inspiring 🙌🏻.

[@oskarek57]

Wise and great video as always!

[@Danielscuriosity2]

I like your shirt pal

[@maxhirsch7035]

Great overall video, but- some of us haven gotten to see the last James Bond movie yet- going forward, please consider not providing narrative spoilers for it or other films, thanks!

[@ConsumerTeamPete]

One of your best efforts. Well done!

[@d.l.glover2448]

Sidney Poitier lived in my Beverly Hills neighborhood. A few times I had the pleasure of speaking with him at our local food market. He was gracious and elegant in a very quiet way. And always impeccably dressed I might add.

[@chadwickdavis1749]

FYI I really like the suit jacket that you wore for this video!

[@rickdaddario190]

So very eloquently presented! Thank you so very much for this, and all other videos you provide. God bless you.

[@vonketelsen430]

Thank you so m much for another wonderful video! You sir, are a very insightful, and wise gentleman!

[@aqua2752]

James Bond was an agent..as well as a gent! Definitely sir, you are a very charming man! I love your videos!

[@TheDailyWorkYT]

Loving the outfit James! Keep it up!

[@davidschramm5153]

always love your talks young man.....

[@Pokechick_laura]

Gent Z I really like your eyebrows in this video, I find they look quite attractive and suit your face and style 👍 also thankyou for this video, I play a lot of these for my husband

[@Martin_Romanowski]

Gentleman is also always humble and always says Thank you Please when he wants something or if someone does him a favour or gesture

[@harriglnola7655]

Excellent!!!

[@washingt0ns]

I'm part of a guild of gentlemen on discord. A community that wants to help improve men. I shared this video to the gentlemen there. Cheers mate!

[@TheTravellingCritic-ke8kh]

What an excellent job! Having seen many videos about the do's and don'ts in life, I was horrified with the thought about what I would hear again. But, I have to admit, I was wrong. Not only are you explaining why doing this or that in a particular situation is unacceptable for a gentleman, you are also offering alternatives, and you are giving the viewer the permission to be himself. Now, I might disagree a little bit with the messiness, especially with the messy desk. As the joke goes, the boss is shouting at his secretary: "You organized my desk! How am I going to find anything again?" Otherwise, it is absolutely refreshing to see that in the 21st century of social media, dating apps and artificial intelligence, some people are still paying detailed attention to social etiquette, good manners and savoir vivre.

[@broncoxy]

great video, very inspiring, good job!

[@garylocke4302]

A gentleman doesn't swear at or in front of women. He doesn't treat her as one of the guys.

[@scrider5493]

A role model for me is the fictional Sheriff Andy Taylor; always humble, always permitting Deputy Barney Fife to take center stage, always social, always super glad to meet and greet etc. Andy Griffith said he wished he was more like Andy Taylor. I have looked for writings on how to be more like Andy Taylor. If you know of any, please let me know. Good vid.

[@jamesryan82]

Now THIS is the kind of stuff men need right now. No more cod philosophy. This is how to level up. Back to basics. Become a gentleman 💪

[@kenneth7826]

BRAVO!!!!!!U DID IT ALL....HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY!!!!

[@kenneth7826]

@@jheagy1234567890 james why not??????

[@kenneth7826]

Where is here???,,,

[@doctornov7]

Big fan of your work! It's really helping me refine my gentlemanly sensibilities, many of which have (fortunately) come naturally to me. So, thank you. Also, I love this music. Playlist?

[@tedielalantacon9042]

Thanks

[@devindemond1972]

Absolutely brilliant!!! 🥃 ✨

[@MakerMontez]

Great video. Another good idea could be a discussion on, 'signs you're not a gentleman, and what to do about it'.

[@garethhoughton9720]

A gentleman is not defined by the content of his wallet or the cut of his suit but by the content of his character and his manners.

[@dhikusookajeremiah853]

This is so important ❤❤

[@paullewis2413]

My parents taught me to be a gentleman. Be considerate to others, don’t use bad language in public (private is another matter kkk) dress according to where you are, respecting your surroundings. I’m becoming more of a rare breed now, however that doesn’t tempt me to change, quite the opposite, I feel how pathetic so many are in their look and behaviour, it’s actually a sign of their inner insecurity. 😊

[@oldcop18]

I’m in my late 70s and like to believe I carry myself as a gentleman but have one Q: What’s with the unshaven look? My dad taught me to shower, shave and dress well every day. You look sharp with the exception of the stubble.

[@dalecito5816]

Thank you for this

[@CerxFouquet9]

One conundrum I often face is the unsupressable disgust I feel when I encounter those who make zero effort - which is quite often, I'm afraid. On trains, I see full grown men with yellowed shirts that are clearly not well fit and have greasy hair, smelling strange, and are glued to their phones looking at animated girls (I live in Japan), tapping away. I do not care it's a cheap suit or not, but for God's sake, wear it properly, stand straight, and read a book. It's the few instances (well, given the population scale of such men, perhaps highly frequent) that I despise and look down on people. I respect everyone for any job (well, given that it is legal), social standing, level of wealth, and beliefs. Attitude and mannerisms are however, another story to me. Perhaps I'm not gentlemanly enough.

[@ManlyHK1]

Well said n I am beginning to like your channel!

[@NN-gy7xl]

eyebrows on point

[@NigelDeForrest-Pearce-cv6ek]

Brilliant!!!! My Father is My Role Model !!!!!

[@davidbiagini9048]

I'm a baby boomer so not your primary audience. However, I would like to commend you on bringing the gentleman lifestyle to new generations and highlighting the difference between living and simply being alive. Also, that Jack London quote is my favorite.

[@erisium6988]

Small addon to Trait 7 if u are from Germany/Austria please dont get mad if people wont see ur painting as amazing as they are, prove the haters wrong and dont become politician.

[@DiverPilot]

Adolf has been dead for over 79 years...let it go. Lol

[@ElliottNest41]

Well done.

[@nkx19]

Really nice video! Do you edit your videos by yourself?

[@NapoleonCalland]

5:25 Closing the gap between the late Sir Terry Pratchett's ''gentle man'' ideal and the archetype you're upholding. 🦁 ☀️ 🐝 ⚡ 🦅 ⚡ 🐝 ☀️ 🦁

[@vicentealencar9132]

This was great!😢

[@joewauters9065]

Great content thank you

[@Counter007]

I would add protective personality in a healthy way

[@bsmith1]

Great content! Getting some great insight. If I can share one piece of advice since I've gotten so much from you; Vermouth is kept in the fridge. It goes bad quickly.

[@MM-vv8mt]

And vermouth comes in both sweet and dry forms; a touch of both are necessary for a "Perfect Manhattan".

[@bsmith1]

@@MM-vv8mt Looks like he has both with some Bullet Bourbon and Tanqueray. Grab some cocktail cherries and Angostura and you got yourself a nice little Martini/Manhattan set up.

[@Gent.Z]

I drink it quicker than it can go bad ;)

[@Gent.Z]

@@bsmith1you have good eyes! There are also some bitters lurking behind. I keep my cherries and other garnishes in the fridge

[@christoffera720]

Good words keep it up !

[@007ndc]

This young gentleman is wiser than most guys I see stumbling around America.

[@hustensaftvernichter3785]

Let us not act as if that were a standard...

[@TonePlace13]

Being a gentleman is about word and deed, not about clothes or styles

[@alienbrand1218]

Could you make a video in which you talk about your education and career?

[@50Street21]

Might I, as a Canadian, add to your mantra for living a positive life, a quote from our famous British Columbian artist, Emily Carr (1871 - 1945) "I am always watching for fear of getting feeble and passé in my work. I want to pour till the pail is empty, the last bit going out in a gush, not drops.”

[@FlamingCockatiel]

1. He has confidence. 2. He has self-respect. 3. He is kind and giving. 4. He is unique. 5. He is open-minded (how to differentiate between snob and gentlemen). 6. He takes ownership. 7. He has a definite life philosophy and takes risks, using his time well.

[@davidnorth9390]

Rust Never Sleeps

[@mfisher1952]

Take a deep breath and count to ten before reacting - in any fashion. There may be more than just what is immediately in front of you.

[@gr0276]

American style is dominated by the rabble these days. The upside is it’s easy to be and dress well above average