7 Things I Wish I Knew Sooner

7 Things I Wish I Knew Sooner
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[@user-ok9wz9uy6y]

I was playing with my and babysitting my 10 month old granddaughter and suddenly I noticed i didn’t have any pain. I only lasted for a few minutes, but the point is at one point I was so distracted and engaged that my brain wasn’t able to perceive danger !!!

[@Inge508]

Such a wonderful experience !wishing you lots of precious painfree moments with your baby -girl- granddaughter ❤

[@vanessawilhelm594]

I notice the same when I play with animals. I am getting my puppy on April 18th :) was wanting her for so long but I was scared I wouldn't be able to care for her which was just the fear speaking. I have just signed a new lease for a flat with garden and I paid the deposit for my puppy :) I'm sure she will be a great support for me on this journey!

[@Inge508]

@@vanessawilhelm594a new start for you!❤❤❤

[@Rike-gr1jg]

@@vanessawilhelm594Wonderful! My "puppy" (she already almost is seven) saved my life so often! It´s a big task and also a lot of responsibility and it absolutely is worth it!!! ❤❤❤ One recommendation: Find a good training for you and your dog, it´s fun in a group and helpful to understand dog-language.......

[@Rike-gr1jg]

@@vanessawilhelm594Wonderful! My "puppy" ( she already almost is seven) saved my life so often! It is a big task and also a lot of responsibility and it absolutely is worth it!❤❤❤ One recommendation: Find a good training for you and your dog, it´s fun in a group (anyway for the puppy) and helps a lot understanding dog-language........

[@c.h.mastenbroek9683]

I wonder if being single after a long term relationship and feeling lonely create perceived danger, but seeing this video I think I know the answer. My brain is telling me that being alone all day and not having a spouse is dangerous for me.

[@PainFreeYou]

It very well could be. Consciously change the story that being alone, does not need to hurt physically. (TMS/PDP)

[@Inge508]

For me, I wish I knew that all my coping mechanisms( pleasing,pushing through, repressing emotions, keeping quite, saying yes when I felt NO, were just survival tools and not really ME! Those mechanisms / patterns depleted and dis aligned myself completely from who I really AM. and want to be. Just acknowledging that gives a big release mentally, emotionally and physically ❤

[@Inge508]

And perfectionism of course !!

[@Lenneke8422]

Yep same here ❤

[@Rike-gr1jg]

I also belong to this group........ ❤

[@marieleak8731]

Yes Inge, same here.

[@PainFreeYou]

Well said Inge! Big hugs.

[@lilacfunish]

1 it is not just repressed emotions, also any perceived danger. 2 don’t keep digging in repressed emotion cause just enough to say my brain is perceiving danger. 3 perceived danger, pain or symptoms mean you’re not actually broken 4 don’t have to figure ok it all out. 5 avoid pain is counter productive and does not make safer. 6 did not have to believe my own thinking 7 emoting are not actually dangerous Only uncomfortable.

[@1STBUCKLEY]

London under a sky of dark cloud, non stop rain. Found this morning very difficult, stomach in knots etc. lots of lifey stuff. Near to tears with frustration, then I gave myself a talking too. Grabbed lots of clothes/coats, so much brand new but I'm done( I'm struggling trying to clear stuff out, home reflecting the clutter in my head I think 🤔)bagged up 3big bags for charity and even dropped them off. Drove to library /park. Sat in my car, it's my sanctuary. I need a camper van 😂. Listening in everyday warms my heart. Big hugs to my pain free "family"❤️🫂

[@Inge508]

It’s so funny Dan! I discovered you before Dr Sarno in aug 2021! I broke my ankle and had to rest for a week from my doctor. I was SOO bored, and my daughter phoned me and said: mum, do you have you tube? You can find al kind of lovely videos on it! So I installed it and typing chronic pain, I found a video of a grey guy named Dan with a white paper in his hand explaining the pain - loop! That was my first eye- opening moment and learning about Tms/ pdp. Since then I started to be happy and hopeful again! Just wanted to share that❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Wow - love to hear the origin story. So cool.

[@masspatriot5409]

Initially I thought it was about repressed emotions but as I started on this journey I believe it is about patterns. We develop habits or patterns of behavior and the brain learns this and reacts a certain way. I found when I was able to break these patterns or behaviors was when I achieved success. When you are doing well and some of those “symptoms” resurface it is so much easier to recognize and ignore knowing they will pass.

[@Inge508]

💯 agree with you Mass! Have a great day ❤️🙋‍♀️

[@lLemonadel]

Thanks Dan! An I right in thinking this be a sneak peak of a chapter from your new book?! Not sure if I got the numbers in the right spot but here’s a summary if anyone wants it!! #1 It’s not just about repressed emotions. The brain can perceive emotions as dangerous, it’s true, but it’s broader than that : anything that the brain perceives as dangerous or stressful can cause pain or other symptoms. Our own thinking, doctor’s appointments, movement, body positions, self judgment and criticism, people pleasing, etc. #2 You don’t have to figure it all out. You don’t have to find a repressed emotion, or an underlying cause / message to your symptoms. If you think you do, you will hunt for the underlying cause every time you have a symptom. #3 It’s enough to realize that your brain is perceiving danger, and to teach your brain that those things don’t actually warrant physical sensations or body pain. There’s no reason they need to cause pain. #4 Trying to fix your pain, even with a mind body approach, is counterproductive, because it convinces the brain that something bad is going on. #5 Same thing with avoiding activities and other avoidance behaviors. It does not make you safer. #6 You don’t have to believe your own thoughts. #7 Emotions are not actually dangerous. They do not warrant the brain creating pain.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for typing this up. :-)

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Thank you, managed to screenshot in two. Will write up when I get home, it's how I work 🙄

[@joseph8468]

Great note taking.

[@bettybalcom2179]

Was that a funny or is Dan really writing a book? Would❤ that

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, I am writing a book. @@bettybalcom2179

[@jomassey4207]

My pain is mechanical. Crying is a good release and swearing. Im a truth teller and dont hold much back. Anger is a wasted emotion but not when you talk to yourself about the pain being an ass. Distraction is good but you cant exhaust yourself by doing all the time. I know I need an operation to help reduce the mechanical trigger. Taking care of yourself is important.....saying no to people. Authentic self without ego is my journey. No makeup. No trying to impress anyone. Loving and caring about loving and caring people. Telling yourself you are strong to cope with pain. A comfy bed and some good music. My list for today.😊

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for your comment. Many people who previously believed their pain was mechanical were able to learn more, do an assessment and apply the concepts I teach to get well. Assess to see if your pain behaves mechanical or like the brain perceiving emotions is the cause. IsThisTMS.com If so, the fast start playlist explains what to do to turn off the pain. DansFastStart.com Either way, wishing you well.

[@AngelaBee_13]

Love Dr Sarno and love how you have taken this to the next level. Thanks for all you do 💕

[@kararaehsler3581]

The information is truly LIFE changing! Thank you for all you do, Dan!

[@PainFreeYou]

I appreciate that!

[@DrDanielGabriel]

Amazing video Dan!! Dr Sarno may have pioneered this but YOU have figured it out enough for people to fully recover from this, and it WORKS - Congrats to you!!! 🎉❤

[@josiejo117]

So helpful & all truth...bless you as always Dan.💜

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks Josie.

[@marieleak8731]

For Me Dan, you are the much Improved version of Sarno!! You are a Blessing. Thanks 💕💕💕

[@PainFreeYou]

Wow, thank you

[@STY450]

Hi Dan, really appreciate your work! I discovered you last week and already benefitting tremendously from what I've seen. I dont have pain symptoms, but more psychological/emotional distress. I would really appreciate if you would do a video about how to deal with catastrophizing thoughts (or if at all we should deal with them). Take care.

[@PainFreeYou]

While not specifically about catastrophizing, this video is about different options regarding thoughts. kzbin.info/www/bejne/foeUkKxpmMaWnac

[@1STBUCKLEY]

For some reason I never saw the food issues, fear of medications & criticism of myself (albeit in my head)as being a "feeder". Doh 🙄. I need more self love ❤️❤️. Great video today 🙏

[@user-pg8ew8uo1e]

No one and I mean no one has made me understand mind/body the way you have! believe me I’ve tried so many courses and groups,that always lead to another course or a group🥴 so thank you Dan for your videos and for caring ❤️

[@peacefulandfree1]

Thank you Dan! These insights are so valuable!! I read The Divided Mind four weeks ago and have been using your videos daily to help coach me through the implementation of this 'approach' to chronic pain/symptoms. I have been debilitated and unable to work or have any quality of life outside the home for years, due to many "central sensitivity syndromes". I started enjoying my life on day 1, and within four weeks, I'm completely off medications! Thank you so much for all your time and devotion to others in pain. You're an unsung hero of our age, Dan!

[@leonardus6791]

Short video, yes! But one with a very deep impact! It shows me how true it is right away 😨 watched it after a hell of a night... Wanted to watch your video that I didn't finish yesterday... It was early in the morning and switched on my phone to watch.... It was this one that appeared instead.... It released my mind... Pain is still there but the "amplifier" got to the background. Wonderful that you share this , thank you. This short video says exactly what I needed, every word. ❤❤❤

[@joseph8468]

As good as this video is, and as wise are the majority of these comments. It is a joy just to hear such goodness.

[@PainFreeYou]

Dan Goodness. haha

[@JaneThomas58]

Good one, Dan. Needed this today

[@imperfectly_megan]

Thank you! I have only just started on the recovery journey (reading sarno's book for only 1 week) but the first 2 things are really going to help me a lot I think. Ironically though I think I did find "the answer" by thinking about perceived danger and what things in my life were perceived as dangerous. I wanted to add that sometimes your brain is right and a situation is dangerous (like a vocally abusive relationship).

[@user-sn8ci5vt6y]

Have a chiropractic appt today. Had i seen these videos a few days earlier, I would have cancelled! 😂. But I already confirmed id be there, so off i go. Not anything acute, just general stiffness and some pain, but I'm not going to let it bother ne anymore! Thank you, Dan.

[@PainFreeYou]

You got this!

[@rosa91052]

Listening to Dan everyday keeps me sane, stable, grounded , relieves my fears and anxiety . Yes, I can do it!!❤ thank you Dan.

[@cheryl8493]

So Good, Dan❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you.

[@TheVaultwest]

The people pleasing part applies to me 100%. Also, the fixing-it focus. My perfectionism (from my dad) told me i have to find exactly the right program and then follow it perfectly in order to get better. So many self-imposed restrictions make it pretty hard to hear my own intuition and feel a sense of safety. I DID find the right program! Thank you, Dan. Another really helpful video to take with me through my day 💐🩵

[@marketa4074]

This was helpful. Your videos oftentimes make me feel peaceful

[@marieleak8731]

I wish I knew Then, that all the survival patterns I took on would cause so much physical pain. Thanks Dan.💕

[@Inge508]

💯 !❤

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome

[@Sheeeeshack]

Love you doc

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you, but I'm not a doctor. Just a regular guy who coaches.

[@Sheeeeshack]

@@PainFreeYou 🙏 ❤️

[@ShibbysVideos]

Thank you, Dan! 😇

[@user-uh4qb4ug5e]

Definitely a writer downer! You’re the best!

[@PainFreeYou]

Wow, thank you!

[@Inge508]

You passed 37000 subscribers !! 🥂🎂🎉🎉🎉👏👏👏😀

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes! Thank you!

[@sherrilawrence662]

Ive been reading thru the comments and continually play the start Playlist. I KNOW that you are right. I am not consistent and numerous other habitual negative things. I will keep trying to implement as my symptoms and life are worsening rapidly over the years as well. I don't speak to anyone and NOLONGER remember how to use the computer and be out of bed much. Im hopeful to work up to joining the group ❤

[@stephanielegarda5443]

Great video! I also love your deep breaths at the beginning, a nice reminder to check in with our own breath.

[@PainFreeYou]

😊 thank you

[@glennreynolds2557]

I’m a young guy and had a lot of TMS symptoms but I’ve been able to successfully reduce and even eliminate most of them using your approach of safety. However my misaphonia won’t seem to go, despite applying this same mindset

[@MollieMiniatures]

Loved this video Dan! This one I am going to keep to watch more than nonce. Thanks!

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome, thank you!

[@judithhendriksen3631]

Dan, thank you so much for your daily encouragements! Especially when I cann't find the 'glimmers' in my day you are allways there to shine some light and give me hope and confidence to hold on. What is your opinion about medication for painrelief? I thought it would be better than going to a physiotherapist, but it still is 'fixing my pain'....

[@PainFreeYou]

My take is that if it provides a benefit, take it until this mindbody work allows you to no longer need the medication. View it as self kindness more than a fix. Stay certain that your body is perfectly find and medication is just being compassionate to yourself.

[@judithhendriksen3631]

Thanks!

[@publicname515]

Thank you Dan

[@kathystoner5239]

Great video! Things I wish I had known sooner as well, but im getting there!

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes you are!

[@michellebenjamin4632]

Thank you Dan! You are always so comforting and helping in your videos. I needed to hear this today x

[@Cangurul0921]

The brain perceives your thoughts as dangerous 🤯🤯🤯. Omg, that hit me so hard! Heeey, brain, but do you know that it's you who created those thoughts? 😂 but yeah, very accurate put in words what I couldn't - that I'm scared of myself...

[@saramaher9919]

Why do we feel different parts of our body, as in an uncomfort feel in our stomach area or our back area. I always say 'thats okay' to feel it and leave it off.

[@dianestanton3444]

Hi Dan this is gold 🌟🌟🌟🌟💯TRUE

[@kalosevillinas]

Hi Dan, What about trapped emotions that are stored in the body from Childhood? That is what some TMS community sucribe to.

[@PainFreeYou]

I don't believe we have to go dig childhood emotions out from being trapped in the body. How do you do that? How do you know if you've been successful? If you still have pain, does that mean you failed to get the trapped emotions out? Sounds nebulous to me. I believe teaching ourselves and our overprotective brain that we are safe in the present is way better than some theoretical releasing trapped emotions from childhood. Making the brain feel safe now is my approach.

[@kalosevillinas]

@@PainFreeYou I agree. I feel some of the TMS community that teach that CPTSD emotions are trapped in the body projects even more fear...I will write down the awesome list U did your video on.

[@marketa4074]

Can tinnitus be pdp?

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, it can. While they did not do a success story with me, I have a couple past clients who eliminated their tinnitus with the concepts I teach. The suggestions apply to tinnitus just like pain.

[@pedrom8831]

Jeez, do I know this. I’ve been ‘digging’ for years, like some mad archeologist in search of some rare jewels. Never found them. Time to stop digging, I think.

[@rickturnr]

These ideas could put a lot of psychotherapists out of business

[@carlenebryant356]

How do I teach my brain that foods and medicines aren't dangerous

[@thelaceygirl]

If fear (an emotion) creates the danger signal that turns pain on, then isn’t fear (an emotion) actually dangerous? My logical brain needs to know why this seems to be contradictory 😊

[@PainFreeYou]

Because with accurate knowledge of the cause of pain, we can dial down the fear and teach the brain we are safe. Further, we can teach the brain that fear is not dangerous so the pain doesn't turn on. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jITQhZhur7WLnpI

[@mark5368]

It seems that the more information I get about TMS the more confused I get about the rules to follow. I get frustrated, I panic and then the headaches start. I’m fearful that I won’t get the rules right. Is it appropriate to perform breathing exercises and meditation or is this perceived as danger?

[@Inge508]

Maybe try to stop being so much in your analytical mind.. there are no real rules to follow rigidly.Letting go of forcing, fixing, fearing, focusing, on your symptoms is important. You don’t have to fuel the fire with rules, to do things..instead stop resisting and breathing through your symptoms.. they will go away when you least expect it. Wishing you well 🌺

[@mark5368]

@@Inge508 thank you so much. That sounds like very good advice. Mark

[@tina_820]

I WAS A PEOPLE PLEASER. 😮

[@speedypete3725]

I AM AFRAID TO TRAVEL!!!!!!!!

[@PainFreeYou]

Understandable. But when you KNOW that you have TMS/PDP and that means there is nothing physically wrong with you, the fear can come down. My fast start playlist explains. DansFastStart.com

[@roscoerevenge]

My mom passed away 2 weeks ago to pancreatic cancer. I developed a headache on my right side that comes and goes in waves. I’ve tried telling myself that this is benign and I am safe. However the anxiety is such that I feel it’s something bigger. Tms? Any help/ support would be greatly appreciated.

[@Inge508]

Sending you love and strength 🌹🌹🌹

[@roscoerevenge]

@@Inge508 thank you🥹