Figuring Things Out IS Resistance

Figuring Things Out IS Resistance
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[@janethansen9612]

I drove 15 minutes today, which is the most I have done in 6 months. Got home, symptoms have zoomed up. But it's okay and tomorrow I'm going to drive again so my brain knows we are safe doing this. Thanks for the daily pep talks, Dan, they are really helpful.

[@PainFreeYou]

Perfect and congrats.

[@fifiearthwanderer]

I have always tried to suppress the emotions and constant anxiety. And now the pain from clenching my whole body is so hard to undo. And learn to lean into the sensation

[@Marie0304]

“Become indifferent to the symptoms” 💪🏼💪🏼❤️🔥

[@erinm9445]

Wanted to share that I try to go beyond indifference to symptoms, to actually welcoming them. Not because I like or want them, but because welcoming them seems to really help. It's like anti-resistance. When I notice symptoms or notice them increasing, I'll spend a minute or two really focusing on them, going right into them, noticing that they are just sensations (even if distressing/unpleasant ones) that I am experiencing, and I talk to them and let them know they are welcome to be here, and I thank my brain for keeping me safe. Once I feel completely (or 98%) at peace with them, then it is pretty easy to feel indifferent to them afterward, and they usually (not always) lower in intensity afterward, sometimes right away, sometimes after a delay of 20 or 30 minutes. On high symptom days I might do this every hour or two, on low symptoms days I might just do it once, and it has been game changing for me, completely changes my relationship to the symptoms and makes it easy to live comfortably with them.

[@PainFreeYou]

Great insight. Thank you for sharing. I spoke about allowing yesterday. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qJ2qXp6qhLGFfs0

[@trevorsmom5690]

I feel resistance to experiencing anger. I try to figure out why I'm angry and how I can avoid it in the future. Im therefore reinforcing to my brain that anger is danger. Same with my anxiety. I try to figure it out so it'll go away. I need to work on acveptance of my experiences. Thanks for the reminder. I really needed this video.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

I listened to a TMS lady who said to ask your body why you have pain and symptoms and it will tell you. So I did! But I still have them and I think they are worse! I think I am doing this bad..Dan! Sometimes..this sure gets confusing! Too many people with different ideas. 😊❤

[@joannerowell4410]

There are a lot off contradictary ideas out there. I think you have to find one person or one programme that resonates with you and stick to it. I've found Dan so easy to understand and follow. So I just follow him. It makes it less complicated that way.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

@@joannerowell4410 Thank You! There are a lot of TMS people on the Internet and it is getting confusing for me. I will try the resonating thing.

[@tominnc315]

When my journey began after covid Jan 2022 i joined Dan’s group calls. At first i decided to do: journaling meditation podcasts Dan s videos books etc etc , lasted 48 hrs. Dan s simplistic approach is better. To not complicate. It is: fear worry stress anxiety tension (which are all the same thing) confidence we re really ok is the key

[@kathleenwharton2139]

@@tominnc315 Thank You! My problem is extreme tension..So relaxing is my goal right now. I am getting better at it! Thank You! 😊❤️

[@jue7434]

Thanks for another great video Dan, I can tell you that I'm on my first vacation/holiday in 5 years, I didn't want a holiday due to the fear of just about everything in my body but its thanks to your daily videos that keep me going. Watching the sun set last night over the sea was Amazing to watch. Yes the sensations are there but who cares I'm enjoying my life 😎 🏖☀️😊

[@josiejo117]

Wow, thank you so much for sharing your inspiring & reassuring journey. I truly hope you are enjoying your first holiday. Much love & respect to you Juliette.❤

[@jue7434]

@@josiejo117 Thank you Josie, Thanks to the support and watching Dan's daily videos I'm getting there,abd even when I have bad days, I know deep down I'm ok ive got this, just got back from the beach ⛱ it's invigorating 🥰

[@josiejo117]

@@jue7434 I really appreciate you taking the time to share this. It gives hope & encouragement. Thank you so much. Enjoy the beach!❤

[@jue7434]

@@josiejo117 🧡😘

[@ShirleyMartin-lp2or]

Love your helpful messages. I believe I’ll get out of this nightmare of trigeminal neuralgia and I depend on these helpful messages. Yes, you give us all the right keys to do so.

[@michaelsenko3177]

Very helpful. I've always jumped into problem solving mode. Knowing that isn't helpful takes a lot of pressure off. Thank you.

[@freyahartley8704]

Good one for me. I'm forever figuring out. But, Dan, i am concerned you are still doing group coaching, may I say I think you need a proper break....?????

[@massagepublications]

Very timely message for me today, Dan. There is no figuring out the WHY beyond the fact that the brain is perceiving danger. It is confusing because I’ve been visiting a friend for the last couple of days, sleeping, well, enjoying myself and symptoms spiked yesterday. Hypervigilance felt out of control. Today I’m just feeling so tired of all this and I’m so glad for these daily videos because they help me keep going and believing that one day we will know freedom from chronic symptoms ❤❤

[@TheVaultwest]

I feel the same, very weary of waking up with these symptoms. Dan’s messages always bring me back to “I can do this,” I should listen on loop all day til subconscious gets it. We WILL be better soon! 🤓💞💐

[@massagepublications]

@@TheVaultwest yes we will!

[@BZaks]

You're a voice of reason ❤

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Omg on my walk today, symptoms high and then I recognised the woman passing by(well I thought I did) called her name, Cleo, no reply. So embarrassing and then she turned and it was her. Cleo Sol, the star of the show at the royal Albert hall that I didn't get to because of my anxiety etc. Told her I missed the concert and she said she'll let our mutual friend know next dates for me before they're advertised. We had a little chat, her energy so good, think I'm high. I missed the concert but ... Symptoms abated! 🤔

[@massagepublications]

PB - wow! This mind body stuff is mind blowing!

[@alyeskakochanek]

Your videos are always what I need to hear. These last few days I've been in a dip and I found myself trying to figure out what I did, what the trigger was. Your video reminded me that obsessing about the trigger doesn't get me anything except more fear. Thank you for the reminder that my #1 job is showing my body/mind safety.

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome. You can do this.

[@wednesdayschild3627]

I need this.

[@Marie0304]

Ah! New thing to say to myself: Indifference not resistance! :)

[@AnderWestgaard]

Thanks Dan!

[@josiejo117]

Really hope you get your connection sorted out so you can remain where you are & keep soaking up the wonderful nature surrounding you. Thank you once again for a very calm, clear & simple video...and for sharing the answer & the "Keys to the Kingdom"...such a precious gift to bestow upon us. I had an insight last night as I was falling asleep that may (or may not!) be of interest to someone. I felt the sensation of fear in my stomach (as does happen when I begin to let go & fall asleep) but this time I was aware of the resistance to this + resulting thoughts: "Don't need this right now, will I be able to get some sleep, what if, what if.. etc etc blah-de-blah"...then I realised that the resistance gives the illusion there is something "legitimate" to resist...But it's not real, there is no threat, I am safe...so what am I resisting??!! An illusion...FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real. Hope this make sense & might be of help to someone. Love you Dan & PFY Family. May you all have a peaceful day.💜💚

[@davedukes4069]

very well said Josie...love your acronym FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real

[@taryndecicco1002]

Genius, thank you!

[@kathystoner5239]

Wow, this was such a timely video! Im saving this to rewatch again! I feel like I really struggle with trying to figure out what my triggers are for when my sensations are higher. In fact yesterday I was thinking over this and thought that even if I figured out what the triggers are then it does lead to avoidance if that activity and avoidance hasn't gotten me anywhere or the past 7 yrs and made me afraid if everything

[@meganobrien1019]

Thanks dan 🙏🫶👌❤

[@jeanettenevarez3203]

i appreciate your calm annd reassuring demeanor in EVERY video. thank you

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks Jeanette

[@1097maxwell]

Just the other day I felt that I really had this in the bag. Then yesterday had a phone call to say my friend had passed away we been friends since childhood and this was so sudden. I’m really struggling today feeling like my anxiety and stomach problems have all risen again. Trying so hard and telling myself it’s just my brain perceiving danger very difficult today

[@tlee62]

When a friend passes away its natural to feel sad and downright awful, thats ok thats normal, it doesn’t mean anything…it means youre sad and youre normal 😢

[@1097maxwell]

@@tlee62 thank you

[@kirakrejci2628]

This video is now in my daily wheelhouse. Thanks Dan

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome. You can do this.

[@donp11]

Love this

[@karped892]

Thanks Dan for another great video🎉

[@bethhenderson9154]

My pain doesn't come & go anymore...it's always there (?)

[@cforat]

Hard to be indifferent to that, I know!

[@PainFreeYou]

All that means is that your brain is perceiving danger consistently. Safety is still the way out.

[@icestar8514]

Thank you for your regular motivation/encouragement videos ❤😊

[@donnablatman3283]

Love this Dan! This sums it up! This is REALLY all we need to do! Keys to the Kingdom - thank you! I'm COMMITTED to implementing this only!

[@cynthiaflores5477]

Thank you Dan!! great content!

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you liked it!

[@cforat]

I get it.... but I did just figure out that the only way I can accept the symptoms is to let go of my belief that I need to be able to garden, cook, shop, and exercise in order to be happy. Those are the activities that have traditionally made me happy but right now, my desire to do those things is only causing misery. If I know that I can save myself misery in the short term by not wanting to do "normal" then becoming indifferent will be a whole lot easier. That maybe the only way I can stop overdoing it. (Despite knowing 200% that my brain is doing the muscle spasms and nothing is wrong.)

[@PainFreeYou]

You can do this. This may help teach your brain activity is safe: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o4PSqH2jjJmooZI

[@debbieroso8749]

If you feel safe , why are symptoms continuing?

[@richardbranson8658]

You feel safe on a conscious level.. But your subconscious doesn't and the subconscious causes the body to go into protection mode

[@ruthie408]

I sure hope you decide to risk the technically difficulty and remain at the lake. It is your zen place. We all can take a glitch or even a couple. You deserve your zen. As for me, every day is a surprise. I’m just letting that be.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Ruth. I ran home for a couple days, not just due to the internet, but also to meet a friend.

[@TheVaultwest]

“Fixing is focus,” right on the thing that thrives with our focus. It’s so easy, in theory, to live life in spite of symptoms. The *practice* of just gently moving away from symptoms is much less easy. On days when i don’t let symptoms rule, I’m more comfortable. The next day, I allow symptoms to take over. If life has become a search for that one magical practice or supplement or something to get me better tomorrow, time to look inside and find the deep knowing that I’m the only one who can do this. With your tools. Brain will settle. Today’s reminder, once again, reinforces the belief that i can get well. Keys to the kingdom 🤍🌹

[@PainFreeYou]

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[@TheVaultwest]

@@PainFreeYou thank you!

[@bevsmith7655]

What lake do you go to? We have a house and boat at Raystown Lake. It is my happy place. Definitely a lower stress place for me.

[@PainFreeYou]

It's a small private lake community is northern NJ. Not well known.

[@user-rq4lh9pj3b]

I do this a lot BUT I only do it if doing nothing (and everything else you are teaching) does not work. Meaning , a new old symptom comes up, I try my best to not be too concerned with it , and sometimes it fades. But often , it gets worse or persists , even if I react “the right way” to the best of my ability. That’s when I start trying to figure it out again, that’s when I get confused and scared . How is it possible that a symptom gets worse , even if we don’t fight to and accept it as much as we can? Does that mean I am doing something wrong? In which case , I need to figure out what that is… see my point? Vicious circle

[@masspatriot5409]

You need to get a hotspot

[@jrod4God777]

Can the assessments apply to dizziness?

[@tominnc315]

Absolutely

[@gmsinding1766]

shit I am 75% so thats pretty high hahah........................well i know I have TMS

[@ezza1236]

I’m still waiting to see the proof of Dan walking on water 😂 I just know subconsciously he is Jesus Christ

[@PainFreeYou]

Um....no. haha