7 Things Only An Enfj Will Understand

[@bingo_bunny]

Often as an ENFJ, I stop saying what’s on my mind and what I think is right because of my overwhelming desire to please others. I don’t want people to leave me.

[@jstgeorge]

@@bingo_bunny this is incredibly relatable for me

[@FayVibe]

I'm enfj and this is one of the best videos about my type I've ever seen

[@peoplembti]

Thank you so much, that means so much to us all

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

Man, when you guys go wonky, however, you can annihilate the poor INFJ friend who loves you. Any insight? Being genuine here. I love your type, so naturally, but I’ve run into one who is kind of in trouble, and man, she can be very mean to ME, in particular. It really shocked me. Sending love to you, ENFJ, from INFJ. You are one of my favorites. (Were?)

[@Orburyafriendrn]

i could not have said it better myself. even the contradictions. Im still shocked. Our Achilles Heel happens to be our biggest strength. No matter how much i try to turn off my care and concern for people I can't. It can be strangers I will never meet. The altruism part is too much.

[@stephengoodson9619]

Being that ENFJs are 2 percent of the population, I would love to meet one like me.

[@torybruce]

I love being a ENFJ and learning to not need to look for external validation!

[@francesb7515]

I learned to focus on developing intrinsically satisfying, motivating, and validating projects so I don't need to look outside. Instead I find people, places, and work that resonate and we find validation together. For example I moved to a creative community for an art teacher job where art is valued. To get here I substitute taught for 9 years and then taught art at a sport focus school. Live and learn and keep on my lane plugging along and adjusting.

[@trevawhitmoyer682]

We ENFJ’s Rock! Sometimes we even change the culture-or even the world! Thinking of Nelson Mandela and Bono.

[@Its_serenityyyyy]

Enfp here, I wish I was an enfj, but I’m just not as organised as y’all. :/ being an enfp is cool though :)

[@NapoleonCalland]

​​@Its_serenityyyyy Your worth as a person depends on the type of person you are, not on what personality type.

[@francesb7515]

​@Its_serenityyyyy you are unique and the difference may benefit in some ways.

[@sayalipatil271]

The point abt seeking external validation was sooo on point omg I literally feel exposed 😂

[@s.bhaleskachanu1195]

It's like you understand me more than my family I really face many criticisms and many times doubt my own efforts and have thoughts of being a weardo

[@hannistanpop]

Omg same as an ENFJ!

[@francesb7515]

Perhaps criticism is how the person processes. Find like minded people who do what you are passionate about so you are whole anyway.

[@kimberlypalmera3558]

I'm an INFP, but I appreciate ENFJs... God bless you all and thank you for appreciating my type as well🫂

[@peoplembti]

Thanks for your support! It's great to see different personality types appreciating each other.

[@justpeachy4393]

I don't seek external validation anymore and it changed my life. I love who I am and don't need approval. The only thing is that when I make a decision I get super OCD about trying to make sure everyone around me is ok with it first. Not sure how to turn that off or if it's even possible lol

[@NatzTalk]

This! I learned to set boundaries and that I can't please/ make everyone happy. So I stopped trying. 💛😍

[@apostrophe-of-calamity]

What I usually do is I look at others' behaviors, and if there's something that seems off about them I'd ask whether they're okay. I'm not sure if that's a good system, but here's another human's take.

[@francesb7515]

​@apostrophe-of-calamitywe can only be an influence if someone is ready. If they are walled off, they may require a different person than me. I need to respect that.

[@Aashbard01]

1 Speaking up for what's right- I can't help myself with this one and constantly find myself expressing my anger over the atrocities of the world 2 Overly invested- I tend to absorb emotions and sometimes go to far in looking out for other people. Empathy is a huge part of my personality 3 Always want to do new things- I always look for new things to learn 4 Always seek external validation- I do this pretty much all the time, but still have a health level of self-esteem and often use criticism as an opportunity to grow 5 Always get caught up in unrealistic expectations- I live a relatively healthy life, but often feel burdened by the problems of the world 6 Condescending- I often speak more than other classmates, or at least I used to. I learned to let others share 7 Organisation- I have ADHD so this is my weak point😂❤ Thank you so much, this helped me learn a lot more about myself I understand most of these, save for 7 😊❤

[@Luca_Munz]

4:44 I'm working on it. But the reason for me as I'm sure others is we understand people MATTER and so we want our actions to benefit them too

[@masnunaminkhan6306]

You completely described me. I'm feeling exposed, haha. However, it was a great video. If you keep making these kinds of videos consistently then you'll become very popular. Please make more videos on ENFJs (Especially on MALE ENFJs cause I'm a male☺). Thank you very much...

[@peoplembti]

Thanks for watching and sharing, keep your eye on the new videos :)

[@pablolucics.5699]

Where are the cognitive functions? Those examples are about ESFJs. ENFJ is not superficial, but complex and more about a global vision and make the world a better place, not just being good or a good leader. Ni works as a symbolic understanding of the world, and an intellectual approach that not everyone can have. Generaly using methaphores, analogies and almost in a mystical or philosophical way. That's what make them *special* and *rare*.

[@francesb7515]

Ooh as an ENFJ art teacher this is intriguing. Thanks for explaining.

[@Davinator12]

Scary how accurate this is

[@alya3121]

This is so accurate I feel exposed but, I manage to meet deadlines or do them before the deadline but as an ENFJ I struggle to manage my time because I want to do everything I want to do in my to do lists

[@francesb7515]

At least we have direction haha. 😂

[@HoneyMontana406]

Great video, pretty much describes me as an ENFJ 100%.

[@_LunaLeo]

I often hear that ENFJs are organized and keep things neat. And while I appreciate people who are organized and try my best to keep things in order - it is extremely hard for me and I cannot say I am neat and organized as a person. I am often late, there’s often mess on my work table and I get lost in my disorganized notes. If I am tired - everything around me is a chaos. And I get tired pretty often. Deadlines actually freak me out and give me anxiety! The whole part 7 gave me anxiety actually lol Is it just me?

[@pallavipriyadarsini4389]

I am ENFP but 6/7 things told in the video are true about me!!

[@lifestylewithjoyce4736]

OMG!! best video ever. This is me 💯. 😂

[@bengonda3202]

As an ENFJ , I am constantly getting misunderstood. I also get into trouble often and made an example of. Anyone else have this issue?

[@francesb7515]

Yes. My holistic thinking or needing to explain the whole picture can be misunderstood. I need time to incubate before speaking. Also, I noticed people who have similar interests or who think creatively get me so I include them more in my life.

[@heyyy1325]

OMG... this is so accurate as an ENFJ. group projects drive me INSANE tbh

[@Enfjscrolling]

All of these are obviously accurate, but the external validation one just hits too close to home

[@francesb7515]

Validation is easy with people with similar interests.

[@qwaty8978]

YUP! THAT'S ME!❤

[@francesb7515]

WE change the world. I can't by myself silly. Haha. I wonder how many other ENFJs are also creative or Libras. I write this as I can't sleep thinking about the kitty from an abusive home wanted to adoptme but I was at the 2 cat limit. Now his neighborhood sees his trauma behavior as bad. I should have listened to him.😢

[@Whatthehecc111]

Heavy on the start to feel unappreciated even with all my efforts 😢

[@peoplembti]

I understand how you feel. It can be discouraging when you put in so much effort and feel unappreciated. Hang in there and remember that your hard work will pay off eventually!

[@Whatthehecc111]

@@peoplembtiThank you 🤍🌸

[@francesb7515]

People with similar values and interests can reciprocate. Care for things together. ❤

[@sarqRodriguez]

Hmmm, so naked here. The condescending part😬 we dont meant it like that but it come out that way.. .. we are sorry.

[@peoplembti]

Thanks for watching and sharing

[@karenk2409]

As another ENFJ, I second that apology. We definitely don't mean it that way, but will do better.

[@JIKitty]

I am definitely guilty of this. Luckily, we notice very well when something was perceived negatively/ someone was upset by what we said. So we can train ourselves to be condescending less.

[@Valente-j7z]

Enfj here ,this is very accurate 😮

[@MiAnakinSkywalker]

The point about external validation is so true. Like I try not to care but then I can't and feel so wasted😭❤️

[@peoplembti]

I totally get you! It’s tough not to care when you’re bombarded with opinions. Just keep being you, and don’t sweat the small stuff!

[@francesb7515]

Make sure you have a few friends who get you when others don't.

[@laynalee9622]

I’m an INFP, who met an ENFJ. It’s just too bad he turned out to be a covert narcissist.

[@WorkingMan1177]

Well, you just perfectly described me 😅

[@Toikag]

Accurate.

[@peoplembti]

Glad I could hit the mark!

[@alzy188]

I feel so seen😮

[@jayrome9804]

100% agree! 😁

[@peoplembti]

I appreciate your 100% agreement! It's great to have viewers like you who understand and connect with my content.

[@tristonfanfair]

Wow!!!

[@tmcneal6]

It’s so me 🤦🏾‍♀️😂

[@peoplembti]

Thank you for your support! I appreciate you taking the time to watch and comment.

[@Luca_Munz]

The last stuff no, for me anyway. But I do have ADHD

[@16YanaBangali-wi8yw]

U r an ENFJ. M I R8/wrong?

[@Helene2024]

💯 %‼️

[@maryrosenwasser1656]

AAAnd they put an ESFJ on the cover 🙃

[@santinamarie4699]

You really think Oprah's enfj? I highly doubt that

[@d0nTm33ssWithTh3R3alOG]

Great video, number 4, seeking external validation costed me a heavy burnout and deep depression. I realised why but it was too late 😂

[@peoplembti]

I'm sorry to hear that you went through such a difficult time. It's important to prioritize self-care and remember that your worth is not determined by external validation. Take care of yourself and keep pushing forward!

[@d0nTm33ssWithTh3R3alOG]

@@peoplembti Thanks for taking time to reply and your advices ! I must admit this is the best lesson I’ve ever learned, paid the hard price but this major depression was an invaluable key to understanding, stepping back and realise how I was seeking external validation at all costs. But that’s beyond being ENFJ, toxic family and very high expectations as a kid.. Anyway, thanks for your video and support 💜

[@immadolphin181]

Happened to me too, a few months ago.. I am currently healing from my burnout and looking for a more healthy job environment..

[@d0nTm33ssWithTh3R3alOG]

@@immadolphin181 wish you to find a peaceful place to work, I’m still on alert mode when I hear a ring / notification which can trigger me. Don’t know your situation but healing can be a long process, but on the bright side it can teach us a lot about ourselves and our distorted perceptions, interpretations… Take care of yourself !!

[@immadolphin181]

@@d0nTm33ssWithTh3R3alOG Thank you for your kind reply! I totally get that, for me it even goes as far es not replying to messages at all for some time.. but I think this is okay in most cases. I still have to practise my patience with myself regarding my healing and finding a healthy direction for my future. Have a nice day!