7 Things The Narcissist Hates

[@user-io1sq2vm4g]

When you find the courage and strength to escape from a narcissist, keep running and never ever look back.

[@ArtLoverScotland]

Im in the midst of doing just this

[@user-io1sq2vm4g]

​@@ArtLoverScotlandit will be a challenge at first but it will be for your own sanity. Stay strong.

[@pupper5580]

​@@ArtLoverScotland Like Stella said: don't waste time or energy arguing with the narcissist. Create a vision of a life without the narcissist. Plan how you get to this vision. Then spend your energy the next few months working, making money, and saving money - to reach your destination: a paradise-like existence without the narcissist. My hypothesis is that paradise is life without evil.

[@mami-e2q]

WHAT A GREAT ADVICE!! NEVER EVER LOOK BACK!!EVER

[@annaburns2865]

Thank you for giving me time and grace on this. I’m so tired of the “leave immediately” mentality. Like let’s see if this person is willing to change first.

[@demigaines5644]

1/Criticism 2/Being Ignored 3/ Not Being In Control 4/Being Rejected/ Abandoned 5/Boundaries 6/Not Being The Center Of Attention 7/ Being Held Accountable

[@EarsBeEazy]

Literally, my parents

[@sekenamcmurren2217]

Yep my ex boyfriend checks all the boxes of a narcissist!🙎

[@demigaines5644]

@@sekenamcmurren2217 Mines To Thank You For Sharing Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal

[@demigaines5644]

@@EarsBeEazy Me 2

[@Toadhouse2003]

They make you feel unlovable & unworthy of love.

[@nycstarport8542]

Before l knew about narcissism, when l told them the TRUTH they went into a Rage, l was like WTF. It all makes sense now.

[@SummerOf1987]

So most Goverments must be very narc, too! 😂🎉😊

[@theoriginal7727]

@@SummerOf1987 indeed.. run by psychopaths and sociopaths, by and large

[@theoriginal7727]

it's terrifying and totally mind blowing at first.. starts to make sense when you get the eduation on what's actually happening. (Roses and Rage a great book about being with a BD woman, and the hell reality of it vs sterile language in the DSM 4 and 5. Very worth reading! And Psychopath Free/Sociopath Next Door too)

[@blinkyy1088]

@@SummerOf1987 Narcissists tend towards positions of power, really makes you think

[@chautran2588]

​@@blinkyy1088and rich people.

[@rockstarofredondo]

Don’t even tell them the reason why. We explain ourselves too much. It’s none of anyone’s business.

[@freedomofspeech6095]

So true. Finally learned that lesson. Silence/indifference is precious.

[@rockstarofredondo]

@@freedomofspeech6095 I am really enjoying just telling people a firm and boring “no” especially when I feel they are a boundary-pusher.

[@toon2u1]

They haven't the capacity for understanding & sadly never will.

[@jjule85azzuro4]

No is a complete sentence

[@krocketonboost5236]

That's like putting new tools in their toolbox

[@Аноним-щ3н]

Just ignore them. Pretend they do not exist. Force yourself into it. The result our society may get is tremendous.

[@dez8346]

Dang why? Because of the "narc" or the "victim"???

[@getrudenthenya9047]

7 Seeing people happy peaceful and gentle... It's the most uncomfortable thing for a narcissist to see in you if not careful they can destroy your self worth.... There's a day I cried 5 hrs nonstop God knows.

[@theoriginal7727]

it's unbelievable, but when you realize there is a whole species of humans who actually get off on other's pain and suffering: your eyes are opened and can never be shut again.

[@MDM-wb3in]

Isn’t it strange that when you hang around other people you feel energized, happy, you learn something new vs with a narc, it zaps out your life force, tarnish your plans with their projection of their misery. They want you to be miserable, cause it validates their myth about their grandiose fantasy . Show them a mirror, criticize them, or let the world smack them down with reality, and the facade with break. If they rage, take a video of them for free comedy

[@clintonnagy1662]

Youre NOT alone. I have moments of depressive crying spells several times a day that last 5 minutes to 20 minutes. It's horrible.I ruminate and blame myself over and over. All the while she is living life with her new supply like nothing happened. It's the most disgusting behavior from them. If you were to tell them about it, they see you as weak, and an unnecessary problem. I never thought she would treat me that way. I can't process the angst of betrayal right now.

[@clintonnagy1662]

​@theoriginal7727 My ex loved when I had to prep for a colonoscopy. She reminded me how fun it was. I thought it was odd, but she loved the misery of me being on the toilet constantly. It occurred to me she loved to see me uncomfortable and she maybe a narc? Later on....yep... Covert Narc.

[@josephjoejat9569]

​@@theoriginal7727This is extremely true.....and even more sad.....just unbelievable how some people's mind actually operate..😩...Sick is what I would describe it as....

[@beckymichel1845]

BINGO! I decided during this episode that I AM the premium supply. I don’t wish to be this anymore. And I will not be supply to another ever again. My ultimate goal is that I am never again a 🎯

[@camarwalker5876]

That's tough to get away from. Pray a radical prayer when your ready, it will make u stronger.

[@moscowgadzaka9287]

❤❤ 22 ❤❤ im a 55 year old disabled nurse 😮 no family no friends 😮 BRUTAL ENTIRE FAMILY WERE MONSTERS

[@brightstar4321]

I’m going to take a wild 😜 guess: 1-the truth, 2- being told “no”, 3-boundaries, 4-being ignored, 5-loss of power, 6-loss of control, 7-loss of image/reputation

[@MrBendacorna]

Perfect

[@josejuja]

Let's add an 8th thing which is accepting responsibility for their actions.

[@musfee7682]

🙌☺

[@stephaniehall6309]

@@josejujaand love , happiness, joy , hugs , kisses , sex , having fun ……..

[@theoriginal7727]

Yes. Basic adulting. They're totally allergic.

[@louisegarner8888]

The narcissist can take pleasure in the exercise of power over and subjugation of others, but they can't feel happiness or higher level emotions the way normal people do from any source if it's not about them or to their advantage. They can't feel the joy of a loving relationship - they're incapable of love. Starve them of our attention and submission and they lose their power over us. Good points, thanks Richard xx 💖

[@pawelhyzopski6456]

Keepin mind while starving them, it taunts them. Need a position of power. Not all of us have it. Especially kids. Play by the rules in a counciouse way until position of power to split is possible. Otherwise there will be consequences of such action.

[@plumduff3303]

I had a birthday it was arranged by the narcissist looking at the photos looking back the narcissist looks unhappy with utter contempt in the photos

[@AlfredHarris-nw7ft]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@johnq.public3302]

My Mom's a vicious narc. Only realized it over the past few years. She's never apologized for anything she's done and cleverly uses words like 'You're not being part of a kind and loving family' when she doesn't get her way. Sadly or happily I've gone grey with her. As a result quality of my other relationships has improved massively. Learning to say NO to your primary relationships gives you all sorts of power you never thought you had.

[@Urban_Piggy]

My mom too. And my dad? He doesn’t see what I see. Sadly, as a result, in too many ways, he’s only a bit better than she is.

[@ateliercarousel]

I always thought how strange it is that a partner who is in the codependent spectrum, like maybe your father is, does not eventually wake up and see the patterns, but supports the narcissists. In a way this is maybe even worse than the untreatable NPD person, but from a person who is treatable and who could see and could understand, but refuses to be treated and refuses to simply look. @@Urban_Piggy

[@wallhagens2001]

Yep. Wish I’d done it long ago. ❤

[@AYP777]

I grew up in a great, happy two parent solid home. My narracist came into my life while I was going through a divorce and was vulnerable. I saw red flags, but because of his sob story I wanted to save him. I am now over 20 years in and it's been a rollercoaster ride of hell. I am now learning more tools to cope thanks to channels like this, spreading awareness of these demonic spirits. Some of us are just good empathetic people who want to help others, but these people are damaged beyond repair.

[@druchampion-payne1489]

My husband's youngest sister is a full-blown narcissist. I used to think that she was just a spoiled brat who threw adult temper tantrums. But a few years ago I discovered narcissistic abuse and realized that this is what I've been dealing with all these years. Today's video covered something I didn't know regarding #4 as it relates to my sister-in-law. My husband called her recently about something she clearly did "wrong" and oh boy did she come unglued. Not only did she refuse to apologize, but she blamed me for what SHE did wrong. I could hear her yelling over the phone and I just thought that she must be drunk. But after watching this video, I realize that my husband hit on her "narcissistic rage" because she didn't sound drunk until he hit on a nerve ... and it was after that conversation with her that my husband wrote his sister a note and told her we're going no contact with her. That was 4 weeks ago, and so far all's quite. And we're enjoying our peaceful home. But that doesn't mean anything from her end. She's probably boiling mad, which is fine. She can stay mad on her side of the fence. Take care dear reader :)

[@tinajones5548]

Be ready, she may be planning a retaliation. Hope all goes well for you ...

[@theoriginal7727]

Their tantrums are hilarious (when you have a little distance, back up plans and not in direct reception of it anymore.) The most basic adult boundaries and they come UNDONE! And start screaming at you for what they are doing.. their projection is fully different from what normal people do - that they will usually try to fix when pointed out to them. NPD's a fully zombie/vamp creatures.

[@catherineclark169]

Yes, it's so bizarre to see an adult react and go full toddler - stamping feet, curly hair bouncing all over their head, spittle coming out of their mouth, shaking their fists in your face - you can't believe that other people behave around them as though they are sane. It's unreal. Once unseen, it can never be unseen. If they are trying at the same time to exploit someone or something to gain an advantage, or twisting other people's perceptions of you, then they are a malignant narcissist always just a hairline trigger away from boiling over with barely concealed rage....

[@fumarate1]

gotta question how did she become that way.

[@willemijnnibbering]

youngest children are often parentified a lot by all the older siblings... dont forget to see context?

[@mariannekoroleva6495]

NoContact is always telling them they were wrong...Thank You, GENIOUS!!👍✨😊

[@mariannekoroleva6495]

@@shannonkelley8140 👍😊💐

[@kellyflores4931]

I worked for a narcissist for three years. I’m still recovering. She constantly didn’t respect my boundaries and when I would politely say no to things because I couldn’t do them due to policy. Every time it was an issue and a fit from her. She would constantly criticize me for any small mistake (a typo for example). If I ever corrected her, she would get incredibly upset. She was perfect and above criticism.

[@jms7805]

This is really 'really' sad when you work for one. Identify early then escape as-soon-as-possible, it takes management way too long to identify the problem with their supervisor/manager and you are getting older all the while living with rot.

[@justwatching1985]

The 7th point is so important, Richard. I figured that most of them are constantly in a negative state. Complaining (sometimes covertly) all the time and never being really happy. With my highly dysfunctional family I always had the sentence „Why can’t you be as unhappy as we are“ in mind. Thanks for your work. You helped me a lot during a really bad time. Keep it up ❤

[@nycstarport8542]

'Why can't you be as unhappy as we are'. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@karinajones1121]

Fck me how sad 😂

[@angieeissa8679]

This is the best description of narcissistic abuse I ever heard

[@lynnepostings]

I 100% agree with your comment ! 👌

[@karenharnish8090]

It’s startling how narcissists can be summed up so succinctly . It’s like a template. Yes maybe one or two traits differ between them but generally speaking….they are so predictable once you know what they are. It’s almost uncanny. I’m so surprised sometimes hearing you say things and I think to myself “that’s exactly what happened when I said no, or that’s how he reacted when I stated some facts that proved he was “incorrect”. He once tried to say I lied and he was trying to imply I was having or had an affair. I actually laughed and said, no you’re confused. That would be YOU lying and cheating. You can’t gas light me anymore. We weren’t living together but I did spend a lot of time at his place but that day, I walked away by sending him a text to say it’s over and I never went back. Not even to get my clothes, boots, shoes, coats, expensive hair dryer and straightener. I left all my personal effects like glasses and iPad, kitchen stuff. I didn’t try to ask to arrange a date to get it…..I didnt even want it. I think it got to him because many many months later a good friend ran into him and he told my friend he had a tough couple months (he was always acting like the world was out to get him…. Always a victim). My friend told me he looked terrible and almost didn’t recognize him because he lost so much weight. I used to be good supply (I eventually learned that through you and a few other videos like Dr. Carter) and I mean I was a pleaser and he would gaslight and ghost me for days, he pick my brain clean but would never tell me anything about the exact things he just asked of me. And of course, the info you shared comes back to you in a mean way, thrown in your face at a later date. I just unloaded, sorry. But it feels good. I know I still have work to do but I am so much stronger with my boundaries and my tool kit of spotting a narc from a mile away now. Thanks for the videos - really, they help a lot of people❤️

[@joannageorge7305]

Yes, they're completely unoriginal.

[@jillroberts4358]

Congratulations 👏👏👏👍💜

[@karonmorrison2531]

When I married over 40 years ago I had never heard the word narcisist. Things seemed fine until I had my first baby, then 11months later my second and two years later my third. He coerced me to move away from my parents (I was exceptionally niaive) I was 22 years old, couldn't drive, had to rely on him, but my parents did not leave that control to him. My Dad would pick up my children and take them to my Mum and Dad's home. My children have gained so much more from their relationship with my parents than I could ever give them.

[@luxsend575]

Cutting them all off no matter how hard it is. You are worth it. Thank you Richard much love

[@Escapingabuse101]

Yea its just hard with the trauma bond

[@lindsey1044]

I wouldn't exactly call you or anyone weak when it comes to narcissists preying on us. I personally feel that it's because we are empaths with good hearts. I do agree about saying no, having boundaries and cutting them off completely, which I'm learning to do. Thank you for this!

[@thiefonthecross7552]

We are weak, it's imperative to healing to have the humility to admit this and work on it. Our people pleasing nature is inherently selfish and also manipulative. We're not angels.

[@robbiewooden5067]

100 Percent true. They hate the word No.

[@JackHammerLord]

Thanks for the help, Richard. I feel mentally better after watching your videos. It's like letting fresh air in a room, filled with stale and toxic air. 👍

[@ateliercarousel]

Absolutely

[@msmusiclover4658]

Hi Jack! Yeah! I feel like that to. Actually knowing all of the NARCISSIST character traits is so important. They are not just people in a bad mood letting off a bit of steam. This is systematic, cyclical behaviour. We must begin to use the word NARCISSIST in the public domain and reveal each and every hideous one of them for what they are. The scourge of the human world!! Keep breathing in that fresh air my friend!

[@derricklough1172]

I’m just went through the worst experience with mine. I now navigate through or around them rather than engage with them. It’s helped so far.

[@Aurora-qn2dx]

Imagine been married into a narsissist family ..its a nightmare..yes they hate no and they are never happy for you.

[@jjule85azzuro4]

The covert narcissist is the hardest to spot. Until you know. Thank you for your videos

[@reverentalexanderchezeley-6367]

Brilliant accuracy. I walked away from my NPD Mam, and NPD sister's in March this year. I was a suicidal wreck (that doesn't mean I was going to do it mind you, I was grieving which happens when diagnosed), after being diagnosed with ADHD the previous month. Best thing I ever did. They knew 8 was a suicidal wreck and they didn't even contact me, to see if I was ok. Thank you Richard. God bless you.

[@miahconnell23]

Their negligence & non-caring is evidence of their disorder. while this is painful, it can help keep you “zero-contact.” Journal this so that you can reference it if ever your memory down-plays it. Praying for ya, Bro. 🙏

[@reverentalexanderchezeley-6367]

@@miahconnell23 Dear Miah. My apologies for the late reply. I trust your well. Thank you for your kind words and prayers, moreover, it's awfully sweet of you. Furthermore I will be praying for you to. May God bless you. Kind regards. Reverend Alexander.

[@blessed7927]

No one likes being ignored- its rude. There are personality types that purposely ignore you (NPD), and they do it to belittle you. They like the feeling of control. They are also envy ridden. Be careful of the religious NPD or Borderline as well. They are excellent at Gas lighting and making you question your sanity.

[@ashleyvenom]

Omg… my past relationship with a narcissist started right when I moved to a new city 😳. I didn’t realize how strategic this was until now.

[@QX-xq5uj]

Your a born professor! Wise, direct, focussed and all 7 points match the truth. Thank-you Richard for sharing your insights at the blackboard🙏🏻⚘

[@scarlette7373]

Wow WoW WOW I have experienced all these from my narc sister, mother and father. anything I've been good at my family has always tried to shut it all down, discourage my interests and have made me feel ashamed for doings things that I Love. They only liked things they wanted me to do whether I liked it or not. This point and the others you talked about blew me away. If only I had that list when I was young. I knew all those things but I always believed that what they were saying was the absolute truth. I can't even begin to tell you all the awful things they did to me when I was their scapegoat. They mutilated my mind and enjoyed it every step of the way those SOBs

[@stevenr6874]

Same here.I self medicated with drugs and alcohol most of my life because I couldn't deal with my narc family. Sober 7 years now and still trying to escape completely.

[@elianacarvalhok1593]

Hope u r well, guys.

[@scarlette7373]

@@stevenr6874 I am so sorry, Angel♥️ Yep. Alcohol for me too. I had to stop it. It's awful isn't. Thank God we're alive.

[@scarlette7373]

@@elianacarvalhok1593 Thank You♥️I hope you're doing well and good

[@KasiaZosia04723]

Same here…

[@Dimitra-z5e]

Thank you for everything you do. For giving us this knowledge for free. Respect.

[@eugenemurray2940]

I am not a victim! I am a casualty!

[@chautran2588]

We are the victors thanks to the knowledge from these videos Knowledge is the Power!!!

[@foxerrr7864]

You have the best channel about Narcissism. Your delivery is compassionate and kind, and you explain everything in a way that makes me listen. Thank you for doing what you do.

[@petrapavla85]

so true❤

[@MissVirtualEyes]

Mr. Grannon, you are saving so many lives, mine included. Your mission to awaken us from deep and dark slumber to a world where hope and salvation exists where we thought there was none , is a testament of how noble you are. You speak from the heart as you too have suffered what we are going through. Thank you for being our Life Guide.

[@asktheetruscans9857]

I like to point out that they're boring (respond with "yawn" until they shut up) or less than average or not very good at something (anything). That really gets them.

[@alectrona1613]

A heartfelt thank you for the insight into the intentions and motivations of the narcissist. Mother a narc, husband a narc and significant narc encounters left scars on the heart. The knowledge that you impart, as well as super strong boundaries, are giving me joy as well as conviction I won’t be a victim again ❤

[@TyStuart-kk6rx]

My neighbor presents as a narcissist and is very abusive. I started ignoring her and wow, she has been screaming, yelling and throwing stuff around. So they hate being ignored too.

[@piers1941]

Great videos Richard. I am in receipt of full blown narcissistic rage right now having made the big step out. Thank you for what you put out there.

[@osajohnson1957]

please switch on your situational awareness. This may be a relief to you but it is gasoline on a fire for s/he. Take care.

[@jaymoo5168]

Much love and gratitude Richard, I hope you're doing well my friend. Bless you.

[@Dontloseyourlight100]

Wow! "Pure Colombian high grade stuff" !! Major insight into the quality of certain supply. Great post, thx for sharing.

[@brendaplunkett8659]

The competition with everyone over everything just bleeds through everything.

[@Dethian666]

Eventually the narcissists like everybody that's done the work or doing the work have to sort themselves out

[@kerryannmoor5908]

So true, Richard. My ex narc saw how successful my Naturopathic practice was becoming, so he sabotaged it. He said he couldn't live in that town anymore, and that he'd taken a job at a coastal location. He knew there were many Naturopaths there, and made it look like my shortcoming that I could not get much work there. It was a choice between my marriage or my career, and he knew how loyal I was. Total beast!

[@maurisagubler3230]

WOW! Nail on the head. A confident “victim” cannot be manipulated by a narcissist. Once a person becomes independent and is no longer codependent, they cannot be manipulated by a narc.

[@RobertNelson87]

The 7th thing ended the relationship. We had a dinner with friends and there was a young, handsome, happy couple that's been together ever since. I was gaslighted the same evening, received silent treatment for not agreeing and was discarded few days after, only to be replaced by some other poor guy. Seeing others genuine happiness is really hard for them.

[@abigaylemontgomery7715]

I had to laugh when you said "The narcissistic relationship began when they arrived in a new country, away from friends, family and in swoops a kind, friendly, quirky person to show them around the city..." You're talking about my family history there - my mother was an American tourist and arrived in New Zealand where my dad was the tour bus driver. She ended up staying, they got married, and as you said, the gateway to hell opened.

[@monique-y6o]

Man you nailed it! Thank you for your first hand experience sharing. I guess you doing these presentations is a form of therapy to stay sober minded. I didn’t have a clue and was as a moth to flames. This abuse is no better then any other addiction. Thank you for helping how to better understand wtf happened to my entire life. The fact that I’m still alive is truly nothing short of a miracle.unbelievable still blows me away how we know without knowing and ever fall for this pattern.🙏🏼🦋

[@clintonnagy1662]

I survived at least 5 narcissts while dating them. Keep in mind, each one is different with personal preference of tactics. My last narc was harder to detect, because she bought gifts, sex bombing, No boundaries, entitled, lies by omission, never apologized unless it meant she would get something in return. Didn't like to kiss. Anxiety issues. Gossiping. Conversations revolving around sex especially to strangers. Hold grudges. Control issues, and lack of empathy. Silent treatments. Jealousy for people's hobbies. Competitive issues. Paranoia. Disrepect for people's time and regiment. Inconsistencies. Disregard for morals and religion. Ect....

[@rhy27]

I divorced my ex 12 yrs ago, after a 22 year marriage. It's been THIS forever long that I can say, with jaw dropping delight that the narc is experiencing all 7,in the space of months. Believe me, the wheels are off and the engine is croaking!!!

[@carlorizzo827]

Aww! "People like me..." Your candid self assessment is winsome. "Colonizing the mind" is a chilling concept

[@SheTechs]

this is bang on... some belong to 'the mum' some to ex-friends, some to ex bosses; but bottom line this is exactly how the NPD roll

[@diblack4769]

Narcissistic use the nature of the relationship to brake you limit.

[@Lori-c1q]

Grey rock works perfectly! Thank you Richard xx. This video actually is cathartic for me from the parental narcissist trauma I experience.

[@allgoodeducationalresource5959]

I love the way you present and hope you find joy in your next non-narcissistic relationship 🎉

[@bp755]

Listen to your intuition about who you let into your life. When we look back we always see the signs💁🏻‍♀️ After having followed Richard Grannon on en off the last 3 years. Even with the knowledge I messed up (unfortunately) “The reason the guy I was with is no longer here is because he could not control me." Indeed. He did not "reject" me, nor that I was not "good enough". I was too strong for him. And I'm proud of that! No contact for life 💪

[@LeafsIn2025]

A must watch for everyone to identify, be aware, and plan what to do to prevent it or plan in private how to get out. Quality research, excellent analysis, and just the right length of video, Dr. Richard. Thank you. Be blessed. 🧡🇨🇦

[@rebeccasteverson729]

Married to a narc and my mother is one too..I love them both its hard emotionally and physically to leave them....that's my problem I love them and they trigger my emotions bc I love them.. thank you for your videos I have to remember that I love Jesus Christ and He loved me b4 I loved him..and thats the number one rule b4 all.. dont tell me to give up on the people i love bc Jesus didn't..if I don't Jesus can!!

[@freedomofspeech6095]

Another great video. The more knowledge I have on how these devils operate the stronger I have become. I protect my heart and mind now with so much self love and compassion. My narc is insignificant now to me. He’s terrified of losing me however I just play it cool Never voluntarily give him personal information Planning my exit. It will be glorious. We must know that they are demonic. Protect yourself. Stay close to God.

[@JennySim-u1s]

Bang on.

[@Psychicblonde67]

Most beneficial. Living in an imaginary universe. Very much appreciated point 6. Been involved with several who were very different. Now I understand better. Finally smiling again.

[@taffwob]

You have just described my Mother. It has taken me a long time to recognise this and that the same or similar traits were in myself. Thankfully I'm a watered down version and it's that which has made it possible for me to break free. It affected me quite badly for a large part of my life and I didn't even realise until things came to a head and I had rebuild my life. It was a arduous journey from that point but I stuck at it and I'm more at peace with who I am. I've also, more importantly made that peace with those I may have affected. Therapy was the clincher, it helped me fully understand that I was the problem in situations where I believed myself to be the victim. It also pinpointed the cause a mix of nature & nurture. I had the genetic disposition combined with being brought up in that environment, and have had to deal with life using a small palette of emotions. I may never be fully free from it and the temperament follows me around like a dark cloud though oddly still dealing with my Mother further cements my resolve to be a better person than I was before. Seeing her now in the raw, no rose tinted spectacles and away from direct influence is eye opening, as if a veil was lifted that everyone else could see through from the start. I' will always be grateful for the help, support & overall patience of those around me who never gave up on me. This presentation was very informative and to the point. Many Thanks.

[@_sunshine_rainbows]

MINDBLOWING WATCHING THIS BRILLIANTLY EXPLAINED AFTER DEALING WITH IT FIRST HAND

[@SouthernArtist77]

I got number 4 before you even answered the question, what does a narcissist hate most? Being told they’re wrong.

[@Dimitra-z5e]

You are so right. 👍👍👍😢

[@tahiyamarome]

This channel has saved my life multiple ways. THANK YOU RICHARD! And all the ppl who share their experiences #3 is so insightful! The refrain i heard in response to#4 was "so you're calling me a liar?!" #7- my parents hated my joy, my honest grief, my authentic emotions of any kind.

[@sekenamcmurren2217]

You know what you speak of Richard Grannon. I think you're amazing! Long time subscriber and admirer.🙋🗽🍎

[@GingerManNews]

I'm sorry for the narcissistic abuse you have gone through in your life, but honestly your videos have been the most validating and education for me. They have helped me with my own encounters with narcissistic people. I hope you know the good work you are doing brother. Thank you

[@arunajovinbenitha3793]

Thanks Richard. This one was awesome. I have broken from a narcissistic family member. He kept hoovering me. But I maintained my no contact. Then once and for all he called me to his place expecting to either patch up or get angry on him . But I didn't do both. I just maintained my boundaries and behaved as my relationship with him demanded. This sent him into a rage then and there which I clearly saw he was struggling to hide. Thereafter he started to show his true face to my husband who was his enabler for so many years. He totally stopped hoovering me as well. I thick he realised I cannot be tricked anymore.

[@maddalena5708]

I love your voice, you are so kind❤

[@reka-agotakvalsund2875]

Great reminder thank you Especially the last thing you point out is very, very true! The true, genuine, seemingly purpose less joy is greatly envied by narcissists.

[@tk3rs957]

Grey Rock. No contact.

[@mssunshineband1]

Total cutoff works!! Thank you🙏

[@matthewrodgers740]

Great video love your work Richard

[@Noneofyourbusiness_369]

I found you on a talk with Andrew and is the first time I really felt someone knew what they were talking about regarding the narcissism. I was with one for over 3 yrs, my longest relationship so far and it break me because a long time I didn't know what was happening, because of course, everything wrong "was my fault". A lot of gaslight and coldness from the relationshit. Still recovering from it, by myself. Apparently I was drawn to that person because I have it in my family and it was just a familiar feeling. Is a hard road of rediscovering and redefining my bruised self now but your videos clear some of the darkness in the way. Thank you!

[@angieowens3077]

You are amazing!!! Thankyou for your time and attention !!

[@msmusiclover4658]

I like your style Richard and your choice of language. Yes, yes and yes! I recognize each of these seven trigger areas in my narcissist male partner. We have been conditioned as females to "TAKE THE ROUGH WITH THE SMOOTH!" We have been conditioned to believe that all males have bad tempers and are prone to flaring up when their ego is under attack. But what no one is doing is attributing these tantrums and the violence metered out to those very close to the trantrum throwers, to NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER! I am English by birth and I firmly believe that the British society is NARCISSIST. It has bred NARCISSIST males in particular. I have a NARCISSIST mother, who also had a NARCISSIST mother, my two sisters are NARCISSISTIC in their sentimental relationships. My father (ENFJ type) was my life-line all through my childhood spent in this family home. Yet my two sisters have attracted really nice males who sadly have suffered abuse whilst in relationships with them. On the other hand, I, the INFJ type, have seemed to attract the NARCISSIST male again and again. I am that HIGH QUALITY supply that you talk off! I cannot get rid of my current one. Why are we not recognizing the truth, which is that NARCISSISM is VERY, VERY COMMON!

[@georgiehughes4858]

Bingo!! My deceased narc husband of 49 yrs, 9 mos… always told me… “I hate to be told, “No.”. You’re the 1st person I’ve heard say that!

[@annaburns2865]

Yep. I knew for sure that my mom was a covert narcissist when she threw a tantrum after I said “no.” All those people that suggested that I start having boundaries never warned me about that. And it definitely should have come with a warning. Almost cost me my job. Also, I shouldn’t have to babysit a 64 year old twice me age. When will my mom grow up?

[@SummerOf1987]

Never, just like mine. Live your live, honey ❤

[@johnq.public3302]

Yup. You changed, but they never will. Enjoy new freedom!

[@fumarate1]

probably never.

[@nicolegiles1034]

After going through a spirtual awakening I genuinely believed he was my twinflame for years I had this belief until I started healing my nervous system,gut and brain. Your content has helped me fill in the gaps so I appreciate you!!!

[@BashfulTrillium]

Thank you for choosing to share your knowledge and experience.

[@tttt-bk9wn]

this never gets old!!! You have such a good attitude! Thanks for all your words.

[@KarhuLP]

I don't know if a singular person deserves to be called boring, but if you are labeled as a boring person by someone with NPD, thats probably a compliment.

[@staywellandstrong4199]

At the very least, being called 'boring' by them is your lifeboat. Wishing you smooth sailing.

[@pupper5580]

Boring = you're not reacting to them baiting you into drama. You're not reacting to their reactive abuse. Means you're a very stable and you have good mental boundaries.

[@suetrollope6245]

Was told I frustrated them too! Cos when I knew the game I refused to froth out the emotions they wanted. Fear: I laughed Annoyanxe: I showed acceptance Betrayal: I showed " meh" so what Cruelty: I showed boredom Etc etc

[@pawelhyzopski6456]

Spot on. At 7. Spot on. Narc traits person shared that he goes for ppl that are weak and easy to manipulate to. That he feels better with them. That he shares trauma with them. But that was justification of his words before. Main take, easy prey. This explains why when clashed with idea of meeting with high profile succesfull ppl was always disregarded. (As in those who we can learn from, be happier, and not focus on drama but rather building skills and knowledge)

[@Andy1119]

I had this with a narcissistic friend a couple of years back in regards to nights out. He got more and more pissed off the more I told him "no". I had good reasons for telling him no but that didn't matter

[@pennycoyote3855]

...adversity builds resilience. We learn from facing our fears, not running away. Of course, if it's truly life or death, then RUN forward to safety 😊

[@jackiewasilewski3369]

You videos always help me. I am definitely a victim to narcissistic abuse from family. Plus, I love watching you because you look like a peaky blinder.

[@mugedanga2432]

He was always made me sad every single time when I want to be happy together or myself ...stilll I am crying every single day why I met this person and let him put me down at work, around all my life time , I am regretted every single day.

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

I have seen all of this in my narcissistic family. They do everything they can to destroy joy in someone who is the scapegoat, that would be me, who feels joy and happiness all the time over small things. Events don't have to be grandiose for me to have joy, the smallest things make me happy. They do not engage with me when I am happy. In fact, they will have a sour look on their face or act like I did or said something foolish to diminish my experience. You are right the narcs have no control over us, and this is what they cannot stand. In my experience, they try to get my husband to dislike me and make me unhappy. They have not been able to do it so they avoid us.

[@KrilleEgnell]

10 days into Non Contact.. didnt know NPD was like this until 6 days ago... recovering addict so i went cold turkey. Because what i learn in NA. NOW.. it got clear that a relationship 20 years ago that almost cost my life. ALSO was a narc... i went thru that and it was pure H for 2 years... Im hurt sad angry this time to.. but already i have a wierd calm over me.. and God is telling me... war is over welcome home. In this relationship i was filled with hope, hopeing for that capitulation and was ready to carry her... because i been there myself with addiction. That didnt happen. But my healing will be better this time cuz of past pain i went thru. Thanks for your videos. Its a message of hope.

[@tinajones5548]

Elation and depletion. Misdiagnosed as bipolar? I may not be joyous yet but I'm happy to be content for now. Thank you Richard. Walk away and keep going. My mantra " that was then, this is now " 😊

[@fuadmelikov515]

you especially right about that they hate when people are having good time together in unity, there is no worshiping anyone no idolozing just unity, they are very jealous to that

[@grantaugustyniak6667]

This video is right on. I will say in my experiences - always follow through with your actions not just words. This sends them into a huge wind tunnel!

[@lisafelton2057]

I am also in my 3rd relationship with narcissist. This one is covert and man I did not see it coming.

[@JonathanHancoc]

😢 just got destroyed by one and I can't break contact because I still love her 😔💔

[@anjachan]

Im happy not to be narcissistic. I hope my brother leaves me alone. great video btw!

[@gloriacoleman7012]

Spot on and they file it away for revenge latter you deserve to pay.

[@cheriann6461]

I appreciate that you are willing to share your personal experiences with narcissists. I suspect (or at least hope) that it will help other men reflect, recognize the signs, and learn to protect themselves. I've dealt with narcissists of both sexes/genders, and I've seen them victimize men and women....but it seems to me that there is more stigma for male victims of narcissistic abuse. Perhaps your openness will lessen that stigma for some.

[@dibrentley7915]

good video. Really does describe the person I was going out with. Surprisingly he openly said he hates the word no, doesnt like being told what to do, found it hard to manipulate me, hated being ignored. I think he stuck around for so long because I offered status to him. took me 6 months to gradually remove him from my life just to make sure he wasnt aggressive at the end. The one remarkable skill they have is reading your face. Except I used to stuff him up on that too. Was an interesting relationship to say the least. Not so keen on dating now though. And the only reason Im sane is because I didnt love the guy. Never told him I loved him either.

[@dolladollabillz]

You're awesome! This is genuinely what I've dealt with for over a decade. Felt like I was the only one.

[@rebeccaconn389]

Great video … I’m new to your channel. I like how you describe narcissism. This content made a lot of sense. I experienced all of these things with my ex boyfriend. He definitely has NPD. I never knew about NPD until I met him. I’m glad to now be aware of this disorder. I’m working on boundaries for myself. I now realize that my lack of boundaries is what drew him to me.