7 things you didn’t know about bisexual love | from a bisexual man

This video explains some of the unique characteristics of bisexual love and the way bisexual people experience love.
Bisexual people love in a different way to what most people would expect. We are unique, different and complex. Our love is a reflection of that.
This video gives a few points from my own experience and from my experience as a sexuality and gender coach. I hope you enjoy.
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[@lizabarbarelloandrews2797]

We are so very misunderstood, so I greatly appreciate what you've said here. You're right in that we constantly question ourselves and can love so very deeply and broadly, which I feel creates this internal conflict we struggle with especially when paired with external societal factors. Sometimes it feels we don't fit anywhere so thanks a million for your content! This video made me hit that bell! 🏳‍🌈

[@notdefining]

Aaah thank you for saying. I’m so glad you connected with my content. It’s from my heart.

[@flightofthebumblebee9529]

I had crushes on other boys even before I ever had sexual urges. Everyone develops how they do. Open your heart and embrace who you are. Yet some of my best friend bromances even since childhood, I have never thought of sexually or romantically. ❤️ 💜

[@LenHealsU]

So beautifully explained Mark! As a Gay man I always look at it as the following analogy: It's like someone who's right handed, left handed, and ambidextrous. Each group is just as spiritual and loving as the other. just like right handed, left handed and ambidextrous people each can write or do anything just as good as the other. I know I said this before, but I'll say it again: Whoever ends up as your boyfriend or girlfriend, he or she will be the luckiest human being on the planet. Trust me.

[@notdefining]

Omg thank you so much for these beautiful and perfect words. You nailed it. That’s it. I’m so glad you have found love and are our supporter. We really appreciate you.

[@LenHealsU]

@@notdefining I haven't found my (love) life partner yet, but still looking.

[@LenHealsU]

Come to the USA in San Diego, California, and maybe I can help you (I just had to write that) :)

[@notdefining]

🩷🩷🩷

[@SParker1289]

I love that your channel is continuing to grow. You have no idea how helpful your channel has been to me. The part about not experiencing love like the monosexual community is such a good thing to hear from someone else. Self love will always win in the end. Thank you for every video Mark. Much appreciated!

[@notdefining]

Hey thank you so much for your kind words. It really makes all the hard work worthwhile to here this. Thank you.

[@josephdickson5733]

This video made me feel better about being bisexual and it also explained it in a way that the next time someone finds out that I’m bi I can explain it better than I could before. I have had boyfriends in the past which there were only 2 but both were great in their own way. My favorite part of being bi is being able to love both woman and men and other sexuality’s out there. For me it’s like having the best of both worlds. But he is right about the rejection from the straight and gay community. Sadly ware i work letting people in my crew know I’m bisexual is not an option because they make fun of the LGBTQ+ community and some of the things they say are hateful and mean. Every time they do it I start feeling so angry that I want to scream at them and tell them to shut up it’s not funny and it’s so wrong.

[@MarkHyde]

Such great points - self-love and self-acceptance seems to be treated out there in some quarters as a kind of insular selfishness - working through this in terms of myself was really difficult - not just my sexuality but my general identity as a person. I also love your explanation on platonic bonds and sexual connections. I hope this video helps a lot of folks.

[@notdefining]

Thank you so much Mark. I appreciate your kind words and perspectives as always. Really love that we can share and connect like this.

[@treehouse641]

You are so wonderful. Just so lovely. That was so well explained. I ve never heard it explained out loud before. It's how I feel. Thank you for the opportunity to validate myself

[@notdefining]

Oh my gosh thank you so much for these kind words. You are so welcome. It is my utter pleasure. If you can share this video with someone else who might find it helpful I would be delighted. Otherwise I’m just so grateful to have you here. Sending so much love x

[@dra.irisrenteria3155]

Wow Mark! As always you excel in transforming very complex emotions/situations into plain and understandable language. Thank you so much ❤

[@notdefining]

Oh my gosh thank you so much I appreciate this a lot. Sending so much love. X

[@TheDirtDoctor1]

I am married to a woman but really like to some time with a man. There is something that is totally different having a close emotional relationship with a man that I can’t totally explain. I know that when I do he fills that empty space that a man can only fill. I am so much happier when I have some quality man time.

[@ShannonSobota]

Hi, thank you so much for all of the great content on your channel! At 30 years old, I am newly discovering that I think I’m Bi after living a very straight life. You’re helping me understand the community better and the way it can be perceived by the world. And thank you for also helping me better understand it for myself. I really feel for the younger audience and people that went though this in the past. It seems to be much more accepted now, but still working on it. I’m scared yet also excited for the future possibilities of finding love! Thank you!!😄

[@notdefining]

Hey thanks for sharing. You’re so welcome. It is my pleasure. So proud of your journey. Always here to help.

[@TheOneSpoops]

I discovered your channel fairly recently (in the past month or two) and I just wanna say thank you. Your videos have really struck a chord with me. I'm confused as shit right now about my identity, and your videos have helped me to work through some of that confusion.

[@notdefining]

Thank you I’m so glad. You are so warmly welcome here.

[@zacharbison8763]

This video made me feel warm and fuzzy on a cold day, thanks!

[@notdefining]

I'm so glad!

[@hormigui88]

Lovely content! ❤

[@notdefining]

Ah thanks so much

[@MrBookaholic99]

wow you explained it so well! Almost as if you’re bisexual yourself, too

[@notdefining]

Almost…😋

[@danieldale7320]

I thought we had evolved beyond gender attraction, Unfortunately I guess it is just me...

[@baxiaaa]

O. M. G. This is relatable WORD BY WORD ❤ THANK YOU BROTHER🌈✨

[@notdefining]

Omg yay I’m so pleased. Thanks for saying sister. Xxxx

[@baxiaaa]

I’ve shared it with my ex and with lots of friends, as that’s EXACTLY ME! I can’t believe it! Thanks for making this video and helping me and many others understand themselves 🙏❤️

[@notdefining]

@@baxiaaa wow I’m so pleased it was helpful. That is so good you were able to share it. Sometimes it’s hard to explain things but if we have a video or article or something it can help. I’m so proud. 💜💜💜💜

[@baxiaaa]

❤️

[@notdefining]

❤️

[@lolwatisdis3312]

Another great video from you!!

[@notdefining]

Hey thank you. This really makes my day when people enjoy my content. So thanks for taking the time to comment.

[@TiSofocaIlSangue]

Isn't it easier (comfortable, whatever that means) to say tbat I'm a sexual person and will have a relation with whomever arrouses me??? Without fittimg in a box?

[@lalokullo]

I love you already! Great video

[@notdefining]

Omg thanks for the love. I love you too already!! I’m glad you’re here. Thanks for the kind words. X

[@marinethgonzales]

Can you mentored me how to love this wonderful bisexual man? I am in the edge of giving up on him. Maybe because I don't understand it

[@notdefining]

Of course. That’s what I specialise in. I do mentoring via Patreon.com/notdefining. You can join for just one month or longer as required. Alternatively you can book a 1:1 video session with me here at notdefining.square.site and we can look at this together. Looking forward so much to seeing you. In any case I will always try to respond here for you.

[@lizdelisle1912]

How can a person see the “beauty” in something that more often than not causes a lot of pain and trauma for people who are on the receiving end of being dumped for someone of the opposite sex. This would explain why as you say it is unrequited . I would appreciate any help that you could give me to heal from these painful experiences

[@chelliebelie90]

Why do you compare it against hetero and not so much against gay/lesbian relationship?

[@loloflow888]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💫💫💫 resonated to the T

[@notdefining]

Hey thank you so much for taking the time to say

[@ClubAmore-lw2go]

Is hetero romantic a form of bisexuality?

[@notdefining]

If you are for example bisexual but hetero romantic then yes.

[@rustystork7477]

god ur cute

[@notdefining]

Thanks

[@MarkRaphaelson]

Bisexuality is fine, but as soon as I see one person saying they go by a plural pronoun, I know this person doesn't have the mental capacity to teach us anything, let alone be some sort of counselor.

[@notdefining]

In the English language “they” is a singular pronoun where the gender is not specified. E.g. “Someone left their phone on the bus, I’ll hand it to the bus driver so he can give it to them if they come back for it”. Singular pronoun. Also I’m an Integrative Coach certified by the top Coaching Federation in the world, not a counsellor. Also, you may wish to learn how to spell counsellor. Thanks and have a great day.

[@MarkRaphaelson]

@@notdefining amusing take, but one would never need to refer to themselves as "they" That wouldn't be a preferred pronoun one would select. It's a default when you don't know.

[@notdefining]

@@MarkRaphaelson Are we going to talk about the irony that you used “themselves” in that very sentence….or?

[@MarkRaphaelson]

@@notdefining No, because I was talking about a generic person whose gender I didn't know. Another amusing, but unsuccessful, try.

[@MarkRaphaelson]

@@notdefining So can you explain why you didn't just say he/him, not that a male should have to. Anyone referring to you, knowing it was you would have no reason to use "they" since they know it's a "he"

[@lajindigo]

i love ur channel i follow you on ig and i just wanna say im glad i found you because you say what im thinking lol😂❤

[@notdefining]

Ah thanks so much. I’m glad you’re here.