Am I in denial about my sexuality? How to know for sure (answer these questions).

Have you ever wondered whether you might be in denial about your sexuality? Have you experienced denial about being gay, straight, bi or ace? This test will help you to understand on a deep level whether you are or aren't experiencing denial.
Formulated by an expert in complex sexuality, this test comes from years working with clients dealing with denial, sexuality related anxiety and fluid orientation. Answer these questions for yourself and you will definitely come away with a better understanding of whether you might be experiencing denial or not.
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[@PokhrajRoy.]

My brain is broken because I saw the thumbnail from a distance and thought: “Why is he talking about DNA? Oh, I get it: DeNiAl.”

[@PyramidTom]

I experience some of those. I am ace but I notice guys I think are atractive more often. When I see mm couples I think they look cute together and feel I want to have that. It does have an exciting layer of doing something "forbiden". My atraction to girls come less naturally, few days ago I indeed force myself to create a pinterest mood board to check if I am atracted to girls... I think I am, but only for a very specific type. My first crush was with a girl, so I think I still have some of it in my brain. I had a lot of female friends, so I imagine have a female romantic partner would be easier, just advance the friendship in the next level... As I didnt experienced any real relationship (or kisses) yet, part of me still wonder if its all fantasy, and I am actually aro ace because I usually dont care about having a partner or relationship. I wouldnt reject one but I dont feel bad about not having it.

[@mario2567]

Hello. I am writing because I am confused and don't know how to label myself. Until very recently I thought that labels were terms that were mandatory in society or at least they seem to be. Logically I wanted to know what I should call myself because there seems to be a certain pressure to put a label on us and that we can't change it. When I found your channel I felt a great relief because I realised that it is not really necessary to have one and that pressuring someone to label themselves is wrong. What came next was confusion because despite knowing that people put a lot of pressure on labels. I also heard the belief that if you had a sexual orientation different from the "normative" you were obliged to declare it because otherwise you wouldn't be happy and many other things like "you should do this or you should do that". PERSONALLY(just my opinion) we should not reproach anyone for doing something "wrong" because right and wrong in this matter PERSONALLY I think there is no such thing. Basically I think we should leave everyone to their own lives and stay out of things that don't concern us, what does it matter what someone's sexuality is? Why can't we respect other people's labels or the way someone defines themselves? Why do we have to put so much responsibility on words? These things have been going around in my head and that's why I'm confused. Could you give me some advice or something? Thank you very much for reading me. Pd: i just want to know if im in the "wrong" label,if im living my life in a lie.. What do mean when you say:Make the label fit you? PS 3: I'm starting to believe that sexuality and gender labels are not a choice (correct me if I'm wrong, please). It feels like a lot of people invalidate you and tell you that you are not "this" and that you are "that". It would be easier if society didn't demand them from us so that people don't have to make a soup or a mental movie to figure out what they have to "call themselves", but it seems that you have to make the mental movie or else people will criticise you and demand a label. It's unbelievable that they don't respect the label we describe ourselves with and describe you badly. I understand that they are important because that's how all this social progress has been possible. But I find it very impolite to be a know-it-all and invalidate a person's label. "If a person is happy he will never be wrong", is my maxim. That's why I'm confused. It was lucky to find your channel and a relief, I think, that you are a great person and look at sexuality and gender the way I think it should be looked at. But honestly no one is going to have a definitive answer everyone looks at sexuality and gender the way they want to and they are all valid. What is wrong is interfering in a person's life and telling them how you think ABOUT THIS field is wrong is disrespectful IN MY OPINION. So if it would be possible for you to answer me I would appreciate it as. I know you have a PATREON and a JOIN button. But i prefer do it in this way. I put much in "my opinion" because i don't want that this going to be understood like as if a i had the "absolute truth. PD 4:Plase i need to.know how i should label if i have mostly atracction to females but very rarely atracctions to males. I should label myself as bisexual? (Im not Anxious or obssesing it just want how society would see me i just that somethimes i remenber all this and i question to myself: Im liying my self? And i want to ask you a question that forgot to ask? What is for you to be you true self? I'm so sorry if i'm irritating you for read this long long coment but i just want to know... I don't know what i do... I feel like if i don't have a label i'm not valid and wrong. Please say me how i have to label...i know that its not good obsses or give much importarce to this. But reached this conclusión. The main problem is that i'm obsses withs labels and i don't know how i have to label myself If a person is mostly atracted to the same gender and super rarely or rarely atraccted to the opposite how would this person have to label? If that person label himself as straigth is wrong? It just i want to be my true self and not live in a lie so what King of label has to use this person? Thank you again.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

My test for attraction is very rudimentary: Do I want to be them or be in them?

[@fartmagus]

really awesome video❤💕💚

[@notdefining]

Hey thank you so much. Really appreciate it.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Overthinking on a loop? HAHAHA CAN’T RELATE 🌝

[@danieldale7320]

I was married to a woman. Afterwich was then married to a man. I talk to them both regularly.I am Lucky that I fall for the person, not their (Gender).I am fundemintly broken. So please keep your chanel going. You keep me out of a cycle of DISPAIR XX00