How to Tell if Someone is Bisexual: Expert Advice from a Bisexual Advocate

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Notdefining

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Күн бұрын

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@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
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@bklynkat23
@bklynkat23 3 ай бұрын
I just got back from a cruise as a solo traveler and met this guy who I most certainly will see again in the near future. I forgot how it originally came up in conversation but he was also a solo traveler and he was like are you gay, bi and I told him I was bi. The majority of the cruise we would see each other at least every day. During the nighttime, he was always with a group of girls but we always sat by each other. I was telling him about some of my future travels and he was like oh when are you going to be there I think I'm free that weekend I can catch a flight to meet up with you. Needless to say I was getting strong bi vibes and since clearly he wants to spend time with me I will just continue to operate on his timetable
@panthersworld5587
@panthersworld5587 3 ай бұрын
Proceeding to take notes
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
Wow that was so fast! Thanks so much for tuning in.
@PokhrajRoy.
@PokhrajRoy. 3 ай бұрын
It took me a while to get over implicit stereotypes about the bi community (still learning) and embracing them is the only solution, chaos and all.
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
Hey thanks for being here and for learning with us all ❤️
@iana6713
@iana6713 3 ай бұрын
I can only speak from personal experience - I knew from my early teenage years who and what I am, even if at that age I hadn't encountered the term "bisexual". It took me years, and I mean years, to be open about it even though a lot of people around me suspected it. Even though I am, it doesn't necessarily follow that I can somehow pick up on the fact that someone else is if I am interested in them, so this video is an educational experience on how to figure it out. Thanks!
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
Hey thanks so much for sharing your experience. Totally get you.
@iana6713
@iana6713 3 ай бұрын
@@notdefining Thanks!
@AmanCreatesArt
@AmanCreatesArt 3 ай бұрын
I think one of the points you made near the beginning is something important to keep in mind: Either they are into you or they are not. Even if they're bisexual, it doesn't mean they're into you. (Obviously this only applies in the scenario where you want to know if they are bisexual because you are into them.) Secondly, I remember waaaaay back in the 1990s I simply asked someone matter-of-factly if they only dated men. And they answered no, they dated women too. It was just a very low pressure way of asking, didn't assume anything, and didn't ask them to define themselves, so that's my suggestion as another way to "tell" if someone is bisexual.
@PyramidTom
@PyramidTom 3 ай бұрын
About the talk about a bi celebrity coming out part, I think you can be more subtle. Talk about pop culture, singer or tv shows that are indiretcly related to queer culture. That can be Billie Eilish, Lady Gaga or Hearstoppers... if they seem to know about them, chances are they are some shade of queer.
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
Yes great point
@thomaspig7684
@thomaspig7684 3 ай бұрын
I looked it up while watching the video, apparently Miley cirus is bi! Convenient for the season.
@wareforcoin5780
@wareforcoin5780 3 ай бұрын
You know, I've been thinking. Your KZbin videos are probably some of the only bisexual community that some people can engage in. (I think you've probably jumped to several reasons this might be the case already, we all know the state of the world.) I was thinking how we in the comment section could make it a little more welcoming. So I've decided on every video, I'll leave my regular comment, but also a story about my experiences, because I think several of them will be _highly_ relatable. Here's my first story: When I was a kid, maybe like 10, when someone finally told me the concept of bisexual, I spent years and years defending it as the logical choice. I thought I was straight until I was 30. (Other people being bi made sense, I never even considered that my same gender attraction should have any attention.)
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
Hey omg thank you so much for this. I really appreciate you. This is so so lovely and I am so grateful. Please do keep sharing your experiences. Sending big appreciation. ❤️✨🌈
@ryansenft3315
@ryansenft3315 3 ай бұрын
Another thing: Can't sit right in a chair. (Hahahaha.)
@wareforcoin5780
@wareforcoin5780 3 ай бұрын
Me, sitting cross legged sideways on the couch: "that's just a stereotype"
@iana6713
@iana6713 3 ай бұрын
Hey, I feel so called out with that comment 🤣 (No, no, I NEVER sit in any particular stereotypical way in my chair... Never!😉)
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
Omg yesss haha
2 ай бұрын
I am gay, and not bisexual. In my long life I have had relationships with bisexuals who never told me they were bi. I was deeply hurt by them; especially two in France who kept it a secret during a long relationship that I had with them. Never again.
@Pinupchemist
@Pinupchemist 2 ай бұрын
I understand how that can be seen as a betrayal - it is a secret they’re keeping. You may want to understand why they felt that deception necessary. I’m only speaking for myself here, but as a bisexual woman, I have found bisexuality to be more prejudicial than having bipolar (I do & it’s definitely prejudicial). I’m being simplistic, but men worry they’ll never fully satisfy you & (gold star, particularly) lesbians might think your morals don’t align with theirs. I get the first, I guess; don’t really get the second. They shouldn’t keep that secret once you’re actually involved, but you have to get there are reasons. They’re probably not doing it to hurt you, just to protect themselves. Maybe they really like you & they don’t want a gay person to write them off because they’re not gay. I’ve seen on dating sites many times that a lesbian is NOT open to dating bisexuals. Right up there with not looking to be a unicorn.
@ezelldaniels6064
@ezelldaniels6064 3 ай бұрын
Taking notes
@eryansar
@eryansar 2 ай бұрын
Hi, amigo! Please, it would be great if the videos could be subtitled. Besides the fact that bisexual people with some degree of hearing impairment could have a more inclusive space in our community. It would also be great for those people who don't understand the English language or the accents or aspects of the language. Please, consider this request with care. The work you do is wonderful and incredible! Hugs and kisses from Brazil, amigo.🇧🇷❤️
@notdefining
@notdefining 2 ай бұрын
Hey thanks for your comment. You can simply turn on subtitles and it will work.
@garywilson9640
@garywilson9640 3 ай бұрын
On the spectrum I'm Cis leaning to 80% men. However in a complete surprise about 3 years ago, I was asked to be a natural sperm donor for lesbians. Which has developed into a regular occurrence via a OBGYN clinic referral. Usually 2 to 3 times a month unless I put a limit or block on it. I'm told my referrals are because I keep it lighthearted and fun. Living with them 4 days in every attempt. Along with higher success rates. Higher than IVF or IUD. Backed up by my lab tests. Absolutely nobody knows outside bedroom talk. This completely satisfies my other sexual 20 % I hit the gay bars and always keep everything 100 % safe.
@desert_sun
@desert_sun 3 ай бұрын
hair style, piercings & clothing can be clues as well. lol
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
Or can that be a clue to what we think looks “bisexual” when actually the facts show there is no way to look “bisexual”? Could it be a false friend?
@Carl-x8y3c
@Carl-x8y3c 3 ай бұрын
Hi 👋 im in old age now . I have always identified as gay. I can remember people saying if someone is bisexual then that means they are sitting on the fence. They just need to fall either one way or another. I think many people who identify as straight can find themselves attracted to their own gender. Ive had straight people tell me that they have at some time in their lives. I have been attracted to a female , but i can count on one hand the amount of times. Does that make me bi ? I dont want anything sexual with them though. It doesnt matter who you love at the end of the day.
@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
It absolutely counts if you feel it counts. That’s the thing.
@jwb52z9
@jwb52z9 3 ай бұрын
How do you, or can you at all, subtly indicate that you're open to flirting with men and women?
@armie4172
@armie4172 2 ай бұрын
Basically I’m technically bi but only homoromantic so I wouldn’t date women. I really prefer the term gay because men and other andro-gender people are the only people I can actually fall in love with, and I’m actively put off by the idea of being romantic with women and other gyno-gender people. So yeah it’s complicated.
@bilbobaggins9451
@bilbobaggins9451 14 күн бұрын
Don’t worry. I’m still trying to figure it out, too. I’d say I’m a bi dude, but I’m more romantically attracted to women and more sexually turned on by men. Although there is a dude in my life that I’m sexually and romantically attracted to. He’s married tho. 😢 He comes off as kind of bi, though.
@HStevens-vo8dq
@HStevens-vo8dq Ай бұрын
YOUR SOOOOOOO CUTE ❤❤❤❤ i guess u are bisexual u just said it? Anyway like ur videos too ❤
@notdefining
@notdefining 26 күн бұрын
Thank you for your kind compliment.
@HStevens-vo8dq
@HStevens-vo8dq 25 күн бұрын
@notdefining 💜♥️
@SanGregory
@SanGregory 3 ай бұрын
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@notdefining
@notdefining 3 ай бұрын
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