7 Things You Should NEVER Say to an INFJ

[@Psych2go]

Do you believe in personality types? Comment below what's yours.

[@kiiara1302]

intj -^-

[@writingamia]

hmm,, well i have the hyper personality type !!

[@theoneandonlylecia2502]

Love❤️💫

[@violetcreamwolf_]

My personality ENFJ literally describes me. Of course some facts have to be a bit off so I don’t take it really seriously, but I do like the idea of the types. It was easier for me to understand myself.

[@Maria-xi2rh]

I am not sure abt my personality type yet, but am truly and purely triggered by these words. 🙂 I do believe in them.

[@caitstenz]

As an INFJ, I’ve definitely made mental notes on people who have invalidated my emotions and have never disclosed anything personal about myself again. Seems like INFJs are very cautious about who they choose to vent to or seek advice from.

[@Karafaith.4]

Same here, as an INFJ I agree

[@mlpfilmstarfun2867]

yep I'm starting to do this now what's annoying is that all the people o trust invalidate my feelings so I end up talking about my emotions with my cat. yes ofc she doesn't physically comfort me, but her cuddles are enough for me. sometime I wonder where I would be without her🥺

[@dxxgx6713]

I don't even bother to seek for someone for advice they will all judge anyw, even if they talk nice to u when u tell them about what u going through

[@soobinsbread7660]

im an infj too,, and i resonate with this sm cuz whenever i talk to certain people no matter how close they are i take note of how they deal with my vents or whenever i talk to them when i down,, so i aso end up having not many people to confide in comfortably and thats q scary :(

[@imhot3158]

Same

[@pikichu01]

The moment a person compares my struggles to theirs and says 'I've had it worse' it just crushes my soul and I can never talk to them again. IDKY people have the need to compare problems as my problems gave me anxiety and PTSD and you just straight up dismissed it because according to you, you have struggled more. I just wish people shut up.

[@lime4257]

I feel like, for me "you're to sensitive" is more"it happens to everyone the exact same way and we aren't dramatic about it"

[@rosymapleleia]

As an INFJ, yeah I would HATE having a lot of these being said straight to my face, especially if I was feeling anxious and needed to tell SOMEBODY about what was going on just to get hit in the face with something like “oh yeah so and so has it worse!” “That’s not that bad” “you’re just overthinking it” or whatever I don’t care if you even talk with me through it or help me or what and perhaps just listen just please DO NOT tell me things like this or big chances are I won’t go for to you about anything again. I haven’t necessarily been treated like this before but even just imagining it makes me angry.

[@jossora1795]

as an infj, this is extremely accurate

[@Psych2go]

Which one did you relate to most?

[@perryiuhc690]

Never tell NFs: you're sensitive

[@peternincompoop9553]

I guess I'm an oddball INFJ. I've been winging it for most of my adult life.

[@rikemeier577]

I love your Videos they are so calming and i love your content 👐🏻

[@TheDarkness1]

You can say anything you want to me. I'll either laugh, laugh then destroy your ego while laughing, or roll my eyes while laughing. 😂

[@cutedoggy4259]

Omg I was Recording and when I got a Notification I stopped the Recording and I watched this

[@hutaowi]

i’m an infj and i agree 100%

[@brokenperson4208]

I'm a INFJ and I'll say I gotten mad once I my as a child and never since then I'm 20 now and ill say it hard then ever I o ly get annoyed or upset at things but never get angry or anything and people misunderstand me a lot like you said INFJ do and I saw the other video aswell on them and I'll say I want to thank you for helping me a little more of what I am or a question I been asking to myself hahahha😅😅😅😇🥰😢🥺😖😟

[@cup3911]

I hate when people say "yOu'rE sUCh a cAnCEr" it's the same as saying "yOu'rE sO seNSitIvE" "dOn't bE sOoOOo dRAmAtic"

[@FylinB563]

There seem to be an oddly high amount of INFJs in the comments section of litterally any video relating to INFJs

[@JAHANNUM]

this video is describing INFPs and practically everyone in the comment section is an INFP lmao

[@aakashsuryawanshi957]

INFJ is here.!! 😁

[@josephjoestar953]

I'm the kind of person who gives answers to peoples venting since to me answers are easier than emotions so I'm someone who has done a few of these lol.

[@josephjoestar953]

funny thing is last I checked I was incredibly close to being an INFJ but whatever personality test I did said I was just BARELY something else.

[@kG-uq7ju]

As an INFJ, I can be empathetic. But when it's my turn to express how I feel or vent, some people would be physically there but not really willing to lend an ear. It hurts sometimes that we don't get the same amount of sympathy at least. And when I don't open up, I am told that I am too distant or indifferent. I feel like I don't belong in this "dimension" or something. And yeah, telling INFJs that they're too sensitive is that red button that must not be pushed.

[@elizychler9096]

I relate to this so much. The feeling that you're there for them because you care so much, but then no one is really there for you and it's like you don't fit in anywhere. It's really tough.

[@A._.A._.A._.A._.A]

I agree with both of you... It's so hard And sometimes, i just want people to listen to me.. not telling me what to do and all of that stuff.. i just want them to lend their ears

[@denysvision]

I can relate as well, sometimes is just hard for people to at least litsen

[@rorror747]

I can totally relate to this. I'm even confused to myself of what I really am sometimes. and it hurts

[@indigofenrir7236]

You're just too sensitive. /s

[@jennyneon]

Saying “you're too sensitive” to an INFJ is like signing up for your own death sentence.

[@youssefelabd9527]

Lol

[@zonawaheed5076]

EXACTLY

[@mjm7051]

So... you have chosen the door slam.

[@marvipendragon]

Or saying: "You're drowning in a glass of water" when... really not. ;-;

[@Maria-xi2rh]

Makes sense...

[@angelosvlahos]

The absolute worst thing for INFJ's is being attacked for who they are. If we made a genuine mistake, alright you know. If we could do something differently, that's fair. If you're telling me i'm dumb, too sensitive, not empathic, ignorant etc. then you're just upsetting me with how wrong you are.

[@mustachecashstash1157]

huh, yeah

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

*7 things you should never say to an INFJ* 0:36 - You’re too sensitive 1:05 - Let’s wing it 1:29 - You should be ashamed of yourself 1:59 - Here’s some advice 2:25 - I’ve had it worse than you 3:00 - Can you be more practical? 3:28 - But that’s how we’ve always done things ❤️❤️❤️ from *High Living - animated videos* 🚀🌙

[@GraciesMelodies]

I relate to almost all of these but I'm not an INFJ??? huh

[@ladrillorojo4996]

@@GraciesMelodies Maybe you are mistyped.

[@kanamimitsuki4919]

Thank you so much

[@randomstranger6426]

Thank you, this is helpful.

[@specmoment3592]

@@GraciesMelodies What type are u?

[@jaynamccovey2137]

“You’re too sensitive” **starts crying**

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

Me: *cries with you*

[@PraisetheFluffyTail]

Chain reaction cryin of INFJs

[@PrinceJaredJ]

Me the INFJ-T squeezing you all with my massive, long hugs to recharge you with my empathy and love 😌

[@samriddhipant5889]

@@PrinceJaredJ Thank you so much💓

[@PrinceJaredJ]

@@samriddhipant5889 You're welcome Sam💙

[@grace_ly]

definitely the “i’ve had it worse than you”! i can’t even BELIEVE people would want to say this in the first place!! i feel like it would effect all people, maybe not just infjs. and “you’re too sensitive” definitely.

[@Psych2go]

Yes, that's really insensitive and selfish to say.

[@greatwavefan397]

You should never say those to anyone.

[@HeloiseEliot]

my brother sounds like he's competing with me when it comes to "I've had it worse than you" things. If I say I have a headache, he has to say he's had a migraine for 2 days, that my headache is nothing (just an example, not a real situation). Talk about an inferiority complex that goes so far you need to actually be worse than someone to feel better about yourself.

[@Sexybuttpiss]

Well my dad and brother say I’m to sensitive all the time and It drives me mad also I get a lot of people say to me (well a lot of my friends) say I’ve had it worse than you, not those exact words but I’ll Tell them how I feel and I get “well at least No one hates you”

[@dizzy_jump]

@@Psych2go people don’t care ‘bout how they feel unfortunately they feel like being a jackass they be a jackass

[@ComicalRealm]

"Be careful with your words. One they are said, they can only be forgiven, not forgotten" - Joker

[@sporter527]

society

[@MCAlexisYT]

yep 😂

[@strangewayfaringstranger]

What? That made no sense. I'd like to think the Joker makes sense, at least when he talks. Grammar is important.

[@digitalerror69]

@@strangewayfaringstranger I think he meant 'once' instead of 'one'

[@darlingtonrani1760]

Yes but i hope the other one is always doing good when i say this may im not suppost to be here😊

[@dajex16]

“You should be ashamed” that one really pisses me off. No one is more critical of me than myself, so when more people attempt to keep adding on top of it, I just disconnect from the conversation and stop listening to the conversation. Also, “you’re too sensitive” does it for me too.I’ve always thought there was something wrong with me, but am I’m learning a lot about myself now than anything my parents ever taught me. I’ve only ever learned how to work and how to obey, but never taught how to be me.

[@shd.ae_]

The "you should be ashamed" torn apart my heart so bad. It triggers a lot since we really care about how do we act in front of the others and reflect ourselves from it :((

[@riyaa.8421]

@Dajex16 I can relate so much to this, still on the learning journey however

[@Proditum-dt4vz]

Yeah the you should be ashamed one scratches the deepest layers of my already beaten ego in this world when someone says that its just game over to talking to them in the future but i cant really shut off what they say after that i just keep listening as everyword they say after that hits me again and again

[@noverahasan3599]

if you really are are an infj then I have a question.How will you feel if someone told you they thought you were smart but you are actually not,(after spending time with you,in an argument

[@vickyisntpicky]

literally the sentence "you're too sensitive" is something that makes me burst out in tears

[@missmillion3864]

If this is happening, I would like to request a series of this that is just every personality on the MBTI thing.

[@ichsehnursoaus]

If i wanna know about these Personality types, i visit Frank James' Channel, he is very detailed about it. Also, funny :)

[@johannestynjala6299]

A series of videos on things one should not to say to each MBTI personality type... Good idea. 💡

[@rafinaranae]

AGREE

[@misfit_raven4367]

Yeah, I guess it’s convenient or me since I’m INFJ, but I agree, they should have other types. Hopefully they’ll start soon, can’t wait to look into the other personality types!

[@greatwavefan397]

@@ichsehnursoaus It's Just Kevin is good, too.

[@Cherry_Blossom.-.]

This is all so true, as an INFJ the “you should be more practical” is so true for me. I’ll admit I daydream and dream a lot, I have HUGE imaginations, some people think I’m weird for that, and also the “I’m too sensitive” is also very true. I had therapy for 6 months before, to atleast defend myself now. And I’ve had people tell me they had it “way more worse then me” mostly when I was in middle school, this is also another reason why I WAS introverted and I lacked the confidence and courage to speak up for 3 whole years. Now I’m just getting my life on track, being an INFJ certainly doesn’t make me feel special at all, honestly I wished to change myself before, but a few people have taught me to accept the way I am. So please to whoever is an INFJ, If this is happening to you in your life, make sure to always be positive and don’t let other people’s opinion matter to you if they do say something bad to you. ^^ ♥️

[@elsahjelm7315]

This made me so happy! I'm also an INFJ and sometimes i feel ashamed over who I am and i get really sad when no one understands me. I just feel so trapped but this gave me some confidece! 💕

[@pegasix99]

I'm glad that I'm not the only who thinks like this. I'm totally not confident in what I do and I am mostly lonely but I'm happy that we INFJs understand each other. It's really grateful.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

I get the feeling you'd be REALLY great at D&D... I'm not exactly the INFJ... well... really... I don't fit ANY of the archetypes... BUT I do play and run (GM) games. It takes a LOT of imagination to jump out of our hum-drum reality into something of Tolkien or Lovecraft and beyond... There's probably an RPG out there to fit you if you look... and likely a group that'll love you to death for joining and bringing the imagination... In spite of whatever you see online, LOTS of us still RP by "theater of the mind", too... ;o)

[@deadlockshadow8998]

Yes, I daydream alot too

[@samuraiboi2735]

Tbh huge imaginations help your build in developing your skills at something your good at i guess

[@luckynumber4501]

"You should be ashamed" Shame is probably the worst feeling i've ever had in my life, so i can perfectly relate to this

[@lojanta]

True

[@dartagnan553]

Fun fact: INFJ is the rarest mbti type, with only 1.5%, and yet, 99% of the viewers are INFJ.

[@nick_vs2648]

É foda né, Geraldo, foi exatamente o que eu pensei.

[@dartagnan553]

@@nick_vs2648 muito foda Nick

[@scoots291]

I know it's strange xD I guess every person who took the test and got the result came here

[@xyphor317]

That’s over 70 million people. That’s still a ton of people. More people will also watch a video on their own mbti type, so you can expect most of its viewers to be the type in the video.

[@nick_vs2648]

@@xyphor317 indeed

[@datboi6954]

1. "you're too sensitive" 0:36 2. "let's wing it" 1:06 3. "you should be ashamed of yourself!" 1:29 4. "here's some advice" 2:00 5. "I've had it worse than you." 2:25 6. "Can you be more practical?" 3:00 7. "But that's how we've always done things" 3:29 I hope I could help!

[@DinandHarmen]

:)

[@switchedaccounts3918]

Thank you ! This really helps .

[@kiiara1302]

how is this comment a month ago ??!

[@writingamia]

why does it say this was 1 month ago

[@mini4940]

Are you a time traveler?

[@gracemhaedits1503]

Being an INFJ, I find it really cool that you're doing these. Keep up the good work, love your videos! This video is really accurate too.

[@jninja5758]

It does really help, it seems like there’s not a lot of material for our personality type…

[@dabestorkposta]

@@jninja5758 I mean, we are pretty rare, so...

[@Psych2go]

Thanks Graice for the feedback! We appreciate you!

[@gracemhaedits1503]

@@Psych2go You're very welcome!

[@shaggy3239]

@@dabestorkposta it’s rare true. But we are all attracted to this type of content? So that is why so many of us are here

[@Venus-pc9be]

Fun fact: people will read this if it says fun fact.

[@bluenderd]

Yes

[@adorbez_rola]

Yes hehe

[@whyme3203]

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[@Hope-ux4dx]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZfNlmuhdtuLe5I .

[@dublindom3720]

Fun fact: this is true

[@lilm0nix3]

"you're too sensi-" I'll show you how sensitive YOU can really be.

[@aaronmason239]

In the old days. This was called an old soul. Which I think sounds better than INFJ. Old soul sounds far more prestigious.

[@jamiekrhea]

"Old soul" is too broad. I am an enfj and most of these apply to me too. The main difference is that the "e" stands for extroverted and the "i" for introverted. The letters mean something.

[@aaronmason239]

@@jamiekrhea You just made a point for me that I did not express in my post. Yes old soul is a broad term. Which is why I prefer it over INFJ or ENFJ. Because old souls are encompassing of both INFJ's and ENFJ's. They also delve in great depth, all social, natural/physical, and mental constructs. Thats because they have tapped into the history that preceded them. I am far happier and subdued in knowing that I am an old soul.

[@SoCalRegisteredNurse]

I hate when I hear “you’re exaggerating, it’s no big deal.” Well it’s a big deal to me. I hate when my husband rolls his eyes at me. I told him if he continues to do that he’ll find himself single because I have no problem being single. Actually I think it’s easier sometimes because I don’t have to explain my way of thinking all the time to people who don’t get it. I’m an INFJ-advocate. Can you do a video on the different types of INFJs?

[@professorcoco4838]

same. i guess this is coming from us slamdoor thing

[@Maria-xi2rh]

@@professorcoco4838 really.. my sensitivity is seen as such a mess ppl literally say this " I knew u will make things worse" Like c'mon, it hurts

[@aintzane9482]

Yeah, I hate when that happens, like, well if isn't a big deal for you then leave me alone

[@saisusato2871]

My best friend is an infj and while I understand how you feel, altho maybe threatening him with your absence isnt the most healthy way to express that your not communicating well. Im not saying hes justified, but we have to remember dear friend, two wrongs dont make a right :) try to understand where hes coming from and adjust. Maybe he feels attacked or simply isnt relating to the method of communication. A great quote comes to mind, "understand, then be understood". I hope that helps :)

[@RR-xz6bv]

Actually you should understand just cause it’s a big deal to you in the inside, when you look at the bigger picture with you in it, that issue becomes less of an importance. That’s what your missing. It is and is not a big deal, depending on who’s perspective your asking.

[@elanachan4014]

One of the most hurtful things I was called by my toxic ex-boyfriend was "You're being a crybaby" as well as "You're way too sensitive" like literally all the time. When his jokes were made at my expense to make fun of me. I broke up with him because I got tired of being disrespected so yeah #1 really resonated with me. Fellow INFJs, there is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Empathy is beautiful, and our emotions are valid.

[@saisusato2871]

Very true friend. Im an ENFP and my best friend and hopefully future girlfriend (an infj as well) and I always try to understand each other. Dont be afraid to walk away if someone is unwilling to communicate. Altho dont be complacent and disloyal either (not at all implying you were, simply stating a principle). Ive found this saying to be true, "understand, then be understood". Sometimes that means walking away because people have work to do on themselves. Find someone who doesnt attack you for being you. I think about a scripture actually, "showing them honor as to weaker vessels" (refering to women in general). It was refering to alabaster jars, perfume jars from egypt, because they were precious and extraordinarily valuable, but also delicate, and to be treated with care :) Hope you find the man who can understand that :)

[@PrinceJaredJ]

@@saisusato2871 Are you a fellow brother or sister? 😌 IYKYK

[@ashryver3605]

"INFJ is the rarest personality type" comment section: "As an INFJ"

[@caniaskyoukindofaweirdques7053]

I counted 24 INFJs lol

[@dabestorkposta]

I mean, there are roughly 140 million of us,being as it's about 2% of the population

[@thelightwecarry]

Loool

[@jxu9495]

This channel keeps making videos about INFJ too 🤷‍♀️

[@debbiehomesley509]

@@dabestorkposta Well, 6 million in America- Our population is roughly 310 million😊

[@nataschastraarup21]

As a INFJ I can relate to all Of these. I hates especialy when you ask someone how they are and they answers with "fine" and then starts small talking, let's just say that's a good way to make me hate you😅

[@nickyb5851]

Agreed...

[@oliviaharris7321]

@@nickyb5851 I love your profile pic!!!

[@theoneandonlylecia2502]

How tf is this comment 4 days ago?!

[@SundaeCookies]

How is this comment 4 days ago-

[@flowerpot1300]

Hi time traveller!

[@jninja5758]

I can confirm that all seven are extremely accurate, especially being told it’s your own fault! It doesn’t help, I tend to be extremely hard on myself and it being shoved into my face that I messed up makes things worse

[@SoCalRegisteredNurse]

If they only knew that you’re already beating yourself up in your head far worse than what they’re saying verbally

[@Hope-ux4dx]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZfNlmuhdtuLe5I..

[@user-fm4ip7lo8u]

Louder for the people in the back, please.

[@paigemosher8697]

It's especially heinous to say when it's actually THEIR fault and not yours. This is why I have issues with accountability and apologizing; I know when I'm wrong, and if I'm not, I won't say sorry for something I'm not guilty of. That doesn't stop people from trying to guilt-trip me, but hopefully one day they'll catch on to the fact that I'm not playing their games.

[@lakshaydubey3975]

Everything is so own point my ex girlfriend said all that, I don't trust people that easily but I trusted her and confided in her and then she said all these things to me since then I think that everything is my fault, even though I know that is not true but still everything hurts. That's some damage that I haven't been able to fix.

[@supremealpaca1251]

"Being mature is knowing that Joker never said any of these quotes" -Joker

[@vladdostupidthings6549]

Hell ye ain't 14 but this is -Deep- Fax

[@supremealpaca1251]

@@vladdostupidthings6549 im 12 XD

[@t0xic_angels416]

Personally I’m an INFJ and I think this video is facts

[@Hope-ux4dx]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZfNlmuhdtuLe5I .

[@filgas0892]

Same

[@PlayandTalkwithSean]

Why do I think I'm also an INFJ with the facts of this video XD

[@typhoid6836]

I think im more of an infj because i had it worse

[@indie3749]

^^^

[@mathouldethelightofhope8104]

As an INFJ the worst thing someone told me was : " you disapponted me"

[@mathouldethelightofhope8104]

@What Am I Yep...

[@rilke5536]

I think "you should be ashamed of yourself" is by far the worst. It makes you feel bad for what you've done and on top of that makes you feel bad and unsensitive for not feeling bad about it. It also puts your moral principles and integrity at stake witch is by far the worst thing you could ever think of criticising in my case

[@user-mo9wx4ke6l]

Imagine knowing someone as helpful as Psych2Go 🙄❤️

[@Psych2go]

Yes in real life?

[@user-mo9wx4ke6l]

@@Psych2go Yes☺️

[@lonewolfnergiganos4000]

Psych2go's videos are starting to become actual therapy for us.

[@damn5991]

Yeah :) but actually it is a fun video

[@hydra4112]

As an INFJ, this is way too relatable 😭

[@Hope-ux4dx]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZfNlmuhdtuLe5I .

[@selinaou]

As an INFJ: Others: You're SOOO SENSITIVE Me: At least I'm not as insensitive as you

[@saenger9204]

I suggest the "INFJ's" on this comment section to study the cognitive functions and not call themselves one because of online tests and because they identified themselves with videos about the type.

[@paigemosher8697]

If someone tries to tell me that they've had it worse than me, my first response would likely be to call their bluff. No one who's ever truly suffered would use that experience to one-up others and shame them for feeling bad about a situation that they likely have every right to be upset about. Instead, they would be empathetic and humble because they understand what it's like to be invalidated and wouldn't wish that upon others. People who lack empathy have never had to lift a finger to get respect, so they don't get to go on a soapbox rant about how much wrong the world has done to them when that's never been the case.

[@ichsehnursoaus]

I completely agree to that!

[@HeloiseEliot]

you know... some people just want to put you down. I mentioned my brother up there and I'm sorry but I have to use him as an example again. When telling to him I had been molested by a family friend when I was a child... his response? "He didn't do it just to you, he did it to another girl I know as well". So there you have it, it's not necessarily their suffering that comes into play, they just have to make you feel like your problems are smaller than anybody else's.

[@kovenmaitreya7184]

Actually... lots of people use their own suffering as a justification to inflict suffering on others or to put them down / elevate themselves. They may use it to try to garner sympathy or use it to invalidate. It's a common tactic of narcissts. I've done a lot of studying on people opposite from us empathic folks.... A precursor of clinical narcissism is actually intense suffering that's unable to be overcome.

[@pokereqisme]

I am an INTP and I basically agree except the "wing it" one only when I'm doing something serious. Like, I'm in a group project and my teammates say "IDK let's wing it". WTF dude, this shit is important

[@danielyuan9862]

Yeah, as another INTP I usually only "wing" things when it's not that important.

[@pokereqisme]

@@danielyuan9862 It's just that I'm lazy and if something is not important I don't wanna waste thought on it

[@abigailmeighoo6919]

My moms an INFP

[@yeeyee6678]

@@danielyuan9862 I only put wings on cars

[@night7startm]

I’ll send this to everyone who knows me “what you should never say to me”

[@paigemosher8697]

Good idea, hopefully they'll catch on quickly.

[@night7startm]

@JJ Olatunji 🅥 cute but you a bot

[@greatwavefan397]

You'll give them ammo for when they're mad, though.

[@coldwater9155]

"i've had it worse than you" not gonna lie, this sentences really breaks me. its totally proves that they didn't understand me.

[@violetcreamwolf_]

I really enjoy these videos but a suggestion could be maybe doing a variety of different types of personality types?

[@ichsehnursoaus]

If i wanna know about these Personality types, i visit Frank James' Channel, he is very detailed about it. Also, funny :)

[@anannyanath9143]

As a HSP, who's also an INFJ-T with anxiety and anger issues, I could relate to this beyond expectations.

[@slaygal9012]

I wish that there was a video like “7 things you can never say to an autistic person” because there is to much involuntary discrimination against us

[@paigemosher8697]

As an autistic person, I second this.

[@ichsehnursoaus]

I want to learn more about people on the autistic spectrum

[@memenazi7078]

@@ichsehnursoaus check out aspergers from the inside or ask an autistic. And then have Gabor Mate twist everything u thought u knew with his wild claims? Truth is, most of what we know about the disorder is pseudoscience so it’s best to just find out what bits that are actually true, and take whatever your autistic friends say seriously.

[@Talkinglife]

Here are 7 things you should definitely avoid saying to an INFJ. “Calm down!” ... “You're just not trying hard enough.” ... “I'm fine.” - when you know you aren't. ... “No one will ever understand you.” ... “You're doing too much.” ... “You make it difficult to love you.” ... “You're so boring.

[@susannaseveroni4489]

Sorry but what do you mean by "you're doing too much"? Cause my sis is an INFJ and I don't want to unintentionally hurt her :(

[@eatyourcereal4747]

@@susannaseveroni4489 then intentionally hurt her to assert dominance Im just joking sorry

[@Hope-ux4dx]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZfNlmuhdtuLe5I .

[@professorcoco4838]

@@susannaseveroni4489 maybe not wanting help meaning? when infj cares about someone doing anything for this human and sometimes this is so much but when this person say this to you that's a little bit hurt but facts important too

[@ryuushi26]

I hate that my parents will force me to be extraverted in real life esp interacting with my cousins like I should be the first one to talk to them little did they know I am super extroverted on the internet 🤪

[@LONNESYRUPBITCH]

Actually you shouldn’t say these to anyone.

[@mavisdom-animeonpiano]

Facts

[@su18101]

finally found the comment I was looking for!

[@arandomcatwithinternetconn413]

exactly!! these are so common for those who have dealt with toxic people

[@ErdemtugsC]

Some of these to some people

[@rikiverseeee]

Yes, I relate to ALL of them, especially #3 ( Imma INFJ )

[@hyunjae_18]

"can you be more practical?" That's what my parents always tells me. That's why all these times, I thought it's my fault that I'm not practical but now I know that it's just part of my personality.

[@ea3qmprz369]

Completely agree hehe, everytime I take the personalities test I get INFJ since I was around 16. I've turned to others but my friend/boyfriend/family when they say I'm too sensitive. I'm trying journaling nowadays since sometimes I can't get them listening or stop giving me advice. Mi boyfriend is ESTJ, he is so practical and I'm trying to learn from him but I've noticed that since it is not natural on me I go back to my way of doing things according to my creative thoughts hehe 😅🤗 love you all! Thanks for doing this!!

[@emberstonequest]

INFJ high-five! I journal for the same reason. It's become a great way to track which things constantly upset me so I can change the situation in whatever ways I can.

[@simranrachel7929]

Yeah,🎉🎉 journaling is very helpful , don't skip even a day 😂 , because then things get piled in my head .

[@bittersuite17]

Can’t someone just listen to me, it’s all I want, I’m an infj and completely agree ❤️

[@strangewayfaringstranger]

Well I can't hear you but I can read what you write.

[@spektrum8740]

Dear psych2go 🥺: I want to thank you for all your videos, cuz they help me a lot in my life.. it'll be so helpful if you upload another video about depression and it impact in relationships! Thnx again ❤️!

[@Bella_640]

Can you do a video with the different types of INFJs ? There are many INFJs that are mistyped with other mbtis like INFP, INTP, ISTJ For being a "rare mbti" many people who are really INFJs end up not believing and taking other MBTIs.

[@valis3363]

Idk, but I took the test twice, once I got ISFP and the other time I got INFJ, I don't what am I. But what they mentioned here applies to me to a hell of a level. Except that I myself say "let's wing it" when it isn't something that would end up in serious consequences

[@ichsehnursoaus]

If i wanna know about these Personality types, i visit Frank James' Channel, he is very detailed about it. Also, funny :)

[@Bella_640]

@@valis3363 I had the same thing, for a long time I thought I was an INFP until I found out that I was actually a 4w5 INFJ and that's why I got confused for so long, for you to be absolutely sure of your MBTI, it's better take the ennagram test too.

[@Chebab-Chebab]

I got told I was too sensitive by a boss. I asked for clarification. "Sensitive like a finely-tuned machine, or aware when I'm being insulted?"

[@earthboundisawsome]

Having an INFJ as a partner this definitely hits home. In retrospect I've had to wrap my head around a lot of these mistake points. Thankfully she's very patient. Theese are very good pointers that I've had to learn the hard way sadly.

[@shush3545]

your voice is so relaxing 😊

[@dlaBerAuoY]

3:12 the Crumb drawing is just the cutest

[@DontMindMeWhoops]

I do not agree with the 'Here's some advice.' part of this video. Each person has their own way of comforting a person. Just because a person gives you their advice/solution, it doesn't mean they don't care about you. They CARE about you and wanted to help no matter what. Showing empathetic signs aren't their language in comforting someone. Remember, if someone gives you advice, do not feel sad about it. They care for you very deeply in their hearts and are trying their best to make you feel better. - INTP

[@yoongoongi4349]

i agree. like i know that it's hard on anyone having to deal with an INFJ. i can't fault them if they don't know the magic way to "fix" me, since it's not their fault i'm upset, usually. it does get sad though, since we are so sensitive, people around us start to care less and do less and less to cheer us up because they start to see there's no changing us and we're gonna be sad again tomorrow anyway. lol

[@arandomcatwithinternetconn413]

I'm an intp too!

[@sila298]

Another thing not to say to infjs(or just me hehe) when they look like they are about to cry: "Are you okay?" I immediately start crying when i hear that😭✋

[@matildas5855]

As an infj, I completely agree with this!

[@jhomartramirez6184]

Very accurate. But the lets wing it part? I sometimes kind of want to test something out when I have no choice, because why not? Maybe it’ll work. So its 50/50 for me, yes I hate making something without a plan but being an INFJ doesn’t mean you always have a plan. So winging it isn’t that bad for us I think.

[@mewo1282]

"You're too sensitive" Bruh I'm Infj and this is so true- My friend said that to me while I was venting out my feelings to them because I thought they'd understand, boy I was wrong.. Now I'm here keeping my emotions contained at all costs and just listens to other people's venting instead 🥲

[@kimitzuosoo5289]

Hm relatable

[@ichsehnursoaus]

Noooo, don't keep them contained, not at all cost, the price is too high :(

[@jeffxd3432]

How come all the bad stereotypes surrounding other personality types are “True” yet all bad stereotypes for INFJs are just “Misunderstandings”? I’m curious what your take on this is.

[@planetsj527]

Can u make videos on other types plz

[@frqnkenst13n4x7]

Hey if you have a crush and they like you back, but then you loose all feelings for them, what could be the reason for that?

[@juliakay7446]

I have this same question-

[@Hope-ux4dx]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZfNlmuhdtuLe5I .

[@ladrillorojo4996]

Could be that he/she did something incompatible with you, small talks a lot, likes things you dont, her/his mind isnt capable of understanding you, there could be a lot of options (assuming you are INFJ). The intentions could also be incorrect...

[@keiron.4612]

Maybe that they bore you lol

[@ladrillorojo4996]

@Oliver Erz I'm INFJ myself, and those i mentioned are usually the issues we face for having a rather complex mind. It's hard to find someone that can fully understand us because our inner world is uh... Strange... to say the least. So, if we see signs of small talk or simple minded people, we tend to get bored and/or lose all interest. In my case, only one person manages to understand my inner world, and she is INFP :)

[@japanimated123]

This is pretty accurate for me lol. When people try to give me advice, I have already thought of my problems from several angles. I've been invalidated by these kind of statements by family, "friends", bullies, coworker... several people. Really grinds my gears. That frustration and anger often stems from fear that the person is right and I'm disappointing others. Turns into a lot of sadness and feelings of shame. But I'm working on it.

[@emmarae4322]

If I hear “you are too sensitive”, that person immediately turns me off. It’s like asking us to not be who we fundamentally are.

[@_ishikagrover]

As an Infj this video really hits home because I don’t want to hear ‘Here’s some advice’ ever. Just the other day for example I was telling my friend that I m how I m so sick and can’t breathe and couldn’t sleep whole night because of it made this bag by myself and I m thinking of doing this and she’d go like “no you should get up and take walk.” You don’t understand that I can’t I k sick for god’s sake. I can’t move my body. Maybe your body works different when its sick. But mine doesn’t even let me eat something. I totally understand how she just wanted the best for me. But All I wanted was for her to hear that I m not okay like make me scream and complain for once in a while. I didn’t want to hear what I should do I can’t do that’s the reason I m telling you this. And also the “I’ve had it worse than you” feels so condescending like okay maybe but can I have this moment to myself. I feel tired for always having it in and never letting it out. Can I have this moment to feel how utterly broken I am not how you are more broken than me. It always feels like I m giving my ear to everybody when they want it but never getting that in return. And honestly it’s exhausting.

[@shawnacarr2154]

Saying your to sensitive hurts like really bad I’m a infj and I’ve been told that before and it hurt so for the rest of the day I sat scolding myself for being to sensitive. There worse part is it was my mom who said it.

[@adrian.8210]

As an INFJ, it shocked me after I realize my parents said almost all of these things to me. Maybe that's why I keep my distance from them now, and choose to share things with my close friends. Thank you for the insights!

[@neri1220]

As an INFJ i hate criticism from others. I have my own critic in my head that already puts me down, thank you very much.

[@brandoftheraisin]

Being an INFJ, I hated being told I was too sensitive as a kid, and “you should be ashamed of yourself” just reinforced a guilty conscience. On the other hand, I’ve never been that bothered by “let’s wing it” as I love to be adventurous, but having plans or events be really last-minute was frustrating.

[@candicecarter-thurow4218]

Same.

[@sahrkologist]

Dang we really out here time traveling

[@myname2021]

I feel like sometimes i'm INFJ-T and INTJ. I just like alone, but i love socialize in small circle group that have good impact to each other. If that person too negative, INFJ will cut you forever. We don't like toxic people!

[@cupcakekit6767]

As an INFJ, I agree with all of these. I hate when people say these kind of things to me. It makes me feel like.. I'm not good enough.

[@douglascoons5434]

"You're too sensitive"... yeah, the best thing to say to me if you want me angry, lol.

[@misterwolf3817]

Waiting for such list of ENTJ, ETA: *none*

[@PurpleMysticBlueberry]

Yes... I am waithing for Isfp.... too

[@PurpleMysticBlueberry]

@@machalatte3 you have right...

[@PurpleMysticBlueberry]

@Oliver Erz yes its true but we are humans too... I like to see more mbti types ( I have a lot of friends) . I am an introvert with a lot of friends.

[@definitely-the]

@@PurpleMysticBlueberry due to intuitive bias i doubt that will happen

[@FutakuchiMana]

I feel attacked lol. But yeah this hits the mark.

[@owiche]

dude i didn't realize i was an INFJ until i looked more into it, even some of my friends say i have a “rare” personality which made me surprised that i'm also an INFJ! i def agree with all these

[@greenleeaf111]

1. 0:35 "You're too sensitive" 2. 1:05 "Let's wing it" 3. 1:28 "You should be ashamed of yourself" 4. 1:59 "Here's some advice" 5. 2:25 "I've had it worse that you" 6. 2:59 "Can you be more practical?" 7. 3:29 "But that's how we've always done things"

[@saraboucherit6645]

When I finally tried to open up a bit about my worries or anxieties it turns out that they're just something minor , and it's just another day of me being " sensitive "

[@Callie_Padrick]

My boyfriend is an infj so thank you for the help💕✨

[@pcoddiaries6866]

I am an INFJ who grew up in an abusive household and heard all these exact phrases from the narcissists in my life. Due to this I developed BPD and now struggling with my emotions and life feeling very lonely. Even the therapists I visited used few of these phrases which did hurt me a lot. I am slowly learning that I can't control what people say or do and if they choose cruelty over empathy it clearly defines who they are and not who I am. Though it hurts when it comes from people you are close with. Also trying to control people never helps. INFJs are magnets for ASPDs so watch out. Take care of your mental health.

[@PurpleMysticBlueberry]

Ummm.... can you please make another personality type. Thank you!

[@CyUsagiii]

What makes me mad the most is when someone says “ They had it worse than you “ It’s like are they even listening to our problems? And instead they think of others.

[@arandomcatwithinternetconn413]

"Others have it worse" bruh almost everyone got to hear that from our parents and that's bad😭

[@xrtistic_soul]

As a depressed INFJ the "I've had it worse than you" it's me so much. I become so angry, hurt and sad that i end up crying not being able to express myself in words.

[@steve-cake]

Im an INFJ and i can say i do nearly everything these videos say so yes i do believe in them

[@Lapetitemar]

Recently, my BBF got mad at me. Like really angry with me. Without telling me the reason... She just doesn't want to talk to me and idk why. As an INFJ, you can imagine how I'm feeling. The worst person in the world seems to be right here, writing this comment. The worst part? Not knowing what I did or said... Right now I just don't even want to talk to any other friend. It scares me that I'm able to hurt the people I love the most without even knowing how or why. I just want to dissappear... Since she's not answering my texts. Sorry for the random comment. I just needed to let it out. It sucks to be an INFJ...

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

Hey Mariana, don’t be hard on yourself. If she is ghosting you without telling you why, she is in the wrong, not you. ❤️ hope you will feel better soon and I am sure you will make pace with your friend