7 Tips for Overcoming Jealousy In Relationships

Most people can feel a little jealous in a relationship, sometimes - especially when they have strong feelings of attraction and love for their partner. A little jealousy can even add a bit of 'zest' to a relationship, but ultimately can end up driving your partner (and yourself!) crazy.
In this video I talk about what jealousy in a relationship means, and I give 7 tips to stop being jealous in a relationship.
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++ Video highlights ++
00:00 Introduction
00:15 "It's not love that is blind, but jealousy"
02:12 What does jealousy in a relationship mean?
03:26 7 tips to stop being jealous in a relationship
03:55 Tip 1. How about believing your partner?
04:47 Tip 2. Stop comparing yourself to others
05:58 Tip 3. Be prepared to lose them
07:05 Exercise: Use your imagination to be okay with the worst scenario
08:08 Tip 4. Don't play games
09:21 Tip 5. Stop confusing make-believe with reality
11:27 Tip 6. Lengthen the leash
12:17 Tip 7. Use your imagination to make you feel better, not worse (try this exercise)
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[@mikekaranja63]

1. Trust and believe your partner. 2. Stop comparing yourself to others. - A big part of jealousy is driven by low self-esteem. 3. Be prepared to lose them. - To love someone properly be prepared to lose them. Imagine your life without your partner. 4. Don't play games with your partner. 5. Stop confusing make-believe with reality. 6. Lengthen the leash. 7. Use your imagination to feel better, not worse.

[@GreenAndTheToe]

Thank you!

[@Ehlaar]

It’s hard cause you don’t want to be strung along while someone has their cake and eats it too

[@carltondouglas4997]

@@Ehlaar precisely!

[@remmyk5834]

#3 is strong.😏

[@arceliasantilan5992]

I need advice i'm so jealous woman

[@74row]

Life becomes so chilled when we stop trying to control things outside of own self

[@ramonadaniels6508]

That true but is hard when u think ur partner talking to other female on fb

[@fishingdownsouth1256]

For some it’s easier said than done

[@nene1964]

“Responding to everything with calm and detachment” are words i will lived by from now on

[@warhead-2268]

I'm currently trying to deal with jealousy issues myself. You pretty much nailed everything i feel..I am EXTREMELY jealous and possessive. It's just a feeling of doom that comes over me and i try to get out of it. I come up with random situations in my head and its sooo hard to get out of it. I get extremely jealous of them talking to someone else or when i mention my feelings of affection and it doesnt go the way i thought it was going to go. It's killed a few relationships and im over it. I know im the cause and i need to fix it before it ruins anymore. I want them to hang out with only me and its so wrong. Im going to live by these steps. Thank you. Jealousy is a silent killer.

[@proaudiohd]

Stay strong! It's a double killer because by displaying jealousy you become less attractive, making them question things and put some distance on, which is exactly what you feared in the first place. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy of your own making. Hope you can think your way out of it!

[@iamweird321]

Omg I can relate!!

[@gerijoz5628]

I just read that being jealous is a sin because you don’t love the beauty that God gave you in your uniqueness.

[@irishronin6156]

TOTALLY get where you’re coming from. So you’re not alone. This video seems like a great place to start. Good luck to us all.. but recognizing it is the first step. We got this

[@DougieBee]

I was the most un-jealous guy ever. Got cheated on anyway 😅

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

I don’t care if my boyfriend gets affection from another. I don’t think I am so great and I know I can’t, but even if I could I wouldn’t want to be the all mighty one and only a person needs. I don’t want the responsibility of meeting someone’s expectations always. I don’t ever want to prevent someone’s life from experiencing experiences. If someone wants to relieve me from a persons neediness, need for affection, I don’t mind. If my boyfriend wants to stay he can stay if he wants to leave that’s fine to. My energy is for me Not wasted trying to change someone which is impossible. One might disagree and say what a shame, that’s not love, but for me loving someone is not being petty and selfish It’s encouraging the other to gain as many life experiences Freedom Being happy the person I love is happy Not keeping them in prison.

[@truditjh]

She may be younger than me, prettier than me and have a slimmer body than me, BUT SHE ISN'T ME. This is a mantra I am repeating, alongside this video I am getting there.

[@nurcahaya93]

Tips 2 (stop comparing yourself) *if he or she loves you it will be because of an extra indefinability quality that they cant even explain perhaps...

[@soraya5321]

Love this ❤️❤️

[@HisaLight2mypath]

It's like poetry

[@HisaLight2mypath]

I think the best point in the video is number 1. Just believe everything they say or what's the point in being in the relationship if they want to lie it's on them you're doing the right thing by trusting them...

[@tonyfuri9693]

This guy is the man !! I’m seriously learning an abundance of knowledgeable information. God bless you good sir. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@jackduffy5329]

I can't thank you enough for this video. I have a mountain to climb but you have packed my lunch and sent me on a positive journey

[@jjsoutdooradventures6039]

This sounds like me 100%. I always said to myself “I’m not jealous, I just don’t trust other men around my girl”. What a wake up call to me. That part about me not trusting men around her is definitely true but even more true is me being jealous. This video has been so insightful to me and it’s time to make some serious changes and bite my tongue when I feel the urge to say something or ask something regarding other men or saying things like “did anyone look at you”, “did anyone try to talk to you”, “what did you say back”, etc etc. I don’t want to damage my relationship. I want to spend my life with this woman. Thanks again, amazing video. Time for me to be confident and chill and enjoy my relationship instead of making her feeling like she’s walking in egg shells and making my own mind go crazy by potential scenarios I think may be happening when I know they aren’t and she’s so honest since day one. ❤

[@maddyharvey7414]

I haven’t gotten this jealous, but my past has caused me to feel insecure about my partner finding other women attractive. It’s enough where I feel it hurts my own feelings for nothing. My last partner tried to make me jealous and would borderline cheat. His actions of using attractive women to make me feel degraded and ignored left a mark. My current partner is amazing, I have no doubt he’s faithful, so it’s up to me to heal the irrational fears I have.

[@ilovemybedmorethanyou5473]

I am so sorry you had to go through that. Hoping the best for you and your relationship! Communication is key :)

[@slv6470]

same. how are you now? it's making me feel miserable.

[@majacrnjanski4496]

My partner suffered with my doubts. That is hard life for both of us. We do have a good life. Thank you.

[@diananoureddine6875]

Dealing with jealousy now. I always love more than the other person, so the fact that he can find someone better scares me. No matter how much I try to love myself and grow my confidence, once it’s a situation with a girl I suddenly shrink immediately. It’s tough.

[@jessika9488]

Sounds like your dealing with anxious attachment. Same as me. Try working on building yourself up and building self respect. One way to do this is to face fears. And be kind to yourself in the process. If you prove to yourself you are strong, you will start feeling respect for yourself. That's my advice anyways ❤

[@1chipchap]

​@@jessika9488thank you for this

[@MsBibay]

this is my problem. fear of losing him and jealousy starts to kick in. thank you for the advice.

[@vivpayton3959]

We have the same problem

[@MsBibay]

@@vivpayton3959lesson learned 😅

[@mordakei6530]

My girlfriend recently met a new boy at her school and as a long distance boyfriend with anxiety disorder who's been treated bad in the past, I got very nervous and anxious about how strong our relationship really is. I can't help but feel like I'm not enough.

[@Pruegelknappen]

I find the best tip: Imagine loosing your partner and still be okay. My Girlfriend loves that i work as a Musician. But i would rather learn another job. I always say to myself: If i loose her (wich would still hurt badly) i can go and learn this other job, that i wanted. So, maybe you cant realy controll what you GF is doing, but you can still be okay, if she's up for something bad. If so, it would be no happy Relationship anyway. But also, maybe it is allright, and she is just a loyal, grown up Person.

[@justindg21]

How's your relationship going now?

[@empresssunbow]

Omg this is the most helpful video I found on how to overcome jealousy! Esp the bit about imagining your partner doing things that would normally make me jealous but imagine myself to be detached and maybe even enjoy the fact that he is having a good time! Thank you sooo much! 🙏

[@marcellusrobinson1465]

This video literally made me subscribe. I will watch this 20 times!

[@gajendrakumar-zy2fe]

I've watched tons of videos on this topic "insecurity and jealousy" but no one explained better than him. Thanks to you sir.✌️😇 I've learned something from you

[@kar3n35]

I have developed a jelousy problem. I was cheated before when i was naive person and now i feel in certain situations it triggers a feeling of anxiety. I feel im sick. My jelousy feels like a ptsd attack from previous experiences.

[@maddyharvey7414]

I’m there with you. It’s awful when someone else is the cause of harm to us and then we have to pick up the pieces and try not to let it impact our present. Know that just like you’re someone who would never cheat or try to make your partner feel unworthy, there are people out there who would do the same.

[@proaudiohd]

Try to remember that it's not the same person, that hopefully you've picked a better person, and treat them as if they are!

[@zorayaseeram2703]

Before watching this I implemented some of these tips. They are not easy to do. But I will apply all seven daily. Focus on my life and my self esteem. Not the other person. I believe it's also best that instead of letting the jealous thoughts into the relationship, I focus on attraction, connection and bonding with my partner when on the phone or in person. The thought of feeling like a fool if they do infact cheat or micro cheat with someone else behind my back that fear I have to overcome it.

[@allenharttrading5573]

me too .. it's tough

[@ronjon4021]

Yes it very tough. My last relationship 10yrs ago my wife cheated on me several times and forgave her now I’m messed up in the head from it. I just talked to my gf like 10mins ago about the jealousy and she said that she’s glad that I’m self aware and appreciates that I’m trying to do better! 1 step closer to overcoming jealousy and insecurity!

[@jjj5413]

I'll never get over jealousy. Im trash 😂 Loved your words though

[@eloiampi1989]

Thank you. I will always do the last exercise until i overcome it.

[@Madhra2k24]

WONDERFUL SIR, "JEALOUSY IS BLIND" 👌

[@tallulahwonders2816]

You touched on so many things I’ve been experiencing, thank you!

[@adelisamasinovic2891]

May God bless you, this was sooo so helpful, especially the part with "stop believing everything you can imagine" and "stop trying to prevent every uncomfortable situation"

[@markquiles5057]

I do this a lot too and it gets me in so much trouble.. 😢 I’m glad to see I’m not Ali e in this and I thank you for your honest post! 😊👍

[@lifeengagement8050]

Had an epiphany watching the video. Thank you!

[@octavia7408]

Thank you fot this. That exercise about using your imagination to feel good about yourself is so helpful.

[@dylanthevillian516]

This helped so much and made me emotional. I wish I could’ve done this sooner 😔 I hope to apply this to my irrational outbursts of jealousy.

[@williamcanavan3318]

That last tip was the most helpful advice I have found in my quest to overcome my jealousy!

[@rebekah164]

How do we do it cuz I’m struggling to imagine him doing everything with a female coworker and not caring 😢

[@markquiles5057]

It’s hard but if you can manage it, then you’ll feel powerful enough to be able to handle anything ! 😊

[@chezza2116]

The last part about kevin was so emotional. So happy he turned it around... mime is down to childhood trauma and being with an ex who was so controlling and jealous... he was the one cheating while I was locked in doors.... I know have a new relationship that im fucking up as a result... :( Great video. X

[@katherinecal6619]

Me too! 🥲 I used to date someone who would accuse me of the craziest things. Turns out he was cheating on me. Now I’m in a healthy relationship with someone who treats me like a princess but I can’t help but think of him looking at other girls.. or just horrible thoughts that make me distant towards him. I never though I’d be this way and I want to stop 😭

[@angiegillett63]

I'm with you both, mine is from childhood trauma and getting into a relationship with an older man at the age of 15 he was 22 but I fell so hard in love with him, but, he was so jealous and possessive, and cheated on me right left and centre, and when I said anything about it he would beat me up, I was so scared of him in the following years, he said he would kill me if I left him. He abused me physically and mentally. When I was 19 I got a court order so he couldn't come near me. He messed my head up so much that I have issues with trust and jealousy, a fear of being deceived, if you want someone else then please leave me alone!. I have been married for 25 yrs and now divorced, now in another long relationship of 14yrs but still struggling with my issues, it is causing problems in this relationship, I just want to get over it. This video has helped me and I will keep trying.

[@markquiles5057]

😢 just try to imagine how special you are and how lucky he is to have you! 😊

[@michael_canton]

This video is gold! I wish I found it five years ago. Thank you so much for this clear explanation and the tips. I'm putting this to use right away. ❤🎉

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[@imane2884]

I just found this video and I'm so thankful that I did! Thank you for the great tips. Have a nice day 😊

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[@nstforlife]

This helped me so much. Thank you so much for this.

[@malekchalgoumi6424]

that hear me out moment was gold

[@cameronpage2878]

Incredibly detailed advice. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@dancingswan1484]

Hey, that was really insightful and useful, I appreciate that

[@lyricsoftheart]

Wow wow wow! 2:20 you said “the root of jealousy is fear of loss...” this hit the nail 🔨🔩 on the head. I’ve dealt with so much lose since childhood that this is where the root of my jealousy has come from. I made my partner miserable (albeit he did do some things behind my back that I verbally said i forgave him for but in reality I hadn’t) and myself with my suspicions with even him lying about going out and where with his own dad. I wanted more time from him and this was a reasonable request. However, my jealousy might not have made him towards the end of our relationship want more time with me. I need to work on the feelings of fear of loss in order to rid myself of this jealousy streak.

[@elaadamek1353]

sooo good! thank you

[@TheMarquitos01]

Great video, definitely therapeutic. Greetings from Spain

[@Fruit_bee]

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[@aaronnewsom6895]

I just want to say thank you for this video it’s definitely given me a amazing start to change how view my problems

[@remmyk5834]

This video is calmly taught. Thank you.

[@jobyjohn8718]

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[@nc4238]

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[@mariamichael4416]

You are absolutely right. Thank you 🙏 ❤️

[@saradeshprabu1630]

this is the best video i have ever seen. helps me a lot. thanks a lot sir. wish you a happy and healthy life.

[@RBV1962]

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[@christo_.]

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[@ianradcliffe2319]

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[@emmacowles50]

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[@AnnaJackson50]

Can't find any words Buy I am so thankful. Every step helped me

[@raizasaldin4955]

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[@Metawoin]

Thank you! Very useful

[@mimitheo2944]

Thank you, this is so helpfull!

[@DNeuropsych]

This video is great thanks 👍. Do you have any specific advice for retroactive jealousy? I've been fighting it for 8 years. I've been listening to your recording related to it at least once a day but because I've been living with this for so long I'm not sure it'll be enough to beat it completely

[@Beepbeep_its_treasure]

His voice is so soothing

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[@re4manonline]

Thank you, this is golden.

[@kristinakor]

This was very good and helpful! Just really hard to implement when you are this crazy jealous person...

[@ruicarvalho506]

Fantastic. Thanks.

[@aarontarelo7250]

Amazing video, thank you.

[@allenharttrading5573]

Thank you so much for this

[@hixyhicks]

Thank you for this,i will use your technique and try harder .

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Thank you!

[@tubber]

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[@janejohnson1666]

Very interesting, have learned from your tips

[@therapeuticeating]

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[@tubopezzato]

Very good. Thank you.

[@lauracabe]

Youre so soothing ❤ ty

[@rcz2023]

Thank you for sharing

[@marymirand8766]

It's really very good tips, it helps we understand and to handle other's jealousy.

[@bannougergesawad9761]

Best advices❤️🎩thanks

[@alexisbradford5111]

Thank you Thank you Thank you!

[@jaxongriffin1307]

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[@our.secret1130]

So helpful

[@CSJwitz]

Thank you.

[@freshtamadrid7]

Thank you ❤ Great video I have trust issues

[@jehu1094]

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[@rina4005]

Thank you so much i feel better

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[@christianrudder4826]

“3. Be prepared to lose them⁉️” I don’t quite agree with the delivery. Yes you should acknowledge that your partner has the autonomy to leave you if you take them for granted. However, a constant readiness to jump ship might cause insecurity in the relationship itself (I.e) not allowing oneself to fully love someone because they might leave tomorrow, or possibly having “escape routes” ready. I feel as though people should try their damnedest while seeing a long future with such person. And if anything happens (coupled with the other points made): One should grieve and feel absolutely devastated by shock and surprise, but also self aware of what went wrong (if anything), and in that grief, re-define their individuality.

[@MariaSantos-gm7ps]

Thanks was great

[@cleonicerenkema5543]

It's so easy to say but hard to stop this feelings.

[@HisaLight2mypath]

We have to fight.

[@OAUTV99]

Thank you

[@serratoanthony]

This is great

[@KevinStCroix]

#7 Calm Detachment of the jealous situation and the negative personal reaction of insecurity.

[@ethanhunt1267]

You are the best

[@theodorusrexicon5760]

Brilliant

[@Trenchant468]

I just have to say, when Kevin is truly evolved he will say, "Why deny my partner, who I love, the pleasure of people watching and not having to face a wall? Why not graciously give her the better view and allow her to enjoy the restaurant decor?" This, rather than continuing to objectify her.

[@georgiel144]

Thank ypu ❤

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Facts 100%