7 Ways To Discipline Your Child

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We have a lot of single parents here, rhonda Walker. You are not alone. Thank you for joining our Live On Purpose community. It's an honor to have you here!

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I have been struggling for the better part of the last 15 years with discipline now three weeks ago I started using the response cost and my live has changed! Thank you so much! Finally something straight forward and easy to implement. My 5/7/9 and 11 year olds are so much more civilized.

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Watched this twice - first time I just listened, second time I took copious notes. Very helpful information. Thank you!!

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J D4eva, hey, I even have a video on how our brains need to rest. Go to bed and see you back here tomorrow for a new video.

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[@elywananda]

9:43 is such an important lessons that I'm currently learning. Anytime I yell at my children, I can instinctively tell that I've weakened myself. And I think they sense it to. Yes they'll feel a bit of terror for a short time, but as they get older even that little bit of terror will fade.

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[@reneehinkson474]

I was doing a lot of rewards based positive parenting but had to stop when 4 y.o. asked one day "What will I get?" to my request to have him help with something. I want my kids to help with things for more than greed/ego reasons. Ugh. Raising decent, competent, co-operative adults is so challenging!!!

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You are right, it is very challenging, Renee Hinkson. Rewards don't have to be the only thing to use in positive parenting. : ) We have additional ideas in this video: "Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJPGqKNvo8Zjars Thank you for watching.

[@donnamellow746]

I was looking up videos to help myself, my son, and my daughter in law, ( we all live together and I take care of my grandson while they are working) work together to try and understand my grandson’s defiance and lying constantly. (he is 7 1/2) While I really feel it is attention seeking, you can never be 100% sure. I am definitely guilty of the “ Why did you do that?” Or “Why did you lie about that?” So many descriptions and scenarios you have spoken about in the few videos I have watched so far have been so on point, it was as if you were talking about us. I am excited to share these videos with my children so we can learn about the best way to work together to relieve the tension and stress in ourselves as well as my grandson. I can’t wait to take these first steps moving forward towards a bright and cheerful future.Thank you so much for these fantastic videos!

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Donna Mellow, I am glad you are all working on this together, that is awesome.

[@rayb.6345]

Hi Donna, my 5 year old just went threw this and come to find out she has been bullied at school and didn’t know how to express herself. A lot of her lying came from her not being able to decipher between what really happened, what she thinks might happen and what she wants to happen. Once we explained the difference between those thought processes, the lying dramatically decreased. Also, If I felt as if she was lying I would say she could tell me the truth with no consequences. I don’t use punishment, the word, because I think it’s damaging psychologically. But choices have consequences, whether positive or negative, so my daughter feels better to express herself if it’s a time of no consequence, We also found a child psychologist who did online sessions and that helped a lot because she had somebody positive believing in her and being calm. Based on my experience, something might be going on with your grandson that he can’t process very well at a young age. Having him draw out a problem he is having or something he wants to talk about or something he is scared of of something he wants to do every day for awhile might be a great idea as well a child psychologist. Having a picture to discuss while you give hugs and cuddles and problem solving together should help. Jesus bless, I hope this helps ❤️

[@deejungk828]

@@rayb.6345 your contribution is wonderfully helpful. Awareness of experiences the child is exposed to is insightful and so, so eye-opening. Having the child draw pictures...or even color (what crayon colors they choose, the pressure exerted on the crayon, etc) is another avenue for the child to express their feelings without words. Many, many Thank Yous...💞💕💞

[@dustinprudhomme8454]

I'm so thankful for this channel! I've become so more positive with my son thanks to you guys.

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Dustin Prudhomme, thank you for letting me know, this is exactly why the channel was started.

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I gotta watch this again so i can get this right....

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Watch and practice, get up the next morning and watch and practice. It truly takes effort but is sooooo worth the practice, Stacey Boling.

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right...?! i always feel like taking notes! in fact i am!

[@tinamears1613]

ME TOO! SOME GOOD STUFF HERE THANK YOU SO MUCH. Y'all WILL BE HEARING BACK FROM ME. LOL, wiping the sweat off my forehead I need help with this 5 year old baby girl. She's actually my granddaughter I've had her since birth and she does call me Mom she also knows her real mom and she calls both of us mom. That's not my problem though he is good at school she is good at her Playmates house it's just when she gets home to me he is a total different person you mean you're ugly be quiet don't do that and even tries to hit me what is going on with this baby I need help. I am a child of God and I do pray I really do believe I'm saying all the wrong words to her so these are helping out tremendously

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Me too 😁🌻💞

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Same

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I love the video where you give your child two choices I’ve been going off of that for the longest now !

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Good choice! Haha, thanks for taking the time to let me know.

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I always listen to this video again and again every night as I go to sleep. (Your videos are in a playlist on repeat.) Just so it really stays in my subconscious mind. 😅 My baby is just turning six months tomorrow and as early as now, I want to be fully prepared in disciplining him the positive way.

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Wow, thank you!

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Who says raising kids doesn't come with a handbook hasn't seen your videos. Thank you for providing the tools

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Tricia Fandrey, please share with anyone you think could benefit. Thanks.

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I had the worst day managing my kids and distance learning. Thank you SO much for this video! Now I have to subscribe and binge watch.

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Glad it was helpful! In The Moment, teachers have bad days in class, but they show up the next day and try something new. You can do this.

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Thanks so much for your videos, Dr. Paul. I am a Nanna and am hands-on caring for my three grandsons who are under ten. I care for them during the holidays, sick days and after school every day. You are coaching me to be a nanna of happy grandchildren by keeping a healthy perspective and enjoying the time with them which really flies by so quickly.

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Well thank you for your service and positive influence on your grandsons, Fleur D'Rose. It's an honor to be on your team!

[@myshavikes6263]

I am someone who was very abused as a kid and I am trying to raise a child(not mine, my little cousin), and I will definitely be trying some of these. Bc I know that hitting, screaming, and verbal abuse did not work on me, and I want to raise this kid right.

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I absolutely love all your videos!! thanks so much for your wisdom!!! We have been waiting forever to get into a good family therapist.. It is just so nice to kind of have one with the show. I really think a lot of our family issues can be solved with good parenting by consistently using these tools. I have a very active 5 year old boy that I have used that one method for bedtime when I tell him "if you want the door open you need to be laying in bed quietly, but if I hear you making noises I'm going to close the door. Before using this method he would be very disruptive to his 15 month old little sister trying to sleep in her crib in the next room over and also to his 10 year old brother who he shares a room with. Since using this method he stays in bed quietly and falls asleep on his own and I really just can't thank you enough! I never thought it could be so simple!!!!

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lindsey bailey, you are welcome, glad this video has helped your family.

[@kylemiron8375]

My 5 year old has developed a major case of anxiety after my wife and I have separated. It's hard for him to hear "No" and when he does it's an epic meltdown that usually takes hours to come down from. I feel so helpless. Thank you for a bit of hope with this video, definitely found a few highlights that I'm going to begin implementing immediately. Thank you dearly.

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Kyle Miron, you are welcome and good luck with your son. It is a major adjustment and he probably feels out of control.

[@CuriouslyCute]

I believe there are multiple ways to change behavior, including modeling, practicing the good behavior in a safe environment, experiencing natural consequences, and persuasion, and that punishment (causing something unpleasant so they won't do it again) shouldn't be used on anyone we love (which should be everyone). Many respectable, responsible, kind adults today have been raised without punishment. They learned in the other ways.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, we don't have to resort to hitting to discipline our children.

[@tomcerulwork]

Since "positive" and "negative" can be confusing, I recommend using "adding" and "removing". It's more straightforward to talk about an adding or removing punishment or an adding or removing reward. It doesn't have the connotations of good and bad that positive and negative have. Thanks for the videos!

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Tom Cerul, thanks for your comment. I will think about it.

[@sadiaasif3769]

When my kids do positive things I started giving them a tick✔️ on a plane paper, and a ❌ for undesired behavior; at the end of the day we count the ticks. Even having a single tick was so powerful even for the baby too and the cross was so hurting that proved to be a positive reinforcement. It worked. More ticks means rewards.

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Wonderful, glad they see the connection.

[@Girl1xGirl4]

Brilliant idea and very simple

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You are natural, down to earth people - thanks for being who you are. I know it's hard to explain complicated things in a simple manor, but you succeed, every time - sorry for my poor grammair, I'm from Croatia, but you have influenced may way of behaving with kids in a positive mannor, even when I thought - there's no way out. Thank you for beeing.

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Natasa Jaksic, so glad you found value in the video. Thank you for watching and being positive, even in the difficult times.

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Dr Paul. You are a Godsend! Your chanel popped up on my feed a couple of days ago after a rather nasty argument/screaming match between my 12 year old daughter and l. I have been searching for videos to help mend my relationship with my children but many are too airy fairy to help with reality. This is so not the case with you. I am watching the videos as I clean my house so can't always comment but this one is as are all your videos is so practical. I think "hey I can do that." so easy to implement. I thank you both from the bottom of my heart ♥

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You are welcome, thanks for watching.

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I’m am hold authority on this as well, I raised 3 boys & all 3 in high school & Cal Poly at the same time... I’ve seen it all (I thought) but they never fail to amaze me... so it’s a constant “stay on top & in front”! Love it:)

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Darla Nunes, thank you for watching. I am glad you are there for your children as they become adults and then begin to parent on their own.

[@TrishaMZ]

Your tips help me a lot...! Now, I am able to control my child more than he was able to control me :) I am still trying to stop his crying before entering the child care center. My child main problem: he does not know English. But here all are speaking in English. So, it's also hard for him staying their all day, more than 8 hours. Hope for the best. Thank you so much!

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TriShA, so thankful our channel is helping. Best to you and your son.

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I've been adding to reduce a behavior. I give out extra learning to my child.

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Thank you for watching, HumbledByGreatness.

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I have just found Your channel. I still don't have children, because it is freaking me out, there doesn't seem to be a "right" way to do it. But watching Your videos, makes me feel better equipped for the task of becoming and being a mother. Thank You for Your work and sharing Your knowledge!

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Nessa Tesartir, I love that you are thinking about this before you enter parenthood. It is the most important job with the least training, Honored to have you at Live On Purpose.

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@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank You very much for the fast respond. I was really on the edge of probably denying the joy of becoming a parent to me and my partner, but Your channel just "found" me in the right time. I will keep on educating myself (and my partner) before we take this huge step. I want to have at least the slightest possibility of getting prepared. I wish more people would take responsibility before becoming parents. ... anyways, thank You again!

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i work in education and i will be recommending this channel to the parents that ask me for good resources and speak english ( i'm in switzerland). french or german subtitles would be awesome, too, in case that possibility shows up.

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dantela mestanek, I wish we could get subtitles. It is something on the list, but not being worked on right now. Thank you for sharing.

[@toriedwards1]

Great content! I appreciate the clear explanations. I love the idea with the "prize" baggie for keeping little children quiet at an appointment. I would absolutely LOVE more practical, explicit ideas that I can implement right away for different scenarios. Do you have some you could share?

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TECox1, I have tried to include more examples on the videos since this came out, check out the playlist.

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Bruh I’m 14 why am I watching this

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I'm not sure, but I appreciate your watching, Christian H. If you want more relevant videos to your age group, we have a "Just for kids and teens" playlist at kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV. Hope you find something valuable there!

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Wise

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I'm 14 too but im watching this because i needed it for homework 😂

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Because you care .😍

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I do 4 of the things you have mentioned. I am closer to becoming better at dealing with my anger and how to act to be a better example for ky children. Thank you

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Marly Catherine Licerio, I am glad you are getting a handle on it. You can do this.

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Thank U so much 4 this videos i’m from Costa Rica but i live in Argentina and been an foreign has been so hard and sad 4 me that even i have a very strong faith it affected me in my behavior, marriage and Kids, but this videos are amazing makes me feel good and now i put every advice in practice🙏🏻 and i notice the difference.

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Diversión mágica - Magic fun Diversión para niños, I am glad the videos are helpful, thank you for letting me know.

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I'm a new Parent. Can't thank you enough for the useful information.

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Honored to be on your team.

[@bluemoon8268]

... lol ... what I love about the baggie example is that the kid sees you nonchalantly removing one of the things they want and they are going crazy wondering which one it was! ...so they are thinking they had better straighten up if they want to get any of the goodies ...

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Blue Moon, worked good for us. Have fun.

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I've watched this video about 3 times now and It's truly a blessing. I'm Thankful for your channel!

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Wow, thank you!

[@michellepesina4816]

This is the most helpful source due to my son who's got diagnosed with ADHD AND ODD . And it's so hard as a single parent and my son keeps acting up and screams idk if i can control him like i did before .my ex bf was the disciplinary and i was more of a soft side i feel like my son is like he is now because i wasn't fair like my ex bf . I am reaching out for help for both of us .

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Michelle Pesina, I know you can do this. Be calm and parent on. Glad to have you here.

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Both of you Doctor and your wife look great. Thank you to both of you for wonderful videos. Blessings to both of you and your children.

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Sonia Yadav, we are honored to be on your team.

[@marwagad3034]

Thank you for repeating the explanation in different ways.

[@nightmareTomek]

Several times. Just watch it in 1.25x speed.

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Marwa Gad, thank you for noticing, we all learn differently.

[@patricialucas393]

I have been watching your channel since my child was 2 and was becoming a handful. My husband doesn't believe in any of this so it is kind of difficult to have no yelling from him. I recently started working with 1 year olds at a daycare and I am so excited to apply this at their level of course. But I am excited to see the results.

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Patricia Lucas, hopefully your husband can see the advantages from your example.

[@mysteryguy793]

why did you marry him?

[@patricialucas393]

Because I love him and when we were young we didn't talk about parenting styles before we had a child. That doesn't mean I'm just going to give up on our relationship, everyone has disagreements and that is ok as long as we can compromise.

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I love when you say: Better a bad breath than no breath ….

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It is true! Thanks for watching.

[@gracebock2900]

I'm blessed to listen to both of you.Still not too late to learn.Thanks so much.Your funny video makes it easier to remember what to do when we're going thru the difficult times😃

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Thank you for your kind words, Grace Bock. We all need reminders.

[@racheltomlinson2257]

Love the waiting room and special bag with their name on trick. I have put a clear box on the fridge with my kids name it it and every time they do a good deed I will put an extra one in but if they made a wrong turn I take something out. Hopefully next week they will have some treats for their half term holiday. I think it will work because it's a very visual thing and they will see it every time they go to the fridge. Will let you know the outcome.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Rachel Tomlinson, I hope the kids respond well. Have a great holiday.

[@keninksetter8183]

Thanks for the help. Ten minutes after watching your video on not yelling, I’ve subscribed and will watch all of your content. Great stuff and it does work in the moment.

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Thanks for the sub! Ken Inksetter, glad you are in our community of positive people.

[@biehanorma9685]

Great ideas.. Really appreciate your sharing. trying to apply them with my 40 pupils in every class that I have

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Our teacher viewers are growing, Bieha Norma. Glad to have you at the channel. Thank you for the important work you do.

[@rashmivbhat]

With my 4 year old son, one other way which has worked so far is ‘3 times rule’ If for ex he misbehaves/ shouts, 1st I calmly, assert his misbehaviour, follow the same terminology like ‘bad manners’ 2nd if he does - warm him again, also tell him consequence in case if he misbehaved again 3rd time if he did, calmly follow what is told to him, like put him in thinking cot for 5 mins to think about his behaviour. This is not suitable in all cases, for relevant ones it has worked wonders

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you have found what works for your child. You are right, some things work for some children and other children respond differently. Thank you for giving us another option to try, Rashmi Bhat.

[@maryerb6062]

This is great information! Yeah. Don't keep these gems in your private practice! Get them out where we can use them! Thank you!

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Glad to help.

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Thank you :)

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Wonderful! Thank you for watching and trying out.

[@ali_plz]

I love the bag example! Can’t wait to try it with my 5 year old!

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Alina Paalz, I love it when parents are willing to try something new. Honored to be on your team.

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I love this channel. Thank you so much

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Nomasonto Zitha, thank you for being a part of our Live On Purpose Community.

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I'm filling up my tool box watching this channel!!! Love this!!!

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Trina H, honored to have you at the channel.

[@vanceamania]

great video. this will help me going forward. thank you

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Glad to hear it!

[@aimeejenkins7939]

I need more examples of giving choices for my toddler, age four...please. Thank you for all of your advise! It’s been very helpful!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You got it! We will include this in the topic development list.

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Oh, and also THANK YOU for these videos. I just discovered your videos and they are very helpful and insightful.

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Glad you like them!

[@True1-10]

I just found your video series - Thank you so much! Very wise advice. God Bless you & all parents trying to be the best parent they can be :)

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That is really all we need, everyone trying their very best, m. Honored to be on your team.

[@RaquelGonzalezShop]

Thanks for your amazing videos and lessons. This is so helpful and concrete. I know this video is a year old but never late to say thanks.

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Glad it was helpful! I love that the videos are there for us, whenever we need them. Please share with others who may need to hear the message.

[@kahea2018]

Great tips. I'm going to add to what I'm doing at work. Thank you.

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kahea2018, honored.

[@BellaBear96]

This helps so much 😭 I can’t thank you guys enough. ❤

[@andreawarburton7090]

Thank you for the insight. My child loves to move and can't keep still. Playing board games = legs swimming in the air or swinging on furniture. I'm here to see how I can limit this behaviour. Or when it's time to do something like brush teeth or eat she'd rather play ▶️

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Andrea, We have several videos that should be helpful for you. Some of it will be outgrown.

[@sumesh2006]

Hey there v r parents from India n I found ur tips n tricks really interesting so will be posting my experience in this new journey n definitely for sure need ur help n support ..thank you n take care.

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Can't wait to hear, Suma Umesh. Thanks for trying it out.

[@cesarsavan2494]

That seems challenging. In that hypothetical it seems like they may start expecting rewards for any little positive things they do and that could potentially be dangerous on several levels. Its difficult to sort out.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Cesar Savan, the rewards are only used temporarily until the internal locus is sparked.

[@cesarsavan2494]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for the response. It's a difficult thing to manage with so many other things on a parents mind lol

[@alisonraewillette4526]

Thanks doctor paul and vikieanne, i will use these examples when babysitting

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Alison Willette, these principles can be used by anyone!

[@wahnano]

Many common parenting techniques are simply short term survival strategies of desperate parents trying to cope with the here and now. Sometimes the old school way of discipline can do miracles.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

wahnano, I am not sure what you are talking about, I am about relationships.

[@lyndsiemmiles]

This is a great help! Thank you both for the further discussion!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hi Lyndsie, you are welcome.

[@--LamMyLinh-A]

Positive :add Negative:subtract

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You got it!

[@bobpreethi]

Thank you, watching in 2023

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

The principles are timeless.

[@rashmivbhat]

Dr.Paul, thanks for the videos and tips. It has helped us a lot.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad to hear it,Rashmi Bhat. Thank you for letting me know.

[@ElderandOakFarm]

I love how you put it all in layman's terms

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Candace Elder, let me know if it ever doesn't make sense.

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@@LiveOnPurposeTV ok. But no you do great!

[@fulltimemar]

Love ur vids!!! All these examples help a lot, thanks so much for taking the time to help us moms and dads, parenting can be auper hard and a huge challenge cause we are dealing with little humans that we want to be good humans and successful ones too, when they grow old, so thanks a lot and keep ur amazing vida coming!!

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fulltimemar, honored to be on your team.

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I am glad I discoveref your channel thank you so much because I really need your help to be a better mom.

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kass lam, I am glad you discovered us also, welcome.

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I've also been watching for hours. Great, helpful, positive advice Thank you both

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T. D., we are honored to be on your team.

[@lorrainedemarco4927]

Thank you for your wise suggestions and advice. You're a lovely couple and a great deal of fun!! Keep up the good work 😊

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We are honored to be on your team, Lorraine.

[@selahtelfer975]

I just got in trouble tonight and couldn’t go to sleep because I was angry and started watching videos about parenting to figure out what exactly she did and why and now I know 😂. She gave me an essay to write about what helpfulness and gratefulness are and what they mean, which would be positive punishment, because I very much don’t want to write this essay. Unfortunately, she combined it with negative punishment because she gave it to me tonight and it has to be done by 10 tomorrow (I’m going somewhere) taking away my sleep so I can get up and write it, and I very much want my sleep.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Selah Telfer, get writing, fast. The more time you spend watching videos, the less time you have to write and get some shut eye.

[@misskaysclassroom9194]

Thank you so much for sharing these videos! These are very powerful!

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Glad you like them!

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Beautiful couple. Great message. Thank you so much.

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We love collaborating, Happy Twin Flamer. Thanks for watching.

[@SodaColaClassic]

These are amazing tips. You are honestly changing everything for me!

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SodaColaClassic, honored to be on your team.

[@zakyanddannyfunworld1552]

A great video as usual, thank you so much for sharing 😊

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are so welcome!

[@ashrafilokhandwala1812]

positive consequence, i gave as if you complete your work ,you will go to games/drawing period.,got a very good response. it is their favorite period.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Wonderful! Thank you for sharing, Ashrafi Lokhandwala.

[@justinawalker9732]

I used to have my children 2 girls and their cousins 2 girls over alot and during sleepovers I would say 1st one asleep when I check in gets a treat under their pillow...it might be candy but I would also use mom bucks or a written reward ie +10 mins of playground time at the park... That worked well for me

[@daniaalmallah423]

Thanks a ton for sharing these helpful tips !

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You're so welcome!

[@stanprocter1]

I love this show, it has helped me tremendously!! Thanks a lot for taking the time to make these videos.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

muscle hamster, honored to be on your team.

[@ICXC_Humbly]

One of my favorite videos yet! 🎉❤

[@wendyloo4679]

Thank you... for sharing and time. I am still with your channel. From Malaysia 😎

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Wendy Loo, honored to be on your team.

[@madodiagne3007]

Thank you sir i am going to use you in my life.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Honored to be on your team, mado diagne. Thanks for watching.

[@timperry4077]

I have a child with ADHD and ODD. I try to offer things like "If you do such and such we will get ice cream" and he (5 years old) normally responds, "I don't want ice cream." This is just one example. It almost seems impossible to give him any reward or take away anything without him saying "I don't want (blank)" -especially when it comes to toys or his favorite TV show. I just don't know what to do about this. I will try the baggie idea, that might hold weight if he can constantly see his goal. If you have any other videos that deal directly with this, please let me know. I have seen many of your ODD videos, but particularly looking for parent training.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tim Perry, finding the motivation may be harder than some kids. What motivates him? What does he get excited about? I had one mother who gave her child "chips" that could be turned in for time playing a game.

[@j.h.6633]

Tim, look into PCIT for adhd and odd. It works amazingly well. Stands for “Parent Child Interaction Therapy” and administered by a clinical psychologist.

[@saw727]

It's the same take away every time, "if you..., no time on the tablet". 'Family member' heard me say this and said, "its sad you have to use that to get him to do something". My response was, "well it works". 'family member' or i like electronic time (for me, an certain amount of time is ok). Also, child says, "he takes care of me, he loves me... because he lets me play on my game".. which has evidently caused a riff between child and I :(

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sounds like you are doing this correctly. It would be best if Grampie would be supportive.

[@saw727]

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[@maytheforcebewithyou4313]

My son is not so easy, he was absolutely not the guy you can apply any of this. If I give anything, he expects it, he gets lazier, if he gets things taken away, he is monsterous, and he has learned to avoid letting me parent him, he only gives me a happy side if he randomly wants to. I never spanked, since he was not out of line, he actually was so tricky he could ignore me and I was not willing to give him spankings, and if he was put in his room, he made his room fun. If he was mis behaving like went out of sight when we said stay here camping. I was worried he was dead, or abducted. When I went to the river at the bottom of a cliff, he was waist high in strong current with older kids fishing. He was so excited to be learning that, and I marched him up the cliff, explained he was not to leave like that, he didn't listen, and it was wrong because one of us needs to be with him for his safety. I zipped him in a tent and stayed outside it, and packed up the campsite saying he was not staying and camping was ove, and he was 6. I don't think he learned anything. He seems pathalogical. No shame and all bluster. He lives at another house whenever I say no. Just doesn't come home. I am a sole parent. And had him on my own. He makes everything he wants to not do, something he can blame me for. He is gifted but always uses coersion and manipulation instead of honesty. He was so smart as a toddler, I feel like day care made him like this to get needs met. He went to 4 different day cares, and he started kindergarden already ahead of the class and dissapointed at how boring it was, he is so charming and sweet, but irrational, and his ideas were so far out that I couldn't help with. He built two robots at 5 years old on the way home in the car, then combined them as soon as we got home. The instructions were in the box still. I feel bad for him because school has been negative and he has the highest test scores. He only liked AP physics at 15, and never studied but had the highest grade, biology too. I can't figure out, do you force him to suffer or indulge him. There is no middle ground. Luckily he loves friends and has joined with some in a band to write music, and sing. And he rows on a huge team, that gave him direction, so now, he might row for Princeton or Yale, he became the fastest and is built for the sport, that too is an anomoly, because you can't buy these attributes. Princeton's coach has been pursuing him and that of all places has the best physics program for my son. Anyway its about you!! I listen to your videos, they help a lot, but nothing is quite explaining how to parent a kid like mine. And if it sounds over the top, if you look for my son's name, some day, he'll be a known figure in some out of the box accomplishment, or career, and those kind of people, I am positive, are breaking the mold. Like Elon Musk or Albert Einstein. Everyone else, falls into line with your teachings, lol! Hope he gets over my inadequate parenting skills someday, would be nice to have a relationshop, not required, just maybe fun is all.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

siri backer, thank you for watching - I am honored to be on your positive parenting journey with you. You are not inadequate. You are the best mom for your son. You are doing the best you can with the knowledge and resources you have; I truly believe that. Your son may be dealing with some things a little outside the norm, however I still want to offer a free 25 minute parenting breakthrough call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds interesting to you, please go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall

[@NotThatGarden]

I'm going to work on numbers 5, 6 and 7. I'll get back to you with a progress report.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Great!, Eden McMahon. It is awesome to share our goals.

[@thetiredworker4922]

Progress report?

[@Michelle50982]

How great was this video! practical and so important! Thank you so much from Brazil to help us as a parent and to open our minds!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hello Michelle Arcurio from Brazil. We are honored to be on your team.

[@gabrielasofiazarin9183]

The only way to achieve co-operation with children is to be grateful you have them. They sense that, and then trust you.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Teresa Gabriela, love them, no matter what, and even if...

[@mounymoon4925]

Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You're welcome

[@jonettecornelius5422]

Dr Paul, All of your advice seems fantastic but when I apply it to my 2 year old, who is an extremely strong-willed child, it falls short. Have you done a video that could help me with her?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Check out the videos on the parenting playlist, Jonette Cornelius, there are several videos there targeted to younger children. If the child is strong-willed, you will have to be consistent and follow through every time, It will take longer with this type of child.

[@rebeccarogan7897]

Thank you so much 💖

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Rebecca Rogan, you are very welcome.

[@pamyes]

Dr Paul, thank you for these wonderful parenting videos! So helpful, easy to understand and effective. I was wondering if you could do a video segment on small children, toddlers, hitting themselves in affect? My 3 year old does not hit anyone else, nor does she hit things, however she hits/scratches, pinches/pulls really hard etc. herself whenever she is upset! Basically she self-harms and hurts herself as a coping mechanism. Why is this and how can I help her learn another skill to release her strong emotions. Thank you SO much!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Amy Lee, I hope the videos have helped, check out the newer ones.

[@charitymuliira9444]

woooow i love this...its my passion too

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Charity Muliira, honored to be on your team.

[@OK-ej7fc]

Love the Ziplock bag suggestion!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

O K, it has worked so many times for us.

[@DP-ur7zn]

This is really helpful! I was wondering though, how are we going to teach them the difference between wrong and right, so that when they grow up they’ll make the right choices for the right reasons?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Danai Pr, consequences. It is what the real world uses. If you do something against the law you can get a ticket or arrested. In kids lives, we give consequences AND we try to turn them into LEARNING opportunities. The legal system punishes, we use the consequences and help the kids to understand what they should learn from the experience.

[@g5f7f]

Thanks alot Your videos are soooo helpful ..I'm Gufran from Iraq

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hi gufrantulip. Thank you for watching,

[@soyetasworld7715]

Could you please give another example to illustrate the point : Positive Punishment decreas BEHAVIOUR

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

If a child is having difficulty with something, say teasing their sibling. You see them do something kind, you give them an extra privilege and tell them it is for their kindness.

[@PinoyLifeinItaly]

I love your channel Dr.Paul

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Honored to be on your team, Pinoy Life in Italy.