Anger Management For Mothers

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

What If My Child Just Doesn't Care About Consequences - kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6ackHiOlruthdE

[@coltenronald8501]

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[@KarriSimone]

My child actually put soap in her own mouth after I threatened it once. She doesn't care. She'll starve herself if I don't make one of the 2 things she'll eat. Its crazy!!!

[@tabitha9890]

...And for only a moment, they go through this faze, but feels like a life time to us at that moment. You got a strong willed girl on your hands. No man is going to control her, that's for sure. 😃❤

[@martinmcgowan4591]

A mother complained about her son that he was good for nothing only for driving nails into a plank of wood. The teacher padraig pearse told the mother to get a hammer some 🪵wood and nails for the boy

[@kizuwandalawrence4266]

Inspiring🎉

[@veronicaaugust19]

My eyes just filled with tears when I read this video title. I feel like I am always so angry at my 4-year-old and I hate that side of me. So I am grateful for your advice. Thank you for thinking of us "grumpy" moms 💛

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Veronica, you "grumpy" moms are the angels that raise our kids. You make all the difference. I had a special experience making this video. You need to know who you are! So honored to be on your team. DrPaul P.S. - did you see this? kzbin.info/www/bejne/aJWkcqGqZs5lptE

[@georgeannepanos8132]

I feel the same way!!! I bet there are many of us out there.

[@susylopez9308]

You are not alone Veronica. I hate my self when I get angry at my 6 year old and see his little eyes water. I can’t wait to absorb this information.

[@shireenhendricks2194]

Im feeling gulity too.

[@susylopez9308]

Shireen Hendricks I’m holding your hand Shireen.

[@LadyTii]

"I'm not keeping a clean house, I'm raising a child...". Wow, that's liberation for me there. Thank you, Doc!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Right! Perspective is everything. DrPaul

[@boojank]

I’m currently a SAHM of two young children. I often feel bad because it’s hard to balance keeping a clean house and properly tending to my children. I don’t want to sit them in front of the TV all day or give them devices all day so that I can fold clothes and wash dishes.

[@ColinCasperLMHC]

That's so good! It all comes back to priorities and getting distracted chasing the wrong things!

[@roadrunner3232]

Finally...thankyou for this...😀

[@munchieshdzv]

This hit home for me too.... i had been feeling drained and checked out and then he said this.... THANK YOU!!

[@iamloveabundance4102]

This is beyond powerful. I yelled at my kids today and I felt so lost, sad and regretful before I watched this video. After I apologized to my kids, prayed for God to forgive me and help steer me in the right direction, I found this video. Thank you!!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I Am Love & Abundance, you are on the right track and I am excited for the changes coming to you and your family. Take a look at the parenting playlist for some more strategies.

[@SuperSheliz]

Thank you doc. All of us moms need this. I hate myself sometimes, I feels like an evil mom and I don't deserve a child.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You can change to positive parenting, Sharifah Shelin. I am honored to be on your team and offer some tips.

[@oreofegeorge3083]

Exactly . 😔

[@Queenngee]

I definitely understand that is why I’m here

[@Altheaisokay]

This is so relatable

[@nicoledecoty9719]

That’s exactly how I felt this morning 😞

[@ashenamohamed]

Scrolling through the messages here, I've realised I'm not alone in what I feel. I want to extend my love to all mothers and fathers out there trying to make things work!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for your supportive comments, Ashena.

[@mevishraja]

Thank you 😊

[@sukibaldwin1901]

“Cleaning and scrubbing can wait for tomorrow, / For babies grow up so we learn to our sorrow. / So quiet down, cobwebs, and dust, go to sleep! / I’m rocking my baby, and babies don’t keep.” That’s the poem. There is a melody for it, too.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you so much, Suki Baldwin. I love that - it puts things into perspective.

[@BellaBear96]

My eyes just teared up 😭

[@deanzaandrews7363]

I'm crying real tears. As a young mom, and now grown teen mom, I never anticipated how discouraging motherhood can get, and it's nice to see this in such an empowering perspective. Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

DeAnza Andrews, honored to be on your team.

[@lorenalafontaine4973]

I'm teary-eyed specially when I hear #3,#2 and #1. I get to be so angry with my babies sometimes when the house is messy and starts to yell sometimes and after I did that I'll have so much guilt and I feel so bad and realized they're just babies. They're just playing and learning. I'm glad this video popped up when I opened KZbin. Thank you :)

[@stavonnawon]

Keep on pushing momma ✊🏽 you are not alone

[@nandnisharma269]

I am weeping 😢..... motherhood during teenage can be so challenging. Most of the days I feel like a failure as a mom and worry about my teens future.

[@tonikennedy6208]

To all of u moms out there who are worried ur not a good mom.... MY MOM once told me only good moms worry about not being good moms... lousy moms dont even notice they are not good at it.

[@driftwoodcottage329]

I cried at "things are exactly as they should be." Thank you so much for this reminder! I have 3 little boys with autism, and I have been so anxious and afraid that nothing was as it should be. The idea that something was wrong and needed to be fixed has been the root of all my anger and stress. My children are happy and healthy. They see and react to the world differently then neurotypical children. They meet milestones at their own pace. I don't need to panic over that or try to rush them.. They are each exactly who they should be. Each a treasure. And the work to raise them is unending just as it is supposed to be! I am a mom, and so very blessed to carry that title 🥰.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Blueberry Cottage, you are truly the mother your child needs.

[@miffedcuttlefish6139]

You are loved by those babies more than you think, or know. God bless you

[@katherinefielder3415]

❤

[@Dani._ella]

Thank you. I needed to read this 💗

[@shantyhomestead2345]

When you read a comment of someone whose living your life in another continent it validates, it gives strength and it gives hope. Thank you 😭🙂

[@TheDogwhisperer2011]

😭😭😭😭I’m sitting here in tears watching this and finding comfort knowing I’m not alone. That there are other moms out there. I’m so thankful for this video….

[@jerikas]

Im so glad im not the only mom struggling with anger ❤LOVE this advice❤

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

No way, J S. We are all in this together and you are not alone.

[@evian.]

J S What kind of glad it is? You are trying hard to explain your ugly behaviour. Tell it to your children that you are not the only one! Take responsibility for your actions women.

[@Zoiezoniet827]

I just want to say that every mom commenting here is a great mom, thank you for sharing this experience and for trying to better yourself. You are so inspiring. I've always felt ashamed to talk about this, feeling like all the other moms are doing a much better job. I have been constantly reminding myself to accept the fact that it's okay if things are not how I want. It's a rocky road but we will manage.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you so much! Appreciate your support of others. This is a great community.

[@daniellejohnson2373]

I have self esteem and self confidence issues so every time I go to the store with my child and she throws a temper tantrum because I say no on something and I see other moms with well behaved kids I always get jealous and wonder what I’m doing wrong

[@gracemarthambabazi6726]

Love this. I honour you momma

[@luvinlife225]

I want to thank you for this much needed video. I have a 7 yr old son and a 4 yr old daughter. I love them dearly! I’ve wanted to be a mother for as far back as I can remember. I had an angry mother and I swore I would never be that to my children, but here I am.... An angry mother just like her. I’ve hated myself for this. A few weeks ago, in prayer, I promised God that this was the year I would stop screaming at my children. That I would step outside if what I know, and find the tools to help me in this endeavor. I love my children more than anything, and now they will see that in the way I deal with them. Thank you for helping me take the first steps.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

luvinlife225, so honored that you found the videos and are using them to change to a more positive parenting style. You CAN do this.

[@whatIlikeinlife]

Thank you so much .. I'm crying right now , because I'm mom who lost control of her anger and this video is like a cure for my soul 💕.. mom from Libya

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for your honest comment, Zakeia Benmoussa. Thank you for showing up for your children.

[@sbiegs3885]

And you are from Libya so, that alone is a punch in the face.

[@mytalkingtom4mylittleponys658]

Same here I'm an angry mom too Everyday I got angry at my 3 and a half daughter. But thanks to this video it made me realize a lot of things.

[@RebelWildflower]

Thank you for this. I’m watching it while hiding from my kids because I’m too hoarse from yelling at them. This video just changed my life.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Heather Chance, glad you are looking for resources to help. Calm voice will save your lungs. Thank you for trying it out.

[@courtneynelson8235]

I'm literally doing the same thing!!

[@pankhurinigam480]

Heather Chance me too !!

[@swapnareddy7147]

Happened to me yesterday.

[@michelletiger3903]

I'm a clinical therapist and find this equally applicable to fathers. Why is it directed to mothers? Great content for both. It also perpetuates the stigma of mom being the punitive parent - or even the only parent and the one responsible for all parenting - and dad being the hands-on, fun guy. It's making me angry!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

There is a video for dad's. This title came out from research the KZbin team did on searches on the internet. Sadly, not as many dad's searching for help as mom's.

[@ernestalab6592]

But there is lots single moms, parenting ALONE. It’s different when you not. I m grateful there is special content just for us. I m sure there is different videos for dads!

[@pennywang778]

I'm a 2 year old girl's mother from China. Recently desperate from China's lockdown and unemployment and experiencing the terrible 2 with my kid at home every single day. Cried while watching this video, Thank you so much. Really learned and inspired. I might still won't be a perfect or patient Mom, but I will try and learn and I believe I will be better after watching your videos. Appreicate ! !

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Penny Wang, we are all in this together. Remember to love them no matter what and even if... We will get through this.

[@camisnyder3460]

Hang in there girl!!! Us mothers need to stay strong and know that we are so not alone.

[@celestialmaniaul2548]

i feel guilty about being grumpy mom. It makes me sad. But this video help me how to manage my anger.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you found the video helpful, Celestial Maniaul. Thank you for watching.

[@megatarzan2012]

Reading through the comments and learning that some of you cried watching this and wish you could be a better mom. I completely understand where you’re coming from. Please don’t worry. Just the fact that you are looking up things on how to be a better mom for your child already says that you are a great mom, and you are trying. ❤️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Eden Gebrezgi, well said!

[@2malsahm59]

For moms with little ones... and children of any age. Some words that helped me when my daughter was going through terrible twos. I was just take some breaths and tell myself "this too shall pass". The frustration can be intense sometimes...but an eternal perspective can give so much peace. Hope this helps someone.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes, this too shall pass. Very powerful and true, Dawn Harris.

[@andrewahn2536]

I'm a 16-year-old boy but I feel like some of the things in this video are really insightful on human relationships in general. Thanks

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV, Andrew Ahn. Thanks for watching. Yes, many of these principles can be applied to other relationships. If you are interested in watching more videos, we have a "Just for kids and teens" playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV

[@monicapinto7922]

I am sitting here crying my eyes out!! There is so much expectation on us moms, we need to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, sister, employee, etc. We just need to work so much harder and it never stops. Thank you for that, just thank you. My husband is an awesome man who loves his team and truly appreciate and values us so much but to hear it come from someone other than him that is not another woman is amazing. Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

D Pinto, I am honored to be on your team.

[@silverbat5873]

I'm crying after listening and watching to this entire video. I've recently become a single mom after being a young (early 20s) mother and being low income. I tried my best but feel I made so many mistakes, especially because I was being treated so badly/abused by the father. Now my kids are older and I have learned a lot but I need to relearn more in order for my kids to have a better life. A lot of times the guilt takes over-- really they are the most important thing in my life ❤

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You got this! Don't ever give up, keep trying and it will turn out o.k.

[@windarcher6294]

I cried many times watching this video . Feeling guilty feeling sad and feel the hope and encouragement to be a better me for my daughters. It's not an easy job being a parent but it takes awareness and willingness to mold a better people for the current and next generation. Thank you or this❤️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

wind archer, parenting is not for wimps. This shows you are the mother your children need.

[@knottychelsie]

I cried at #5. I have a 16, 7, 5 yr old and 7 months old. I just want to enjoy them. I feel like so much gets in the way of that, it makes me sad. Chores, home and yard maintenance, kids fighting, extended family obligations and more.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You're right Che Lawrence - lots of stuff on our plate, and the really important stuff can slip. Perspective makes a big difference. So glad you're here! DrPaul

[@knottychelsie]

I’ll keep perspective in mind as I go through my day. Thank you for the valuable content you are sharing.

[@shireenhendricks2194]

I agree with you. Single parenting 2 boys is hard work.

[@arixxnexx1640]

I know what your saying and it’s true when you have kids and so many things to do is not easy at all//

[@shireenhendricks2194]

I agree. Wishing you well

[@Amysusie-q]

I'm not keeping a clean house, I'm raising a child. Wow. Things are exactly as they should be. Thank you for your wisdom. You are making such diffrence.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Amy Pirnack, you are the one making the difference in your part of the world. Thanks.

[@tranquilambiance1751]

Hey Dr!! I was an angry mum. And it's not like I'm never angry anymore, I still get angry but it doesn't define my life or my relationships. I was also suffering "depression" and was even suicidal. One of the things that really changed my life was sleeping early. Instead of staying up in my phone after the kids sleep, I'd get kids to bed at 730 and be in bed by 830. For me, this completely cured my "depression" which I really think was just sleep deprivation and I'm really wondering if this is a common misdiagnosis. I became a better wife and mother just by sleeping. I think my husband has ptsd from how I used to be lol. So if this is an issue for mum's they need to sort it out. It sorts out a big chunk of the anger issue. Another thing that changed me was realising that I could lose my kids at any time. I think a lot of our anger is exactly what you said about "things are what they should be". You aren't meant to be holidaying, sipping tea and floating alone in the pool. You're meant to be in the kiddy pool watching your kids having an amazing time for a few years till they grow up a bit. So I chose to enjoy all the blessings that I was overlooking because I was distracted by what I thought I wanted. Another thing is I hear a lot of my friends say they wasted their life by having their kids and they wished they had a career. I view my motherhood as my career. I view my home as my workplace. When you take it seriously and you get what you need done, you feel accomplished. Now I expect my house to get messy. I have a day care and tutoring centre and restaurant happening here! But once the kids are in bed and they've been nourished with everything they need, its closing time. I can do my end of day cleaning and really feel so fulfilled. I now enjoy all the things I used to hate. And it's actually all that matters to me I have no interest in any of the things I used to long for. Getting enough sleep and changing perspective is so important. I totally agree with you on not getting worked up when kids destroy things. I'm better at that but still not quite there. I have a destructive 3 year old that always finds a way to make chaos. And he always goes after my brand new things. Really looking forward to a year from now when he's 4. They tend to calm down by then 😂

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Umm Osayd, you hit on so many good points here. I always say you first need to take care of yourself. Getting the proper amount of sleep is so overlooked in our society and as your situation indicates, it is an individual need. It is so much easier to be our best self when our needs are met. We must live in the present and be happy where we are, each and every moment. Children don't keep, they are growing every minute and reaching that time when they will leave the nest. Disappointment comes from unmet expectations and when we change those expectations, we are all around happier. Thank you for a wonderful comment that really brings out how these things can have impact on not only one life, yours, but your entire family as well.

[@mrssuw6725]

salam mashaallah this is indeed a very practical advice that i would love to execute it immediately. i think you might be right, perhaps my anxiety and impatience are the results from self-deprivation!

[@urmomdotcom4039]

This comment helped me. Thank you💕

[@princessdavina6614]

I thank you for taking time and writing all this for people in same boat.

[@maisoonmoaaz7019]

Thank you for this comment I also noticed that when I wake up before my baby it gives me time to start the day with taking care of myself so when she wakes up I'm able to take care of her better

[@WahlVids]

As a single dad, I have to learn feminine traits along with bettering my masculine traits to raise my child. It's helped me become more empathetic and patient. This was really helpful, thanks.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome. I wish you well! Love them no matter what and even if...

[@Carolmaizy]

I think this video will help many parents and grandparents. Such wisdom. My babies are 37 and 33 now. Some of the days went by sooo slowly, but the years flew by. My boys are men now- good, kind men. Their lives aren't perfect, but they have good lives. That's all I truly ever wanted for them, so I'm happy.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Carol, perfection not required, sounds like you and they are in a good place. Thank you for commenting.

[@mizfaith777]

I listened intently just soaking in these truths and then literally sobbed when you got to number 1. I can’t thank you enough. You’ve no idea how badly I needed to watch this video today. Thank you thank you thank you. -Mom of 2 toddlers (soon to be 3!)

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ash - YOU have no idea how much your comment means to me. Of all the videos I've created over the past nine months, this one has meant the most to me personally. Thank you for who you are and what you do! DrPaul

[@whofarted2903]

Not easy babe but I guarantee those babies r the love of ur lives ❤️ ❤️

[@nicolasmith7539]

I feel you! I have 2 toddlers and a preteen, all boys too haha its hard on my own

[@miffedcuttlefish6139]

I was in a bathroom stall the other day at the mall and I heard a mom being so impatient with her son because he was talking so much and I suppose, dragging, and she sounded SO annoyed at his dragging and talking. And it broke my heart because she has no idea how lucky she is to have a little one that TALKS. My 4 year old doesn't and how I wish she did. I was also sad because I heard myself in her, too. The realization that I needed to be kinder to my children fell on my heart like Atlas struggled to hold up the sky. And I was so hurt because despite how I was feeling, my kids love me right now, unconditionally, and I want that to go on as they get older because home is always going to be here for them. Mommies and daddies, good luck. I'm rooting for you too.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Miffed Cuttlefish, thank you for sharing the experience. You are the mother your children need.

[@jethsemaneorozco9253]

“Babies don’t keep.. and neither do teenagers” - this part had me in tears thinking of my own.. thank you for sharing your knowledge it is really an eye opener!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jet Oro, glad the video helped. Thank you for watching.

[@msprettykawaii950]

This brought tears to my eyes. MY husband is psychologically incapacitated showing narcissistic signs. Im a single mom now

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ms Pretty Kawaii, I hope you are in a safe place and I wish you the best.

[@erniechipdouglas9779]

Ive been there it gets better i promise you i soent 8 years with a partner who nevet cared about me ot his own childs needs. I hope you havr the support you need to help yoi bring your child up happy and healthy

[@amyb8898]

I needed this! This lockdown has turned our home upside down and my 4 year old has turned so angry ! It’s so hard not to lose my mind! Crying every night feeling like a failure! Thankyou for this! It’s nice to know I’m not alone !

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Amy B, you are the mother your child needs. Focus on what you can do with your son. Consider some of our parenting groups for added support.

[@narissaraghunanan5483]

I feel like the exact same…I would love to help my 4 year old to stop being so angry…at not getting his way, when play needs to stop or when it’s time to leave somewhere…angry angry angry…and I hate myself for not being able to help him, and for being upset at him at the same time for acting out.

[@sheena171]

Going through the same thing with my 3 year old.

[@samhill8552]

Agreed ❤

[@dayslee1729]

@@narissaraghunanan5483 wondering if it's gotten better I'm going through this with my 4 in half year old.

[@titogonzalezable]

I’m a dad taking in all of this “angry mom” advice. In my opinion, this advice is great for for dads and moms.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Alberto Gonzalez, it is. Pull out the principle and apply it where appropriate. I did do a video for dads on this subject.

[@ToyaTee123]

I appreciate this session. Opened my eyes. I remember asking my son 5yrs old why do you do these stuff repeatedly. He's so much smarter than me.. lol.. he said "mom", I'm a kid"

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

He is a smart kid, Latoya Logan, as are you. We have more for you on our Positive Parenting playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.

[@Jjlavids]

Wow that totally warmed my heart, and that’s one of those things that I just know will stick with me lol so sweet!

[@siyarakb5305]

Thank you Doctor Paul for helping us lonely & lost moms. God bless you 🙏

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Siyara KB, honored to be on your team.

[@A107S]

I’m over here crying. 😭 I’m a mum of 2 boys and one in the oven. Your Content is wonderful. Just found you Today. I’m videos 3 in. Needed this today.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Welcome!! Glad you found us, Abigail Scott.

[@marianamartinez4106]

I am folding laundry as my kids are napping and I am just thinking to myself how can I apply this to my everyday Actions !! And it brings me joy and tears to know that I will be a greater mom after this video thank you God bless 🙏♥️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Mariana you are their whole world. Thank you for being a conscious mom. You've got this! DrPaul

[@shireenhendricks2194]

Agree

[@Talyax8]

Dr. Paul Jenkins, I am so happy the you tube algorithm connected me to you. Blessings ❤

[@Jo-hello]

I was searching KZbin out of desperation and in tears because I am so upset with myself for the anger that bubbled up inside me. I get angry so quickly! I don’t want to be this way. I want to be the mother I want to be! I dearly love my children and treasure them, why do I get so cross so quickly!? I am desperate to change! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video and wisdom. It has given me a lot to think on. I am going to make some pictures to put around my house with some of these points on to help me remember and to keep perspective. I really am so grateful! ❤️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jo Raine, glad to have you at Live On Purpose TV, please continue to watch and interact with comments, I am sure there will be others who will help you on your journey. If you want more individualized help, you can make an appointment to speak with one of our Live On Purpose Coaches at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall to see what other options are available.

[@Jo-hello]

Thankyou so much for your reply! 🙂

[@Tabinova]

I don’t even have kids and I’m crying. I found these videos to learn how I should interact with my young siblings. I love this channel!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tabinova, and we are happy you are here. You got this.

[@maricasteinmeyer9514]

I've listened to this twice in the car dropping my fiance off at work, and I've cried both times. This video is so moving and your words are comforting. Thank you for making me (and I'm sure others) feel seen with this video!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Marcia. You are the parent your child needs.

[@lyndelparis2490]

I needed to hear this. I've been so hard on myself and my toddler lately. Things are exactly as they should be.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lyndel Paris, honored to be on your team.

[@queenofthebutterflies5212]

I just found my new Guru, Dr. Paul Jenkins. I live for my son. I always only ever wanted to be a Mum. I was told I was infertile but found out 1 day I was 5 months pregnant!!! :-O I was waaaaaaay out of my depth, I'd never prepared for it, seriously!! LOL! So now I'm in the thick of it....and I'm relentlessly watching these videos. This is medicine for me and my little boy. I can't express my gratitude enough.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for sharing!! We are glad to have you in our community, Queen of the Butterflies.

[@georgeannepanos8132]

I'm sitting here, nodding, as if you're actually speaking to me directly....

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Love to be on your team! DrPaul

[@georgeannepanos8132]

Grateful

[@georgeannepanos8132]

I often revisit some of your videos....Ever hear of Kenny Chesney? He has a song titled...YOU SAVE ME...the first couple of paragraphs depict me on some stressful days.....then I watch and think, YOU SAVE ME.

[@alanbloxgamming6446]

Bruh

[@amiensarabellis8391]

Appreciated your awesome talk. Moms need that affirmation. Emotional labor is so draining. During your talk it tripped a memory of the anger I felt taking care of my 97 year old mother, and had to apologize to her at times. And the guilt I felt at being angry. And the lack of anyone affirming the difficult job I was doing. There should be, if there isn't, a national caregivers day. I am watching this video because as a "great aunt" I want the emotional health of my niece and her two daughters. This lecture reminds me to encourage her greatly which I will now start doing...

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for watching and trying out the suggestions. National Caregivers Day is the third Friday in February.

[@nurhayatimokhtar5589]

I’m just so choked up I can’t even speak leading up to the top 3. This is so powerful. I need to hear this. As a mum of 4 wonderful kids that test me every single day. My heart is just bursting as I recall the day I became a mum 😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Nurhayati Mokhtar, glad to have you as part of our community.

[@annamaymusic3278]

I love the "Remember who they are" and remember who You are".All the lessons that Ive learned from you is so applicable to me now that I have my toddler.Anger management help me remember the purpose why I chose to become a mom.🥰

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Love that!

[@Ashley6]

“Remember who you are. Who am I to deserve this?” 😭❤️💕❤️ SO GOOD.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Ashley Spaustat.

[@motherhoodempowerment7012]

I don’t know you but I appreciate you thanking all moms for raising the next generation, it’s so kind and nice to hear

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, honored to be on your team.

[@poheeteo]

I teared listening to your last point on remembering who you are. As a new mum taking care of my toddler I feel invisible and unappreciated everyday and it’s really driving me crazy. It takes a village to raise a kid, but there’s no village here, just me. I guess I really needed someone to tell me that all my efforts are noticed and appreciated, even though I know that they are my responsibilities for being a mother.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Elaine Teo, you are the mother your child needs.

[@daniellejohnson2373]

Me too and my daughter’s dad doesn’t understand being a stay at home mom to a toddler 24/7 is hard and frustrating so I definitely feel unappreciated and never have time for myself I have no friends to talk to so I have a lot of bottled up anger since my daughter’s dad won’t let me talk about it instead he blames me for everything

[@FuriousEevee93]

@@daniellejohnson2373I understand how you feel I relate to this.

[@jenmitch5881]

This is beautiful, heartwrenching, and much needed tonight! ive let the stress of life make me so angry lately to the point I am irritated with my daughter for just acting like a typical five year old. My reactions to her behavior have only fed the fire and tonight I was left feeling very regretful with how i treated her today. I love this and Im very thankful to have found it.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jen Mitch, thank you for the comment. I am glad the video has helped you. Just know that you're not alone and that you're actually doing better than you think. Feel free to browse around the "Positive Parenting" playlist to see if there is anything else I can help you with: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU

[@thequintanacat]

🤭😢😭🤭 thank you Doctor, I HAVE to STOP complaining, and start enjoying my ride...😭😔😭🤭 ...babies don’t keep😭😭😭😭😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lady Bow - yes, enjoy the ride - and what a grand one it is too! DrPaul

[@thatoromomom5655]

Oh my lord I have never come across video or a channel like this I'm binge watching this videos thank you a million times the world needs this information

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

That Oromo mom, please share away. We want to get the message of positivity to as many people as possible.

[@Lucysays]

Reading all the comments I was surprised at the number of Moms that were brought to tears by this video. Mom is a tough job, I reminded myself. I said a little prayer for the frustrated parents ….then, as the video continued, I joined the ranks of Moms crying. Crying for our mistakes, or fortunes, our child, our selves and for the Dr. Who took the time to bring us the realization we needed so much. Thank you, Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lisa Marie, you made my day. Thank you.

[@SuperSoniayadav]

This video brought tears to my eyes, because the phrase of "sacrifice,sweat, blood and tears", and yes, it brought lots of tears as a mom. Thank you so much for the videos. I may forget sometimes to click on the thumbs-up, but i like them all, and not only that they are helpful. Even though my daughter is now 40. I cannot go back in time, but your videos give me comfort and understanding. Thank you for your continuous work.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sonia, I'm honored by your comment. I always hope that it makes a difference to post these videos, and your comment is my paycheck. DrPaul

[@maureensamson4863]

I'm so glad to see that a mother of a grown up is here ... wishing such help was around for us when we needed it ! All the very best !

[@monicakumar88]

I just wanna say from the bottom of my heart " Thank you!!!!" ❤️❤️❤️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Monica Kumar A, you are welcome.

[@rebeccavele8366]

Ha i knew you must have been a member, I prayed for help and this is where i ended up.. thank you heavenly father and for these posts.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Rebecca Vele, that has happened before. So glad you have found value in the videos.

[@tecumseha]

The exact same thing happened to me! Thank Heavens for Dr. Paul! So glad he was willing to follow the prompting to start a KZbin channel to help parents everywhere. This is one of my all-time favorite videos of his, so I come back to watch it every now & again.

[@joybella2]

Wow what a reminder from God. I have that poem framed. My mom gave it to me when I had my first son. The poem goes... Cleaning and scrubbing can wait til tomorrow for babies grow up we’ve learned to our sorrow. So quiet now cob webs, dust go to sleep. I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep😊.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

joybella2, it is a powerful poem. Your mom sounds like a wonderful person.

[@ambitiousmom1157]

Truer words were never spoken.. when we take care of ourselves we are so much better as parents! Also, that our ONLY job is to LOVE them, not to change them, or ‘make sure..’ 😊

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

And that is a game changer.

[@jonnelmclean1478]

As a young mom. My child is really training me to yell at her to do things😭 I hate that I get so angry sometimes. So I really need anger management🙌🙌 thanks for this video.. I'm looking into creative ways on how to get my child to be more interested in learning. Guess I'll start right here🙌🙌😊

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Jonnel Mclean, yes, pick one thing to start on and focus on that before trying to do more. Take back the control, don't give it to your child. Say it out loud, I won't allow you dictate my feelings and I will not yell at you. Sometimes just saying it out loud allows us more control.

[@g.r.2985]

This is a great video but applies equally to us Dads too, doesn’t it? Thank you to all the wonderful mothers out there and if you’re following this channel you are among the powerful few who want to be a better parent. Good luck in your own journey through parenting.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It does, and I have a video made for that. The title comes from research by the KZbin Team.

[@brandona.deimel5155]

Sometimes as a father I think I fall into the category of things don't seem like they should when it might be normal. But I have always held myself to a higher standard so I hold my kids to a higher standard. Especially in todays world. So I feel like I have higher expectations then sometimes I should for their age.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It is good to have standards and expectations, but it they aren't age appropriate or age appropriate, we might be setting them up for failure.

[@samgreen3317]

I am standing in my kitchen listening whilst cleaning up. Lately I have been increasingly stressed out with the constant battles between my 3 young sons, my husband and I. Choosing to Home Educate them whilst still trying to deal with bad behaviour, sibling fighting, keeping our home clean and running and maintaining some form of sanity in the process - has had me feeling so much disconnect, anger, frustration, sadness towards my boys. Our home in a permanent mess! But listening to those words... “We’re not raising apples, we’re raising boys”... just had me tear up. From now on when I feel overwhelmed with housework and all the mess that Home Educating 3 young, lively, energetic, wild boys brings - I will remind myself... I’m not raising a house, I’m raising my sons!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You rock.

[@samgreen3317]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you! 🤘🏻

[@sayalikarnik1867]

Your job is to love them.... Is the exact thing... In our anger we forget that... Beautiful video helpful thank you so much

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sayali Karnik, honored to be on your team.

[@calixtrojennifero.1018]

"we're not raising apples,we're raising boys"those words made me cry😭i feel guilt with my only son😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

jennifer calixtro, no guilt today, just enjoy your son.

[@brengz7663]

Wow. You got me all teary eyed. Honestly I don’t hear a whole lot about what I do and, while I know I am mostly a screw up with my anger and frustration, hearing that I am appreciated for being a mom who whole heartedly loves and is committed to her children just about gave me back the confidence I needed. Thanks so much. I appreciate your knowledge and I look forward to understanding and becoming a better and more reasonable mom. #stayathomemom #homeschool #motheroftwo

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Brenda, I'm so honored by your comment. I shared some of my heart in this video, and it means a lot to know that it is hitting home. Honored to be on your team! You might also like our Parenting Power-up course - get a free pre-listen here: parentingpowerup.com - DrPaul

[@shareyah8]

Brenda, I feel the same way! I am also a stay at home, homeschooling mother of two boys. I constantly feel like I fail with my anger and frustration. This video is an amazing encouragement 💕

[@cjv8768]

These videos have forever changed my life, perspective, awareness of how I need/want to parent. Thank you Dr.Jenkins...you have shifted my whole being. What a saving grace you are.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, C jv. Glad you found the channel and find the videos helpful. Honored to be on your team.

[@cjv8768]

Honestly, best parenting advice I have come across...having three boys. So reassuring, not a guilt provoking focus....just honest, sensible advice. Im so happy

[@nayanabodhi7005]

I just felt so overwhelmed and my eye teared up as soon as I heard the number 1- 'Remember who you are' in the list. Everything and every major events of my life just came flashing in my mind!! I really want to be a good MOM to my daughter and I will try to be as best I could be. Thanks for this video!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Nayana Bodhi, You got this and we are here to support you.

[@allknightvlogs9640]

Mom of a three year old son and I need this. I have been searching,reading+watching all things that can help me to deal with my toddler until I watch this and opened my eyes.Thank you so much Doc for this video. I was once a kid and never treated as a kid so all your words makes a lot of sense to me and will help me and all moms to understand our babies better. Much ❤️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

ALL KNIGHT VLOGS, thank you for watching. So glad we can connect.

[@estyflam6997]

Awesome!! Thank you! As a mother of seven children including 5 real BOYS, I could listen to this every day! Hope to always keep life in perspective!

[@blessedkidsreality1569]

Oh my God.. number1😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Esty Flam, you have your hands full! Thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.

[@bidybidybu]

Thank you for these tips. I would like to add that breaking and overwriting negative traditional reactions and patterns that we observed and received from our own parents and have become our default reaction to frustration with our kids could be helpful, too

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It takes a lot of effort, but we can change and become more positive, despite our upbringing. Thanks for commenting, Santiago Hernandez.

[@ashiya3706]

I got so emotional thinking of the times I missed being observant of what my child was actually doing and jumped to being judgemental and missed the opportunity of recognising who this child actually is. 😭😭😭😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ashiya, and when we know better, we do better.

[@ashiya3706]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV yes we do sir. Thank u so much.

[@cuciofamadventures3009]

Im a new subscriber from the Philippines. I have a 3-year old son and I can say Im guilty with having these anger management issues. Before i stumbled upon this video, I never realized that it was actually me who is causing my child to have this annoying attitude (ex. Not listening, very stubborn etc). Im in tears after watching this video. I want to thank you for the tips and now I realized that I never understood my son all this time. Thank you for making me realize. More power to you sir!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Consuelo Zaragoza, Welcome to Live On Purpose TV, we are happy to have you as part of our community.

[@tysonm2525]

I love how you remove the shame when you talk about this topic!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

We are here to help and support, thank you for being here.

[@pgates06]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I have three children. My middle child is the one I just cannot communicate with. We always end in a shouting match both feeling exhausted and hurt. This video will change change that going forward. Thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

So excited for the days ahead for you and your child, Patricia Gates. As you begin communicating without anger and shouting, you will draw closer together.

[@monicastone4952]

Hello! I found your videos today and I am so glad that I did!!! I truly enjoy your wisdom and warmth. Thank you for being able to take such serious subjects (from a worn and weary mom's perspective) and bring them to the light in a caring and candid way!!! And yes, I am here because they don't keep their room clean! I spent most of yesterday trying (threatening, bribing and harassing) to get my six year old daughter to clean her room!!! Well your words are so soothing. There is a better way. Now I just have to spend every waking moment that the kids are sleeping learning those ways! THANK YOU SO MUCH and God bless you!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Monica your comment means so much to me - thank you! Spend a little time here on the Positive Parenting playlist - we've got dozens of videos there that I think you will resonate with. You might also be interested in our Parenting Power-up Audio Course, which will be released in the next few weeks. DrPaul parentingpowerup.com

[@monicastone4952]

Absolutely! I'm excited to share it with my MOPS mamas!!! We are always looking for encouraging parenting resources like what you offer here. I look forward to the audio course! Thank you! God bless you!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Honored to be on your team Monica - let me know if you guys want some particular topic and I'll put it on the production schedule. DrPaul

[@monicastone4952]

Thank you Dr Paul! I will discuss it with leadership! I appreciate it very much!

[@clarecavalli480]

Hi Paul. I've been following you for a while now and I find your content so incredibly valuable. I am truly grateful. I have a son whom we are getting tested for adhd and asd. With twin girls too, life can get a bit 'testing'. However, through watching your videos and self studying CBT and Psychology, it has given me a whole new perspective, along with learning how to become a better parent every day. I am perfectly imperfect andno longer beat myself up when I mess up. Thank you. Very grateful mum from the UK 🙂

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I am so honored by your comment, Clare Cavalli. Thank you for sharing it with me. Best wishes to you and your family.

[@eloiseprays]

I adore your videos. Growing up in a highly aggressive family, and then entering an awful and violent relationship, I have always been around anger. Unfortunately now I am also an angry person/ parent when tested. These videos are so calming and informative in a simple way- like a friendly reminder to stay on the right path ❤

[@ThatOddGarage]

So. I’m a dad. And this video was INSANELY helpful. And it made me think of a line from “Virgo” by Atmosphere. “I pledge allegiance to myself Food, shelter, and health Let me find a beach full of seashells to sell Put your oxygen mask on first before you offer me help” It’s cool how things in life tie together like that. Thanks for doing what you do

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad it was helpful! I did a video in the same vein labeled fathers if you are interested, but they are pretty much the same.

[@Donnasherwani]

Literally crying! You’re so inspiring ~ it’s been so hard here in melbourne australia to manage pregnancy life with a toddler and no support under strict lockdown rules where no one can help out. I forget about all these ~ thank you! 😭

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are very welcome. My best to your family.

[@lovewarrior2329]

Thank you, Doc! I'm a homeschooling mom and this video is helping a lot. I was raised by angry abusive parents, so I'm doing EVERYTHING I can to reverse that multiple-generational anger streak. I realized years ago that my stepfather was actually ADDICTED to being angry. It gave him an adrenaline rush. We haven't been in touch side from 1 visit to my family since I left home at 17. Unfortunately, my siblings STILL live with him and "take care of him." They're all in their 20's and they won't speak to me anymore. I'm pretty sure he alienated them from me. I still try to contact them to no avail. Should I cut the cord? What effect will that have on my children?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Love Warrior, thank you for watching. So glad you are finding value in these videos and breaking the chain of responding with anger. Your children will benefit greatly from that. While it is generally beneficial for children to have relationships with extended family members, you also have to consider if those members will be toxic to you and your children. I have a related video on that, if you would like to see it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aYuul6ikq8-qesk. You may want to make a pros and cons list to assist you in making the decision. If you choose to try to include your siblings in your children's lives, then continue being kind in your attempts to contact them.

[@SdmAngeL]

"We're not raising apples , we"re raising boys. " Thank you for your great insight, advice, and guidance . Really appreciated. I have said this before but, I feel that parenting classes should be compulsory and free. It would make happier families. I think it's more important then play groups for children . Parents need the opprtunity to talk about problems they are having with their little ones and get advice . I live in the UK and the Health Visitor who is sup posed to help parents of young children - under 5 , is hopeless. I can never reach her on the phone and she never visits. No support what so ever.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sometimes, it is just a quick reminder that clears our perspective. Thanks, SdmAngeL.

[@jermelynwilliams3808]

Aww you made me cry doc 😭😭😭specially rule number one 😭

[@pepperjackcheesey]

Crying while getting ready for work. Excellent video. Mother of two boys aged 4 and 6. Needed this.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Tyedyesky, hang in there, you are the mother your children need.

[@pepperjackcheesey]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you for your reply and helpful videos :)

[@vandi5433]

Thank you so very much! Theses young parent don’t realize how lucky they are to have such amazing information, for FREE, at their fingertips!! My kids are grown, but two still at home and still driving me crazy and making me angry!!! Yelling all their lives!! Part of me wants to scream at the top of my lungs! I’m so glad I found your videos to stop me from ruining my relationship with my only daughter,22, and such a slob! Thank you for explaining to me why I’ve done all theses things! I feel bad but at the same time I know I was a good Mom and I have regrets but your videos are truly helping me!! Thanks again💗

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Vandi, you ARE the parent your children need. Hang in there. So much will be changing for your daughter in the next few years.

[@palmamingozzi5736]

Things are exactly as they should be and will get better. Thanks.😊

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes Palma! Thanks for watching, and for being a conscious parent. DrPaul

[@mogamoga3007]

"Enjoy the journey! "Oh~this make eyes tearful. Thank you for remind me this when I was angry with my 5 years old!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

We all need reminders, moga moga. Honored to be on your team.

[@drmandeepkaurmandeepnursin9699]

Congratulations for ur little daughter turning 21,,,god bless her always,,, Ur talk was amazing,,, Thankuuuu

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks, mandeep

[@rebeccaxu7255]

#1 “ Who you are” makes me cry soooo bad! Being a mom is HUGE! Wow!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Rebecca Xu, it is huge. Mother's are vital.

[@rymijemaluz]

This video is very helpful. I need this peptalk right now because I can't control my anger towards my daughter not listening and resisting constantly. It always makes me sad being this way because I remember the time when this girl is my world, my joy and my everything.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Michelle Hochbrueckner, I am honored to be on your team.

[@princessdavina6614]

Dear Dr. Thanks so much for healing and helping us..You withhold nothing but generous with your kindness to make home a happier place.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Princess Davina, thank you for your kind words. Thank you for being at Live On Purpose.

[@farmersdaughter8493]

Thank you for the enlightenment. I've got 2 boys and they drain me so much every single day. I'm always angry and frustrated to the point that I wanted to be on my own Alone.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Farmer's Daughter, Try to find one joyful thing each day in your boys. Connect in some meaningful way. Don't worry about the discipline right now, just connect.

[@aaronmichellejackson6339]

Me too...but upon rewinding my life. as a kid I was. not as disciplined as my daughter... Many a times, I see myself in her....my negatives & positives reflected through her. I'm OK & She's OK🌈🌈

[@lecrown3338]

As a mother of a toddler, this video was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you so much! It also made me want to go for a second child lol.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lannie Garcia, hang in there, they do grow up and we can keep calm and parent on...

[@hadijahmahenge2231]

😂😂😂 sailing on the same boat.. I have 2 year old son😇😇 i couldnt even think of another but now am at easy😊

[@hadijahmahenge2231]

😂😂😂 sailing on the same boat.. I have 2 year old son😇😇 i couldnt even think of another but now am at easy😊

[@melissad.6722]

Between the video explaining the 3 stages and THIS video I feel like a weight has been lifted off me that I have been struggling under for 2 years. Through getting my kids and I away from abusive husband on November, to daughter running away telling government I had "extreme Christian values" which made her feel "unsafe" when I was distraught over discovering her out of control dangerous behaviour, her return after jumping through government hoops for 4 months, the pandemic hitting on her 16th birthday, locked down me her and brother, blessings and struggled in that too. all while trying to learn who is this new daughter and how to parent her. Literally thanking God for leading me to this video tonight. Sharing it with her brother too to help him understand her.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

M D, honored to be on your team during your journey.

[@misslee1564]

I come back to this video every time I need a reset with my kids and every time I just open this video I start crying 😭 thank you for this ❤

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Miss Lee, I love to hear that people come back to specific videos for a refresher. You are the mother your children need.

[@marigoldStudio]

Thank you so much Dr!!! I can't get enough of your videos... they're so comprehensive and make so much sense! I'm so grateful for your advice and guidance 🙏 am lapping it all up, making mental notes, and determined to make a difference to the quality of life for my kids, myself and my team!!! God bless you for all your efforts to help us all. It's truly a blessing to have you provide us with your insights and wisdom!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Honored to be a part of your team, M S. We need each other.

[@aprilthompson2853]

Wish I'd had this advice when mine were little. Still good advice as we head into teen years

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yes April - remember we can never start any younger than we are right now. You've got this! DrPaul

[@LilacDaisy2]

My baby is 24, and I daydream about being able to do it all again ... but better. As a single mother, I took the "I'm here to..." too far and was too strict (though my parents thought I was a pushover). I wanted to impress people with how well behaved my child was, and I did get many compliments on his manners and sweetness, but this video makes my heart ache.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hi Lilac Milkshake, you obviously tried your best and that is all we can give our children. Thank you for sharing.

[@TwinedVines]

Jhkkg

[@jerikas]

❤❤❤

[@valeriaacm72]

Omg I'm doing the same thing

[@yanzhu9889]

we are not raising apples, we are raising boys. I feel so touching! I am a mom with 2 boys, the 3year-old older brother is always driving me crazy, and i realize that my anger comes every time quicker and quicker, after being angry is always regrets. I was so frustrated before that why I can be so tolerant and nice to a stranger but not my own son. Today i suddenly understand after watching this video. I can be a better mom for sure! super thanks!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Yan Zhu, I am so glad you have had this breakthrough. It still takes practice and additional learning - most people don't change overnight. I am here for you. If you haven't already, you can check out other videos from my Positive Parenting playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. Thank you for commenting.