8 Asexual Cheat Codes You Need to Know

[@panthersworld5587]

1 set your boundaries 2 don't bother wasting your time trying to get it to their brains 3 unapologetically be yourself 4 when rejecting somebody you don't necessarily have to apologize 5 never let anyone force you to do something you're not comfortable with 6 continue your path 7 do what makes you happy without the approval of others 8 even though asexuality is a very small percentage in the lgbtq community most people are still unaware and to this very day some people still don't understand that not everyone feels the same way they do, end of the day live your life I love the asexual community and my ace identity

[@fluentlyaspec]

Well said friend! One of the first things a friend told me when I came out was “be unapologetically you.” I live by those words every day.

[@edspace.]

While often "fitting the norm" is seen as inherently good this is actually a logical fallacy known as "Argument from Popularity" since there is no proof that the most frequent occurrence is moral.

[@lynnsaga1397]

I love this video! I absolutely get the being more comfortable talking about sexual topics with different people. I have a threshold for most people but there's a few I can go into detail with and I thought it was just me 😭

[@runnahpodcast]

I really appreciate you making these videos, they make me feel less alone 💜🖤

[@fluentlyaspec]

Thank you so much! Hearing this means so much to me 🥹

[@angstyace]

patrick this is very off topic but i’m obsessed with your necklace but in all seriousness these are such important topics and you word everything beautifully. the aspec community is ridiculously lucky to have you.

[@fluentlyaspec]

Thank you!! I love it. It’s also a fidget which really helps with my ADHD. I got it at Pride this year 🥰 And thank you so much for your kind words Rachel!

[@kaseyford1490]

I live proudly myself and have merch I wave around in Pride Month, Aro and Ace week etc. It's 'too much' for my Hetero family to endure which sucks so I act 'subtely' 😂 I hate it how I can't be too proud aroud them though, even at inclusive concerts. They've even Gatekeeped me the last 2 Pride Months telling me I can't wave the rainbow flag coz I'm not gay. If I wear my Ace shirt or put anything too much on Facebook, I'm told to take it down or I'll get the 'wrong' kind of attention.(why I'm on Twitter 😂.) Thanks for the follow on there btw 🌈

[@edifiedermine9247]

Your family seems a little odd, but keep having fun being you! Don’t be ashamed of expressing yourself in healthy and fun ways

[@Laurafinds]

Great content...please keep it coming!!

[@fluentlyaspec]

Thank you!

[@liamgarry5889]

I wish I had something like this a few years ago when I discovered I was ace and came out, this is such good advice. I love the first hack and how you can phrase the responce in a firm, but polite way to express interest or to cahnge the subject. This is very useful for when I was asked pretty probing questions when coming out, now I have a few more tools in my toolbox for dealing with that. Overall, great advice, and thank you for uploading this video ❤

[@Katsumi_Maki]

These were all wonderful tips! I don't have anything to add but I did want to somehow reframe my Aromanticism in a positive way (Tip #8). Like, I know I differ from mainstream, and I've grown to love all the many ways that I do, but sometimes my aromantic difference bothers me because I didn't choose it (or want it once I learned the term). The only positive thing I can say is that I put a lot of effort into a few friendships, but the fact of the matter is that I probably would do that regardless of any romantic entanglement (if I had the capability for romance).

[@fluentlyaspec]

That makes sense. I think for me, one thing I can say is that I am able to see who someone really is quicker. Romance doesn’t cloud my judgement, which I’ve observed happen to my friends over the years.

[@elizabethsmith4926]

I dont know if you go into this on other videos, but i learned fairly early on in my journey that a black ring on the right middle finger is a good way to recognize other people in the ace part of the spectrum, and I'm wondering if that's actually universalish or more something local to me.

[@fluentlyaspec]

I do have a video where I discuss ace rings, but yes they’re a great way to express yourself and find other aces! There’s also aro rings, which are white and worn on the left hand instead.

[@zametal.]

I hope to learn something here. my life is real shit these days. could do with some cheat codes