Asexual People Answer Questions You're Too Afraid To Ask

[@AndiLang8146]

I kept being told that I'm "missing out" and that I "can't know unless I try". I've never tried heroin either, I'm still not gonna do it just to make sure I'm not into it, Alice.

[@Lightnin4]

If you don’t like something before you try it out for yourself then you probably aren’t missing out on anything. I don’t know why people can’t understand that.

[@AndiLang8146]

@Ramsay Snow my mistake. Elastigirl could punch me in the face and I'd say thank you.

[@momoe.4075]

Back off Alice 😂😂😂

[@ohno867]

Two totally different things

[@saarahkhan5051]

Omg😭😂😂

[@Lara-p3j]

Disclaimer: Just because someone is Asexual, doesn't mean they're deppressed

[@tedlovejesus]

@@extrashotofespresso_ that’s unsolicited sympathy....

[@ryh1242]

this is a stereotype?

[@RainWalking]

Who would even think that. Or you just assuming people think it.

[@lestranged]

I think it's considered a possible symptom of depression only when it represents a significant change from that person's baseline level, without some other medical reason (like medications, menopause, etc can have those effects too). . A sudden loss of desire when they used to have it, or also can be a sudden increase in desire compared to baseline. If someone has always been ace then that is their baseline. (their personal 'normal')

[@twig5730]

@@ryh1242 kind of

[@bellajenkins5669]

That black lady is stunning she’s like a Disney princess

[@nnibbbb]

Right and her lipstick is perfect 😩

[@sarcasticrayofsunshine75]

I love her hair so much

[@tatertotjtg]

Right? *feels feelings*

[@Artechiza]

"being the thirst trap that I am" couldn't describe herself better, honestly

[@sylvia5400]

Calling her by her name is probably a better way of referring to her.

[@Priimess]

I would have loved to see some male asexual representation in the video. It is so much more stigmatized for men to be hypersexual, that I think showing that men can be asexual too may have been beneficial. Either way it was a great video that framed asexuality well 🥰.

[@Amcsae]

That's what I was thinking, too. It was nice to see some their partners to have input on possible relationships, but they were all poly... it can't be the only option, right?

[@leilam3154]

@@Amcsae yeah, right. For as much as it's nice to see poly representation as well, some people just cannot handle poly relationships bc of insecurities. As much as a poly relationship might be an option, it would be nice to see some monogamous ace couples

[@bunnykatzen]

Anthony Padilla has done an interview with asexuals, and one of the people interviewed is a black man. It's a really good video, check it out :3

[@wahlflower3517]

@@Amcsae I know quite a few aces in mono relationships and I'm one of them. My allo partner and I have been together for nearly a year now. So no, it's not the only option.

[@savingfelvkitties7424]

Me too I'm glad to see they got partners pretty sure my bf/ husband is more asexual. Helped me learn some stuff.

[@supersempai9536]

i’m tearing up y’all- never seen asexuals in happy loving relationships before.... genuinely figured i was going to die alone because no one would want to tolerate a broken partner, but like 🥺🥺🥺🥺 y’all given me hope

[@onelovegirly]

No! Not broken!! You deserve happiness! Whatever form that may take!! ❤️

[@howcomeitsbeeping]

This is why I don't like it when people complain about "labels". Labels help people find each other, find communities where they're respected & understood. You deserve to have friendships and relationships where you are valued for who you are.

[@eyeAm0]

🤗

[@lukha6389]

You are NOT broken. And the right person will never make you feel like you are, either

[@TickleMoiPickle123]

I thought the same tbh. I remember being like 14 or something, and literally saying to my mother that I genuinely didnt/don't think anyone's gonna love me. And that I'm pretty sure I'll end up alone. She started crying 🥺😕😬

[@Irisandstuff]

⚠️DAILY REMINDER⚠️ You are not broken. You're not missing anything, you have everything everyone else has but in a different way/variation. It makes you a whole. Perfect.

[@thedarkgunslinger2869]

What's asexual Is it the between of bi gay and pansexual

[@katiepadilla7315]

@@thedarkgunslinger2869 no? did you not watch the video

[@thedarkgunslinger2869]

@@katiepadilla7315 boi I could not fully understand So I just asked for another explanation

[@Claire.Chenault]

@@thedarkgunslinger2869 it means you don’t feel sexual attraction

[@thedarkgunslinger2869]

@@Claire.Chenault so basically they are robots

[@dcardoso3342]

Finding out about asexuality was literally life saving.

[@buterasword581]

I know right!

[@user-uh9sf5sg3n]

It was so good finding people who were like me

[@joylox]

Yes, saved me from some unpleasant experiences, and made communication with my partner much easier.

[@lokatla8261]

Same but I don’t know anyone irl who I could relate with

[@NanaLia_18]

❤

[@KaitlynSallee]

This makes me have way more clarity on my sexuality and im literally crying now (of happiness)

[@GlamsUnknown]

Good for you!❤️

[@brennapetersen8522]

YES SAMEE

[@momoe.4075]

So happy for you 💚✨

[@apetranek5235]

Happy for you!

[@Miqui561]

Girl SAME 💜

[@dakotac180]

I had no idea how in depth Asexuality was. The black lady is sooooo gorgeous.

[@ivanespinosa1474]

those curls and that mug, ugh, she reminds me of cali girl Barbie Christie

[@elecrticbubblegum22d]

She is stunning!

[@user-zn7sv9fd7n]

@Aditya wahyu irony

[@aiiiia9971]

She reminds me of my mother

[@otsdrselse1163]

I love her name too. Divinity, sounds divine...

[@spencerjonesvo3973]

This is so fascinating for those of us who aren't Asexual.

[@vansa14]

This is fascinating to asexuals too! I get so excited when I see something about other aces.

[@spencerjonesvo3973]

@@vansa14 I bet! Representation matters and I support the ACE COMMUNITY.

[@Jazzyjen1997]

@@vansa14 Me too!!!

[@kaylawaters2691]

@@vansa14 Me too!

[@carimavandijk1091]

@@vansa14 same, it's always really cool to me how everybody experiences asexuality in a different way and hearing about how others experience it validates how I feel youknow

[@ptatoesaurus7008]

❤️ "Because your asexual doesn't mean you don't have sexuality"...that hit, there is such a large spectrum, everyone on it is valid

[@prachi6802]

That is opposite of wat a sexual is, why u need validity for your own sexuality.

[@kaylabounds1201]

@@prachi6802 Sorry asexual is a spectrum. It just means someone who feels little to none. Little is still in the definition. They just don't feel it the way we do. Brush up on the definition before commenting honey.

[@prachi6802]

@@kaylabounds1201 ok but the person in the video stated they do feel it sexually cos they masturbate frequently. Even if you are asexual its part of being in a sexual spectrum. So u have a spectrum within a spectrum which is realy not needed. Also, its a personal sexuality just cos they dont feel it alot doesnt mean somethbg is wrong. In western countries there is alot of emphasis on being sexual so mayb these ppl feel different. Idont understd why your life has to surround completely on sexuality that evry thing n wat u cal yourself is based on sexuality instead of personality .

[@Rainart520]

@@prachi6802 Are you hetero? If so, please don’t tell queer people that their sexuality is just their personality and that you see it as a bad thing. You’re stigmatizing people into a little box to make heteronormative people feel comfortable. No queer person makes their sexuality their personality. That’s a homophobic fallacy

[@prachi6802]

@@Rainart520 wat does being asexual has to do with being hetro or homo? Are u crazy, when did i say its a bad thing? I said describing yourself based on your sexuality instead of your personality is just giving to much imp to your sexuality. Also, if u think only queer ppl can be Asexual then your hetrophobic.

[@BritneyAlea]

This is so interesting to me, there's so many layers to asexuality 😩.

[@RainWalking]

just like there is with so many sexualities

[@nixfarrik6214]

I don’t actually believe in all these sub and by types myself. It’s each to their own but for me some of these are just a bit funny.

[@brynndally9869]

@@nixfarrik6214 I find some of the names a bit funny or confusing like who made them, but everything they described makes a lot of sense especially after them explaining and people have always felt/done these things

[@prachi6802]

No there arnt

[@prachi6802]

@@nixfarrik6214 ya like blue head seems like asexual. Others are just trying to be cool

[@ViolaSynthero]

Literally discovered what a demisexual is, and honestly everything makes more sense to me now.

[@MsRosirosi]

Yeah me too!!

[@StephtherefAmazing]

Yes it’s nice to have a label sometimes :) I’m happy to identify as Demi

[@marianabatista8835]

Welcome to the club!

[@angelicawhn6709]

Welcome to the club 🤍🖤💜

[@wisteriawaffles]

Welcome!! I've been happily identifying myself at Demi for about 5-6 years now!!

[@avakulick2836]

They way she described seeing the world in black and white and then someone walking by and there in full color is exactly how I would describe my aesthetic attraction to people

[@ladyicondraco]

So glad that they included someone who is Aro!

[@ErinOlson-SarcasticJellybean]

@@SarojSharma-pn5nx Wrong video for that kind of clickbait

[@ladyicondraco]

@@sheilaharrison8547 Aromantic. Someone who doesn't experience romantic feelings. They may feel sexual attraction, and love friends and family, but they do not experience romantic love.

[@mmichaelw7179]

I am in the process as a 54 yr old of letting myself be who I really am. It is difficult being brought up old fashioned. I am really confused but don't want lie to myself anymore since who I am isn't the stereotypes of yesteryear. So confused.

[@gnomie3908]

I'm happy for you being able to feel you are now more able to express yourself. 🤗 Hopefully with time more people will be able to come to terms and understand who they are.

[@Xzouv]

Wishing you love, patience, and kindness on your journey ❤️

[@maryclogston]

im 16 and im VERY confused too! its never too late to start trying to understand and i wish you all the best on your journey :) im happy for you!!

[@alizhoward3061]

I think one doesn't create themselves, one finds themselves -our authentic selves that existed before the world dropped all of its rules and expectations on us as we got older. Finding yourself again after a lifetime of performing for other people takes courage. I love you, and I truly wish you so much luck! 🍀

[@jaclynlevy5644]

@@alizhoward3061 so beautifully stated.

[@mohammadzaid1221]

I didn't even knew there were so my sexualities. It's so beautiful how all of these have found something that works from them .

[@happytortoisee]

@@chloelovestopandwallows YEAH🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@happytortoisee]

@@chloelovestopandwallows wait do you listen to panic at the disco ( if you know what I mean)

[@justaperson1998]

thanks God

[@happytortoisee]

@@chloelovestopandwallows 💗💛💙🥞

[@VegQuaker13]

Humans are always complex

[@aspirallingmess8319]

Woah...I just watched this to educate myself but I think Jeffery literally just changed my life. The fact that romance and sexuality are separate just clicked and I explains sooooo much why I am so confused.

[@Daleysouth]

I'm so happy to see this

[@elisagurnia6312]

So true!! This might sound super weird but as a woman I have been attracted/interested in gay men sometimes. And I didn’t get it until now but I feel safer in a romantic relationship with a gay man because I know it won’t escalate into a sexual relationship. And that makes me feel safe and enough because the romantic level is the only one that exists. That was so eye opening. Jeffery just opened a door to a different dimension imo.

[@axiomaticoxymoron9111]

Yup, I'd recommend you to check out the split attraction model (SAM)

[@ser2952]

Yes!!! I'm graysexual lesbian, panromantic. Took so long to understand this in my own life.

[@qwertykeyboard5901]

It's like NTSC composite video. You have both luminance and chromamence. ...Did I seriously just write that? Eh, it's getting posted anyway.

[@Petalouda8544]

My go-to response for when someone says “how do you know don’t like it if you’ve never tried it”: well, I’ve never been stabbed before but I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t enjoy that either

[@BansheeVanRaven]

People who get stabbed don't recommend it, nor do drug addicts. 😒

[@dianabaudin8104]

gonna use that one from now on.. thanks..

[@iBleed_RoyLty4368]

@@BansheeVanRaven unless they're into those type of things still. 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@oOArtistgirlOo]

Feeling like you're broken seems like it just comes with being asexual. I feel like I'm broken. I can tell myself I'm not and people can tell me I'm not, but the feeling doesn't just go away. Instead I just ignore it and hope for the best.

[@MiZzBee1]

Same

[@lindaf9901]

I never know if I'm truly asexual because I do have health issues that include symptoms like 'low to no libido, hormonal changes, low energy' etc. So I'm like 'medically' asexual?

[@ThornyRoseV]

Well you are...there is a part of you that doesnt work like its suppose to. I have physical illnesses, im broken too so its not like its some horrible thing. You'll feel better when you accept it and learn to live with it.

[@Claire.Chenault]

I feel the same way, especially since I’m aromantic, too. I just feel like I’m missing out, and I’m just gonna be stuck alone for the rest of my life. I just wish I wasn’t like this.

[@ridhii1734]

@@ThornyRoseV @oOArtistgirlOo that's not true. nobody is broken. and everybody is different. asexual people dont have a 'part thats not working like its supposed to'. and if asexual people didnt exist then there would be over population!

[@mrs.major_joe101]

I needed this because recently I found out I'm Asexual

[@tiyasamukherjee9429]

Me too

[@leofst]

I found out while watching this video! Haha

[@Gandellion]

Me tooo

[@JannyKey007]

Hey guys welcome to the club! :)

[@KuroSaikKisu]

Welcome to the club, have some cake uwu 🍰 lol

[@purplehood8418]

A decade ago all of these beautiful people would have been laughed off the internet. That’s how bad it was. I’m not even that old, but old enough to see the change. I had a therapist tell me the Ace friend I just met was someone who just hadn’t processed their trauma. I had a therapist ask me how I could be Bi if I’d never been with a woman? There was AVEN, the (A)sexual documentary where the guy doing the investigating about aceness went onto talk shows, and was laughed off by the hosts. There were some forums here and there. That. Was it. So why did I not want to date in middle or high school? Why did I try to copy allo people in their relationships? Because I’m Demiromantic Bisexual. (Some times I flip flop and in Biromantic Demisexual.) You’re not broken or traumatized. You’re just you.

[@kenobi-hi7qz]

Why are these clowns dressed like they are cosplaying for legend of zelda 🤡

[@dreamcollector6811]

Wow, that was an unprofessional therapist! They are not supposed to judge. Their job is to ask objective, transparent questions, while also keeping an open mind, as everything is not always about trauma!! I mean how are they going to form a psychological assessment of your friend and they had never even met them??? Sorry, therapists who are terrible at their profession make me so mad. I actually started college wanting to be a therapist and changed my mind. Lol. But nonetheless, it is something that I still find interesting, as therapists can change people's lives, but only if they use the appropriate strategies to help clients heal from their mental and emotional challenges.

[@purplehood8418]

@@dreamcollector6811 Asexuality isn’t widely accepted by the mental health community. What that therapist told me goes on everyday. It’s getting better but there’s still a long way to go

[@nfspbarrister5681]

Yep. In my 39 y.o life, never have boy/girlfriend. Does not need one. Everybody look at me like there's something wrong with me.

[@nfspbarrister5681]

@@purplehood8418 yep. Every psychiatrist or psycholog that assesed me in job interview or personal assesment says it is because traumas etc. Well, i'd ask whomever in their lives does not have one, but they still go and have romantic relationship. It is NOT about that. They'll ends up unload their personal story to me. Weird how psycholog/psychiatrist and advocate/lawyer often switched sides.😂😂😂

[@VegQuaker13]

Gray demisexual here! I thought the "crazy hormonal teen" thing was a joke when I was a teenager until I figured out that I was a-spect

[@lukha6389]

Yeah I was always like, why do they gotta over-exaggerate it so much? The biggest difference I experienced was spending more and more time in my room 😂

[@jaclynlevy5644]

Yes! Same! I was like, "UGH, they are really blowing up the crazy hormonal teen stereotype" then I learned about asexuality and was like OHHHHHH.

[@wahlflower3517]

I didn't realize it was a real thing until I got into high school theater and stumbling upon couples making out in dark corners. And even then with my inner circle of friends were not openly sexual teens nor actively talked about dating junk so it took me a very long time to I realize I was asexual grayromantic.

[@SarahJay55]

“I wish I’d known it was a *thing*” resonates so much. I was in my 40s before I ever heard of it, and had the big ‘woah! That explains EVERYTHING’ moment!

[@Mercedes.666]

I am asexual (I dont experience sexual attraction at all.... ever) but my aesthetic attraction is higher than most people.

[@em6172]

I feel the same way! It’s like my sexual attraction jar got dumped into my aesthetic and romantic jars!!😄

[@hotwasabi1085]

Me too! And for me it’s not even always a I want to get to know or talk to the person, I just enjoy looking at them but in an intense way lol. Especially with celebrities.

[@GlamsUnknown]

@@hotwasabi1085 well damn, I am so glad I'm not the only one😅

[@hotwasabi1085]

@@GlamsUnknown me too haha

[@Jazzyjen1997]

Me too!!! I complete relate to this!!!

[@GhostlyFilms136]

"Am I ace, or Im just convince that my level of sexual desire isn't high enough therefore I must be asexual, because the society we live on hypersexualize everything and dosent accept anything beside that?", an autobiography

[@gardeniac.3782]

This was basically me for a month or two after learning what asexuality was last winter and it's also probably going to be me for the next month while trying to figure out if I'm a lesbian or ..... something else not straight romantically..... or whether I think it's cool and am trying to convince myself that I am it I need a fking therapist

[@Fluffy_Wolverine]

mine would be "am i ace or am i a catholic?"

[@CallmeOzymandias]

@@Fluffy_Wolverine Am I ace or am I depressed? An autobiography lmao

[@luckyeclipse7455]

Well if society Really is just hypersexual (Because it Pretty much is) Asexuality will be what you described. So the label is still there as it is ??

[@studypurposes4658]

@@Fluffy_Wolverine Lmao so true idk if im asexual on my own terms or if its bc of the catholic schools ive been to

[@infiniteoctopaw]

Here was how I explained the “you just haven’t met the right person yet” to my mom. Me: “Do you want to lick a cactus?” Mom: “No? Why would I do that? Me: “IDK, theirs a lot of cacti’s out in the world. Maybe you haven’t seen the right one.” After that my mom completely got it. Hope this can help!!!

[@Malyari]

Well that makes sense😭 I'm glad your mom now understands it. My mom don't usually talk about sexual attraction with me so I'm really afraid to come out. She don't know what asexuality is and I'm really uncomfortable explaining it.

[@starrr365]

@@Malyari Personally, I haven't felt the need to come out to everyone in my life as asexual. Most people know I'm bi, but I just feel like my asexuality is my business, unless you're a significant other or close friend. If you think you need to come out to your mom in order to feel secure or happy, you should, but there's no reason you have to!

[@Malyari]

@@starrr365 well I have already thought about it and I agree. I feel like I don't need to come out to my mom or my family because even if I do or not, I'm still an asexual either way.

[@vanissaberg5824]

I've heard of "hug a cactus" not lick one lol. I'm dead. 😂😂🌵

[@thekarret2066]

I use "I don't need to eat a cockroach to know I don't want to ever eat a cockroach" personally. xD same thing though.

[@jtwei7101]

So glad that they put this video out! I am an asexual aromantic Asian girl who’s 20 this year. I’m going to try get as many of these videos into a playlist to explain to the rest of my family around festivities. With what the extended family is like, I feel like it would be easier to be straight or even gay (although I know it’s not true) especially with the whole “leftover” idea

[@moamoa7067]

I can just recommend as i and( probably others had experienced) . it's best to just not make a big deal of it. Just mention it if someone specifically questions your sexuality. To make coming out moment or something dramatic infront of the whole family is probably not beneficial? You should not have to justify your existence to people for loving or unloving people,sexual actions or non action. I have not said to my family that im asexual but i do have confessed that i wont have kids or are interested in relationships at all,to stop the questions and tell my family whats up.If i "came out" and announced it when I knew i was on the spectrum, I would had to renounce a couple years later ( as i shifted on the spectrum but haven't left it. )

[@yunsan]

that “leftover” idea is so toxic for a woman to experience… i know what ur going thru.. hope ur alright

[@brennapetersen8522]

I actually just realized I am asexual, and I was originally an Ally, to the LGBTQ+ community, but now I am so honored to be a part of it!

[@SleepingDreamer16]

Same here!

[@juliafitrzyk6575]

I'm an asexual and I don't feel a part of it, lol

[@1keico]

@@juliafitrzyk6575 And that’s completely fine!

[@jelatinosa]

@@juliafitrzyk6575 yeah, same. I feel like if I were to claim to be a part of it, I would be seen and feel like a fraud. Especially since I'm straight in a heteronormative marriage.

[@lukha6389]

That's what the A stands for. This community stands for everyone that do not fall under the hetero normative standards of society. You are still a part of the community because of your asexuality. It's like saying that when a bisexual cis male dates a cis woman, it doesn't make him a part of the community, too

[@Traytay0612]

I figured out I was asexual when I began seriously dating and having “relations” with great guys but never felt that spark of sexual attraction to them (even though they were handsome and great in bed). I tried different things to figure out what I was missing but no luck. Then I googled my issue and came across the word asexual. It explained it all and fit me perfectly.

[@stacyaguilar8154]

I don’t know if I’m asexual or not, but I feel like I can resonate with them.. I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a while so this video kinda helped me :)

[@pratz3659]

congratulations babe!! i hope you have come across an idea of what you identify as, and if you didn't, that's okay too!! as an ace myself, im glad this video helped you understand and bring you closer to who you really are! sending all love to you babe

[@haleywinters8096]

🍵

[@carlietheartist5404]

I am a demisexal artist so I I appreciate visual beauty of people but I don't experience the sexual attraction to them without having a deep connection with them first. It's very confusing and it is very validating to have the ace community discussed on such a large platform. 💜💜💜

[@nelijerot7922]

Yes yes yes!!!! Thank you for putting it into words ! Like I still think you look nice and are pretty but I don’t wanna do stuff with you 😭

[@dizel01]

Isn't this more or less just conventional sexuality?

[@nelijerot7922]

@@dizel01 not really, if that was the case then people wouldn’t have one night stands as I’m sure you can’t have that deep of a connection with someone with knowing them maybe 5 min. Most heteronormative people will for example lust after and fantasise about celebrities and such without even knowing them.

[@SeanStrife]

I think once I learned there was a difference between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction, that's when everything clicked for me and I realized I was asexual.

[@tootooloo]

“Me being the thirst trap that I am.” ICONIC

[@Birdcat1392]

As a panromantic asexual dating an asexual smol lesbian, intimacy definitely has more meanings than sexual. Like cuddling, spending time together, talking, not talking. It's definitely not something I would have thought I'd like after past relationships pretty much not working out, so I may be more gray as I hated cuddling and stuff before. But be yourself, be honest with yourself, be true to yourself. And listen to yourself, too.

[@caritoj19]

Well, in Latinoamerica is almost impossible to see anyone talking about this subject because most people are just close minded so when people ask me why am I single, I do try my best to explain them that, I may like someone but I just don't want to have a relationship with them, I'm not that into sexual interactions and I really love having my own space and I'm not touchy feely, sometimes I even brought up the polyamorus subject which is scandalous to them but ultimately I don't care, I am that I am and I need no explanation, last time I answered I said, I'm not interested in anyone just myself, so yeah i like it my way.

[@LuchiZab]

De a poco va a ir llegando a todo el mundo 💪

[@IDTS8243]

This post it's so me it feels like I wrote it 🥺 why is it so hard?

[@AtlasCalMa]

Carol habemos gente k te respaldamos!! Es bien complicado y ya tú sabes k la comunidad a veces es rara pero te mando todo el apoyo y amor del mundo

[@caritoj19]

@@LuchiZab 👌💗

[@caritoj19]

@@IDTS8243 😌🙌💗

[@juliegolick]

I'm so glad for this sort of ace visibility. I only realized I was ace when I was in my 30s and already married, because I just never knew "asexual" was a thing. I hope younger aces (and LGBT+ folks of all sorts) are able to come into their own identities earlier and more confidently now that there is more representation and visibility!

[@noraleigh424]

I'm in the same boat!

[@capitolbreeze]

I didn’t realize I was until I was 29/30. Mostly because I didn’t know it was a sexuality. So happy I found out and can live my truth now.

[@noraleigh424]

It can add a difficult element in a relationship with my allosexual partner, which is the main reason I wish I'd figured it out sooner, so I'm glad this video is out there so others can learn in a way that I didn't.

[@haleywinters8096]

Same I’m in my. 20s and thought I was a freak because I wasn’t interested in doing the devils tango. Didn’t know what ace was until 2020

[@tesegiwa-amu5481]

This made me cry. I'm aro grey-ace and it made me so happy finally see someone who is exactly like me, especially another black girl. It made me feel more valid in my identity. Thank you!

[@nancycampuzano7266]

You have no idea, NO IDEA HOW THIS HELPED ME RIGHT NOW. I recently found out I'm asexual, but then I thought... "What now? I'm going to be alone my whole life??... I'm so young, lol... damn" I was falling in an anxiety hole, a seriously bad one. So this helped me a lot. And it seems to me that maybe I'm gray or demi. THANK YOU SO MUCH.

[@niambiwalker1280]

I LOVE THAT THERES SOMEONE IN THIS VIDEO WHO IS PANROMANTIC HOMOSEXUAL IM LITERALLY CRYING RIGHT NOW

[@Daleysouth]

🥰🥰🥰

[@mayam.235]

what does it mean

[@ihavenoidea2805]

@@mayam.235 you're romantically attracted to people regardless of gender but sexually you're only attracted to the same gender

[@mayam.235]

@@ihavenoidea2805 no I'm not

[@ihavenoidea2805]

@@mayam.235 i- ok

[@narnarbelair9710]

I’m sorry, but the “sexual shenanigans” bit was brilliant. I almost choked. Hilarious 🤣

[@mayazeigler7387]

😂 same she was my favorite

[@Grace-mr1gr]

haha yes! I saw your comment as she was saying it! Legit LOL moment.

[@マーロンくんxX_Marlongamerjuice_X]

"Ah, yes, I, too, am looking for the so called "sexual intercourse" you speak of."

[@samf1545]

As soon as she said that I heard the 1960s batman scene change theme! I have no idea why, but it was awesome🤣

[@tatsf]

She cracked me up!

[@mariegracebrabandt8028]

Wow! Eye opening. My therapist just mentioned asexual to me today. I'm 60. So much makes sence to me now. Thank you!

[@Obstpflanze]

These people all seem so knowledgeable and wise, I wanna see them make a podcast or something. This was such an insightful and desperately needed video. Thank you for making this!

[@rebekka8887]

Woaah I didn't know people could be sexually gay but romantically pan, I believe I'm sexually bi but romantically straight tbh, my life makes so much more sense now

[@PrettyPRChickTV]

Completely off topic... Can we gets the deets on Divinity’s hair??? Twist out, weave, wig??? Sis is serving!!! 🔥🔥

[@babyv2992010]

Right I need a tutorial!

[@cortnikirk3214]

If it's her own hair its definitely perm rods!!!

[@PrettyPRChickTV]

@@babyv2992010 It’s a wig. I hit her up on IG. She has her own wig line.

[@PrettyPRChickTV]

@@cortnikirk3214 It’s a wig. I hit her up on IG. She has her own wig line.

[@babyv2992010]

@@PrettyPRChickTV thanks for letting me know!!

[@MikkiMagic]

I was 13 when I understood that I was asexual. I was 21 and in a committed relationship, with my now husband, before I understood that I am demi/grey. It took a lot of healing and research after I was sexually assisted at 18. This video is so comforting to know I'm not alone 🖤

[@MrKashifdon]

The young woman with the gray hair is named Daily South, she was in this relationship with this guy who was “vampire” for a number of years in Austin. I always wondered what happened to her. She looks so happy here. Good for her 👍🏽

[@anandiganguly3086]

I'm sorry she was with a vampire?

[@delightfullemon7492]

I was wondering if that was her!! She really does seem happy and fulfilled 😊

[@Daleysouth]

Hi that's me! I am poly amd still married to my husband Logan who i actually talk about in this interview. Thanks!

[@MrKashifdon]

@@Daleysouth i saw an interview with you both a couple years ago and you always seemed like a cool person. Happy to hear you are doing well 😊

[@Daleysouth]

@@MrKashifdon Thank you! I definitely am. Have 4 amazing partners now including my husband. Just waiting for it to be safe again so we can continue traveling 🥰

[@starsupontheland]

I'm a simple person. I see aspec representation, I click.

[@jenniferwillis2611]

I am 45. Always knew since I was little that I didn't want someone in my life sexually. I always knew I would be a good mom but no relationship. Fast forward to high school. Thought I found someone I had a connection with. Found out I was pregnant..got married. Found out he was undiagnosed bi polar and controlling. Had another child. Was with him for almost 21 years when I finally put myself before anyone else and asked for a divorce. It took my 18 year old son at the time to helpe realize that I wasn't broken and to understand myself better. I always have talked to my son's about everything and to finally get some clarity was life changing. M more grateful to them than they will ever know and this is the first time I have ever aknowledged this publicly. Thank you to anyone who reads this.. it just felt good to get it out❤️❤️ I AM NOT BROKEN 🙏🙏🙏

[@Hi-ql3cq]

trying to say “maybe you haven’t found the right person”, or “maybe you’re just too young” to an asexual person is like trying to make a gay person straight.

[@Raynabananas]

Growing up I thought it was normal to only want to do "stuff" with people you were really attracted to. So it always shocked me when I had friends who had one night stands or random hook ups.... then I realised something must be wrong with me? When I crushed on people I always just wanted to hang out with them a lot, I never had any daydreams of sexual stuff.

[@chelseasfilms22]

That’s because it is normal! There’s nothing wrong with others hooking up, but because our culture is extremely hypersexual, we’re made to think that wanting to wait or not feeling it right away is “wrong.” I know ace/Demi is different than simply waiting but I’m pretty sure even many allosexuals aren’t in to hooking up and want to wait it out and perhaps see how their attraction develops. Also there’s allosexuals with low libido and asexuals with high libido it’s all attraction based.

[@ItsSimplyAless]

yes. yes. this. this is what i feel. i don’t get the hype and excitement of this hyper sexual culture we have in this society

[@stephanieb5116]

im kind of disappointed they didnt show ace men representation

[@nashlier5390]

Omg is this... Representation??! 💜

[@ksnow983]

I don't understand people that get offended by asexuality. "How dare you not sleep with anyone!!"

[@NickolaofBusk]

I love that there are so many different people in this and different ages. Ace is not new.

[@sojjuwuu]

i dont feel alone anymore 😭😭😭😭

[@MorganMcCauley11]

My people! It is so good to see this! I love you all!

[@sleepyqueer]

oh gosh just thank you for this and thank you for all the people who spoke in the video. i’ve identified as asexual for awhile and hearing all these similar experiences just made me feel so validated. i’ve been feeling particularly “broken” recently, and this just helped me remember i’m not alone

[@reallifejoke7877]

This was very educative! I'm a straight women but I really enjoy learning about the different kinds of sexualities cause I can be more understanding and aware! Thank you!

[@spideyxalmighty695]

I'm not asexual, far from it, but this video... I loved this video, I feel like I learned a lot and this definitely answered a lot of questions I've had in my mind for a while, so thank you very much for this

[@lokatla8261]

Thank you very much for your awareness ! How would you describe sexual attraction ? How does it feel like ?

[@ElshiBumcfksz]

The best way I can describe being ace as an artistic person and former makeup worker is seeing people as pretty canvas. I have this affinity for androgenic faces, especially pretty boys with delicate features. When I like someone I would really love to set them down on a makeup chair and paint their pretty face, add glitter blush and accessories and create certain cometimes bold looks. I constantly admire beautiful faces and bodies. When I like a certain style on someone I look at them like they are pretty doll/painting. Besides the personality of course which just adds to the physical attributes so much more. And I want to stargaze with that person, share stories, discuss deep topics and maybe when the attraction is strong- hold hands, cuddle, kiss and even more, but that really happens once in a blue moon, almost never. I am 30 and I feel content with the thought that I may never find someone compatible with me. There is really not a lot of people who react positively to me being ace.

[@emmaal6004]

I’ve just learned more information from this video: than I ever have from 10 years of school

[@marsincharge]

YES. 👏 As a fellow Demisexual, I am SO glad we are getting some representation out here! I'm so glad you guys made a video to further inform and educate others on this.

[@saumyachaturvedi9065]

I could connect myself with the blue-haired girl. Her thoughts were so matching with mine. Please take care.

[@andyrose4299]

I thought being asexual just meant feeling nothing at all. This really helped me understand more about what being asexual means. I actually relate to some of the things these people said so maybe I’m ace too who knows 🤷‍♀️

[@caseyfinnegan4139]

All of these people are beautiful! I feel like this topic is not talked about enough, and not many people know about it. Thank you for bringing awareness!

[@OoOoOSHINYOoOoO]

Divinity has the best hair I have ever seen

[@Polly1905]

Yes! But it's not just the hair, she is absolutely gorgeous ♥️

[@emilleanthonette]

It was so liberating finding out about Demi-Asexuality! I thought there was something wrong with me for being unable to crush on someone so easily.

[@rachelhalverson5653]

I’m so so so happy this video is here. It’s helpful to hear all of these perspectives. I just ended a relationship with someone I loved very much and they loved me very much but I suspect is on the asexual spectrum. We didn’t have the tools we needed to continue our relationship. I hope he can someday see this video or find more information and support because he’s an amazing person who deserves happiness, love, and whatever it is he desires. This goes for anyone reading this comment ❤️

[@geministar6167]

Being the thirst trap that I am!! Go off sis

[@a.benavente8130]

I was so confused for YEARS and never felt more understood than after watching this video! I literally felt broken in my current relationship and last but it's definitely more than that. It's that deep connection which I figured that part out on my own but to feel like there is actually a community of people that feel the same way! ❤❤

[@hollythiel9483]

Finally people are talking about asexuallity

[@shayorihalder7202]

I identify mostly as bisexual but consider myself as queer because there are so many of these things being said here that I resonate with and the older I'm growing the more I'm understanding that my sexuality is complex and I'm only beginning to tap the surface of of its complexities and I'm learning more about myself.

[@sarahcarrier5118]

I really appreciated them all sharing! As a birth worker I'm always trying to expand my knowledge and be a safe place for everyone.

[@MartaVelez0108]

: this level of honesty is what I wish people would be open to. Just honest, vulnerable, non-judgmental conversation!

[@slinkywhippet]

This video is so important! Thank you to everyone who shared with us, it means the world! 💜💛💙💚❤

[@Waterflame]

Ace rep, and polyam rep? Yes, please!!

[@DanielleSalerno831]

I'm glad this video was made. Maybe it wouldn't have taken me so long to figure out my sexuality if I knew more about this years ago!

[@taylorrobert9495]

"just because I'm asexual, doesn't mean I don't have sexuality"

[@benjaminberman6200]

It actually... does If words have meanings

[@themindfulmoron3790]

@@benjaminberman6200 No it doesn't. A sexual orientation is a sexual orientation, even if it's oriented around nothing.

[@CRBungalow]

@@themindfulmoron3790 A means not in scientific language, so yes Asexual means no sexuality.

[@themindfulmoron3790]

@@CRBungalow If the rest of our scientific vocabulary was even remotely that consistent, I'd agree, but it isn't.

[@bluestreamstarot9140]

I can’t thank you enough for this video. It’s rare to see someone talk about asexuality 👏🏾

[@kmart1396]

I need this video, I didn't know I needed it, but wow did I need this reassurance from other aroaces and aces!!

[@slflew]

I love the diversity in this video and feel validated. Being asexual can feel isolating sometimes!

[@7voidfemme7]

I'm so glad this video exists. Its nice to see us talking openly about it. Also hype to see another grey-ace black person 🥺

[@colehartel7206]

I just love the fact that, in a video specifically about asexuality, someone makes a Bojack Horseman reference, but it's about Vincent Adultman instead of the asexual character Todd!

[@rorygiambalvo2955]

It's comforting to understand that you can have a high libido and be aroused easily, but that doesn't always equal a desire for sexual contact with that person, even if they're the one arousing you. Like, I am super easily aroused by things like kissing and nonsexual touching, but I have no real interest in acting on it with that person.

[@janelarson1812]

Just throwing out a couple more terms that you might find relevant: lithosexual , aegosexual

[@rorygiambalvo2955]

@@janelarson1812 Thanks! Just looked into them and I think aego describes me kinda well!

[@stRAINEge]

Love that an aromantic person was included. I would like to see a video on that, since aromaticism confuses a lot of people as well. It’s also often associated with being asexual, despite not always being the case.

[@HazelnutCheerios03]

This video made me feel very validated. I identify as panromantic and demisexual

[@moonchi7]

This makes me feel so much better ;; They’re so eloquent saying exactly what I feel but can’t clearly put out in words. Thank you so much for this video!!

[@isabelj2118]

I think this is the first video that had allowed me to understand better this community, even if I don't belong to them it's important to understand, accept, include...Everyone else as how they are no matter what

[@disco_froggo]

I am so happy about the overwhelmingly possitive comments :D I'm used to people saying ace/aro people aren't valid

[@tanatyler7091]

Thank you all for being open!!! I didn’t know that there were many ways to be asexual and felt inauthentic claiming it as my “label” I guess, this was so helpful!!

[@nidoquienn]

When i started identifying as an asexual, i always knew being in a open or polyamorous relationship is an option. And our community, being as colorful as it is, it would mean different genders and sexualities would be in the mix. However, it did not occur to my mind that an asexual woman and a homosexual man could be partners. And thats just so validating for me idk. Seeing this dynamic is so inspiring(?) thank you sm for sharing your stories

[@malenihernandezvazquez2779]

It’s just so nice to have this especially kinda being in the phase of like everyone around me kinda doing this stuff and getting very sexual and I’m just like :/ nah... thanks thou. I feel I might be on the spectrum but I’m still just so confused and don’t know where I would start or if it’s true. It’s be nice to find a label I’m secure in but on the other hand I’m not very good with labels because I’m so nervous with the strict guide lines that come with it, makes me feel like I have to fit them. But I’m glad we’re showing so much more of the diversity behind sexuality and making videos educating people like this and busting myths and such. Thank y’all so much :)

[@Gandellion]

I identify as asexual, so this is so cool!

[@Gandellion]

So personally, I have gone out with the intent to get laid but 99% of the time it doesn’t cross my mind. It’s hard to express like, I feel like I want it but I never think about it..

[@sweetvegancheese]

this video is just everything that's good out there on the internet packed up in 11 minutes. funny, beautiful, truthful, inspiring... thank you for this!!!

[@hayleykitto6909]

Polyamorous asexual just makes so much sense lol

[@ebs616]

ive watched a bunch of videos on asexuality, and have NEVER felt more represented than i do by this video. THANK YOU for this. thank you for sharing, thank you for making this.

[@ravenwalter8727]

Finding a partner who will listen to my trauma and my needs and wants to make me feel whole instead of in need of fixing is everything.

[@lirekoqhobela4439]

Thank you so much for this video! Such a deep sigh of relief to know that there are people out there who share similar experiences and/or ways of being in the world.

[@KIARALOVES]

*I'm 18 years of age and I am aromantic asexual... for a long time I never new there was a word to describe apart of me but it makes me feel good to know even though labels shouldn't matter that there are people out there like myself tons and tons of people as a matter of fact and I'm glad...there is a spectrum to everything in life and we all are here supporting each other through it the best way we can!!!! I'm in a happy long term relationship with my best friend ...I only been with him and hes been my bestfriend since I was 13 years old. Known him for some years before we even got together and realized its okay if I happen to only fall for one person in my whole entire life as well. ... and I have so much confidence and happiness knowing I'm okay and that I am who I am and being alone can be very amazing but if you happen to find that person for you then that's great as well!!!!! Good job everyone for the life journey of your self discovery!!! Wish you all over all peace and happiness for your health and well being♡* 💓💓💓🦋