8 Boundaries With The Opposite Sex In Marriage. Do You Agree?

[@drwyattfisher]

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[@GBU61]

Any woman who has a male friend(s) is never to be taken seriously by me. If I am with her I am the only non-family man in her life. No exceptions! If I am her man she should never want another man to share anything with in the first place. Nothing good comes out of it and if she ever has issue with my boundaries she won’t be in a relationship with me. It is up to the man to set and enforce boundaries if she is going to take him seriously.

[@drwyattfisher]

Glad to hear of your boundaries! Ideally both partners buy into the same boundaries so they can be a unified front.

[@bikerboy9010]

This is an excellent video and a very informative video with great advice. I definitely 100% agree how people need to be extremely careful when it comes to opposite sex friends when married. I don't think it's a sin for a married person to have opposite sex friends, and I don't think it's a sin for a married person to have close friends of the opposite sex, but married people shouldn't have friendships of the opposite sex that are "too close", and married people shouldn't put themselves in tempting situations with opposite sex friends that can easily lead to an affair. A lot of times when people have affairs, they say things like "I didn't mean for it to happen; it just happened". Those kinds of things happen when people put themselves in tempting situations that can easily lead to an affair. It's very important to have reasonable safeguards in marriage to help prevent things like adultery from occurring. Without reasonable safeguards in marriage, it's extremely easy for an affair to take place. Examples of good reasonable safeguards to have in marriage are avoiding having opposite friendships that are "too close", not spending too much time alone with someone of the opposite sex, ideally hanging out with opposite sex friends in group settings instead of 1 on 1 settings, not having an opposite sex friend over your house when you're home alone, and not going over an opposite sex friend's house when they are home alone. If a married man has a female friend who is having marriage problems, and the female friend wants to talk to the married man about her marriage problems, it's best for the female friend to talk to the married man and his wife together or a married man and a trusted friend together about the marriage problems instead of the female friend and married man together alone talking about the marriage problems because when a woman is having marriage problems, she's extremely vulnerable for committing adultery. When a married man and female friend are alone together talking about marriage problems, it can easily cause the female friend to feel like she's falling in love with another man, it can easily lead to an unhealthy emotional attachment, etc, which can cause an affair to occur. I do think if a man has a platonic female best friend and the man gets married, the man can still be friends with that woman, but their friendship won't be the same as it was before due to being married, and the man can't be best friends with that woman anymore since when a man gets married, the man's wife is the man's best friend.

[@drwyattfisher]

Thank you for adding your thoughtful and insightful tips!

[@britneytran588]

What are your thoughts on platonic relationships?

[@drwyattfisher]

HI Britney, they only work if both partners desire a platonic relationship.