8 Reasons Why I Stayed Married After Betrayal

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Lynn shares both her healthy and unhealthy reasons for staying and how they saw her through to the other side. Lynn Marie Cherry is also author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal. (amzn.to/2d97kaa)
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[@karenn6781]

It’s very different when your spouse cheats once but when it’s consistent it’s really hard

[@PJHEATERMAN]

I didn't divorce my wife despite the painful things she did and how she did them. At the time we had 3 children a mortgage and car payment. I didn't want to destroy our 13 years together. We are now at 33 years of marriage but i still suffer bouts of PTSD. Once my wife gave her body to another man it changed the dynamics of the marriage. It's like a part of her was taken from me and we are not entirely whole.

[@Bumbledora]

Same here. I stayed with my husband, but I do have PTSD (PISD) after hus betrayal. So I know the feeling. Take care 🌹

[@rickycazares5262]

The trauma is unreal but like you i as a man imo its lolinier since most therapy,vids n articles etc are for women that have been betrayed nonetheless, male or female as the betrayed it still is severe trauma . Got to stay strong and love self 🙏.

[@kerrymillar1267]

I get that, for me it was the giving of his heart. It will never be pure again.

[@rachellelapierre1846]

How have you managed to get through all of these years?

[@user-iq5xi7cn9k]

@@rachellelapierre1846We haven’t, we slowly die inside, lose self respect and gradually decent into self hatred

[@mikepayne1350]

Life is too short to stay and spend 10 years wondering if they are doing it again.

[@MonaMona-cn5zw]

I could never forgive because every day I see his face I will remember his betrayal. If I stayed LOYAL, I expect him to stay loyal. Many times I have felt attracted in one way or another to another man but guess what? I love my husband so I remove myself from any situation where my actions could be questioned. I EXPECT THE SAME FROM HIM.

[@lynnmariecherry]

We all expect fidelity from our spouse. It is a painful process, and I really struggled with the whole idea of forgiveness for a long time. It felt like I was saying I was okay with what happened and I was not okay. I've learned a lot about what forgiveness is and isn't. I've come to believe that forgiveness is not about forgetting what they have done. Forgiveness is about letting go of bitterness so I can be free. It's honestly less about him and more about me! That being said, forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. If we want our relationship restored we need an admission or confession of the wrong doing and a change of behavior. It's pretty miraculous - but it happens.

[@mfawls9624]

@@lynnmariecherry Very well put. All I would add is that some resentment or anger, unforgiven, is probably the deep root of his affair. Forgiving people at peace with themselves do not have affairs.

[@games4music]

You never ever forget that your spouse betrayed you, meanwhile you were Loyal & Faithfull The pain is too deep

[@GordonPavilion]

Forgiveness will let you free.

[@janeallgood9833]

right? like how many times do you get hit on in a day? every time you go in public? lol. they don't appreciate how often we turn down offers in respect to them. the best i could do to stay would be to walk around knowing i had a free pass for whenever i needed it ;)

[@dinneratlacees1079]

This is the most realistic reasons I’ve seen yet. So emotional and so real. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@camman6912]

I tried and tried after I found out my ex cheated on me in a romance scam and I forgave her but her way of handling it was by chatting with other men online I tried to get her to go to church with me and marriage counseling but she wouldn't It's only when I started losing self respect that I filed for divorce There comes a time when you need to move on

[@lynnmariecherry]

I always say that it takes one person two forgive, but it takes two people to reconcile a relationship. I'm sorry that your ex wasn't willing or capable of doing the work of recovery. I love what I read recently in an article online - that if the cost of saving a marriage is destroying a spouse the cost is too high. I"m glad you are moving on and I hope you invest all the time you need to fully recover.

[@lynnmariecherry]

It takes two people to reconcile a relationship. We can't make decisions for our spouses. I wish you well in your moving on!

[@susanhaines3153]

Be thankful for the choice to stay. It hurts so much to be rejected and abandoned. I can only imagine the hard work and humility you had to call upon to work it out. Good job!

[@kristenorrett4683]

Staying to be a witness to his freedom and seeing the fruits of change were mighty powerful reasons.

[@karinteeples6517]

Amen!! I’m in this exact season with my husband suffering Porn addiction for 40 years. He is now waking in true freedom!!! With work, bringing it out into the light, God delivered him into freedom!!🙌🏻

[@janeallgood9833]

these are the most depressing, infuriating reasons to stay i ever imagined. i thought this was going to be upbeat and optimistic, but it just solidifies my stance that i could never stay after such a disrespectful act. couldn't live with myself or him. buh bye. you're a more compassionate woman than i, but i don't have kids, so i'm sure that anchors you to him pretty devastatingly. glad it worked out for you =)

[@brittmelt]

(A year later) I completely agree 😬 I was looking for inspiration, but I did not find it here. I hope you are doing well by the way. 😊

[@tracysoto8608]

Facing the aftermath of infidelity is my daily struggle. I first discovered my fiance was having a sexual relationship with a fellow co worker was after 3 weeks of giving birth to his child. After that shocking and almost crippling discovery, I found out he had cheated multiple times in the 4 years I invested in that piece of shit. I still feel like im drowning in hatred, pain, betrayal, disgust, loss, regret. Then he has the audacity to bring the bible into conversation, and voice that God forgives all. Thus, its ok and God has forgiven him so then I should be able to. I'm sorry, I'm not God. His lies and cheating ways, ripped a hole in my heart and soul. And murdered our trust, and once loving home. Everything just seems like a lie. I don't believe anything! I just want to be able to breathe again without this heavy weight collapsing my chest.

[@lynnmariecherry]

Tracy my heart is breaking as I read your comment. The pain is so deep. My gut tells me that your fiance could have some sort of sexual addiction. It is inconceivable to say God forgives and therefore all is well. Most likely he needs treatment and will need help reprogramming this habit pattern in his brain over time. (Yes, God forgives. But that doesn't negate the consequences of our actions or the suffering of people affected by our mistakes!) Trust is only rebuilt when the wounded partner sees behavior change. It IS possible with accountability and the hard work of recovery. Until then, I encourage you to work on your own healing. Betrayal causes real trauma. . I hope you'll consider the Harboring Hope class through AffairRecovery.com - it was a life saver for me! I am praying for you. There is a way through this pain

[@hcc7691]

Even God forgives when there is a true repentance... and that shows itself with a change in behavior. Fruists of repentance as described my John the baptist if you want to quote the bible.

[@lucyfannn7863]

I feel the exact same way.. I feel trapped and I fear it will never get better.. Honestly I feel like I'm only staying for the children. Infidelity is the death of a relationship, no matter how hard you try to make it like it was, its never going to happen. I understand the pain, hatred, disgust, loss and regret. I feel that no matter what I do, I will never find a honest faithful man anyway and I just stick around till my kids are grown so I can just be alone. I am bitter and very jaded about love now and I just wish it never happened. I am so sorry for how things turned out for you and how you feel. And sorry I wasn't of any help but I just wanted you to know you're not alone!

[@lynnmariecherry]

You are right in that we can never go back to how things were after infidelity. I remember feeling so hopeless and jaded, believing that if I left my husband every other man on the planet had some sort of secret life and I'd have to wait for that be be uncovered. It hurts so much. Is your husband willing to get help? Have you looked at the EMSO program at affairrecovery.com? If he isn't willing, I recommend you check out Harboring Hope group for betrayed spouses. Having support and knowing you are not alone is huge. I hate that thought of you just existing in this marriage until the kids are grown. I believe there is hope for you. I am praying for you!

[@tommym.6048]

If he does not feel bad at all then he dont deserve you!

[@jhn146A]

Don't ever be ashamed of being super spiritual. My wife had strayed once before and I always said if she ever did it again I was going to divorce her. Her first incident was an emotional affair with one of her best friends husband. When I discovered my had a sexual affair with a co-worker, a sense of calm came over me and I could feel the loving peace that only Jesus can give us. And I know I Heard a Voice as audible as a voice can be tell me you're not going to leave her you're going to help her come to me. I know that was Christ speaking to me.

[@mfawls9624]

Absolutely. Jesus was very clear on marriage. I looked at my vows and noticed that they are not a contract of "if you" or " as long as you". The vows are unilateral. They are what I will do, they are not conditional on the other's actions or inaction. That was very clear in looking at the language of them. One of the keys to marriage is that we are to be helping each other get to heaven. I don't know how at this point but that doesn't change because it seemingly got tougher to do. Recently someone reminded me that this world is a battleground between good and evil and that any strategy for winning involves weakening the basic structures, the building blocks of the other side. Marriage and family are the root of life and light, so of course they are attacked. More vehemently when they are more potentially stronger. With that in mind it became easier to take a long view and to distance myself from the personal Carnage and anger. Yes, she did this and did not hold her position against the enemy, but we can now be overrun or we can hold and fill the breach. She is out of the fight at the moment, shell shocked or whatever but hasn't left the battlefield and God doesn't abandon the wounded even when they wave him away. If/when I calm down and listen he has a way to get to her. Like Desmond Doss in Hacksaw Ridge I just have to be courageous or stupid enough to go out for just one more.

[@danielpolk5133]

@@mfawls9624 wow. Very brave. Very strong.

[@brooklynalexander2452]

I feel the same in many ways. My feet tied to my marriage and I can't run away. I feel like God gave the very let know one split what God has put together. My husband affair partner tried to convince him and me that divorce was the best for us and our son. The devil really does come in all forms including middle school nurse aid who pooches other people's spouse in order to leave their own marriage.

[@marliesyanke4580]

I stayed because of financial security

[@johnd.hollandivd.c.4449]

Children, I stayed for them

[@michellecook-hill431]

I stayed for both. For 5 years after The first disclosure. And then I left and got my own apartment because I was only sick when I was home, not when I was traveling. I was out on my own for two months and started having very prophetic dreams about everything that they had done and how the first reveal was bubblegum. That was July 2020 there been five reveals since then, the latest being last week. I don’t know how much more I can take. Their affair lasted five years she was my best friend everything happened in our home. He had zero respect for me. Still swears he loves me. I believe covert narcissism, because he is a wonderful kind gentle human…

[@glorysanders784]

Lynn, you are a beautiful soul and an inspiration. You are speaking from my own heart in a time where I am on the precipice of self-destruction. Everything you are saying is so relevant and you are speaking all of things reasons I could never fully articulate. The type of betrayal is not the same but the hurt is still the same. I loved the reason, "God asked me to stay" which is the one reason that most people cannot wrap their heads around. Thank you for your testimony. I needed to hear it right at this moment.

[@lynnmariecherry]

Glory - thank you for taking the time to comment. I'm so glad you found this video helpful. Praying for you!

[@lynnmariecherry]

Thank you for taking the time to comment, it is so fulfilling to know this video is still connecting with people two years down the road. I am praying for you!

[@gremlin7264]

This!!!!

[@cherylbaker3353]

You are a great communicator I really enjoyed your video it was just wonderful you really have a gift of communication and I’m so happy for your healing

[@esmme55]

I’m still healing. I gave myself and out marriage a year to decide if I stay or go. We are working on it, we go to therapy. I try to understand him why he did it, i still can’t. Every day all day that’s all I think off. Would they have contact today, are they going to spark up what is supposably over? I love him but I love myself more, I can not live like this the rest of my life.

[@StephiiLoVa90]

Hi, I am in this boat right now and if you can please give me some insight on how you handled it and how is it working for you?

[@LDT7Y]

Some people are unable to be monogamous with anyone. I realised much later that he was one of those people. It isn't a reflection on you. They just crave the novelty of new partners and that will never change. At least not until they are much older and most of your lives are over. If you are okay with an open relationship, then that can maybe work. But otherwise I would move on and find someone who can do 1-on-1. Even if your partner never physically cheats again, he/she will always be looking/thinking/talking to other partners. I know that despite my ex saying he was truly sorry and wouldn't do it again, that craving would always be there.

[@saisawant1228]

Lol this just gave me 8 reasons to end relationships after cheating.

[@mariesavannah2369]

Its easy to love someone in good time but when the heard time come that where our true character and love is reveal for others AND THAT WHAT GOD WANT TO EACH US

[@millsykooksy4863]

Marie Savannah Truth!!

[@kelenl5033]

I say yes to trying and pray that God show you to see if your spouse really want to change. I forgave over and over again, just like Hosea. Believing with God, all things are possible, God hates divorce and to give heritage to my children. These believes can trap us with only us trying to hold it together. Check his garden, do you see his fruits, there are none or fake ones.I woke up after 29 yrs. learning there are true malignant narcissist. I had to let this hard hearted man go on his own journey with his maker. My heart and head are still trying to understand why I stayed so long to believe love can conquer all. Please use wisdom. I am still trying to process the loss.

[@jamlagunzad7030]

So inspiring. I do pray that I can do same thing as you do. You turn your bitterness into what is God wants you to do in your married life.

[@warriorwoman780]

This video really inspired me. I thank you so much for posting it. If it wasn't for anyone else in this world it was truly for me. God bless you I know that God can do it.

[@lynnmariecherry]

It was for you! Thank you for taking the time to comment!

[@DesireeStamat]

thank you for sharing your testimony. I am a year and a half out from a similar disclosure in my own marriage. I feel like our reasons healthy and not are extremely similar. (down to the definition of eve that was preached about during church) It makes me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing. I have been in an intensive period of self care and bible study/devotion and thankful that the initial excruciating pain has and is receeding. I hope to eventually share my story.

[@lynnmariecherry]

Desiree - thank you so much for sharing! I'm so glad you feel less alone - that is a game changer for all of us! If your resonate with my journey - you may enjoy my book Keep Walking 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal

[@lynnmariecherry]

Desiree - thank you for sharing! Self-care is such a critical step in recovery. I'm so glad the pain is receeding!

[@crimsondove3712]

I have been thinking the same thing. I was questioning if the reason I stayed was good enough but you give me hope because I truly feel like God is asking me to stay this course and be there for my husband. And walk with my husband through his infedelity. I truly feel like God is asking me to walk through this pain with my husband.

[@faizasaeed1000]

Hi are you still with him

[@carolerbph.d3567]

Wonderful video its very helpful...

[@snowqtee]

You give me hope🙏🏼

[@lauralinneman9533]

This is so good,has helped me a lot.

[@vijikumar2088]

Thank you this came at a time when I needed to hear this part and am unable to decide but now I think I got the answer god really does want me to stay in this marriage. Thank you so much

[@offroadchixrule]

Just purchased your book. Some of your reasons mirror mine.

[@thesetruths1404]

I related to all of these. I didn't hear this one; maybe I missed it multitasking: I adored my wife and thought she was the Moon's-glow-incarnate before the affair, and I couldn't let that go especially since she disclosed the situation to me and didn't have to, because I was clueless. I felt she did an honorable thing, even though in hindsight, I would have rather have been clueless! Lol

[@JC-yf3tc]

I am happy for you!

[@aruna007in]

I have been through the same reasoning to be with my husband and not sure if I did the right thing but I have faith in God. I am under therapy and it has helped me to an extent.

[@lynnmariecherry]

I am so glad you are getting therapy. I know it make a huge difference for me. Please check out the Harboring Hope class at AffairRecovery.com

[@hdw237]

I'm sure she didn't mean to make it so depressing but this video really is. I'm choosing to stay with my unfaithful husband. And like the lady in the video I have to accept this lot in life. My husband will never be faithful. He will never find me attractive. He will never feel bad for betraying me and exposing me to diseases. Like her, I will bow my head and accept this for my kids.

[@Bumbledora]

I agree. Depressing, but right now, although I love my husband, decided to stay in the marriage after his betrayal, I feel like I'm in a black hole of depression and anxiety. I don't trust him at all. But I'm staying for several reasons. Yes, family is one reason. Hugs to you 🌹

[@mariahhinderager9670]

You referenced your book… I’m not tech savvy, could you add a link or tell me how to find it? What is the title? Would you have stayed if your husband hadn’t been as willing to make an effort towards reconciliation? Also, since you’re very public and open about this… Did you ever have any shame regarding what he had done? If so, how did you get over that? The fact that people know is beyond mortifying. I just want to crawl in a hole and die and I can’t get past it for some reason. I’m learning to forgive and working through all of the other crap but thinking about how my friends and family view me now is just so horrifying. I feel so misunderstood. I really thought I was a great wife and he never lacked for ANYTHING. Yet people probably think otherwise and that thought is awful!!!! I wish I could disappear. How do you have such confidence? I know that I’m clothed in “strength and dignity” but it sure doesn’t feel like it...

[@SouthernBelleReviews]

God this video is so relatable

[@teresawalter1393]

Thank you for this. I needed to hear that another woman stayed for the exact same reasons that I did! I know I've always questioned if I stayed for the right reasons and if I correctly heard God speak.

[@SippenSomeTea]

Update?

[@nata9832]

Lynn thank you very much for sharing your story. You are very honest and it's very very helpful. God bless you and your family.

[@lynnmariecherry]

I'm so glad you found it helpful!

[@DebiSilber]

Betrayal leaves deep, long-lasting scars that can stay with us for years, even decades. So, how do we move past it? How can we heal? More importantly, can we ever trust again?

[@fazeelalaher6250]

God bless you you have a very big heart

[@lynnmariecherry]

Thank you. I have a healed heart!

[@elizabethholt9464]

Thank you

[@sumipeter6813]

My kids and I dont have finance or family whom to go to. But it's right the thoughts and distrust dont stop

[@reyemilymendoza3966]

I found out my husband cheated on me for years when he was still my bf. it broke me. but i forgive him. and then now, last year. around december, i found out he is flirting with the same woman. again. i feel so betrayed. i feel so jaded and i feel that i cannot love the way i did before. i forgive him again. but i promise myself there will not be a third time. i do not think i can do it all over again. i want retribution for the pain they cause me. i know it is wrong. the woman, she knows about me. she knows about our son, and yet, she keeps on having an affair with my husband. i really want her to be in my shoes and feel my pain. mu husband too.

[@lynnmariecherry]

I understand your desire for retribution. That is something we all feel when there is injustice. The best plan is to trust God with that. He said, "Vengeance is mine." I think that is a warning for us to release our desire for retribution to him. And I want to say one thing about forgiveness....forgiveness is not the same thing as reconciliation. You can choose to forgive your husband but unless you take the time to process what happened and the broken parts in his life that lead him down this familiar path, reconciliation will be difficult. I encourage you to check out the programs at affairrecovery.com God used them in my marriage to move us from coping and pretending to restoration. . I am praying for you.

[@reyemilymendoza3966]

Lynn Cherry I hope, I still have the strength to save this relationship. going back, when he was still my bf, I remember the times, a lot of times, he took me.for.granted. I am pretty sure, he is with that girl.

[@lynnmariecherry]

I feel your heart ache. I am praying for you that you will see a next step. You may consider reading my book. It contains the thoughts and promises from the Bible that helped me move forward through the pain. There is a link in the video description.

[@Amber-ld3cx]

Rey Emily Mendoza I found out that was husband was cheating when we were "dating" also, two months before we got married.

[@lynnmariecherry]

Amber, I am truly sorry for the heart ache this caused you. I hope that you were able to work through it together and move forward.

[@Bumbledora]

I'm staying in my marriage too after my husband's infidelity. 1. I feel like I have no choice because I've been home with the kids whilst he made a career. So, I really don't have any economy of my own really. Plus, I still love that m*r*n. 2. I want my family to be a family not divided. 3. Although not religious, I do believe in our marriage vows. I'm not an atheist but spiritual. 4. My husband works with me in mending our marriage and I do know he really loves me. Well, I could probably come up with more reasons. Great video! I don't feel alone in staying in a marriage after an affair. 🌹

[@susanhaines3153]

I love the video but the main reason is you were given the possibility to stay. When you have no voice no options it’s different and more painful

[@sunve4240]

Im in this situation right now ! Just recently I found out my husband cheated on me to the woman who also married and he hide it for a longer period he just admit it when I found their conversation. I felt so hurt 😭😭😭 I couldn’t eat,I couldn’t sleep! I can’t stop crying 😭😭😭I even try to end mylife😭😭😭😭I want to end our relationship cause its nonsense to continue because My Trust and respect to him was already gone 😭😭😭 I don’t know if im still love him 😭😭😭what Im feeling right now is so much pain! I felt so disgusted to look at him 😖 He begged me to give him a chance to make the things right! He said that he never love that woman! How can I believed Him he hide his affair for longer period of time and they have continues communications and the time that I don’t know anything I was begging for His Time and attention 😭😭😭thats why now whatever words that he said to me I won’t believed it anymore! 😭😭😭It so hard to stay with him cause I know our marriage will become miserable 😭😭😭

[@kalpanarai2665]

My situation is same with u...I found my husband is cheating me not once but several times..we have two babies..but u know sister I ll never leave him because he have to pay for this...he make me cry Infront of my innocent children...he have to pay for this..our God is living God who sees our struggle..he will restore our marriage more beautifully ever then before..

[@valerieatkins5841]

God asked me to stay 🙏 and I will be obedient until he says something different He's got my back

[@indym375]

That's how I feel scared and afraid cause whose to say you want go threw worst .....But I'm not convinced I could stay man its hard one I would have to pray Long and hard

[@lynnmariecherry]

Endy, no doubt it is a hard decision. One of the ways my fear was relieved is that when I confronted my husband, he was willing and engaged in getting help. It is scary and risky and there are no guarantees. I encourage betrayed spouses to give their relationship two years of therapy and support. Change is slow. If the relationship is healing and can be rebuilt all the work was worth it. If the relationship doesn't make it, at least you can be confident that you gave it every chance. Please check out the programs at affairrecovery.com

[@hkk__]

My husband went to a brothel 4 weeks after I gave birth to his child. He claims he went there and didnt do anything, because he kept thinking of me. However he tells his friends of how fun it was because she was so fit. He wants forgiveness for going to that place. I just cant trust him again... but i have his baby... what to do??

[@lynnmariecherry]

I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling and the turmoil of wondering what to do. Whether or not he did anything, trust is eroded. I encourage you to reach out to AffairRecovery.com There are many free resources there as well. I am praying for you and I hope you can find the courage and strength to enjoy your little one.

[@karenlacey4549]

I think we went from one extreme to another in the past you had to stay now everyone is expected to kick out the cheater or leave . We simply changed poles as a society once to keep self respect and honor people stayed now you "should" leave. I think each person must carefully think and pray over the situation then make the best choice for yourself are you safe saner or better together or seperate. Also if you can't afford a divorce but do not want them throw in the spare bedroom and explain " My trust in you is broken but I will not act the fool in front of my children this is your new room I am going celibate as I will not risk my health for you but if you cheat again it is done if we end up in the poor house from a divorce so be it!"

[@saundracohen4032]

👏👏👏

[@matinaki1644]

This is a reasonable reaction.

[@millicentevans9232]

I understand why you did.but it most of been very hard.

[@lalainevergara5546]

I felt for reason no. 7

[@marcuscompton7255]

Please pray my wife Ann not to go through with divorcing me. I do not want a divorce

[@goldielockks8421]

Marcus Compton some times we have to live with the consequences of our actions. Too often the betrayed spouse lives with them while the unfaithful keeps everything they "want" it isn't until they lose everything that they finally wake up and see the carnage around them and even then they change for a while and if they don't seek the right treatment, they will repeat the same behavior. You should focus on what you need to do to make sure that you get better. Even if the marriage is over, you have to make sure you never damage another woman.

[@rosaliemarie4620]

goldielockks, who said she was divorcing him for his betrayal????? It is she the one that found a new love and wants to divorce him. She cheated on Marcus.

[@morganfalkdesigns]

Praying...

[@doreen1289]

Way to many understanding people.

[@OCHUG456]

How can i contact through the same thing with my husband i love me him and want to fight the good faith for our marriage pls tell me how i can contact you?

[@lynnmariecherry]

Veronica, you can find me on facebook Lynn Marie Cherry, Author or on Instagram @lynnmariecherry

[@MichaGabriRaph19200]

🌺🌺🌾Beautiful ACT of GRACE 🌺🌺✝️

[@georyin872]

i am trying to stay too

[@sarahdeannetizzard2642]

no where you mention having love towards your husband. You mention being grateful you stayed but where is the love ? the trust ? are you constanly living with a little cloud of doubt over your head ?

[@lynnmariecherry]

Sarah - I actually talk about that in another video "It won't always feel this way" My husband and I enjoying a great marriage complete with love and trust! I can confidently say I do not life with a cloud of doubt over my head. I am a very empathetic person and I feel the pain others are suffering but I also live with a lot of hope that there is a way through!

[@nata9832]

Sarah it's because she loves him that she made many excuses to stay...most of the time in relationships because of our ego we never say the exact reason why we fight but most of the time we fight to love each other and most of the time we end up separating cause we don't know how to fight wisely.

[@jeremyi3443]

How did you do it? It's so hard right now. Me and my wife are going through an infidelity on my part. She is stonewalling me. Wants nothing to do with me. Very angry and hates me.

[@lynnmariecherry]

We had a season like that too! Patience and empathy from you will help. i recommend Samuel's blogs - I think you'll be able to relate! I am praying for you and your wife. You might also check out my book Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal. I could provide your wife with some hope for her journey. There is a link in the description

[@jeremyi3443]

Thank you! Lynn Cherry

[@cindycinn2724]

Love

[@morganfalkdesigns]

Jeremy I Were you able to heal you relationship?

[@Leela528]

adultery is a reason for divorce. biblical it is the only reason for divorce and the opportunity to remarry

[@ajaytoppo5642]

Am in same situation my wife is having an afir don't know what to do can some one help me.

[@AffairrecoveryLLC]

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[@maxinejordaan5720]

@@AffairrecoveryLLC Good morning I am in South Africa. Married 41 years. Work together in a practice for 43 years. Never, never did I ever think I would be writing this. My discovery of his porn was in Oct 2019. He has been looking at it from 2013. Not sure before that. Need help in SA. My husband says he does not have a problem. He says he has stop looking. But now is getting all his old girlfriends on FB. Where do I go?

[@estellasaenz385]

I really need to talk to somebody about what I should do...my partner wants space and is still talking to the one that had an emotional affair with and doesn’t know what she wants...please

[@samshealingpodcast]

you'll need to find an expert therapist my friend. or if you go to church, see about someone who works on staff there or at another church who provides counseling of this nature.

[@sumipeter6813]

This same for me. But going through so many you tubes channels quora and so much of reading. I still don't know what to do. Yes the kids and no finance.

[@mamanazazanafio4537]

My husband also has a serious addiction to pornography. He has casual sex with young women. But doesn't want counseling. Please pray for us.

[@goldielockks8421]

Mama Na Zaza Na Fio you need to get yourself tested for STDS...I'm so sorry what you're going through but don't put yourself in danger.

[@morganfalkdesigns]

Prayers...

[@SippenSomeTea]

How is it going?

[@lisarose8080]

Wow

[@jiselcampos2358]

Wow Incredible dont really have a Prob with you staying after Forgiven. But If they continue then yeah ya Need to move on

[@jeremyi3443]

Are you still married

[@lynnmariecherry]

Yes. My husband and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary this summer. We had several really difficult years but we are grateful the we were able to move forward together.

[@stevegovea1]

I pray my wife stays with me.

[@matinaki1644]

True love wants good for the beloved. No deceit, no filthy lies and power games. Maybe it brings peace to know you love someone but they don't love you the same. They love you less to do this. I see that some people are ok with that, but please don't cry when you see that they are at it again. Understand that these people don't love you. Don't find an excuse in your marriage. Jesus Christ condemns adultery for a reason. It shows weak character and someone who lusts with little capacity to truly love. Jesus was wise to forgive but only those who are truly sorry can be truly forgiven.