8 Self-Defeating Thoughts that Wreak Havoc

[@politicallil7060]

We need more people like this in the mental health community bless you for all you do

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much political LiL 🤗

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I love her videos too 😍

[@yani7751]

@@DrTraceyMarks I had have some therapists and siquiatric doctors and I amazed how good doctor you are. Thank you for this great apport to the world. God bless you

[@Beccanator007]

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[@hamza8791]

@@DrTraceyMarks Wich one is the following video?

[@krisquigley4497]

Home run! I have all eight of these. Now that I know them, I can deal with them. I nodded my head through the entire video.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

LOL! Well at least you're aware and yes, you can deal with them. Stay tuned next week for part two. It comes with a worksheet. If you're not on my email list you can sign up now dr-tracey-marks.ck.page/a8f18724c6 You'll get the worksheet in your inbox when the video publishes. That will save you a step from going to my website to find it.

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[@roscassol]

What a gift to have: accurate knowledge to share and wise empathy to communicate it. Thanks for educating by sharing; I have already signed up to your mail list and subscribed to this KZbin channel.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Rosemary Castro Solano thanks a lot! 🤗

[@emagibril]

I too have all eight of them🤯😳🤔

[@Ladyblue7620]

"Do you recognize any of these in yourself ?" Well all of them, actually.

[@TurtleKitty-357]

Have you done any cognitive behavioral therapy? And, if so...did/does it help? For me, its always helpful to review various helpful concepts like these (and others) as I need regular review of helpful ideas. Not sure if this makes sense or applies...but, you are not alone. ❤️

[@Ladyblue7620]

@@TurtleKitty-357 grateful for your comment ❤🤗

[@tinahuntington4751]

Same for me

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Are you publishing a 2021 motivational calendar? I would be so grateful if you would! The world needs your work EVERY day next year! xoxoxo

[@31spring]

Great question. I would like to purchase one to

[@Its-mia]

I’m also interested in buying the calendar 2021-2022. Let us know If you have it, I’d love to get it. Love your videos! Thank you!

[@kuvira44]

I'm interested in the 2022 calendar!!

[@afprincess7622]

Me too

[@Dark_Spark007]

Me, as well............

[@somethingyousaid5059]

I'm convinced that any books that you would write that were the equivalent of your videos (in terms of the quality of the content) would be best sellers.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Something you said. That’s a huge compliment. 😊 I have thought about putting together a manual and then have some videos that complement or further explain the written material

[@easmonddeen5161]

I am with her every step of the way. She's a real teacher and a mentor.

[@malikfatz8386]

Videos like this helps me with my anxiety soo much thank you

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome I’m so glad to hear that.

[@Yolduranduran]

Also Dr. Mark's, I am happy to report that I have finally reached out to my doctor and gotten help for my depression. I knew I needed the help but had a hard time understanding it and wondering if I should bother trying medication for it. I am already being treated for the anxiety but could still feel the effects of the depression. Watching your videos helped me understand things better and gave me the confidence to reach out for help. I'm feeling positive about the coming year because if I continue to do well I will be able to accomplish much!! Thanks!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh that’s so great to hear. I’m so glad you got the resolve to get help for the depression. All the best.

[@JayCOinAxn]

Congratulations! I am proud of the work you are doing!

[@Pureimagination200]

I’m almost 55 and have thought this way my whole life. I learned it from my mom. She took anything and turned it into the worst possible thing. Like she would have panic attacks when I was a child or gas and say she was dying and where to find her bank book. Now I do this. If my child is sick = cancer or if my husband is late coming home= he’s cheating. I hate living this way. I had a therapist tell me it’s anxious thoughts but that’s it. I don’t think I can ever stop thinking this way. I hate being like this. Now with menopause I have panic attacks over my catastrophe thoughts.

[@mohammedaliibrahim8607]

I learn more on KZbin &Google than I ever did in school !

[@Lorrenz]

Dr.Marks, you’re the best! I drew a labeled diagram of the 8 Cognitive Distortions and hung it in my room so that I’m more cognizant of these negative thought patterns! For example, if I’m feeling symptoms of panic from agoraphobia, I’ll know it’s simply that the “catastrophizing” and “overgeneralization” distortions are in play. Being more aware of what’s happening in my brain really allows me to feel more in control. Thank you and I look forward to your next video!

[@leonardogamboa2774]

"Emotions are not facts," while I agree in the benefits of therapy and the science behind it, the more philosophical part of me looks at that statement with some doubt... anyway, huge fan. Thank you for the great content, Dr. Marks.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks Leonardo. I could see that statement generating a nice philosophical discussion over coffee. 😊 Thanks for your support

[@candygirl20048]

I am so glad that you mentioned that “emotions are not facts.” I have such issue with the idea that all feelings are valid. People have a tendency to project so much of their trauma unto the facts of a situation and then react to that trauma instead of the objective reality. Then, they are enabled by society by being told that their feelings are “valid.” I really think that is one of the main issues with the world today.

[@birdtopaz5627]

Emotions are always valid insofar as 1) they have the right to exist and 2) they are frequently intuitive clues to things in the outside world that your conscious mind does not have immediate access to, i.e. an inexplicale rise of heart-pounding fear at high noon as you're walking into a convenenience store for some reason--and you are NOT prone to panic attacks! I have had sudden intuitions like that about people, places, and things, and ***believe me,*** they are lifesavers! My biggest mistakes in life were not listening to my intuitions signaled by emotions. Emotions are NOT, however, valid as facts. An emotion, at best, should be considered a tipoff that "something's great," "something's up," or "something's wrong"--a motivating springboard for investigating or observing a person, place, thing, or self! It can NEVER take the place of hard, logical, fact-based decisionmaking, EVER. I have also discovered that these "functional emotions," i.e. intuitions, are generally subtle and low-key, unless it's signalizing threats. They can be hard to pay attention to, as they're frequently subtle, except in extreme cases involving immediate survival--such as the convenience store example I provided earlier. A highly emotional, traumatized person in fact (I think) generally can't take advantage of the subtle but real signaling that the intuitive emotions can give. Ever notice how the highly traumatized act dingy, always stepping into bad situations? IMHO, that's why.

[@rebeccaabrahamson7007]

The categories of self defeating thoughts can help one get a perspective and thus get control over them. Well done!

[@cathischoll7989]

After watching this is feel like you know me!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

LOL! I do actually...😊

[@MrsShine4Christ]

I've spent 10 years in college because of my struggle with depression, negative thinking, self-defeating thoughts, etc. I have 3 courses to go (since 2018) and I really don't feel like going back. Sigh. I just want to do well without all these stresses. Plus, I'm married now and have a child. I don't want to bring any baggage along with me. I want to deal with it and finish school on a high note. 🙂

[@BK-qp8zp]

It is clear that you are a brainiac in your field. I can barely keep up with you, so thank you for keeping your videos short and sweet so we have time to ponder. You are simply amazing! :)

[@susanjohnson7679]

Your videos are amazing. I love watching them. They convey that you actually care to help others

[@blackmonalisa9732]

I appreciate you because you hit it on the nail everytime of what I got through and you makes these videos free for people who don't understand what going on with them and the flat it out!

[@roberthorwat6747]

All of them! Every single one!! This WAS my life before therapy. It seemed it was so expensive at the time but therapy was the best bargain I ever had in my life. ❤

[@vanessazawaski8451]

You nailed it with the health anxiety. I struggle with being alone. The dizziness is something I struggle with pregnancy. Perfect example of my daily anxiety.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Here’s an older video I did on dealing with health anxiety in case you haven’t seen it. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWWQmZuNps5lqMk

[@nur-e-diphamuttaqi]

I love you...Hugs... such a concise summary of multiple theories from various books and subdiscipline of psychiatry. You are the best. Always so helpful. Hugs.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much I really appreciate it. All the best to you 🤗

[@TheRealAbuFatima]

Love your work Doctor!

[@JoshxIZ]

I can relate to all of these...that illustration is literally my head. I find it really hard to stay positive & keep my thoughts from drifting out of proportion. I often worry about something for weeks on end and become depressed over what ifs and regrets...but the reality is none of it's effecting my life at present. But I keep it alive by thinking about it.

[@twilfits]

Sums up my day. Thank you for bringing clarity to my chaos. This would make a great check off chart for the daily calendar.

[@amberhouse3220]

THIS VIDEO HAS PERSONALLY SAVED MY SOUL lol the part about projections,, I lost a very good friend because of my false projections I didn't know wat she meant for years now it's haunted me and I think it's gonna take some connecting the dots but I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU TRACEY!! GOD BLESS YOU!! 🥰

[@markfuller]

Practicing mindfulness ( _on the present moment;_ there's a lot of mindfulenesses out there. It's a fad now.) helped me a lot. It's a practice of being aware of your thoughts, that you're highly-identified with them, letting them be more real than they are (too definitive of the moment than the moment would justify; living in the past or future). It starts with practicing a guided meditation (1st video in my playlist is what worked for me. It's not my video. I'm sure there's others out there that are good). Over time, you become familiar with "me in the moment" and "me thinking in the moment." You develop an observer of the thinker, and that becomes more familiar, easier to "get there" anytime, not just formal meditation. I think of it as: you've practiced explaining your experience, identifying with thoughts as they emerge from the subconcious, running with them as if they're real (without considering the possibility they're not, or not related to this moment). You've practiced that for years/decades. You've got nothing to compare it to. It's natural to run with whatever thoughts are in your head at the moment (not even consider that you're not your thoughts; there's a you that transcends that). So, it takes practice to develop a different habit. But, it really works. It might take 3-9 months of practice, but you'll see that you can "get there" (the observer) anytime (walking, working, shopping). It takes time to know the difference "this is me" and "this is me thinking." It's really powerful and liberating to know you're not your inner narration. But, it takes time to familiarize with something that's gone unused (because the narration gives us a sense of control of our experience). You can't recognize good or bad control until you can step back and observe it as "there's me in the moment" and "me thinking, narrating, confabulating in the moment" (the default mode until you develop a different, more present & aware mode).

[@corneliusharris2955]

I laughed when she asked at the end “Do you recognize any of these in yourself” with a straight face. Lmfao now im about to go watch RHOA to rebuild my confidence

[@MrAsingh1989]

Oh wow!!! I just love Dr. Mark’s Videos. They are straight to the point, and easy to understand. The way she delivers her message is phenomenal and inspiring... I wish I can study medicine and help people like she does... she has a gift of knowledge and communication. Very few people has this sort gift. What really inspires me about her how despite being blessed those gifts she seems to be a very down to earth and humble lady...Usuall I have experienced many physicians to be very pompous and arrogant when they consult their patients... at the same time My Doctor is very much like her...

[@vickyviola1930]

Over generalization, emotional reasoning, mind reading. I always assume what people think based off of how they act towards me. I am a highly sensitive person so maybe that has something to do with it. I think it may also have to do with a lot of PTSD from past relationships of someone lying, or being deceitful so I try to catch it before it happens. Looking forward to the next video and how to address them! Thank you Dr. Tracey

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome Victoria. Yes being highly sensitive plays into as well as having a traumatic past. I'll have a worksheet to go with the next video (next week). If you're not on my email list, you can sign on here and you'll get the worksheet next Wednesday dr-tracey-marks.ck.page/a8f18724c6

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Victoria Gray That is me too!

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Dr. Tracey Marks 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@lindasalazar5033]

You are a real, bright and informative psychiatrist. Thank you

[@JulietTheGirl]

Thank you! Painful but needed realizations have been made after watching this.

[@coloureleven]

Damn i do all of these in some capacity especially filtering and black and white thinking Thanks doc I've been binging your videos and they're really helping me understand my mind. I really appreciate it

[@vallekedg3369]

I love your video's! They have been so helpfull in my inner journey against anxiety and finding peace in my head!

[@FlamingCockatiel]

I read a similar article on the Art of Manliness and was still a little confused; this helped clear it up. I am certainly guilt of a fair number of them. Thousand thank yous for cautioning people not to place total trust in feelings! They can be just as faulty as any of our physical systems. I consider prejudice to be an example of wrongly trusting your gut.

[@OneMic-sz2nw]

I don’t know if you’ve been told this often but I appreciate your help.

[@barbaramalbroux5358]

I am so happy that l finally found someone like you that is so thorough and professional and giving such pertinent information

[@bradleynoneofyourbizz5341]

"Feelings are not facts" I am now convinced that 3/4's of the human species fail to grasp this.

[@Radnick0024]

Ben Shapiro reference?

[@hgzmatt]

The problem is.. rational thinking isn't facts either. You can strive to be factual, but ultimately you can never achieve it.

[@charless8642]

Wow this is amazing Dr Marks; we need more of you

[@aislinn1991_]

Thank you so much for your amazing videos which have assisted me through depression and anxiety throughout pregnancy. I just wish I had someone like you to go to professionally every week to talk to. Please keep making these videos ❤️❤️

[@mochayeroc7598]

You’re so knowledgeable and so inviting. Thanks for your videos

[@bellaincarnate09]

Dr. Tracey Marks, thank you for these videos. You've been helping me identify and understand my diagnosis for over a year now, almost two years, and they've been so informational when my anxiety acts up, or my depression, and when I'm manic. I'm so glad I subbed back then!

[@cheetahgoldenfire]

Great stuff!

[@felixnieuwenburg1477]

Holy, I am applying these all to my relationship! I better change my behavioural thinking. Thanks so much!

[@lucst.martin2112]

Dr. Marks, your vids are a perfect supplement, to my ‘mental healthcare routine’. I can’t thank you enough, for the thoughtful and detailed analysis, you put into this effort. ✌🏻❤️

[@echosneo6387]

Hey Ms.D..! This is Chad Mcduffie. Just Wanted to Say that I am VERY HAPPY 😊 that GOD assisted in making you my Counselor... 💯🙏. I have Ready the First to Passages in your Husband's Book. I Really Like it So Far... I was looking for Reviews of The Book in here & your Video Popped up... I need to talk with you Monday, Because I Really NEED THAT GRANT... And it's been a week am& I was told it shouldn't take but a Few Days...LoL. God Bless You..! Talk to ya Soon... ✌️🥰

[@vintagevanityvibez]

These are so necessary in breaking the disconnect between psychiatry and society & its citizens

[@robertlebacs3196]

Its like you are takling directly to me i have most of this issues, iam going to work hard on myself to change, thank you very much for your great advice, you are great Dr, Marks

[@sharonl649]

Please please please do more calendars! Just found this video and think the calendar is a great idea for keeping these thoughts in the forefront. Thank you for all the excellent educational videos you put out. They are so very helpful.

[@janets7291]

Grear video, Dr. Marks! For those who are unfamiliar with this topic, this is cognitive behaviour therapy in a nutshell; the gold standard in psychotherapy. The good thing about this is it's something you can do yourself, on a day to day basis. I'm looking forward to the next video!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes you’re right. It’s much easier to adapt to a self-help approach than psychoanalytic techniques.

[@violetlove1893]

I desperately need help with this. Thank you, Dr. Marks, for being an inspiration.

[@LethallxVanity]

Over 300 likes and no dislikes! I’ve never seen that before! So deserved though, this is a fantastic video, and one that I’m sure everybody can relate to on some level. Thank you for this. I will be ordering that calendar!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes that is huge. I noticed that as well. I actually didn’t expect this to be liked as much. I’m not sure why.

[@carolina.rentes]

I love you clarity and directness ❤️ I'm on the autism spectrum (asperger) and the way you talk and explain everything really helps.

[@MacshaddyMarie]

Loveee the calendar! A good idea I have is to make a car version that sticks on the glove box or wherever so we can take it everywhere with us! A planner too 😁😁😁❤️

[@nickinvietnam1989]

Quite a few of these things apply to me, your video was eye opening

[@LadyLove..]

I’m so going to buy that right now! Thank you! And thank you for your video! You help us all so much! 💜✨

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh thanks so much Sammyjane. I hope you enjoy it. And you're welcome.

[@Pill-op4nh]

Thank you Dr Mark ,I see myself in all the 8 got work on them

[@aginestra100]

Thank you Dr. Marks! I truly enjoy the way you explain these situations and your real-life examples in layman's terms. This was extremely helpful; thank you for this!

[@samreynolds3789]

Salaam /Peace ! She is AWESOME ! 🧑🏾

[@xperiencytheorist4996]

Yes I have about 3 of them lol just came across you and now I’m putting in some work 🙏🏾💕💫

[@Scrattah]

I have the worst case of the “should”, idealizing mindset, and I’ve been trying to change it for so longggggg

[@franimal86]

You should stop doing it 🙃

[@pashasha2788]

The Essentials "Thank you"💗

[@alexandriahamilton4888]

Your voice is very soothing and I love how clean cut your information is. Thank you!

[@catmate8358]

Brilliant video, rational, logical and clear as all communication should be.

[@angeliemandu2848]

Thank you for making videos ma'am God bless I'm currently working on my self to these, its good to know I have this so I can work on them it helps me in my healing process. 🙏

[@alwaysamy4]

Dr Tracy Marks I really appreciate what you do here. I have bipolar disorder and Complex PTSD and I’m finally at a point in my life where I can listen, and absorb information clearly for the first time really and so I want to get to work on myself. I take my meds religiously but I would also like to master mindfulness! My negative and repeating thoughts are the worst part of my illness. My mind tells me everyday that I’m kidding myself into believing I’m a good person basically. I am a pretty darn good person and I need to work on this. You mentioned worksheets we could print out and I can’t seem to find where to do so. So if you could direct me to those it would be awesome! I wish I could find a therapist like you. Thanks!!

[@taliakuk1295]

The more I watch your videos, the more I understand the madhouse has been waiting for me for ages😆😆😞😞😞

[@EricMcDowellegm]

Oh yes, I see myself with several of these!

[@reginarendon4854]

I recently started therapy for anxiety and depression. We just looked at all these thought patterns this past week. Thank you so much and I can’t wait for your next instruction......

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Then this is right on time Regina. 😊 If you want to get the worksheet that goes with it then make sure you’re on my email list. If you’re not you can sign up here dr-tracey-marks.ck.page/a8f18724c6

[@biljam972]

I recognized myself in each and every one of these!

[@viniiit]

I hv all of them and it explains my depression,anxiety,somatic disorder and each and every freaking thing in mylife sofar.

[@knittingarch]

I have all of these distortions. It's a lot but I know I can overcome them. Been working hard to undo them for the past few weeks and I already see some improvement and positive changes in my life as a result.

[@TequilaStandifer8888]

I’m soooo happy I found you thank u so much🥰

[@rkumar570]

Dear Ma'am thank you so for this......

[@annebfprado]

Thank you for explaining this in such a clear and inspiring way. I am studying to be a therapist and this is def one of the most valuable things I've learned!

[@tmsphere]

I used to truly believe that I could logically "read minds" before I understood that I can't even really read my own mind, it follows that so I also cannot read anybody else's and when you insist "I cannot read your mind bro" ppl act like that's "just an excuse".

[@samanthawingham1183]

Thank you I know what kind of therapy I need.

[@andrzejmaranda3699]

Dr. Tracey Marks: ALL these thoughts are REALLY DESTRUCTIVE!

[@jharris3354]

Love her straight-talking style. This should be part of basic education!

[@melodyrogers9473]

Well spoken Dr.Marks. thank you for helping me to understand your topics.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Melody and thank you.

[@athena001979]

I love your calendar idea! Please do it again next year so I can buy one on time!

[@paulocosta8129]

This vídeos are very useful! Thanks dr Tracey!!

[@cobalius]

Filtering: ying-yang principle, no bad thought without a good one.. B/W Thinking: picking the extremes and coloring the in-between in steps.. Overgeneralization: actively training the "world knowledge" or trivial knowledge.. Mind reading: socialising about the topic itself.. Emotional reasoning: close time focus with respects to mood-elevating, self-caring rituals.. should statements: conversion to wanted statements, expressing wishes only.. Catastrophising: something so challenging, that it needs all attention to keep up.. personalization: socialing with respects to the life story listening parts..

[@cobalius]

And sometimes you have to do all at once and it becomes a program.. like.. writing down the thoughts for later, listening to cute and happy music, playing a certain game for the challenge part, expressing the wishes, learning about this topic.. And finally.. i'm able to cook something delicious.

[@leslieinglis5423]

Thank you so much for this. I find your videos so incredibly helpful.

[@nolaheart]

I needed to find this video today, ty.

[@halfhouse5760]

Dr Marks, thank you!

[@valentinogal781]

I am thinking of the Gestalt approach.. CBT is very useful and I put it in practice myself.

[@tubo1639]

I appreciate your videos soo much. Thank you, keep making them. I have been diagnosed with cptsd, and all I can say is you got to put in the work.

[@ashleystanley7941]

Filtering and catastrophizing are the two that I commonly struggle with. Our therapist for couples counseling last year gave me a lot of help in dealing with catastrophizing.

[@vickyvictoria4u]

I’m learning so much about myself. Thank you

[@shahiedamuthayan8090]

We can listen to this at night while you trying to sleep it really makes you relax while you falling asleep

[@ashishgautam5734]

Waiting eagerly for the next video!!!! I had a few of them but they went away after I talked to a friend. Some things happen for the best. We don't realise them sometimes. Like doc said facts remain the same but we have to view them from some other prism. Keep up the good work. Thank you.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Ashish. So glad you’ve been able to work through them.

[@andrewjjahn]

Thanks. That was informative!

[@Slimm_Sheedah1]

Catastrophizing is #1 for me. Thanks for this video

[@johnh.1057]

I think i have all of these up to certain degree , maybe 2or3 more than others ... but in other hand , I've realized the meditation help me alot to slowly control these thoughts. This video help me to identify what I was dealing with !

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I’m so glad Sin Filtro

[@susanr3933]

Good morning doctor Tracy! I think I needed to hear this because I am facing a problem at this time. Several years ago I was on a plane that almost went down. It didn't, but I was so traumatized that I will never get on a plane again! I've suffered with panic attacks all my life and in fact have been on medicine for them all my life. It was hard for me to get on the plane and when that happened, it was very terrifying! Okay oh, so this is my problem. 2 months ago I had to go to a dentist 2 get a new set of dentures. I've had my top dentures for 15 years but my bottom teeth on my own. When I went into the clinic the waiting room was very nice and very comfortable, however when I had to go bat to where they do all the dental work I was led down a hallway that was the shape of a maze which unnerved me and I was noticing a lot of stainless steel which I associate with a plane. It seemed we were walking for an hour until we got to this little room which literally look like a tiny cockpit of an airplane and I began to tremble but I managed to get through the process of the dentist taking impressions of the top of my mouth for the new dentures. I thought that would be all and then I would go back and get my new dentures, however it didn't turn out so well so the doctor tells me to come back the following week. Long story short---

[@franciscomett1308]

your videos are very educational. You explain things in a very understandable way, even for people from Brazil! thank you!

[@lovewillwinnn]

This helps a lot. Thank you! ❤️😍❤️😍

[@somethingyousaid5059]

Gosh, I forgot to thank you for your latest video! I'm sorry about that! Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you! And I am looking forward to part 2 next week. My best to you Dr. Marks.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re so welcome. Welcome. Welcome. 😊

[@TLDAVIS1951]

Wow I'm scared of her. She just described how I ruined my life. I've done it all.