How to Change Your Self Defeating Beliefs

[@barcelonabrown9907]

Imagine the innate goodness of doing these vids at no recompense. What a simply blessed woman. My deep gratitude is yours, Doctor.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks Barcelona. Your appreciation is my recompense 😊👍🏽

[@NenaLavonne]

Barcelona Brown ♥️

[@RebeccaLynnMusic]

I agree. A true giver.

[@issimma]

Barcelona Brown I concur entirely !!! Thank you Doctor, your channel and your video content has been invaluable and has helped me immensely, so grateful, thank you 🙏🏾

[@nicolahacking2623]

I want her as my best friend!

[@SpirituallyAwakenedEmpath]

It's when I started to realize that my thoughts were creating my reality that I drastically changed my thoughts. I became empower by using positive thoughts and expecting situations to turn in my favor. As I created more and more self love, it started to reflect into my reality. People suddenly became nicer, situations also turned out better. Accept who you are as of right now and begin to love yourself unconditionally and watch the beautiful miracles appear in your reality, much love, namaste.😇🙏

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks for sharing this.🙂

[@tom53702]

Well, i feel myself as a complete failure and i really think this is what i am. I am very convinced of who i am that i never doubted it. Is there a hope for me?

[@wieslan]

@@tom53702 there IS hope for YOU, me, all of us. Everything that mankind know of is made from energy. Therefore we are the same and all connected. Therfore not alone either. Your stronger than you think and know. But you must believe in yourself. Its not easy but not impossible. Every time you have a negative thought. Correct that thought by thinking of something positive to replace it with. Once you get into that habit youll start to notice that your not having negative thoughts as often. As your mind gets stronger in positive thoughts, it will transfer to whats around you. It has helped me tremendously. I have had to start this over before but i dont give up because the changes that happen are worth it. I wish you the best of luck in all your endeavors.☮️

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@tom53702 If negative affects physical health then visit a physician. . Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@usethharley7025]

Love this video

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

I go through periods where I’m walking on eggshells with my intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I then look back after two weeks and think, what was I doing!

[@SW13357]

Yep most definitely, I can relate to that as well. It’s frustrating how the effects of anxiety etc can leave trails of embarrassment and hurt

[@abrahamclintona3596]

You are a true angel for giving this information out for free on KZbin. In a time where everyone wants to capitalize on their skills you’re healing people for free. I could hug you for hours! 🤗🤗

[@eliottrodriguez7425]

Dr. Tracey, There must be something or someone looking after me, because I found you today, without looking for it. I've watch 2 of your videos and you have nailed me in both. I need to be in contact with a great therapist, but economically it is counterproductive for me. I'm so thankful that along with your definitions of various subjects, you also and most importantly for me, you offer some solutions. My lack of trust in myself and the accompanying self hatred has me with 3 college degress, living in my car, in a God forsaken state of the Union, at the tender age of 53 just to give you an example. So to coincidence, destiny or divine intervention. I want to thank whatever brought me to you. From the bottom of my heart,THANK YOU, THANK YOU. THANK YOU! It is a great thing you're doing here. Between you, The School of Life channel, all the books I read, and self awareness, I might find out some day, who am I beyond name and form? Thank you for doing this, please don't stop. I need someone to help me from my self sabotaging ways.

[@cellogirl11rw55]

Many states have Medicaid programs that pay for counseling and psychiatry.

[@jsteiner8548]

What deep professional insight you have. Thanks for sharing it.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome J. Steiner. I had to chuckle at what a trial is "supposed" to have. 🙂

[@Brainhoneywalker]

Thank you for these powerful tools for inner re-construction. “Thank you” seems inadequate for these amazing and practical blueprints for self healing. Even though it is late in my life, I feel so hopeful!

[@SweetUniverse]

My therapist told me that changes rarely come overnight. That's what I was expecting. I wanted to change as soon as I decided that I needed to change. That might happen for some, but for me, for some things, especially survival stuff I've been doing for 40 yrs, it might also take some work. ✌️✌️✌️

[@snrnsjd]

Thank You dr. Marks! I tried this and it set me free! I have been criticized by my teacher about something I wrote as "stupid". One exam and I could not do it because of those words. It's been a year since that! After putting my thoughts on trial, I am feeling free on emotional and psychological level. And today I began working on my exam so I hope I take my master degree to be even more free! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I have no words to express my gratitude towards you and your work!

[@thedreamworldlives7810]

Oh my god, I've always done this!!! I thought I was crazy for pitting ym thoughts against each other and then judging/weighing objectively - and choosing the outcome that serves the greater good

[@Littlevampiregirl100]

same thing, its a good coping mechanism to develop. probably saved me a lot of emotional trouble without realizing. but it sure does make you question if you have voices in your head or something haha, the arguments up there can become so realistic

[@tia2484]

Thank you SO much for making these videos and covering these topics. I dont have insurance, so I can't afford to go to a therapist, etc, but I love that I can "self help" myself through your videos and begin to break negative patterns I have developed over time. Again, I am so grateful for your channel! Keep up the good work!! Thank you!!!!💝

[@anaru369]

Just curious are these videos funded in anyway? Because Tracey you’re honestly amazing and so much more helpful than most therapists.

[@LadyLove..]

phosphate I agree! If only she was my actual therapist

[@NenaLavonne]

phosphate 😊✨

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much phosphate! I do have ads turned on so I get some ad revenue. I still work in my practice seeing patients. But I am planning to produce some written products to accompany what I'm teaching on the platform. Thanks again.

[@markhou]

@@DrTraceyMarks I'll buy your book!!

[@Krotas_DeityofConflicts]

@@DrTraceyMarks Could u please do a video on where/how to draw the lines between (excessive) daydreaming and delusion? And is it a delusion or imaginative mind when a person dreams up a (sort of) story, which influence or directly impacting that person's actions.., and such? It'll help me alot , thank you🙇

[@dukenorthcarolina3149]

Dr. Marks you have helped me so much I been watching your videos for about 8 or 9 months now and they have seriously helped me understand alot of what's going on in my head and even stomach and also ways to address and began to recover and improve I thank God for you .You are really good therapist. I like the fact that you talk slowly and clearly and how you are very thorough in all your videos . Thank you sooooo much.

[@kernowarty]

It is so refreshing to see a youtuber who is doing something that benefits others without having an ulterior motive and trying to sell a book or a course.

[@wildflowers9318]

who needs friend when you have Dr. Tracey Marks helping you. thankyou so much Dr! you are amazing women, hope you blessed with many joys

[@martinpowell7707]

She's extremely knowledgeable, brilliant Doctor

[@gigi4874-w3w]

After a two week vacation a lot of the persistent negative emotions fell away. Some are beginning to re-surface but to an enormously low degree.❤❤❤ I AM Grateful.

[@donboggs3880]

Dr. Tracey Marks, At sixty-six I've been working on me since in my twenties. Seen many therapists, spent hours talking with and to others as well as myself. It is a slow dynamic welcome process. Recently, a debilitating trauma left me destroyed emotionally. I screamed, cried, prayed and cloistered myself with the timing of Covid. That is when I found your words, definitions and encouragement. Absolutely love your hair by the way and wished I had your glowing skin. Oops, stepping over lines. Regardless, finding your videos I've watched at least fifty of them it seems and each one, I find something new to consider, something new to incorporate into my journey. You, your approach and delivery are my "go to" for solid information that fits my needs. I praise my higher power for placing you in my path. Not everyday ergo, I like when you join my walk, your words, cadence and delivery sooth my questions and further my search for understanding of myself and the world around me. If I were ever to cross your path directly, I'd hope an opportunity to give you my smile as a thank you for helping my soul. Loves, Don

[@5thmardiv636]

Dr. Marks gives us food for the mind and soul!

[@isaiahcaston4539]

Just found these, I just started therapy and this is great for those days when I don't have a session scheduled and I need tools, thank you so much!

[@RachelRoseEstrebilla]

You have such a big heart, Dr. Marks! Your videos are helping me master my emotions and manage my own mental illness. I love how your videos are so clear, practical, and easy to apply. You are a life-saver! God bless you abundantly!

[@usethharley7025]

Love this vdoe

[@usethharley7025]

🤕🤕🖐👍👍

[@jynbl]

Lately, as i finally admit to myself that i needed help in this battle i've been going through for a long time now, i came across into your videos about avoidant personality disorder and social anxiety disorder. It also led me to the video of the 8 common cognitive distortions which really resonates with me. These helps me understand better about what's going on in my head. I'm still hesitant to take professional help especially i currently don't have any means to afford it, but these contents/educational videos you're sharing with us truly serves its purpose. Thank you, thank you so much Dr. Tracey! 💖

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Joy If stress and negative thoughts affect physical health then visit a physician. Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@SuperManning11]

Thanks for all the great info, as always, and a special thanks for always giving us concrete things to do to bust up these negative thoughts and feelings that have somehow worked their way into the driver’s seat of my life. I feel like these tools call out the negative drivers for what they are, fraudsters that have no business telling me how to live my life! Thanks for all you do!

[@tracieday8661]

My thoughts have been getting the better of me lately. Thank you Doc.

[@FracturedEarth]

Thank you so much for making this available to people like me. It is so important that these videos are free. I was having a very hard time with my thoughts today.

[@andrzejmaranda3699]

Dr. Tracey Marks: this is ABSOLUTELY & REALLY IMPORTANT!

[@nashonholloway]

Your videos + therapy are helping me to grow so much. I’m very thankful for how you use your skills and gifts. Thank you!

[@janets7291]

The use of thought records is a well known strategy in mental health therapy. Getting the thoughts down on paper really helps me recognize which automatic thought I am having and why it is untrue, or distorted. I like this approach because it's a step by step way of helping myself or "doing the work" required to start feeling better. Even starting small and working up is useful, but "doing the work" is essential. It's another example of why it's not only about meds. Thanks Dr. Marks, for making this available to people in such an accessible way!

[@Propranololo_]

I found this amazing resource that is your channel when I most needed it. I can't thank you enough for sharing your immense knowledge with us, for free. You are the definition of who a true Doctor is. God bless you forever.

[@crazystemlady]

I took a deep breath bc I. Was going to spend months on hours on days on weeks trying to figure out a chart system with my … self sabotaging standards. Thank you SO MUCH. It’s 2:30am. A blessing to have a deep breath. Happy Friday

[@kward177]

Amazing exercise! The awareness and education regarding mental health you are providing is so valuable. Thank you Dr. Marks.

[@kanyimusic]

I am in love with too much of Dr Tracey; the content in her videos, the voice, and much much more. Joseph.

[@mihaelahuban5287]

i was looking forward for this video since last wednesday, and it’s even better than i hoped. I appreciate and find very helpful that you wrote in the description box what you are saying in the video. i can rewatch the video and read in the same time and it’s helpful especially because english it’s not my mother language. i admire and appreciate the clarity and conciseness of your explanation / presentation i watch your videos, apply as good as i can what i learned, and i can see improvement. Thank you so very much! 👏😊

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Awesome Mihaela! I'm so glad it didn't disappoint. BTW - all of my videos have subtitles so you can turn on the captions if that makes it easier.

[@ganjamama3086]

Thank you for your videos.....I see a therapist twice a month but it's nice hearing other info and knowing I'm really not the only one out here feeling these things and going thru it!! PS.....ur absolutely stunning 👑

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Ganja. I’m glad you’re going to therapy twice a month that’s fantastic.

[@jamesvanamber266]

Your video's are helpful, Doctor. I have had schizophrenia for decades and take multiple medications that are helpful. I see a psychiatrist at the Minneapolis VA Medical Center and have for almost 20 years. I'm doing well these days, but I'm still open to new ideas and that's why I mentioned that your brief sessions are helpful and I appreciate them. I'm educated, and an author of two books. One did well and was well received. The other bombed. Anyway, thanks for adding insights into busy minds like mine and take care.

[@RG-vs8qz]

Thank you, Dr. Tracey. I needed this

[@mrmeekcreices]

I feel like ive tried to do this so many times. I guess it gets easier with practice. Your video definitely helped and I will have to watch it multiple times before it really sinks in and I put your advice into practice. Thanks so much for these videos!

[@howtothriveafteratoxicrela2784]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with the world. ✨💗🙏🏼

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome! Thanks for watching

[@taragorm8097]

Dr Marks, it is quite a skill to make mental health issues appear simpler. I wish we had a stand-up pyschiatrist.

[@Dibar03]

I‘m beyond thankful for your existing, Tracey! Really needed this in my healing process!

[@davidlionheart9668]

Yes ago our marriage counselor introduced this technique to me. I was surprised at its effectiveness. Seems like I will have to start using it again.

[@SweetUniverse]

My problem is self-defeating actions. I cause stress for myself. I think that's why I procrastinate. I also do self-destructive behaviors. For instance, I can't have something good or I'll ruin it for myself.

[@decklanquow9709]

You really have some incredible content Dr. Marks. I appreciate that. Keep up the good work.

[@syzygy4365]

My take away is it takes less time to do an action that reassures myself. So if I feel like x is disappearing than work on x.i feel like I do this cognitive exercise, but the judge in my head empathizes with both sides. It's maddening. Time to take action. Plain and simple.

[@Amayita46]

Dr. Tracey, I will forever be grateful for your videos. You are a blessing. Thank you forever ❤️

[@tiffanygrimsely14]

Dr. Tracey Marks. I really appreciate your help. I like to improve on every level.

[@BeingBetter]

This video is wonderful. I've been telling myself it's ok to try to go out of the house with my agoraphobia, even if I don't get out of the car or go into the place I was trying to go to. No reason to beat myself up.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

That's right Being Better. Cut yourself a break and take things small steps at a time.

[@houseplantasy8047]

Thanks, Dr. Tracey Marks!

[@charlenebrownlow4677]

PTL Dr. Tracey…thank you for sharing these tools; such a need is being addressed during this season of life.

[@grahamfonteyne4792]

You are awesome Dr. Marks!

[@lindasmith9273]

I had a set back so this will help until I start therapy. Thanks so much.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Linda best wishes to you.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Linda, . Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free in the day or night sit still for 2 to 5 minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation daily to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@HE3AVYARTILLERY]

Thank you Dr. Tracey.

[@pikeyMcBarkin]

Thank you so much for this video. I've been self maturing my emotional responses for the past couple of years. It's been going very well for me, but there's still lots of work to do. Thank you for your advice and speaking positive about the issues you e listed here.

[@valangstatolbert8807]

Thank you, Dr. Marks ❤

[@roscassol]

Just today I saw TIME's Person of the Year cover and - although I do believe the fight to position climate change in the global agenda is an urgent one - I cannot help but wonder how come we became a society that mostly awards discourses but overlooks life-changing public service that qualified, gifted and socially aware people like Dr. Tracey Marks do. Gracias totales, Dra. Marks.

[@hackedagain]

Please keep making these. You're awesome

[@mmohseni69]

Thank you so much Dr. I am so blessed to find a human like you to have such detailed knowledge of understanding and can with words you are doing all you can to teach and educate people to learn and live freely in their life and thoughts. I don’t know how to thank you but what I have to say is this, I am trying to understand these mind deep topics so I can change the course of my auto pilot life, being male in Canada immigrant started just before COVID19. I would appreciate if in anyway you think I can get help and more education. Please help me🙏

[@TAZSWIGCLOSET]

Thank you for the clear, concise, extremely helpful content! YOU are changing lives. Blessings XOXO

[@janed00]

Omg thank you so much! It’s incredibly helpful and you are an absolute gem!

[@johnkovary5121]

What gets measured gets done DOC❗️ thanks for the cards and worksheets .

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're so welcome John!

[@anuradhamahaur7900]

U r amazing, and u don't know how much these videos helping others. And I think ur soo beautiful

[@violetlove1893]

Yaa! It's my favorite psychiatrist. 😇💓 Thank you for doing this video. You're a blessing.

[@65damdamdam]

Dr Tracey, you should put all this into an app.

[@ccharles848]

I am so grateful I have found your channel! Thank you!🥰

[@BoysLikeMeee]

And Dr. Marks has a calendar! That sounds like something I need! Awesome.

[@haroldnoland6434]

Thank you Dr Tracey having these videos has been a + in my life.

[@nawelarif8682]

Thank you , before this video , I saw myself as a worthless person , now you changed that, thanks again

[@rachelmartis6844]

Sounds so much like Philippians 4:8. Thank you for what you do.

[@TheJSN1015]

Who doesn't love you? I wanna know--LOL. Thank you from the bottom of my heart from people like me who can't afford therapy. You are Heaven-sent.

[@maiynnai]

I'm doing group CBT right now and this is super helpful and clearly outlines what I've been learning. Thank you for your videos, very informative.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Maiynnai, Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. If you want to be guided in the above meditataion watch the following video on you tube "Anapana medtation for all in English 10 minutes" practiced all around the world. Listen with headphones. . Do the above meditation daily to have a relaxed life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@MsLewcee]

Thank you Dr. Marks, I have improved in my ability to recognize many negative thoughts and feelings. Your videos have helped me seek professional help and improve my overall well being. Your support is valuable and appreciated by so many of us! May you have a wonderful 2020🎉🎉🤗😊😃

[@brandonbering9066]

Much love to you, Dr. T💕🌟

[@martinswiney2192]

Thank you for trying to help.

[@KimberlyLetsGo]

After years of being haunted by negative thoughts, I started to dissecting them. I figured out who was saying those thoughts in my mind? For me it was a very dysfunctional mother. How loud was the thought? Which ear was 'hearing' it or, was it coming from my mind/head? I did this to figure out how to stop it. I did a lot of silent 'leave me alone!' thoughts when these obtrusive thoughts popped up. I have been successful in eliminating the mean mother and the disapproving father voices. I worked on moving to make the voices my own voice. And, I know I can control/change my own voice. I tell it that it's a liar and I know better. I imagine it as a whiny voice and laugh at that. But, I have to do it every day. Negative thinking is a bad habit. It's a battle all the time. I just chose to be on the winning side.

[@Pursuepeace0715]

very good pointers, I will apply your tips. I grew up with a narcissistic mother, so I feel your pain. I was able at 50 yrs of age to over come my insecurity. she is a toxic women

[@addysaw]

Better than any therapy session I've had before

[@Dismythed]

I really like the thoughtson trial sheet.

[@shaydsak]

Love your profile picture

[@peacepeace7302]

I thank god i found you for someone. Because your heqrt is in what you do in my opinion. I think you do care for people more thank thw money. It is the lord who has giving this gift ro help those in nees. God blessed your heart!!

[@pt-bw4fk]

She is always excellent! Thank you for your sound videos.

[@manuelamisiak6402]

Wow, I am so impressed with your dedication and work including providing all the tools. Thank you!

[@martinpowell7707]

So true very costly therapy for free, kudos to you Doc, keep up the good work

[@That.Lady.withtheYarn]

Thank you. For all these vids. they are so helpful. I even mentioned you to my therapists 💙

[@carlosdelafuente9036]

Thank you so much for the help and guidance!

[@wareforcoin5780]

I've been doing a little personal version of this for a while now. Before I knew that bipolar was what I had, it really helped when really crazy thoughts were popping in and I didn't feel like I had any control. It really, really helps.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh I’m so glad to hear that. It is a very helpful technique it just takes time and consistent use. Thanks for letting me know your experience.

[@titose4261]

Hey what kind of thoughts do you have. I fear i may be bipolar as well

[@annieg4042]

to anyone doubting the effectiveness of this: I pay good money for therapy where we do this exact thing. Exactly. It has been extremely effective and helped me in a lot of ways. and here it is on youtube for free. this is from someone with anxiety disorder and complex PTSD. you can also do these worksheets for traumatic experiences that have happened in your past or recently. it gets easier with practice and I hope people give it a shot

[@jens8487]

I’m going to need to watch this video a lot. I really needed this. I haven’t been going to work a lot because my bosses aren’t speaking to me, and it feels too uncomfortable to be there. I don’t know what I did to make them not speak to me. I keep telling myself it’s okay not to go, but it really isn’t. I also put myself down way too much. I’ve been working with the same therapist for 5 years, but I’m not sure if she’s helping me anymore, to be honest.

[@wareforcoin5780]

Maybe it's actually a good thing. It could be they're not talking to you because they have confidence that they don't need to keep an eye on you, and you've freed them up time to get other projects done. I know my boss not having anything to say to me is _great_ news. 😂

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Jen, yes watch it again and think about what assumptions you make about what people are thinking about you. That may be one place you can start to challenge.

[@cellogirl11rw55]

I have often struggled with naming emotions in the moment, but sometimes, I can name them if I revisit the situation when I'm calm.

[@tomjerry5916]

I bought that cleanser and leaning instrument and your amazing

[@greasebellygarage]

Dr. Marks, thanks for these videos. Easy to understand and very effective.

[@figsandoranges]

Thank you!!! This is a very helpful video im so lucky i found this channel

[@TonyaA7]

I believe God will help me overcome and use these helpful tips along the way. God bless you for these tips and helpful strategies to overcome.. Im gonna print our these resources and do my best to begin using them. Thank you for all these videos and helpful sheets etc.

[@Prisoner4011]

These videos have been hugely helpful. Thank you!

[@KondevMartin]

Thank You!

[@kanishqagrawal3657]

You are amazing Tracey!

[@vannamargittai227]

Thank you.

[@tz-b5309]

Wow! Thanks alot for all of this!!🙏

[@YvesBourcier]

Thank you

[@natashabaileylmft1379]

These videos are so helpful! Thank you!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome NaTasha!

[@chrispetraske8878]

I give this doctor high marks! Ha!

[@awesomeaj9454]

Why is this sooooooooooo exhausting...this supports my thoughts of why I like to be left alone...

[@n12-6]

Thank you. Very nice.