8 Signs You’re Depressed About Your Life

[@Psych2go]

May is Mental Health Awareness month. And as May is coming to an end, we want to release this video to continue raise awareness that we should take care of our mental health. If you feel that your mental health has been declining as of late, we recommend you start seeking professional help or make the necessary changes to your habits.

[@mariomaster101official]

I'm ok but I have a depressed friend I hope he gets better

[@grepe6769]

Hey pysch2go, tysm for the video! Could you please make another one on how to not feel this way? Thanks :D

[@moonriver3429]

Can you make a video of how to help a suicidal/depressed person? also love your vids and you have inspired me in a life of phycology (along with other motivations) :D

[@GamerBoy.1761]

Wow, that's nice 👌 🙂 😊

[@bassafratz]

you should do signs it's not just adhd (adhd and autism)?¿

[@AnnasBiggestOpp]

1) You constantly ponder about life itself in a negative light. *1:37* 2) You feel incredible loneliness. *2:21* 3) You feel life is meaningless. *2:54* 4) You lose interest in activities. *3:32* 5) You feel misunderstood. *4:01* 6) Your thoughts keep you up at night. *4:24* 7) You struggle with suicidal thoughts and feelings. *4:59* 8) You feel dissatisfied with yourself. *5:33*

[@ellenebrunasantosvieira5483]

Thank you, time traveller!

[@hzyqh2254]

cool

[@btcxwxy]

Thanks!!

[@Jade_West2010]

Hmm maybe I am depressed lol.

[@namjesus3789]

I have many of these and I've been pretty worried about my mental health

[@heroofhyrule528]

I was recently diagnosed with severe bipolar depression, and I've also recently experienced my first existential crisis. This video really helped me realize how right my doctor was, I feel exactly this way when I'm not on medication and I feel like this will help many people who don't realize feeling this way isn't normal, and there is a solution. Thank you! ❤ Edit: Just because I take medication doesn't mean that is the only solution. There are a wide variety of treatment options available, and if you feel medication isn't right for you, speak with your family medicine doctor, psychologist, therapist, etc. to try and find a treatment plan that works for you. Remember, if you feel your mental state is declining or if you are experiencing symptoms of mental illness, seek professional medical outlook.

[@pavithra-7429]

Hey can you list out what were the symptoms you were having?

[@pavithra-7429]

Your post is quite good. 💗

[@stealthelf467]

Hope things get better bud

[@mr.h-snacke2977]

I've been feeling this way for years now and to be honest I don't like the thought that the only way of dealing with it is with pills... That doesn't sound as a solution but rather a temporary fix, one that sooner or later may cause more troubles... Don't get me wrong, it's good that you're receiving help, but, doesn't it bother you even a tiny bit that without the pills you're actually back to square one? I have too much on my mind constantly...

[@dmanickam1]

What does bipolar mean.

[@horationelson8173]

As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.

[@FriskyBitch]

Well said man, that's some solid advice right there. We all have the capability of achieving greatness and becoming dragons, we just gotta stick to it. Keep on keeping on.

[@virtuoussage3133]

Thank you

[@AboutTreyFifty]

Great answer!

[@JJ19879]

This was amazing! Thank you for this!

[@judysmith453]

Truly beautiful words

[@lauracanedo1446]

Depression is a monster. Although I’m married, have a child, have a beautiful home in a great neighborhood, a college degree, and I’m able to watch my child grow by staying at home, I still struggle with severe depression. I can’t help but think of the things I could have done better, the things I’m not doing right/enough of, and how others are so much better than me. I can’t fathom having a job outside of the home because I’m always thinking about how much of a failure I would be at it. I just try to think of the things I’m so thankful for and it turns my day around somewhat. Depression is real you all.

[@sulttanalattar5167]

Yes Laura you are absolutely right it is a monster

[@1000OtherFoxes]

I think you struggle with poor self-esteem

[@hollalaland]

@@1000OtherFoxes the vast majority with any type of depression do so

[@quoileternite]

Others are not better than you. Try to suspend your jugement. Not everything is about evaluation. Try to find a technique not to think, to leave your mind blank for a little while (a form of relaxation), there are lots of videos on the Internet that can help you practice pacifying your mind by just not thinking : it is very hard job, in the beginning you manage just a few seconds, but the more you do it the longer you will be able to make this moment last and it is very therapeutic, just don't think for a moment, you don't have anything else to do, and repeat as often as you can, the benefit of it takes place on its own.

[@1000OtherFoxes]

@@quoileternite melanchon premier ministre mdr...

[@hailo__art]

Honestly it's really sad because I feel like I hit a lot of these points. Life has become exhausting and feel extremely depressed majority of the time. I feel like im constantly in a loop of doing the same things over and over, and that voicing my feelings doesn't matter to my loved ones, as it's perceived as it being "too emotional", "ungrateful" or that I'm "not doing enough" or that I am being too sensitive. I feel ultimately trapped, like I can't do anything about it except lean on the support I do have (friends) who reassure me I'm not "crazy". My environment has become something of a dark cycle where I question myself and feel as though I have no outlet. The things I think about weigh on my mind for days and weeks, and ultimately the only reassurance I have if self reassurance and being aware (because of my knowledge through therapy). It's very hard, but I am trying to get through it. This video did help reassure me that.. I'm not "just" being "something" but rather what I am experiencing is real. Your videos always help me feel comfort, and I really appreciate it :") sometimes it feels difficult to decipher my emotions, even when I know what I'm feeling is real. I know that I don't deserve what I'm told and I know how I feel is valid, but I can't even shake the feeling that I'm being a burden or questioning why, despite even knowing better. Just want to send love out to those who are also struggling. You're not alone 💜💜

[@haneenasad]

Same. I can relate to all that you said so well... 😐🙃

[@kindafunnyngl]

Same thing here.....

[@hailo__art]

@@haneenasad i hope your situation gets better 💜 so sorry that you have to go through it :(

[@hailo__art]

@@kindafunnyngl I hope you feel better soon :( I'm so sorry for whatever you're having to go through and wish you the best 💜

[@haneenasad]

@@hailo__art Thank you kind stranger 🥺❤️ I wish you the same too 💘

[@lisapayne9514]

The last point hits particularly hard. I'm 36 this year and I feel like I'm an absolute nobody, especially when I see how successful my friends are.

[@oli19827]

Me too …

[@7Write4This9Heart7]

Mood!

[@samusaran7317]

The saying you're not alone never felt comforting to me. You never know when someone isn't being sincere.

[@Psych2go]

But sometimes you are truly not alone in an experience... knowing this you are able to seek empathy and relate to those who also think the way you do. Keep at it you are doing great!

[@LonewolfAZ520]

I get this way sometimes. Especially feeling inadequate about life and what my purpose is. Thank you for sharing.

[@1000OtherFoxes]

I think everyone have these questions in mind... it's perfectly normal

[@Psych2go]

You got this!

[@kayciestraub]

God I'm crying right now, all of these hit home, I never thought I had this

[@soslothful]

Please be cautious about using these videos for any sort of self-diagnosis. A point clearly stated at the beginning of the video.

[@kayciestraub]

@@soslothful i know

[@soslothful]

@@kayciestraub Whatever you are struggling with I wish you well it overcoming it.

[@Psych2go]

You are amazing! Keep at it!

[@zigzaow]

It was literally like 2 weeks ago or something I really took a look at my mental health, after ignoring it for a long time. And I finally realized that I hate myself, and that I was never happy with a lot about myself, and just pretended I was. I’m talking to people about it, and they are very supportive, which is great, considering how sudden and stressful this is for me. But this channel has been great for helping me realize some of this stuff, so thank you!

[@internationalentertainment6906]

Until I REALIZED I HATED YOURSELF, YOU PROBABLY WERE SELF DESTRUCTIVE.. WITHOUT BEING AWARE

[@lovemyself9538]

Hey psych2go, can you please make a video on the following 2 topics- 1. Real differences between anxiety attacks and panic attacks 2. Ways to overcome self harm addiction

[@Psych2go]

we gotchu!

[@antizx9677]

I always thought I was depressed, but thanks to this video, I KNOW I AM RIGHT😭

[@soslothful]

Be attentive to the warning at the beginning of the video about self-diagnosis.

[@stevec404]

It seems to me that unresolved (early) trauma/PTSD that lingers for decades...will inevitably blossom into existential depression. It has for me.

[@staciemccann2898]

Ive heard of an Existential crisis but never Existential Depression... Wow. Thank you for this information 💙

[@TheDeahMoths]

she explained me in this entire video, even- the ending of my “ story “ and I am so scared everyday- I want to talk to people but I just can’t, I go away from others- it hurts to know I won’t talk back to people when they maybe say something to me. I really wish I was better, I wish I was good.

[@jessicalovesjesus8423]

I cry so much about this because I know all this is true about me…I always ask myself about life in a negative way… I used to love drawing, running, and playing, but I can’t do any of it now because I feel to tired…I can’t ever tell many people because they never understand…I also cry at night because of it… I can’t even focus on my work anymore because I’m also ADHD…I stay in my room reading or doing things I don’t even like, it’s really hard for me, especially since I don’t have a very good childhood…anyway have a good day/night.

[@jessicalovesjesus8423]

Thanks for your support I’ll think about it!🙃

[@GothGer11]

I understand what you're goin thro girlie 💯if you ever wanna chat reply back x we can go from there. Itz important that reach for those that need it so they foo know that they are NOT, EVER alone.🤗 #IfYouMadeItThroughTodayYoureWinning🏆 nuffsaid🤐

[@GothGer11]

@@jessicalovesjesus8423 np☺️

[@oncetwice5942]

Almost everything, especially the loneliness and suicidal thoughts. I’m extremely dissatisfied with where I am in life. I even wonder where tf did I go wrong in life that led me to living alone in an apartment with no wife, let alone a gf to go home to. I even feel like my depression is pushing some of my friends away from me too. I want to get help to get better, but every time I reach out for professional help, I can’t even get an appointment.

[@sunnyside_up333]

I just called one of the numbers and they actually listened about what I hate about whats going on and what I've never talked to anyone about and I really appreciate that this video helped me from finding the number and the video was really helpful♡

[@Psych2go]

Glad this video helped :)

[@crow3370]

I'm definitely an 8 for 8 on this one i normally don't like commenting on things this one of only few places i feel safe with out getting judged sometimes when I can't sleep at night I start to plan my own funeral you guys have no idea much your team means to me

[@nainkylelian194]

Number 5 just really hits me, I've been misunderstood every single time, I feel like a villain to whose story that I don't know thus making me isolated, scared to share my problems as I feel that I would be discriminated, yelled at

[@theMRsome12]

You're not alone in that. A lot of people feel this way, because it can seem like there is only one way you should be. And only one right answer to things. Just thanks to society as a whole, not other people actively. I think most people feel this way if they are honest, and just pretend to fit in. You are you, whoever you are random stranger on the internet. But, you are not alone in being yourself. I'm sure you have a ton to give to this world. And you can really make this world a better place, with a better future for all of us. (This includes everyone reading this as well.)

[@ASMRwithWoe]

I try to take it one day at a time, setting little goals for myself and try to complete them. Helps a lot :)

[@butterfly3676]

I feel this way, hopelessness, lost. I feel like I must’ve done something in my former life that I’m paying for in this life. I am the only one who doesn’t have their life together despite being the oldest. I feel lost everyday and going to work is my get out reality card. When I’m home I stay in bed. I think about suicide but my faith won’t allow me to go through with it. I didn’t know there was a name for this now that I do I can hopefully talk to my Dr. Thank you.

[@routinetherapy35]

To the person who is reading this comment, its okay, it’s alright to feel lonely sometimes, if you are going through tough times, keep pushing through, but never give up, i wish you great success in health, wealth, love and happiness!

[@AshantiH502]

It feels very reassuring to see that you’re not alone in a situation and that other people go through this stuff too. I relate to a few of these things and it sucks. Sending love and prayers to you all. 🤍🤍

[@havoc9322]

Anyone else feel like everything is boring? It's off topic I know but I feel like when I'm not bored I can at least tolerate the bs in life. But when it's boring and even worse when depression hits you at the same time it's hell. It's like this slow burning feeling inside you that doesn't go away for awhile so you just have to wait until it decides to leave. That's the best way I can describe it. Hope I'm not the only one who feels like this.

[@maraf3184]

Everything is boring movies, school, romance life, talking , people. Only nature Nature is not boring Just life Everything about life is boring

[@end4567]

Find purpose and complete tasks. That's fun.

[@maraf3184]

@@end4567 It's hard to find a purpose when you feel like your life has no meaning But I'll try 💕

[@sn0w999]

TW//: mentions of suicide - possibly a vent The thing with me is that I dont care. From a young age, like 11, I didn’t know what I was gonna do with my life, and that was kinda starting to reach worrying limits. I wasn’t ever uncomfortable or afraid of any kind of death mentioning, and never understood why people treasured life *so* much. I also thought a few times about taking my life away. I don’t really feel like I would be happy doing anything in future, and the possible fact that I won’t be happy for the rest of my life stresses me alot. With that, I’m also stressed because I’m starting to doubt that I have depersonalization and now I realize how uncomfortable living is to me. And when I started to go to school (so also early age), I was taking religion classes and also felt pretty uncomfortable with the fact that I will be alive for eternity, immortality always terrified me. Was also weirded out by how much my classmates were afraid of death and pleasured the fact that afterlife (may) exsist. If it was up to me, I would pick to float somwhere endless, not having consiousness and just being at peace, not exsisting. Thanks for listening, if you did :,)

[@dumplingyt9042]

Had a talk with my Therapist today (Thanks to a incident that occured awhile back) And I was Diagnosed with a Mild depression, It's an up and down Whenever I'm in a upset state or not, this Video helped me realize a bit what it can do to someone if not treated

[@dumplingyt9042]

@NehaTW: Well, It was midway During the school year when I had planned to take my own life.. And My Best friend (Who is now my gf) Went up to office to report that I was planning, I got Baker acted, It was Mainly a reaction to thinking negative about myself

[@angelartamesia2]

I haven't been diagnoised ofiicially or at all, but my "depression" if it even is, is up and down too, sometimes coupled with my period moods -_- very very hard to manage

[@dumplingyt9042]

@Neha I feel a okay

[@routinetherapy35]

To the person who is reading this comment, its okay, it’s alright to feel lonely sometimes, if you are going through tough times, keep pushing through, but never give up, i wish you great success in health, wealth, love and happiness!

[@Psych2go]

Now you know the root of the cause and are on your way to improvement :)

[@killer_rabbit42]

I've had most of these symptoms for the past 30 years & while I've found momentary distractions from these feelings over the years, I've never found anything that helped me find long term meaning or purpose in life. Most advice that's given when people go through this is to help others & you'll find meaning & fulfillment through the connections you make with people. I've been helping others my entire life, giving all I can, & probably more than I should, & it's just made me feel empty. I give all this time & energy to help those I care about but I don't always get that feeling of fulfillment, & when I do, it's usually fleeting because the thoughts of "why bother" & "what's the point when nothing really matters anyway" are at the forefront of my mind most days I don't know why I bother anymore except that if I didn't, I would feel immensely guilty for not helping when my friends are in need & even if I can't find meaning or purpose in life, I know that they do

[@Sans01hp]

Even when your mind want you dead, your body fights for you to live. The fear of what will happen next... The "i can't move my body " feeling before making something you may regret and it's too late. Once you ignore it, it's over. Listen to your body.

[@Cutietoasty]

Well….. I do everything on this list. I was diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety. I am in therapy and on antidepressants, but I still struggle with all of these.

[@meierlinksd4996]

I have a couple of questions and a statement about these points to depression. Yes, I do agree that once you start going down the rabbit hole of "the big questions in life", it can be very hard to get back out of there. You don't realize how fast and far all of pulls you in. Sometimes without giving you an escape hatch. It is why therapists, particularly those in CBT, try to focus in on the here and now. To focus less on unproductive thoughts, aka, rumination. However, I do have a question or series of questions, though (and yes, I know, it is stepping into another sinkhole, this one being the case of the "What-Ifs"). What if you do find that your life IS fairly pointless? That you do not matter that much, nor contributed to anyone else's well-being or joy? What if you are actually being honest with yourself? What if you do realize you made no significant connections with another person? No one to talk to, let alone call your friend? What if you saw that you indeed, achieved nothing in life? More importantly, what if you realized you were indeed a coward? Baked away from any challenges or decisions you could have made? That your life was a lost cause since birth? That you would always run for cover, no matter where, when, or to whom you were born? What if you could never conquer any fear, any anxiety, or any cowardice? What if a "spade is just a spade"? Then what do you do? What do you do when most therapies, therapists, or psychological medications do not work? What do you do when you not only have a general concern or distrust of people, but also of psychology and psychiatry, too? What do you do when you cannot overcome all the bad decisions you made in life due to poor judgment and cowardice? When you know you are a screw-up with no hope or chance at survival? Then what? To still survive because society tells you to stay? To not given in, when you already have ages ago? Then what? Then what could be reasonably done when it might be more beneficial to others to "check out"? Then what?

[@MVsekai114]

WARNING: Death and Suicide topics. I got diagnosed with major depression after a suicide attempt back in 2014 and to keep it short and try to answer as well as simplify your many questions in your second paragraph: Contemplate and understand death as it is. Whenever I'll die, any point I made through my life, any friend, any honesty I had with myself will not matter.. at all. I will be gone and all I'll be is just a memory, if, of course, someone remembers me. With this the question is no longer "What if..?" but instead "Why would I..?" Why would I do something with my life? Why would I have friends? and so on.. Why? Because I want to. Because I choose to. I want to move up in life, achieve goals, have friends, be someone in life.. all this while dealing with suicidal thoughs, major depression, most of the points made in this video (all but loneliness), dealing with insomnia and so many others things. I still survive because very deeply in the bottom of my mind and heart. I believe in myself.

[@michaelroach4219]

I don't think that it would be more beneficial to others to "check yourself out."That would cause a great deal of sadness to the people who knew you.Who knows,one of them might become so upset at your suicide that they might kill themselves.Sometimes I feel that life has no meaning.That could be a reason for religion.Sometimes that might not even be enough.We give our lives meaning.No one else can.

[@ey7349]

Please seek help. I don't want anybody to do that after seeing my dad's friend and our family's young& close friend doing that. It's been more than 15 years now but I am still sad that we lost our young friend. His mom has become very sensitive and it's hard for her to attend parties because she doesn't want to see other young people there who will remind her her own child. Remember your mom whenever you feel like that. It doesn't matter if your mother is alive or not she is always with you and worries about you. Keep it up. Never give up. Never.

[@benjaminsaulsbury5303]

I relate heavily with your thought process, dude! I’ve had a lot of the same questions haunt me throughout my life and haven’t really found a whole lot of useful answers to them. However, I have found some ideas that seem to solve some of conundrums present in that line of thinking The first idea is that we have a single life to interact with, so we ought to push it as far as it can go. Whenever you consider “checking out,” stop for a moment and consider how limitless such an idea makes you; if you do not fear death, what could life do to harm you? You could potentially do anything with enough training and effort, maybe going as far as living a meaningful or even happy life! The second is that being a screw-up is not an excuse to give up on yourself, it’s an encouragement to keep improving on who you are. I’m one of those types of guys that cant figure out how to do anything right unless I do everything wrong first. So, needless to say, I really understand the feeling of being a chronic failure. But being able to notice your mistakes is a wonderful gift: if you can see where you went wrong, then that means you have the potential to fix it for the future. It does take effort, but hey, what all do we have except for time and energy to spend? My third idea is that everybody should value the relationships they have with one another above anything else. In this, I don’t mean to imply that someone should identify with their relationships, rather I hope to point out the biological necessity for social interactions that is present in most animals. We live for each other. We fight for each other. We help each other. We write stories for each other. All throughout human history, we have had one consistent thing at the core of who we are: we had each other. It’s important to remember that and I know that idea alone has saved my life quite a few times. Related to this, being a social outcast is not an excuse to give up on society either. It may be an excuse to give up on an aspect of society, but certainly it does not serve as ample reasoning for giving up on everybody. There are people out there that can/will place value in you and allow you intertwine with their story, but you must remember to be open to such an opportunity. Go out of your way to be friendly and reach out to people, even if you’re “too damn tired” or “it seems pointless.” You might only feel it for the briefest of moments, but I’m confident that if you can find even one person to share a laugh, activity, smile, or just time with, you’ll feel a flicker of life inside of you! Hopefully some of those are useful for you, they’re what I use to keep trudging on myself! Life’s a son of a bitch, but taking on the challenges it throws at you let’s you create meaning from your struggles

[@lindseyluu1065]

Reading your post, my heart aches from the pain inside your What-if questions. I originally went to therapy for anxiety and depression. Your questions sound filled with regret, shame, and fear. And that's a painful, hopeless place to be in. For many of your what-ifs, radical acceptance may help. I struggle with this concept a lot and it's not easy. It means not fighting with reality (this does NOT mean giving up). It means acknowledging your pain and letting go of the suffering you experience over things you cannot change or control. The sad reality is there are definitely things we can never undo because that time has passed, but that does not mean we are forever broken. If you have regrets for not doing enough or not being enough, know that just living is enough. I think I heard this on Cinema Therapy - "The purpose of life is to live." Technically speaking, that's eating, drinking, and sleeping until we die. But the why? That's the gift we give ourselves. When I saw your questions that accuse you of being a coward, not trusting others, and being more beneficial by "checking out", that sounds like the inner critic. It's the part of depression that twists your reality into making you believe you are (insert shameful adjectives here) and that there is no hope. For me, it was incredibly frustrating to hear how much I meant to my family and friends because the inner critic twisted their words of truth into words of denial. Every Then What is another step down the hopelessness staircase. So I want to leave some alternative questions. Who benefits from calling you a coward? Who benefits from your distrust of sources for help? Who benefits from you giving up and why? I'll echo the other comments, don't check out. And don't feel that it's by any societal obligations either. The inner critic and depression does not have to define your life experience. You are courageous for asking your questions and for trusting us enough to share your thoughts. Thank you.

[@danferrusquia2819]

I’ve been having existential anxiety the past few nights and the timing of this video is lowkey making me question my reality

[@pierre0227]

Having been in therapy I want to let you guys know that suicidal or even homicidal thoughts do not equal intent. Don't be afraid to seek help.

[@Psych2go]

Indeed!

[@srushtisawant6174]

I'm glad t have found this channel in time:)

[@DragonzFire]

Wait how tf

[@Blisserene]

@@DragonzFire they have membership which lead them to early access to videos

[@elliekopter]

welcome a little bit late but still welcome

[@Blisserene]

@@elliekopter 😅

[@liltick102]

Insanely relatable. All of it, all the time - for the last 3 years.

[@alyzu4755]

I feel that I've struggled with this for as long as I can remember. But now I'm a parent of 2 kids with disabilities, and I'm terrified for their future. It's very hard to find any hope in the world these days, and I worry for them constantly.

[@NebirosVT]

Uhm, I did relate to this video in every single aspect. I've been battling with depression for the better part of 20 years without therapy or medication because I can't afford either which, you might have guessed, doesn't help my depression. In point of fact, the one time I was on medication, it was SSRI's and it made me much worse.

[@denisedavies9393]

Absolutely first time my depression has been described so clearly. I thought I was the only one living with this craziness since I was 9....I'm now 66 and thank you for finally allowing me to be OK with it . Lots of love ❤️ from one happy person ❤️

[@routinetherapy35]

To the person who is reading this comment, its okay, it’s alright to feel lonely sometimes, if you are going through tough times, keep pushing through, but never give up, i wish you great success in health, wealth, love and happiness!

[@itswompie]

This video game up 20 minutes after I was thinking about how lonely and sad my life is. The universe is giving me a sign

[@Psych2go]

We are here to support!

[@vjdrive1230]

I have been searching for 10 years for what was bothering me..this!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart😍now I can find ways to heal..you are the absolute best!!!

[@soulreaper760]

I think I might have had an existential crises recently, I am very confused and would like to know more about it, like how and why it happens? Would like to see a video from you guys explaining it someday. Love your content, keep up the good work!

[@Psych2go]

Can you describe more about this crises?

[@soulreaper760]

@@Psych2go It is a little hard to describe for me but I will try. What I think might have happened was that due to covid I had experienced losses, a lot of family stuff happened and I had a lot of free and alone time, and a lot of that time would be spent thinking about all sorts of stuff, I would think about life and existence as a whole, my place in this universe and how irrelevant and insignificant everything is. I basically did a 're-think' of everything in my life, my relationships, beliefs, perspectives and what I thought of life itself, and these thoughts gradually filled up my mind and every hour and moment would be spent by me drowning in these thoughts, and they became so overwhelming that at some point I felt like reality shattered and I felt like I was mentally and emotionally exhausted and I have been feeling low and melancholic since. I hope this had enough detail, it is a little hard for me to remember everything as things are a blur and also English is not my native language.

[@f8-dez]

It takes a long time to acknowledge that you do having something inside of you, and an even longer time to actually move forward from it. This video, the comments, and well, at least something to relate to... It feels nice, I know what's wrong with me, now it's just a matter of seeing what can be done to keep living. To all of you that are in the struggle as well, bless your souls for even withstanding the hardships, through behind the screen we look and share our experiences making an even more lonely feeling to just dwell within. If in doubt however, as human beings, we instinctually intend to thrive better as a whole, so when I'm alone in my room staring at the ceiling, I'd like to just type my comment down, and see what other people have to say and for some reason, even through the anonymity, I still feel accompanied. Take care all of you. 🖤

[@amry_the_noob9846]

man, most of the things you say reflect the way i feel and think(not s word, thank god), now i understand what i have

[@luisitogamer887alberto6]

Everytime I go to sleep I think about what could I do in my life, because theres a lot of thinks that I do but few of them make me happy so im searching a way to be noticed by my friends, I dont want to be erased from life.

[@davejoerger8928]

This pretty much sums up my life. It's consuming and eating away at me from the inside.

[@primeloses9633]

I exist to be, a source of amusement for others; a constant reminder that no matter how hard you try it all means nothing. But the duality of my existence is that I am my own person, not just the essence of the two that formed me. Within that duality I find myself, and myself wants to live happy, learn, experience and take part in life to discover what it is that called me into being.

[@wildfyah]

3, 4 and 6. 7 hasn't been bothering me lately thankfully but I have been feeling very apathetic about everything, disconnecting and pretty much burning myself out so I could sleep.

[@amandamariemuise]

Except for suicidal feelings (never even occurred to me) every other point is bang on. I wish I had known about this video last October when I began sinking into existential depression. I’ve gone through a lot of it now, working on the rest. Thank you for this.

[@northofthehemisphere]

Thank you for this information. . . I felt this deeply and last night I was ready to make a horrifying decision . . . I reached out and I am grateful for today I am learning how cope with my mental illness. Next step is healing from what I had experienced in my life with tragedies after tragedies and always putting myself in harms way so the ones I love and cherish won't get hurt. In the end it's me that is getting hurt. . . Again thank you. I am more understanding than before.

[@Music...me0]

I feel like I relate to this whole video and I just wanted to see this if I might have depression so I guess I might. Comparing yourself to others or calling people perfect because they look like they have a lot of friends and a happy life in general was one of the most common things for me.

[@oarabilesetshedi1445]

I always knew I was depressed but couldn't entirely relate to any type of depression I'd heard of except major depression(which is a broad term). I really wanted to know WHY I felt so pessimistic about life's reality, myself and how I fit into the world. Now I know I have existential depression.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing. Do any of these points apply to you?

[@oarabilesetshedi1445]

@@Psych2go Yes,literally all of them.

[@QueenNess80]

I am so thankful for this video!! I was wondering why I was feeling this way and what it was called. Now I, hopefully, can start to heal from this type of depression. I feel better knowing that what I was feeling has a name. Thank you so much!!!! 🥰

[@routinetherapy35]

To the person who is reading this comment, its okay, it’s alright to feel lonely sometimes, if you are going through tough times, keep pushing through, but never give up, i wish you great success in health, wealth, love and happiness!

[@Psych2go]

[@mayoniza_c]

thank you for posting this video when i needed it the most . I have been feeling down lately and been distancing myself from my friends and having the difficulty to open up but this really made me feel reassured there are people that actually care for me

[@Psych2go]

You are amazing! Keep at it!

[@timb4298]

For 24 hours, such thoughts and more are buzzing through my head. But now I know at least something about the origin of life, cosmic theories like the big bang and why people are the way they are.

[@kakarikokage2514]

Ironically, I do understand the meaning to life, but can't find meaning in my own. All of these points run through my head on a daily basis.

[@mariehaverty8209]

But can’t find meaning in my own, is this true. Turn this thought around, I can find meaning in my own life. Practise practise practise, when we get this change happens. It’s just leaving our conditioning we’re it belongs in the past, we can all do this. Life’s to short not t

[@mariehaverty8209]

To do this, hthis make sense

[@kakarikokage2514]

@@mariehaverty8209 Easier said than done.

[@mariehaverty8209]

@@kakarikokage2514 its easy we just make it difficult, nothing happens over night. Small steps🤗

[@kakarikokage2514]

@@mariehaverty8209 Sure.

[@RedLP5000S]

Yup. This is me to a T. Luckily, I have a stubbornness that refuses to let me give up completely. Because of this, I have tried countless treatments to get help such as counseling, pharmaceuticals, partial hospitalization, TMS therapy, and currently ECT. Since my depression is treatment resistant, I knew that desperate measures were needed. Out of everything that I've tried, ECT seems to be the only procedure that has made any modicum of difference. I am well aware that I will never be completely cured, however getting to be accepting of the things that I do not have any control over helps with the monumental burden of existentialism.

[@andrew_the_axolotl]

Ngl I’m watching this 9 minutes till midnight right now. If I wasn’t I’d be laying there sinking ever deeper into my thoughts. Haven’t been diagnosed and I’m not suicidal but I could have this.

[@sonicthehedgehog8159]

I had allergies so I had nothing to do but watching these videos.

[@janetbellini8065]

Thank you for this video Psych2Go. Unfortunately I relate to all these signs. Have been depressed for a long time. I feel like I have no purpose in life. I resort to drinking as a comfort. That's my problem. I just feel like something is missing in my life. I have a lot to be greatful for but always have this empty feeling in my heart. I'm always tired and lost interest in the things I used to enjoy. Thank you for this video. It made me feel like I'm not alone.

[@SneakS847TV]

Right now you all might not understand ,but we need you more then ever I don't mind you bother me all the time you got this we got this together we will stand to get every evil that's killing and hurting our parents and loved ones we need you though always remember we all need each other.

[@kG-uq7ju]

thank you so much for making videos like this. I got more than half the signs and the video has helped me better understand my feelings and be more self-aware. At the moment, i feel everything I think of doing is pointless but I just keep doing them anyway to keep my thoughts focused on the tasks and away from negative thoughts. Getting some sleep would be the only time I could rest mentally and emotionally. again thank you. your videos have been helpful.

[@routinetherapy35]

To the person who is reading this comment, its okay, it’s alright to feel lonely sometimes, if you are going through tough times, keep pushing through, but never give up, i wish you great success in health, wealth, love and happiness!

[@HazeSkys]

I’ve felt this way for a long time. Been alone for too long. I would try to look at the bright side and tell myself that I will change. It’s been years since then and I’m still alone, anxious, awkward, and useless. It seems my own family doesn’t have the patients to deal with me anymore and listen to my problems. And if they don’t care, how could anyone else? So many years wasted and I ask myself what is even the point anymore?

[@pineapple8375]

im going to get a psychological screening/evaluation, partially because ive related to things in a couple recent videos. thank you for making these, because they really help people ❤️

[@Psych2go]

Best of luck!

[@sailordarty9032]

Nearing thirty, no kids, no significant other, feeling isolated or distant from others, and constantly contemplating what the point of anything if it'll all be gone in a year or sooner. Questioning everything I am... Yeah. I can relate.

[@macmurfy2jka]

Only at the very end. My lack of passion at my job, and lack of significant other is killing me right now.

[@janinesan999]

I think i finally found the answer for my mood, recently i been feeling like this and i asked myself okay but what am i feeling “sadness”? “anger”? “anxiety”? and the answer was no i’m just not feeling nothing everything is pointless i don’t have motivation to do something with my life because i just don’t care about nothing, is such a horrible sensation because no matter what i do i feel empty i don’t even feel sadness, it makes me feel like i’m not a normal human being

[@brycethoreson9216]

Definitely relate to all of these, to bad a psychiatry channel only describes what im feeling and doesn't give help

[@danielgipson1908]

Thank you for all the hard work and help you bring to people like me who suffer from depression. You are a very talented smart and goes without saying beautiful woman. Keep up the good work

[@Palak2004-pb4]

hello psych2go this time I'm little bit stress about my study but I'm try to control negative thoughts and meditate to help my stress problem your video always help me lot

[@jumentogenial-oi2oo]

I know this is a strange thing to say but I don't say it in a malicious way. but your voice is so sweet and calm. it is not a hostile voice, it is calm and serene. very pleasant to listen to. again I do not mean this in a malicious sense.

[@kaileymcclain2391]

I told my parents about this and they started saying “the reason he’s in this position is because we never got him interested in these hobbies before; man up”

[@disappointedmess209]

this, this is it. Camus, Sartre, Schopenhauer, and Nietzsche have been my mentors to try and explain my suffering and world as I see it. I know slightly more then I did yesterday but not nearly enough.

[@natachadealvezofficial]

If anyone here needs someone to talk to, or even a listening ear ?? It’s okay, your stuff will be safe with me … just know that you’re okay and i love you regardless 🥺❤️

[@afiaazizaa]

❤️❤️❤️

[@leifotto4277]

If you’re serious… basically everything in the vid comes up for me - when I’m alone. But, when I’m with people, I focus on expansion - what’s possible. I’m actually enthusiastic and very positive. I just don’t find anyone up for any kind of creative project, and that’s discouraging, since doing things by myself just isn’t fun enough to make the effort worthwhile. My dream is to find someone who’s a writer or an artist or a scientist for creative collaboration. I have original content for several books or courses or KZbin channels. But, again, doing everything by myself is boring, while working with someone who’s got some talent and enthusiasm is a blast! After years of looking for someone with that balance of intelligence and playfulness and creativity, my thoughts have turned dark. Just hoping for that chance meeting, or to discover enough energy within myself to create something from start to finish, alone. But, as I’ve said, I’ve been hoping for many years now. Thanks for “listening.” 🙏🏻😌🌿

[@natachadealvezofficial]

+Leif Otto Hey leif ! I just read your message … and you’re most welcome ! I’m happy to listen no matter what because it’s nice to get someone that can finally read your thoughts / listen to your thoughts. I just want you to know that it’s completely not your fault as to why you’re alone and instead of thinking thoughts like “i’ll get over it”, process your emotions , and process them in a way where you’ll be able to get that all out ! Take all the time you need and just know that it’s fine to have those dark moments… it honestly is ! I strongly believe that you WILL find someone to share that creativity with, that person will come to you soon ! It’s honestly unfortunate that you’ve been waiting many years … i get that … tell me, what else has been on your mind ?

[@natachadealvezofficial]

+Afia Aziza I’m here 💘

[@afiaazizaa]

@@natachadealvezofficial thanks 😊❤️ Uh ,if youuu need someone to talk I'm here 🥰❤️

[@WolfyLionMonster]

You guys post the right videos at the exact right times

[@Shiorou]

This channel can heal every pains

[@augustustheodorevillanueva8220]

I always have those signs but idk that I was depressed... thanks for giving me a solution.

[@Poddle_e]

I can relate to this somehow. I would like to tell, THE ANIMATION is just perfect and ofc the voice! Thank you so much

[@Psych2go]

Aww, thanks!! Would you like to see more of this animation?

[@Poddle_e]

@@Psych2go yes of course!!!! Thanks for your hardwork:)

[@afiaazizaa]

I actually love to listen this voice ❤️❤️

[@mattpunx]

i do feel highly misunderstood nowadays, and it makes hard to connect with others. Even more if you have to make new friends or know new people.

[@Joel2432]

Great video👍my recent existential crisis scared and made me feel absolutely horrible. But its not all bad because it has given me perspective ,I now understand how precious time is, and after being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder I realise thats exactly what it is, just anxious thought's." Thoughts not reality" 😉

[@Psych2go]

You are amazing! Keep at it!

[@mr.h-snacke2977]

I've been dealing with this thoughts for years by now, ever since I was 14 or so, it hasn't been easy (I'm 26), mostly because only until recently I started going with a therapist but we still haven't made any real progress... But for me there is a big difference, I don't feel like committing suicid3, I am extremely terrified of death, I do feel that life is meaningless but I am more afraid of ceasing to exist than I am of the futility of it all, I am that egocentric than I can accept everyone else's mortality but my own, I hate the thought of getting old and losing my physical and mental capabilities over time... I have imagined the death of all my family members and friends, and pretty much got over it by now, I have numbed myself emotionally to those future situations but I cannot do the same for me, that's my biggest fear in life... It's end I don't believe in god nor the devil, I don't think anything awaits for us at the end, that sounds too good to be true, for me religion is nothing but a coping mechanism invented by us humans to deal with our meaningless existence, an easy answer for this existential questions that cause such dread... And as time goes by I grow desperate and more terrified because the inevitable end gets closer and closer and I still can't seem to find a way of accepting my own cursed mortality!! Some times I wish I was that foolish as to accept any religious mumbo jumbo and live my life believing that something's waiting for me at the end of this life if I stick to some moral rules stablished by said religion...

[@BeHarpazoReady]

The gospel for salvation, 1Corinthians 15:1-4. Romans 10:9-10. We are very close now to the rapture of the church just before the Tribulation aka NWO begins. Get saved today. Maranatha 😇

[@quoileternite]

I could not work from home during the lockdown and the office was closed. I completely lost the purpose of living : l would stay in bed, did not wash, did not eat, drank wine, nothing was meaningful anymore, today was like yesterday and would be like tomorrow, and I finally ended up having a panic attac ... this has had a long effect on my "existential" representations and still has : most things are pointless, we are just dust in wind, blown away randomly, life is transitory, a short moment in between brackets, living is not the essential part of being, existence must be broader. Living in a foreign country does not necessarily help to connect either, I feel more and more excluded, isolated. But thanks God, I am going back to my home country soon, and I hope this will help me relate better to / connect better with people, culture, language, arts, life, myself and the outside world. Small things, apparently unsignificant, can sometimes have a big impact and the wheel goes round.

[@Keith-tz2jy]

You hit the nail on the head. I sure can't wait till I die.

[@llunnaaa_x]

Sending some love and hugs to all the ppl who is facing this ♡︎ (Always remember to not give up)

[@soslothful]

One of the best thoughts I've encountered concerning thoughts of suicide was heard on a TED Talks video on depression. The presenter of the talk had expressed thoughts of suicide and was asked, "Do you really want to be dead, or do you just not want to feel so miserable?" This is worth serious consideration.

[@baristaz8834]

You know you are not okay when you start feeling exhausted and you feel like falling into a deep sleep and never waking up.

[@rebeccah7250]

That's me rn too, I get ya

[@p0cketplut0]

Ahhh I love the art style of this!! The animation is so delightful to watch :)) I love this channel :))

[@Psych2go]

Glad you enjoy it! Is this your favorite animation so far? :)

[@p0cketplut0]

@@Psych2go ❤️❤️❤️ I think so!! But I’m not sure exactly, I really love all of the animations ^^ sometimes I will rewatch the videos because I am paying too much attention to the adorable art 😂

[@blizzardwarrior8738]

Its okay to consider these things sometimes, but constantly thinking about exsistance, and death, and finality would ultimately make you more so depressed. I've been going through alot the past 6 or so years going into adulthood i was constantly told and reminded of very dire things by those around me, and it give me a very negative out look on life. I feel like a shell of the once happy and less worried person i used to be. My mind quite a mess, but i hope one day I would have sorted through everything and be able to choose my identity.

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

As children we have so much of our needs and wants taken care of... We can afford frivolous joy and an almost negligent mindset... It's as we grow up and learn about the world around us, we start crashing into the severity of threats against us... the ease in which we can get into serious and dangerous trouble... ...AND then one day we come to realize that NOTHING is actually safe. When you realize at some point that no matter how hard you struggle or how much you try to take care of yourself death is inevitable, you're out of childhood and adulthood has set in... It's a tough transition and it takes different people different amounts of time. We DON'T all get to just accept it with a shrug and move on. AND it's okay for that to not be okay. Life is messy... chaotic... frequently painful... regularly disappointing... and only occasionally truly or remarkably HAPPY or particularly pleasant. You're not alone noticing... Try not to get too caught up worrying about something you can't stop or control anyway to notice and revel in those times when you CAN be truly happy. AND yeah, eventually you'll get your mind sorted out, more or less... Your identity is going to change and grow as YOU change and grow. It's okay, too. In fact, it's healthy and relatively normal. ;o)

[@blizzardwarrior8738]

@@gnarthdarkanen7464 thanks, that mean alot to me ^^

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

@@blizzardwarrior8738 Always welcome... I just hoped you'd get something useful out of it. ;o)

[@Jockwardia]

Yupp!! Been there, done that, still there. This is literally me.

[@AMagicalBakewell]

As a male who has been struggling with Gender Identity Disorder for most of my life I often feel this way. I am 34 years old and really only came out about this last year. I feel that I am too old to really do anything about it and even when I do it feels pointless. I have been diagnosed with Depression and anxiety several times throughout my life and often do feel suicidal, like that would finally bring me some semblance of peace compared to all of the resentment and misery I have to go through on a daily basis. Existentual thoughts like this are often on my mind and it is tough. Thank you so much for making this video. I would love to see you do a video on Gender Identity Disorder.

[@therobotengineer9834]

I’ve had many moments like this. I’m not sure If I do suffer from existential depression, but I can somewhat relate to the points made in this video. Thanks for sharing this.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing. How many signs did you resonate with?

[@therobotengineer9834]

@@Psych2go around 4. Ironically around a day after I put this comment, a member of my family had a talk with me and wanted me to discuss my thoughts and mental state with them. It really helped me with some of my problems.

[@assafamily2023]

I am not even kidding. I am experiencing all the eight symptoms.I swear.It's like this video is reading my mind.

[@barolivkovich8509]

Well maybe people will not read it, but I will type it anyway. I suffer from depression, I never take pills because I choose not to, it very easy to get to the loop of sadness because it more easy, I fight with that every day and I keep fighting and the reason is because I find something that is important to me, to help people who suffer they way I am, and to be something that I wanted to be, no one can promise me it will be, but I will do everything to get there. I try to avoid as much as I can with though like I did not choose to live, but when I try to took my life people make it that big a deal. If you want to find small hope is to start do something that will be your goal, if you don't belive in yourself find friend or someone who will belive in you, that what help me at least, I hope I will help you as well

[@ives3572]

“People who have never dealt with depression think it’s just being sad or being in a bad mood. That’s not what depression is for me; it’s falling into a state of grayness and numbness.” - Dan Reynolds

[@grumpytoadgaming9742]

I hate existential crises. Every single time I always think way too deep and my mind just triggers what I can only describe as feeling like a self-destruct sequence, trying to cease every and all thoughts I'm having (be they related or unrelated) and even the urge to drop out of consciousness. Hate 'em, dude.

[@nuevo8028]

literally i can relate to every depression video from this chanel now im 200% sure about it

[@ssj2sanjifanboy068]

I’ve struggled with depression from a early age. My biological mom was severely abusive to me from a little before I turned 6, to almost before I turned 10. My aunt adopted me, but I suffered mental and verbal abuse from her sometimes, but my cousin and his wife, and my other cousin, when they lived with us. My aunt had a coworker that, both her and her husband used her for her money. I mentioned that they sounded like they were using her and, her husband being a cop, started trying to get me sent to juvenile, talking to the high schools resource officer, etc. I was able to get away from them by going to a youth center, then asking to go to a military run GED program, so I was gone for 2 1/2 years. I’m not going to blow smoke and say every single day was horrible, but the things that those people did, especially my biological mom, made an impact. I was diagnosed with depression, ADHD, anxiety, and ptsd. I’ve often felt over the years that I don’t belong in this time. Like one of the times my biological mom tried to kill me, I should’ve died but it didn’t happen, like it was a mistake I’m here. I struggle at times feeling like I’m a good parent, spouse, anything honestly. I’m on medication that helps with my depression and anxiety, and it helps, but I still get down sometimes. I guess we all do. I just want to be able to see what people that say they love me see.

[@routinetherapy35]

To the person who is reading this comment, its okay, it’s alright to feel lonely sometimes, if you are going through tough times, keep pushing through, but never give up, i wish you great success in health, wealth, love and happiness!

[@shockdojo6414]

Also depression gives a very dreary strong sense of learned helplessness and a feeling of actual helplessness.

[@lovelynikki_346]

This is the most relatable video I have ever seen on this channel. I have been going through all of these feelings for probably about a year or something however, it felt much longer then that. I felt so confused, lost and trapped in an endless cycle of thoughts about how everything I did in life, or soon will do in my future is all meaningless, because I would die one day anyway, so nothing was worth trying. I felt like I was living through everyday without purpose because the idea of life and the future felt so pointless. I was questioning every little aspect about the world, which was driving me insane. It was like I was the only person on earth who had ever felt these feelings and no one would’ve ever understood my current prospective of life, like if I told people, they would take it the wrong way. It was just way too challenging to explain this to people who can’t relate, which made me feel alone with these thoughts. I literally never knew that what I was feeling was an actual thing. However, now I have grown so much and I’m slowly gaining a better view on life. It’s definitely not easy but, to whoever else who is experiencing these same feelings, just know that ur never alone and it’s possible to be happy again. Don’t give up.🤍

[@vaekal]

Yeah was literally thinking about this yesterday, every once in a while that thought comes back but i guess theres nothin much to be done atm

[@davec3651]

Authentically, there is no point to existence without people you are close to in your life. Unless you happen to be accomplishing something world changing, beyond what the vast majority of people do in their lives.