8 Signs You're Just a Friend, Not Lover

So, you like someone eh? Well, that’s why you’re here! …Or you’re just curious about future possibilities. After all, you never know what life might bring you! Perhaps you’ve had a long-time friend, and suddenly you start to develop feelings towards them in a new light? So you think you might be in the friend zone? How can you be sure exactly? Don’t worry my friend, we're here to help you out.
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Writer: Michal Mitchell
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
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References
Julie Peirano More Articles July 26, 2017. “10 Signs You’re Headed for the Friend Zone Instead of a Romantic Relationship.” Showbiz Cheat Sheet, 26 July 2017, www.cheatsheet.com/health-fitness/signs-youre-headed-for-the-friend-zone.html/.
Kaufman, Scott Barry. “How a Hopeful Lover Ends Up a Disappointed Friend.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 22 Aug. 2008, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/beautiful-minds/200808/how-hopeful-lover-ends-disappointed-friend?collection=162648.
Julie Peirano More Articles February 24, 2016. “Sex Talk: Why Your Relationship Needs Intimacy to Survive.” Showbiz Cheat Sheet, 25 Feb. 2016, www.cheatsheet.com/health-fitness/sex-talk-why-your-relationship-needs-intimacy-to-survive.html/.

[@perrytheplatypus938]

This is why I’m scared of love because I’m to scared of getting turned down and my heart can’t take anymore of those 🥺

[@SchketsaFool]

It’s ok, sometimes you gotta let things go, but I’m sure you can do it when it comes to love!

[@Kizie7895]

Are you phineas and ferb fan between if you know the law of attraction you won't think the same way you will get your perfect one

[@stellamarkose3262]

that's why Doof is always holding you hostage, he loves you too but in his own 'evil' way

[@rinkuto4804]

Dont be like That friend i know it is Hard to get turned down on But Trust me if you are Holding your feeling from your crush in you and your crush has feelings for you and you dont know it Then your Story will be a das One. Trust meee…..source..

[@Kizie7895]

@@stellamarkose3262 😂😂

[@therealchatnoir]

You can't get friendzoned if all your crushes are fictional

[@caluscalus6533]

@kitty noir XD daaam

[@miyokaze]

@kitty noir lol 😳

[@daichisawamura20yearsago64]

Fax no printer

[@sylviayong8906]

@kitty noir Lma you are hilarious!

[@rainitaouwu]

Cant get friendzoned if your crush doesnt exist

[@InvisibleBoot]

General rule I go by: Always assume you are just a friend until explicitly told otherwise

[@gpttotes]

Ikr, like it's not rocket science 🙄

[@f12736]

Good one

[@ranroon273]

this is the best way

[@elsongs]

And even if she really does like me, I simply deny it and think, "Naaaah, she's just trying to be friendly."

[@Julio-ni6zj]

Arigatou sensei. Those are some wise words . Mma take em to my grave

[@Renaissance-fw1ox]

Can’t be friend zoned if you don’t talk to people in first place. Modern problems require modern solutions.

[@mistamaog]

Big Brain!

[@lmar3871]

#covid

[@samanthaginnifer7374]

#avoidantpersonalitydisorder

[@katylwi]

Yep. Yesterday, a taxi driver saw me running on the street as I was rushed to get somewhere and he stopped the car to ask me friendly if I wanted and needed for him to drive me somewhere, but I freezed and declined. Anyway, there was no need for me to go by taxi, as I was only a few metres away from the destination. But I didn't like that I panicked at his invitation. I also laughed a bit.

[@lenoxpI]

#scaredofwomen

[@nathanielstevens7150]

Don’t give up y’all. Turns out I friend zoned my future wife for 12 years lol met each other in middle school, friends through high school and started dating in college, and now getting married next September ❤️

[@helena-mk6ik]

Congrats man!

[@joeljeshurun1918]

😂idk why this is funny to me. But wholesome at the same time.

[@chak_dz6961]

Wow ..so i'ts a periode of instead of a zone lol

[@rinid7371]

@@chak_dz6961 it's a matter of time I guess, sometime takes longer sometimes lesser, sometimes forever :(

[@Meela9088]

How? XD

[@lizaschkolnikova9416]

I've been friendzoned by this guy up to a point of him calling me "a friend". And what do you know, a few weeks ago we kissed and are happy together. He explained that he just fancied me too much and was too shy to show it in any romantic way, because he was afraid of rejection. To be fair, according to this video I was treating him the friendzon style too.. So don't be afraid to show your affection due to the fear of rejection. There are people with mutual romantic interest, who end up as friends just because both are afraid of rejection to the point of acting strictly friendly with each other.

[@kaboomgaming4255]

This sounds kind of like me. I like way too many people to some degree, I want to get to know them, to become friends with them, but I don't want to say anything that could be in any way construed as romantic, not just because I feel like people won't appreciate it, but because I don't know if my feelings will fade. The only thing I felt remotely comfortable with was texting with my close friends that I would never be the one to initiate any sort of romantic relationship, and that I would hope that someone who liked me would actually make that obvious. Is there any hope for me?

[@lizaschkolnikova9416]

@@kaboomgaming4255 You need to be brave to find love. If you aren't ready to even show romantic interest, maybe you're just not ready for relationships.. because starting new romance is way easier than actually maintaining it. And it's ok not to be ready, there is no "correct" age for it.

[@aleksatrapara7352]

We need to talk asap.

[@osvaldogarrido3726]

​@@lizaschkolnikova9416 that bs. Some people just stand there and get laid xd

[@jooyoonchung3593]

I know I sometimes will bring up dating other people in conversation as a way to broach the subject of dating in a way that’s super safe. So I totally understand where your guy was coming from. Anyway, it’s been a year! How are things between the two of you now?

[@dms8872]

love is so complicated... you can't go and say," hey I like you. wanna go out." to a complete stranger... and if you befriend them, you fall deeper into friendzone...

[@Eriii693]

Me in my head: omg she loves me aaah Shrek: _closes book_ *”like thats ever going to happen!”*

[@daichisawamura20yearsago64]

AHAHAHAHA SAME SIS

[@xXdarkdekuXx]

Forgot about the part where he rips it out and wipes his ass with it

[@nick_nt7574]

@@xXdarkdekuXx and walks out of the out room with the iconic song. pretty much me every day

[@MarMarVibes]

Yup

[@CyberusSuper]

Somebody once told me-

[@lunatism9714]

When you only try to be kind but others think you're flirting :')

[@drumdad54sdl47]

That's the world we live in today. It seems all too easy & common to have your intentions misinterpreted.

[@lunatism9714]

@@drumdad54sdl47 ikr! Why is the only thing on people's mind SEX😭

[@bunnyboo6295]

oh I wonder if im flirting with everyone

[@bunnyboo6295]

@@lunatism9714 wait if someone says they like someone romantic they think dirty about you if so friendzone is the best deal you get all the best fun things in the relationship without sex plus friends are more likely to be in your life for the long term.

[@SeudXe]

Ive been on both sides. This is why its better not to worry about hints or signs of attraction and just be straightforward.

[@jonathanflores9874]

As I have gotten older I realized all my crushes I've had never really existed. They were people I have made up in my mind. I would day dream and visualize the person would be then realize sometimes years later of knowing them the thing I thought was so special about them was a facade.

[@burritoandsalad4160]

Damn I relate to this so much!!

[@Steinbach1984]

I once visited a psychologist specialised in men, mostly in their thirties, who can't get sex or relationships. One of her main tenets was: forget the verb "to friendzone". You don't get friendzoned. You're doing that yourself. Certainly one of the main remedies, make your intention clear from the very beginning, is hinted at here already.

[@hijack69]

And how exactly do you hint?

[@Psych2go]

Friendzone? Nah, not with us. We will always be on your side.

[@rekoi4583]

🥺❤️

[@vikamly9471]

That's sweet thanks

[@skeppyshalo8110]

awh thanks pal

[@GreyKlouds]

[@stanmvrshh1709]

Ty 💕

[@calliethewolfcat2183]

A common misconception is that the Friendzone is the worst outcome, but being in the Friendzone can keep you open for opportunities to meet the one you're looking for. And maybe you'll find that your crush just isn't dating material.

[@buyerbware25]

So true; why is the friend zone bad? If you are friends with people who share your values, you are more likely to meet your special someone through or with them.

[@brandonontama2415]

@@buyerbware25 Dude, do you understand how painful rejection it fucking hurts. And least when you barely know the person you can move on easily but if friendzoned you have see that person everything single day making the pain worse.

[@buyerbware25]

@@brandonontama2415 Every single day? Are you one of those guys who thinks that dating coworkers is a great idea?

[@brandonontama2415]

@@buyerbware25 Fine, not everyday but regularly, which is still painful.

[@brandonontama2415]

@@beckswoof9990 People don't owe people friendship either.

[@Unwatered_Plant]

0:50 "don't worry *MY FRIEND*" man, friend zoned again

[@iblameesree]

lol

[@ZestyBarnacle69]

when you realize YOU unintentionally friend zone the people you actually like... 🧍🏻‍♀️🤡

[@leeisamess.28]

I friendzone everyone cuz i barely like like anyone lmao

[@neofitoff]

And now im struggling lmao.

[@alannamartins7455]

i friend-zone every single crush of mine because i’m scared they will know i like them

[@ZestyBarnacle69]

@@alannamartins7455 felt that one 😔☝🏼

[@paletkarokliklova4002]

*Flashbacks to Adrian Agreste*

[@homelesswizard3161]

Take this video with a grain of salt. Was really close friends with a girl that we've been very platonic with. We were friends for a year and did tik every checkmark on this list that says we're just friends. After she get out of a multiple year relationship she would always tell me about the guys she was talking to. One of our friends made a joke how me and her should date and she said "That would be incest, he is like a brother to me". But I had developed feelings for her, didn't ask her out basically just let her know I fancy her. Things escalated and now we're dating. Turns out she had a thing for me as well, I asked her why she didn't show any signs at all and she said she was sacred since she believed I didn't look at her that way and was afraid not to weird me out and ruin things.

[@jooyoonchung3593]

Funny how we sabotage ourselves like that? Glad it worked out for you two!

[@homelesswizard3161]

@@jooyoonchung3593 Yeah we talked about how close it was to things never happening. I was extremely hesitant to never let her know I found her attractive. Somebody else told her they had feelings for her and she rejected them, but they remained friends and it made it seem not as scary/awkward. I was fully expecting the same thing, it was more of a "get a no and move on" confession.

[@rjjitzu]

How is she gona call it incest and proceeds to date you then tell you later down the line that she always had a thing for you?

[@homelesswizard3161]

@@rjjitzu She told me she didn't know why she said it at the time but the main reason was that she didn't think I liked her that way. It's kind of weird but it makes sense cause it's something I've done too. If you like somebody but you assume they don't like you back you say things to tell the other person "yeah we're just friends". It's a way of masking your feelings for them.

[@hangtran7700]

@@homelesswizard3161I confirm that’s exactly what I’ve told to a guy that I’m interested in… when he asked me that recently he has the feeling that I expect something more from him like our friendship is not enough… and I told him that don’t worry we’re friends and I expect nothing more from our friendship. In fact, I like him but I’m scared he isn’t interested in me more than a friend and to be honest, the way he asked me like this seems a bit strange so that I was freaking out to tell my true feelings 😅

[@scronk_2]

“I LOVE YOU” “WTF” “what do you mean wtf” *“Welcome to friendzone”*

[@doomslayerplushie6662]

Ooooof size the size of observable universe

[@joseconradosanchezamaral2451]

that hurts XD

[@TheMiGger]

This is pure gold

[@ja4309]

This is pure cold

[@fernwing143]

Oof... but good job!

[@tommygunn6901]

Just another mind game I REFUSE to play

[@SamElle]

YOU AND ME BOTH

[@zellanutellaa]

Same fuck all that

[@alicenotangel1923]

😂 not this sh*t again

[@tommygunn6901]

@@SamElle best of luck in your future endeavors

[@SeudXe]

@@tommygunn6901 Exactly. Get to the point no playing hard to get.

[@kokoayb5978]

to be honest , it's not that i'm scared of rejection or turned down, i'm scared of it ruining the friendship if i end up confessing , but for now ig ill just play it cool and just act normally

[@helenacorreia7613]

Same

[@helenacorreia7613]

But I don't think it will ruin as long as you keep playing cool and give space to the person

[@jessicabrocious3286]

I have a friend-well, used to be a friend- who I thought was closer than they actually were. I was going through some stuff and they stuck by me, even though our classmates judged them for staying friends. They became the reason I didn't kill myself and kept fighting. I noticed things about them and trusted them more than anyone else. Little did I know, they were just being kind and didn't think of me that way. It's been a year since they actually really talked to me, but I still tell stories about them because they are such a big part of who I am. I miss them, even though they're still in the same general area. It feels like there's miles between us even though he's only two feet away.

[@johngomes8874]

Interesting dilema. Hope you are feeling better too too though

[@Bully_who_made_goblin_Jr_cry]

I feel ya

[@juliakay7446]

8 Signs You’re in the Friendzone: 1) Only you show off your attractive qualities 0:57 2) They mention other people whom they find attractive 1:33 3) They don’t flirt back 1:57 4) You didn’t hint your attraction from the beginning 2:58 5) They don’t initiate touch 3:43 6) You’re always the one doing them favors 4:29 7) They always have a third wheel 5:06 8) Their attitude and language are strictly friendly 5:31 Don’t forget to watch the video for more information and subscribe to Psych2Go!

[@Ri-77]

Thank you so much 💜

[@_kazum1_646]

Thanks bro

[@Lovefromarii]

Thanks luv

[@IshaSharma11]

Thanks

[@adnan7698]

Oh shit this means that i wasn't in the friendzone!? I want my 14 years of self doubt back

[@loidamayneyee9749]

Psych to Go: "So do you think you're in the friend zone.?" Me: "YES.!"

[@dramon_xD]

same

[@rara3382]

I think... Me too...

[@ichoosemysanity6467]

No never accept the friend zone if you want more. Only get in it if you're ok with it.

[@edgargarcez6098]

The problem with Friendzone it's that the person who is loved takes for granted all the affection of the person who is interested as being normal, when actually the person is making an effort to show all his quality and love. Nobody owes nobody nothing but still...

[@CaulkMongler]

I think the thing a lot of people seem to forget is that relationships weren’t always “you wanna date? Yeah? Okay, see u Friday I’ll pick you up” our hustle culture has conditioned us to think that if it hasn’t lifted off by X amount of time it’s a wrap. There’s no such thing anymore as building trust over a long period of time before reassessing and deciding that a relationship is actually a good future for mutual friends.

[@alishaanimations3058]

Woah

[@JAGreat]

This. This is my problem. I've tried to start every relationship I've ever been interested in, by trying to find common interests, common beliefs, and a healthy dynamic of communication. And it's like once I do and I feel comfortable persuing something more, we're already too close as friends to be anything else. It's like I took too long to decide it was healthy for me to persue them.

[@helenacorreia7613]

Amen

[@sureimhappy]

@@JAGreat the number one rule for me is I have to like them as a friend in the first place, if not, then we will never date and if that puts me in their friend zone and I'm now undatable to them then I know what I need to know about them and we won't date. You're doing the right thing don't second guess yourself, friend

[@mohammedsaquib4074]

Hey, even if the characters in the video are sad, being in the friendzone is not a bad thing. It's great to have someone who is your friend and you can still joke around and have fun. Sometimes being friends is still closer than love

[@Asril24]

Sure it's better than being cut off. It hurts like AF nonetheless

[@EJINSANE]

Till those friends get replaced by actual love interests

[@randomyoutubecommenter4]

Staying in the friendzone can pretty much fuck up your mental health, specially when your "friend" finds someone else. Seems pretty bad to me.

[@johans3164]

@@EJINSANE they will be most definitely get replaced. So much hypocrisy all around

[@elsongs]

That's the "Friends With Benefits Zone."

[@mariolinocastellazzi197]

All of my crushes have developed after some time, I always acted in a friendly way with my past and current crushes before developing feelings towards them. I just can't see a person as a potential partner before I get to know them better, it's a gradual process and it takes a lot of time for me. I feel like this is holding me back so much.

[@rickit8626]

Dw, I believe in “easy come easy go” and that the same applies to the opposite.

[@SoldierOfFate]

The road to a good relationship starts with a good friendship. The dysfunctional ones are always quick pick ups that are never given any thoughts into.

[@rainewhispersfan9342]

It's taken me 8 years to realize I have a crush on my best friend. Now I'm really afraid to tell her because we've been friends for so long...

[@orangeziggy599]

I feel the same way. Friendship is a process of developing trust first, but I'm not gonna feel ANYTHING simply based on a 5 minute look. I feel it is dishonest to proclaim to someone they seem like a good fit for you if you don't even know who they are and that relationship is bound to fail bc it's only based on first impressions.

[@knoekus]

Exactly this! I only developed feeling after like a year of being around each other very regularly… :(

[@gaydragonsq4101]

After I was turned down by my best friend, my whole view on love changed. I’m afraid to ever be exceptionally happy again and have a connection extremely deep. I never want to bond with someone in that way again. Barely anything makes me feel happy anymore.

[@1kdv123_]

Going through the same shit with my bsf smh don’t know why she won’t give me a chance… it’s just so confusing and my heart ❤️‍🩹 hurts … just letting you know bro you not alone 💚

[@Asher_Motionless570]

I’ve never been rejected before, but I’m too afraid to ask the person I have feelings for because I don’t want to be embarrassed by getting rejected. My depression makes me feel like I’ve been rejected hundreds of time even though I never have.

[@stevo6891]

Same here, I just take care of me and that’s it.. Always got games or rejected.. It crushed me back in the day so I look out for me..

[@frankhunter8703]

Maybe that's why I can't admit my feelings to them 😔

[@kleeblattchen38]

I technically got friendzoned when i confessed my feelings but in a way that still makes me wonder if there isn't or at least wasn't a genuine interest from both sides and that the rejection was rather a result of the fact that the timing was maybe a little too early... Man these things are complicated

[@magsolx2240]

wait i thought its only me ,so may i know ur next move? or what u doin rn

[@kleeblattchen38]

@@magsolx2240 well you have to ask yourself if the effort ur putting in is reciprocated in any way or not... even after putting all my cards on the table I didn't experience her taking the initiative so I let it go... If you realize you're maybe starting to chase someone instead of pursuing, it's time to move on... If she can give a final and conclusive answer that's very much appreciated because it can help you let go but sadly that's not always the case...

[@bahenbihen]

I had the same happen to me last week. Whether it was too early or too late is not important I believe - the emotional connection is where it's at. The girl clearly liked me, but I never made a romantic move, but rather just confessed my feelings which put us in an uncomfortable position. No reason to invite someone on a date if you've been hanging out with them without a "situation label" for a while. Next time just go for the kiss when the timing is right :)

[@shadowcastorg]

The " friend zone" is perfect groundwork for a Narcissist to exploit their victims.

[@Libra8410]

Facts

[@almond-lofimusic4626]

Facts

[@berrydragon6141]

^ This

[@naplesdivision4894]

Facts

[@ashleythehooman]

Facts

[@hookslogan]

This is why I just stopped trying to date, when everyone you fall for only sees you as a friend and always wants something better even when they do give you a chance, whats the point?

[@zayn8891]

I agree-

[@what-ne6st]

Same- 😭 I have alot of crush in the past now I think being single is cool🙂 tho I'm very lonely 😂

[@hookslogan]

@@what-ne6st definitely understand that. The only things Ive found to help with loneliness are surrounding myself in my hobbies and just doing things I enjoy or that I couldn’t do if I was with someone.

[@zayn8891]

Well at least you have youtube and anime-

[@what-ne6st]

@@zayn8891 right🙂

[@buttercup5920]

Also a lot ppl think they are “ugly” when their crush don’t “like you like you” in that way when it’s just maybe you don’t have that certain personality they’re looking for in a partner .. ex: you maybe shy they want outgoing or they maybe too outgoing and wanting something gentle I mean the list goes on for ppl having the reasons 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@emmanuelraymond8888]

I'm the kind of person who needs to be friends with someone before entering a romantic relationship with them (being able to trust and whatnot). However, it's a good idea to let them know if you're interested sooner rather than later. Not everyone's relationships develops the same way. Even if going from friend to lover works for you, doesn't mean it works for the other person.

[@rachelthomas9497]

I’m trying to figure out why I am watching this when I don’t even talk to the person I like

[@aprilchen1268]

LMAO SAME

[@SabiLewSounds]

Lol aww... I never even fall for anyone that isn't a friend so I will be single for life. Idc tbh... I have more important things to do.

[@64x73]

you made it, you will never get friendzoned... by the way, the pain is real

[@dimitrifedorov6851]

@@64x73 but a crush is a person, there are still other people to love

[@64x73]

@@dimitrifedorov6851 yes, we should never let them down, right ? if we do whats the difference

[@undyinghuman]

Guys dont worry about that signs, not everyone has the same way to treat you. Remember, the possibilities of your crush loving you too are low, BUT NEVER ZERO!

[@ravenwilliams182]

Or could try to use u.

[@rebelpoxy]

"You mean, there's a chance?"

[@undyinghuman]

@@rebelpoxy There is always a chance, it can be super small but never zero.

[@areallemone7380]

Just like the chances of a tsunami consuming America, or me winning the lottery lol

[@mimithebest3991]

And if they're not your sexuality?🤨

[@emilyislame5078]

i watched a ton of videos like these when we were just friends. they still pop up in my recommended :) happy to say we’re more than friends now. don’t give up yall :D

[@science_and_technology8106]

Congrats! Happy for you

[@Anonymous-ss1ks]

How tf do you do that?

[@cheetoes2184]

fun fact: there is no such thing is a friendzone, only a situation in which one person wants more than the other.

[@andersnielsen6044]

The thing "friendzone" is only a thing for girls. Men would not even say "hey" to a female if he was not into her. That is simple human biology.

[@khakicampbell6640]

@@andersnielsen6044 Not true.

[@andersnielsen6044]

@@khakicampbell6640 You better study some human psychology my friend. ;)

[@helenacorreia7613]

Well put

[@classifiedinformation6353]

Yup. I am in the friend zone. My muse sees me as a friend, which is a complement, I suppose. I was hoping for a romantic relationship, but due to my "friendliness", I have become a friend. The emotional rollercoaster was more than I could accept, so I de-Mused my Muse and I am now feeling much more stable emotionally. I feel better, but she feels like she lost an admirer, which, she has. Not fair for me to continue. "Never get too attached to a person unless they feel the same toward you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you." Bakhtawer Akbar

[@ichoosemysanity6467]

You know guys who worked their way up from being a Dishwasher to 20 years later owning a restaurant? Well being in the friend zone you have a LESSER chance than that guy because your hard work means nothing.

[@tagabulodchastityobedience7292]

Don’t go that fast because sometimes when you’re very very cute and super friendly girls would friend zone you simply because of fear that if they went out with you you might end up hurting them since you’re also friends to many people specially girls 🤣😂🤣

[@louisthemates999]

Just unfriend them what are u waiting for ,? Go and hurt other people feeling and let them know how u feel it

[@finnmccool684]

It MIGHT be the friend-zone when she says: "I like you...but as a friend."

[@ja4309]

Can't see any clearer sign than that

[@f12736]

Hahaha

[@hawk66100]

I was told once the classic: Girl: why can’t I find a guy like you. Me a few days later: asks girl out. Girl: I only like you as a friend. I thought at the time that maybe she was hinting that she wanted me to ask her out. How stupid of me. That killed me inside.

[@xmo95]

Reading that gave me like these sad goosebumps..

[@KateJn]

He said to me " I don't mind talking to you as a friend, but nothing more".

[@nicolaskostaneski987]

Disappointment will continue to happen all your life, the possibilty of getting hurt will always be present. It takes courage to put your heart out so someone can find it.

[@Hipppogrifff]

I’ve been on both sides, and both situations hurt both people involved mentally in different ways and magnitudes. If you like a friend romantically the best way is to tell them, maybe if you’re not sure about your feelings wait a few months but not more, not after you’re sure. Tell them and if they don’t return the feelings, end the friendship. They might realize they also have feelings after cutting contact as the space allows them to think more, or they might not and even be more sure they don’t have romantic feelings. Maybe if you’re really in love ask them again after a few months of no contact, and if they still don’t return it, move on. Love can’t grow deeper than an obsession when it’s one sided. It’s like a tennis match, to have fun and grow you need two players in the game. Don’t settle for anything less. Don’t stay in a mentally unhealthy situation for too long as the consequences of that will also affect your otherwise healthy relationships in future.

[@arachnophillic9709]

Im the one who puts everyone in the friendzone. Im always aware of people and how they feel about me, i just cant be with anyone due to massive trust issues. If someone romantically likes me, i know about it but i dont acknowledge it.

[@lunareclipsicorn4651]

I’m the same way! I struggle with severe social anxiety and multiple forms of PTSD, on top of intense trust issues, from being betrayed so dastardly so many times in life. It’s not that I never like certain people- I mean, we all catch feelings at times- but whenever someone expresses attraction to me, they are placed firmly in the friend zone! And if they continue pushing- flirting, hinting, etc.- I simply feign ignorance… that’s when a sweet little southern-belle voice comes in handy… 😂

[@mooncosmicpower2956]

trust even with friends is hard these days, I don’t want to experience the pain a second time , not again.

[@paulwoida8249]

It is somewhat weird that if you are to survive as a romantic couple, you really have to be friends as well. The main problem with the friend zone seems to be that too many people instantly put you there unless they want to "knock boots" with you when they first meet you. I do think it is rare for a woman to allow a man who they have friend zoned to actually become a romantic partner.

[@themattlee101]

Love comes after you build the foundation of the relationship. Anyone who is all in love after the first 2 weeks are doomed for failure

[@ColorHeartCarlie42]

Would you rather have the love of your life… A. Absolutely hate your guts, vomit at the sight of you, and want you dead? B. Respect you , charish your friendship, and want what’s best for you. While not being romantically interested in you. Honestly I’d pick B.

[@yawnamousaj7856]

Right. I'd rather someone hint that they don't like me, rather than blatantly say it. If I wanna know up front, I'll ask. People seem to get too salty when they're friend zoned. 🙄 If you only want them as something more, then you clearly didn't like them at all. Friendship is the foundation of EVERY relationship.

[@afriendlyhermit1080]

I would pick B for my fictional crushes. But for my real life crush I just want him to get squished.

[@ivythealiencat]

Exactly!! Atleast they have friends

[@AshGreen359]

Screw that I'll take A first

[@ivythealiencat]

@@AshGreen359 self depreciation kink 🤔

[@ravature6577]

I remember developing a massive crush on a friend I had, she always laughed at my jokes and we had incredibly similar interests. We were both kinda introverted but I just never had the guts to tell her. Oh well.

[@oogaboogapigs]

Omg it’s not to late! Telll herrrr, maybe she felt the same way!

[@robro41]

I’m usually a big proponent for telling your feelings to your crush. I get that it can be difficult and nerve racking but I will share the advice that was given to me and worked for me (I’m also a very shy introvert): think about the best thing that could come from you telling her. Whatever that is for, wouldn’t it be worth it to tell her? In reality, probably the worst thing that could happen is she says no and life continues as is. And you’ll have your answer and not have to worry about it anymore. So imagine the best case scenario and take that chance and tell her. You got this :)

[@SoldierOfFate]

As an introvert myself that liked a girl who is just as quiet and won't speak up unless you poked her yourself or she is very comfortable with you, just smack your chest in and tell her. I learned this the hard way but after doing so it alleviates a LOT of mental burden. Mind you she didn't say no, didn't think I was her type, or exactly friendzone me, but rather she's pessimistic about relationships for now. To be fair I shared the same views as her but I just wanted to get it out of my system and face the truth so I could stop being awkward around her.

[@ladybookworms]

@@SoldierOfFate Was there any progress after that?

[@iseeyou9488]

@@ladybookworms No

[@willowwhisps1339]

Number 6 also kinda shows they aren't a good friend either. If you are going above and beyond to help out a friend and they aren't doing anything to reciprocate or let you know that you are appreciated, they are a bad friend. Period. You can care about someone and not be used by them, it's time to set some boundaries. Luckily, you're on this channel

[@danielnair5280]

To be honest, best thing is just to live your life. Not worth the headache of not knowing where you stand with them, the false hopes etc. Although this is a great video and very informative where it helps you not to expect too much if anything at all. 👍🏾👍🏾

[@caluscalus6533]

The thumbnail is so true it hurts In many ways... At least the little beans are cute

[@Libra8410]

So cute

[@ArabicLover101]

Yeah, it’s painful.

[@kenzieb4907]

Dude I literally just found out the guy I’ve been wanting to date for the past 3 years got out of a 14yr relationship only because she broke up with him 😭😭😭 but he’s been in a new relationship since I’m guessing April of this year. But I think he got out the other relationship February of this year so like wtf!! 💀 I’m stuck in the friend zone and oh sucks.

[@kenzieb4907]

I posted a selfie at the beginning of quarantine and he replied “Beautiful 🥰” like 😭😭😭 he knows I have feelings for him and yet he chose someone else after lowkey flirting w me like that.

[@Lmao_moood]

This is one of the reasons why being single is the best. Being single means that I ain't got no shit to deal with nor do I need to worry about all of those problems involved with this thing you all call love. Besides, I'd rather waste my time and energy on something else.

[@monaural2.988]

Not only that. Better get any fantasies of real attractive crushes out of your mind. Ain't gonna happen. It's more likely to be a person with ordinary looks if you wind up with someone. Read married people's stories.

[@jonasferrao]

yea stay single ur whole life lets see how far u get

[@Lmao_moood]

@@jonasferrao doesn't really sounds like a bad idea, after all I also prefer being alone most of time anyways.

[@jonasferrao]

​ @Vy Lina for you it may seem like a good idea but for 99% of humans its really not. staying single is quite literally the worst thing for the human species. Humans are social creatures by nature that's no accident that's evolution. so your original comment is flawed in the sense " This is one of the reasons why being single is the best." It should be more like "This is one of the reasons why being single for me is the best." i hope you understand my point

[@wejsmith5446]

What I thought for 26 years of my life. Sometimes things change even if you dont want them to.

[@xmo95]

I met a woman at the park a while back. We talked for HOURS! Once it started getting darker we left the parked and continued our conversation while we walked. Never have I ever had such long and deep conversations with another woman the way I have with her And she's said the same about me. We both have admitted to feeling comfortable and safe around/with each other. We both agreed we feel a sense of peace and understanding when together. Well.. recently I confessed to her that I liked her deeply. That the feelings grew over time and even asked her if she'd give us a chance to see where it could go. Sad to say she rejected me. Said she only saw/sees me as a friend. Although she's admitted that I have ALL the qualities she looks for in a guy, on top of the ways I make her feel. . She just kept saying that she just wants a friendship with me. . I had no other choice but to accept and respect that.. but dang does it hurt. 😔 compared to the guys she's been with i know id be a better option but im not even an option. . She reached out yesterday to mention how she's been thinking about her ex. . An older guy. A creep. Who only wants to bust a nut.. hurts to see the woman you like do that to herself just so she can get hurt again. This is why I tried closing myself off and avoid falling for anyone. . I came across this meme the other day that goes: "Them: how do you lose a girl?" "Him: just be a good guy, they hate that shit" Thought it was funny at first until I realized I was him.. Hope all the good guys out there are doing alright. Keep your heads up kings. You're all great! And deserve a queen who will love you back the way you'd love her. Alright. Bye

[@goryest]

that's crazy.

[@xcristinat]

If you haven't heard of it, you should do some reading on attachment theory. It sounds like that's kinda what happened here...she probably has anxious attachment which means she'll unconsciously want to keep going back to her ex who sounds like he has avoidant attachment. It's a sad game of magnets. You weren't avoidant, so she didn't feel an attachment to you. Attachment theory is not the end-all-be-all but it can apply to a lot when it comes to relationships, and if nothing else, will help put things into a new perspective.

[@hakushism]

yo facts. THis is literally the same situation I had with this girl I've been friends with since first year high school, and we've been friends for over 4 years. Straight up. And there's nothing else to say on my side really, it's the same as yours. And yeah I respect her, and whatever she's happy with. Happy to say were still good friends to this day. I've lost my romantic feelings for her, but I can confidently say I am her bestfriend and I want the best for her, because I genuinely deem that she is a good person who deserves more than what she had on her ex-es.

[@whatshername3158]

Xlang i mentioned in a comment that having friends of the opposite sex is too risky.it sounds like she's using you as a rebound.you deserve better and even though you may not realize it, you're dodging a bullet. a good woman will be honest about her feelings,no matter what they are and shouldn't keep you dangling.in my honest opinion,you should stop bbeing friends.the weird thing is, is that sometimes,that's when they start to want you.when you don't want them anymore. i hopeyou find someone nice with healthy boundaries.best wishes from france :)

[@xmo95]

@@whatshername3158 I've been slowly drifting away from her.. we still talk occasionally but I have been trying hard to not text/call her because I know that I'm not as important to her as she was to me. It sucks when the people we end up liking rather use us than like/love us back. I appreciate your advice and im slowly getting to where I may be able to walk away completely. Its just hard since I still like her but im getting there. Everyday she shows me why I shouldn't stay. . But I always find a reason to stay even when I shouldn't. .. I guess thats my toxic trait twds myself. I do for others what they most likely wouldn't do for me.. its something I've been working on fixing cause at the end I end up getting hurt while they get what they wanted/needed. Thank you 😊 🙌 I really appreciate you! Be safe and careful! Best of wishes from CHICAGO! P.s. always wanted to go to France!

[@michaelzimmerman3162]

This video helped explain a recent interaction I had with a longtime friend. We had been friends for 4 years, and a week ago, I revealed my feelings for her. She (gently) friend-zoned me, even as I attempted to sell the idea of dating me. The 4 years was probably too long to wait to reveal my feelings.

[@Simon0501]

This community can make everyone become friends. I love you guys. ❤️

[@Simon0501]

I remember Taylor Swift sang a song called “It’s nice to have a friend”.

[@Simon0501]

@Abraham Villa You're not alone, we're here for you. ❤️

[@lavisiondenao7662]

Same!!!

[@oscararias-vezina9724]

Ah yeah, being friendzoned. I too used to think it was horrible, especially during my heartbreak, but... now, I see it differently: knowing all the esteem she has for me, I realize I'm lucky to have her by my side, even as a friend. And that's why though I'm still a little disappointed it didn't ended how I wanted to, I'm happy...

[@Dark_Slayer3000]

Being friends is also cool. It's not bad news, it's just differant then expected.

[@nessyness5447]

Yeah, like,people need to stop calling it being " friendzone", like if you don't care for that person unless is in a romantic or sexual way, just leave. If you stay around complaining about a " friendzone" and getting mad that they rejected you, then you are not really being their friend, you are just an entitled prick

[@raindrops91]

One of my best friends is actually my ex. We dated and realized we have a stronger friendship and don’t see each other romantically. It’s possible to at least give your friend a shot if they like you romantically and try it out. But if all you can see them as is a friend tell them. And possibly your friendship will be even stronger after. It worked for me.

[@Devon_M.]

I believe self-love and self-worth are the basis of all great long-lasting relationships. Never get involved with anyone else until you discover ways to love yourself first because if you ever find yourself being rejected or "friend-zoned" (a term I don't like using) you won't feel disappointed as much and you'll be able to accept and move on a lot more gracefully Because, how? You will still feel great about yourself and hold the keys to your own happiness.

[@thewea3042]

Someone: In a friend zone and complains Me: Stranger zoned by everyone, and never complains

[@ivythealiencat]

ikr?? People be complaining that they have friends 🤦 and theyre not obligated to like them back either

[@anonimkullanc489]

Fr!!

[@kdphotos4691]

Exactly. How arrogant are those who complain about having friends. We could all do with having such a problem.

[@desmonides]

🍪

[@seanhannan5176]

Revving up your engine, Listen to her howling roar, Metal under tension Begging you to touch and go... *HiGhWaY tO tHe STRANGER ZONE!!!*

[@jaszy7901]

Have you heard of a situation where you're both in the friend zone but you're also potential lovers? I was in the situation and let me tell you it hurts. where you know both parties have feelings towards each other but are afraid to admit it. I was too scared to admit my feelings because….. I don't know the real reason but I just was. And now he's moved on and I'm just here . But one thing that I've learned is to express your feelings because life is too short. And what's the point of having regrets? One day I will talk with him and clear everything up but I'm also a coward to face that certain communication.

[@ArkLionHeart]

If you know your worth and expressed to your crush how much you can love and support them and they still don’t see you that way, maybe they just don’t deserve you.

[@tobiasschaaf3547]

the way you said "don't worry my friend" at the start lmaoo

[@hazlou2889]

I had a crush on a girl , today i told her she said she has a gf , she said we(me and her) could be still best friends . i cried but now im alright .😉

[@riderwood9228]

Psych2Go : Do you think you're in the Friendzone? Me: Yes. Psych2Go : Do you consider letting your crush know about how you truly feel? Me: No.

[@pinkdragon1692]

Not gonna lie, I have this “friend zone barrier” that I rarely notice time to time, so sometimes, I see myself “too friendly” to those that like me, which can lead to confusion. I basically have most friend zone qualifies that the video mentioned, but reversed, I basically do what the video mentions... but in a sense I’m trying to be better friends with them. As someone aromantic, it’s hard to pick up the signs from friends, but once I do, I’d go along with it. So if they are happy, then I’m good with that.

[@TR1ckY_TV]

Amanda's voice is incredible! it's so nice and soothing, I could listen to it for hours and hours I'll take this chance to say AMANDA! I HAVE A CRUSH ON YOU 💜

[@Nine-IVV]

And That Heart Means You've Been Friendzoned. LoL

[@TR1ckY_TV]

@@Nine-IVV nah fam, I got the heart two minutes after commenting. it means that between hundreds of comments my Crush saw and responded 😜

[@Nine-IVV]

@@TR1ckY_TV Oh....Congrats Then Bud 🖤😂

[@TR1ckY_TV]

@@Nine-IVV Thanks 😍 that really made my day! hope u have a good one 🖤

[@perry2921]

@drolgh8 God I can't believe how cursed this sounds

[@MaestroKinoc]

It's a important thing the relationship we have with ourselves, to be our real friends and lovers.

[@IshaSharma11]

True

[@jullcepts8780]

Friendly reminder, just because she/he agrees or invites you to do things just the two of you doesn't necessarily means she/he sees you in a romantic way. Case and point, I've been dealing with the exact same fact that a person that I like doesn't see me that way. But we pretty much always do things just the two of us. She once explained to me that she did it with all her friends since she has a wide variety of acquaintances from different social circles. So making casual activities and making sure everyone has a fun time is not an easy thing to do. It sucked, but it is the reality so it's okay. I can live with just being friend since she's actually really cool.

[@crystalramos5795]

I used to friendzone people all the time. I’d agree most of these are pretty accurate, especially saying to their face that they are a friend. Even with that, people like to see things through rose colored glasses.

[@barcafan1760]

Exactly, be an asshole and reject everyone , isn't it? Probably want to date a hot and rich dude/girl huh(

[@jeremyknappe1128]

Didn’t need this to know, but thanks for looking out haha

[@Crimspn]

Me when none of the signs are applicable to my relationship with my crush: Don’t do that, don’t give me hope

[@MarksterC]

do it

[@knoekus]

Do it! :D

[@say1nt]

Any updates ?

[@Crimspn]

​@@say1nt ima be fully honest with you. we were flirting with each other for a while, but after the year ended we just kinda fell off and i think she lost interest in me because we don't really text anymore :(

[@someoneyoudontknow8372]

@@Crimspn try texting her more and if she is leaving u on seen or not responding or being dry for more than like 2 days u should give up on it

[@helenacorreia7613]

I'm loving the energy in the comments. So much life experience and wisdom!!

[@queenjo5296]

Love your channel. You have a beautiful light. Keep educating and Inspiring no matter where it takes you. 🌈💕🕊

[@stevebarker7552]

"I love you like a brother"!! The sentence that destroys the heart of the needy bloke! 🙄🙄 I certainly didn't search for this video!

[@pieceoftrash3187]

people who even dont have friends but still watch it anyway : ok maybe someday it will be useful

[@kenuzcherno]

Sometimes you're someone choice, sometimes you're not even a thought, learning to realize this is the first step to be happy.

[@gigsmaster6430]

This has put my mind at rest, its really helpful knowing when to stop pursuing something, the sooner the better. Thank you Psych2Go!!!

[@gummiiworm8205]

🌈Free timestamps for everyone :D✨ 1. Only you show off your attractive qualities - 1:02 2. They mention other people whom they find attractive - 1:35 3. They don't flirt back - 2:01 4. You didn't hint your attraction from the beginning - 2:59 5. They don't initiate touch - 3:44 6. You're always the one doing the favors - 4:31 7. They always have a third wheel - 5:07 8. Their attitude and language are strictly friendly - 5:34

[@Qavender]

Thx

[@gummiiworm8205]

@@Qavender ur welcome!

[@Qavender]

@@gummiiworm8205 :)

[@christopher31ck]

Thanks

[@hicalebih8902]

Great video! Definitely gave me something to think about lol…

[@kathy339]

I'm luckily not in the friend zone but we don't "romantically" like each other, we're just simply attracted but no intentions of going as far as dating each other.

[@monaural2.988]

It seems to me that the entire friendzone issue is a case of "YOU walk a mile in my shoes, and see how you feel". If someone thinks you're a good person to have at social gatherings, but any crush you might have on them is waved away, just wait your turn. Because 9 times out of 10, someone else will have a crush on YOU, but you will want nothing to do with them romantically. It's a vicious circle. And not that many know how to untangle themselves from it.

[@NichoJ1999]

my friendzone experiences for the last 5 years, way to many, to the point where maybe it’s time to change

[@razvan-valentinmoldovan6826]

Ngl hearing a hard truth in such a gentle soothing voice does help

[@sayanmandal7844]

I have been in friendzone for so long, I have the whole map of friendzone saved in my head. I can visualise it when I close my eyes😂

[@PiotrZora]

The best advice what you can do, if you get friendzoned is... end this relationship. There is a very high risk, that you are going to be exploited by your "crush", because they know that you are emotionally tied. Second reason is simple - you can't build a friendship, if your expectations are different. You will not be able to recover from rejection if you will be spending much time with that person. Third reason - they told you "let's be just friends", but they actually don't like you, they don't have a courage to say directly "you are not interesting for me, go away". This is not pessimistic point of view, this is reality.

[@millylou21]

Thank you I needed to read that 😊

[@SeSdesc]

The worst part of it, is when you say that a friendship is not possible to your crush and you move on. Then the other person "magically" is now into you... I hate that...

[@NoInsurance]

Facts

[@ip1136]

I have to object. I have had people in my life who cared about me deepy and wanted more and I liked them as friends and cared about them, but didn't see them as anything more than friends. I didn't want them to go away, I wanted them in my life and I did respect them. The only reason some of those friendships broke was because they didn't respect that and tried to force me or convince me, which made ME feel exploited. In some extreme cases this has been going on for years until we broke ties because they could not accept that I was not going to be with them, sleep with thfm or what not just out of a good deed. But there were cases when crushes became really good friends and even more than that- we both realized we were better off as friends and that we would have been a horrible couple or would have had a very incompatible relationship. But as friends, we were absolutely fine. Sometimes you can get MUCH closer as friends than you could have ever gotten in a relationship. It depends on you and it depends very much on the other person too. Rejection doesn't always necessarily have anything to do with you. Sonetimes the people you like may simply not be a good match romantically or they don't have the capacity for a relationship, some of them may not be ready to love anyone in that way. It's not always that personal. Sometimes people are going through difficult things and would even like to fall in love or like you back but simply can't. Mental health issues are one really big reason for that. Or they may still be in love with their ex or recover from their last relationship. Again, it's very individual, some people feel ready one month after a break up to build something new, others will take 2 years or longer (neurologically, after 2 years the brain is generally ready to mix a new love cocktail 🍸). Some people are busy building a career or finding themselves and would appreciate a friend in their lives. Walking away from somebody because they don't give you what you want immediately kinda raises the question if you are actually ready to give in a relationship or just looking to find something that benefits you, your ego and your physical and sexual needs. It's about give and take though. Just because you don't get instant gratification in the way you would like doesn't mean it wouldn't be worth sticking around and try to build something honest with mutual respect and care.

[@PiotrZora]

@@ip1136 Building a friendship with someone from the beginning and trying to create one after being friendzoned are very different things. As a rule, the situation gets so complicated that neither side comes out well. Even if the other person has a sincere friendship to offer, there is still the issue of emotional attachment. It's nice to have friends, but it doesn't satisfy the need for love with someone. Personally, I don't see the point of building anything with a person I had other expectations of. I have no obligation to maintain a friendship with someone when I will feel uncomfortable in it. Just because I'm interested in finding a partner doesn't mean I need "instant gratification." If I'm looking for someone to have a relationship with and the attempt turns out to be unsuccessful, I just move on and don't play any weird games.

[@shaniatwain5530]

I love the channel, you help me so much through my daily life.

[@Phoenix-D12]

Altho i know everything abt what u show in ur videos, however the way u say it and show it, makes me comfortable and ocnfirm to me that most of my analysing is right, tbh i find ur chanel very attractive and cultivative. Keep being creative and making cool videos as always.😊🙏

[@rotkanon1550]

Very good info, seems from the comments down here that it can be really helpful.

[@bode6967]

This just put more smile on my face

[@NotFlip]

CONGRATULATIONS

[@planerice7630]

I already know that I got friendzoned yet I'm still watching this

[@1kdv123_]

Pass the blunt brother 🔥👌🏽💨!!!!!!

[@puppytacos3769]

did you think that she liked you back????

[@planerice7630]

@@puppytacos3769 not really, I received mixed signals

[@juliancousins2867]

Think I’m friendzoned too smh and I liked this girl since elementary school. I’m 31. I think she liked me at one point but I might’ve fumbled the bag

[@Heartshackles]

I love the varying character designs with the different flowers and plants so muchhhh

[@Vlogoosh]

Thank You for this video.

[@doodii5696]

that long time friend makes you really question some supposed platonic thingsss

[@2xbarret367]

If someone you like doesn't like you, chances are there's someone better out there waiting for you

[@user-ip5jn1pr8x]

Friendship is more valuable than being in a romantic relationship. In a sense, a friend is someone with whom you can share your values, care for each other, express your insecurities, and receive emotional support without judgment or expectation. So, why do we often consider friends as less significant than lovers? If I had a fear it would be that one day one of my best friends might loverzone me😬, and I believe it would be a downgrade.

[@shaylawinchcombe]

My guy friend and I have gone through stages of friendship. At first the convos were awkward, then jokingly flirty, then fantasized because I liked him, then realistic of eachother feelings, and now we are more open with eachother and even tho hes known for years I like him, he still treats me like a good friend and were both happy. I'm still working on moving on. But its nice to have a friend who wont push me away and helps me work on it while also being able to hangout one on one as normal friends

[@Melissa-jp8ps]

If you’re always the one doing the favors, then you are not even in the friend zone

[@anqxlicv]

Welp, ig im friendzoned by my crush-

[@ritikapambi3290]

Let's cry together 😭

[@anqxlicv]

😩

[@ivythealiencat]

Atleast you have a friend

[@jonathanwilliams365]

Same

[@lightofthedark]

Sorry to have heard that, but I'm sure you'll eventually find the ideal partner

[@thewhyofit]

He friend zoned me, so I apologised for interpreting his messages as flirting and said I’d never make that mistake again. He said, well maybe not never. I can’t do this 😭

[@gafer8808]

Nice video thank you 🙂

[@itsterrific4107]

Me: Expectations: *beyond friendship and relationships like anime* Reality: yeah it’s okay