These parents are trash. My dad took the bride price because it is the custom, but when the wedding was over, he gave all the money back. He said, "what kind of father would I be if a kept the money."
@helahola6 күн бұрын
your dad did the right thing. what kind of life his newlywed child's family will be having after they've paid such heavy expenses and even involved in debts? if the girl's parents are poor or have a son, there is a high chance that they will keep the bride price for themselves. you're lucky to met or be in that family.
@kieragard6 күн бұрын
@@helahola well my dad is reasonable but my mom is crazy, 😅 but they've been divorced thirty years already.
@helahola6 күн бұрын
@@kieragard on the bright side at least one of them are still functioning. research statistic show that children grown in single-father household perform way better than single-mother household so you're still lucky that your dad is the one functioning instead of your mom. treat your dad better, you'll never know what he has endured from your crazy mom for your sake when they're together.
@m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m6 күн бұрын
I'm not even against this idea, but when it's something that destroys marriages, then it's obviously a problem. It should take into account the financial reality of the current economy and families involved.
@helahola6 күн бұрын
@@m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m i'm totally against this idea since it has already become the problem for so long and there are no good system to control over it for more than millenniums. they should remove this broken idea for now and can come back after they've develop a better system for it. continue keeping it around will only do harm more than good and waiting for it to improve by itself without any strict actions taken will take forever to change.
@jamesc14186 күн бұрын
To All the Chinese parents that have daughters. There will come a day when your daughters will get zero bride price and when you become so desperate you will pay the men the groom price to take care of your daughter/wife.
@ReloGP14th5 күн бұрын
happens quite frequently that at this point they are desperated to do anything and will even pay the others just to marry their daughter
@suman18475 күн бұрын
But then still they might not get accepted in the end...cause i heard there are lot of leftovers these days...
Күн бұрын
Who wants leftover tofu from China. I rather have a young beautiful girl who is NOT Chinese.
@user-gh8sg7oc9r22 сағат бұрын
Greed.
@TellthetruthaboutChina6 күн бұрын
He made the right decision. No man should have to bankrupt himself to get married. If she truly loved him, the bride price wouldn’t matter.
@francoistombe6 күн бұрын
My impression is that the girl's parents are the overriding factor. It's not about her affection for him, it is about her parents desire for his money.
@GPSniper16 күн бұрын
@@francoistombe all she has to do is run away with the guy
@jenniferm96805 күн бұрын
Haven't you watch the video? The girl doesn't have any say in the family. This is China, not western countries where you could just run away with your boyfriend.
@senarayzen83935 күн бұрын
Most egoist people who knows such rules yet still have children @@jenniferm9680
@latetotheparty1845 күн бұрын
@@jenniferm9680 The point of these comment is that the driving factor here is the greed of the bride's family.
@bokurakyomoikiteru61306 күн бұрын
4 choices:- 1) abolish the stupid customs 2) marry a foreigner 3) marry an orphan 4) stay single forever
@strikeforcealpha93436 күн бұрын
Me option 4
@LookingAround3546 күн бұрын
5) break up from your parents and toxic family
@rgm46466 күн бұрын
im sure that ''custom' had a reason for existing back then. Its not so easy to just abolish something that has been around for centuries or longer. We see that from gun ownership in the US.
@failingartist35245 күн бұрын
5 option screw social custom and live yo life easy😂
@ChaosAngel6675 күн бұрын
1. Already abolished. No law or stipulation mandates that bride prices must be paid. The women simply like to make it difficult as usual. 2. Already a trend 3. Difficult to find orphans on China due to the 1cp 4. Already a trend
@grumblekin5 күн бұрын
The 2 cops are standing there, swearing to never marry. EVER
@vvcc-kg9dp6 күн бұрын
Marriage shouldn't be a transaction. If the bride's family values money more than the relationship, it's better for the guy to move on. Why should a man spend his life paying off a debt just to get married?
@BobbyLoo-jr8ys6 күн бұрын
If the family is demanding bribe price, than the man;s family can demand that after the price is paid, she becomes the property of the man;s family and can do as they please, including the old tradition of beating and slavery. Is that what they want?
@NickM_FirstofHisName6 күн бұрын
It is a transaction. Only us men refuse to see it as is.
@factsunloaded48086 күн бұрын
These women are charging for their love they give to men.. money is even became more important than love for them 🎉
@LOUDMOUTHTYRONE6 күн бұрын
It is a transaction even in the US.
@lepotato30816 күн бұрын
only people who just care about benefit will see it as transaction
@Nick_Nightingale6 күн бұрын
8 years... now her SMV has decreased and the man married someone else because of her parents GREED.
@poodlescone97006 күн бұрын
Ironically, she would be one of those rare gems because she stayed single due to external circumstances. Just find a solution around the parents and the next guy is golden.
@ace19266 күн бұрын
@@poodlescone9700 - Elope!
@GPSniper16 күн бұрын
@@poodlescone9700all she has to do is run away with the guy
@GazzaBoo5 күн бұрын
Yep, 100% of nothing is..
@nayanmolla325 күн бұрын
SMV means?
@dongshengdi7736 күн бұрын
There should be NO bride price because prostitution and human trafficking are illegal
@j.p.57166 күн бұрын
A Bride price is biblical. Neither of the things that you said.
@andrewevans79926 күн бұрын
@@j.p.5716they were traded for animals dumb f not money
@sagepirotess63126 күн бұрын
He American logic. Common in Asia. Most places is not outrageous like China. More a small token to parents.
@edhuber35576 күн бұрын
To conflate bride price with prostitution or human trafficking is quite a stretch, and likely an unreasoning smear.
@ironaston98586 күн бұрын
What's normal in France is very wrong in China, and vice versa. Just different costumes my dude.
@BobbyLoo-jr8ys6 күн бұрын
the women with glasses has NO solution. IF the women works hard and get degrees and job, her standards will rise. Once she has acheive those thigns, she is over 30+ and very few men will want her, due to faded beauty and have difficulites bearing children.
@raymondcarter11376 күн бұрын
Nope. Incorrect she in fact does have options. Separate from the family. Date non Chinese men. It’s that easy.
@DareAbiodun6 күн бұрын
That's just being ignorant, thinking they have options. If your own men don't desire you, trust me, your chances are far slimmer with foreigners. You think non-Chinese men (any man ready for a family) will leave ladies in their 20s for those in their 30s. I laugh😂.
@raymondcarter11376 күн бұрын
@@DareAbiodun there it is. For a bird that grew up in a cage the wild birds are disgusting and dirty. They do in fact have all those options but they don’t have the capacity to break those mental chains and conditioning. Pride is the problem with the Chinese city fairy is pride and loyalty to the parents (the cage) and once they step out of the cage they were in they will be open to other options.
@BobbyLoo-jr8ys5 күн бұрын
@@raymondcarter1137 ONly if she can communicate in English. Many rural women do not have much education, therefore, English is out!
@raymondcarter11375 күн бұрын
@@BobbyLoo-jr8ys hmmm…I guess they don’t have smartphones and translation apps. Oh well I guess they just don’t have internet. Ugh oh well. By the way the entire world doesn’t speak English so save your pity on the gullible. You positive this is the best you have?
@themanofmyth6 күн бұрын
If its business then so be it. If its pleasure then so be it. But never mix business with pleasure!
@ReloGP14th5 күн бұрын
brothel: Allow me to introduce myself
@MrMaguuuuuuuuu6 күн бұрын
This is crazy. In India the bride’s family pays the dowry. Because the girl is a BURDEN. 😂
@MiguelDLewis6 күн бұрын
I watched a Nasrani wedding and it seemed to be like that of other Christian weddings: the man pays the dowry. The groom gave the bride a bunch of gold and jewelry and even gave her a Hindu-style mangala sutra.
@Jetsetbob36 күн бұрын
It used to be like that in Europe too, since the Roman empire.
@poodlescone97006 күн бұрын
I am not sure your argument makes the situation seem better.
@lepotato30816 күн бұрын
its crazy to treat marriage as a commodity in the first place
@j.p.57166 күн бұрын
@@lepotato3081 - Like the vast majority of women do these days who get no fault divorce and financially grape their husbands.
@unnaturalselection83306 күн бұрын
Bruh, dude tapped that for 8 years... He's already gotten the best mileage out of her. Now he's moving to a newer model without ever even having to pay for the old one. Bravo sir. Bravo 🎉🎉🎉
@ryanbowns15175 күн бұрын
🎉 winner winner chicken dinner
@bjoardar5 күн бұрын
Don't assume. For all we know, he could've genuinely been in love with her and the break up could've been hurtful for him as well. Just because he landed on his feet doesn't mean it was a good thing. After all, both of them seemed to be held captive by their families opinions. What about *their* opinions? I really can't understand that part of Asian culture.
@fallskjermjeger.4 күн бұрын
@bjoardar far more accurate take on the story, than the previous reactions, I think.
@NaturalDisasterObserver6 күн бұрын
It’s sad to see relationships ruined because of unreasonable financial expectations. Love should be the foundation of marriage, not a bank account.
@YourHineyness6 күн бұрын
Welcome to China, where money is their god.
@dennisivan856 күн бұрын
Its not sad. Its satisfying that that woman exposed herself before trapping him in marriage.
@randomdigress6 күн бұрын
You know what is more interesting, it is usually the bride's bestie, 3rd aunt or 6th grandaunt that kicks up a fuss, when they themselves have a botched marriage.
@associatealpha11666 күн бұрын
They are never happy. No matter where on earth - they are never happpy.
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
love is a very bad foundation. common interests and ways of thinking would be wayyyy better.
@stiphenminz47325 күн бұрын
Girls should put a price tag on her forehead while dating...
@wl60205 күн бұрын
Now shes 8 years older, with added notch count, not many men will take her seriously for marriage and pay 480k bride price, plus house. Not many men will love and work hard for a older women with mileage.
@ganikarim89396 күн бұрын
Demanding bride price is a kind of extortion
@MGTOWTheRationalMensClub6 күн бұрын
Chinese men should stop simping and demand BRIDE-GROOM price of at least 100K$ from women above age 30, 150K$ for age 35 and above, and 250K$ above age 40 women. Man has to financially support his wife whole life so she must pay dowry to man. Also woman needs marriage more than man does.
@thomasauslander37576 күн бұрын
The old lady bride price should be linked to the price of beer
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
exactly ! a female is a BURDEN ! Therefore ...
@amaxx42045 күн бұрын
What? Higher the age higher the price.
@thomasauslander37575 күн бұрын
@@amaxx4204 definitely higher price ... you should see the ones in nursing homes in wheelchairs only a zillionaire could afford something like that..
@salguodrolyat25944 күн бұрын
That is an innovative idea.🤣
@thewishmastur6 күн бұрын
Bride price is selling daughter. Should be abolished
@j.p.57166 күн бұрын
I agree because modern women aren't worth anything any more. You have to give them away to get rid of them.
@mds334836 күн бұрын
No no, it's tradition... culture..... it's not greedy vulture parents and relatives bankrupting the groom, his family and their own daughter as well...
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
or they pay the man, because he's taking the burden of a female upon himself
@xiphoid201118 сағат бұрын
It's not tradition. Not when my parents got married in the late 70s, or when my grand parents got married in the 40s. It's a tradition is just an excuse to resurrect an ancient custom that had already disappeared.
@brianliew59016 күн бұрын
Why must those old folks get in the way of the happiness of the young? When my prospective son-in-law enquired about the bride price of my daughter about several years ago, my wife told him this; "We don't care about any bride price as all you needed to do is to take good care of our daughter in future". They've been happily married for seven years now and taking good care of us too. ❤❤❤❤
@TheBigExclusive6 күн бұрын
Last girl - This is not a "Men VS Women" issue. Why is she trying to turn it into that? Does she forget that her own Mother was part of negotiations for bridge price?
@peter.24.75 күн бұрын
One word: feminist.
@季东特5 күн бұрын
Marriage must be based on unconditional love, I will pay nothing. If this is what is required, I will have to move on.
@dongshengdi7736 күн бұрын
As a billionaire myself, I can't afford to pay the bride price . The woman's family would always ask more than what you can afford . They want me to pay 8 billion yuan dowry bride price. But i only have 3 billion yuan
@lunkystraydog65726 күн бұрын
Owning to many companies and properties
@OchiengMelisizwe56 күн бұрын
SUPREME GOLD DIGGERS
@EclipseSentience6 күн бұрын
Get you a big booty Latina 🤪
@andrewevans79926 күн бұрын
How much is that in American money? Women really think their kitty is worth so damn much.. trashy people
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
insane !
@alinakhaie22106 күн бұрын
In the US, the father of the bride has to pay for the wedding, and the groom is supposed to propose marriage to the bride with a ring worth at least 3 months of his salary. Customs are dumb everywhere.
@Toothnut_Hamsterfolder5 күн бұрын
Two months salary for the ring
@EugWanker5 күн бұрын
What's even more stupid is the diamond plus 3 months of salary thing came from a marketing campaign by De Beers to sell more diamonds. This "tradition" was created less than 100 years ago solely for the purpose of making a diamond producer money.
@Toothnut_Hamsterfolder5 күн бұрын
@@EugWanker FYI: The tradition is two months salary for the ring, not three.
@EugWanker5 күн бұрын
@@Toothnut_Hamsterfolder It's literally often called the three months rule now. The original ad campaign from the 1930s was actually "just" one month, but then that changed to two months about 40 years ago in North America, and then to three months now, although even 40 years ago it was three months some in other countries. However, many people choose not to follow these ridiculous rules of course. In my case, I chose zero months. 🙃
@Toothnut_Hamsterfolder5 күн бұрын
@@EugWanker Often called is not tradition.
@sylvieschmitt-morel8646 күн бұрын
As a western female foreigner, I can’t understand the concept of selling your daughter, she is not a cow, an horse ……Looks like daughters are just things to sell with high price to make money for parents or brother…..🤮🤮🤮
@squiggs10026 күн бұрын
You make it sound like the females are passive in this situation and everything is going to the parents. In fact many chinese women set all the conditions themselves for having a house in her name, car, salary, ect. The bride price was never about selling your daughter. It only recently became sky high because China became richer and there is an imbalance in men and women so Women themselves and their families think they are worth more now. and started demanding more and more.
@link24426 күн бұрын
I wonder if these men and women would grow resentment against their parents for preying and by taking advantage by profiting of on their kids' love affairs
@rururu56306 күн бұрын
I think the bride price is seen as compensation to the bride's family for taking their daughter away from them after the family spent their resources raising the daughter. It is not fair to the bride's family to have spent all those resources on raising a girl just to give her away to a man's family for nothing in return. A son can continue to give his family resources after marriage. A daughter, however, belongs to the groom's family after marriage and can not really give anything to her family. I am not saying that I agree with everything I said above. That is how the bride price was explained to me by a Chinese woman many years ago when I lived in China.
@francoistombe6 күн бұрын
When I was at prime marriage age I did not have anything much to my name. I suppose this would shut me entirely out of marriage at that time in China. In reality it also kept me from being taken seriously here in the west. By the time I had the resources, I was no longer interested. It failed the cost benefit ratio test.
@link24426 күн бұрын
@rururu5630 Raising a child no matter boy or girl is a parent's responsibility. Should this be reversed and say that they should pay the groom instead because he is now aliviating them from the cost of Raising her in the future. They forget that daughters are humans and have individualistic thought and needs. The fact that the majority of a dowry 90% is spent on the son's bride price is hypocritical, just transferring the money to the other person like a hot potato
@nickchannel53646 күн бұрын
The men who are unable to pay the bride price are usually the ones who worked for the men who can. If you eliminate the men who are unable to pay, then no men will be able to pay it.
@Tampon_Tim6 күн бұрын
I don't pay for the smelly jelly. PERIOD!
@AaaahhButchaMan6 күн бұрын
Hahaha Hahaha Bwahahahahaha!!!!! Hall of fame right there sir!!!! Hall of fricken FAME!!!!
@komboblast404421 сағат бұрын
😂🤣🤭
@oscarl.35636 күн бұрын
6:40 No. Smart guy. Everything he said was reasonable. He's better off without her, better luck next time.
@eleyahwilson78316 күн бұрын
The entire idea of a bride price is very hard to understand. How are you not selling your daughter? How is that not prostitution? How does true love develop? It seems very difficult to grapple with. As a man, how do you manage to even feel about paying for a woman?
@thomasauslander37576 күн бұрын
Actually I paid twice as much to get rid of her couple of years ago.. Now I can sleep alone peacefully without her snoring.. Part-time wife are available by the hour here
@WhitePikminPro6 күн бұрын
It's the same reason that banks require down payment on mortgages. It proves ones ability to budget.
@poodlescone97006 күн бұрын
Prostitution is a rental. Bride prices is closer to human trafficking.
@thomasauslander37576 күн бұрын
@@factsunloaded4808 if you truly love somebody you got to suffer..
@j.p.57166 күн бұрын
Ask God. He is the one who implemented the practice in the Old Testament of the Bible.
@captaindad50576 күн бұрын
Getting married is about building a family together and two families uniting.. It shouldn’t be about financial gain.. I understand bride prices were way to secure a girls future.. but it’s unnecessary.. People in the west may mock this women, but women in the west will take everything you have when they feel like it after they marry you if they decide to divorce you.. Marriage needs to stop becoming a financial transaction.. everywhere around the world..
@tavros19766 күн бұрын
This is outrageous. The groom is financing the future marriage of the brother of his fiance. All Chinese men should go MGTOW.
@bjoardar5 күн бұрын
As disgusting as that is, imagine how the daughter feels. Her parents torpedoed her 8 year loving relationship because they didn't want to pay for her little brothers marriage, so they tried to take the money from her boyfriend instead, making him leave her. If I were her, I would cut all ties with my so-called family and go somewhere else.
@Tart5235 күн бұрын
I am American of Chinese ancestry. Parents were from China. America is all I know. The Chinese customs of bride price, dowry, house and car to marry a girl strikes me as bizarre. Probably goes back to the days when daughters were considered chattel to be married off for money. So tragic for young people.
@rayzor_99885 күн бұрын
Zero. If my wife’s parents started wanting a bride price, that would have ended it. I explained that in western culture, marriage is like a joint venture, the future marriage is paramount over everything including parents. Come to think of it, anyone who doesn’t agree their own family should come first (bride or groom) probably shouldn’t be getting married anyway. To the best of my ability, I would provide for my family, then if I could , I would try to ensure that my both our parents had housing, food, clothing and enough money to pay for medical expenses. I definitely would not finance any younger brother’s life (he’s a loser if he can’t finance his own marriage anyway and money isn’t a solution, the problem is he is a loser and good luck to any sucker who agrees to be his wife). Also in the west, payments are made from the bride’s family. The reason is because although the bride’s parents have spent money raising her, the husband is liable for her expenses for the rest of her life.
@blaggzear31526 күн бұрын
What women want: Equally treated like men What women also want: BRIDE PRICE! 😂😂😂
@sagepirotess63126 күн бұрын
Funny, story 2. She was divorced, you got a bride price on first husband. You left that marriage. So no bride price on any future marriage.
@Asmodeius6 күн бұрын
there is a good children's fairy tale in Russian about this exact behavior, a woman was asking a magical gold fish for too much luxury things and at some point fish had enough and turned woman back to broke lifestyle she had before. greed is not good, contrary to what social media says.
@hariskhanlodhi3136 күн бұрын
well i tried to marry 3 different indonesian girls but broke up because they want high dowry money, bjg house, car and not willing to live with me and family. i m single since 14 years still i m traumatized and heart broken. i wish girls could understand true love hard to get and hard to find it.
@erickmendez20025 күн бұрын
I asked a Muslim girl what her dowry was out of curiosity and it was insane. The mom wanted a 265k house and 68k money and pay for weeding. And gold too, and she was from a poor area, me as. I laughed hard, I told her good luck 😂
@1976athletico5 күн бұрын
Dont give them a penny. Only marry someone for love.
@MelodyKittyCandy00073 күн бұрын
Sorry to hear that. Please don't give up. There are good women out there. Never feel destroyed by these bad apples. So please keep going! I know it is challenging, but many years should be less painful...please don't give up ok?
@hariskhanlodhi31322 сағат бұрын
@@MelodyKittyCandy0007 damage has been done i tried and failed brutally. i m 33 years now and next month 34 years old facing pressure and what else i should say i have given up. i dont know really why girls these days why put so high demands!
@polokucoch81125 күн бұрын
How about just getting married because you love that person and nothing else?
@EL-ce6bg6 күн бұрын
Last girl is not only a disgrace, shes a mistake. Pouring oil in fire.
@Nony_Amous1015 күн бұрын
"In my view, the difference between participating in social labor and being a housewife is that one is paid while the other is not." Yeah, ok. What about keeping a roof above h*r head, electricity, working on machinery, bills, taxes. "And if you're not satisfied, you can always get a new job." Tell that to half the population of China's younger generation struggling to find employment or even make ends meet. "The best choice is to keep improving our abilities and increasing our bargaining power so that when we enter marriage in the future, we can be more confident." Yes, but nem only want you in your 20s, so don't take too long. Also nem don't put much value in your degrees, your jobs, everything you do in the workfield because nem are aware that they're likely never going to touch those funds anyway because its yours or your parents? "Our only way out is to work hard and rely on ourselves" So basically what men normally do for the most part? Other than the bride price?
@vincecarlton68425 күн бұрын
$480k yuan in AUD is $100k. Wow. How many premium escorts can one rent for that price?
@fialee86 күн бұрын
Mole girl loves to give advice about marriage... but will likely never marry herself. Is that someone anyone should be taking advice from?
@nerdiloo98636 күн бұрын
I don't want to hear anything about "more risk for the woman because child birth". Both parties have risk - the man buying a house/car, putting her name on the title and handing her all his $$$ is equally risky. So that's BS. Any relationship that can't get past the bribe price means they made the bribe price the "seed" of the relationship, in which case it is likely to fail should the couple face financial storms in the future.
@l33t00757 минут бұрын
I married a penniless man and now we have a beautiful house, paid off car, land, and he's open 2 businesses. Love and loyalty are INFINITELY worth more then even gold.
@user-pt8mf5sr3h6 күн бұрын
NONE!!! Bride price should be illegal. It cost money to raise the bride and groom as well. Bride price contribute to the decline in marriages, new birth and population. Nov 2020 census is 1.412 bln. In addition to covid deaths, it is less than 1 billion now.
@DC-wo2yb6 күн бұрын
It’s still over 1.4 billion. You’re making shit up.
@OchiengMelisizwe56 күн бұрын
@@DC-wo2ybmore than 30 percent is post 60
@wolfganghuhn77476 күн бұрын
Much less remember the shanghai security leak, 800 million
@noahknight40396 күн бұрын
Take a page from western countries and start telling your parents no, to mind their business and/or kick rocks.
@j.p.57166 күн бұрын
Western women are not valuable enough to sell these days. The best a father can hope for is to give them away.
@roythousand136 күн бұрын
There is nothing wrong with being single!
@safffff10006 күн бұрын
It's lonely
@DC-wo2yb6 күн бұрын
Lonely, miserable existence. No family to assist with anything later in life. Millennials won’t be getting social security and a 401k isn’t going to be enough.
@roythousand136 күн бұрын
@@safffff1000 No, it is not! You can still date.
@roythousand136 күн бұрын
@DC-wo2yb , that's not true! It depends on the person. If you have family and friends who care about, and hobbies and interests to fill your time, you won't feel lonely.
@safffff10006 күн бұрын
@@roythousand13 It's so much better with the right spouse
@counsela92406 күн бұрын
Bride price is ridiculous and is an outdated concept in 2024. They should love each other and build a lives together financially. Both men and women work now. Don’t need two lavish houses and cars to live a comfortable life.
@nerdiloo98636 күн бұрын
Agreed. The last girl prattled on about being autonomous. She could work her career years, save for motherhood and support specific child related scenarios if needed (anything more they'll complain).
@ace19266 күн бұрын
You are looking through "Western" Cultural Lenses - It is "Not Feasible"!
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
love is a very bad foundation
@nerdiloo98635 күн бұрын
@@ace1926 Neither is extortion, so find a 3rd alternative because this one sucks. Do not call it "marriage".
@counsela92405 күн бұрын
@@ace1926 then why do women get degrees and high paying jobs, buy their own homes and cars? Bride price is not necessary.
@Rocky-rh3rz6 күн бұрын
→ Good match during dating, but → trouble with bride price, then → DON'T MARRY. Just keep dating for fun (sarcasm)
@polokucoch81125 күн бұрын
They're literally negotiating dollar amounts like buying a car.
@4evertrue8306 күн бұрын
How is the cost of raising a daughter calculated in China, to arrive at the brideprice? Do they start with the cost of child birth, followed by baby food, baby clothing, toys, toddlers food and clothing, school fees at an early age when she started her schooling to her college years? How come no one thinks, the same applies to raising sons as well? So, the daughter's parents wants the groom to pay brideprice, which is usually very high, as compensation for the responsibility of the parents raising their own daughter? What a wicked world we live in..smh 😤
@thefallen84966 күн бұрын
Marriage has always been about money. As long as women offered something worthwhile in return we where fine with that. Now the social pressures they once had to act like it wasn't always a financial transaction are gone and with it any semblance of self restraint on their greed. Women didn't change. They are just finally being honest about what they are.
@TJ-bs4wv5 күн бұрын
I can't deny I feel sorry for the poor young woman in the first clip. Totally devastated because of her selfish parent's demand
@brokenrhyme6 күн бұрын
How much of a bride price would I be willing to pay? None at all. Marriage is a covenant. Yet it has been reduced to nothing but a simple business transaction. There is no mentioning of love in any of these relationships. Marry for love with God as the foundation. Honor, loyalty, devotion, sincerity, gentleness, honesty, joy, peace, self-sacrifice... these things cannot be bought with money. In time money will come. However, it should never be the reason and foundation of a marriage relationship.
@j.p.57166 күн бұрын
You speak of God but it was God in the OT that instituted the bride price to begin with. According to God, the father owns the daughter and has the right to sell her if he wants to or not if he doesn't.
@kojo27735 күн бұрын
@@j.p.5716 And women are no longer considered property of men, therefore they do not deserve bride price. Once women return to being property to their fathers and husbands, we can then speak about bride price ☺
@princesharma27786 күн бұрын
Habibi come to india. Here man gets dowry from girls family.
@sameelshamnad61426 күн бұрын
If marriage is all about money. Then its just a transaction Nothing about love or relationship in there.
@DC-wo2yb6 күн бұрын
It’s always been about resources and raising children. The focus on love comes from Disney movies
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
love is a horrid foudation anyway. but the man should be payed, for picking up the burden !
@RES-d5i5 күн бұрын
In India we don't have bride price but parents here using their girl as atm. Even age is near they don't marry her off, also brainwas their daughter like she deserves more all for the money 💰🤑💰
@xunisysli98246 күн бұрын
I don't think paying for a bride price is acceptable. However, I am willing to cash out for things that are important toward a marriage. Instead of spending for a huge wedding banquet, I cashed out and went for a small wedding and used the money (from my parents) for a down payment toward a nice house (4 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, newly developed). The house title and my financial accounts are in both of our names.
@Hitexh-h8d5 күн бұрын
The girl at the first video, she was crying because the store has no customer. It has no relation with marriage. Are all news in this video are fake?
@darwinjina6 күн бұрын
480k yuan = almost 68K USD. Relationship was up and down. it is alleged that the parents used the daughter as a commodity but perhaps there is more to it then that. Also, she is not slave.
@themaster83056 күн бұрын
Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free ?
@MiguelDLewis6 күн бұрын
Because the beef ain't free. A sacrifice must be made.💍✝👰🏾♀
@virginiawai84856 күн бұрын
Get over yourself and stop lying to yourself. There was no 8 years of love, just 8 years of wishful thinking, thinking you were going to get a lot of money out of his guy. Well, he has common sense, good for him.
@hijackhypergamy6 күн бұрын
Seeing the first girl wailing, thrashing and crying on the sidewalk restored my faith in humanity and hypergamy.
@catfoodmillionaire78385 күн бұрын
She obeyed her parents. Her parents ruined her relationship and most likely her future. And she's still submissive to them, understand her pain. I would never choose a woman who would not speak up if there's obvious shenanigans.
@preciousbell45736 күн бұрын
If I have parents like the girl’s parents, I would not invite them to my wedding. It’s MY wedding not theirs.
@HoangHuynh-sq3zz5 күн бұрын
young chinese women should learn from their mother mistake not to continue bad culture bride price. Men would use that money for pay to play rather than married
@Soldano9995 күн бұрын
It's an outdated custom from an different era they should make it illegal.
@michaelsutton3092Күн бұрын
Poor girl was screwed over by her parents, but her value is dropping every day
@stevenliew25075 күн бұрын
The demand of Bride Price killed all relationships between dating couples as it is like selling and buying transactions. SAD
@aztec01126 күн бұрын
US modern women take a breath! You are NOT the worst on the planet.
@j.p.57166 күн бұрын
Yes, they are.
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
they are. by far!
@drcggj3 күн бұрын
Yes, they are.
@ErichHuynh5 күн бұрын
I have familiar problem from Vietnam. My ex girlfriend family require me money, that could compensate their son future mariage cost. That amount is ridiculous, i love her, but not that price, then i walk away. I am happy with my decision, save a fortune that hard working earned. As traditional gift, a pack of gold jewery is acceptable. The wedding party is just an occasion to introduce the couple to family members from both side, but many bride want to make it the chance to live as a queen, make it too big, too costly but they pay none percent of that. Many vietnamese girls ask too much from their mate, but give nothing on the table except Puss... what is their value? I wont buy that cheap bargain
@Hanna58596 күн бұрын
15:31 Exactly why there are more and more and more sheng nu every year. Good luck.
@apastasauce59056 күн бұрын
Everywhere else it’s a groom price…the brides family pay dowry to the groom to get rid of her😂
@williss11926 күн бұрын
Bride price is not suitable for Modern Day. It's deprived from poverty. China was never rich and there's a wealth gap. A lot of respect for couples who keep it modern and do everything for love and happiness
@skavenengineer90846 күн бұрын
in east indonesia this Bride Price traditions still exist, they are the 1 of poorest indonesian province, that's why in east nusa tenggara so many children's born out of wedlocks, just to lowering the bride price.
@jenettray89865 күн бұрын
As a parent you don’t deserve compensation for raising a child you chose to have. No one made you have a kid and if someone did force you to have a kid then they should pay you not the in-laws. This culture is so greedy
@lewmonteagudo12805 күн бұрын
Here in North America, son kind of experienced that situation, mother in law wants me (mother) to give my son $100,000 his inheritance even before I die so her daughter can buy a house. My son was so stressed of saving every penny he’s got, while she travel with her friends and families over the world, while he scraped penny to save.
@GEOFFREYMARKOVIK13 сағат бұрын
When living in China I saw many serious young couples who were in love & long term relationships that were ruined by the couples parents during these wedding negotiations. 😢 Very sad situations that ruin young people’s lives.
@Chance71375 күн бұрын
I would never pay a bride price!
@nicrulez123456 күн бұрын
They should all not get married or have children.
@counsela92406 күн бұрын
Exactly!
@bobblacka9184 күн бұрын
As Rhett Butler said in the movie "Gone With The Wind": Why don't you marry for love?
@adrianglennbionatКүн бұрын
why have a bride price at all for someone previously married? ludicrous.
@light59786 күн бұрын
in my place, the man provide an empty house, then give a bride price. but after marriage, that bride price later used to buy things to fill in the house, like tv refrigerator cupboard cussion and everything else. so the money will be for the newly wed eventually
@catfoodmillionaire78385 күн бұрын
So there's just a lot of needless risk by the ones paying the bride price and the money just gets shuffled around until it ends up where it started?
@light59785 күн бұрын
@@catfoodmillionaire7838 in the end, both the house and the money for bride price will eventually for the newly wed couple, not for her parents
@OchiengMelisizwe56 күн бұрын
WHY AM I ADOPTING WOMEN ?
@OchiengMelisizwe56 күн бұрын
being financially smart and wise is not being "stingy".
@monikdrakovac8055 күн бұрын
I'm Gay id pay 0 . Should be for love and respect not selling her off like cattle
@ChaosAngel6675 күн бұрын
Notice that no laws prevents adults from marrying if the parents dont get a bride price. The lady is the most at fault here.
@toquan0845 күн бұрын
America must be a better place . Go to America and find a bride . It is free of charge there.
@moviesedits5 күн бұрын
And get divorce after two month
@DmSujaEntrepren6 күн бұрын
So wait, the bride price is subsidizing another man's marriage? Whoa... dude.. thats some rough stuff. So in order to sleep with the daughter, you must pay for her brothers wedding... omg. Dude.....
@Valkomerenn5 күн бұрын
Which is weird to me, considering that the bride's family will go through the same bride-price process when the time for her brother to marry, an endless cycle perhaps?
@DmSujaEntrepren5 күн бұрын
@@Valkomerenn yea. Ruthless. Basically, the rich are subsiding the poor in terms of reproduction. Its like a financial caste system of sorts. A reproductive caste system.
@bjbt-nk1lw6 күн бұрын
That's because you give your consent to marry to your parent.
@maritzarivera79945 күн бұрын
For those who want money as bride price for their daughter to pay future bride price for son, what will happen if daughter doesn't marry at all?😢
@catfoodmillionaire78385 күн бұрын
100 million single women and 100 million single men.
@MrSammybucca5 күн бұрын
She made a business decision to obey the parents wishes, the man made a business decision and she lost. Instead of working together with the man she held fast. FAFO
@minhlu35186 күн бұрын
Don't pay any money for a bride. The bride needs to bring money to the marriage. Drizzle drizzle
@darkstars-torpedoes-of-truth5 күн бұрын
The couples would probably do well in life if they didn't have to pay these ridiculous extortions.
@yeehehehhe384946 күн бұрын
i feel the bride price is become like the western version when women demand isn't 50/50 it become 95/5 female get more than male which kinda crazy.
@DaeDexShadowHeart5 күн бұрын
The 2 police officers at the beginning must’ve been thinking, “We dodged that crazy bullet”
@diehappy39975 күн бұрын
Can't make deals with scammers. There is no end to their greed. If you give a mouse cookie book, teaches young kids this moral.
@reknas785 күн бұрын
It's all about money and greed. With the economy being so bad, men can not afford to get married. So ladies, stop for demanding money if you want to get married. Time to forget traditions.
@factsunloaded48086 күн бұрын
Are these women are looking for love or price for their love..I thought love is priceless as many of these female centric movies shows 🎉
@sreed85706 күн бұрын
This bride price B/S started back in antiquity and came with certain guaranties like the girl would be verifiably untouched, "a virgin", and were she not she would be severely punished and the marriage cancelled. If some are so hot to stick to old traditions they should stick to all of them.
@prabhuji37506 күн бұрын
Whenever you take or give money then it's become a compulsion, whatever name you want to give, it'll bite your ass back. So think twice before you want to make a transaction 😏
@gekko5055055056 күн бұрын
those patents were really stupid. hardheaded to not even negotiate a 5% ! lol, what idiots. Now they lost ALL.
@darthlaurel2 күн бұрын
Our future financial security was my husband's scholarship. These people are delusional.