9 Harsh Truths About How Relationships Work - Jillian Turecki

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you savages. Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 It Begins With You 05:05 The Parallels Between Romance & Business 14:06 The Stories We Create in Our Minds 20:00 Why Accountability in a Relationship is So Important 25:43 How to Stop Your Mind Being a Battlefield 28:57 Differentiating Love & Lust 40:03 The Importance of Self Love 44:13 Speak Up & Tell the Truth in Relationships 51:58 What Do Women Really Want From Men? 1:05:48 How Stress & Fear Ruin Relationships 1:14:00 Relationships Aren’t Supposed to Make You Happy 1:18:50 Why You Need to Make Peace With Your Parents 1:30:06 Where to Find Jillian

[@heyu123]

It’s so right! When I started my personal development course to work on my attachment style, my relationships transformed not just romantic ones but familial and platonic ones too. And hypnotherapy really helped me. When you have a negative thought pattern and limiting beliefs, you’ll always feel like you’re not worthy of love.

[@markcavandish1295]

Holy Shit! That’s what I need. Never heard of hypnotherapy. Looking for answers

[@heyu123]

@@markcavandish1295honestly it’s life changing I’ve been listening to my therapist’s recordings every night. You’re most receptive when you’re about to fall asleep and when you wake up. Try Thais Gibson’s personal development course. It’s been incredibly helpful.

[@peripheralparadox4218]

No one is worthy of love. Some people are more lovable and some people less so. As far as romantic love, most men are simply not physically attractive enough to meet the minimal standards of women, therefore they are not worthy of love at all, because women don’t value them. No value, no worth.

[@JagdActor1]

What was your personal development course?

[@VodPJ24uEgkkZT]

This was a 90-minute therapy session for Ms. Turecki.

[@a124as]

😂😂

[@ballzonyuh761]

LMAOOOOOOOO god this is true.

[@v9b23j]

"I don't think he's going to make me happy," said someone who used to be a friend of mine when she was debating as to whether she should continue dating a guy at the time. I said to her, " You can't expect him to make you happy. You're responsible for your happiness.". She looked startled.

[@phant0m92]

"men have to become more emotive"....women have to not lose respect and attraction for men when they open up.

[@rclooper2843]

Not going to happen

[@hazardousmaterial5492]

That loss of attraction is a locked-in mechanic from the prehistoric days. It's not going away

[@Khaons]

when women says they want men to be emotive, they don't mean for them to become emotional, but that they want them to be able to better connect with the woman's emotions, like she said "become a better listener" when a woman says she wants safety, she doesn't mean that she wants protection, but she wants the man to be immutable and unperturbed.

[@owenL]

@@Khaons‘immutable and unperturbed’ doesn’t sound like somebody who’s connected and empathetic 🤷‍♂️ “I don’t want stoicism, but I do want stoicism!”

[@Khaons]

@@owenL watch the "what women want" again. they don't want you to be reactive, perturbed by their oscillating emotions. In their attempt to perfectly understand women, men gets frustrated, by the way you responded to me it feels like you're perturbed and that's exactly the vibe they don't want to feel, masculinity is calm if you want a deeper explanation in a male POV, look up Corey Wayne's 3% men

[@MegaSummaryOfficial]

Quick overview of the main ideas: Deep-seated insecurities, often rooted in childhood conditioning, play a pivotal role in shaping relationship dynamics. These insecurities, primarily the fear of inadequacy, manifest as damaging behaviors such as anger, clinging, or emotional withdrawal. To navigate these challenges, self-awareness and accountability are essential. Recognizing that past experiences heavily influence relationship patterns, the journey to improvement begins internally, as we are the constant factor in all our interactions. Transformative self-examination requires delving into personal belief systems, childhood experiences, and internal narratives. It is crucial to understand that love should not depend on fulfilling others' standards or fears of inadequacy. Romantic relationships, professional partnerships, and family dynamics serve as mirrors, reflecting our self-worth issues and prompting personal growth. The video underscores self-love as vital not for earning others' love but for establishing boundaries and nurturing healthy relationships. Viewing self-love as self-acceptance involves acknowledging personal worth despite imperfections. This self-regard influences how relationships are perceived; low self-esteem can lead to tolerating disrespect or abuse. Open communication and vulnerability are highlighted as crucial for sustaining relationships. Concealing emotions or needs due to fear can result in resentment and relationship decay. Addressing emotions candidly can bolster connections and trust. Differentiating between lust and love is also essential for the longevity of relationships, as initial attraction can obscure deeper compatibility issues. Broader themes explored include stress and fear's impact on relationships, recognizing partners as sources of growth and challenge, and the significance of reconciliation with parents for personal peace. Reframing past narratives and understanding parental influence can provide clarity on one's identity and relational patterns. Promoting a balanced relationship approach, the guide emphasizes personal growth, self-awareness, and mutual support, ensuring that relationships complement personal happiness rather than being its sole source.

[@TheWinterfox10]

Beautiful explanation! Thank you for typing this out.

[@jorgeromera3861]

A perfect voice (such as hers) makes the conversación really enjoyable. As a Spanish listener, that is something to feel grateful.

[@levikirkland54]

I'm so tired of people saying men don't understand how important safety is as if we never experience the fear of feeling unsafe. This is entirely false. Women's emotions are volatile, destructive, and dangerous to men. They are a weapon that could harm a man physically and emotionally. This is why we try to "fix" things or "take it personal." It's because the woman's emotions and her lack to regulate or control them has caused us to feel unsafe. I'll use her parking lot example, she says that if she is alone in a parking lot, she feels a sense of fear, and her safety is in jeopardy, and she would "run" to her car. Why? There aren't any threats to your safety. You're allowing the emotion of fear, that you can't regulate, dictate your action. Now if we put a man alone in that parking lot he's fine, but if we put both a man and a woman in that same parking lot, and the man is not, whatsoever, a threat to the woman, she still feels unsafe with her heightened emotions. However, that man is going to feel unsafe because that woman IS a threat. Not by direct physical force, but by indirect actions she could take that could threaten that man's existence. All she has to do is lie about an interaction with that man that never took place and his life is over because she is to be believed and there are no witnesses. A woman's emotions can damage a man's livelihood and his own mental state. It what such a great podcast up to this point because Jillian went on about self work, and then completely neglected that women need to control and regulate their emotions as part of that self work. Women, if you want a man to make you feel safe, YOU have to start with controlling your emotions to make HIM feel safe.

[@Patson20]

Yep, this whole thing is just modern feminist again putting all the responsibility on men for women's actions rather than taking accountability for them. And what's worse is a single woman can admit she's irrational and emotionally unstable as long as no other women are around. But the second other women are involved you're the problem you made her do that, she's the victim

[@winateverything3710]

If it is biological then they cannot do that though. For men this is based on testosterone. If you up your T then you will not have the problem you describe. Low T men are dependent on the situation or the female's emotions while high T men are not. Your T levels are under your control and the answer to the relationship is to boost the male's T levels no? This gives the female the stability of the male's strength to rely on.

[@ClaireGreen-wd2gm]

The vast majority of actual crimes of violence and SA against girls and women are never procecuted, no arrests even made yet you men, in order to somehow claim victimhood status, have painted this narrative that a woman could simply lie and say something happened with no evidence (in a parking lot full of cameras) and youd be put in prison for life. Its so pathethic. Just stop.

[@absurdpixie]

I mostly agree with you, but I think there’s a few separate points to be made here: 1. We are all responsible for our actions, regardless of our emotions. Emotionally volatile people have a moral burden to not behave badly, regardless of how they feel. (All of us have our moments, regardless of how stoic we think we are.) 2. Men and women BOTH have unique ways in which we can badly harm one another. Men usually have the physical advantage, while women utilize reputation damaging. Both are bad, both are wrong. 3. I would also agree that the latter (women using reputation damage to harm men) is under-appreciated in its prevalence. Content like this often forgets to remind women that they have this power and to be mindful of that kind of behavior. It sucks.

[@eduardomartin8510]

@@winateverything3710 This is the most unfounded bs I've read in a while.

[@adnanmohamed1479]

It's ironic how there are relationship coaches who make millions, yet if you look into their lives, they are most likely single/divorced and do not want/regret having kids.

[@emmanuelleallen]

I think this is because they made the mistakes, and they're coaching people away from the mistakes they made. Passing on wisdom from the lessons they learned. Teaching others the things they wish they knew, before entering into these relationships. Things that would have perhaps prevented them from even entering into the relationships in the first place. It's okay to learn from your mistakes, regret your mistakes, and teach other people how to avoid doing what you did wrong.

[@a124as]

@@emmanuelleallenthis is the dumbest explanation. A coach shouldn’t make you who they are. They should lead you to be the best version of yourself.

[@MTLV100]

Maybe learn something about this woman.

[@joshb42]

She did a really good job and made great points. And maybe she is like that, but most of the greatest sports coaches ever, never played or weren’t good professionally, so it doesn’t matter. What matters is the points are good

[@clarissaamiata1448]

I don’t really agree with all the comments here. While they have valid points, I would still listen to a relationship coach that is married and has achieved what I hope to attain. I listen mainly to Tony Gaskins because he has made all the mistakes and also is in a happy successful marriage for more than 15 years. Listening to single relationship coaches is like listening to an out of shape personal trainer or one that hasn’t gone through the body transformations themselves. They can teach but can they get you the results that you want? To each their own I guess..

[@flxCat_]

Super interesting podcast. An example from my life: My mother always wanted to be a creative artist, but she wasn't. I was, but it never filled me up. In my late 30s, I decided to become a programmer, and I struggled, but it worked out. This kind of work is more fulfilling for me and creative in other ways too.

[@behavioralsink7747]

One can practice actual Stoicism and still acknowledge their emotions. To not do so would defy logic, and to not share with their partner would defy ethics. That said, I feel the stoicism being discussed was externally not expressing emotion as it has a time and place.

[@TheSpykeeper]

Exactly! It's about being in CONTROL of your emotions, not blocking them out. I would argue that the most well-known Stoics are some of the most emotional figures in ancient history.

[@paolohuelgas3113]

The woman does not understand stoicism as per "The Stoics", school of philosophy.

[@joshb42]

Exactly, she meant stoicism as the modern person understand it. Stoicism is about showing emotions, yet controlling them as to not be unhinged

[@mrfacespace]

It’s a very good interview with good advice. I disagree somewhat about what she says near the end of the video, as I still believe that when two people have a genuine connection it can have a healing effect on both of them and contribute to their sense of well being in the world, even if it can’t magically solve all of their issues or problems

[@mlobimkhize5444]

0:00 and the podcast has already started with a bang. Can't miss a second with Chris. Love it! 😅😁😁😁

[@yotaracer28]

Wow Chris what a incredible discussion! I have watched you numerous times with everything from nutrition spirituality maybe even some current day political type stuff I’ve really enjoyed the nutrition aspect specially the workout with you and Mike isratel maybe I got that spelling wrong lol. But this has to be the most impactful discussion I have ever seen from you. I have seen you grow as an interviewer and it is astonishing. How impactful you have been especially in my own life. Thank you for this discussion. I really feel you have changed my outlook on life in an hour and a half. Keep doing what you’re doing, and I look forward to many more of these discussions.

[@NorthpoleShuffle]

A very good conversation. I In the whole 1.5h conversation I think there where two points I'd like to expand/discuss; when the topic of "emotionally stunted" men (She said stoic but I think she ment the former.) and what women want. It gets very conflicting with what she previously said about great relationships. The first, It's a very unfair characterisation of men. A factor to being reserved emotionally is because life punishes men who aren't mentally strong or should I say grow from failures. It's not malevolence from people but growing up with complete indifference from everyone except ones parents. There are basically no societal or cultural care for young boys & men. We're expected to perform & solve our own problems. Second, it seems more like a crutch which makes men responsible for women's emotional states. I get that safety might be a biological obstacle for women but enabling a sense of fear(parking lot example) or should I rephrase it as one succumbing to being reactionary to ones's emotions is NOT quite healthy or mature. There are plenty of my grandmothers generation who are very feminine & deal with life with type grace?...

[@phant0m92]

There's this push to always put the onus on men. It's always a one way street. What happened to compromise, negotiation, accommodation, and compassion. It's always the man who needs to change, to fix himself, to do better for the woman.

[@bumpupsapp]

Hey Everyone 🤠 Find the parts that interest you: 0:00 - Fear of not being enough in relationships 2:14 - The importance of looking within yourself 4:01 - Relationships expose our inner patterns 10:59 - Relationships reflect our inner selves 14:01 - Our minds create stories in relationships 22:20 - Taking full responsibility in relationships 24:29 - Transcending ego in relationships 29:02 - Lust vs. love: knowing the difference 33:35 - The cycle of short-term relationships 39:00 - Transitioning from passion to comfort 41:50 - The importance of self-love in relationships 44:45 - Understanding past feelings and needs 52:47 - Women seek safety in relationships 1:00:01 - Men feel responsible for women's happiness 1:02:29 - Familiarity can lead to relationship complacency 1:08:30 - Stress can cloud relationship perceptions 1:10:22 - How we respond to stress affects relationships 1:12:20 - You can't convince someone to love you 1:20:09 - Choosing happiness over parental expectations 1:25:28 - Recording conversations with parents for healing Chat with videos via Bumpups 🌲

[@quentinmullinix8799]

This was helpful. I give high praise to anyone who can present information that is both simple and profound. Thank you Jillian.

[@justmrak9078]

Holy, fucking, shit - This is like answer to everything that Im currently going through. Greatest timing ever Chris, thank you for this, this helped me, and this is not an understatment, maybe even and undestatement, but A TON

[@IanYoung-y4r]

I hear a lot of tropes, but I don't hear her quoting much from history and the greats on compartmentalising and pragmatically solving these things. I hear her say "I think...", "I find...", "people are..." and I feel she falls into the trap of platitudes, circular thinking and the need to be "an individual". She looks at people too much in a bubble of their own nuance and vulnerability. Fr example with Buddhism and enlightened thinking is that it's all realisations of fundamental truths. I believe it's fundamental truths that you build trust with people and not vulnerability. In the grand scheme of things and being objective admitting you are a creature that in the grand scheme of things is laughably vulnerable when isolated in nature and you need a healthy existential ego check. But to use vulnerability for vulnerability sake as a speaking point defeats the purpose of growth, which is the skillful means of lifting each other up. Not heurisms but the development of latent talents contextually with natural law and the harmonious collaboration of people, talents, resources, etc. available. You dont want this idea to stop at survival but to progress quickly into a time tested culture of thrival in the truest sense. Therefore, turning weaknesses into super powers is a chess move type of thinking that doesn't occur with her brand of vulnerability. The closest philosophies that lend towards these kinds of ideas would be those with kinship to Military Daoism. Her ideas are too fresh with notions of identity politics and extreme tolerance and focus on ego instead of the mission and journey the couple as a team should have a call to power for. She lacks the warrior's path and the Heroe's Journey in her zeitgeist. Fundamental truths represent the middle path works, a game of trying to put yourself in everyone's shoes and then legitamizing their existence, neuroticisms and nuances is exhaustive like chasing your tail.

[@hk6474]

Sure she uses tropes but at least she makes sense. Your entire comment doesn’t even make sense.

[@IanYoung-y4r]

@@hk6474 you are what you can conceive, so I can bulet point it to make life easier: - she speaks from a first person feelings perspective and shows bias instead of axioms from philosophy greats typical of Chris - she thinks everyone is a special sausage but this is contrary to many schools of classical thought and this enables people not to embrace agonology - she's not anthropological in her views or axioms - she has no suggestions for superior ways to emulate from example - she practices extreme tolerance over superfluous autonomy and not answering a call to action - her ideas do not call for common universal truths but more boundaries and sensitivity training But if you can't follow, you are what you can conceive. This podcast is really designed for people to test boundaries not create more....

[@lvargas4406]

great job

[@rogerhowell7592]

I think this lady is talking about 19:30 about the femaill mind, not so much the male mind.

[@a124as]

She says, “seldom do we look in….” So you’re saying females don’t look in? Lol.

[@brandonscott7793]

I’m a man so my opinion is skewed to only look at women which is who I’m dating but all I can find is women that are only looking for this magical spark and it seems like we just keep teaching women to look for this magical spark, which is this ultimately fleeting thing and you wonder why relationships will last like 8 to 10 months and no one‘s ever sticking around or staying together I don’t think people really understand how much work it actually takes to be in a long-term relationship and honestly if you look at things correctly, it’s really not a lot of work. It’s just deciding we’re going to stay together. It’s a simple as that.

[@MA_KA_PA_TIE]

Does this woman have children? The complexity they add to this issue doubles the difficulty.

[@thaliakate888]

No husband, divorced, no children last time I listened. I prefer my relationship advice from happily married people with kids if possible. Still, always some nuggets of wisdom with all of Chris’s guests.

[@wojiaobill]

she talks about a man who was ready to give up in a relationship that was having problems after kids were born, and her response is, "no you cant give up, it takes two to tango." sorry to tell you this, lady, but sometimes it IS the woman's fault, and sometimes the woman is neurotic despite the man doing EVERYTHING. why should a man suffer and live a life of unbearable stress just because the woman cant pull herself together and be fair to her partner?? HELL no, he doesnt need to put up with that!!

[@SarahBakewell-pq7pb]

Yes, I found her very superficial and this was a good example. No exploration of the problems at all; eight month old baby; let’s see; are they both getting enough sleep? Many babies at this age are teething and can be chronically miserable which is wearing. Is his partner depressed? This is the time post natal depression often hits. Do they get time alone together, what are their support networks, family, grandparents, friends? I would be ashamed to give any of my patients such facile advice and the fact she chose this as an example speaks very poorly of her judgement.

[@TheSpykeeper]

I feel like Jillian misunderstands the definition of being a Stoic. It's not surprising though because she falls for the most common misconception about Stoicism that Stoic people are just emotionless zombies.

[@Lakoda26]

I don't want peace. I want her to let me help her. I also want warmth.

[@Sub0Kate]

Thank you for talking about the L word Chris! Isn't it funny that Love and relationships are seen as a frivolous and silly topic when they are literally the most important factor in our happiness?

[@johnkurtz3462]

Great pod! Thanks Chris

[@sixonegfour2719]

1:33 seconds in and well, I’m all in. ✅💪

[@irenalovesart4064]

I've always said that if you want love make yourself the person they would want to love.

[@owenL]

That film 500 Days of Summer sounds very much like Groundhog Day.

[@priyankadsouza2314]

What is the books name she is referring to ?

[@robbigger26]

I lie to myself about my beer belly every day. It’s actually a donut belly 😢

[@boofcake91]

Donut say that

[@paolohuelgas3113]

She does not understand what " stoicism" is in the philosoohical sense.

[@levikirkland54]

@paolohuelgas3113 Yeah I picked up on that too when I heard her talk about it.

[@kylesapphire2537]

She knows a shit load more than you ever will mate

[@Elminx2]

Great episode and guest! Much needed for everyone

[@bink865]

I've just been very good at choosing people with whom I need a mask. But I won't do it again.

[@Belgriffinite]

Does taking responsibility count if they still continue to do it? Kind of like how an apology doesn't count without change behavior? I've sincerely asking, because I have a relationship in my life with someone who definitely when they're in their good moods they take responsibility for what they do in their bad moods, they know it's wrong, in the don't try to excuse it. But then the next time a sour mood rolls around for whatever reason, often the same things happen again, not always, but often enough. I just want to know what I can say to them when they try to take responsibility and in my opinion I don't really think they are because they're not changing. I'd love to hear a posing dew points though

[@willzarke]

Trust their actions, not their words. If they show you that they don't care enough to change or respect you in any way - believe them.

[@Belgriffinite]

@willzarke The thing is is that I can see change in them like in 90% of situation that may have set them off before they don't get set off anymore but they're still that 10% where it still happens. Do I just give them more time, to where then they only do it 10% as often as they do now so only 1% of the original time? And so on and so forth?

[@sennkaiser1812]

I just got ditched by someone I thought could save me from my own problems. So I guess I am extra much looking for relationship advice right now. Isn´t it funny that Turecki would refer to "500 days of summer". It can´t only be me that think she looks like a more mature and wiser version of Deschanel in that movie. As always a great episode.

[@mysterio1570]

Even with a Romantic Relationship Think Tank. There is no visible way to guide a couple at age 16 to 96. Where the couple can stay happy with each other and no problems within the relationship at all. No way can that happen. It’s all about favourable odds in life and odds. For example. I as a man. In my head if I want a romantic relationship with a woman with favourable odds as a win. I have to only basically Date a woman who is single, childless like me. Her parents are together. She has a sibling at least. We are both financially on track/Listen to similar music. Both of us are Fit. Its should work. If she meets me and is just separated and has 5 kids from three different fathers. It can’t work with the second woman with 5 kids with 3 fathers. Not for me. The Drama is already in sight.

[@PerennialDew]

the safety thing is 10000000% spot on

[@rg7122]

Chris. Thank you SOOOO much for bringing up your point @2:50, I wonder about this all the time

[@thaliakate888]

Me too. The point was swept under the rug by Chris’s guest who profits from relationship not enoughness. The whole self-development world can be a trap of “Not enough, not worthy yet…” If you were, surely you’d have a healthy desirable love life, right? The “not enough yet” is especially weighty when it comes to relationships and love. Not yet enough for externally reflected love? Need more X, Y, Z. Less 1, 2, 3. Meanwhile there’s a mountain of money to be made from all the people feeling as though they have to buy books, courses, consume content, pay for therapy and coaches etc., to make the mirage of possible love a real tangible reality. It can be a self-gaslight. Environmental conditions are an overlooked contributing factor. The pill, feminism, dating apps, no fault divorce etc. It’s a new landscape of unprecedented dysfunction. That’s got nothing to do with personal enoughness. I’ll listen to Chris’s podcasts on any topic, but I refuse to spend another cent on relationship self-development for single people. If I meet a suitable growth-focused person serendipitously while living my life, I’ll study and apply everything from The Gottman Institute, but I’ve graduated myself from the relationship mirage treadmill.

[@RecreationalUseOnly]

She’s on point THEN she lost me with the “women need safety” 😂 Is that why women get flown out to Dubai or Tulum to sleep with men they never met before?

[@tylercrooks8659]

Agreed. Maybe she’s talking about women who can be in a healthy relationship. 😎

[@SandyCove143]

What a juicy, relevant, and incredibly valuable & worthwhile topic. TBH - the single most important romantic relationship that one will ever have in their life is the one that they have with themselves. Learning how to take 100% accountability for, oneself, to love & accept oneself…. and to be alone with oneself is a very uncomfortable, arduous and difficult process… with the operative word being “process”…. vs. an event. Too, you can’t love & help anyone else any more (or less) than you can love & help yourself. TBH - It is only until you learn how to truly love & accept your authentic self, unconditionally, that you will truly be ‘free’. It takes time, which most people believe they don’t have due to this ‘fast food’ I want/need it NOW, world that we live in. IOW I love instant gratification, but it takes so long :-). Net net, your best shot, and frankly, your only shot is do the ‘work’ bc if & when you don’t. the work will (continue) to do you :-). Besides, YOU are worth it! XOXO

[@b2nicee]

Her cable for her mic could be set up so much nicer

[@marlosunnyfruit4431]

Wow, what if we do not have family? What if our relationship and friendships are all we have as family? Everybody needs to be loved unconditionally a little somewhere... These rules for relationships seem to be only for people with a great family and a lucky life in general.

[@sarasotauptoseattle]

Great episode!

[@MrStreetninja007]

This is gold

[@ethankuan8515]

Fuck thank you for this Chris… 🙏🙏

[@TheWarBaby.]

I love this information being shared. It feels so true and relatable. I’m glad I can get this knowledge from time to time. Thanks Chris!

[@deborahcambria3005]

Yes accountability on both sides is what matters and is most important

[@GrimFinch]

Chris, regular savage here. I would really like to see a few more wise and learn'd ladies on the show. I think we need more of the modern wisdom from their side of the fence (for want of a better word). And especially in the toxic relationship, finding, maintaining and understanding eather we find ourselves in; as the culture war, the redpill idiocy etc has dominated the discourse and driven in wedges between men and women, often just for the novelty of outrage. Crack on son, more power to your elbow.

[@tjmorrisiv]

If relationships are this goddamn hard to be in, are they natural or even worth it? I'm really confused on the upside. 50 years ago you were told that you were to move to the burbs, raise a family and it would be great. It wasn't. 2025 we have a new model, passion fades, replaced by warm companionship that needs constant work and therapy. Maybe the real answer is people that make shit work for a lifetime are outliers and this is not the normal average or even desirable state for most humans with most other humans long term.

[@sanjeevgig8918]

Women coaches are SO reluctant to tell WOMEN to be accountable for their actions and control their emotions. LOLZ

[@jongrover8763]

There is a lot more to psychology than this

[@somat111]

Sounds like there should be an emotion self regulation class in schools because a "high functioning" adult shouldn't be susceptible to "bad moods", are you an adult or a child that's never grown up? Also at some point you need to grow out of being scared of monsters under your bed. No wonder everyone is screwed at the moment as all of these neurosies just get passed onto the next generation and the cycle repeats.

[@harleyross6219]

awesome podcast

[@Danny-qm3qc]

Gotta love relationship advice from an older unmarried woman. 😂

[@borisfilchev23]

Yes.. the bullshit narrative that you have to be amazing so that you could be in a relationship.. enough of that nonsense

[@NeoRelic-o8p]

Wrong. I know I'm enough. That's not the problem.

[@QuickPodcastSummariees]

Excellent, looking for a summary of key points discussed? More in profile.

[@acceleratedtrainingacademy]

She aint the wisest person he has had on and fairly low level ideas.

[@pricillagreen6125]

Oh, jeeezzz, blame it on your parents again

[@GooseneckSally]

interesting how the “what women want from men” segment is the longest one 🤔

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Well they basically want everything from men, so makes sense.

[@miriamcombe3033]

It’s not the longest one. And Chris asked the question

[@johnemmert6336]

You can do your best, but often the other in the relationship is working directly against you.

[@OzzmanComith]

I dont see the ring on her finger. Is she married?

[@brightpage1020]

Love God 1st. He will surround you with people who won't accept less than the best for you or from you. Because they see not a God head in you, but a reflection of God. Since we are all fearfully and wonderfully made in His image. And you will feel pained to accept anything less than the best for or from them. You'll have to mature together to cope together when you must accept less than the best from the battlefield of humanity's global struggle with itself. The struggle injerent in humanity built into freedom of choice, the responsibility to manage sin (which means "to miss the mark", an archry term - the mart referring to God's best for you). Cope with good humor, understanding, fellowship, and prayer. Together. If you dare.

[@sanjeevgig8918]

The bible also has an easy way to find a spouse: Deuteronomy 22:28-29 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days.

[@chrisklaeffling1]

Good point

[@CorrupTed666ersdg]

I have a feeling she's single lol

[@jemonda]

She's really just rambling jiberish. Definitely single

[@shatteredcaskets9948]

True that.

[@MTLV100]

Ffs. lol. She actually is offering wisdom. I’m sure you’re the one easy tricks to win over women, but don’t want to hear the truth.

[@joshhernandez4779]

@@jemondafirst 2 minutes and immidiately stopped it! Glad im not the only one who took notice

[@Mariachi1206]

Will I live to see a podcast/discussion about relationships that doesn’t boil down to men needing to be more understanding about female emotions? Probably not. Look, I get it. There is a lot going on hormonally. But in case you haven’t noticed, we left our animals ancestors behind a couple of centuries ago. You are not a slave to your hormones! CONTROL them. Not suppress, control! No, it’s not the same and yes, it can be done. As long as we keep bashing that old drum of men not understanding stuff and women can do whatever they want because it’s their nature and they can do nothing about it… nothing will change. On the contrary, more and more men will be opting out. At all women out there: WE DON’T UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS. WE WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS. Get a grip of yourself. We all loose our temper sometimes but the lack of emotional control among women lately is flat out scary. And no one is even talking about it…

[@DrEvil-hu1fi]

"It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all"

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Depends what you lose.

[@zitstif]

So... um.. is she married? Lol

[@NibberKSmooth]

Loving yourself first makes you endlessly selfish and you don’t help anyone else. Not one person who ‘loves themself first’ ever does anything for anyone else.

[@stevenmcbride9773]

I don't believe that your statement is true. How can I fully love others or help others if I have not learned to love myself first. I can not be a good helper or serve others if my self-care or self-esteem is lacking or non-existent. I can only love others in the best healthiest way if I know what love is. And it's through loving myself that I learn what true love is.

[@jera9654]

How can one give freely from abundance as they neglect their own needs? That is a recipe for resentment.

[@skoopiecheckecheaks]

Not gonna lie this podcast is ass. It's just a dude repeatedly and monotonously spewing word salad and acting like it's some greatly profound statement that's supposed to make me shit my pants. It wasn't at all a conversation, just mechanical and nothing much to take away. Probably why at times Julian had to pause and process wtf this guy is saying, because it's just quote after quote that she has to react to lol

[@hendrikgarbring9404]

First

[@johnman559]

Dohhhhhh..... nearly😂

[@TheWarBaby.]

Third😂

[@covidoff]

She basically admitted to gaslighting some guy friend of hers to stay with a woman who was crushing his soul and abusing him lol I'd love to see what advice she'd give had it been a woman trying to break free, probably a bunch of validation and empowerment as we usually see homewreckers get cause they're empty and bored for 3 minutes and have no internal compass.

[@lanerose20]

First