9 "NICE GUY" Mistakes DESTROYING YOUR LIFE!

[@alpham]

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[@markwhaley6973]

Just seen you on a commercial on the USC telecast for Bosley

[@ericg5070]

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[@jeweltaye4584]

Your videos are trifling and it's weird how you try to generalize every situation. Most likey you don't have anyone. And if you do it's not the one you really want. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jaycodm1692]

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[@Burtonracingboard6]

1. Be you don’t change 2. Don’t expect favours to be returned 3. What do you really want? 4. Be around Men 5. Audio book “No more mr. nice guy” 6. Not realizing your potential, be honest 7. Set Boundaries 8. Don’t be the Martyr

[@uchiharengoku7168]

Thanks man

[@uchiharengoku7168]

Also add time stamps plz

[@Ajahming]

I accepted the fact that I'm a Introvert and I cannot change that. I accepted myself, thats why I gain confidence.

[@beardnick1748]

So fast

[@xcosmiccrunchx]

I think number 1 and number 3 can conflict substantially if what you want requires you to change.

[@slstats7948]

Amazing video 💎😃 Fans from Sri Lanka ❤️🇱🇰😃

[@Ryan-Horgan]

“Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” - Dr. Wayne D. Dyer

[@SevenHunnid]

I’m just a young Mexican trying to make it out the hood. I smoke weed on my KZbin channel as my job…

[@youngrocky5139]

@@SevenHunnid it’s working tho 💀

[@SeanPatric_Colwyn]

I learned that.

[@tomio8072]

I know a certain bold-headed life coach who often quotes from Dyer...

[@mikeschuett339]

I was basically raised to be a 'nice guy' It was pretty much 'wrong' for me to: stand up for myself, show backbone, set boundaries, say no. If I did any of those things, I was being the 'bad guy' I have a 'bad attitude' and I got in trouble for being that way, if my tone of voice said 'you're crossing my boundaries, back off!' I was raised to always think of others, hardly ever myself, be considerate, etc. I'm in therapy trying to get off this 'nice guy' crap and it's helping. I just wish I wasn't raised that way.

[@noName-kn1lx]

thats what happens when you are raised by single moms.....

[@scottymk2303]

I was also raised the same way, exactly the same way. My pedants are shit and really shouldn’t of had kids but hey I’m here. I really struggled to watch that, it made me cringe. I’ve lost the love of my life because of this 👍🏻

[@supremeconprimeoverlord8114]

That’s wats happens when majority of your family are females and Nigerians So effin ********

[@noah86854]

i’m raising a sigma

[@learnpianofastonline]

@@noName-kn1lx And overbearing fathers

[@Ty-ub4nc]

26 and im still this way, it's hard to find who you are as a person. Wanting respect while being myself and wanting to be liked are the two hardest things I'm struggling with right now.

[@Limbo_Lingo]

Turned 26 a few weeks back and I just began my first week at a telemarketer office where I just wanna take calls and do my job properely but the coworkers are such experts and know their way around social codes like I probably never will which makes me wonder if there is any place for me there in the long run. I’m an introverted guy and not particularly sharp in crowds where fast-talk is a big part of it all. I guess I like people but I just can’t stand them. I want to stay and evolve but I also want to stay true to myself.

[@troydean5702]

@@Limbo_Lingo you are who you are. What happens when you are putting on airs and some women falls for you and Is the girl of your dreams. Guess what, now you get to tell her that your a player or a liar. No thanks. When I was single I was shy as shit.. women thought I was playing hard to get but I just was scared shitless. Them thinking I was just playing hard to get. well it worked. This was an era that came right after they outlawed clubbing them over the head and dragging them back to your cave to meet your mother.

[@sravanmenon6463]

U r absolutely right. To maintain that happiness in others, i have lost my dream of settling in Canada, lost big career opportunity and even lost my partner in the process. All, for satisfying my immediate family. To not hurt them in any way possible. AND NOW BECAUSE OF ALL THAT I AM STRUGGLING TO SURVIVE. AND NOW IT SEEMS LIKE, THEY ARE THE ONES WHO WANT ME TO BE ABLE TO SAY "NO" TO THINGS. AM IN MY LATE 20's and have wasted alot of my years to make my loved ones happy and contented while i sacrifice my happiness and dreams.

[@danmar8280]

Alpha, You just gave me flashbacks when you said the "you take what you can get.." line, I was raised to be the nice guy, oldschool Christian parents, be seen not heard, and my parents were always urging me into taking what I could get, play it safe and dont take risks. All about predictability, security, and being a proper gentleman, I had a few pretty big WTF moments that lead to breaking the conditioning. I love them though, they meant well.

[@asgeir151259]

Takk!

[@JobFocusOnlineAcademy]

First of all, a big thanks to the guys who made the Internet and youtube for us to view powerful content like this. It's funny how I still love myself even though everything bro said in this video speaks to me. I think the need for validation varies from person to person. I have been pushed over, now, it's time I push back. No more mr nice guy. I used to care about people and their opinions way too much, now I care less. I am still under pressure of being nice, I know I am going to come out looking like Diamonds. Nice Guys are great people with so much power only if they knew. I am blessed no matter how much life sucks. I am nice, and it's a weakness, but I dare to look forward to being better than I was, isn't it some strength itself. I promise to always stand up for myself and be the best version of myself. I have fought back and I will keep fighting for myself till I am FREE.

[@gustavopacheco8239]

The hard truth is that Alpha basicly described me How I was a couple of years ago. It's never too late to learn, change and get better, Gentleman !

[@algomez04]

Excellent excellent video my man.

[@jeremysjol1337]

I listened to that audio book a few weeks ago. It definitely opened up my eyes. I was that nice guy, I had to learn how to not care what other people think of me cuz in reality it doesn't matter, all that matters is you and making yourself happy.

[@christiantrafford1284]

Alpha this video literally helped me change my nice guy shit around and changed my life. So huge thanks man!

[@Jdres123]

Trust me Aaron, you're still a nice guy.

[@MDobri-sy1ce]

I think, a “Listener” is respected because he analyzes and doesn’t try to fix everyone’s problems all the time. However, to me, there is a difference between “Listener” and “Shoulder to cry on.” Don’t be that. It’s mentally draining!

[@SashaFujiwara]

I'm a great listener, but i sometimes can't stop talking. Being a great listener is being respective to people expressing themselves. Alpha got it all twisted

[@DarkSentinel52]

well most of the time im listener because im introvert not extravert like 70% of people here

[@MDobri-sy1ce]

@@DarkSentinel52 I am mostly an introvert as well.

[@dongoebel3659]

The difference between “Listener” and “Shoulder to cry on”. That’s a very important distinction to make. Listening while someone unloads all their complaints and whines about life. It’s draining. I was present, but I wasn’t there as a person, just a pair of ears. Listening as someone “talks something out” is different. I’ve been told I’m a good listener by customers when they talked out their problem to point of solution. I think there is a bit of “It’s all about me.” In the person who needs a “Shoulder to cry on” My point is, even in these conversational dynamics it still takes two to tango.

[@uzm5744]

@@dongoebel3659 truee

[@SMELLOFTRUTH]

Listen to this man! “No more Mr Nice Guy” is easily one of the best 3 books I’ve ever read/listened to. It changed my life and made me realize a lot of things in life 💪🏼 Thank you Aaron you’re awesome

[@felipemln7636]

whos the autor there are a lot

[@SMELLOFTRUTH]

@@felipemln7636 Robert A. Glover

[@cosmicfeargarou4592]

Guys i have a tip: just be who you are don't change your true nature for someone, there are people who will like you as you are without asking you to change so just be yourself.

[@Rezisorss]

I've been a nice guy for 32 years now and all this time been a complete failure with women, so maybe this "be yourself" tip are not meant to be for all of us..

[@ocastaneda14]

💯💯💯

[@the1337fleet]

Not true. Don't be yourself if that means being a slob, rude, dumb, or otherwise shitty

[@dele6786]

@@Rezisorss it's not about changing yourself. Just go for what you want and don't allow yourself to be pushed around be it male or female.

[@benjames863]

People pleasing = nice guy. nice guy - possibly from trauma. Heal. Love Alpha's content

[@chibi4910]

This is so true and devastating, it literally destroyed my life, while trying to 'satifsy' my coworkers and bosses I carried a lot of heavy stuff and now I have back disk herniation :(

[@Zilzalag]

no you just dont know how to lift properly, use your legs my man

[@TimXMan1000]

I was in the same boat I have lower back pain from working in the warehouse my co workers were lazy fucks I had to get out of there

[@TimXMan1000]

Sometimes it’s not just a bad back it could be a weak abdominal as well.

[@johndavis6719]

There is no such term as a nice guy but there are good men out there.

[@mildchaos6037]

Sadly it’s my default setting. I never expect anything but I’m always nice. I’m at the point where I actually know beforehand that every nice thing I do will likely go unrequited, and I’ve accepted that. It’s just who I am

[@smileyface3107]

Raised by an overprotective single mother which actually has helped me in ways but also created a lot of internal struggle. Took me forever to realize

[@jasonmoon1913]

Listened to this book shortly after my divorce from a cheater. It is life changing material

[@gabrielschroll3824]

Thanks for making this video, Aaron. I just finished reading the book upon the recommendation of another KZbinr CS Joseph, and holy cow - it may be the most important book I've ever read. I'm getting the audio book to listen to while I'm at the gym and in the car. I can't tell anyone reading this how valuable this book is! I appreciate you making the video to help spread the word.

[@MADGHICE]

I was a nice guy once, they were treating me like "a girlfriend".

[@alexanderparada8290]

Thanks for this video, I would like to take this advice. In order for people not to take advantage of me, I always feel an outsider with no friends and it always bothers me. Thanks for the heads up

[@matt-g-recovers]

And taking these are all really good points. Very good

[@excelself]

Plenty of girls call nice guys “creepy” just remember that.

[@mcmaschio]

Your videos are so informative and inspiring for me as a creator

[@ishansarode5304]

Aaron is changing me day by day

[@gen_zzz]

great video after a long time 😊

[@RoyalRhino]

After ive lost my father last year, I could not be happier that you are here alpha. Giving advice that he cant give anymore. Much Love man!

[@aaravwalia1235]

Stay strong brother

[@SomethingaboutScreens]

Way to go.....

[@TimXMan1000]

Sorry for your life

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

I've been a nice guy my entire life. And I really have no idea what I'm all about as a result. #1 was MAJORLY on point.

[@thomaspitale2370]

I feel the same way. Very easy to go back to your nice guy programming.

[@prosperthechancelloremeka4586]

not gonna lie, i was raised like this technically cause of my background. and i learned halfway that because of that nice guy syndrome, people used it as an excuse to "pick" on me. once i started to break the nice guy stuff i actually saw some changes, especially when all the men i started hanging out with said i have to stop being nice cause it was doing more harm than good. It was hard breaking the nice guy routine and it's still hard even now, especially when people say or quote that you have a bad behavior when you are just being yourself but we all have to start somewhere. Once you start something, no matter how hard it is, see it to the end. Am still learning so why not you.

[@tomgermann1]

Nice guy here. Trying to change. Difficult when someone is gaslighting you.

[@jefefinal6308]

Incredible video. Thanks alpha m. I needed this.

[@joeycooper628]

Been a fan of Dr. Glover's book for a few years. Glad you're doing a video on it now.

[@debbiemiller4281]

Thank God for Alpha. Especially in a climate where our young men are being raised by majority women & told masculinity is toxic. We HAVE to have our men be men.

[@hittingtax2670]

Masculinity is only toxic when it’s excessive.

[@Dave-ue8ce]

The Dr. Glover book and Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has definitely helped and improved my life throughout the years.

[@andrew3491]

Agree- that book is a gem.

[@nickp3949]

Disagree about the great listener thing. I’m a jerkoff and a ball buster, not a “nice guy” at all. I Stand my ground, put people in their place and tease them while I’m at it. Some people really don’t like me, and to be honest, I don’t give a fuck, they can go somewhere else. But I am a very good listener when people show me the respect that I deserve and they want to talk about something serious. The people that know me well know that I am a very good listener. At the end of the day it’s all about respect. If you show me respect, I’ll listen to what you have to say, and I’ll listen well. I just don’t give people the time of day of they’re gonna play games.

[@malone4735]

Yessir Alpha dropping Bangers on weekdays and Weekends🙏🏽💯💪

[@ryanwhorf6665]

I try to be a nice person but not like in the way the "nice guy" is like a lot of my buds will come to me and kind of talk to me about what's bothering them and I always thought it was a good thing that they could come to me and talk about but now I'm starting to wonder if it is true

[@MindManiacMarcus]

The only thing I don't like about your videos brother; I'm not a nice guy, my life doesn't suck. I was a nice guy and my life sucked, I need these reminders and I need to keep improving.

[@justafan105]

I have a question... What should I do instead of listening?? I mean when they have something to say?? What should I do?? Should I listen or not?? I don't understand that...

[@alphaphiarchie9378]

Great video Allpha

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Wha'tsapp him for help

[@MDobri-sy1ce]

I don’t think, I reached my full “potential “ but made great strides over the years by not listening to other people and doing what what, I wanted. For example, “Don’t go to college!” I always, wanted to go to prove to myself, I wasn’t “stupid” and get a degree. Now, I have been going so long some of the staff have called me “doctor.” For people about to say, “you are stupid to spend all that money!” And “blah, blah blah!” For me, it was a personal choice. No one made me. Besides, I love being part of that community and helping other students. Also, the courage to finally get tattoos, and do a lot of other things.

[@AnarchyCODM]

i am a victim of the last Point unfortunately apologising for things i had nothing to do with thank you alpha M for this

[@AbezGaming]

Let’s take the moment to appreciate how much effort you put into your content for us. Great job

[@ipmdiabod2144]

This lore is very intriguing.

[@debopriyosen9186]

Thanks a lot Aaron your videos are really a game changer for me . I am truly amazed to how your motivate all of us . I have learnt many things from your videos which really helped me a lot and truly looking forward to add more values to my life . Thank you .

[@michaelmurray8668]

I used to be that guy also. Now I think I have a healthy balance of the 2. Not a selfish pos but I also am not scared of telling someone to kindly f off. I'm about to turn 32 years old. I'm over living to please other people.

[@lyrony1916]

Being a nice guy and being a good guy is not the same!!

[@Mohan-dk6dd]

Thanks man

[@nekuodah1189]

I'm literally the mr. I'm sorry guy😭 Even thou it's clearly not my fault I still say sorry

[@hjr-swe]

Best book for men ever ! Awesome audiobook that all men should listen to atleast 2 times in a row and atleast every half year after that.

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Wha'tsapp him for help

[@desertdawg7273]

Dr. Glover saved my life and got me my really great woman. I highly suggest reading both of his books.

[@ayonhussainforever9390]

Thanks I needed that

[@fashionandfrags]

Read the book already. Actually prefer his other book, Dating Essentials for Men. It was the first book in dating I read that didn’t feel like “pickup game” or particularly red pill.

[@79981086]

There is a very good quote "if you want to make everyone happy, don't be a leader... sell ice cream"

[@s21swb]

Best video for a while. Great advice in there.

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Wha'tsapp him for help

[@markwhaley6973]

Just seen you on a commercial on the UFC telecast

[@Skadooshbag]

If anything, go get the book. It will open you up to so much shit you've been ignoring or asleep to all your life. This is my mission in life. To open up the eyes of our younger generation to the shit that took me 30+ years to learn.

[@adick516]

Thanks alpha.

[@Benitoapplebum]

Great audible! I’m such a great listener!😜

[@naruto12445]

"Don't do these things even though I did them and made it to this point." Great advice, just like my parents 👍

[@MrHoll87]

Well damn. This hit home right off the bat. Thanks for this video though. Hard truth to hear but I'm glad I did.

[@universeusa]

You are a good talker. 👏👍

[@lookwaticando909]

I remember being asked for favors and all but I knew what it was being a friend is just that and friends aren’t your friends unless they do the same in return to give is a an act to expect something back is a tax

[@franks03]

Loved this book💯, might just read it again

[@iorimoe_five]

As a girl, this is probably one of the only few videos of Alpha M I agree with.The nice guy doesn't seduce because he's not nice for anything but him, he is willing to do anything to please people while the good guy is kind by nature and don't seek for anything in return, if it does not work the way he wanted, the good guy will leave for the better, the nice guy will try anything.

[@henrytorresvlogs]

Amazing book changed my life

[@luciestajerova8037]

Such good info, but the shouting turns me off 😂

[@ocastaneda14]

😱😱😱 was literally thinking about this this whole week!

[@matt-g-recovers]

Because treating people the way you want to be treated is such a sneaky and conniving thing to do

[@parthapratim9804]

Yeah I am suffering from that too... Being nice made my miserable..and still

[@satachandra7183]

Alpha m your content is super your videos are all favorite to me

[@ArcherOO78]

I'm still a nice guy . But I don't shit anymore ! Had enough !

[@xenialxerous2441]

Awesome video! You know this itself is an audio book actually, these 9 odd minutes were bang of target!

[@monybest8502]

Thank you Aaron I really needed this ❤️

[@_Rishabh_honeybadger]

i am a nice guy, which i want to be but still there are things i want them to change , i have just entered my 20s and learned 2-3 leasons he said in a hard way. But i know what to do next , just follow my gut feeling , intuition. still a long way to go.....

[@DukeFavre]

For a moment. I was thinking I'm a nice guy. But I'm good. Look. We only have one life to make our decisions, play our cards. My papa used to donate, help people, my mama too. Those are my boundaries, my value as a person. So when I have a chance to help, I DO IT. Besides that. The big differens between being NICE and GOOD. Nice wants something. Good guys don't give a F*** and we're pretty okay with that. So be yourself. Have some Goals in life. I sure do. Anything you want, you can have it, don't work hard, work smart.

[@manuelorellana5469]

HUGE fan brother !!!! All of your videos are excellent!!!!

[@jaycodm1692]

I can't able to do fill ur code there is no option for code man how can get the trial somebody explain how can i get trial, link is not working

[@outtoxicated9104]

Great video Aaron! Gonna share this with my friend

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,l got help from a great man who brought us back together. and if you need any kind of help he can help you.

[@sonariorigoni1669]

Wha'tsapp him for help

[@rrtds9378]

Not sure about all these advice. I''m an old man, I had lived and seen a lot of life's situations. For one I have always want my daughters and sister to meet "nice guys", as long as they are not weird, I'd rather have them with successful nice guys than jerks. And they all did, and married nice successful men. Good marriage an good family. Now on the other hand, I have several female cousins who dated, and married "jerks, bad guys". All had been divorced with these awful guys. One tragic happened to a good female friend who I once had a crush with. She was a good woman who liked and dated tough men, eventually married a successful man but I would not consider a "nice guy". Well, this guy caused so much pain in their marriage that she became an alcoholic. She would have divorced him but he was shrewd and always talked her out of it. Eventually he himself got into trouble with the law, and got incarcerated. The stress on her caused her health, and her life, passing away in an early age. To this day, I wished I could have saved her.

[@lyrony1916]

Agree with everything you said, but how is being a good listener a red flag? That’s an alpha male trait, it shows that you’ve got wisdom and good leadership skills and that you’re inclined to help elevate people who look up to you for advice.

[@MR2SpyerJournal]

Great book!

[@xdevonammelia1575]

This motivated me alot😁

[@Heismvn]

i think ppl should just be themselves

[@Bubble23428]

They should be themselves

[@devlogerio]

I killed that nice guy years ago by listening to one of your videos, it worked for me 100%

[@JackCFairman]

Best thing I’ve heard is that there’s a difference between a ‘nice guy’ and a good guy.

[@rickconrad7934]

Damn dude that hit home

[@CTOplayer]

You really helped me through the years, I feel like you know what I’m going trough sometimes Big thank you for Puerto Rico 🇵🇷

[@initazusane1111]

Hello, Alpha. You have similar content videos for women?

[@cornersclip2009]

Watching from texas

[@dr1ck_]

Keep being alpha alpha!

[@chaoticaaronstout]

Behind every "Nice guy" is a narcissistic father and an enabling mother. If they don't deal with it they'll end up with a narcissistic partner later in life.

[@neurodivtries4101]

What? How? Where can i read more about this?